Hey, what's going on? Tripp Kramer here
from www.trippadvice.com. I'm in Hollywood
California with my boy Robbie Hemingway
from VIP Attraction. If you've seen my
past videos and maybe you've seen that I
have done a few videos with Robbie in the
past. He's helped me out to help you
text girls. We're talking about texting
girls today. He's got 3 really
awesome tips. Stuff that is going to help
you when it comes to texting girls and
getting them to meet up and feel awesome
when they receive a text message from
you. Let's get into it. Thanks for
being here man and sharing some of your
tips. I know that you have a lot of
programs on texting and a wealth
of information in terms of texting. Yeah,
it is my favorite thing to do other than
hang out with you in Hollywood and it's
Friday night, so later on maybe we'll go out.
Yes. Let's have some fun later on. Yes,
awesome. Let's get into it. What is
your first tip in terms of texting girls?
The first thing that you have to
realize before you text a girl as with
pretty much anything else in life if you
want to succeed at, is you have to be in
the right mindset before you begin the
task of texting a girl. Cool. What is
that mindset? The mindset is you have to
have a goal for that interaction that
you're about to have wit her. A lot of guys text
girls out of boredom. Guys will
text girls oh hey what's up, hey what
are you doing with no goal in mind.
That's the wrong kind of mindset. Your
mindset should be by the end of this
conversation I'm going to have with her, she's
either going to know me better,
we're going to set a date to hang out or
she's coming over. That should be your
three, the three things that you
want to have happen. Because if you go into a
conversation without any sort of
direction and in the wrong mindset, let's
say you're not feeling
that well or you had a bad day, that's
going to come across in texting
to the girl. She's gonna be able to smell
it from a mile away
and she's gonna say wow this guys
either too aggressive, he's too thirsty, he's boring
If you can snap yourself into that
mode, that primal like you're a tiger
going in for the kill kind of mode,
she's gonna sense it and you can have
a lot better success. Yeah, I take this as
you have to have a goal in mind.
Whatever you're doing in life, whether
it's business, whether it's working out,
whatever you're trying to do, there
should be a goal. And in my opinion the
goal of texting, the mindset should be,
you are texting this girl to get her to
meet up. That was one of the things you said.
I think that when you get a girl's
number texting, texting this is the tool
to get in front of her so you guys can
get on a date. Let's go into
another one. Tell me a big mistake that
you see guys make when they're texting
girls. The biggest mistake you've
seen. One of the biggest mistakes
that guys make when they're texting
women is that you bombard them with
information and questions without
allowing them the chance to respond in a
timely manner. What I mean by that is
for example, you text  a girl a question and
before she had a chance to answer your
question, maybe she takes 15, 20 seconds
you're staring at the screen, you ask for
another question and you add something
else and you comment on stuff and she
doesn't have a chance to take a breath
and respond to you because you keep
hitting her with information that she
has to she feels overwhelmed and you do
not want to be that guy. There's so many
guys out there like that. Yeah I think
guys get really impatient. That's the
thing is they'll ask a question
and if they don't get a response soon
enough, they'll ask another question or
say something else and not give her a
chance to respond. Yeah, and what it does
is it makes you come across as needy
and neediness is the number one worst
characteristic that you can show a woman
that you have because it makes you look
low status, it makes it look like you
need her for self-fulfillment
and you have nothing else
going on in your life except for getting
the response from this one girl. That's
what you're conveying when you're
pounding her with text messages. One good example
I always use is, if you have ever seen a really good
surgeon or a really good doctor, they're
not always available. Why? Because they're important. They're doing
stuff. You can't just go set an
appointment. But if you're always
available to the point where you're asking
her questions over and over again,
she's gonna say wow isn't
doing anything with himself? Is he
doing anything important or is he just
bothering me all day? Okay so we've gone
into an important mindset, we've gone
into one of the biggest mistakes that you see
guys make, now what's an action step or
something they can do to get a response
from her? One thing that you want to
have happen in all your conversations
with women is, you want to be the source
of enjoyment, of excitement. How do you
do that? One of the ways that I
always teach my guys to do it is, you take
her from whatever situation she's in and
you always put it in a better place
mentally.
Let's say for instance, she's at
work, if you ask her how's
work, you're not going to get a positive
response. She's not excited to talk
about that. That's work, it's boring, it's
dull. And you're also asking
her to entertain you. Whenever you're
just throwing out questions like that,
especially as an opener via text
messages, you're just asking her to do work so you
can sit back. How's work is like I
don't want to put any effort into texting
but the first thing that comes to mind is how's
work? It's very boring. So what I
always teach my guys to do is,
take them out of where they're at. She
doesn't want to be at work, so instead of
telling her how's work, ask her
what she's going to be doing for fun this week and
then once she tells you that, maybe she
has a plan, then you can start asking her
about what she's gonna do when she's having
fun. For instance, she's going to a
concert, oh that's perfect. What kind of
music is it? It's this artist.
Great. Now you have a wealth of
information that you can use to start
poking around and finding out more about
her, but you want to ask her what are
you gonna wear to the concert? What do people wear?
Do you wear short shorts, do you wear this, and
now she's starting to think of herself
at the concert and you're the vessel
that's taking her there while she's still
at work being bored. And it can work for
any situation; she's at the DMV,
she's at somewhere. You always want
to be the source of excitement so she's
excited to talk to you, like oh we're
gonna go on an adventure today.
Take her there and she will want to
actively have you text her.
What I'm hearing with this is basically
you want to train her in such a way
where she knows that if she's going to
receive a text message from you, it's
going to be something that is going to
be interesting, it's not going to be
talking about problems and we were
talking about this earlier, don't talk
about problems via text message. It's very
easy to do that. A girl will be like oh
I've had such a bad day or I'm so stressed
blah blah. What's your
advice for that, if it starts to go
negative? You don't want
to be her counselor, you want to be an
object of her sexual desires. If you
start talking and hearing about her
problems just to help her, then you're
going to become her counselor and girls
don't want to bang their counselor.
Unless they're weird, but for the most
part they don't. What you want to do
is what I call you want to end it.
It's a method I call empathize and
diffuse. So let's say she says I've had
such a bad day at work,
my boss was screaming at me all day.
And instead of saying oh well that sucks
I'm sorry, don't apologize because you had nothing to do with it.
Don't be the source
of it. You can say something
like, well hopefully his voice goes out
so you won't have to hear him for three
days. Hey by the way I hear the way to
cure stress is by drinking so where are
we going to go drink later? Something
like that. You empathize and
diffuse it into a better situation. Guys, there
you go.
Use those tips, think about those the
next time that you're texting a girl.
And if you want more tips from Mr.
Robbie over here, I want you to go to
www.youtube.com/vipattraction. If I
got that wrong for some reason, we'll put
the right link in the description below.
Click that, check out his stuff. He has
great information more about texting and
David, thanks for being here man. Thank you.
