hello this is very weird for me
I'm over 10 000 subscribers now in fact
i'm over
over 11 000 subscribers now in the week
I
gave people to give me questions I
gained nearly 2 000 more subscribers
what is going on
thank you all so much it has been very
unexpected and
a very weird two months for me
but I am very very grateful and I have
some questions to answer from people so
let's not waste time let's just do that
chris harper asks what was the weirdest
thing that you ever got in an argument over
with like a friend or family member?
so I don't really have any specific
argument
examples because I I'm I don't tend
to get into argument I try my very
hardest to avoid arguments where I can
but one I have an example of a time when
I was just
inordinately angry for a very very
stupid reason
and that was when I was younger and I
was back with my family
and we were eating choux buns so you know
the ones like the
choux pastry like what they use in
chocolate eclairs for whatever reason my
well because it's choux buns my family
decided to start making puns about shoes
so choux buns to shoe puns and
so it was things like oh well this
hasn't got much
sole or
I can't even remember what the other
ones were but there there were a lot of
shoe puns and
it felt like they were going for it felt
like half an hour but it was probably
only about 10 minutes
and I just got so ridiculously mad at
this and I don't know why
in retrospect because it is kind of
funny I think
but like I was just so angry about
the shoe puns and that is possibly the
most ridiculous thing that i've ever
been
mad at someone for because really all
they were doing was just
making jokes and having fun and I was
sat there being
very very angry at them for doing so and
that's
weird it's a strange one I think shoe
puns
joyfulcactus494 asks what was it like
discovering you were ace?
and a similar related question to this
ethan chadwick asks
have you always been fine with being
asexual or were you upset for a while?
discovering I was ace was very much like
I described in my video essay maybe you
haven't met the right person yet
where I was reading the article while
watching despicable me 2. that story is
100% true
it wasn't some big moment of like oh
everything is different now this is
like wasn't some massive realization it
was just more along the lines of
reading through it and just like oh that
makes sense yeah that's
okay that's what I am cool it took a
little longer than just that immediate
thing for me to be like
fully come to terms with it like I had
to have it took a few weeks like
actually stopping and thinking and does
this
label apply to me do I feel comfortable
using it
I wouldn't say I was ever upset by the
thought of being asexual
it was more of a relief really because
the way that I
look on it now is that i don't feel like
I'm missing out on anything by not
feeling
sexual attraction towards people what it
more feels like
is just that's a thing I don't want to
do
so why would it bother me much that I
don't want to do it
you know I don't feel like I'm missing
out on a thing that
doesn't interest me at all you know I I
like say I am terrified of roller
coasters I have a legitimate phobia of
those
so I don't feel like I'm missing out
when other people are going on roller
coasters and having fun because I'm like
yeah but
they're scary I don't want to do those
and I feel a similar way about sexual
attraction it's just never a thing
that has really been in me so
why should I feel like I'm missing out
by not having it
it's not the only thing that makes a
person a person
if you get me tucker carlson hate
account asks
which video of yours are you most proud
of? and I've got a couple that I'm most
proud of for different reasons
in terms of writing I think probably my
best one
is the the marxist genius of sweeney
todd I feel like that's the one where I
just I had the most
information to put across and I did it
in the most interesting way
it's the one where like the through line
of the video feels the strongest
and like I'm just really proud of how
that one came out
other than that I messed up the focus on
the camera for so much of the video but
yeah I do feel like that is
probably my best written video and so
I'm quite proud of it for that reason
in terms of a video making like an
impact with people
the maybe you haven't met the right
person yet is undoubtedly
my favorite one for that because I get
so many comments on that video
