Good day Hans Schulte coming at you here with this Thursday, heck I'm gonna speak real quick
I've got a lot to cover and I know that your time is valuable
so this whole thing starts with a quote by a Col Gustav young that I've been thinking about and
Really it is it goes like this that everything that irritates us about others
Can lead us to an understanding of ourselves now, that is a powerful quote
All right in and of itself, but let me unpack it just real quick
basically what he's saying is that, you know anything that irritates us in another is
Potentially us seeing or mirroring something in that person that we don't like in ourselves and so he has really used
Irritation or irritability which is a negative emotion
I guess as a has a positive slant now, you know from an emotional intelligence perspective
Which is one of the tools that I use to help my leaders move forward, you know
the science around AI is rock-solid and powerful and you know in AI what we're always doing is we believe the
Gatekeeper to what? We call productive leadership state self is self-awareness
And this is exactly what Jung is speaking about here is about being self-aware
So why do people feel that irritability is negative? Well, that's pretty obvious
The reality is that you know people that get irritated have the proclivity to move into
frustration frustration can move into conflict and conflict can obviously
Break down relationships and we know that delivering in today's VUCA crazy complex world. You know, it requires great
Relationships that's the whole point of emotional intelligence is building amazing relationships and trust that we can deliver through help
Our team's be awesome. So this is what I suggest and this is where the the little heck comes from
We're going to take your at ability
Which is normally seen in a very negative light and we're going to put a positive spin on it. So this is what I suggest
Number one when you triggered when you're actually irritated do not be triggered
Okay, and you won't be because you've looked at this video and you be conscious about and you'll be like nah
Nah, I know what that is. I'm not going to be triggered number one
Number two be very aware of what actually irritated you so make a mental note of it. Okay number three
Be very disciplined and go and write it down
Write it down like write down exactly what happened number four reflect on those things
You've written down and come up with a couple of action items that you know are a true reflection of something inside of yourself
That has really worried you in somebody else. Okay. This is where the kicker comes from guys. So that was the heck
Here's the kicker. There's a great return on investment for your time. And this is how it works number one
You're actually going to have gotten exact honest true real-life
Feedback from your ecosystem that really matters now
That's pretty hard to get it normally cost quite a bit of money to get to so
You know consider that like a great gift. Okay feedback
Number two, you're gonna have actually sidestepped or dodged a bullet of breaking down relationship
You're actually in real time had not gotten
irritable with somebody and that's amazing number three you would have been able to come up with a couple of hacks or a couple of
goals, or
You know action items that you can work on over the next period of time
To deal with whatever that is inside of yourself that needs to be dealt with number four
you're going to be more self-aware and that means
You know by association that you're going to be in more productive
leadership States then then not and that is going to have a massive benefit to your day today and
to your team's day today to your families day today too ever you deal with today today and
Obviously it's going to pay off in the long run
so making this investment in time making this investment in mindfulness and making this investment in change will
Absolutely benefit you here's to you on your change journey crush it. Keep moving and you have a great day. See you out
