Hello lovelies, welcome back to my channel
first of all, I would like to say thank you to all who were participating in the giveaway competition
I definitely will do more of a giveaway in the future where I can select more than one winner
I am doing this video because I have asked people on Twitter and Instagram to ask if
they are interested to learn about etiquettes so they were very interested!
It's because I've taken online classes about etiquette a few months ago
I have learned so much from the class
There are so much depth things that I did not know
I also have learned things from online, books, blogs, Youtube etc
before I begin to share, please know that I am not someone who thinks I'm the most elegant lady
I'm very aware that I am not perfect - I am still learning and practising
I believe that everyone can interpret elegance in different ways
Elegance is a state of mind -
you couldn't act and pretend like one
You have to think about how to carry yourself with gracefulness and elegance
Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly are a great example of the ladies with elegance
both of them are my role model and they have a good sense of elegance without trying too hard
Anyways, when I took etiquette classes, it's mostly focusing on how to behave when you are surrounding by people from upper class
Such as the Royal Family, people from the elite family or business people
but it is useful for learning how to behave like a lady with elegance 
for me, elegance is about the inner, kindness and respect
if you treat your inner with peace, kindness and respect
then you shall treat others the same 
Also, elegance is about how do you represent yourself 
especially the appearance 
Not going to lie, the people's first impression of you would be based on how they see you and they will decide on how to treat you
however, I personally do not think the appearance is too important
just as long as you get to treat yourself in a good way
if you treat yourself well, you can blossom into the most beautiful person
by that way, you could get a nice smile, shiny eyes and healthy-looking
as Audrey said, happiest girls are the prettiest
So there are so many tips I could share 
but I do want to go on and on to the point to make a long video
so, I will brief the tips for today
There are going to be three categories:
People think the order to be elegant is having the luxury lifestyle 
but it's not always the case
I've seen the people with wealthy...do not have good manners, to be honest
you know there are people who do not have loads
but they could be the most elegant people you've met
Lifestyle is about living in a good environment where you can get peace inner and good mental stability 
so for that, you should be productivity,, positive and provide peace in your every day's life
The good lifestyle is having a healthy body, mind and home environment so you can grow into a better version of yourself
You could wake up early and read the book with positive affirmations to start your day
You should look after your body by exercising and eating well as you can become a glowing delighted person!
Make sure your home is tidy and nice decoring - it definitely will help you to feel better about yourself 
You could buy yourself a bouquet of flowers for your lovely home - they're Chanel's nature!
I think it's important to practice your behaviour, attitude and postures at home
so that you can represent yourself better at public
Also, you can have respect for yourself and break the bad habits
Always practising kindness as well
I know some people could be so difficult 
but the best way to deal with them is 
be kind, understanding and graceful as possible
kindness is what makes you shining the most!
Choose quality over quantity
You might think that a lot of friends are the best for you but how would you know if all of them are stay true to you?
I personally think it's better to have a small circle of friends whom you can trust,
 can be loyal to you
and make your soul happy
Also, they should be the one who can accept you for who you are
and be happy with you
that's a quality
(another example) I choose my clothes carefully
as I prefer to have few clothes that are in high quality
and longevity 
than having many clothes that are in...
the poor condition and not longevity 
Try to pursue a new hobby
for learning new skills, improving your intellectual and keep yourself productive
Dress nicely at home
you honestly don't have to do that
but for me, I like to dress nicely and grooming myself at home 
because it makes me feel better and has a better outlook on life
Next category is:
I will be talking about two things:
Honestly, you can always wear how you like and it's okay to choose to wear something to make you feel comfortable
However, elegant ladies tend to wear very nice outfits, in whatever style, chic Parisian, feminine or romantic
for me, I like to keep myself look feminine, romantic and modesty 
I love to wear light colours pieces 
which I believe that I look and feel the best
I personally feel less elegant when I wear something that shows too much skin and too much cleavage 
It's just my personal option
for example...
