One of the most common things to happen during
a spiritual awakening is the collapse of your
old identity, and boy can that be scary.
I don't know who I am anymore.
Now, don't worry because in this video I'm
going to help you quickly figure out if your
identity is falling, and I'm also going to
share my top five tips to help you get through
an identity collapse like a champ.
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Now, this video we're going to be dividing
it in three parts.
In part one, we're going to cover why we have
an identity collapse in the first place.
Then in the second part of the video, we're
going to go over the top signs of an identity
collapse so that you know if you're going
through one right now.
And then in part three of this video, we are
going to go over my top five tips on how to
overcome an identity collapse, work through
it, and kind of get your bearings, and put
your feet on the ground, and get grounded
if you are going through an identity collapse.
Once you get done watching this video, let
me know in the comments below if you feel
like you're going through an identity collapse
right now.
I want to hear in the comments below.
Okay, on to part number one.
And that is, why do we lose our identities,
especially during a spiritual awakening?
There are really just two main reasons why
this happens.
The first reason is that when your soul triggers
your spiritual awakening, you begin to shed
everything that is rigid in you.
So what happens is as your soul triggers the
spiritual awakening, it's really moving your
system into ascension, into a higher vibration,
and in that higher vibration there's no room
for rigidity.
Your energy system starts to become more flexible
and more pliable the higher you go in consciousness.
So your soul is literally, your whole energy
system is going to start breaking down everything
that's rigid in you.
And guess what's rigid?
Ding, ding.
Your identity, your mental construct of who
you think you are.
These are very rigid, rigid constructs, and
they are one of the first things to go because
your soul is not going to have anything rigid
when you're going through a spiritual awakening.
It won't tolerate it.
It's just pulling you up into ascension.
So to get a little bit more woo-woo, let me
get a little bit more spiritual on this.
What's happening really is that your system
is being bombarded with new light codes.
And your system is beginning to integrate
these light codes, this vibration is extremely
high and it's going to break through any walls
that you have, any rigidity that you have
in your system.
And your identity, your sense of self, your
mental construct, that's one of the most rigid
things we have in our lower selves, okay?
So that's going to be bombarded.
It's going to be one of the first things to
be bombarded, and that's why we tend to lose
our identities when we're going through a
spiritual awakening.
That's the first reason.
The second reason why we lose our identities
during a spiritual awakening is because we
begin to see the deeper truths of who we are.
As we go through a spiritual awakening, we
start to shed everything that is untrue and
we start to connect more deeply with our hearts,
with our souls, with our higher selves.
And as we do this, we connect more deeply
to our inner truths.
The more deeply we connect to our inner truth,
the less we need mental constructs, the less
identities we need because we're connected
to a deeper truth, a higher truth of who we
are.
So the mental constructs about who we think
we are, they're no longer necessary so they
can go out the window.
You'll notice that as you keep going along
your spiritual journey, you will really find
no need in having an identity anymore.
It's a really weird sensation at first, but
then you get used to it and you really don't
need to have an identity.
You don't hold to an identity anymore because
you're very connected to that deep inner truth
of who you are.
Now, if you want to go deeper on this whole
idea of spiritual awakening and if you're
unsure if you're having a spiritual awakening,
here's a video that I have about the top signs
of spiritual awakening so you can check that
out.
I'm going to leave a link in the description
box below to get deeper into that to figure
out if you have a spiritual awakening, if
you're having a spiritual awakening now or
not.
Okay.
On to part number two, and that is what an
identity collapse looks like.
You may not be sure whether you're having
an identity collapse or not, so I've put together
my top six signs of an identity collapse so
you can figure out if you're having one right
away.
The first sign is you feel completely lost
in life.
So when your identity starts to fall, when
your sense of self, of who you think you are
in this world, of what you're think you're
doing here, when that entire mental construct
starts to fall, you feel completely lost in
life, right?
It makes sense.
You've been thinking that you are a certain
person, of a certain personality with certain
likes and dislikes for decades, probably if
you've been alive for decades.
So your whole life you've taken to construct
this mental idea of who you are.
Then suddenly, when it collapses, what's one
of the first things you're going to feel?
Totally and utterly lost in life.
So this is the first time.
It's very, very common to feel this way, and
it's exactly because this rigid mental construct
of who you think you are is collapsing.
And as it's collapsing, you feel a little
bit lost.
You don't know what to do.
This is very normal.
First sign that you are going through an identity
collapse.
The second sign that you are having an identity
collapse is that you feel anxious or restless.
