hi there I'm Adrienne Everehart your
feminine energy dating and relationship
coach and today I'm going to talk about
how to really instantly get a man
attracted to you and feeling really
addicted to you and feeling so good when
he's around you that you are the only
woman he wants to spend time with now
this works of course if you're in dating
or in a relationship or marriage so
stick around to the end because I have
an especially important topic about
something you need to know about men so
that he will stay addicted to you and
drawn to you for a good long while and
into the sunset together in this video I
want to share with you how to really get
a man addicted to you by addicted I mean
he is just feeling so wonderful and in
such a heightened powerful good manly
state that he just wants to stay there
and he wants to stay there in that place
because when he's with you you know he's
feeling so good about himself he's
feeling like he's the guy in the
relationship and maybe he's feeling the
most masculine and desired he ever has
so there are a lot of misconceptions
about what really makes a man feel these
sorts of feelings in my world before I
discovered my feminine energy and really
woke it back up and myself I was in a
world of if I do X if I do this if I'd
say this if I let him know how hot I am
for him you know if I make his perfect
dinner and if I dress perfect and I'm
perfect weight and everything he'll love
me and like me and want to be with me
and that's just not true it's just not
true
a lot of those things are what we think
will make a person really fall for us
and of course at one point in time I had
read a book about how to win friends and
influence people and a big thing in
there was just getting a person to talk
about themselves and just be
uh-huh-uh-huh
really interested and that doesn't
really work either I mean it does to
some degree I'm going to touch on that
but the thing I want to stress here is
that the first thing you want to do is
you want to authentic
be who you are authentically be who you
are I want you to dress in a way that
feels comfortable to you wear your hair
and your makeup in styles and in ways
that feel good to you now if you are
currently not happy with how you look or
how you dress or how you feel in your
body you can always seek support you can
seek support to see what else is out
there I mean you're watching this video
as a form of that you're kind of curious
about what can this woman teach me about
myself
so there's nothing wrong with you know
expanding a little bit outside of your
comfort zone to really discover
authentically who you are because the
truth is is that we change we're always
changing and evolving so the first place
you want to start at being comfortable
in your body comfortable in your skin
and knowing what your boundaries are as
a woman now why does this get a man
addicted to you because it's going to be
confidence that he sees and comfort a
man does not want a phony-baloney
cheerleader that's not what he wants he
wants a person who has her own dreams
her own desires her own boundaries knows
what she wants and has her own
personality and of course align this
with your feminine energy this is where
you really drive a man wild because you
are so so so unlike him and you have
desires and tendencies and dreams that
men just don't have and that's one of
the reasons men get so drawn to us is
that they're drawn in that feminine
energy world of dreams and things that
really appeal to us and feel good to us
they kind of get lost in that world
because otherwise they're in the
masculine energy world all day the next
thing I want to talk about is that you
want to show interest and whatever he
has to share and John Gottman who is
really a pioneer and the research for
relationships in marriage and what makes
marriage really last did a lot of
research in this area and found that
there's something called turning towards
your partner
and it's really just a way to say that
when your partner mentions something to
you you show some sort of interest in it
now let's say your partner is taking out
showing you a vintage train that you
really have no interest in well in that
moment you can observe it with them from
a place of just being very emotionally
connected and understanding this is
something that's important to your
partner and notice something good about
it so that's something I've had to do
because my husband had very different
music taste than I did but sure enough I
was just open to it and I could let him
you know make this bid for my attention
by sharing a certain song with me and I
could hear something in it I liked and
then we'd have something to talk about
in that moment that's what men really
really feel good about themselves in a
relationship and that's when they can
share something with you that's
important to them or interesting be it
science nature or the infrastructure at
their company whatever it may be and you
can really just be open to listening for
a little bit and finding something that
you can kind of connect with there
remember a relationship just isn't about
you and it's not just about him but it
is about occasionally you're gonna come
to him and say look at that little
squirrel out the window he looks like
he's having so much fun your husband
could care less what a squirrel is doing
outside of the window but if he stops
