Hey friends, it's Karamo, from
Netflix's "Queer Eye"
and I'm here with Mitu,
and here are my top
five tips for self-care.
Number one: set clear boundaries.
Boundaries are your friend,
don't be afraid of them,
and understand that
boundaries can be reset
so if you have told somebody
that this is what works for you,
and then a week later you realize,
no, that needs to be changed,
you have to have the courage to tell them,
"I have a new boundary" because
that's your ability and
your authority to do so.
Tip number two for self-care.
Do not be afraid of the word no,
both saying it and receiving it.
I'm a big believer that
when you hear the word no,
our society tells us that it somehow means
that we're not good enough,
but I actually believe
that word no's are gifts that we receive,
that have nuggets of lessons in them
that we can use to stack on each other
so that we can climb to the
success we want and deserve.
Tip number three, and this is an easy one,
is really just to remember
that self-care is not selfish.
A lot of the times we walk through life
and we start telling ourselves
that self-care is
something that I can't do,
I need to be helping other people,
I should be doing more and it's not.
You gotta start with yourself.
You gotta take care of yourself first.
It's so important for your mental health
and for your well-being.
Tip number four for your self-care.
Evaluate your tribe, because
when you re-evaluate your tribe,
you see who's in your
life to help you grow
and to be a better person.
And that doesn't mean just
evaluate the people around now.
Evaluate the people that
were around 20 years ago.
Evaluate family members, evaluate everyone
and see who's helping you
grow to be your best self.
And tip number five, which
is a very important tip,
and I say it all the time.
Stop comparing yourself to other people.
You're on your own
journey, this is your life.
Design it and be on that
path of your own self growth.
Don't look at other people
because they've got married
or they have a job, or they have this,
or they have that and think, I'm behind.
No no no no no, you're right
where you're supposed to be,
and you will continue to
get to where you want to be
and where you deserve to
be, but you can't do that
by comparing yourself to other people.
I always say, comparison
is a thief of joy.
Don't steal your own joy, boo!
It's okay.
