so a video resurfaced of the rapper
cardi B talking about has she drugged
men and then robbed those men while she
was a stripper and now people are saying Surviving Cardi B in the new hashtag #SurvivingCardiB . Today we're gonna be
discussing this because this bleeds into
a larger social conversation and how it
truly is affecting our mental health
what is up everybody this is Chris from
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alright anyways yeah let's talk about
cardi B so something I'm gonna be doing
with my channel for all of you rewired
soldiers who have been here for a while
I'm going to be doing some social
commentary that's kind of what I do
because I'm looking at just the way
society reacts and things how it affects
us in our personal lives and things like
that and we can look at examples
happening in our culture and kind of be
like hmm what's going on here alright so
those of you who don't know what's going
on yesterday this was actually a
trending topic where cardi B an old live
stream I think it was
I came up where she talked about when
she was a stripper she used to drugged
and robbed men okay
not cool not cool in any way shape or
form I am NOT defending that at all I
actually just watch the video over on
complex from their everyday struggle
episode and like it's a great episode
because they talk about a lot of the
hypocrisy in hip-hop culture things like
that some good conversations came out
about would this be different if it was
a man rather than a woman also like you
know her ethnicity and everything like
that so if you want to check that out go
for it I'll link that down in the
description anyway so people are talking
about Kody B being canceled my cancel
cardi B canceled her for doing this
terrible terrible thing was it terrible
so freaking lutely okay and should Kody
B be held responsible for this should
she make some type of amends absolutely
and that's what I'm gonna be talking
about in the second half of this video
well I want to talk about right now is
this this insane idea of canceling
people over their past like this is just
something that has never processed with
me and it's this culture that we live in
all right like one of the most
beneficial things that can help you grow
as a person is to see how other people
grow because if you've been to a dark
place like I have where you felt
absolutely hopeless when you felt like a
terrible human being you know how awful
that can feel and one of the only things
that gave me hope was seeing other
people who pulled themselves out of the
gutter right whether it was external
circumstances that put them there or
even their own minds that put them there
and their own decisions that put them
there but when I see people pull
themselves out and grow as a person like
that is inspiring to me now this is more
of a broader subject like I'm not
talking specifically about cardi B right
there I don't know enough about cardi B
to say whether she's a good a bad person
or anything like that some of her tracks
are pretty sick but I don't know enough
about her as a person I'm just looking
at the pure aspect of it where people
are finding out about other people's
past and then saying we should cancel
them like here's why that's insane okay
I just want you guys to open up your
mind for a second think about the
message that that is sending out to the
rest of society I think about that real
quick
as society watches this happens right as
society's sitting there and watching
this go down on Twitter go down on
social media and
seeing they're seeing somebody who's
past got brought up right and people are
then trying to cancel them like imagine
a person who's in a dark place imagine a
person who is doing wrong who was doing
bad who is doing terrible things what
are they thinking what do they figure
what is the message that we're sending
them you want to know what I think that
message is because I've heard that
message many times when I was in my drug
addiction when I was in my alcoholism
when I was robbing cheating and stealing
from people you know what I heard
Chris why would you ever become a better
person nobody's gonna forgive you
anyways people are gonna keep digging up
your past till the day you die why would
you become a better person right
people are gonna cancel you for finding
out things about your past right think
about the message that we're sending to
these other people and here's the thing
like what's the alternative what's the
alternative like think about okay let's
talk about cardi B right now okay did
cardi B drugged and robbed bed yes is
cardi B still drugging and robbing men
no what's the alternative the only other
alternative for this scenario is that
cardi B would still be drugging and
robbing men is that what you want is
that what you would want like I remember
this coming to mind this whole idea
coming to mind I remember somebody on
Facebook posting something where it was
like an old bully from high school
reached out to them to apologize right
and they they shared that message and
they said oh you were a jerk to me in
high school and now you and now you now
you want to apologize to me like yeah
yeah like what would you prefer that
they stayed a jerk and had no self
growth like throughout their entire life
like what's the alternative here people
like think about that for a second think
about the message that you were sending
out to the rest of society about this
whole cancel culture and holding peoples
pass over their heads okay now it was
called to be a better person today I
don't know she's the best person but it
seems like she's better than she was and
I come from a program where we talk
about progress not perfection okay as
long as people are taking steps forward
to improve their lives like I am happy
for them if you are watching this video
and you're a little bit better
you used to be Bravo to you I got your
back all right he was still screwing up
like all of us do then we still got
things to work on so the second half of
this video is I want to talk about you
know is it's going to be remorseful
where's she at now and everything like
that so anyways ODB took to instagram
and she made this post so she says so
I'm seeing on social media that a lot I
did three years ago has popped back up a
lot of where I talked about things I had
to do on my past right or wrong that I
felt I needed to do to make a living I
never claimed to be a to be perfect or
come from a perfect world with a perfect
pass I always speak my truth
I always own my stuff I'm a part of a
hip-hop culture where you can talk about
where you come from and talk about the
