I
Received this email from Spain
Where someone says I
Came across you on YouTube during an interview you gave about your experiences with a car taller
His teachings have absolutely changed my life
And I feel like I'm finally leaving the prison that used to be my complete identification
With my thoughts and old patterns
Although I am extremely grateful for everything I have had some difficulty as
I am 20 years old and
Now more than ever. I am having trouble relating with people my age. I
Have much different interests now
because of my desire for peace and
it seems all my friends want to do is get drunk every day I
Would be deeply grateful for any words you could share with me that could help me through this difficult situation
20 years old is quite young to have this level of awareness itself which is quite amazing
But the thing is that life is about relationships
Daily living means your relationship with others
Whether it is your family whether it is your friends your colleagues the?
Stranger you meet or even the beggar on the road and
The quest is to have relationships which are harmonious to
Be comfortable with others and to be comfortable with oneself
Or
not to be
Uncomfortable with others
and
Not to be uncomfortable with oneself
Now supposing you feel that over time your understanding of life the prism through which you view it is
changing based on
Teachings you have come across books you have read. What does happen is sometimes
You cannot relate to a particular set of people who were in your life
Earlier because there is a shift in your own awareness
consciousness
understanding, but it might just be social conditioning, which makes you want to hold on to those relationships, so
There's no harm in not wanting to be with the same set of friends anymore
Unless you derive a sense of self from those old relationships in which case you will continue sustaining them
but if you feel that I
Have new interests now, which are not shared by this old set that's fine
And
The question is that as long as you can accept that
They too are on their own journey as planned by the divine
So there's no resentment that they are like this they get drunk every day. I don't there's no judgement
They are who they are how God made them in the social structure and context God has placed them in
You have been now placed your conditioning has been transformed in a certain way
How God has planned it how the divine has planned it so?
You move on you might get a new set of friends you might not we don't know
but
When there's a full acceptance of people for who they are?
Then the relationship is harmonious
Because we are not saying that I don't like who they are now and therefore. I'm moving away from them
It just does not resonate with you that vibration does not resonate with who you are today
So even this
Getting drunk every day
Is nothing but a relationship
It is the relationship of that person with alcohol
Here we were speaking of a relationship with people
There it is a relationship with alcohol, so
And nobody is doing it deliberately
When there's pain they're suffering
In the formative years alcohol is something one takes to to suppress that
The mean they identified me
You know we say people get high after having a few drinks. They are able to express themselves more because of that
so there's
Suffering in that instance and in fact
It looks like
The kids are having fun. People are having fun, but
That's what happens in the formative years. They will find their own way out the light will shine that's their journey so one needn't
Feel guilty about not wanting to meet
People one was meeting from the past who were friends
It's not that you are withdrawing your friendship, or you are doing something see again. It's a question of doership
The guilt will arise if you feel you are doing something by withdrawing, but if you allow the natural
to flow the river takes you away from
Where you are not meant to be and you will flow in a direction where it is taking you towards so?
Like we used to say go with the flow like h2o
That's it
Accept others for who they are accept yourself for who you are, there's no problem
How people should be that is where the problem comes and
Then there are those who even give free advice you should be like this you should not be like that
Especially those on the spiritual path
Because they feel that their way is the right way, but that is again a subject/object split I
See myself as separate from you, so I pass judgment on you
Because you are an object in my sphere in my manifestation. I am apart from you
So then I say this should be that way you should behave that way you should not behave that way
Little realizing that I am an object in your consciousness so we are both actually objects
But what I do is I play the role of sudo subject I take on the role of the divine of God and say
This is the way things should be how you should behave how you should act
But little knowing that
That is based on my own filters my own conditioning is making me say how you should be?
So there is no end to this
When the need for that drops
Then you realize you have the total acceptance of everyone for who they are
There is no need not even an iota of need to change someone
God knows best I mean are we trying to play his role?
So let life flow like h2o