This is really common.
And you can kind of understand why, right?
As your identity falls, your sense of self
starts to fall and what you think your place
is in this world.
When that mental construct starts to fall,
it's normal to feel anxiety.
But I'm going to share a little reason, kind
of a little behind-the-scenes reason on why
the anxiety can really increase when you're
going through this identity collapse.
And the reason is because one of the main
functions of that mental construct of identity,
one of the main functions of it is to give
you an illusion of permanence, of things that
don't change basically.
So what that mental construct is doing, it's
giving you an illusion of permanence.
It's giving you the illusion that things happen
in A, B, C, D sequence, in this really nice
linear fashion.
It's giving you this idea that everything
is permanent and non-changing.
Now, we all know this is an illusion.
And sooner or later, we all find out whether
you've had the gone through loss or had your
life completely fall apart on you.
We all realize at one point or another that
permanence, the illusion of permanence, it
really is an illusion because there is no
such thing as permanence.
Everything is constantly changing.
But when you are going through an identity
collapse and all of your certainties, all
of your sense of self starts to fall, then
this anxiety gets triggered even more because
you get really exposed to the impermanence
of life, right?
Your identity falls, you're so confused, you're
so lost, and you're really, really, totally
and completely exposed to the impermanence
and ever-changing nature of life.
And at first, that can really create some
anxiety in your system.
The third sign that you're going through an
identity collapse is that your worldview can
change, sometimes dramatically.
So what does this mean?
It means that your likes can change, your
dislikes can change, your personality traits
can change, things you wanted to do can change.
You can completely change everything, your
entire worldview.
How you see life can change completely from
one day to the next, and this can also cause
a little bit of anxiety and confusion because
one day you like certain things and then the
next day you're like, "I don't like that anymore.
I used to like doing this, but I don't like
that anymore.
I used to like, whatever, going to the movies,
and I don't like going to the movies.
Now I like to paint."
Whatever.
I'm just making this up.
But really, your likes and dislikes, your
personality traits can really, your whole
worldview can change dramatically very quickly
when you're going through an identity collapse.
Sign number four is that you no longer know
who you are.
This is actually one of the most common statements
I get from clients who reach me while they're
going through an identity collapse.
They reach me and they literally say in the
consult, "I just have no idea who I am anymore."
That's one of the most common statements that
come with this process of identity collapse.
You don't know who you are anymore because
that mental, that rigid mental construct of
who you thought you were, it just starts to
collapse, and you just have no idea who you
are at all.
I remember in my own life this was ... Sometimes
I tell this story because it was life-changing
for me.
When I was going through this process, and
I've been through it many times ... Here's
a ding ding.
Here's a little ding ding.
When you go through an identity collapse,
don't think it's only going to happen once
to you.
You're going to have multiple identity dissolutions
across your lifetime.
You just get used to it, and it gets easier.
Your identity falls, and you're fine with
it, and you get a lot more used to it.
But the first identity collapsed is usually
the most dramatic because you're not expecting
it and you don't know what's going on.
And when that happened to me, I remember I
was walking by a mirror in my house one day,
walking by and I caught a glimpse of my reflection
to the side.
I turned to the mirror.
I walked up to the mirror, and I looked at
myself.
And for a few seconds, I did not recognize
the reflection staring back in the mirror,
for a few seconds, and this was ... Two things
happen.
First, it was a little scary.
Can you imagine not recognizing your own reflection
in the mirror?
How weird that feels.
But then the second thing that happened was
it just felt amazing at the same time because
it was like I was staring in the mirror.
I was staring deeply in my eyes, and I could
see the soul and the resilience of the soul
behind those eyes.
So it was amazing and a little scary.
But that's how dramatic your first identity
collapse can be where you can literally walk
up to a mirror and not recognize the reflection
that's staring back at you.
So that is sign number four.
You just don't know who you are anymore.
Sign number five is that you no longer define
yourself or you no longer like to define yourself.
The way that this happens is that you will
find that once an identity collapses and you
start to kind of understand your place in
the world, who you are, who this new you is,
when this starts happening, there's this weird
resistance to defining yourself again.
It almost feels like when you start to try
to define yourself, it feels very constricting.
You feel stuck.
It's not freeing at all.
So what tends to happen is you just stop trying
to define yourself.
You just stop saying things like ...
If you're a lawyer and you have to say you're
a lawyer, that's fine.
I'm a lawyer or whatever.