of people telling me their experiences
or
saying that it helped them through like
telling people about being ace or that
they are going to send it to people to
give them more information
things like that it feels like I really
actually did something worthwhile with
that video which
it was a video that I was very unsure
about when I was making it
whether or not anyone would watch it
whether it would do well at all
like it was a risk really doing that
video but i'm so glad I did because
it opened my mind up to like oh I can
make videos about stuff that isn't just
movies
I can talk about things that really
matter to me I can put myself on camera
for a lot more of the videos than I was
it it really helped my confidence with
the stuff I'm making
and I I feel really good for having done
it I am
I will never not be glad that I made
that video that is
that is one of my favorites things I've
ever done auria asks
what's your day job? what's your
profession? and non-fiction books
recommendations? for the first one
about my day job is a point where I'm
going to say
that creators need to have very clear
boundaries with their audience
there are things about my life that you
simply don't
need to know in order to watch my
content or engage with me
on twitter or other social media things
there are parts of my life that are
private and need to remain private and
my day job is one of those things I am
not comfortable
disclosing what I do for a living
outside of this
that is my business and no not anyone
else's
no offense is meant by this like I
understand you're just curious and you
don't mean any harm by it but
that is something that is private is
mine I don't want to share it but as for
non-fiction book recommendations I do
have a few I've realised I should have
prepared them
and grabbed them before I will grab the
ones that I have off my shelf
one second so the first one of the ones
that I have
an actual physical copy of is lowborn by
kerry hudson
this is a memoir about this woman
this woman kerry hudson is writing
about her own childhood where
she grew up in poverty and got moved
from place to place by her mother a lot
and
her her childhood life was very unhappy
there was a lot of abuse there and she's
now
going back to the places that she was
taken as a kid to revisit them and see
if the poverty still holds true and what
things are like in those areas today
it's a very very interesting and
compassionate book
very eye opening as to what people have
grown up with
what you know just what the situation is
for people who've grown up in poverty
and the trauma that that
can have and leave a person with and how
difficult it can be to try and
escape from that I talked about this one
very briefly in the sweeney todd video
and I think it is a very good piece for
dialectical materialism because it does
just open your eyes up to things that
you might have not considered you might
have not known
so definitely this one gets a good
communism recommendation
this is romantic outlaws by charlotte
gordon it is a
biography of mary shelley and mary
wollstonecraft obviously being a big
frankenstein fan I am
deeply interested in the life of mary
shelley her life was very very tragic
and difficult
and the life of her mother mary wollstonecraft
was also quite tragic and
difficult in a lot of ways
they were two very brilliant women who
were
not really understood in their times
they were definitely not appreciated
and this book goes a long way to like
say
these are the reasons that they were so
brilliant these are some of the powerful
interesting things that they did and it
gives
it gives a lot of good context on their
life
and by like the ways that their lives
kind of
in some ways intertwined because mary
wollstonecraft died
after like just a couple of days after
mary shelley was born so
she never actually knew her mother but
in this book you get a sense of
how their lives were similar and the
ways that one kind of influences the
other
it's it's a very very interesting read
and there's a couple that I don't have
physical copies of
or like not to hand anyway one is
why I'm no longer talking to white
people about race by reni eddo-lodge
I've listened to the audiobook of this
where reni eddo-lodge reads it herself
and it is a very very important text
it's about race particularly race in
britain
and the ways that we kind of we've
covered up a lot of our very own
sordid past about race like what we get
