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notification though and I just witnessed
the most brutal thing I have in a while
and we need to talk about it we need to
talk about it um you know like for the
LGBTQ community for influencers just
doing really dumb shit for views and
exposure um but anyways let's jump into
this and see what we could take away
from it so this well let's start with
James fellas James Charles has been
trying to innovate a lot which is cool
as a fellow creator I respect that like
one of the reasons I love Shane Dawson
for example now I talked about this a
little bit in the last video I did
earlier this morning
if Shane Dawson is always trying to do
new things right and be super creative
James Charles is always trying to do new
things like I don't know like what's
going on with it but I remember a while
back he made an announcement about like
some kind of like you know Beauty
influencer kind of reality show or
whatever it is right and recently he did
something like he was gonna do kind of
like a bachelor type thing which is cool
and anyways er he took the tiktok and
and yeah well I'll show you this this
idiotic clip and then we'll come back
James here I can't believe I'm making
this video right now but I feel like
this can't hurt and I don't think it'll
turn into a scandal either so I guess
here goes nothing I've made one major
observation after done letting tiktok
up you see oh and that is that this app
is pretty much a dating app let's be
real I went on here see there in a very
few relationship or is painfully single
and unfortunately for me I fall into
that second group of people surprise
surprise in 2020 however
I've been obtained that okay I'm trying
myself out there a little bit more and I
want to get wifed up so I want to play
tik-tok a bachelor my name is James
Charles I'm 20 years old and I am 510 I
live in Los Angeles California and I am
a beauty youtuber so sometimes I look
pretty and when I don't look pretty I
have a pretty fun personality to makeup
cornet I'm a very hard worker but in my
free time I like horror movies escape
rooms and singing with friends eating at
new restaurants and also I have five
nails for cuddly if those
things are interests of you and you are
a male leave me a comment down below or
I guess do at this video
oh my god what oh my god
Hey
so I'm actually hopping in here right as
I was about to upload the video I saw
James Charles actually replied so
anyways he says this happens weekly at
this point some guy slides in my DMS or
matches with me claiming they're
interested we talked for a few days and
once they have enough recorded content
for a tiktok or tweak they posted and
claimed they're straight it's
queerbaiting and it's pathetic the
funniest most embarrassed part the
embarrassing part of this is that almost
every single one of them actually
flirted sent inappropriate photos or
came crawling back after their post went
viral to apologize and say they were
actually still interested I have my
receipts on them all not to bring up old
tea but this shows that this stuff is
very real it was happening before my
scandal and continues that happen even
more now many boys are closeted curious
or cop hungry and will do anything for
attention
it makes dating extremely difficult and
confusing so yeah like I'm glad James
Charles like popped out a phone in this
thing but something I want to toss in
and talk about which I didn't talk about
when I originally recorded this is
there's this debate around should a
massive influencer call somebody out
with like no following like out on their
bullshit and I'm the bully I'm a big
believer in yes yes if you if you go out
somebody who is much bigger than you
like you deserve what's coming okay like
we are all we are all in need of taking
responsibility for our own shit like
there is nothing worse than somebody
attacking somebody else or trying to set
somebody else off and then and then
playing the victim you know oh this kid
hasn't done it yet but he's 17 and I can
imagine that being an argument but my
son is 11 years old and what was it -
over a year ago year and a half ago so
my son was 9 or 10 when Shane Dawson got
a bunch of shit for calling out somebody
who said some you know some crew thing
about his Jake Paul series right
everyone's all shame they're so like
they're just a normal person and now you
can't do that like I don't believe that
like you know somebody's fanbase like
sending death threats I don't think any
of that shit's acceptable but if you go
after somebody and they clap back at you
publicly you know you did it to yourself
you know what I mean so in my opinion if
you cannot handle the repercussions of
your actions you probably shouldn't do
it in the first place so if this kid
gets a bunch of shit for pulling this I
have zero sympathy and what he should do
is maybe talk to his parents and they'd
say did you learn something all right
all right like where to even begin okay
