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Hi guys, I'm Kristen and I'm Steph and today, what are we doing today? I know that's a genuine question actually already
I think we just sounded that we're gonna do a just a rose week today because we both kind of have the same rose week
No thorns this week. Pretty good! And our rose week
also inspired us to do a mini little LGBT tag, so that's what we'll be talking about today in this video
How many videos have we made by now? Why am I not better? Yeah, well, like we're both not good, but I feel like today
today you are acting weird. Yeah. You are acting weird.
Anyway so tell us about our rose week, babe. Yeah, we went to visit Sheridan College
We went to speak at their pride event/group. I think they called it Come Out which is
clever and cute. We talked about our experiences with
coming out and
what that looked like for us and what's happened since we've come out and
it was kind of- It was funny because
I think going into it we thought oh, no problem, all we're doing is talking about our life
That's pretty easy to do. We talk about it a lot, so it's fine. Yeah, but as we were both sitting there
waiting for our turn to go speak
we kind of looked at each other and we were like, 'we're nervous!' mm-hmm
And I think it was just one of those things, not only- it wasn't even about us telling our story
but that was actually the first time I think I've even said my story my story out loud
And I know we haven't told you guys our stories yet, but it was just a really neat experience. I think just to be in
just a small, intimate group and to hear other people's experiences that are very different from ourselves. Yeah. But also similar. Right.
It's a very, like, eye opening experience, I feel like. Yeah.
That being said, I think it-
We talked about it kind of on the way home,
and not that we've been against sharing our coming-out stories
but it is probably the most requested video that we get other than, like, the chapstick challenge
or whatever. Ah... classic
And I don't know why we've been reluctant to do it
I think it's been kind of a long time for both of us and-
And also we- I know- (sorry for cutting you off)
But I know, like, that we have talked about it that- I don't know. We didn't want to put our coming-out story on YouTube
for views. And I'm not saying that everyone who's done it does it for views,
but that is definitely a video that like, gets big hits and maybe it gets big hits
No
Because it's helpful for people and I think that's something that we kind of took away from
this week. Yeah, from this week for sure. Yeah.
It's so funny because you think you have such a different story than-because we heard from a few other people who came out as
trans and it just...
seems like...
it's so different, but at the same time there's so many similarities, and I fully believe that it's
much more difficult to come out as trans, and I know that might be a- people might not agree with that. Right.
But I just personally feel- at least my story - compared to what I've heard from
trans people - is that
It's... it's a slightly easier road, but at the same time. It was so cool
how many trans people raised their hand at the end of us speaking with them and sharing our story and they said 'I
totally relate with you girls.
I completely relate.' That was- I think that was an
Eye-opening thing, like you even joked in and saying that like I know you probably think our stories
Are easy compared to yours. That was the best part,
I think, for other people to be like 'I get it' or 'I learned something today' from us because I didn't think that-
I thought like, their stories, our stories kind of thing, but it was awesome
we had a lot of fun, and I think it kind of sparked us to be-
Like, we've always had the passion behind the community
but it sparked us just to be more involved and learn more because we're definitely not going in saying that we're experts at
knowing everything about the lgbtq+
community, - yeah - but it's really nice to learn and to learn from other people. Yeah, yeah. I'm always terrified and...
I'm terrified to offend people - right - and I think a lot of people feel that way
and I am fully on board with everything, I'm open,
but I also feel like I have so much to do in the learning department when it comes to different gender identities and sexualities. Yeah.
And I think we're both like that, and it's almost like-
Then I put myself in this box where I don't say anything for the fear of offending someone,
but I also want to say things because I want
people to know that I'm open to learning and I am accepting and supportive
and, you know, we're all in this together. It kind of opened up our eyes, being like, 'okay, you can learn from us
we can learn from you, and we're all the same. Even though our stories are very different,
we are all wanting the same thing and, look, we're all just the same people deep down.' So anyway
So deep! Yeah! Ah I feel like we're getting- yeah, but we really wanna --
It was really cool. Right. It was a great experience and we'd love to do more of that,
we are going to be doing more of that.
Yeah. Whether it's in that department or a little something else that we're working on that we-
Yeah, well that really sparked our little creative minds didn't it honey? Yes, I mean, it did, yep, so thank you.
Thanks for coming. So good to talk to you and meet you, and
We'd love to meet more of you and hear your stories as well. Right. So...
let's move along to the tag part of this video: the LGBT tag. Tag? No?
There is like a longer LGBT tag out there, but we just took like three questions that we thought we could go through. Three? Yeah.
Okay. Yeah, three questions. Okay. Is that all right? Yeah, that's fine. Do you think more or less? Yeah no, more I think.
Three three three three. There's two of us, so it's like
six answers. Whatever. When it comes to your gender and sexuality. How do you identify?
As female
and as gay or lesbian.
Mm-hmm
Do you prefer gay or lesbian? Do you have a preference? I don't have a preference, no.
I don't mind either way
There's words that I would be offended by but we don't have to go there. Gay and lesbian, they're both totally fine.