taught in schools
over here is very very limited like I
was taught a lot about
the american civil rights movement but I
was not talking much about the english
one
and I wasn't really taught about our
history with slavery and things like
that
which is very very bad our education
system is terrible
it's an eye-opening book it's the phrase
I think a lot of people use to describe
it
and it's it's a very very it's very
widely recommended like a lot of people
have recommended this book and
for good reason and it talks about a lot
of things about intersectionality as
well like there's a whole
bunch of talks about feminism and how a
lot of feminism tends to
exclude women of color and how that is
not a good thing it's a very passionate
book with a lot of
good stuff I've got a lot of good reason
behind it I really really recommend
listen like either listening to the
audiobook or picking up the book for
yourself and reading it it's fantastic
another one that I don't have a physical
copy to hand I do have
a copy of it but it must be back at my
parents house is
meta maus by art spiegelman this is a
book
about how art spiegelman wrote the comic
book maus
so it has a lot of his research it has
like transcripts of the interviews with
his father
things like that a lot of like reference
photos and things
and it has with a cd that has an
interactive version of the comic maus
that gives
like when you click on certain things it
will go to to art spiegelman's sources
or to interviews like some of the audio
of the interviews with vladek spiegelman
it is it's like if you like the book
maus like first of all read the comic
book maus it is
a stunning important piece of work but
then meta maus just gives you this
deeper understanding of
how it came to be and it's a really
really fascinating read that I
really enjoyed marshma llowsxoxo
asks what advice would you give a
teenage ace girl I know that you
obviously don't have that experience of
being female but you remind me of her I
think that's a compliment that I might
remind people of being female
I'll I'll take that my best friend is
ace but they're also non-binary and they
never gave a damn even in high school
but my sister is extremely sensitive to
those things and she came out as ace to me last year
frankly I've been dreading the time when
everyone starts to get into a
relationship drama around her
those types of things usually stress her
out I guess advice to me as an older
sister would be welcome too
so I guess my advice for teenage ace girl
would be
it's okay it gets easier this would be my
advice for teenagers
in general really because being a
teenager sucks no matter what your
circumstances like
being a teenager has never been good
but especially with the ace thing
there's
people try to get you with the whole
fear of missing out idea that as though
you are
missing out on something by not
experiencing that and you're not
you are just living a perfectly normal
life you don't
have to experience something to know
that you don't like it
to know that you don't want to do it
particularly when it comes to
sex that is it it is kind of a big deal
for people
and remember I guess that
you're not wrong for not wanting it
there's nothing
there's nothing strange about that and I
will also say that
specifically for like teenage people who
are identifying as ace that at that time
your body is going through a lot of like
hormones are flying around
things are changing if you do end up
feeling differently about yourself later
on which does happen to some people the
sexuality is a spectrum people move
around on it
it doesn't make it any less valid that
you identified as that earlier so don't
doubt yourself whatever you are feeling
about yourself at the time
is valid to who you are and you are okay
you are allowed to feel that and I guess
advice to
a sister would just be listen you don't
always necessarily need to have
answers to people when they're having a
difficult time sometimes
people just need someone who will listen
to their questions
I should probably also point out that I
am absolutely in no way
qualified to give advice on stuff like I
I am
just some guy who is doing his best
but if that helps I hope it does but I
can't I can't guarantee anything I'm
sorry
halfpintrr asks ace to ace do you
have a favorite book?
and why is it le morte d'arthur well you
see I'm just such a big fan of the
jousting and also joyfulcactus494 asks
what is your favorite book?
