hey friends this video covers 8 common
self-sabotage as we all engage in at
some time in our lives and most
importantly I'll give you 8 hacks or
more to prevent the sabotages into rock
your happiness fulfillment and life
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ok we all self-sabotage sometimes in to
some degree the big problem arises when
we make a habit of it which honestly I
believe most people do most of the time
but we can control this here are eight
of the most common ways that we sabotage
ourselves and most importantly again for
each of the eight I will provide mindset
and success strategies for limiting or
absolutely destroying the self sabotage
alright one of the most common sabotages
is beliefs specifically when we don't
believe in ourselves this is a
self-fulfilling prophecy after all why
even try if you know you're going to
fail right we're only wasting our time
and setting ourselves up for frustration
and disappointment better the
disappointment of mediocrity and what we
already know then the disappointment of
failure so this thinking and believing
goes so what's the mindset and success
strategy to defeat this self-sabotage
first ask yourself what beliefs you have
that you you are will be a fit of
failure brainstorming to your gut tells
you that you've identified all the
beliefs and then come up with three
historical incidents that prove any and
all limiting beliefs you have to be
false for example say you want to start
a business but you fear you'll fail
either because you've never started a
business before maybe you did try and it
didn't work out
the first second or third time we'll ask
yourself when have I tried something new
and succeeded don't necessarily be
literal be honest but be creative and
generous with yourself find times when
you have succeeded it's something new
and something challenging then make the
valid argument that you can and you will
succeed in your business okay number two
the number two way we sabotage ourselves
it's also beliefs but this sabotage is
when we don't really believe in our
dream for one reason or another the
number two reason we might not believe
in our dream is we've chosen someone
else's dream or we have a sloppy poorly
thought-out dream mindset and success
strategy to defeat this self-sabotage
well in the first instance like I said
identify the limiting beliefs you have
and come up with at least three
historical empirical factual arguments
that prove the limiting belief wrong in
the second case if your dream is one
that you sloppily picked up from your
family or culture or you're being lazy
maybe you're unfocused say for example
you want to be a doctor because the
culture or your parents saved being a
doctor is a good thing where you're
choosing your family or friends dream
for you rather than your own ask
yourself why do I want this will it
bring me deep intrinsic fulfillment as
opposed to extrinsic pleasure is there
anything else that brings you more
intrinsic fulfillment if so should I go
after this dream or goal instead ask
yourself am I willing to do what it
takes now is not necessarily the time
for optimism I'm always a proponer of
optimism in this case so you want to
analyze the best case scenario the most
likely and the worst case to find out
really who are you what do you want to
do and what are the realistic
ramifications and are you willing to
accept the risks will get to risk in a
minute okay the third third most common
way we sat
tosh ourselves we tend to seek negatives
in life in circumstances and other
people and situations well studies show
that optimists are happier healthier and
more successful if you seek or tend to
find negatives in situations or people
you're most likely negatively impacting
many probably all areas of your life
including risk-taking creativity and
building relationships well here's the
mindset success strategy to defeat this
self-sabotage first always remain
self-aware make it a rule to catch
yourself whenever you feel or think
negatively including judgment resentment
anger fear and so on next don't be hard
on yourself you're human the fact is
your brain naturally seeks threats so be
compassionate understanding patient and
loving with yourself but don't accept
the limitation then if you catch
yourself going negative make it a hard
and fast personal standard that you
always ask yourself what's positive
about this situation a person and come
up with at least three positives to get
your mind focusing on positives and not
negatives okay the fourth common way we
sabotage ourselves we seek and take the
path of least resistance along with
seeking threats this is a natural
tendency of our brains this dynamic
increased the probability of our species
surviving over hundreds of thousands of
years on the savanna as our brains
developed so big and be compassion and
understanding with yourself don't accept
the tendency rise above it but be
patient and understanding with yourself
so here's the mindset and success
strategy to defeat the self-sabotage
again first of all maintain
self-awareness it's always so important
identify when you're taking and seeking
the path of least resistance next learn
to savor the exhilaration of challenge
and say
success the famous saying is so true the
magic happens when we move out of our
comfort zone being comfortable even
desirous of discomfort moving to your
fear this truly is where the growth and
the magic will happen as long as you and
others are physically and
psychologically safe that's most
important and you're living your highest
values make moving out of your comfort
zone emotionally psychologically
pleasurable and rewarding for great ways
to do this refer to my other YouTube
videos I offer a number of exercises
that will really help you don't have
time to go into it to keep this video
within time each time you push through
your comfort zone create a heightened
experience of pleasure joy pride and
power within celebrate dance be silly
congratulate yourself on slaying fear
and timidity this way you're training
your conscience and your subconscious
minds to associate pleasure and
positivity to moving into and through
your fear and discomfort all right
here's the fifth way we sabotage
ourselves most commonly we can no longer
see the forest for the trees or the
trees for the forest most of us take a
job because it will pay better than most
or all other opportunities or possibly
especially in the economy and job market
