so with all of the James Charles Tati
Westbrook drama going on I couldn't help
but think about all the other people who
are caught in the crossfire of this
thing so in this video I want to talk
about Tana Mongeau but more importantly see
what the kind of lessons we can pull
from this thing what is up everybody
this is Chris from the rewired soul
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I have just video ideas and topics just
going crazy in my head and like again
the purpose of these videos is to
explain the situation explain what's
going on and just like how I think about
these I think about all the other
situations I'm like what if there's any
lessons that we can pull from this thing
because one of the issues that a lot of
us struggle with is when we're in front
groups right like when we have a group
of friends and this person doesn't like
this person to this person doesn't like
this person to this these two people
have beef like what's going on and Tana
mongeau is kind of caught up in the middle
of this thing so with this obviously you
know when this first started kind of
bubbling up and talk to you Tati Westbrook
first made her Instagram live stream
against James Charles there was a lot of
you know speculation and things like
that if people taking sides and more has
come out but talk to us rook even
addressed like Shane Dawson being in you
know in in a video with her and they're
playing around you know with makeup and
everything and then Geoffrey star you
know he's he's talking about some
situations so I'm gonna make a video I'm
going to make another video just
explaining like cancel culture James
Charles and like what should his
sentence B right like when we look at
these situations when anything blows up
what should somebody's sentence me like
I don't know if any of you watch coffee
break but he has a whole thing on public
shaming and everything like that but
anyways it's got to be rough losing
these friends because one of the first
times I had no idea who James Fellowes
was but I was a fan of Shane Dawson I
remember when Shane Dawson did his mini
series with Geoffrey star that's what I
was introduced to James falls right when
James Charles went over to Jeffrey's
house and they did up Shane Dawson and
everything like that and most recently
you know Tana Mongeau has had James falls
back when it comes to the gauge Gomez
situation tena mojo was you know she she
did she publicly was there for James and
she also liked even Dee engaged and like
Tana is pretty ride-or-die right and now
I just can't help the faint because
obviously Tana Mojo's friends with Shane
Dawson and everything like that and it
gets all complicated with this network
of friends so what I want to talk about
is when when somebody's going through
something like somebody in your friend
group like I think I think it's really
easy for people to just stop and my turn
their back on somebody and it's really
easy to do these things but I don't know
I had my my criticisms of Tana mojo in
the past but she's this really like
ride-or-die type of person and what's
interesting about Tana mojo - is that
like she is very against canceled
culture she's been very vocal about that
right and when it comes to friends like
I I am somebody who was a recovering
drug addict and alcoholic and I get it
man like I get it like you guys and
here's a thing like I in my past I give
my younger days when I was addicted to
opioids and alcohol like I did things
might be I don't know objectively or for
some people subjectively worse than what
James Charles did I was not a great
person I was not a great human being
right
and as he kind of empathize with him
because a bunch of people cut me off
when I first got sober I had very few
friends right but I did have a couple
Ryder guy friends who stuck by my side
but they realized like I screwed up and
then I was trying to get better but
here's the thing like one of my best
friends one of my best friends in the
world who I grew up with she's like a
sister to me
when I went into the hospital like
almost seven years ago to this day that
I'm recording this video I went into the
hospital with congestive heart failure
like a 10% chance of living all these
other things and when I got out and I
got sober and I saw her getting on my
feet like she basically told me she said
Chris I'm here for you like you've been
screwing up I'm here for you but listen
like this is your last chance with me if
you don't get your act together I'm done
and like that that really helped me out
because it was a form of accountability
I already lost other friends so like it
wasn't this kind of like idle threat I
knew friends and family members would
cut me off I didn't get my act together
right but she gave me like this this one
last chance because she knew that I
understood the severity of my situation
and like what are the things that we
always got to be careful of when it
comes to sticking around with our
friends even after they've screwed up is
teetering between the line of supportive
and enabling right like when we stick
around when somebody keeps screwing up
when we stick around when a person
doesn't change when we stick around
through all of that
now we're enabling them right and I
don't know like that that's kind of what
I'm curious about when it comes to Tana
mojo and the dynamic with James Charles
like will she stick around no matter
what because we all need either die
people in our corner we all need people
in our corner who are going to be there
for us no matter what he'll make videos
about Gypsy Rose Blanchett recently do
she was Blanchard has people in her
family who's like have her back
obviously you know much different
situation but like we all need somebody
so like Tana mojo I'm hoping it's going
to be there for ginger goods he's he's
lost a lot of people recently but is she
going to stick around even if he doesn't
change you know what I mean but the last
thing I kind of want to touch on in this
video is just how friend groups can get
broken up and all of this stuff and this
is a difficult situation for anybody if
you've ever been in this situation like
I'm thinking about all of the different
people involved in this because all
these fun groups are intertwined and and
here's the thing like I'm looking back
in my own history of like friend groups
and like things happening and all those
other things and at the end of the day I
think for a lot of us you know
forgiveness is huge empathy is huge
giving people another chance like having
these conversations it's up to these
people because it's all played out so
publicly you know and and here's the
thing like if I were to put myself in
somebody look in somebody's shoes right
if somebody shoes like in this situation
a Shane Dawson or Tana mojo or whoever
it is I would I would totally understand
in Tottie's well why in takis corner
like listen I understand why you got to
be dumb with James I understand that
that makes sense to me you know what I
mean but on the other hand it's like I'm
still I'm gonna talk to him and see see
if there's any change or anything like
that that you know he's willing to make
or anything because at the end of the
day only times you gonna tell with this
situation only times gonna tell like
James Charles just released that that
apology video yesterday and to be honest
to be honest like a lot of people say
how awful it was I've seen many apology
videos of my BAE that one wasn't too bad
alright but
we we struggle with this like black and
white thinking a lot of a lot of the
time and while James falls does have all
of his screw-ups over this time and it
seems like Tati like was much more hurt
than some other people might be in the
situation les more stories come out but
at the end of the day like we need to
realize that there are great areas and
something that I just keep trying to
teach people is that we need to separate
the behaviors from the person you know
what I mean - like just condemn somebody
for their behaviors and not understand
like you know that but people grow
people change and everything and hell it
might take James Charles years for that
to happen you know like I've had I have
had people in my life come back years
later and just understand that I'm a new
person I'm a different person but how
like for some people it took years it
took people years to forgive me but at
the end of the day at the end of the day
like with everything that James Charles
is going through right now like I would
hope I would hope that somebody like
Tana mojo like at least sticks around
for him because I can see other people
separating themselves from them like or
they can't even publicly defend him
because the hate mob will just come for
them but I hope I'm hoping for James
Charles mental and emotional well-being
behind the scenes that's somebody like
Tana mojo is at least there for them you
know what I mean because again at the
end of the day we all need somebody in
our corner no matter what we're going
through all right but let me know down
in the comments below have you ever
struggled with this where you're in a
friend group and you know something like
this happened and you're forced to or
you feel like you're forced to take
sides or anything like that or like how
have you go with that situation with
this is something that happens to a lot
a lot of people all right anyways that's
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