Tubie and I started dating in 2015
and we have a 15 month old son together.
When I met Tubie I had a credit score of 780,
a brand new sports car, a horse, credit cards
and it was a matter of months
before I started losing everything.
The day that I was in labor, Tubie took $40
out of my purse and met his dealer.
Tubie and Stephanie have a toxic relationship.
I love you.
She wants the baby to have a father
but she wants a good father in his life
and Tubie's acting like a nut job.
(baby cries)
Just recently I woke up and 4:00 a.m.
and Tubie was in my landlord's garage.
We got into an argument.
He spit on me and put his hand on my throat.
I reached up and smacked him in the face.
I was trying to get him down the steps and Tina
came over and they got into a huge fight.
I go, "What's going on?"
And he...
So I just took the keys and started hitting him in the face.
I thought, not today!
Although he has done all of this to me, I love him
and I want him to be a part of his son's life.
I know it breaks her heart that he's not running
after her and that baby, but he can't
because his main focus is on heroin.
Thank you for being here.
You've been listening to everything that's been said so far.
Yes
Do you think she's enabling him?
Yes
And how about you?
Yes.
So you're doing it as well?
I try not to, but he begs me
for like, hours on end sometimes,
and to the point where I am in tears
and I can't handle it anymore.
You have a child that's how many months now, 14?
15 months.
15 months old and was
Tubie there for the birth?
Yes.
He was at the hospital?
Yes he was.
Okay.
And was he in the delivery room?
Yes.
Okay.
And was he high?
I don't know if he was high
but he may have been sick because--
He is either high or in withdrawal.
Yes because right when I got to the recovery room,
I looked at my phone and his dealer was on my phone
saying I'm meeting you downstairs.
And where did he get the money?
Out of my purse.
Okay, so you're in recovery having given birth to his son
and he is in your purse stealing money
to go out in the parking lot and meet his dealer?
Yes.
Charming.
Heartbreaking.
He's gone through all of your money
Yes.
He's driven you
into bankruptcy.
Yes.
Lost your car.
Yep.
Lost a horse.
Yes.
You loved that horse.
I've lost everything,
That horse was my life, yes.
And you had to sell it?
Yep, to pay off some of the debt.
And he's gotten so desperate
that he's gotten violent with you.
Yes, when he gets mad he starts getting violent.
And he's gotten violent with you?
Yeah but I'm violent too.
Uh-huh
(audience laughs)
uh, (clears throat)
(audience laughs)
But I'm jus being honest with you because I mean,
he triggers me and like she said, we trigger each other
but he gets mad and starts screaming and yelling, and then
I start screaming and yelling and that's when it gets
ugly but here lately, he's overpowering me to a degree.
Yeah and you say that she's accepting of him on drugs .
What do you mean by that?
She's easier going, like me.
(subdued laughter)
You're doing that to make yourself feel better.
You're not doing that for him 'cause you're poisoning him.
You're just doing it so, in the moment,
your anxiety can go down.
You're right, you're right.
In the moment, you let him stay there 'cause,
"At least I know where he is tonight".
You feel better, you give him money because,
in the moment, he will quit berating you,
he will quit yelling at you, he will stop putting you down
and calling you names and you want to escape
that attack from him so you buy your way out.
You're right.
You say you're taking
care of him, you're poisoning him!
We are.
I will make him stop when he's been begging for two hours.
Maybe you don't.
He won't leave the house.