I don't know if I have one favorite book
picking like one favorite anything is
tough because I feel like your tastes
change so much
over time and just like I don't like to
settle for just one thing
this is the best thing ever so I'll
recommend
a few that I have really been
important to me or like that I've really
loved over time needful things by
stephen king
I know I'm a basic bitch but
look you look at stephen king's earlier
works and tell me he's not good
okay okay his more recent stuff
yeah fine but his earlier stuff it's
good needful things
is it's just a very good example of
stephen king writing
a whole group of people very well like
he writes about this small town
that gets slowly but surely driven mad
by this
malevolent force and it's just a really
tense
really entertaining good horror read
that I liked so much that I tracked down
a first edition copy of it on ebay
is how much I enjoyed this book
I haven't read it for quite a while I'm
sure it still holds up though harpo
speaks which is
harpo marx's autobiography I am a big
fan of the marx brothers films
and harpo marx is my favorite of them
and
his autobiography is just it's a very
tender
gentle he he was a very good listener
and you get you do get the sense of that
in this from the stories that he tells
and he's just such a kind man
and it's it's a really funny read but
also like really
heartwarming and moving in a lot of
places it's
this one is very good very highly
recommended this is one that I just read
recently for the first time this is
loveless by alice oseman
now the reason that I like this one so
much is because it is an asexual
story it's a young adult book about a
young woman who has just gone to
university and
learns that she is aromantic asexual
and
it's just it's about her coming to terms
with feeling these things
and what that means for her the author
alice osman
is also aromantic asexual and so
there's just so much real experience
in there and it moved me a lot when I
read I read this thing
in like a week and it's it's not short
exactly it's very very digestible book
being
being a young adult book it is very very
accessible
and it's just it moved me it really
spoke to me if you are asexual
get a hold of this book for yourself if
you are allosexual
get a hold of this book so you can
understand your asexual friends better
just to stay on brand
had to have frankenstein had to mention
frankenstein had to use
the james dean cover because I still
think it is the funniest thing
ever it's just a really really moving
story and it always
has been for over 200 years now it's a
story about
abandonment and being treated cruelly
because you are different
it's a wonderful moving story that
speaks to me
and I feel so much for the monster and
I just want to give him a hug the dark
prince asks
why are you so fabulous? years of
practice darling rick d
asks what is the experience of an ace
person to live in a world where so many
things are about love
sex couples etc? it's odd
it's like you know how this stuff
operates and
how it's meant to be really great you
just have no desire
to do it I'm not one who gets too upset
or like hurt by the fact that like
everything in the world isn't your
target it's like bad sex it's about love
it's all these things I'm like
I I've got to a point where I have like
carved out what I
want from my life in my head and it
isn't those things and I'm comfortable
with that
but the couple's thing does does
definitely suck
like if everyone assumes that that is
what you should want
to be and that if you aren't pursuing
that then you're somehow failing at life
you know the the only goal is to
find a partner and settle down with them
and that is some
very very heteronormative bullshit
what I feel is the biggest problem that
is it devalues
the idea of friendship and it devalues
platonic love
and like I have friends who I care very
deeply about
and who I absolutely love and I feel
like my relationship with them
is as important as any relationship I
would have with
a romantic partner or a sexual partner
were I so inclined
and I don't feel like it's fair that
those relationships that mean
so much to me or mean so much to people
everywhere in the world are viewed as
lesser just because you don't want to
have sex with them
and that that bums me out that is
something that we need to
address and do better at is make
platonic love more acceptable than
understood
stormagedon asks what youtubers do you
watch? which ones do you think inspire
your videos the most
eg in style and content? and andre fergie
asks what youtube channels have inspired
you the most?
so in terms of style it's breadtube
basically you know it's
philosophytube h.bomberguy lindsay
ellis people like that the big ones
you know really established I think what
the
vocabulary of a video essay is and there
are a lot of people who are doing work
to experiment with that including those
people
but they were the ones who kind of
established like the platonic ideal of
this is the kind of way you know like
splitting it up into parts to talk about
the different sections things like that
I'd very definitely picked up from them
the basic presentation style of being in
front of the camera and
like describing things and then cutting
to bits over footage that
it comes from them and it also comes
from I used to watch a lot of channel
awesome back in the day
which they are much to my chagrin
knowing what I know now
but a lot of people from there were
still pretty cool and were definitely
big influences on
the kind of stuff I wanted to make but
the breadtube stuff very much
influenced me more towards making the
video essays so in in terms of content
much as I am inspired a bit into like to