Or if I'm talking to people and they're like,
"What do you do?"
And I'm like, "Oh, I'm a life coach.
I'm a YouTuber," okay, whatever.
But it's very, very lightly.
I lightly hold these definitions.
I don't really get stuck to them.
And what you're going to find is that you
really have this resistance to defining yourself
because you know on a deep level that you
go so way beyond any definitions that you
could give of yourself.
Once you really come in connection with your
soul and you understand your deeper truths,
the mental construct of your identity becomes
a little bit uncomfortable.
It's almost like you're like, "Wow.
I'm a lawyer.
No, I'm not a lawyer.
I'm way more than a lawyer."
So it becomes a little confining to try and
define yourself, and so you generally stop
doing that unless you really have to.
So that's another sign that you're going through
a mental or identity dissolution.
Sign number six is that you go through a temporary
increase in mental chatter.
What this means is that when the identity
starts to collapse, your mind starts to freak
out a little bit.
So your mind then begins to try and look for
substitutes to that model.
So when one model collapses, the mind starts
to oh my God.
What am I going to do?
Let me think about this.
Let me try and figure this out, and so the
mental chatter will increase temporarily.
I have a lot of people saying to me, "My identity's
collapsing, but I just can't shut my mind
up.
It doesn't stop."
And this is one of the reasons why that mental
chatter, why that inner chatter increases.
It's simply because your mind is trying to
find a solution to the problem of that mental
model falling, okay?
The mind is always looking for solutions,
sometimes even to things that aren't problems.
This is a very common sign.
If you feel like you're going through this
increase in mental chatter, like your mind
is just going a million miles an hour, that's
okay.
Take a nice deep breath.
This is one of the very normal signs that
your identity is collapsing.
On to part number three, and that is what
to do when your identity dissolves.
I put together my top five tips to help you
out here.
This is really going to make a difference
in kind of bringing you down into a state
of peace and calm as you're going through
this very disruptive process, all right?
The first tip is let it go.
Please let it go, beautiful soul.
Do not get stuck on your old identity.
Don't try to revive it as it's collapsing.
Don't try and give it CPR so it survives.
Let it die.
Let it go, because it's happening for your
higher purpose.
So don't cling to it.
Don't panic.
Don't try to give your identity CPR to see
if you can resuscitate it.
Let it go.
Let it fall.
Let it dissolve.
And what you can do, it's actually ... It's
easy.
It's easy now, but I know in the moment sometimes
when you're going through these panics you
can forget.
So what I do is I like to put my hand on my
heart.
I take a nice deep breath, and you can just
say a mantra like I let it go.
I let my identity go.
I do not hold on to this.
So get very good at developing mantras and
having this inner talk.
This soothing inner talk is very helpful,
okay?
So there's tip number one.
Let it go.
Don't try to resuscitate an identity that's
falling because it's falling for your higher
good.
Tip number two is become comfortable with
change.
This is important, and sometimes it takes
a little bit of training because our identities,
our mental constructs have really trained
us to believe in this illusion of permanence,
that everything is not changing, that things
go from point A to point B to point C. And
this is just all in illusion.
So you have to get very comfortable with the
fact that life is just constant and permanent
change really.
It's just change.
Always things are always changing.
And all you have to do is just follow the
cycles of nature, right?
Nature never stops, from winter to spring
to summer to fall.
It just keeps going, from the tides that rise
and then fall from the moon that get full
and then isn't full.
Everything is just moving constantly in nature.
So take the cue of nature and learn how to
work with change, really.
But, I want to give you a little extra extra
to this tip, and it's an understanding that's
going to help you work with change.
I want to give you a little bit on why we
are so afraid of change in the first place.
That's going to help you.
And one of the reasons is because the more
afraid we feel of change, it's usually having
to do with an unhealed inner child.
Our beautiful, beautiful inner child, it's
one of our sub-personalities, one of many.
The beautiful inner child is the one that
tends to really get anxious with change.
And it's usually an inner child that's wounded.
Either something happened to you in your childhood
that you haven't really healed, and it stunted
the growth of that inner child, and so you
have a little bit of a wounded inner child.
The more wounded your inner child, the more
afraid you are of change.
So if you find yourself freaking out with
change, ding, ding, you know your inner child
is wounded and it needs healing.
You can actually get very good with change
once you heal the inner child.
I'm going to give you a little bit of a pro
tip here.
Pro tip.
Pro tip.
I'm going to give you a pro tip on how to
work with that inner child so that then you
can become more comfortable with change.
