hello Channel NITT viewers i am DS and
welcome to another episode on channel
NITT
and in this episode we're going to
continue to talk about body language
so in one of our previous episodes we
shared with our viewers
the concept of personal space and how it
can be used
to your favor to interpret if a person
may be
interested in you at least at the
subconscious level
however before you get all excited this
episode is about something that you need
to take note of
before you jump into interpreting body language
so studies have shown that men
particularly
are prone to over interpreting body
language
and this is what we call the fundamental
attribution
error the fundamental attribution error
is the tendency for human beings to
attribute observed behaviors to
disposition
explanation instead of other possible
situational explanations
so for example a man is more likely
to think that a woman is interested
because the woman is
tilting forward while she is speaking to
him
however there could be other situational
explanations
such as maybe the woman is having some
back pain
so you may have read somewhere that when
a person is lying
he may not tend to maintain eye contact
well to an extent this is true however
not maintaining
eye contact is not a definite indicator
that someone is lying
somebody may be actually
thinking about something at home that is
bothering him
that is why he is not focused and
therefore
not maintaining a proper eye contact so
there might be a lot of situational
reasons
so as human beings we may tend to over
interpret
certain behaviors that we see and we
think that it is a sign of interest or
a sign of
dishonesty so the psychological term
used to explain this is called
fundamental attribution error
 
does that mean that trying to read body
language is not going to be productive
of course you can still take body
language
into consideration it is going to give
you a
huge advantage however you first have to
learn something
and this is very important it is called
baselining baselining
so what is baselining so before you
interpret anybody's
body language you have to first
establish the person's
baseline so some people are naturally
more touchy than other people they just
like to
touch you when they speak
that doesn't mean anything so you first
have to establish
a person's normal baseline
 
and a person will display his or her
normal baseline when they are relaxed
 
so what do you do before you assess a
person's
body language and try to interpret his
or her intention from there
first try to establish a baseline
so when this person is relaxed how often
does she gesticulate
how often does he or she lean forward
is the head tilted left or towards the
right
how often does she blink at you how
often
does he nod if it is also possible for
you to
observe this particular person in
communication with
other people then you will have much
more information to decide
so when a person is entirely totally
relaxed
what you can do is to observe the
person's head
when we are relaxed we may have a
tendency to lean forward
tilt left or right when we are listening
depending on what type of learner we are
some people are visual learners some
people are auditory learners
so all this will reflect in the body
language when one is relaxed
so it is very possible for a visual
learner to lean forward
because he or she needs to capture in
more visual stimuli
and for the auditory learner they might
tilt their head
because they need to listen to the
information that is being relayed
 
so besides looking at the head the next
place you need to look at when a person
is relaxed
is the chest
 
in this case of course you have to try
to look discreetly if this
is a new friend or an acquaintance
however if this person is your bosom
friend
oops however if this person is your
bosom friend
then just focus on the bosom
 
so for different people at their
baseline their
body may be upright it could be slightly
slumped
what about the shoulders so when looking
at the person's chest
taking note of their shoulders position
chest whether it's
in or out and the entire
posture
now the third thing to look at to
establish baseline is the person's
arms or limbs if you have it
so are they folded so some people just
like to fold their limbs
for some reason or another because they
might be cold
or they are defensive but it is just a
natural posture for them
so it does not mean anything only when
you start to talk to a person you have
established
at the baseline this person rarely folds
his arm however
you might have touched on something that
is sensitive and the person starts
folding his arms
then this might be an indicator that the
person may be
anxious or has become defensive
this is also why you need to establish
baseline right
so some people like to sit like this
some people like to
do this so just establish the baseline
first to see whether all sorts of
tendencies
may be normal so since we are talking
about tendencies i have a bonus for you
besides looking at the baseline from the
head
chest and arms point of view
you can also look at the person's habits
or tendencies some people like to bite
something when they are talking
some people like to tap their fingers
some people like to crack their knuckles
so some people just like to hear the
kakak sound when they crack their
knuckles right
so if this is part of the base line it
does not mean
anything so other forms of tendencies
could be
things like fidgeting trying to flick
their hair
or play with their hair or bite their
lips
if you want to call it a bad habit you
may call it a bad habit
but this is the particular signature of
that particular person
if this is what he or she prefers to do
even at baseline level
so when established a baseline you also
need to take note of certain possible
biases
that we may have when trying to
establish a baseline
so one such bias that we sometimes
ignore is
culture so in some cultures such as the
japanese culture
people tend to be more reserved and
polite
when communicating so their
body language may also be more reserved
and
restricted and that is their baseline
so you may be talking to a japanese
person and
it does not mean anything if he or she
appears to be
very cold and distant it is part of the
culture conversely you may meet somebody
who comes from a culture
where digging the nose in front of
others is perfectly fine
so if you see somebody digging his or
her nose in front of you
it may be because of their culture
because their culture accepts this
and thinks that it is normal it does not
mean that the person is so
comfortable in front of you likes you so
much as to demonstrate their behavior
right in front of you the second thing
that we need to take note of
when baselining is appearance
so sometimes appearance can be deceiving
and may mislead us so take for example
baby faces are usually very misleading
so if you see a person regardless of
gender
who owns a baby face you might also be
inclined
to type this person or interpret this
person
as a very innocent person
 
so this is an obvious bias and this is
also why
sometimes we get a shock when we hear
that some celebrities are involved in
sex scandals
why because they look so innocent with
their baby faces
so some of these celebrities may look so
pure
because of their face that they don't
look as if they even know what sex is
oh but then havoc
okay this video is going to be a very
important precursor
for our future videos on body language
because
before you go so deep into interpreting
body language you first have to know the
concept of
baselining and fundamental attribution
error
we will be producing more videos on body
language and if you have not subscribed
do consider subscribing
we have a lot of other psychological and
personality type videos as well
so do check it out if you have not
so i hope you have enjoyed today's video
and i'll see you again in my
next episode goodbye
 
you
