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Now, today we've got another love English
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and today we are going to talk about LOVE!
Today we are talking about love and
relationships, why not? yeah yeah our
views on this and of course a lots of
vocabulary for you. Maybe a few tips on
how to find love and secure that ring
ladies! Excellent, okay I'll do my best!
I think I just got lucky to be honest but
yeah we're talking about LOVE ... let's go
right say but so a quick love test for
you. How many different types of love can
you name? there's gonna be a lot of
vocabulary here guys. okay, well of course
for the first one there is unrequited
love unrequited love which is course is
the love that is not returned love you
love somebody but they don't love you back.
Your heart aches! awful! I've been in that situation yeah. HOW? How could someone not love you back? Oh it did happen!
impossible!  unrequited yes. Then is
platonic which we use to me yes not
friendship love yeah when you love each
other but you're strictly friends there
is no romantic love involved romantic
love SIA is when you are in a
relationship with somebody and you are
hopefully romantic with them you want to
have long dinners with business a baby
oh maybe baby ha I think that kills the
romance but yes romantic love so we got
from this one it love romantic love and
required love long distance is that
possible long-distance relationship
unconditional oh good one yeah any real
love is unconditional so true love is
unconditional
true love yeah yes yeah true nut should
be unconditional but also the love
between a mother and a child the father
and a child should be unconditional I
would except it all with area basically
where there are no conditions it doesn't
matter what that person does you will
still love them so uncle are very
important and the truest of its kind
very hard to achieve though because
would you love me if I ran off with your
husband
yeah
I think of unconditional love that's
conditional love don't worry later I'm
not going to do I think there are
different forms of love and it's and
what's really interesting it is in
British English love is love the water
that we use Vanya and its images more
yeah there's different levels so yeah a
piano okay I can't speak Italian up
Tiamo
when it's Italian and how did I say it
in tear and Taylor yeah and to buy your
banner to achieve all your banner
yes I love you but for your friend it's
yeah Tianna is your partner love yeah a
romantic love yes a romantic love how
cynical yeah I have lots of different
forms of love lots of different types of
relationships yeah um obviously we're
talking romantic I'm actually no
distance yes I mention long distance
because that's the relationship that I
was in yeah with my husband
no yeah yes yeah very difficult to make
long distance work how did you make it
work later sky technology technology
having an airplane helps because you can
you can communicate it was about
communication yes that was that was this
one my tip number one oh there we go
hard lady had communication
communication yeah for sure
the other thing that's interesting about
how we use the verbal love is we say it
about everyday objects
oh my goodness I love this tea or my
goodness I adore this wine a door is
actually another word that we use a lot
which we don't really use to say to
someone we adore you a man might say to
a woman I adore you but it's very
passionate in English to say that over
the top it is a little bit hot for us
cold British people but it can be said
but we use love and a door for everyday
objects I'm gonna say adore this I love
that so we've kind of sort of taken away
into the memory and hope that the words
yeah yeah is used to freely sometimes
pinky as it took really I think we love
ya has to be it happens over time it has
to be worked on and and I don't believe
in
at first sight I don't believe do you
believe in love at first sight no I
don't know I don't believe in love at
first time I think I probably did when I
was in like in my teens and 20s I loved
the idea of a soulmate the perfect one
and your eyes meet across the room and
you just no but I don't think we ality
happens like that I think you need to
get to know someone and I think at the
time you fit and you adapt and the more
that you can fit and adapt to each other
I think the more likely you are to have
a very deep bond and deep love yeah so I
think that's that's that's true in many
ways there and I think they're falling
in love at first sight is actually more
of a lust thing more of a you fall in
love the cool attractions yeah yes their
lust is when you are very physically
attracted to somebody like me with I
don't know George Clooney later watches
the video so I'll be in trouble yes so
lust is a very separate thing but you
often get confused between the two alone
yeah you think I'm gonna die if I don't
have that person often that's more lust
than love love is something I think as
you get older you realize this later
said it comes over time yeah what are
you guys thinking in your culture do you
believe in love at first sight is there
a strong distinction between lust and
love or are they considered quite the
same and what are the different kinds of
love that you guys talk about do tell us
in the comments below so relationships
can be difficult but as we said Laila
did get married last year this year oh
is this here wasn't it time sorry worst
friend because I wasn't your bridesmaid
so how would I remember I was in holiday
to get married I don't
yeah and that technically a newlywed but
please we were living together
doesn't really feel like that big of a
deal yeah as terrible isn't it my tips
yeah tips later on keeping a
relationship working so is family I said
a sensible when I said communication
yeah I said communications they're
always talking about things I think
arguing is key not just because I'm
argumentative but I think actually
arguing helps air issues that's a nice
expression to air the issues marlene
open yeah to bring them out into the
