hi sisters today we're going to be
talking about why James Charles has to
apologize so damn much what is up
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right so the the bulk of this video
we're going to be talking about James
Charles we're gonna be talking about
anger we're gonna be talking about
impulse control this is actually a
continuation of the video I did just the
other day about the psychology of James
Charles drama a lot of you love that
video because I did a lot of
neuroscience in it so I'm gonna try to
do some more but this is more of a
continuation so if you would like to
click up in the info card I'm gonna link
that video I did as well
alright so anyways some people are you
know painting James Charles as a
hypocrite because today he and Jeffree Star
just released their video where they're
pretty much destroying a bunch of makeup
palettes now real quick before I jump
into this like can we talk can we just
talk about Jeffree star for one second
so on snapchat Jeffree said this
alright and you guys know I'm gonna
start off the new year with a bang
tomorrow I'm uploading my first video of
2019 featuring a sister James Charles it
is a good one we got the sledgehammers
ready and the flamethrower and miss mama
just wait until you see what really
happens you know there is a lot of
speculations so much T like James got
mad about a girl destroying his palette
how dare him girl wait till watch the
video cuz you don't know what
instincts and then this happened
it's time to move on baby because in
2019 or vaccinating our kids really
Jeffrey alright alright so I think I
think what Jeffree was referring to
about this video not being what you
think it is I'm really cool Jeffree Star and
James Charles announced that they're
both donating $25,000 each
to women shelters in Los Angeles which
is awesome very very very very cool but
today we're going to be talking about
impulse control and anger and all of
that so one thing that is very
well-known of James Charles is the drama
he's had this year in 2018 but he always
apologizes alright so we're gonna be
talking about why he apologizes so much
I'm gonna use some of my own experience
and you might be able to relate to it as
well so the first lesson I want to teach
all of you the very first lesson those
like the best lesson we can all learn
from James Charles aside from like
blending and like what else does James
Charles teach you Tristan like how to
put on like this stuff up here on the
eyes yeah you know what I'm talking
about
the best lesson that we can learn from
him is this the second you experience an
emotion is not the time to post on
Twitter let me repeat that
the second you experience an emotion is
not the time to tweet something out so
James had a little bit of an issue with
another influencer because she destroyed
his palette but that's exactly what
James Charles did in this video
but James kind of explained it away like
this well I just got into a scandal
regarding this actually because there
was a video circulating of a girl who
destroyed my palette and when I first
saw I got really hurt by it yeah
obviously I had worked on it for so long
and also too it's been sold everywhere
so all you to give her all right beats
that were so upset of people that
couldn't get it and I was again I got
this go away just to destroy it but
after a further thought like once she
was getting hate comments which is so
not okay and anyway perform so I felt
really bad but - like it's her money and
you can do what you want with it and
like I just it was I hurt at first but I
was like let me get over this it's not
that deep so
cortex is still developing and part of
this is impulse control this is one of
the reasons James Charles tweets so many
things out
that combined with emotional regulation
right James Charles feels some type of
way and his mind tells him a syphon ego
and it's I'm not saying James Charles is
egotistical which he might be but our
ego says that we're justified we need to
put this information out there we need
to say something about this person right
and and James did this why when he found
out the news and this is why it's so
important to meditate and develop your
own pause button alright part of
meditation is strengthening your
prefrontal cortex so you can pause and
make better decisions and this is so so
so important because what happens to a
lot of us is that we come off like
hypocrites so something that I didn't
talk about the other day when it comes
to the prefrontal cortex is one of the
responsibilities of the prefrontal
cortex is empathy
so what James Charles figured out later
on was oh my god like you know he
actually put himself in Lauren's shoes
he's like oh she bought it she can do
whatever she wants with it not about it
now but in that moment when his emotions
were taking over he didn't have that
type of empathy he couldn't see from her
side so here's a great example about how
I work on my impulse control as well as
my emotions there was something that
James Charles did I forgot which thing
it was it was months ago but I had a lot
