hey insider let me ask you a question
have you ever wondered when you for
example you're in a room and somebody
walks in and they like ooze power
charisma and likability have you ever
wondered Wow how's that happening well
the reality is is they've mastered what
it's called body language and they've
often I found they most often not most
people aren't naturals when it comes to
this they've studied their processes and
this is how successful people today they
get advantage over the majority of
people who don't know or understand this
stuff because ideally when you want to
be more successful it's about
understanding that your net worth is in
your network so being able to expand
your network being able to influence
people is what's gonna make you more
successful and that's why in today's
video I'm gonna break down the five
body language secrets that successful
people utilize in order to create
influence and connection like no other
and so without further ado make sure to
pay close attention and let's go onto
the first point which is about utilizing
what's called a facial triangle now if
I'll just gaze at you in the eyes
okay just constantly just in the eyes
and not break eye contact it's gonna
seem really really weird right some
people do it because when I was shy when
I was an introvert
I I heard about importance to make an
eye contact and I made it I was so
scared especially when it came to girls
making eye contact and so I just took
this to an extreme level and I just
stared at the girls eyes are like this
and I remember wondering why girls seemed
always freaked out by myself and I found
it's because I just gazing at their eyes
without blinking right now what facial
triangle is about is about having a look
realizing that you should glance at both
eyes then down to the mouth and if you
do this just naturally by the way it
shouldn't be like synchronized like
because it's gonna be so weird okay it's
gonna be natural just watch somebody
who's natural naturally good at
communicating watch how they communicate
you can watch the videos for example
interviews of successful people watch
how they communicate they're constantly
not just gazing here at the eyes they're
also looking down as well it's very
natural and what you're doing when
you're looking at the mouth you also
signifying subconsciously that you're
listening to them and so utilize the
first secret is to utilize what it's
called a facial triangle go check it out
online there's a lot of you know studies
as well as some further information
regards to this it's definitely worth
adopting for those of you who are not
aware of the strategy now let's go into
the second secret second secret is
slouching okay now if you look at
successful people when they are for
example in communication or when they
walk into the room you can tell
instantly they're oozing power you can
often tell who are celebrities in the
room from those who aren't because the way
they're composing their themselves I
found when I used to game a lot when I
was a child I used to be addicted to
these like online multiplayer games and
so forth and as a result I was just
constantly slouching in just on my
computer because I wasn't watching my
posture and yet often heard from my mom
stand up straight
sit up straight but I didn't like it I was
resisting even any orders from school
teachers to my mum but now I understand
why people are saying that how the
society way says sit up straight not
only it is good for composure but it's
also how we're perceived I remember when
I was younger trying to get a job and I
would walk in slouching you know I was
hanging out with very negative people
who were like I supposed dead broke like
myself and as a result we just used to
look lazy plus we we people think we're
lazy because I didn't a people make
milli second judgment in regards to how
how we how we are based upon the the
body language right and so if you're if
you're as a sloucher you wanna make a
conscious habit of constantly standing
up straight sitting up straight it makes
a huge huge difference it all should
also shows respects that other person
because if you look at your hating the
the conversation even if you're loving
it but your body if your body language
is showing it like this for example
imagine that I've been doing this video
I'm like this hey insiders I hope you're
well
hey I wanna show you like you can tell how
I'm just not engaging but if I sit up
straight and I'm like hey insiders so
I'm gonna show you the power of not
slouching and what you should do instead
you can tell a big big difference so
make a conscious habit of never
slouching again to sit up straight
especially when you're communicating
with the other person that is a second
secret now let's go on to the third
secret the first secret is is to not
cross your arms and this is a very
common knowledge and I still see so many
people naturally they create a habit of
just constantly crossing their arms like
this and I know what you think it's
sometimes you're cold or or what but it
sends off for very much a negative
energy to the other person because
compared difference I could talk to you
right now like this or like this one of
