ALPHA Body Language Tricks
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Quick question. When you see somebody when
you acknowledge somebody, do you nod up or
do you nod down? Which one do you do? Does
it really matter? The answer is yes because
one is a power move, the other one is a sign
of submission.
So when you nod down, this is a sign of submission
of compliance. It shows that you view the
person you're engaging with as higher level
than you. We see this throughout history throughout
cultures where people would actually be in
the presence maybe of royalty of a noble person
and they would genuflect, they would bow,
they would lower their heads.
The upper nod on the other hand is much more
powerful. It's casual, it simply sends the
signal I acknowledge you as a peer as another
human being.
Now, what about confidence? Well, for me,
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The next alpha male body trick, maintain the
right amount of eye contact. So, this is based
off a 2012 study coming out of Michigan State
University. They found that when you're speaking,
50% of the time you want to maintain eye contact.
When you're listening, 70% of the time you
want to maintain eye contact. Because if you
go really low let's say 5% to 10%, people
are going to think that you're hiding something,
they're going to find you less likely to believe
whatever it is you're saying. If you go really
high, 95% a 100% eye contact, people are going
to feel you're overpowering overbearing.
Now, how does this work? Let's get into the
specifics. So, when you walk into a room,
if you're going to engage someone in conversation,
you want to make eye contact as soon as possible.
Once you've made that eye contact and you
start the conversation, you want to maintain
the eye contact for about 3 to 5 seconds,
probably erring on the high side.
I do recommend, if you're going to err on
any side, try to make more eye contact than
you think you need to because I would much
rather be viewed as an intense person thans
someone that they can't trust. And that's
what you're looking to do is to make this
natural.
Now, depending on your country your culture,
this could change up. And, guys, I'd love
to hear down in the comments where you're
watching this video from and what the rules
are in your culture when it comes to eye contact.
Now, what about when it comes to the ladies,
what can we learn from alpha males when it
comes to eye contact?
First up, don't break the eye contact. I've
done this whenever you see a beautiful woman
and you're intimidated, and what do you do?
You look down. How to get over this fear?
You need to practice making eye contact with
everyone. Then, whenever you make eye contact
with her you're going to be able to maintain
it.
And this is what alphas do. They maintain
it for two solid seconds. That may sound incredibly
short, but that is a long time for a lot of
guys who have never done this. Because you
maintain that eye contact and you show the
interest, you also can maybe move your head,
but maintain the eye contact and then end
it with a smile.
And speaking of smiles, alpha males know how
to leverage their power. Now, here's the thing
about smiles. There's research out there that
says you shouldn't smile much that women find
a solemn man more attractive. There's also
research that says you should smile a lot
more because it makes you happy on the inside,
therefore you're more attractive.
What I'm going to say is smile, but strategically
smile. Know when to give it, know when someone
is looking at you. You made that eye contact,
then use the smile to disarm because that's
what a smile does. Whenever you make eye contact,
yeah, you can just nod or you can nod with
a smile. You can pass on the happiness that
is in your face.
It's natural. We've done this since kids.
Whenever we see somebody else smile, we smile.
And what happens whenever we smile? We feel
better, so you can pass on that feeling that
good feeling and that's a good thing to pass
on and alpha males know this.
The next alpha male body trick to steal is
to freeze. No, I'm not talking about stopping
everything, but don't move around the room,
instead let people come to you.
Now, you can strategically do this. When you
walk into a room, you can choose a location
you can choose the area in which people will
naturally come to you and you won't have to
move. But, what you want to avoid here is
being that butterfly that jumps around and
is trying to engage with everyone.
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And, yes, you may feel I talked to a lot of
people, but are you actually sending off a
signal of strength? No, you're not. So, you
want to slow things down. And, speaking of
slowing things down, yes, you want to take
your sweet time. You want to be slow and deliberate
in your movement. You don't want to be jittery,
you don't want to be jumping all over the
place.
So, this point is coming out of a 2018 study
coming out of the Journal of Social Cognitive
and Effective Neuroscience. So, in this study,
they looked at people's gestures and body
movements and they saw were those indicators
of a person's mental state, how do people
see others when it comes down to if they move.
If they're really nervous, if they move around,
what would you think of that person? Something
is going on with that person's mind and that's
exactly what they found. When someone didn't
move around, when someone looked calm, we
assumed their mental state was one of being
calm of being in control. And that's what
you want to go for as an alpha.
To make this a little bit more clear, let
me use an analogy from nature. We've got the
hummingbird versus the hawk. Now, the hummingbird
bounces around very nervous like always moving
very jittery. And that's what we're going
to perceive it's mental state, if it has a
mental state. Versus a hawk, sits on top of
a tree, looks around doesn't move much, but
when it spots something it wants, it goes
right for it.
The point, alphas aren't jittery or reactionary.
They may look slow, but that's simply because
they're looking at everything around them
and when they need to take action, they are
deliberate and they take it quickly.
Next up, let's talk body language. So, when
an alpha walks into a room, what he doesn't
do is try to hide in the corner. He doesn't
go in there and just make himself smaller.
No! He walks in and feels, “Hey, I own this
place. I'm going to find a place to sit. I
am going to be open. I'm going to be relaxed
and I'm going to take up a good amount of
space,” because he walks in like he owns
the place.
And, yes, you got to pay attention to manners,
you need to pay attention to other people.
But, if you can go in there and actually be
relaxed, that right there sends the signal
that you are in charge, or at least you are
confident and you know what's going on.
So, what to do with these? What to do with
your hands? I'll tell you what an alpha does
not do, he doesn't put his hands in his pockets.
Because when you put your hands in your pockets,
people trust you less. That right there for
some reason it's just we need to see people's
hands. As every sergeant major in the Marine
Corps can tell you whenever you put your hands
in the pockets, somewhere in some foreign
country a kitten dies. So, you don't want
to be doing that guys and a way to break the
habit just simply carrying a pen in your hands
especially when you're around other people.
You can switch it to the other simply do that
fist bump or the elbow bump whatever people
are doing nowadays. Point being is find a
way to break that habit because it sends the
wrong signal.
Now, what about watches? Do watches matter?
And I know some people say that 98% of people
do not even notice that you're wearing a watch.
I would agree with that. But here's the thing
that 2% who do notice watches, they are oftentimes
in the hiring decision. They are the gatekeepers
to where you want to go.
So, I'm going to say, yeah, a watch matters
especially if you're 55 years old, you're
looking for a job in the tech industry and
you want to show, hey, yeah, I've got the
latest Apple watch, I understand technology.
Or if you're a young business owner and you
want to have a little bit of flash or if you're
going into a company that's very conservative,
but you know that the people making decisions,
they're into watches. You want to go with
something that's classic something that's
been around.
And, guys, you don't have to spend a whole
lot of money. Some great options out there
whether you go Seiko, Orient. Point being
is watches do send signals and understand
what they are and leverage them to your advantage.
Now, what about your walk? Do you have a power
walk? Do you walk with confidence? Well, guys,
find out how to walk like a man in this video
right here. I had a lot of fun with it. Made
it a while back. It's a good one and I think
you'll enjoy to learn the tips and tricks
of how to walk, yeah, like a man.
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