talk about movies by these people
the specific things that I want to talk
about with it are very much just things
that
the things that matter to me things that
I want to talk about
anyway so content
I'm going to claim a mulligan on and say
I am inspired by my own tastes in things
lizzie slogotski asks what's your favorite
musical? and
jdprettynails asks what are your top 5
musicals? you can of course include
disney but I'm not going to include
disney because
they're not my favorite musicals there
are some good ones but they're not my
favorites
so the top five that I've picked and
these are in no
particular order other than alphabetical
assassins which I will actually talk a
little bit more about in a follow-up
question so I will just
say now assassins is really good cabaret
because
it's it has so much to say on its
subject matter and it comes from the
christopher issue wood books which
are important and chilled this this kind
of thing of what happens when
fascism is rising around you and how
a lot of people feel powerless to do
anything about it and how a lot of
people just feel like they aren't
affected by it
and there is a lot of very interesting
stuff it's saying that I definitely want
to do a cabaret video in the future
hadestown hadestown is a very very
recent addition to
my circle of musicals that I listen to
but it is so good
like genuinely hadestown
love it listen to hadestown little shop
of horrors just because
it's a classic you've got the alan
menken howard ashman songs in there
it's really dark it's really funny I
also
genuinely love the movie of that one
especially now that I've got the blu-ray
with the directors cut so I can actually
see the real ending
little shop of horrors is is great it's one of my
favorites and
sweeney todd the demon barber of fleet
street could you guess by the 39 long
minute video I made about it
like I say it's the communism musical it's
really dark it's really funny the songs
are
absolutely spectacular it's really good
detective rainn wilson asks do you
relate to any characters from movies
slash
tv shows or actors who are asexual or
portray being asexual
if you do please be specific on why do
you like them? there's not
that many that I've seen to be familiar
with in terms of characters from tv
shows and actors
I I don't really know any actors who
are publicly asexual that I'm aware of
but
in terms of characters the obvious ones
are todd from bojack horseman
who that as I said in the video
the lessons animation taught us I did
about bojack horseman a couple of years
ago now
that came at a time when I very very
much needed it
to come that was when I was figuring
myself out as ace
and so getting to see todd a character
who I already really liked from the
previous seasons of the show getting to
do the same
was like really therapeutic and helpful
to me
and I I like that they explored with him
that
asexuals can still want love they can
still want to be in relationships they
just might not always
want the sexual aspect of it and I think
that is an important thing
to explore I would also like to see more
aromatic explorations because
we've not really seen much of that and
so that's a shame
but I I think as introducing the idea to
a lot of people
doing the romantic side is probably
quite helpful
another one I really liked was florence
from sex education because again it
just really captured that feeling of
everyone else wants this
so shouldn't I also want this
thing that a lot of ace people
have to go through before they figure
out
what they actually want out of life and
in terms of
real people like I said there's not really
any actors I know but
as far as I'm aware I believe that john
frusciante from the red hot chilli
peppers is asexual
and I really like knowing that because
it means like
if someone that cool is asexual
then goddammit there's hope for us all
lebenslangbetaphase asks
what are your thoughts about cats the
musical? I don't really
know the stage version I I am vaguely
familiar with in the basic
concept but I don't really know that
very well I absolutely adored the movie
it was just the perfect kind of train
wreck
that I really really wanted it to be
like you you simply cannot beat things
like
every time idris elba teleports he goes
meow
skimbleshanks the railway cat we
unquestionably stan
he wears trousers because it is very
difficult to
motion track the fur onto the legs
while he is tap dancing goddammit I love
that movie I had a great time I bought
the blu-ray
I I own cats I own cats on blu-ray
and have watched it in my home for
pleasure rick r
asks how do you feel about the amount of
attention your doctor house video got?
very very weird I mean obviously I'm
thrilled but
it's it's strange because basically I
didn't
do anything to get it to become
successful it just sort of
happened and so I'm kind of glad though
that
it took a couple of months for it to
suddenly get algorithmed
because if it had done it right away
then maybe I would feel like I had done
something specific and done
something right with that video and I'd
be would be trying to emulate it but
because it just happened at random like
two months after the fact it really
drove home
just how like nonsensical and unreliable
this platform that I'm on
is and so it let me know that I just
need to keep making stuff however I want
to make it
I am absolutely thrilled by the success
I've got I'm overwhelmed by it
I had 800 subscribers a couple of months
ago and now I'm on like
11000 nearly 12000 so
it's been absolutely wild and I am
I'm very happy but it's a lot
it really is a lot but thank you all
thank you all so much
kay cee asks what do you think of the new
muppet series?
