so are you like a real person or just
another shallow empty fuck boy who works
in an industry that props up unrealistic
gay male beauty / sex standards and
wouldn't be caught dead with anyone
below porn boy looks
I hate being gay it's the worst if
you're ugly I've tried for so long to
get even a single hookup but I've gotten
nothing online dating is just out of the
question for me it's all about looks
it's so hard to meet gay guys in real
life it's just a small chance and when
you're ugly 99% of the time they just
don't want to know I really wish I was
straight anyone else in the same go fuck
the stupid gay Chad's always posting
their perfect lives and /r/askgaybros
or Instagram or whatever they don't know
what it's like grow up knowing
you're gay and waiting and hoping to
finally become a teenager's you can
pursue guys and find love only to then
find out you're either too black or too
Asian or too ugly to be considered
worthy of any of them all after you
spent your high school years consuming
gay media and get
hopes about the gay community from TV
ships and Queer is Folk and others
so yeah that's what being a gaycel is
like and yes this is obviously a throw
away account actually being a gaycel
is having gone through all and being
told you just need to dress better and
work on your personality
hello beautiful
people welcome to today's video today
we're going to talk about incels if
you don't know what incels are that
stands for involuntarily celibate
incels are a growing community online and
they're entering into the public eye
quite a lot more recently because some
of the biggest mass murders committed in
recent times have been committed by
members of the incel community now this
video is inspired by a video made by
Natalie Wynn from ContraPoints
ContraPoints is a fantastic channel that
explores topical issues in a really
really fascinating and in-depth way and
the video that Natalie made on incels
is absolutely fantastic I'm gonna link
to that down below because it did
heavily inspire this video and a lot of
the stuff that I'm gonna be discussing
overlaps with the content that Natalie
made and I really think that she
deserves all the credit in the world for
covering this topic in such a fantastic
way today though I wanted to discuss a
side of the incel community that she
didn't really touch on as much which is
lgbtq+ incels specifically I'm gonna
be talking about gay men who identify as
incels and are part of the incel
community sometimes they call themselves
gaycels sometimes they just call
themselves incels to give you more
information on incels they tend to be
an online community often on websites
like reddit but other social media
platforms as well they're these groups
of men who feel that they are too ugly
to get sex which is why they call
themselves involuntarily celibate
they're men who are trying to get sex
but just can't because they're too ugly
at least that's the way that they see it
the group enforces negativity amongst
each other and as we know social media
can be very damaging anyway but in this
form it's very very extreme these people
all reinforce the negativity amongst
each other they tell each other how ugly
they are and they reinforce this idea
that they are truly unable to get sex
and oftentimes they blame feminism or
media or pop culture that glamorizes
people who look a certain way and
reinforces traditional beauty
stereotypes and the ironic thing about
the Incel movement is
a lot of them are actually very
attractive even conventionally
attractive but they believe that they're
ugly they've convinced themselves so
thoroughly that they're ugly that they
can't get sex and that the reason they
can't get sex is because of feminists
and because of the media because of the
culture that we live in which
unfortunately leads some of these
incels to commit atrocious acts of
violence which we have seen in the mass
murders committed in the United States
many of which were from members of the
incel community the incels have
all sorts of terminologies to describe
the world around them one of the
villains of incel communities is the
Chad the Chad is this idea of this
perfect buff man who can get any woman
he wants and is this like super
attractive successful good-looking
person incels resent Chad's and see
them as the enemy and these these
terrible people who have everything that
they want there's a lot of issues with
entitlement in the incel community
incels feel entitled to sex they feel
entitled to women and in the gay incel
community it's not that dissimilar in
the gay beauty community however I
really think there are a lot of these
Chad's who really will tell you that
you're ugly if you're black,
you're ugly if you're Asian you're ugly if you're
plus-size you know you're ugly if you're
feminine and you're ugly if you fit into
a number of different attributes this
idea of this person who exists who
thinks that everybody is ugly who
doesn't look like this beautiful
Athenian porn model goddess is is real
there are lots of people that do have
those standards of beauty and that will
tell you that you are ugly if you don't
fit into those standards of beauty
however the the gaycel solution to
this and the gaycel kind of handling
of the gay beauty standard world is
enormously problematic in these quotes
which I have read out by these gaycels
they think that everybody who is posting
their life on social media that looks
attractive is essentially the enemy Eric
saw these men in West Hollywood who were
beautiful and successful in living their
best life and he resented it and he
resented what they had even though it
wasn't even really what he wanted I
think there's a lot of things going on
here one of the things is that society
is telling us what we want and in the
gay community society is telling us that
we want this West Hollywood beautiful
experience and that we want abs and we
want to be
in the media and in and attention in
these ways and and money and all of this
stuff and of course society tells
similar themes to heterosexual people
but there is this unique version of that
in the gay community. I think in breaking
down incel ideology one of the things
that we need to do is to say firstly
what do I want what do I not what
society tells me I want what do I
actually want as a human being I think
that's step number one you you have to
start looking at what you want as a
person and as a human being and not just
accepting what society tells you that
you want I think another thing that
needs to happen is people need to
separate themselves from the world of
gay beauty standards and I know that
it's so much easier said than done but
you can have a relationship that is
completely outside of traditional
stereotypical beauty standards of
society you can find beauty and you can
find attraction outside of what this gay
porn model unrealistic person is I also
think that incels are ultimately part
of the problem that they hate they
complain constantly about society and
cultures beauty standards and all of
these things but then they contribute to
them and they actually are part of the
system they reinforce these beauty
stereotypes they're the ones making
these posts saying that they're ugly and
saying that society has told them that
they're ugly and that they'll never get
sex because they don't fit into this
image of what it is to be beautiful and
by doing that they're actually feeding
into the very narrative that they're
trying to escape from obviously it's
frustrating not fitting into
conventional beauty standards in a world
that is run by conventional beauty
standards Beauty can get you so many
things in life beauty you know in the
YouTube world it's frustrating because
so many creators that are really
conventionally attractive instantly get
these audiences and success in part
based off of that often times only
because of that and that is a
frustrating thing especially for
filmmakers and people who put tons of
time and effort into their content
beauty is frustrating the system of
beauty is frustrating and I understand
that frustration so many of us
understand that frustration it's
unfortunate that the world puts so much
weight on conventional attraction
but your ability to be an accomplished
human being your ability to be
successful in a career your ability to
be beautiful outside of
conventional standards or within them and
your ability to find love romance and
sex can all exist outside of this world
of conventional beauty standards I think
fundamentally we do need to challenge
traditional Beauty stereotypes and we do
need to challenge how the media portrays
these Beauty stereotypes and
reinforces them and the culture that it
creates because obviously it's damaging
it's damaging to mental health and it
has a lot of issues so I think that we
need to challenge that but incel subculture
is not the way to challenge that incel
culture is dangerous negative and it
needs to be addressed and it needs to be
fought against in a positive way I hope
in the future that we will see less and
less members of this incel community
and more and more positivity online that
can replace it while simultaneously
challenging Beauty norms and challenging
the system that makes people feel so
horrible about themselves I hope that
you guys enjoyed this video about incels
I'm very curious to know what you
guys think about incels down below what
you think about gay incels or lgbtq+
members of the incel community how do
you think we can address these negative
notions about oneself and these
negative notions about beauty and beauty
standards and all of the above
what do you think we can do to create a
cultural change online I would love to
hear down below thank you guys again for
watching if you did enjoy this video
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content like this as always remember
that the world is a noisy place
communities like the incels are part
of that negative noise which is why we
need to make our words count and create
change alright I will see you in my next
video bye bye