So here's a little exercise that I like doing.
You could do it with me now if you want to.
What you're going to do, you're going to bring
your hands to your heart.
You're going to take a nice deep breath.
And just focus on your breathing for a little
bit.
Focus on your breathing.
Then, what you're going to do is you're going
to put your hands on your tummy, the stomach
area, the area of the lower three chakras.
That's where your inner child resides energetically.
So you're going to put your hands, one or
both hands, on your stomach, and you're just
going to breathe.
You're going to wait for energy to come out
of your hands into your stomach area.
Then you're going to breathe, and you're just
going to say something soothing to that inner
child.
Again, mantra work is amazing.
I love mantra work, okay?
You can say something like, everything is
okay.
Change is good.
It's not bad.
Really talk to your inner child in the same
way you would talk to your own child, okay?
Talk to your inner child that way, all right?
So if you're a parent, this is going to be
easy for you.
If you're not a parent, you're just going
to have to pretend you have a child and how
you would talk to them.
So just come up with some really soothing
mantras that will help that inner child relax.
The more you hold your hands here to your
stomach, the more energy you draw into that
area so it helps soothe the inner child also.
The more that you heal and work with your
beautiful inner child and help her free herself
to do the things that the inner child is supposed
to do, which is play, be creative, have fun,
giggle, that's what the inner child sub-personality
part of us is supposed to do.
She's not supposed to be worried about life
changes.
That's the adult part of you that's supposed
to be dealing with that, okay?
So help the inner child go back to her childlike
ways to playing and to being free and you
take care of the adult stuff.
This inner child exercise works really well,
but if you want to do other things like an
inner child meditation, go ahead and do that.
But, this is a big pro tip.
The more that you work with your inner child
and you heal the inner child, the easier it
will be for you to work with change in life.
So there's your pro tip.
Tip number three is focus on the signs.
Now, this means that when you are going through
an identity collapse, we've already talked
about this a little bit, the identity collapse
can really make you feel completely lost and
completely confused, not sure what the heck
to do, if you should turn right, left, up,
or down.
This is really normal.
So when you're going through an identity collapse,
sometimes it's not very wise to be making
rash decisions.
Because if you make a rash decision in the
middle of an identity collapse, it may not
lead to very good outcomes in your outer world.
The way that I like to work with people in
this stage when they're going through an identity
collapse is just get really good at working
with the signs and synchronicities that life
sends your way.
A way of doing this is you can literally sit
in meditation and you can say to your guides,
to your soul, to your higher self, you can
say, "Look, I have no idea what to do right
now.
My whole identity is collapsing, so I'm not
going to jump into action unless I get a really
clear guidance from the universe, unless I
get a really clear intuition, or guidance,
or sign from the universe that tells me which
direction to go."
So get very good at observing signs and synchronicities
in your outside environment and then acting
on those signs and synchronicities, okay?
This is a wonderful way to be, especially
when you're going through an identity collapse
because then you're relying on the signs and
synchronicities from your soul, from your
higher self, and from your guidance team.
And when you rely on those signs, the likelihood
that you'll take a wrong step in the wrong
direction are pretty low because you're being
helped by your guidance system.
This is way better than just shooting a bunch
of ... Shooting a gun in the dark you're not
going to hit a target, okay?
So try not to make any rash decisions when
you're going through an identity collapse
because it may lead you a little bit of stray.
Tip number four.
And this is one of the most important tips.
Tip number four is do not accept projections.
Oh my gosh.
I work with clients on this a lot.
Because when they're going through identity
collapses, one of the things that happens
is they start to get pressured by the people
around them.
Because guess what?
When you go through an identity collapse,
don't think the people around you aren't going
to notice.
Of course they're going to notice.
They will notice.
And sometimes they can start projecting fear
onto you, and that can just make you more
anxious, more confused, and more fragile.
You can feel more sensitive and more fragile.
So this is a really important tip, beautiful
soul.
Do not accept projections even from the people
closest to you, because even the people closest
to you don't know what's going on within you.
You are going through a deep spiritual process
and sometimes the people that we love the
most may not understand it because the process
is occurring inside of you.
So even the people closest to you may not
know how to help you or what's going on, all
right?
So don't accept projections.
Stand your ground is so important.
Stand in your sovereignty, all right?
Be in your sovereignty.
Because if you're not, what's going to end
up happening is you're going to hear comments.
Clients tell me all the time that they get
really hurt because sometimes a family member
will come up to them and they'll say, "I don't
even know who you are anymore."