we've had for the past eight years there
are no other jobs this is it even if we
take a job because we think it is in
fact a stepping stone to our ultimate
dream and purpose there's often a
tendency to lose the forest the forest
being our ultimate life vision we lose
sight of the forest ultimate vision for
the trees the trees being all of our
many current responsibilities what's
worse it's even more complicated we also
often lose sight of other trees
specifically the trees the individual
steps and actions
we could take today to actually move us
closer to our ultimate life purposes is
insidious cycle of not seeing either the
forest of the trees for either in both
so the self the strategy for defeating
this is visitor we visit your highest
values virtues and life purpose and
vision your purpose is likely to be that
thing that brings you greatest intrinsic
fulfillment in personal meaning and that
also serves other people then ask
yourself how can I live in and pursue my
highest virtues values and vision from
within my current work your current work
may not seem to actualize your even
synchronize with your ultimate purpose
fashion or mission in life but I'd be
willing to bet that you can still live
in express and actualize your passion
and purpose to a greater extent than you
might currently be doing within your
current work look for ways to do that if
your current work actually precludes
actualization of your highest self then
find out what actually will and then
begin to move in that direction
immediately okay the sixth common way we
sabotage yourself I'd be willing to bet
you do this one studies show that
virtually all of us do this to one
degree or another so what is number six
we give in to the drug of avoidance for
example we spend an hour or more each
day on average playing video games
watching TV or internet surfing not
research and work just surfing in fact
most people spend three to four hours a
day doing these things studies show this
we do this because the immediate
chemical emotional high such as in video
games or certain movies or the numbing
effect which is most often the case with
TV and internet surfing is easier and
more pleasurable to us than investing
our time and energy in personal and
professional development so what's the
mindset and success strategy the hack
to defeat this self-sabotage well again
I don't have time to go into this see my
online videos for in particular one for
highly actualized in successful people
in it I give you steps you can do to
absolutely destroy any negative
time-wasting habits we have and to
energize and power and heighten success
mindset habits and actions this video
and all of my videos videos almost all
of them will be around 15 minutes 10 to
15 minutes sometimes a little longer but
I want to keep them short so as not to
waste your time okay the seventh
sabotage fear baby our brains naturally
seek threats as i mentioned fear comes
from what appears to be a threat to us
it's natural the month the brain looks
for it so what's the success strategy
for this one recognize they're almost
certainly naturally risk-averse as a
vestige of the evolution of your human
brain you and i are naturally to one
degree or another cautious and fearful
it's evolution this helped us not die
out as a species over hundreds of
thousands of years on the Savannah
problem is this often works against our
highest cells in modern society well
when you feel fear analyze the situation
for true threat ask yourself what's the
worst that could happen here what's the
most likely outcome can you live with
the most likely outcome and if the worst
cases unlikely be honest with yourself
and the potential upside or the
potential upside is meaningful take the
risk let me repeat that because it's so
so important take a risk great things
always require great risk do you want a
great life do you want a safe life look
I either is ok I'm not going to pass
judgment but know who you are and make
decisions appropriate to your soul not
your fearful mind let me say that again
this is also important know who you are
and make decisions appropriate to your
soul not your fearful mind okay here's
the eighth most common self-sabotage
what do you think it is by the way there
are other self sabotages than these
eight but the truth is most of them
perhaps all of them actually can fit
within to the baskets of fear and
beliefs and fears actually a belief in a
perception all right the eighth common
self-sabotage indecision indecision most
often arises out of one of two things
first it may arise from fear which I've
already addressed above and I won't
address again what a lot arises from
laziness you're lazy I'm not your guy
and my clients my clients are driven
people if you're lazy it's unlikely you
ever found this video and if you're lazy
and happen to find it you're almost
certainly not watching it through to
this point so anyway those aren't the
people I work with and I'm sure you're
not one of them so we'll throw out
laziness there's actually a third reason
what do you think that is it's a lack of
clarity or conviction perhaps you don't
consciously know or stay true to your
highest vision mission or values or
purpose in life now here's the mindset
success strategies to defeat this
self-sabotage brainstorm your highest
virtues values in life purpose people
who know Trustin are committed to these
three things are highly decisive and
rarely if ever indecisive when we know
who we are what we're about what is most
important to us it's always easy to act
and were predisposed to act because we
intuitively know what decisions are in
alignment with our higher selves and
we're committed to an nsync r anissa tea
with our highest virtues values and
vision then we'll always act and quickly
and decisively all
nose rather than what most people act
upon which is most often fear or the
lack of clarity and conviction write a
few closing words when we know ourselves
when we have clearly defined our virtues
values and our purpose and the vision of
that purpose when we genuinely craft
self-love not to be confused with
arrogance superiority or bravado but
self-love and confidence and we're in
synchronized with a passion to make a
difference in the world we likely will
not experience and certainly won't
succumb to any of these self sabotaging
obstacles well that's it for this video
friends I'll see you in the next video I
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