Hey guys!
Welcome to the Simplify Your Life Podcast.
It's Coach Simona and I'm glad you decided
to tune in.
What's up, everyone?
In today’s podcast episode, we’re going
to talk about how to free yourself of expectations
and I'm going to share with you 3 tips on
how to let go of expectations in a relationship.
Now, let's jump right into it.
Let's be real, guys.
We all know that expectations can be very tricky.
Sometimes, they sneak up on you when you least
expect it :)
When you have unrealistic expectations of
others or of a certain situation, it can be
very difficult to cope with the way that things
actually, turn out.
Today, I’m going to share with you my best
tips on how to let go of your expectations
(or at least learn how to manage them in a
healthy way).
My first tip is to write your expectations down.
Expectations are subjective, inner thoughts
about the objective, outer world that surrounds
us.
The best way to ‘see’ and evaluate your
thoughts is to write them down on a piece
of paper.
Here’s how to do that:
Now, I want you to write down all of
your expectations.
Don’t hold back!
Write everything you want, think, and obsess
about.
Pause this audio and come back when you're done.
Now read them out loud.
I know it sounds a bit silly, but bear with
me.
Reading them out loud will give you a chance
to reflect better and to hear yourself from
a different standpoint.
My second tip is to turn expectations into action steps.
Expectations are related to outcomes that
don’t entirely depend on you.
Otherwise, you wouldn’t expect an outcome,
but do what is needed to make it happen.
Question is, have you really done all that
you could do on your part?
More often than not, we use expectations as
a substitute for taking action because we
are afraid or unwilling to.
Sit down with yourself and do a reality check
of your expectations.
Instead of blindly expecting someone to do
something in a certain way, isn’t it a better
approach to have a chat with them?
When you are genuine and come from a place
of curiosity, the other person won’t be
defensive and will probably share what they’re
up to.
And if they don’t – no worries, it’s
their choice after all.
And the third thing that I want you to remember is that expectations are actually just thoughts.
Before I dive deep into this, I want to share with you a quote by Michael J.Fox:
'My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance,
and in inverse proportion to
my expectations.'
No matter how hard you try, it’s impossible
to get rid of all your expectations.
Like the thinking mind, expectations are a
part of our human experience, and the moment
you accept it, the better.
What you can do is simply see them for what
they really are — just thoughts — and
move on with your life.
The less you obsess over them, the weaker
they will get.
Until the day they won’t bother you anymore,
like the background noise from a busy street
for a true New Yorker.
And if you want to go even deeper and get rid of your expectations for good by reframing your thoughts,
download your free cheat sheet by visiting:
bit.ly/thoughtrecordtool
I also want to give you a great book suggestion.
One of the best books I’ve read on the subject
is 'Expectations Hangover' by Christine Hassler.
I will leave a link in the description box below.
Now, I want to hear from you:
How do you free yourself of expectations? Comment down below.
Thank you so much for listening!
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I love you guys and I'll talk to you in the
next one.
Bye!