the things I have noticed that I was
doing when I was early beginning to be
on stages and learning how to be a
public speaker I realized I always
put my hands in my pocket always just
cross my arms because I was nervous
right I still am an introvert to
this day but I've mastered the art of
being an extrovert through public
speaking training and so forth now I
always used to do this I used to do but
just compare it right now you can see
the huge difference so you wanna make
sure that consciously you're making
a habit of of being in an open body
language that way that other person
perceives that you are open opposed to
being closed to their information if
somebody's talking to you and you're
doing this you're sending off wrong
signals and that's not what you wanna
get across because what what if that
person's like an investor right and
you're just like yeah I want the
investment this business I'm creating is
the best they're just not gonna buy it
okay
so make sure to stop crossing your arms
now let's go to the fourth point the
fourth point is inconsistency with what
you're saying and how you're perceived
through body language for example some
people say to me nowadays I see I see it
nowadays when I'm running these events
all across the globe and I say to
somebody who wants to try public
speaking for the first time they raise
their hands they go onto the stage and
they grab the mic they're normally
shaking like this normally the whole body
sometimes shaking right I've definitely
been there and they're like and I say okay
I want you to introduce yourself and tell a
really cool fact about
yourself and they say something in the
lines of hey my name is John and I'm
really happy to be here and everyone's
just like looking around just thinking
wow this person seems so happy right now
this is over-exaggeration of course I
found when people are communicating
because they've not practiced and by the
way I want you to realize I'm not a
natural this what I was saying at UCL couple
days ago which is one of the top
prestigious universities I was being
invited to guest lecturer as saying I'm
not a natural I've just practiced loads
of times for example on camera in the
mirror and I practiced how am I using my
hands right am I open body language how
am i for example talking am i smiling
when I'm saying something that's
happy or am I frowning when I'm saying
something I don't like sometimes have
you ever met somebody for example let me
ask you have you ever met somebody where
they say oh you know I really understand
what you mean let's say you went through
something that's terrible and you want
them to feel how you feel but then
there's smiling constantly right that is
also inconsistency as well because if
you just constantly smile it's also
deemed as fake all right I'm sure some
of you probably are yeah I've met those
people who can't see smile and they're
never stop smiling
so you don't wanna be one of those
people as well there has to be
consistency behind what you're saying
and your body language as well that is
the fourth point the fifth point is
exaggerated nodding right I'm sure
you've met those people who can't see
like this right and in some cultures by
the way this is a norm in fact this is a
habit I had to break by way to notice
whilst i'm doing this and speaking how
it's really really irritating especially
if you're talking to me right
imagine I'm just doing this right I'm
sure you've met people who just constantly
just nod and they're like yeah yeah
yeah in Seoul South Korea when I was
growing up we we often when we're in
conversation we're constantly doing this
because it's sign of respect however if
we're constantly doing this this is
going to be very irritating and in fact
the condition I went through in Seoul
South Korea was we also have to say like
for example yes or nay
it was in Korea it was just a constantly
thing there
like that and I came to England thinking
that was a polite way of communicating
with others and everyone just fought I
was really really strange I remember the
conversation would run so thin I'm sure
you've had experience where you wanna
speak with somebody for a long duration
of time but then the conversation gets
shut down straight away it's because
what you're what you're putting out
there in regards to subconscious signals
through body language like this because
when you're just constantly yes
what you're saying to the other person
is you want that conversation to stop
because you're saying that's how they're
perceiving because if you're saying oh
yeah I went to or went on holiday and
you constantly see like this what you're
sending out is you want you want to be
able to talk right and this is why yes
to this day I do not when I'm listening
however I also know when to stop and
just be still so you wanna make sure
that you become conscious of these
habits because communication is such a
vital skill if you wanna be successful
you've got to be able to expand your
network you got to be able to reach out
to Mentors and you've got to be able to
sell to your clients if you're in
business right now and that comes from
mastering communication so I hope you
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