And they're not saying that as a pleasant
thing.
It's not a compliment.
They're saying that is kind of an attack,
right?
I don't know who you are anymore.
You're changing into someone that I don't
even recognize.
These are really common projections that we
can get from the people around us when we're
going through an identity collapse because
we're changing.
And sometimes that causes fear in the people
around us and then they project that fear
onto us.
So stand in your sovereignty.
What this means, being a sovereign being means
I do not accept any influence from the outside
environment unless it's an influence that's
beneficial to me.
So I have to learn how to discern what is
good for me and what's not, and I know how
to say no and yes, all right?
That's what a sovereign being does, okay?
So stand in your sovereignty.
If you get a projection from the outside environment,
from someone you love, from a friend or whatever,
from your partner, you have to get very good
at being able to communicate your truth and
not accepting that fear-based projection from
the person.
So you could say something like, "I'm okay.
I'm just going through a spiritual process.
My identity is falling.
I'm changing, my personality is changing,
but it's good.
It's not bad, okay?"
And you'll know what to say, but make sure
that whatever you say is very clear so that
that person doesn't do that again.
Because if you continue to have to accept
these projections from people and if they're
coming from multiple different directions,
you can really get very anxious, very confused,
and it could just make the whole process worse
for you.
Tip number five is connect more fully to your
guidance.
This is one of the most important tips.
That's why I left it for last so you don't
forget.
When you're going through an identity collapse,
everything ... It's almost like your whole
sense of the world, not just of yourself,
but of the world, collapses.
So you're really left with only one thing
that should really be your anchor and your
safe place, and that's right here.
Ding, ding.
Your heart.
Your heart, because it's the portal of your
soul and the connection to your higher self,
the connection to God, to your guides.
It's all right here in your heart.
And right in this heart center is ... There
really is an unchanging part of you and an
eternal part of you that's right here.
It's always accessible.
And when you're going through an identity
collapse, you sure as heck need to be connected
not just to your guidance but also to your
creator, all right?
And that connection is found right here in
the middle of your heart, okay?
So get very, very good at establishing daily
practices that help you come into this connection
more fully, so things like meditation to quiet
your mind.
The more quiet your mind is, the more easily
you'll be able to connect and feel that connection
with God, with your guides, with your higher
self.
But you can establish other practices, too,
like dance, like walking in nature, all kinds
of different things, journaling, mantra work,
chanting, all of these different things.
You're going to have to pick what practices
work best for you, but your overall goal with
your spiritual practices is that you are just
going to prepare yourself to connect more
fully to the divine, all right?
I'll leave you another thing here.
Here's an extra tip.
Ding, ding, okay?
An extra tip.
As part of your daily practices, get very
good at a daily energy clearing, all right?
The daily energy clearing can be something
very simple.
The reason that I'm bringing this up and I'm
adding it as a pro tip is because energy clearing
is one of the best ways for you to connect
more fully to your guidance.
Because think about energy clearing in the
same way you would think about taking a shower,
right?
Why do you need to take a shower?
Because you get dirty.
You get dirty and you want to clean your body,
all right?
So spiritual hygiene is just as important.
Energy clearing is much the same thing as
taking a shower.
You could do it very quickly.
I do it pretty quickly in the morning.
I just stand in front of my beautiful window
in the sun.
I get sunlight into my kitchen in the morning.
I stand there, and I just literally say to
my guides, "I wish to clear my energy."
Sometimes I'll call an archangel, like an
Archangel Michael that's very good with helping
with energy clearing.
I just call my guides, and I say, "It's my
intention to clear my energy."
Then I just visualize this beautiful, beautiful,
bright light coming from my head down, down,
down my body, down my body, clearing, clearing,
clearing all the way.
And the energy, the old energy, goes down
through my feet into the earth, into the center
of the earth, okay?
So that's one of my daily energy clearing
techniques.
You can do this also.
Make sure that this is a part of your spiritual
practice.
Because the more that you get used to cleansing
your energy every day, the easier it is for
you to connect with your heart, with your
guidance.
And the more that you connect with your guidance,
the more connected you are with God, the more
easily you can get through this process of
identity collapse.
Now, I want to hear from you.
Are you going through an identity collapse
right now?
Let me know in the comments below.
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And don't forget this video is coming up next
about the signs of spiritual awakening.
You're going to want to watch this if you
feel like you're going through a spiritual
awakening.
All right, beautiful soul.
I am out.