open so that there's not things that
you're not saying to each other that
they can be discussed and then resolved
so when you're not happy about how so I
know the dishwasher that's what I get
told off about I don't load the
dishwasher properly or I'm messy we
argue about it we air it it doesn't
really solve the problem because I'm
still messing with the dishwasher it's
um I do you think arguing is helpful
people thinking that if they're in a
relationship they argue that's a good
thing I think it just means they're not
saying stuff mmm lots of things under
the surface this is a great word guys to
bicker and this does of course happen a
lot of relationships and this is where
yeah sometimes layer and I do this this
is where you're sometimes like well you
didn't do it like that okay you said I
should do it I'm good and you go back
and forth like this kind of just getting
it each other because a resolve and no
it really really doesn't and some
couples that have been married for 40
years they often occur quite a lot again
it's a bad habits and they bicker I hope
you were Francesca won't be like that
not yet look at you yes possibly yes I
think that's I think the other thing is
compromise isn't it I think in any
relationship like in later a nice
partnership you know you can't always
have everything your way you have to
sometimes meet in the middle and two
people are never going to always really
rely on everything so sometimes you got
to come to the middle and compromise
find a compromise or make a compromise
would be the collocations there so or
make your husband compromise yeah of
course sighs we didn't talk about that
the fact that in a lot of cultures you
know there is known living together
before marriage there is no sex before
marriage you know marriage is the first
step yeah whereas in the UK culture we
kind of moved past that in many ways and
often it's more dating yeah
what would you say next okay you might
move holiday together maybe oh you have
a nice holiday
um and yeah I live together and we
thought house together before we
actually got married
mm-hmm I saw that was quite a big
commitment finally together so
some people also have children before
they get married or don't even get
married at all we're not saying that
marriage is the only answer you don't
have to be married to be an okapi
relationship some people feel that you
should be married to be in a happy
relationship that marriage is extremely
important and that may be a valid point
you know but other people feel that you
know you can have a happy relationship
and be very committed to each other
without marriage without the the legal
agreement of marriage and also I suppose
it's religious as well the religious
ceremony and everything like that
and again guys we would love to hear
your views what is the culture in your
country what do you think do you think
marriage should come first or do you
think that's a little bit old-fashioned
these days we are very curious to hear
that and to be honest when it comes to
all that stuff I'm quite like on the
fence I think it should be whatever a
person was come work for those people I
think as long as you have the same
values and I got the same things yeah
the key yeah yeah I think I'm I don't
mind either if I'm you know it it
wouldn't be the end of the world yes but
do you feel different in your
relationship now that you're married
not really might an extra jewelry oh she
doesn't mean it really I like the idea
of two families coming together
particularly with his family cuz they're
amazing and his friends and he's just
have to tolerate what's gonna happen
there I think I definitely I've got the
best deal I've got a mate Italian family
Italian mum amazing cooking Oh lovely
yes very lucky you've got very nothing
good bargain there I have yeah guys
before we go one thing you can say if
you have if your friends or your family
think that your partner is impressive in
a sense they think that they are a
person who ever has a good job or it's
good-looking or is just very nice good I
strongly yeah
great minds yeah like yes a good catch
someone good catch directly I was a good
catch he's a good catch yes very
handsome
I'm he's very sweet yeah romantic this
week um like I said great family amazing
friends good catch I think is referring
to fishing there's no yeah it's a lot of
fishing the catch yeah a lot of
idioms are related to fishing when it
comes to relationships are they oh yeah
the idiom so when you are a single and
you're perhaps upset about a breakup
perhaps you a relationship has ended and
you're very upset your friends may say
to you they may comfort you with this
idiom which is there's plenty more fish
in the sea
yeah yes plenty more people out there
there's they're not the only person
that's for you so yeah that's a good
piece of advice and you guys videomatic
expression I guess there are lots of
idioms relationships I think we have got
very oh yes I have got lilies put one on
love idioms we can do another one if you
would like to know more idioms to love
and we are very happy to do that and
guys we're going to leave you with this
thought from one of our most famous
playwright William Shakespeare you've
probably heard of him
and his play Midsummer Night's Dream
which is a romance started with the line
the course of true love never did run
smooth do you think this is true is true
love simple is it easy to find it is it
easy to achieve none of your thoughts on
that what do you think later but a
minute look hard if it's true love then
it means you have to work for it to to
make it work okay so now thinks you have
to work for it do you think you should
just be easy and just fall into your lap
what do you guys think do tell us your
thoughts so thank you so much for
watching and don't forget why not share
some of your top relationship tips down
below what did we not say I'm sure
there's plenty more tips so that some of
you could offer especially those of you
that have been in long-term
relationships so thank you very much and
we look forward to seeing you on love
English talks very soon have a lovely
day guys bye