for a moment and looks and goes boy
isn't he cute you feel this little bit
of connection with him and so you're
doing the same thing and I want you to
authentically just really learn how to
get in touch with something you like
about the situation there's got to be
something there always is it could just
be quality time with your partner or
your husband and really watching him
enjoy something that can be something
you can connect with as well now the
next thing is I want you to be bold
enough to actually be able to tell him
what doesn't interest you and when you
are bored and I want you to at some time
say no to him and no is probably
something a lot of people don't do
enough of
and we often spend a lot of our time and
energy doing everything for other people
and not really knowing what we feel what
we want to do and a great aphrodisiac
for a relationship is really the ability
to say no and if a man really has a
problem with you saying no and not
having a little bit of like comfort in
just understanding what the know is
about well that can sometimes be an
alert to is this the type of person I
want to build a relationship with or is
there a problem in our relationship that
that no is somehow cutting off the
connection between us your boundary now
I'm gonna give you an example I don't
know if it's like the best example but I
once had a boyfriend call me up and say
hey I really just I don't want to go out
tonight I really just want to see this
afternoon movie with you what do you
think I really just want to go see a
movie and I let him know that I did not
like seeing movies while the Sun is
still up and out I wanted to be out and
I was really looking forward to tonight
but I didn't feel like going to a movie
in the afternoon and I didn't and this
really upset him and he then came to the
conclusion that we just could never
really figure out what we wanted to do
unless it was what I wanted to do now in
that moment I believe there's a little
bit of truth in everything and there's a
little bit of truth in what he's saying
and I knew that because I was very much
aware that I didn't want to step out of
my comfort zone to go see a movie in the
afternoon even though this was a
person's bid to spend time with me did I
have anything special planned that
afternoon not really but a day outside
in nature with my pets
is in a day away from that it's
sometimes tough for me to peel myself
from but I noticed it and I felt it and
I was like yeah you know I'm just
stopping this from happening because
it's not exactly what I want now I know
this is kind of a very minor example to
share with you but it really says a lot
about human nature
and especially when you're finding out
your boundaries and what really makes a
man wild and crazy about you is yes that
you have boundaries yes you can say no
but you also have some flexibility in
there to try something outside of your
comfort zone so there's gonna be
hard-nosed about certain things in your
life this is just not flexible on but
then there's also like yeah I could try
this I could do this and I could give it
a shot and let him know you're doing
exactly that
you know I normally don't like seeing a
movie in the daytime it always makes me
feel weird when I step out of the
theater but what the heck I'm gonna give
it a try today and let him know that I'm
gonna try it for you and just go and see
how the experience feels now this one is
so important you want to allow a man to
do for you and this is really tough for
a lot of women because we are so used to
making things happen for us in our
masculine energy you know we have done
so much for so long making things happen
in our world that we actually don't know
how to let go and let a man do for us
and we're worried that he's gonna think
we just want to take take take from him
or we're gonna appear lazy or some other
negative characteristic and this is one
of the reasons why if you can't I want
you to date lots of men because there
really is a comfortable place you get
where you can really allow a man to do
for you and at first it was really hard
for me I felt really and sometimes I
still do I feel really selfish but I see
how happy it makes my husband to do
things for me and when I come to him and
say oh honey you know you picked us up
lunch today and it feels so good to eat
together and I you know I I got so much
work down in my office and I really
appreciate that and I tell him how it
feels when he does these things for me I
can see him kind of puffing up a little
bit and feeling very proud about himself
so when you allow a man to do for you
and you're not acting like no one's ever
done anything for you ever but you're
able to just you know graciously accept
it like oh this feels so wonderful
you've laid out lunch for us
so much fun oh I feel so excited about
our plans for tonight it's so sweet that
you made plans you're able to just get
in touch with what you're feeling
letting him know that it brings you some
sort of happiness or joy or satisfaction
the guy is gonna want to do more for you
because he's now connecting that good
feeling he's having about himself he's
connecting it to lovely amazing you this
is how you get a man very very hooked on
you and make him feel miss addicted to
you because no other woman is getting
him like you do and he's feeling like a
man around you and he's having all these
