Hello. I'm Jamila Musayeva, an
international social etiquette
consultant and author of the book
"Etiquette: the least you need to know." Today
I'm going to be sharing with you some
more tips and tricks about body language.
So tip number one is- SMILE :)
Smiling is considered the weapon of body
language, meaning that with a single
smile, you can conquer your audience.
You can conquer the people you're talking to.
You're putting them at ease with your
smile. But I would like also to note that
smiling is a very culturally sensitive
technique to use because in some
cultures it's not acceptable or rather
frowned upon when you are smiling a lot.
So make sure you know where you're going,
and make sure you know whether or not
it's acceptable to smile or not. So there
are three ways in which you can
distinguish a fake smile from a genuine
smile. Number one -  the wrinkles around
your eyes. When you are giving a genuine
smile, it's likely that you're gonna have
a lot of wrinkles around your eyes, like
this, versus like this. Second way - when
you're giving a fake smile, it's likely
that the end of your mouth is gonna stay
at a horizontal line rather than going
upward, like it would in a genuine smile.
Say like this  and like this.
And third way - it is likely that you're not
going to be able to see the bottom of
your teeth if you're going to show a
genuine smile because the ends of your
mouth are going upward, so the bottom of
your teeth are not visible; like this or
when you're showing a fake smile, it's
like lift at the bottom of your teeth
will be visible, like this. That's it :)
Smile as much as you can but make sure
that you share it genuine smile. The
second tip that I want to share with you
has everything to do with voice, tone,
intonation and pitch. So, number one, let's
start with our voice; the volume of our
voice. I would suggest to use this
technique whenever you are talking to a
large group of audience that somehow is
very loud and noisy and are not listening to you or maybe you're talking to a bunch
of children and they're very loud and
cannot concentrate. Instead of raising
your voice, lower it down. When you are
lowering your voice, the audience tends
to calm down and listen to you. Going
along with that, it's important that you
take pauses when you are giving a speech,
especially a long one. When you are
taking those pauses, you are emphasizing
the points that you want to make and in
between the pauses, you're giving the
audience the chance to relax and
concentrate and give your attention
fully back to you. Finally, speaking about
voice and tone and pitch, it's important
that you don't end your sentences on a
high pitch, if you want to make an
important point.
Raising your pitch at the end of the
sentence seems like you're questioning
yourself and you're not trusting what
you're saying so make sure you lower
your pitch at the end of each sentence.
The third tip that I wanted to share
with you is about your physical space
that you occupy when you're giving a
speech. So if you want to convey
confident image of yourself, make sure
that you occupy a lot of space,
physically speaking. Your posture should
be straight, your shoulders should be
rolled back, your back should be straight
and your legs, your feet, should be hips
width apart.
That way you'll have a more grounded position on the floor,  which will give you even more confidence when
you're speaking, so whenever your feet
are touching the ground very firmly, it
gives you a very firm, a very confident
image.
So, the fourth and the last tip of today's video that I wanted to share with you
has a lot to do with the body language of a good listener.
If you want to convey an image of a good listener, you have to make sure that when you're listening,
your body leans a bit forward. Whenever we're leaning forward, we tend to show
the person that we're interested in what they're saying.
Also, when you're listening, slightly nod your head in the way
that you are approving the message  that you are receiving that way helping the
person who's sharing whatever message they are sharing with you feel at ease. This
can also work for you if you're going to
ask for something, maybe a promotion work,
or maybe you want to get accepted to a
certain job position. When you're
speaking nod your head a bit and that
way you are giving a more affirmative
message to the person that you're having
a conversation with. It's likely that
they're going to agree with you more
when you're slightly nodding your head
when you're talking to them. Thank you so
much guys for watching my videos and I
love hearing your comments. I would love
to hear your feedback on this series of
videos and please do let me know what
are some topics that you would want to
learn more about regarding body language,
or perhaps etiquette, and I'll be more
than happy to film some more for you.