I think that it doesn't live up to the
potential that it could have
there are a lot of individual bits of it
that
are interesting like or like some some
of the bits have genuinely made me laugh
but then they just repeat them over and
over and over
it's it's been the same few bits
every episode you know and again some of
them were quite funny
the first time like pepe's incredible
pepe's unbelievable game show i think
it's called was
very funny the first time it's now
happened like three or four times and it
isn't funny anymore
okie dokie cookin was never good
lifestyle with miss piggy was never good
and they do them in basically every
episode
it's a real shame especially when you
consider the 2015 show
which I will I will stand by saying was
too good for this world
it was like a genuinely really well
crafted show
like one of the most technically
impressive things that the muppets have
done they had to build all these very
specific sets
and like the muppets were driving cars
and doing things that we'd never seen
them do before
like that show was like had so much
heart and passion put into the making of
it whereas this one feels very
slap dash it feels like they have just
like thrown some stuff together and
recorded it in like a couple of
afternoons and it's a real shame to go
from like one of the most high effort
muppet productions to what feels like
one of the most low effort ones
and I I would I want this show to be
good I want good muppet shows I love the
muppets
but muppets now ain't it egle
pilkauskaite
I am probably butchering your name and I
apologise
asks do you ever experience the feeling
of not being ace enough
and if so are the things that make you
feel valid? I've always felt right with
the label but sometimes I feel such
immense guilt for having felt sexual
attraction to my now ex-boyfriend
I am aware of the greysexual title and
it's probably closest to what I am
but I tend to avoid diving into really
specific terms
frankly the occasional encounters with
tumblr posts about my situation being
valid don't really help
and I have definitely undoubtedly felt
the feeling of
am I ace enough it's a very strange one
to feel because
quite often it's easy to confuse the
different
types of attraction in your head like if
I feel aesthetically attracted to
something you know if I see someone
and think oh
this person is a very very beautiful
person and I can understand that and
appreciate that sometimes your brain
will trick you into thinking oh
that must mean I'm sexually attracted to
them and then you feel but I'm ace I
can't possibly be feeling that and
it gets all bleh and yeah that's a
difficult thing
to feel there's no there's not really
any specific things I do
to feel valid I just I think it's just
important to remember that
there isn't any one right way to be ace
there isn't any one right way to be any
sexuality
ace is a whole spectrum and asexual as a
label
doesn't necessarily mean you will never
feel
anything like that it's just a very very
broad general umbrella kind of thing so
it's important
to remember that you can't do it wrong
you can't feel wrong about how you feel
things
every person is an individual and we all
feel things differently basically
kickin it asks how do you come up with
video essay topic ideas and what's your
thought process
on making those consistent scripts come
to life? also
thoughts on heathers? it varies from
video to video
so sometimes you'll just be watching a
movie
and you'll notice something that's
interesting about it and you think oh
that's like
that's a theme I could discuss and if
the idea
sticks with you for a while you know
like generally if I come up for an idea
for a video it's a few months before I
end up actually
making it because I'm working on
something else at the time if the idea
sticks with you
for those few months then you know it's
a good idea and you want to make it
you know if it goes away and you can't
remember it then clearly it wasn't a
good idea
anyway so sometimes you already have a
concept you want to talk about and you
need to find a thing that will make you
accessible so like you have
a political idea you want to discuss and
you need to find
a film where you can go oh but in this
film it does this this
this and yada yada sometimes me
personally I will just think of
a joke that I think is really good and I
