JO: They have two
different parenting styles.
The communication does need to
get better between the parents.
So it's going to be an
interesting parental
consultation, because it's going
to be about the truth of really
what they need to do.
And then it's get to
work, because that's
what we need to do.
There is a breakdown
in your communication,
because you give up,
you get defensive.
You said, we don't
communicate, we're
worried about confrontation.
But without communication
with Miranda,
you're not on the same page.
How are you supposed to have
a relationship where you can
together raise your
children if you
can't talk about your children?
 The reason I don't tell
her what I'm thinking
is because I don't want
to deal with the fight,
because I'm not
going to win anyways.
 Yeah, but you're
all on the same side.
You clearly are
showing each other
that you don't
respect one another
or feel that the
marriage is worth that.
 No, that is not true.
I'm not going to sit
here and listen to you
say that that's the way I feel.
 Clearly it is.
 It clearly isn't.
Your six-hour
assessment is incorrect.
 Really?
Then ask your wife how she
feels about her marriage.
DAN: OK.
 Ask your wife.
 Yeah, that's not
a conversation for--
on your camera right now.
 Yeah, this is a conversation.
You asked me to come
here and help you, Dan.
 No, I'm not going to let
you turn us on each other.
 I'm not.
I'm keeping you together here.
 Let's-- let's hear what
you have to say, then.
JO: Dan, let me tell
you something right now.
This behavior is unbecoming.
You're being combative.
And this type of behavior
is why your wife does
not communicate with you, Dan.
Ask your wife.
 How do you feel this
is going right now?
I don't feel comfortable
talking to you
because you don't really listen.
You put up defense mode.
 How do you feel
when Miranda says
that you become very defensive?
 It's upsetting to
hear that from her.
 It's OK that you're
anxious, and it's
OK that you're fearful.
But I'm on your side.
 I'm sorry.
 I accept your apology.
 I hope we can--
I know we're going to
get this figured out.
 We absolutely will.
And let's have fun doing it.
DAN: The consultation
was a little rough.
I had to hear some
things I didn't
necessarily want to hear.
 Right, thank you.
DAN: But I'm looking
forward to, you know,
get to all the things
I've been avoiding.
JO: So it's 6:30.
What we should do now is
really take a look at going
through the bedtime routine.
It is my first teacher
day with the family.
I do know that they
have a sleeping issue.
During the night
time, the children
find cause to come into
mom and dad's room,
and this family hasn't
followed through on putting
the kids back to bed.
You're going to set the
tone for the evening.
Start shutting down lights.
Everything becomes soft.
There's no blaring TV, radio
distractions of any technology,
phones, everything.
Right?
We all need to get a
good night's sleep.
MIRANDA: All right, time
to get ready for bed.
JO: Remember, set the ambiance.
That's it.
Yep, we're doing the rooms.
The Andersons need to make
sure that these kids are given
the lengthy amount
of time they need
so that the kids
feel that they've
had quality time at bedtime.
DAN: You gotta brush your teeth.
Brush 'em good.
 Hey, remember, like
a low, calming voice.
Yours is always very loud.
Try to tone it
down a little bit.
 These kids have
an environment now
that has no technology,
no disturbing images
on the television.
That means everybody can
get a good night's sleep.
DAN: Good night.
I love you.
Do you want to play
outside, Caleb?
 I'm gonna go.
JO: Dan, you and I
will have a quick word.
DAN: OK.
JO: When I arrived, you
thought that you weren't
capable of being
able to do what I was
going to be asking you to do.
Not bad for a six-hour
assessment, eh?
 Not bad.
[LAUGHS]
 You've done not bad.
You've done--
 Yours was--
yours was right on.
Mine was 100% off.
 But you've done not bad, eh?
So you should feel
proud of yourself.
 I read you and this
whole scenario quite wrong
my first day.
And thank you for
dragging me through this
kicking and screaming,
but I'm so glad you came.
And I can't thank you enough.
 [LAUGHS] Stand up.
Come here!
Oh, this is so beautiful.
Right?
What a turnaround.
 Yeah.
 Bye, darlings.
 This was one of the
hardest weeks of my life,
but it was worth it.
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