Hi everyone and welcome back to my channel today, I wanted to talk about something a little bit different because I have been seeing a
Lot of talk about this on YouTube and in blogs and a lot of times. I feel like the advice given
While it may work for that particular youtuber or blogger
It's just not
Accessible for everyone so I wanted to give you 5 self-care tip that are
100% free and that will keep you on the right track not necessarily cure your depression because in a lot of cases
That is just something that you're gonna have to deal with on and off throughout your life
But these are things that will help you move in the right direction
I want to go ahead and get this out there. I am NOT a doctor alright
I can't say whether or not you have depression
And I'm not here to tell you that you need to seek counseling for depression
But if you are concerned with your mood if you are
Finding yourself self harming not just in physical ways
But in emotional ways or even in just pushing the people that you love away from you
Then you might want to go talk to somebody about that and the other thing that I want to mention is
A lot of people have also been kind of circulating this meme that says
It's like a picture of a pill bottle and it says
this won't cure your depression, and then it's a picture of like outside of nature and
Under that part it says this well if you rely on medication to regulate your brain chemistry
and that is 100% ok if
Someone has multiple sclerosis or cancer or any other number of diseases you wouldn't tell them not to take their medicine
So I want you to remember when you start hearing things like that from people like oh, just take a yoga class
Oh, just go in the ocean
And oh just take a hike through a forest like these are people who have never dealt with depression
So they don't understand what they're saying is actually making you feel guilty about taking the medication that you have to have
To be able to exist in your day, so I want to get this right out there. I am NOT anti medication
I think for some people it is an absolute need so number one
And I think what a lot of people overlook in their whole self care regimen is
Getting enough sleep and by this I mean not getting too much sleep and not getting too little sleep
so with depression there there are two types of people I find people who sleep all day or
People who can barely close their eyes because they're just so focused on their anxiety and the things that they're worried about
Make sure you're setting aside time for yourself to sleep a full eight nine ten hours
whatever you need to feel rested and that changes for everybody depending upon your age and depending upon your
Natural sleep cycles so choose whatever works for you
But make sure you're getting that eight hours
Now on the other hand if you sleep way too much when you're depressed give yourself that amount of time that you should be sleeping
And when that cutoff happened get up brush your teeth
You know sit up in bed do whatever you have to do
But don't allow yourself to just lay in bed because then you will sleep all day
So generally I'd say you know sit up in bed if you want to be in your bed if that makes you feel more comfortable
and grounded
Sit up in a chair and try to read a book if that helps you to any degree you know
Sit on your sofa and watch cat videos do what you got to do
But try to make sure you're not over sleeping because that will also contribute to your depression
Because when you oversleep you can feel just as crappy as when you understand so number one make sure you're getting enough sleep
number two and this kind of fits in to the people who
When they're depressed tend to stay in bed a lot and not really want to take care of themselves
Make sure in the morning you set aside five to ten minutes to do all the self-care stuff that you have to do
Take a quick shower
Brush your teeth brush your hair
You know put on a fresh set of clothing
And then if you feel like you really can't be awake and up any longer get back in bed
Do what you have to do for yourself?
But at least at that point when you get out of your depression you're not gonna have matted hair
You're not gonna have let yourself get so bad that
you feel like
You know this those feelings of like oh my god
I can't believe I did this to myself, but we all feel when we are coming out of our depression
And we see you know what we've been doing for the last
three four six months
So just make sure you're giving yourself that time to do
Everything that you feel you need to do just to maintain your like hygiene
Just get it all out of the way and sometimes I find that when I'm in depression sometimes just making myself do that much?
Makes me think okay. Well I'm gonna make breakfast now and then after ate breakfast. I say okay well
I need to unload the dishwasher, and then I unload the dishwasher
I see that the counter needs to be wiped down so I wipe down the counter and sometimes. It'll trick my brain into
Progressing through my day it might have been my 100% intention after I brushed my teeth and combed my hair
To get back in bed
So that's number two
Take care of your hygiene or anything that you need to do for your body in the first five to ten minutes of waking up
number three is to
Develop a routine that you know comforts you so give yourself 30 minutes if you can an hour
To do this routine and for me, that's often
Make a glass of tea or some coffee
Sit down
Look through cat videos. So that's just really my opportunity to come back to myself
to not have to think about anything that stresses me out or
Makes me anxious or makes me depressed
And it really gives me an opportunity to just have my little moment of peace so for you that might be you know
Taking a bath, and then you know getting out in your robe reading a book
Whatever that means to you, but the point is to do something that really makes you
Happy or at the very least content do something that is just for you
100 percent and make that your routine so you do that every single day
That's something that you can look forward to that's something that doesn't allow you to focus on your depression or on the things that make
You really stressed out number four is to call a friends now?