will
do everything I can to make a video
happen just so I can tell that one joke
probably the prime example of that is
the one I did about
mickey's christmas carol that came
almost entirely out of me thinking of a
joke
did uncla scrooge just cuck donald
and like I I had to make a video
as soon as I thought that joke and I did
and I
liked it so and as for heathers I have
never seen the movie I have never
listened to the musical I have never
seen the tv show so
no thoughts on heathers sorry kaneesha
goyal or goyal I'm not sure how to
pronounce your surname
asks why did you decide to start making
youtube videos and why about these
specific topics
very basically I started doing youtube
videos just as
something to do I I like having a
creative
hobby to tide my brain over I I studied
drama at university and so like I was
into acting for quite a while
and then turns out acting is quite a
difficult thing to get into and
especially once you start getting oh
hello *meow*
oh come on then *meow*
so yeah acting is a difficult thing to
get into and especially once you throw
in my
weird anxiety brain into the mix it's
not good so I
I needed something creative that would
tide me over and I've always enjoyed
watching these videos like I said
back from the channel awesome days and
all the video essays that followed and thought
I can do that it turns out it's quite
hard to do and
it took me quite a long time to get to a
place where I'm like happy with the work
but I'm I am happy with it now
and the topics as I've said before the
just stuff I want to talk about stuff I
find interesting
that that's all it is is just you find a
topic that you
already have an interest in and want to
talk about and then
you can talk about it you will find ways
elizabeth hoofnagle asks
what was the first musical you ever
listened to? so there were probably some
when I was younger
the first one that I ever really like
really loved
and I really sat down and listened to a
lot was the producers
I saw the movie and then fell in love
with that and then I bought
the soundtrack to the broadway show and
I fell in love with that even more and
it actually I ended up finally getting
to see the producers a couple of years
ago no matter how many times you've seen
the movie
watch the clips of the stage show on
youtube listen to the soundtrack
nothing at all prepares you for just how
funny tap dancing gay hitler is in
person
kip asks we've seen you talk about being
ace but I'd love to hear where slash if
you stand on the aro spectrum
and how you feel about the distance and
closeness between those identities in
the community? and it's true I have not
mentioned
where I lie on the romantic spectrum
before
and I think that's largely because up
until recently I was still
kind of figuring that out the label I'm
probably most comfortable
using in that respect is greyromantic
and so
I I have definitely experienced romantic
attraction to at least one person
before and it's it's very rare for me
that I feel
that yeah I'm happy with greyromantic
because
it kind of it says that maybe possibly
someday I might feel that for
someone and want to pursue it but as a
general rule I am
I'm happy not being in that situation I
am happy
being as I am right now being alone and
loving my friends very dearly
but I think it is important for like in
terms of the closeness between the
communities
I think it's important for aros and
aces to and agender people so
all the aspec communities to support
each other
because we are the voices who are often
not heard we are the ones who are
considered to be
invisible in a lot of ways but i do
think
we need to be more vocal about
aromanticism
not being a specifically asexual thing
you know there are people who are
allosexual who do not experience
romantic attraction and we do need to
make that more clear to people that
you know aros or aros someone
someone let me know is it pronounced
aero or arrow because i have heard it
both ways
we need to let people know that that is
part of
other communities as well and it's it's
a very valid thing that people feel and
we should
acknowledge it more and not just declare
as part of being asexual
so yeah a lot of respect and love for
the aro community
and I think I'm greyromantic so
yeah so I guess did I just come out
again
dirtycommiescum asks favorite author?
