welcome to lesson 6 of the beefriend
course in our previous lesson we talked
about the three reasons why learning and
paying attention to body language is so
important in today's lesson I'm gonna
show you the three body language signs
you need to use in all of your future
interactions these three so-called
friend signals are the three most
powerful signs if used correctly will
make others like you a lot more upon
meeting you and also make you seem like
a much more approachable and trustworthy
person so let's get started we're gonna
start off with the one sign out of these
three that you probably already know
which is the smile smiling is the most
powerful friend signal and this is for a
very good reason see when we smile our
brain actually releases endorphins which
are chemicals that make us feel good and
what's interesting is that people who
see your smile will also release
endorphins in their brains so when
you're genuinely smiling during a
conversation both you and whoever you're
interacting with will feel good but we
have to pay close attention to the word
genuine see the truth of the matter is
there are many moments in our lives
where we force ourselves to smile during
awkward conversations working retail
with mean customers and dealing with
terrible bosses we often put on a fake
smile to pretend that everything is
a-okay but the problem is it's pretty
easy to tell the difference between a
fake smile and a genuine one if you
smile incorrectly the fake way people
will think you are faking your emotions
and they will have a hard time trusting
you it's gonna have the opposite effect
of what you want so it's very important
that you learn how to create a genuine
smile on command correctly a genuine
smile looks something like this when
someone is truly happy and they smile
bags will appear under their eyes their
cheeks will raise very high and slight
wrinkles called crow's feet will appear
on the edge of their eyes the best way
to practice this is by paying attention
to the next time you're actually having
a good time when you're actually smiling
or laughing because you feel great pay
attention to how your face feels and
then practice it on your own at home in
front of a mirror it takes some practice
but you'll eventually be able to pull it
off and the crazy thing is when you
learn how to create a genuine smile on
command you will actually feel better in
your interactions with others which
makes you seem like an even more fun
person to be around
second friend signal is what's called
the eyebrow flash this is when you raise
and drop your eyebrows very very quickly
in fact you can practice this right now
by raising and lowering your eyebrows as
fast as you can just like this if you
sit down and watch people in a crowded
area you'll notice that almost all close
friends who are meeting up will use it
upon seeing each other it's kind of a
way of saying hello so when you use it
with a complete stranger or an
acquaintance that you barely know it's
gonna make you appear a lot friendlier
because it's a body language sign that
we're accustomed to seeing our friends
use so how do we use the eyebrow flash
well it's best used from a distance at
least a couple of feet away let's say
you see someone across the room that
you'd like to talk to by using the
eyebrow flash combined with a bit of eye
contact and a genuine smile you'd be
telling them hey I'm a friendly person
and I like to talk to you now it's very
important to note that you have to do
this correctly if you do the eyebrow
flash incorrectly you're gonna come off
as a complete creep the most common
mistake that people make when using the
flash is that they hold their eyebrows
up for too long just like this another
common mistake is that they don't smile
if you use the eyebrow flash and just
stare at someone without smiling
you're gonna come off as a potential
threat so try not to do that alright so
let's move on to the final friend signal
which is the head tilt now the head tilt
is a powerful friend signal because of
what it implies see the arteries on the
side of our neck are some of the most
important arteries in our body so when
we humans and also other mammals feel
threatened we tend to tuck our neck in
in order to protect these sensitive
areas when you actively tilt your head
to the side you're actually exposing one
of the most vulnerable parts of your
body to the world which signals to
whoever you're interacting with that you
feel extremely comfortable relaxed and
at ease and remember like we mentioned
before when you do something like smile
and you feel a certain way whoever
you're interacting with will also feel a
little bit of that too so your feeling
of ease and comfort will transfer over
to whoever you're interacting with
people are going to think wow this
person is so relaxed around me that
makes me feel better
even though I just met him now how
exactly do we do the head tilt well it's
actually quite simple you want to make
sure that you're tilting your head just
a little bit not so much anywhere from
10 to 20 degrees if you tilt your head
so much
gonna look kind of weird you want to use
the head tilt when you're close to
someone like when you're sitting down at
a table or at the bar
it is especially powerful when someone
else is talking and you're listening to
them as it will look like you are
extremely focused on whatever it is that
they're saying and people love a good
listener
now if you combine all three of these
powerful friend signals properly then it
should look something like this
and just to give you an idea of how
powerful this is let's compare it to the
same person doing none of these things
can you see the difference which one
would you want to talk to more these
three friends signals are extremely
important when it comes off to giving a
good first impression so make sure you
practice using them in all of your
future interactions if you do I
guarantee that you will see an
improvement in how people receive you in
our next lesson we're gonna talk about
body language signs you want to avoid
you just learned about what signals will
make you become more likeable but there
are also signals out there that you need
to avoid like the plague signals that
will make you unlikable so make sure you
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