Hi everyone,
Today, we're gonna talk about the sad truth
of marriage and love.
Why are Americans so obsessed with marriage
?
When asked about the reasons as to why they’ve
decided to get married in the first place,
a huge majority, 93 % of americans have indicated
love as the primary reason.
Ahead of making lifelong commitment 87 %, companionship,
81 %, having children 59 %.
And financial stability 31 %. Among other
reasons comes, religion, legal rights and
benefits, taxes and even health care.
And despite the high divorce rate, around
50 % in the US.
To put it simply, one out of two married couples
will end up with a divorce.
People still want to get married.
Despite the expensive legal fees, the overall
apovrichement due to the divorce that often
leads to selling the house, and not always
at the best price.
in fact We all know that the best real estate
bargen is alway to buy a divorced couple house
because it generally need to sell fast.
People are still willing to get married.
Despite all the divorce cases in the medias,
Mel Gibson divorce estimates at 524 Million
Dollars, Jeff Bezos most expensive divorce
in history estimates at a staggering 35 Billion
Dollars.
Men, including rich man still go for marriage.
You will also notice that most often, it is
man that suffer the most from a divorce.
Women generally end up with alimony, half
of the men’s money and real estate and tend
to find a new partner and even remarry easily,
starting a new loop all over again with a
new man.
Also, all statistic show that women initiate
the divorce more than man, in fact 70 % of
all divorces have been initiated by women.
The question is why ? Why, knowing that a
marriage can literally destroy your life,
particularly as a man, you are still willing
to get married.
People tend to marry in large numbers, especially
in north america.
The marriage industry in the US Worth over
53 billion dollars.
Funny enough, the divorce industry worth just
about the same and is estimated at 50 billion
dollars according to Divorce Corp documentary
( you’ll find the link to the documentary
trailer down the video )
Is love that powerful that people tend to
marry despite the risk of losing all they
have worked so hard to earn ? Is the marriage
industry so powerful that it convinces young
adults to marry ? Is the hollywood fantasy
about marriage so influential ?
Or is it women, knowing that they need to
secure the resources that push men to marry
? We’ve all heard the infamous : If you
don’t propose i’m gone.
.
Most women know that their real value does
not lay in their jobs, or intelligence but
rather in their beauty , fertility and their
ability to give birth.
And that all these features are not a long
lasting thing.
A woman has a very narrow window to capitalise
on beauty and fertility.
Between 18 and 30 I would say.
Passed the age of 30, their value starts dropping
sharply on the mating market.
And let’s be clear, I’m not talking about
her value as a human being or a person or
an individual, but rather as a mating partner,
their value in terms of replication, nature
sole and only purpose.
So she has to act quick, secure a male partner,
ideally rich, in a marriage.
So that resources can be shared when the divorce
happens.
Male are often the big losers when it comes
to the divorce.
But despite that, they still marry.
Because men are visual, and they get easily
carried away by their hormones and strong
will to procreate.
They then fall into the trap of the so called
love.
Nature biggest trap for man.
Despite what everyone may think about love,
i’m going to bring some contradiction here
so please, stick around.
We have all been brainwashed by hollywood
movies and walt disney to think that love
is the magic thing that happens between two
human beings with no rational reasons.
But we tend to forget that love is nothing
but a chemical reaction, a trick played by
nature to make us mate. when you think about
it, building a family, raising kids is hard
work, and a sacrifice.
And no man in his right mind would do such
thing if it wasn’t for survival and replication.
if it wasn’t for the trick played by nature.
Everybody knows that humans are basically
animals, there's no doubt about it anymore.
But this hasn't stopped them from hoping that
they're different from the rest of the animals
and that their superior intelligence allows
them to ascend to a higher position, and this
is especially valid when it comes to love.
Although rated as a misogynist by his contemporaries,
the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer
formulated in the 19th century a series of
ideas regarding love and the women's role
in society which seem to be confirmed by the
latest studies on sexuality and reproduction.
Basically, the philosopher says that love
is just a clever way to trick the human individuals
into multiplying and therefore, contributing
to the species' survival.
Schopenhauer said : "The only true purpose,
the real purpose of every communion in love
is the procreation, the birth of a child,
although people who are in love are unable
to conceive the nature's treacherous way,
casting over the actual act a shining veil
".
Schopenhauer concludes: "Love is only the
species' will for survival, the need to propagate
the species, and it's detrimental to illusions
and passing joys the human feels ".
The first time I ran into Schopenhauer's ideas,
I said to myself: "There might be some truth
in what he says, but there's no way it can
be all true, after all, even the enlightened
say dumb things from time to time"
Unfortunately for us, for all of us who value
love, not even the researchers seem to contradict
him.
Quite the contrary, it seems that this noble
feeling, sung by poets and writers, is nothing
more than a chemical effect.
After approximately one year, the passionate
love vanishes, only to make room to routine
and monotony.
For this reason, the two individuals should
have more in common than just a relation based
on sex, otherwise they're heading straight
into the breaking-up wall.
Another study comes and says that contraceptive
pills decrease women's libido over long periods
of time, of up to one year.
It's like nature saying : "Ok, do you want
to mock me and trick me with the new inventions
that prevent conception, no problem.
Then what good is the sexual intercourse if
nothing comes out of it, not a single individual?
How about if you didn't feel a thing during
the process?
Perhaps you'll change your mind about those
pills."
And that's not all.
It's a well-known fact that just as men subconsciously
judge a potential partner to bear his offspring
by the width of the hips, women also judge  a potential male partner by the features he could pass on to the children
Arthur Schopenhauer writes.
"The woman is not attracted by the man's face,
but by his force and courage.
These qualities are believed to provide the
child with a vigorous protection.
Women love muscles' vigorousness, the broad
shoulders.
They don't care if a man is rude; it's enough
if he's strong.
Spiritual characters do not influence
sexual attraction, because they are not passed
on to the child.
That's why dumb, but well built men have a
better way with women than spiritual ones.
There are many love unions between rude, stupid,
but robust man and gentle, educated and tasteful
women,"
I doubt that you've never noticed such cases,
and most likely you've asked yourself: "Why
is X, who is so gentle and nice, going out
with that cad?".
It's true that there are some exceptions,
but they can be rated as errors, disturbances
in the system.
If you're not convinced by the arguments presented
above and if you think that this is ridiculous,
a last study comes to top them all and to
confirm Schopenhauer's theories.
When ovulating, a period of maximum fertility,
women have sexual fantasies with other men
and feel like cheating on their partner, and
this is valid only for those partners who
are less attractive than other men.
This doesn't mean that all women cheat on
their partner when ovulating, because this
would contradict the social norms, it's just
that they're smothering an instinct nature
came up with to ensure that strong and healthy
individuals are born.
As the philosopher says, "During mating, nature
is not concerned with the spiritual side,
only with the procreation of robust children."
I could end this podcast in an optimistic
way, to give you some hope if you’re still
willing to get married as a man.
But i’m not here to sell you what you want
to hear, i’m here to tell you the truth.
That’s all i’ve to say for to day, and
till next time, take care.
