Okay.
What’s the matter with you?
You’ve been
fidgeting all day.
Actually, there’s something
we need to talk about.
 
Okay...
Remember our friends
with benefits arrangement?
Yeah! We meet for sex because
other than chewing our toenails,
it’s the only common
interest we have.
Remember we said we’d check in
if things had changed?
Oh my God!
Do you have a girlfriend?
 
Worse.
 
I had a dream about you.
 
And it was very romantic.
 
Uh-oh. How romantic?
 
We didn’t even have sex.
We just kissed and...
I can’t even say it.
Okay, well, can you try?
We looked into
each other’s eyes.
 
Awful, right?
I have feelings for you.
Romantic feelings.
 
I think.
 
You think?
Yeah.
How can I know for sure?
 
I have an idea!
 
Let’s go on a date.
All right!
Are you buying?
No, not a real date!
A mock date.
Right here, just to see
if what you’re feeling is real.
Okay, let’s do it!
Where do you want to go?
Dinner! We’ll pretend
we’re at a restaurant.
Okay! I love dinner.
It’s one of my 3 favorite meals.
 
How about steak?
 
I’m a vegetarian.
 
Italian?
 
Can’t take gluten.
 
Sushi!
 
Fish? No.
 
Mexican?
It’s spicy.
It gives me heartburn.
 
Indian?
 
Too heavy.
 
A glass of water?
Yes! But it has to be
alkaline sparkling.
 
And naturally sourced.
Are you still having
romantic feelings for me?
 
No. I think I’m good.
 
Sometimes difficult to grasp,
romantic feelings are usually
defined by a combination
of emotional and physical
attraction towards someone.
 
Every love is unique.
You can be in a relationship
that is romantic...
 
passionate...
 
or independent.
Seeing a specific
person as unique, 
 
wanting their attention,
feeling nervous
in their presence,
 
having butterflies,
or noticing they’re always
on your mind
 
are signs of love.
 
On the other hand,
being only physically
attracted to someone
 
doesn’t mean it’s love.
 
Friendship is a bit like love
because both
involve connection.
 
Love is different,
because it includes
physical attraction
and a more intense need
to always be with the other.
Romantic feelings
are unpredictable. 
They can grow quickly,
or not,
for one or various people
at the same time,
and sometimes towards
unavailable people!
 
Having feelings for someone
often makes you want
to know if it’s reciprocal.
If it’s not, it’s possible
you’ll experience rejection. 
Though painful, it doesn’t mean
you have to doubt yourself.
 It’s just that the other person
doesn’t feel the same as you.
We all feel and experience
love in our own way.
 
It’s a complex, intense,
not always easy to understand
but delicious feeling!
I think it’s just
part of our nature
that we’re able
to identify, like...
 
This is a friendship love,
as opposed to
this is an erotic love,
or something that I want
to pursue sexually.
Is it easy to distinguish
love from friendship?
I personally identify
as bisexual.
 
So I have friends
that could also be
potential love interests.
There’s many different
kinds of love!
 
That’s true.
You can love someone
and not be attracted to them
and you can be attracted
to someone and not love them.
Especially if you’ve known
a person for a long time
and you’re very
close to them,
it can be really hard
to distinguish
 
between the two feelings.
Some of the strongest love
I feel is for my friends,
rather than for people
I’m in a relationship with.
With friends, you could
have fun with them,
you could go out with them,
having fun activities.
 
But love is something different.
 
It’s something more intimate.
It’s something that friendship
cannot offer
 
compared to love.
The person who I now love
so much was just a friend,
so it was a hard transition
from friendship to love.
The question usually
for people is...
Whether they’re
attracted to someone
for just their
physical qualities,
or if they’re genuinely
attracted to that person.
It’s a gut feeling,
when you feel...
more romantic feelings
towards someone else.
Because I feel like
there’s some people
that you’ll meet off the bat
and have this instant attraction.
You’ll be like:
“Oh my God, hi!”
And when you have that,
I feel that’s when you know
you could potentially
be in love.
The thing is that
feelings come and go.
They leave you so quickly
and they’re not consistent.
 
And...
Half the time, I can’t depend
on my own feelings.
You can find
someone beautiful
and want to
have sex with them,
but not want
a relationship
and a family
and a life together.
I think it’s really feeling like
you can be yourself around them.
Feeling like you’re at home
when you’re around them,
and you don’t have to
put on a mask or anything.
And really feeling like
you can put in the hard work
and the dedication it takes
for a relationship to last.
But to switch the view
from where it’s all emotional,
and it’s all based
on feelings,
to it’s based off choices
and it’s based off...
I know what love is
and I’m going to pursue it.
 
But it’s a choice.
And to think it’s all
based on feelings is very...
 
Yeah. It’s very frustrating.
There was this post
that I saw. It’s like...
Can you imagine
being attracted to someone
and wanting to
hang out with them,
 
and you love their energy,
but you’re not
sexually attracted to them.
- That’s called a friendship!
- A friendship.
 
Yeah! That’s just a friend.