like baiting baiting somebody a young
gay man or anybody from the LGBTQ
community like that right there like
that is so so uncalled for you know what
I mean
so James Charles isn't new to this I
feel so bad for this dude I feel so bad
for him like so like one of the reasons
I'm a LGBTQ Ally is I grew up around
many gay men my mom her best friends
were gay they were like my uncles and
everything like that
and seeing some of the shit they had to
put up with like I could not even
imagine so then you have James tall's
right young gay man and first it really
popped off last year when Totti
Westbrook did her whole garbage videos
about you know James Charles like you
know being this like kind of predator
going after straight man and as these
things came out the two the two young
man who was it like Gabe and Sam like it
it really it really looked like you know
some some bicurious young man who were
also opportunistic who took this
situation right who might have only been
doing this for cloud in the first place
and and then tried to use that to create
this this narrative around James Charles
which could absolutely destroy somebody
right and here's the thing like when it
comes to any relationship any
relationship on earth like my thing is
just be honest and upfront from the
get-go like I used to be such a
douchebag when I was younger and like
you know playing the field and I would
tell
I would tell women whatever it was that
they wanted to hear right and I just
wasn't honest like I didn't want a date
for example but I would make them think
I did you know what I mean so in these
situations especially younger people out
there like just be totally honest like
my life started getting better and I
stopped breaking as many hearts when
back in my single days I've been with my
beautiful girlfriend Trista for a little
over three years back of my single days
but when I sort of being upfront about I
was I listen I'm not looking for
anything serious and by the way you tell
people that before you hook up with them
okay bye anyways now James Charles is
dealing with this this tick talker who
seems to get a decent amount of views
and he's like keep in mind that I'm 17
and straight like bitch how is he
supposed to know that you know what I
mean and he was clearly doing this for
views so I'm a parent and I'm not one of
those people who likes to to freak out
and be like oh my god the kids the kids
the kids like something that I try to
instill and my son he's not even on tick
tock but I know a lot of young people
are on tick tock it's like be mindful of
who you watch like it is true that
people are influenced by the people they
watch and who they follow and all of
that it's not as severe on a
psychological level as people like to
make it seem but people do model
behaviors okay like that is just how it
is like if any of you have taken a
psychology class and you've heard of the
Bobo doll experience experiment people
do model behaviors so what I try to do
when I'm monitoring you know what my son
watches and he's pretty good about this
so if he's 11 years old now he knows who
to watch and who not to watch or and if
you watch his dumb people he knows like
this person is dumb that kind of
behavior isn't okay but that's my
concern
is people like this exploiting somebody
like James Charles to try to get views
and other people thinking like oh that's
okay with so many young people trying to
come up and be influencers and be on
YouTube or be on Instagram or be on
tik-tok or whatever it is like it's
important to know that this type of
behavior is not okay but what we keep
saying like I I am a lover of Technology
and social media and I completely
disagree with everybody these like
social media is just terrible and
destroying everything right it's we got
to be smart about it but we keep seeing
this pattern of people going way too far
to get views you know what I mean like
we forget that there are real people
involved with this and I talked about
this recently as well although James
Charles is this massive influencer like
he has his own mental health to worry
about and trying to get tricked into
some scandal that couldn't go viral and
after he's you know it's been about a
year since all that other stuff happened
to him like it's totally not cool you
know what I mean but anyways the
takeaways from this like be a little bit
more kind and empathetic to people in
the LGBTQ community like this this is
not okay and I hope people see this and
they learn that it is not okay to
exploit people from that community and
also if you are trying to be an
influencer or whatever like have some
integrity while you do it you know what
I mean like my son he hasn't shown an
interest in being like an influencer or
anything in the years but if he does
like my only hope for him is that he
keeps integrity as he does it you know
what I'm saying anyways that's all I got
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