(energetic music)
- When your networking,
there's a lot of anxiety.
You want to come across always
as trustworthy and credible.
You want to move into that room
away from entrances, move into
that room, and take up space,
get yourself a drink in your hand, okay?
And place it at kinda naval height, here,
and as you talk gesture from this area.
This is gonna get you calm and assertive
and get you feeling strong and confident.
Get a drink in your hand and
gesture from that naval area.
When you're meeting with client,
it's very easy to go to some
of our support mechanisms,
the things that make us feel good,
and one of the things
that make us feel good
are these things here.
Why, because this one's mine.
When you're anxious, you're
liable to reach for this
and get involved in this.
And look, there's no bad
behaviors or body language,
but it maybe doesn't send a
great message to those clients
if it feels like you're more
engaged in something else
and not with them.
Here's something you can do with your kids
to help them be great communicators.
When you meet somebody, the handshake.
You want a firm handshake,
which really says, "Look, I'm vital,
"I'm alive, I'm here with you now,
"I'm very, very present,
"and I'm not ill, and I'm not dead."
Try and get them away from
getting into conversations
with their hands down by their sides,
get their hands elevated,
'cause that will get them excited
if they're up at chest area.
There's lots of trust and credibility
when they do open-palm
gestures at naval height.
I'm Mark Bowden,
and I'm an expert in human
behavior and body language.
