 
...for the first time!
 
It’s not fair!
- I know!
- Yeah!
 
Hi!
What are you guys
doing here?
Waiting for Arun.
What are you doing here?
Same. He sent me
this weird text
saying he has
something to tell me.
 
We got it too!
Do you guys know
what it’s about?
Yeah! We think he might be
ready to come out.
Oh my God!
That’s great!
 
How do you know?
We’ve both been there.
We know the signs.
 
What are the signs?
He’s been very nervous
and twitchy lately.
 
Have you noticed?
And he sweats
while he eats.
That’s not a sign
of coming out,
just something
I noticed about Arun.
Well, what do we do
when he tells us?
 
Listen to him.
 
Okay? Be there for him.
 
Support him.
 
Here he comes!
 
Hi everyone! Uh...
 
Thanks for coming.
Yeah, of course!
We are all here for you.
It’s not a funeral.
Settle down.
There’s no easy way
to say this,
so I’m just going
to come out.
 
I’m a virgin.
 
And...?
 
No, that’s it.
 
I’m a virgin.
 
We thought, uh...
We thought you were going
to tell us you were gay.
 
I wish!
I wouldn’t be
embarrassed about that!
But why would you be embarrassed
about being a virgin?
 
Who’s a virgin anymore?
 
Uh... me!
- Really?
- Yeah!
I mean, I’ve done some stuff,
but not all the stuff.
You aren’t
embarrassed about it?
 
No, I’m excited!
I still get to have
my first time.
 
Yeah, I’m kind of jealous.
 
Same.
Is there anything else
you’d want to talk about?
 
School? Family?
 
Sweating while eating, maybe?
 
What’s he talking about?
 
Let’s, uh...
Let’s have a little talk.
Okay?
Does eating
make you nervous?
The concept of virginity
usually refers
to the state of a person
who has never had sex.
Historically, the idea
of ​​virginity
was based on a desire
to control women.
Their first
sexual relationship
had to be with
their husband, period.
Strangely, for men, the rules
of the game weren’t the same.
Things have changed,
but being a virgin, or not,
can still provoke negative reactions
for people of all genders.
Yet virginity,
or non-virginity,
should not affect
a person’s worth.
Having said that, how do you know
if someone’s a virgin? 
For women, we often hear
about their hymen tearing
during first penetration,
and the bleeding it can cause.
Well, it’s a mistake to think
that blood and pain
 
are “proof” of a “first time”.
 
Some feel little or no pain
during the first time
they experience penetration,
 
some bleed and some don’t.
 
It all depends on the person.
Note: the hymen is
a thin skin membrane
that partially closes
the entrance of the vagina.
It may be more
or less apparent
and may already
have been torn naturally.
Similarly, it’s impossible
to determine if a man is a virgin. 
Today, “losing one’s virginity”
is an expression 
that has been replaced by
“being sexually active”. 
What does being
sexually active mean?
Well, the answer varies
from person to person.
Some consider themselves
sexually active
 
after kissing someone,
 
others after penetration,
 
oral sex,
 
or any physical intimacy.
In short,
“being sexually active”
means whatever
you want it to mean
and it’s up to you to decide
when the time is right.
You don’t lose your virginity,
you gain something.
I think the notion
of virginity
does apply
to guys and girls.
 
I mean...
I don’t see why it would
just apply to one gender.
The term is mostly attributed
to female, I find.
 
I believe that in our society,
being a virgin is perceived
as you being rigid.
I don’t personally think
there’s right or wrong.
It’s not what people think when
you say you lose your virginity.
They think of actual
penetration, and... you know.
They don’t really think
about oral sex.
They really think about
the actual aspect of it.
I think that once
you’ve reached penetration,
 
you’re not a virgin anymore.
I think virginity is a concept
that we created, and it’s...
It’s not as important
as we make it out to be.
But it’s also very important
in someone’s life, obviously.
Most people I know have had
their first experiences.
It does kind of stress me out,
but I know that...
It’s gonna happen
eventually, and I’m not...
I’m not a lost hope,
in reality.
I think everybody goes through
that phase of virginity.
We all start there,
anyways.
I don’t personally think
it’s embarrassing,
but there is this toxic
masculinity
that can put a negative attribute
to being a virgin for boys.
That environment in the locker room
and places like that,
you can definitely see
a lot of...
A lot of pressure
to lose your virginity.
I lost my virginity personally
when I was 15.
 
So I was pretty young.
I was one of the first
amongst my girl friends,
 
amongst my guy friends...
So it was not something
I had to worry about,
because I was fortunate enough
to lose it early, and not be:
 
“Am I running late on this?”
I was an early bird,
I guess.
If you’re still a virgin,
there’s not a year,
a specific age that you should
lose your virginity.
I guess it’s
when you’re ready.
 
Sexuality is so open now,
I think people talk
a lot more about it, so...
People that save themselves
for marriage are rare,
 
but they still exist.
 
I think there is real value
in saving yourself
until marriage.
I do think that’s
something that is...
That we’re losing
in today’s culture.
And I know that might
sound odd to a lot of people,
 
but honestly, that’s just...
That’s what I believe, and...
I hope that you think the same.
To me, I’m free to believe
what I believe,
you can believe
what you believe.
 
It’s very personal.
Some people might think
virginity is not a big deal,
and some people might think
that you need to wait
until you’re with
the right person.
I didn’t change
from being a virgin
 
to not being a virgin.
