TODD NICKERSON: I am a paedophile. I am not
a monster, I have the attraction but I don’t
act on it.
TODD NICKERSON: I am Todd Nickerson. I am
a non offending paedophile. I have never ever
sexually abused a child, I never will. I do
not look at child porn, I never will. I obey
the laws. I respect the laws. I respect society’s
position on this. I understand it and agree
with it.
TODD NICKERSON: I am part of one of the most
hated groups of society, no question about
it. We are the scapegoats du jour. If you
look at history there is always one minority
that seems to be the, you know, the one that
everybody kind of persecutes and I think we
are it. I am campaigning for better treatment
of people like me, you know who are non-offending
paedophiles. Not all paedophiles are child
molesters and not all child molesters are
paedophiles. A paedophile is, strictly speaking,
is just somebody who has the sexual attraction
to children, they may act on it, they may
not. Paedophiles come from all walks of life,
you know, we come from all sorts of economic
backgrounds, different occupations and we
look like everybody else. There are a lot
of teachers and people that, you know, who
do work with kids, but I think most of us
just hold regular jobs.
INTERVIEWER: How would you say you manage
to control your sexual urges?
TODD NICKERSON: A lot of people think that
if you are attracted to kids that you have
some kind of like unusual degree of urge to
go out and, you know, attack kids, and it
is not like that. Most people, you know, when
they see somebody that they are attracted
to, do they automatically think how I want
to jump on them and have sex with them. So,
it is the same with us, it’s just, you know,
we just happen to be attracted to kids.
INTERVIEWER: What age groups are you attracted to?
TODD NICKERSON: I would say that it probably
starts about four, three-four years old and
then goes up in to early twenties, late teens,
early twenties and it kind of peaks at about
like nine, ten years old.
TODD NICKERSON: I am a political activist
for virtuous paedophiles, which is a forum
that I belong to. I am out, you know, talking
to the media and things, basically making
the case for VirPed.
TODD NICKERSON: The forum is devoted to helping
paedophiles who do not want to offend. There
are approximately a few thousand members.
We have people who do feel, guilty, deal with
shame and we try to help them get past that
because, you know, they didn’t choose their
sexuality, you know, as long as they are not
acting on it and they are devoted to doing
the right thing. You know, our philosophy
is, there is no reason to feel guilty for that.
TODD NICKERSON: We can talk about books or
movies or music or whatever, you know. Just
basically it is a hang out spot for kind of
an all-purpose forum for non-offending paedophiles.
Our goals are to educate the public and also
to bring people who are struggling with this
attraction to our forum so that we can help
them, you know, provide a circle of support
for them. There is not a lot of people that
are out doing what I do. There is just a handful
of us doing it.
INTERVIEWER: What was the reaction when you
first decided to show your face on the internet
so to speak?
TODD NICKERSON: What was the reaction from
the public? Well it was, I got a, you know,
I got a pretty public backlash. But by the
same token I actually got a lot of support
privately. I got hundreds and hundreds of
emails from people who were very supportive.
A lot of them were people who were survivors
of abuse.
INTERVIEWER: Are you worried about your own
personal safety in putting yourself in the
public eye?
TODD NICKERSON: You know, I used to be worried
about my safety and I do take some precautions.
I carry this pocketknife with me, just in
case I ever get attacked. It has never happened
but you know I have got if I need it. It is
a spring blade. There might be some crazy
out there, who decides to attack me, plus
I have this so you know, that tends to deter
most people.
TODD NICKERSON: I was born without my right
hand, it just didn’t grow properly, I have
to wear this, slips right back on.
TODD NICKERSON: Just like that.
TODD NICKERSON: There was one event that basically
hammered it home for me, I call it my eureka
moment. It was the moment I realized I’m
interested in these younger girls, I was 13
and a neighbor had come over to visit. He
had brought his little daughter with him.
She was probably about seven or eight years
old. I was sitting in the living room drawing
and I just remember looking up and just being
blown away by how beautiful I thought she
was.
TODD NICKERSON: Initially I repressed the
feelings, you know, especially in my teen
years because I was a regular at a church.
I had asked God to take it away and you know,
I kind of felt like he had. Then as I started
aging and realized that the age of the girls
that I was attracted to were staying the same.
That is kind of when I realized, you know,
this was going to be a problem.
TODD NICKERSON: I went out with a girl when
I was 20 years old, she was 26, and she was
very petite, so she was my type, physically
or I thought, you know, at the time. This
time I still wasn’t really that attracted
to adults but I thought that well maybe I
can make this work, you know. We dated for
about three weeks. I kept putting sex off.
Finally I gave in. We tried it, and it just
didn’t work. I went on a couple of dates
after that with a couple of girls but, you
know, it never really got past that first
date stage and, it just my heart wasn’t
in it. For all intents and purposes I am a
virgin. You know, I have never had full-blown
sexual intercourse. Just hasn’t happened.
INTERVIEWER: You had suffered abuse as a child?
TODD NICKERSON: Yeah.
INTERVIEWER: Can you tell us about that?
TODD NICKERSON: I came over to visit my grandmother.
There was a guy that they didn’t really know him
that well, he was an acquaintance and she
asked me if I would take him outside to show
him my grandpa’s garden and he went out
to the side of the garden and sat down on
the ground and patted the ground indicating
that he wanted me to sit by him. And, so I
did and then he just basically touched me.
So it was a one-time event, I wouldn’t say
that it was the only thing that led to my
sexuality. I would say that there were probably
a lot of other things that led me in that
direction. But yeah, I think it was probably
a contributing factor.
TODD NICKERSON: You know, I am a pretty reclusive
person by nature. So I am just, I don’t
interact with the public that much anyway.
You know I don’t go out of my way to be
around children. If they are around me, then
they are around me. You know, it happens you
cant completely cut yourself off.
TODD NICKERSON: My niece and my friends daughter
did that one, a friend’s daughter did that
one and then a friend’s daughter did that
one.
INTERVIEWER: And they are ok with that, are
they fine?
TODD NICKERSON: Yeah, because they know that
I am no danger to them, you know, they are
probably safer with me than they are with
like, you know, a lot of non-paedophiles.
TODD NICKERSON: I have a pretty healthy imagination.
I think it helps me to process my sexuality
in healthy ways that don’t involve any real
children. You know, a lot of my fantasies
actually revolve around kids who are more
powerful than I am. You know, this idea of
super powered kids, you know, who are able
to consent, you know, because they are just
super smarter, you know, they could just crush
me if I hurt them.
TODD NICKERSON: My family recognizes that
I am doing something important, you know,
that I am kind of a pioneer, that I am out
here doing something that really needs to
be done and you know, raising awareness and
letting people know what people like me deal
with, what we struggle with.
TODD NICKERSON: I am happier every day and
I am actually, I feel like I have a purpose
now. I am neither proud nor ashamed of being
a paedophile; at this point I just accept
it, it’s who I am.
