Hey, welcome to this video.
My name is Tom, from the Alive Academy.com.
And in this video we will make visible what
the real root cause of our SEX ADDICTION really
is.
Only when we know the real cause, we can heal
the root and therefor automatically liberate
ourselves from every other ADDICTION-symptom
too, like not being able to stop WITH ADDICTIVE
SEXUAL ATTRACTION, SEX cravings, moodiness,
bad temper, loneliness, relational problems
etc.
You don’t have to feel ashamed for the fact
that you are addicted to something.
Because without any exception, most people
are first addicted to something or someone,
before the real root of the problem arises.
The only difference might be that some people
are better in hiding their addictions behind
a mask than others.
Until their mask cracks obviously.
Only if we know what the real root of the
problem is, we will know how we can STOP OUR
SEX ADDICTION completely and for once and
for all.
A SEX ADDICTION comes down to FEAR, fear for
feeling what we would feel, without any distraction
from SEX.
To end the root of the problem together with
all it’s symptoms for once and for all,
and therefor to shine the light onto our ‘dark’
addictions or fears, I came up with a drawing
to show you.
I don't want to give you a superficial solution,
so I want to take you back to the origin.
To the moment we were born.
Let's represent this heart as a symbol of
our free pure and fulfilled feeling at our
birth.
Then from that moment until now, we have all
encountered painful emotions and none of us
have learned how to solve this pain.
This pain sets around our pure and fulfilled
feelings.
Of course no one of us really want to feel
this pain, that is why we all found a different
way of dealing with this.
You know how?
By building a wall of control around it.
And how do we build that wall?
We all know this I guess.
From that moment we stop living from our feeling
and start living from our mind or our thinking.
Let me symbolize this brain for our thinking.
From that moment we use our thinking nonstop
to search for distractions outside ourselves,
that will have to prevent us from feeling
pain.
And these distractions or our non stop thinking,
yes of course I should be doing this, or I
should be doing that, or otherwise it wouldn't
feel right, this, this and that.
This annoying little voice inside our head,
I am sure we all know off, serves us as a
band aid, on top of our wall of control.
To prevent ourselves from feeling.
The problem is that we do not just cover up
just our pain, but also our pure feelings.
And within our distractions we are still looking
for a feeling.
For example in creating success, we are actually
looking for a feeling of fulfillment.
Or by starting a relationship, because we'd
rather not be alone, because then we are not
distracted anymore and then we feel pain.
So we are searching for a feeling to fulfill
ourselves with a relationship.
And even in simple things a new Smartphone,
a new car, new house, we search for this long
lasting feeling of being complete and fulfilled
by running away from our feelings.
The contradiction shows itself very clearly,
yet we do not question ourselves about these
choices and the routine that is has become
for so many of us.
We rather invest all of our money in time
to build a life filled with these distractions
that never work permanently.
That create something like a reality replacement
for the feeling that we actually are missing.
A replaced identity of ourselves.
And we start to believe to have become this
illusion.
The problem is that when we are running away
from our feelings and at the same time are
looking for in these distractions for a feeling
of fulfillment that never comes, then we will
have to continuously search for new distractions.
New, new etc.
Until we can't keep up anymore.
This pattern is extremely exhausting, we all
are aware of this, let me symbolize sweat
drops for this.
This is an imprisoning pattern.
Let me symbolize a lock for this.
Now what is fear?
Fear is just the resistance that we would
fail in getting our next distraction or that
one of our created distractions will disappear
or will be taken away from us.
Because then our band aid will no longer work
and then obviously we will start to feel the
pain again that we haven't resolved yet.
I hope by showing you this drawing that fear
has a very valuable function.
That fear is not only pretty annoying, but
it is also a wake - up call.
That this replacement reality doesn’t work.
So as long as we still experience fear, tells
us that we are still having unsolved pain
and are settling for a replacement reality
instead of independently feeling fulfilled
and alive in freedom.
There actually is a reality possible in which
we can choose to live the way we really are,
feeling independently fulfilled.
Without fear and unsolved pain.
If we learn to solve all of our unsolved pain
and fear, our restlessness thinking to escape
in distractions isn't necessary anymore either
and only then we can start to create in freedom.
Only then we can start a relation in freedom
or success or whatever we feel like creating.
And only then we don't have any fears that
it will disappear again.
And only then we can truly enjoy to the fullest
and we don't have any fears anymore, that
things people or achievements may be taken
away from us.
Because we feel complete and fulfilled independently
without experiencing fear and having pain
anymore.
Do you know the difference between creating
something as a distraction or as an addiction
or as a compensation, because this is the
mask we all are wearing, the mask of pretending.
The difference between this and doing something
out of free will, an easy way to check is
to stop doing what you are doing, and you
are still feeling completely fulfilled then
you are acting out of free will.
On the other hand, when you stop doing what
you are trying to do or achieve and you will
start feeling restless, because that is how
pain feels.
Pain doesn’t feel like; ahhh I'm in pain,
pain feels like feeling restless, irritated,
angry, bored.
Then you know you are doing it to create a
compensation reality or as a distraction from
unsolved feelings.
And the good news is that there actually is
a way to solve the root of all pain, which
will make all fear to feel pain vanish as
well.
Which will let you create without limitations,
and importantly you don't need to go through
this pain again to get rid of it.
We know now that all of our fears and other
symptoms are helping alarm signals and serve
us with a very valuable message.
Our fear and symptoms are here to tell us
that the direction that we are going, is a
wrong and unhealthy direction.
It warns us that if we continue to ignore
this wrong, unhealthy direction, of dis-ease,
that our body might come up with bigger actual
diseases.
Our fear and our symptoms are here to tell
us that liberation and cure is to be found
in the opposite direction: in solving our
unsolved pain, so no more fears or symptoms
can arise.
Do you believe by numbing these alarm signals,
f.e. by taking medication, will help us to
solve the real problem?
Or does it give us another short shot of distraction,
like we’ve seen in the drawing?
The more I was trying to create a successful
mask, or the more I was trying to run away
from my insecurity or fears, the more my exhausting
and limiting fears kept arising in other forms
and didn’t go away.
I only started to feel truly liberated, relaxed,
filled with joy, filled with self esteem and
enjoying everything around me, when I decided
to get to the root of my fear and pain and
solved them.
When we are no longer imprisoned in this exhausting
system by fears, pain and relating symptoms,
we will feel independently filled with joy.
When we feel only joy without fear, there
won’t be any obstructions left, to create
whatever belongs to us naturally.
When we create out of joy, without any obstructions,
success and abundance are just a logical consequence.
Basically liberating ourselves from this limiting
imprisonment by fear and pain, is the key
to go from limitations and scarcity, to true
natural abundance.
Or does liberation come from working even
harder against our will in the wrong direction
out of fear?
Everyone can make this happen for themselves.
Regardless our situation.
We don’t need to cultivate it, we don’t
have to be rich or try really really hard,
we don’t need to change our relationship,
or the place where we are living or the way
we look.
Of course we are free to do any of this, but
it is not required at all.
Just understanding ‘how’ we can get past
the root of all of our pain, fear and symptoms,
without having to feel them again of course,
is enough.
This video is limited in time, but do you
want to know how to immediately get past the
symptom of fear, whenever it occurs, or do
you want to know the truth about ‘fear’
and ‘pain’ that will set you free?
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