when you are going to a date
and you are wearing a fitting dress and show a lot of cleavage
whilst you're meeting someone
and then, the date might focus on your cleavage
than learning about who are you as a person
(PS. I do not expect you to dress like a nun though! Some people could be so shallow)
They probably would be thinking about taking you in their bed
Some people won't use their chance to get to know you as a person
Please know that I am not throwing shade or being judgement towards anyone who would like to wear like that
Again, it's just my opinion
I mean, I mean I do think women look amazing in clothes that are fitting and showing cleavage 
The most important thing is you can wear whatever makes you feel confident 
I think fashion is about expressing yourself as a person
it's whether boho, chic, feminine and so on
just make sure you know how to dress well yourself 
as long as it makes you feel confident, comfortable and...the best
Also, fashion could represent your lifestyle, interests, job and such 
so fashion can be express in many different ways ~
If you would like to know how to dress classy,
I have tips for you:
1. Wear items made of good quality of fabrics
2. Make sure the items fit correctly
3. Don't overexpose
4. Don't go overboard with accessories
5. You do not have to spend a lot of money to dress classy
6. Pay attention to details
Now, its make-up and hair
Like I said, appearance is not too important but the people will have the first impression is based on your appearance 
however, you can maintain your appearance how you like
I encourage you to look after your appearance so it can make you feel better about yourself
so according to my research, most of the elegant ladies wear natural and light make-up
which mean that they do not wear heavy make-up that makes them appear to look too different from their natural look
While I understand that most of us wear make-up to make ourselves feel good,
hiding our flaws or expressing the artistry 
however, I personally feel that simple and natural look is the best suitable for elegance
If you can see Audrey's and Grace's make-up, they do not usually wear bold and overtop make-up
I think natural make-up brings the best features out and enhance your natural beauty
Please know that I have no against anyone who likes to wear a lot of and heavy make-up
It's just my research and view on...make-up in elegance
For hair, the natural and healthy-looking hair is probably the best option
so I encourage you to maintain healthy hair
However, I know it's not simple for everyone include myself
I have a curly and kinky hair
but it's so difficult for me to maintain for every day's look
so I am wearing hair extensions and closure 
to letting my hair be protected and grow healthier and stronger
because my natural hair is so sensitive and easy to break
when I am wearing hair extensions, I love to wear it with curls
because this style makes me feel the best and I think I look good with curls
I advise you to look after your hair well by
eating well, exercise regularly, drink a lot of water
and sleeping well
As I said,  when you maintain your inner will create good outer
Try not to use dye and bleach a lot
If you would like to make a big change for your hair,
I strongly advise you to get it done professionally at the hairdressing salon
They shall provide you with information about which hairstyle is suitable for you
include the haircut and colourings
they also provide safe ways to do your hair without damage it
and would share the information with you about how to do your hair in a healthier way
I will show the photos for the examples
these are hairstyles that I think look the most elegant
I also will share the hair tips:
1. Make sure the hair is tidy and fit your face frame
2. Try to exploring varied hairstyle until you find the ones you like and feel the best 
3. When you are going out, please bring a small brush in your handbag just in case
especially the windy day! You could go to the public bathroom and fix your hair by brushing 
I actually have one, these are the example
They are always in my bag
because my hair get messy easily!
because England always have quite windy weather 
4. Investing the hair products that are suitable for your type of hair (and you can get recommendations from professionals!)
Overall, the tidy and healthy-looking hairstyles (in any forms) is probably the best ideal
Please know that you can do your hair whatever you like!
Do not forget: Keep your nails manicured
an elegant lady should be well-groomed!
So, the manner is the last category 
the manner is about how do you behave in front of the people
and have a respect for yourself
the first thing I will explain is the table manner
You SHOULD NOT:
- Eating with the mouth open
it's one of my biggest pet peeves, oh gosh
- Making noises; slurping, chewing loudly, burp etc.
- Talking and gesticulating while eating
Please don't!
- Elbows stuck out while you are eating, it might make you look like a flapping like a chicken
- Holding the fork and knife like a stabbing position
- Sniffing and hunching over the food, leave it to dogs to do that
- Using the phone in the table 
I am guilty for doing that all the time
I am definitely working on that!
It's not necessary to include the table manner
but if you're in public, please don't smack gum so long
so please be limited in your use as possible
When you are in someone's presence,
please...truly be with them
make sure you have eye contact with them
and give your attention to them
so it can make them feel like that you truly care about them 
- Do not complain.
It makes you across as....ungrateful
- Be kind with words about others.
If you are talking about someone behind their back,
say something good.
- Accept compliments gracefully.
- Give creative and thoughtful gifts.
It doesn't need to be so expensive
Also, you could send them a thank-you card
and they definitely will appreciate it 
- Keep your life private.
Have your own secret garden!
It's absolutely unnecessary to overshare your entire story with a complete stranger or people who you do not know too well
so it's best to be private, discretion is elegant
- Use your manner and be polite
so don't forget your thank-you's and please's
- Have your own signature scent to express your feminine essence 
- Speak carefully and thoughtfully.
There's nothing elegant about being loud and obnoxious in the public
- Please do not be the person who swears in every sentences
- Try not to lose your temper in public
Try to breathe and you can scream at home if you need
- Learn to love yourself.
Elegance and self-loathing do not mix
- Keep your sense of humour. 
never take yourself too seriously!
- Be responsible for your happiness.
do not put pressure on others for your happiness
and it's easier to do that by yourself
- Have a heart of gratitude.
There's always something to be thankful for, whether it's small or big
- Apologise from your bottom of the heart.
and...make sure it's warranted
The people are the most elegant when they can able to accept their own mistakes 
and shall not try to defend themselves so much
Like: "I haven't done wrong!" or "I do not think I am wrong" when they are actually in the wrong
which can make the situation more awkward and upsetting 
so it's better to say:
"I am sorry, I am wrong" and accept mistakes gracefully
I think it will make you a bigger person
- Make sure you know who you are 
learning about what you dislike and like
It's worth to create a relationship with yourself
It does not have to happen overnight
so take your time and spend time with yourself
so that you can start to accept and love the way you are
It's done ~
Hopefully, the tips and advice are useful
If you do not feel inelegant, please know that I have qualities of my life that I continue to practise 
This is NOT about perfection, it will never be an elegance
It's about awareness and simple change that you can absorb into your every day's life
Hope you beauties have an amazing week and God bless you ~
See you next time ~ bye!
