Welcome back to the Six Figure
Mastermind, Marianne DeNovelis right here
for you. Hands on hips. What does it mean in body language? What does it mean
for your business? What is this
whole hands on hip thing? There's so much
to body language. So stay tuned. I'm going
to tell you all about it.
You and I both know that body language
plays a huge role in communication.
In fact, it's 93% nonverbal and 7% in
verbal when it comes to by the language.
So that 93% is showing up right here. So
let's talk about what the hands on hips
mean. Because it can be a myriad of
different things depending on how
they're situated okay? So, we're going to
go through some specific examples of
different positions, different hand
movements and we'll analyze each one and
share with you what they all mean. So
first things first. Let's just go with
the simple straightforward hands on the
hips in body language. Now, most of the
time the hands are right here on the hip
line. Typically, this is done to enlarge
your space in the other person's
perception. Now, in the animal kingdom, you
think about small animals when they want
to protect themselves. You know think of
the peacock for example. The peacock uses
its fan to make itself appear bigger. A
cat for example, will arch its back to
make itself appear bigger and more scary
to the person or the animal or the
predator across from them. It's an
intimidation factor. So when people are
putting their hands on their hips like
this, it can be a sign that they're
wanting to appear bigger in your
perception. So that they have a position
of authority. Now, we take our hands and
we've just pried them a little bit up
like this. This means something totally
different especially if you're a woman
like me. So, this means I want to take up
as much space as possible in a position
of authority. This right here means I
want to appear smaller to you. Because
oftentimes when you put our hands at our
true waistline, not at our hip line. We
are wanting to emphasize that our waist
is smaller than it appears, okay?
Especially when we have our fingers out
toward the middle and our elbows kind of
tend to sag back a little bit. So we are
trying attention to the smallness of the
waist line. Which sometimes can be a
flirtatious technique. Sometimes it can
be an enticing technique. Something that
draws people in. You want to be more
attractive to whatever that situation is
whether it even be a professional
relationship where you're trying to
attract a good professional relationship
or you're trying to attract in a dating
relationship. That's what that can mean.
Now watch
what happens if I take my hands and I
turn them around. What just happened?
Did you notice that? Did you feel it? If I
took my hands from here and just turned
them around, now I'm back into a position
of authority because I've got my hands
in fight mode, okay? Their fists right
here on my waist. So I am taking
my arms, I'm making my space as big as
possible and then I'm taking these
little fists right here and saying not
only am I in a position of authority but
I am stronger than whatever is in front
of me, right? So, if you see someone with
their hands out like this and there are
fists are made up in bunches by their
waist, just get a clue that they are
trying to have some kind of control over
the situation. Maybe they're feeling
intimidated in some way. They are trying
to fight back with that body language.
Now watch what happens if I shift my
weight in my legs,
okay? I'm going to shift my weight and put
my weight on the back leg and put my
hands right back down here on my hips
again. See the difference? I start out
here and we go to here. This is a very
space taking technique like we talked
about before. But if I suddenly pop my
knee forward and I tilt my hips just a
little bit, I've gone from a domineering
body language position to a bit of a
flirtatious body language position.
This is a more open position that when
you're confronted with the person
one-on-one and it's squared up shoulder to
the shoulder, it's almost like, "come at me
bro.Like I got I got this." I'm going to take
you down." Right? But if I open the body
just a little bit by putting that knee
forward, you watch what happens to the
shoulders. One naturally goes back. Which
means, "hey, I'm willing to face you in
confidence but I am not confronting you.
I'm not putting up a wall and not being
confrontational with you. I'm willing to
be open to your ideas and also let
anything that's negative from you
deflect past me, okay? So, it's a little
bit of a more open body language now.
I've got the right hip forward which all
we know is the future, right? And if I do
it to the left hip forward, it says
something different, okay? It says a
little bit different of energy of left
forward is the past. Right forward is the
future, okay? So, maybe left forward could
be you know I have a history with you. I
have a pass with you,  we have
a connection or a chemistry. Let's look
at this. Right foot forward could mean
wow I would really like to work with you
in the future. I have seen us going places
together, okay?
So left and right, past and future. Even
those subtle little things can make a
big difference. Keep in mind whenever you
see your hand on the hips. Pay attention
to what the hands are doing. Maybe hands
on hips sometimes can be in the pockets.
This can mean that they are
uncomfortable in some way or that they
have something to hide.
Now even down to the subtle which
fingers are in the pockets. This usually
means that I'm uncomfortable in the
situation. I'm not quite sure what to do
with my hands. I'm going to hide a little
bit of that. Now, watch what happens when
I put my thumb in my pockets. Totally
different, right? A totally different feel
from this to just this. The thumbs can
often signify our sense of self-worth in
the past and our sense of self-worth in
the future. When we stick our thumbs in
our pockets, we are hiding ourselves not
just hiding something from the first one
in front of us. Sometimes, it can be you
know a way to show confidence by if you
can't see me then you must think I'm
cooler than I am. Which is why a lot of
people will stand with their thumbs in
their pockets, right? I'm hiding my past.
I'm hiding my future. So you can't see
what I don't want you to see. That's a
really very subtle but very powerful
change when it comes to hand positions
with the hands on the hips. So this
hands on the hips, they can range from
anywhere from way up here at the waist
or way down here in the pockets. They all
mean different things and if you want to
really study this, put this video on
pause at those different moments and
they see what you're feeling, see what
you're interpreting. In fact, write it
down in the comments of while you
have your hand on your hips, what does
that mean? What do you feel as a
viewer? Because you are more intuitive
than you think you know when it comes to
body language and you have the ability
to read in between the lines. What I am
going to say is be very, very intentional
with what you do. That the key to
throwing away your ability to read body
language is to talk about someone's body
language in front of them. Your job as an
intelligent body language viewer is to
see the information and say, "how can I
best use this to benefit this situation?"
That's a responsible way to use it. So
keep watching. We're going to give you
more body language tips and we'll talk
to you soon, okay? So, now you have
the key kind of fine points of whatever
body language means and it really gets
my new doesn't it? Gets down to that
millimeter adjustment. So we're going to do
a lot more body language videos right
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thing. I'll see you tomorrow.