What about you? Uh, yeah,
I'm the same.
I identify as female and as lesbian or gay,
and it's funny because we've talked about lesbian and gay before and I used to be a little bit more afraid of the term lesbian
because- Really? Yeah. And I figured out - at least for me - why I felt that way
I'm- I'm over it now. Lesbian's cool.
But I think it's because I like being able to say 'I AM gay' instead of 'I am A lesbian.' Oooh
I see what you mean. Because I feel like, when you say 'I AM gay' it's like
a part of your personality, whereas when you say like 'I am A lesbian' it's almost like- That's who you are. Yeah.
There's nothing more to you. Even though
that's not what it means, but I think that's why I maybe had a little bit of an issue with it before,
but now I'm cool because if I'm a lesbian, I'm a lesbian, it's fine.
You are a lesbian.
Okay. Be honest! Okay. What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality?
I...
It bothers me when people say 'who is the man in the relationship?' I know it's so cliché, but it's so annoying. So like...
archaic. Yeah it is very archaic. Yeah like top/bottom, who's the man? Yeah, not top/bottom too, it's like- not necessary.
Okay- Are you done?
Yeah, I think that's it. That's a lame answer, I feel like but yeah,
I hate it when people say like 'who's top and who's bottom?' And I honestly don't even know what that means!
'You're too pretty to be gay' is another thing that's annoying. You're just 'a face.' Yeah.
There's a lot of things that are, I feel like, maybe surface-level a bit, still are ... bothersome
What do you refer to your significant other - that's me - as?
I don't have one. Do you prefer partner or girlfriend? Well I think they know. Definitely girlfriend.
And I think we're both on the same page with this one because...
We just- I just don't like the term partner
I'm not saying- For us. For us, I was just gonna say that. I'm not saying like, 'you can't call your significant other partner,' gay/straight/
whatever you identify as. But for us- I just... I don't know why, it's just to me, partner sounds so...
business-y or- Yeah.
I don't know.
and it's really formal for us, like we're not the-
We know a lot of people that uses the term partner too and it's totally fine.
Yeah
I understand
not wanting to use girlfriend because a lot of the time - and we run into this all the time - is that I say my girlfriend
and I'm not sure - unless I'm talking to someone who I know and know's Steph -
I'm not sure if they really get what I'm saying. Right. And they might just think she's my friend
but that's just something I'm willing to live with and- Or willing to clarify. Yeah. Like that's fine. 'Oh, no like my actually girlfriend.'
Yes. If I was straight,
I would have a boyfriend until I had a fiancé until I had a husband. Yeah.
And that's the same path I would like to follow with you:
It's just like we're girlfriends until we're more and we're fiance's until we're more and we're wives.
So I don't see it any different, and I think that's just where my thought process is with that. Yeah.
I don't find girlfriends immature or boyfriends immature. I think that's just a title we give ourselves
I understand partner because it can be gender-neutral and it can mean whatever and that's cool, but just
personally for me, I way prefer to call you my girlfriend. I don't look at you as like my partner.
Unless we're doing something business-y together, which we do that, and you're like my business partner!
Okay, well that's all the questions? Yeah, that's it. Okay, you know I think we should do- What? is that since we were
really into kind of learning and stuff, if you guys have anything you want to share to us
You can always email us- You do.
Yeah, they do, I know. Lot's of emails.
But even if I don't- if we don't respond to your emails too- Right. I am..
98% sure I've read every single email that comes in. Emails, we read emails, we read
messages - every message on YouTube. And we really really appreciate it
and I don't- we don't want you guys to think that we don't appreciate all your comments and support from
through the screen because obviously we love it
we just have a little bit of a different experience face to face with people and I think that's why
now we're thinking maybe that's something we would like to do more of.
And we know you're real. We still know you're real. Right.
Even if we never meet you, we know you're out there
but it's just- it was so different! Right. Shaking someone's hand and hugging them and looking them in the face and having a real conversation.
It was awesome. Cos it's always all about us, you know? It totally is. We never stop talking.
What is it- where was I going with that?
Oh I wanted to just say if you have anything especially in the community that you want to let us know
that we should be more informed about just
tell us because we want to learn and we hope that you're learning from us, and it's kind of like a
mutually beneficial relationship. Mm-hmm, totally.
But we're having so much fun. We're all different, but we're also the exact same,
What's that called, a paradox? I think that sounds about right. Something like that. But anyway
Alright! That was really serious for us, but I feel like sometimes it's good. Yeah. Cos we mean it!
Any other thoughts?
I don't think so. Like I could go on and on because I never shut up but- That's true.
Thank you guys so much for watching and for doing this with us, and-
Thanks so much guys
So, ok, have a good day. See you guys soon! Bye!
I'm wearing lip gloss today I'm a little tacky
Yeah, it was a little sticky, but I like that.
Oh yeah? Usually you complain I feel like.
Yeah but the cameras on.
Okay
Inappropriate? Yeah, you're always inappropriate.
Okay okay. UM.
Like I'll talk about sex, but not to you.
Talk about sex baby, talk about you and me