of people who wanted me to make a video
about James Charles tweeting something
out and I just ignored it I didn't make
a video about it because basically what
happened was somebody said something on
Twitter and James Charles clap back at
him like sticking up for himself
defending himself he got a little sassy
like if any of you follow me on Twitter
you see that I post comments that I
reply to all the time where I'm clapping
back so think about it if I didn't have
the impulse control like if my brain
says yeah Chris make a video on that
just to get views if I didn't stop and
pause and think about it and think about
James Charles situation try to put
myself in his shoes I ask myself why he
did that
then I would have made a video then all
of you would have came to me calling me
a hypocrite because I do the exact same
thing and by the way I'm going to make a
video explaining why
I do that because I think it's very
important that we talk about it because
a lot of you understand why I do that
and some of you don't but I hope you're
starting to understand why we need to
stop and pause because when our emotions
are taking control we can become
hypocrites so like here's the thing like
one of my biggest fears in life is being
a hypocrite and even though I love when
you guys call me out I have my beautiful
girlfriend over here Tristan she really
enjoys calling me out on stuff like I
try to pause and like think about the
entire situation as a whole to make sure
that I'm not a hypocrite especially when
I'm in a position that I'm in right not
only just you know being a youtuber but
also when I'm talking to other people
about their mental health like it's hard
for me to teach or preach something that
I'm not doing myself you see what I'm
saying so something that I talked about
in my book rewire your anger is
apologizing alright so let's talk about
this real quick
James Charles like it's great it's great
to apologize but let me tell you this
let me let me let you in on a little
secret about Chris I hate apologizing I
don't know if you can relate to that but
I hate apologizing I hate it I hate it I
do it but I hate it all right and you
know what the trick is to quit
apologizing so much is quit doing things
you need to apologize for all right and
that is why we need to control our
impulses as well as our emotions do you
see what I'm saying
because when I don't have control over
those things I keep doing a bunch of
wacky things that means I have to
apologize to people and then I feel dumb
because I have to apologize for
something so like I always tell you guys
I'm always trying to teach you guys
mental health is more than just not
having a mental illness okay mental
health is impulse control
mental health is controlling your anger
you see what I'm saying so like I no
longer lash out on people and have to
apologize for something I have really
done to apologies on my youtube channel
with almost 700 videos and both of them
were very minor very minor there were
more corrections and apologies but I did
understand why people might you know see
what I was saying in a different way so
I went back and I corrected myself all
right but I used to be a drug addict an
alcoholic
constantly had to apologize to people
not only for like lying cheating and
stealing right but a lot of it was from
my my anger my emotional outburst like
when I first got sober I have so many
anger issues it's one of the reasons why
I wrote my book rewire your anger I had
so many anger issues and I felt so bad
like can you relate to that let me know
down in the comments below do you feel
bad about the anger that you you
experience where you lash out on other
people
cuz I felt bad about it and by the way
that's proof that you're not a terrible
person because you actually feel bad
about it but I would ask him be like man
what do i do I just freaked out on my
mom and it was totally uncalled for
whatever and they said here go apologize
and try to correct their behavior I'm
like Jerry I hate apologizing right so
something that I learned was quit doing
stupid things that you have to apologize
for so I hope you realize if you're new
to my channel this video isn't for James
tall's this video is for you so if you
can relate to James Charles always
having to apologize how about you start
going to therapy how about you start
meditating you know what I mean how
about you start running your ideas past
other people something that I do
constantly that y'all don't even know
about really is that I'm constantly
running ideas past twisting for YouTube
videos for tweets you know what I mean
like do you think this would cause a
problem right because my ego says I
should do it but thank goodness Tristan
has a very level head and that's maybe a
bad idea
alright but anyways you shorten with
anger issues check out the description
below there's some resources like my
book and some other stuff come to the
discord server we have an entire chat
just for venting so you don't gotta
tweet stuff out and then apologize later
alright
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