This is not always possible, and I know that I've had situations where I've moved to another city
And I didn't really have any friends, and I didn't know who to turn to
But even if you just call a friend. I promise you your friend wants to help you and in fact
It makes people feel good to help other people I know a lot of times people with depression myself included
You don't want to talk to anybody else because you're like my bullshit is my own
I don't want to force it on anybody else
I don't want friends to get sick of hearing about how depressed I am all the time
I'm just gonna keep it inside and when I do that I
Don't call anyone. I don't go out with anyone. I stay in my bed
I stay in my room, and I just watch videos and that is it that is all I do with my day
So it really takes away
your friends ability to be intimate with you to know you at a different level and
Unfortunately for us humans are deeper level is not always pretty and it's not always fun and it's not always
You know the life of the party
Sometimes it really is dark people love to feel needed love
Like if you feel like your friend comes to you
You know not just when they're happy
But when they need to vent when they need to talk as long as it's not you know a completely one-sided
Situation your friends is gonna want that she's gonna. He or she is gonna want to be there for you when you're having problems
Now the trick is to make sure you're not
Constantly going to them for help without asking them. Hey what's going on in your life like how are you doing?
Even if you feel like you're not able to listen to someone else's happiness
it's a
Responsibility that you then have to your friend to be with them through what's going on in their life
Even if what's going on in there?
Kind of makes you feel shitty about what's going on in yours so you have to be able to kind of
distance yourself from that reaction
Which is to just a you know I can be happy for my friend without feeling like
This makes me even more
Depressed because that's ridiculous your friend doesn't want to make you feel shitty about what's going on in your life
Just because she's having a good time right now, so just make sure that you're giving that back
And I find that a lot of times when people are depressed
Because they don't want to burden someone else with their shit
They tend to lose friends, and if your friends know what's going on with you
They're gonna understand when you don't make the phone calls or when you don't go out partying
And they'll probably want to check on you to make sure you're doing okay
It's number four talk to your friends five is meditate now
I know a lot of people do not like meditation, and it doesn't necessarily have to be like a
Mmm doesn't have to be that serious all you have to do is sit and try to quiet your brain so basically that means
Whenever a thought comes in your head. That's fine. That is not you failing at meditation
That's you having an opportunity to say I see you and I'm gonna let you go
And you know if it only makes you feel good in that time period of your meditation
Then that's that's fine
That's at least you know ten minutes more peace than you had the previous day as you continue meditation
You know if it works for you for some people it does not work for them. That's totally cool
This is just a suggestion once you continue meditating
And you kind of find your way into it you might find that you're able to let those
obsessive thoughts go a little bit easier in your everyday life, so that is the goal to be able to
See if that like I'm not worthy of this. I'm not good enough
You know I don't really have any friends to see those thoughts and to just say I'm gonna let you go
So that's number five meditation and then the last thing that I want to leave you with is
Just remember that even
Everything feels fucked up and like you can't do anything right and like nothing is ever gonna work out for you and then
You don't understand why you're on this er. It's just remember that literally everything is temporary so
This moment is temporary a year is temporary
You know even the happy things that we have can sometimes be temporary so you have to be able to separate yourself
Especially when there are sad things
with happy things you revel in it you take joy in it you say I'm so happy that I have this right now and
With the sad things you say okay, I get that I feel sad about this and I get that it feels overwhelming right now
but I won't feel like this forever and
Sometimes that will help you get through to the next hour to the next day to the next week and into a better life
But if you feel like things are too much, and you want to end it, please please please
Seek professional help. I know it seems scary and I know that in that moment you want nothing more than to stop the pain
But please please
Seek help
Even if it's just calling your friend and saying I'm not in a good place now
I'm scared of what I'm gonna do to myself. Please help me you are a beautiful person
And you deserve to be happy and sometimes that just means allowing other people in
So that they can help you to cope and to find balance in yourself
So I'm rooting for you for one, and I hope you're rooting for yourself, and I hope something that I said can help you
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