other great experiences and you're not
always telling him yes and everything
doesn't always go you know you're a
little bit of curiosity for him so this
is this is a very important component to
attraction is that curiosity and letting
that man feel like he doesn't exactly
ever really know you but he does always
know that you're open and you're honest
and you're warm with him but that the
relationship is constantly unfolding so
this last tip I want to share with you
it's so important to all of you ladies
especially those of you that are in a
troubled relationship and you really
want to rebuild things with your partner
and one of the biggest things that you
want to understand and that men and
women we really are just different
we each have masculine and feminine
energy this is true but ultimately we
have one hormone or another hormone
dominating what's going on inside of our
bodies and there's something really
important you should know about men and
emotion is that they just are not going
to be emotionally how a girlfriend would
respond to you how your mother would
respond to you or a very very close
friend of yours would respond to you men
process emotion differently than women
men can get flooded with cortisol and
endorphins
a lot more quickly than women do and
this is science this is actually proven
that a man just processes a mo
differently and when a man gets flooded
with so much emotion they go into fix-it
mode they go into solve it right now
mode whereas women we kind of can do
things a little differently don't get me
wrong we can get into solve at mode two
but this is why you sometimes see a man
make a very snap need your decision and
you know do something
I was once in line at the mail letter
drop-off, you know where everybody lines
up at the post office and everyone is
dropping a letter off, and a guy friend
of mine who's otherwise calm cool and
collected he felt the line was moving
too slow and got out of the car slammed
the door took the letter, stood in front
of someone's card put it in (the slot) and  jumped back
in the car with me and we drove away, and
later he said to me he goes I really
reacted too big then I don't know what
happened to me but this is what happens
to men they get flooded and they
actually burn off cortisol the stress
hormone a lot more slowly than we do so
one of my best pieces of advice to
really make a man feel wonderful when
he's around you let him feel addicted
when he is around you you just
understand been process emotion
differently than we do peel off all the
expectation and all the desire that he's
going to run like one of your
girlfriends are a very good friend or
therapist he won't he probably never
will he's going to respond the way that
his instinct is telling him to respond
now with time with boundaries by
focusing on the good when you focus on
the good and what is working you get
more of it when you can practice some of
these really positive feminine energy
tools you'll notice that your man
becomes a little more receptive to
possibly reading a self-help book on
communicating in a relationship or just
listening to you and observing how you
communicate and you leading by example
now how does this get a man addicted to
you well you have to understand that
anger and any sort of aggression it
doesn't
feel good to a man I mean there can be
some elements of anger that kind of
gives someone a high for a second but
ultimately a guy sometimes ends up
feeling like a big jerk after he's
behavior really angrily or if he's been
flooded with emotion and just has to
shut a door and be alone for 20 minutes
they they're not feeling good about this
they're not feeling happy and proud
about this in a lot of cases so when you
can just let him be a man and let him
behave the way he needs to but have your
boundaries in place you know things like
this I don't want to get you know too
extreme here but you can kind of give
him that space to be who he is and
process that's gonna mean so much to him
just giving him time and space and that
he doesn't have to behave
you know this exceptionally perfect way
and always give you the right responses
all the time he can just kind of be who
he is because you will no doubt have
days and moments that most women do
where we get a little out of ourselves
we lose ourselves for a little bit get
really emotional get really uptight
we might vent about it and then the guy
we expect him to kind of understand what
we're going through in those moments
it's gonna happen with a man too
he's gonna do it as well most of all you
want to have a healthy balance in a
relationship but you want to let a
person be who they are they're either
not right for you they can either learn
some you know each of you can learn some
ways to make things like a little more
peaceful and amicable or not and that's
the beautiful thing about being in your
feminine energy is that you're aware of
what you are feeling not so much I want
to change this person to be what it is I
need them to be which is boy energy and
action all right everybody I hope these
tips have been helpful I know it's a lot
to digest and think about so if you want
some supplemental material I really
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dating for relationships I have a film
relationship and marriage course that
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