wrong things you had to do to get where
you are there are rappers that glorify
murder violence drugs and robbing crimes
they feel they had to do to survive
I never glorified the things I've
brought up in that life I've never even
put those things in my music because I'm
not proud of it and feel a
responsibility not to glorify it I made
the choices that I did at the time
because I had very limited options I was
blessed to have been able to rise from
that but so many women have not whether
or not they were poor choices at the
time I did what I had to do to survive
the men I spoke about in my life were
men that I dated that I was involved
with men that were conscious willing and
aware I have a past that I can't change
we all do so yes and no so this is just
purely my personal opinion based on my
personal experience so something that
she's getting critiqued about is there's
no apology in there okay so yes like I
said I am somebody who had a terrible
terrible past okay and I happen to work
a program where a part of my own
recovery is making amends
okay I make direct amends or most
recently a broader
to a group of people publicly right we
make amends wherever possible okay
so that's that is from for my opinion
what is lacking from that post all right
so then you can look at it and say okay
how she growin hacks each other like
she's changed cuz she doesn't even have
to do that anymore right and that's
something that I just I asked people to
empathize with you know just you know
where people come from and that's why as
a society we need to make living
conditions better for all people
everybody in this country you know what
I mean but anyways here's the thing
here's the thing my guess purely an
assumption okay purely speculation if
you will Cody B probably does not even
know who these men were okay she does
not have their man she doesn't have her
phone number can't look him up on
Instagram on Facebook or whatever it was
something she was doing in the club
right and she did it to a lot of people
so how could cardi B make a direct
amends to those people well that's
something that a lot of people in
recovery from addiction struggle with as
well there are so many people in my past
who I hurt or even people who might have
even put in danger because of my
reckless behavior that I don't know who
they are
I'll never see him again if I did see
him again I wouldn't remember her they
were so what do you do and this is just
something that I learned in my life
because a lot of us struggle with this
this self-hatred for our past by the way
that's another reason why it's a dick
move to keep bringing up people's past
like like it is a dick move like at what
point has somebody served their sentence
you know but anyways I still have that
internal voice saying Chris you're a bad
person you're a terrible person you did
these things so what do I do since I
can't go make direct amends to those
people what I do is I make it amends to
the world okay and this is a debt that
I'm going to be paying for the rest of
my life um in June if I stay clean and
sober
I'll have been clean and sober for seven
years I was in my active addiction for
about eight or nine years but I feel the
records that I did
there's something that I need to pay off
for the rest of my life now how do I do
that how do I do that I do that in
different ways I do that with this
YouTube channel dedicating my time to
making these videos right it's now
become to become a job in which you know
I'm very blessed and fortunate where
it's paying my bills but I'm always
trying to give back more than I take
because I used to be an awful awful
awful human being right so that's a way
that I try to pay back the world for
things I've done not just with this
channel like I do other things and some
people are gonna think like oh okay
Chris humble brag but this is just I'm
the only reason I'm sharing this is
because if you're somebody who had a
dark past and you're trying to get a get
through it get over it get past it like
I just maybe some of these tips will
help like I I help out homeless people
when I can okay I have a rule of thumb
though never give them money only give
them food or water like as a former drug
addict like I know what I would do if
people gave me money so that's a rule of
thumb right I try to help people where I
can and it's just small stupid tiny
little things like if somebody like
dropped something in the grocery store I
just pick it up for him right like I'll
help an old personally I'll just do
random things because I just debt to the
world that I'm trying to pay because
there's so many people who I can't
apologize to you know what I'm saying
I try to be a better father I try to be
a better boyfriend you know because I
have exes who I was not the best
boyfriend to you know I do my best to
never litter I used to just like throw
garbage out of my window back in the day
I don't do that stuff anymore I try to
be a better person every single day
because I have a debt to this world that
I owe that I feel I have to work off for
the rest of my life
now and cardd situation I don't know I
don't know if she's involved in
philanthropy or anything like that
but that is something that you know I
would suggest if it's anybody you know
if anybody watching this like just find
ways to give back because here's the
thing here's what I always you know
taught my clients when I was working in
the treatment center it's really hard to
keep hating yourself when you keep
trying to put good out in the world you
know what I mean like I don't meet many
people who go out and like you know feed
the homeless or something
and they're like man I'm a real piece of
garbage you know what I'm saying so if
you take this opportunity to repay your
debt back to the world like you will
gradually start to forgive yourself
but anyways like I guess the last topic
I'll talk about is does car TB deserve
anybody's forgiveness no do I absolutely
not
but we still have this life that we have
to live so what are we going to do to
start preparing it and moving forward
you know what I mean
so anyways anyways let me know your
thoughts on this whole situation down
below let me know your thoughts on this
subject should we hold people's pass
over their head and what do you think
about that idea that we're sending a
message out to the world that why should
you even try to get better because
people are still gonna hold that stuff
over your head alright anyways that's
all I got for this video again don't
forget to check down below wait Mike oh
wait over there and watch the video I
just did with dr. Mark Dolson okay
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