and again it's not one where I have
one specific favorite also I've been
kind of trying to reevaluate
some of my favorites recently because in
in the light of all the black lives
matter protests
this year I noticed that like the
people that I would pick for this
generally tend to be male straight and
white
and I need to do more to diversify my
bookshelf
because I've got very definitely got an
unconscious bias there in terms of the
books I
buy and read and the only way to take
out an unconscious bias is to take some
conscious action I don't really have
many recommendations in terms of that
yet because I've only
just very recently started diversifying
my bookshelf and like it's something I
need to
get into more is more reading more women
more people of color more queer authors
so I I will in fact ask in this in
response to this question for
recommendations of authors I will ask
people recommend me
some authors that fit those criteria
because I want to read more I I want to
diversify my bookshelf I'm not saying
that I need to stop reading straight
white men altogether and I say I would
recommend some authors like
say early stephen king stuff I think is
very good neil gaiman
is some very very good compassionate
fantasy terry pratchett is obviously
like
so perfect and I will also just I've
also put down on my notes here I put
charles schultz who wrote the peanuts
comics just because
peanuts are fantastic and everyone
should read the peanuts comics
but yes I do need to read more more
authors who are not
straight white guys so please leave me
some recommendations I want to see that
I want to see those
victoria sf asks what do you think about
hamilton?
is it so great as everyone says? I don't
really care for hamilton I can see
all of the talent and passion that went
into it I can
fully understand why everyone loves it
so much and like I can appreciate that
it's just it's not for me much as I
don't personally care for it I would
still recommend
if you've got access to it checking it
out for yourself
because it's one the you need to make up
your own mind on whether or not it's for
you like I
I I can't say that like me not liking it
means other people won't like it because
I can clearly see why people do like it
but I would much more recommend just
listening to hadestown instead it's way
better
larissa asks are you surprised about
where you are in life at the moment?
did you expect to be doing something
else? I'm definitely surprised
but I have no idea if I was expecting
anything in particular
getting to make creative things and now
actually getting to have people
see them is very lovely surprise
yeah I I like say I had no particular
expectations for
where I would be in life because
everything has just been
designed to make you just complacent and
happy with where you are or not happy
with where you are but complacent with
where you are
and being anywhere is kind of a nice
surprise
so this this answer got
really away from me the marketplace of
dave rubin's ideas asks
how many cats do you have? please include
many pictures
and why include pictures when I can just
include him he is right here
I only have the one cat this is frank
or frankenstein for long he is seven
years old and I got him from the rescue
center
a couple years ago he has generally been
he was very very timid when I got him
and he has come out of his shell a lot
more since then
and he is absolutely adorable as you can
see
I think I think the camera is picking
him up here if not he's right down next
to me here
but I will what come on
there he is if you couldn't see it
before
nny nny the maniac asks what is your
favorite song or band?
so for band I'm again i
Ican never just
pick one favorite I'm going to go with
queen the beatles david bowie even
though that
david bowie's not a band but david bowie
tom waits
dr john and a favorite song
I would probably say like
I'm going to go out on a limb and say
going to go back there someday from the
muppet movie because
it is very very moving and I don't think
any line has ever spoken to me
so much as there's not a word yet for
old friends who just met
2-d asks thoughts on the void punk
subculture I don't know what that is
so none maeve doyle asks
what are some of your favorite desserts
anything with salted caramel I am a
absolute sucker for that stuff and a
sticky toffee pudding simply cannot be
beat
thekla graaf de asks pineapple on pizza?
yeah
it's pretty nice like it's not my
favorite but it's I would have it oh and
there there go my subscribers it was
nice having 10000 while it lasted
but they are
oh they're all gone now kay matthews asks
since you like sondheim thoughts on
assassins and pacific overtures? pacific
overtures is one I don't really know I I
actually have quite a few sondheim gaps
assassins is one of my absolute favourite
musicals that I mentioned it in the
earlier question
it's a musical about people who have
been
cheated and lied to by the american
dream
who have been told you can achieve
anything but then by living in the
actual world
actually you can't and they snap and
do the most unforgivable thing of trying
to kill people as a result
it's it's a really really moving show
and
dark and scary and funny and it's
some of sondheim's best work rowan
laverne asks quite a few questions
first she says I want to know about your
kitty he's a bit cute he is a big cute
aren't you frank
you hear that people call you a big cute
you happy about that
you like that
yeah what's your zodiac? scorpio what are
your thoughts on the metaphysical? I
don't really have any what song is
currently stuck in your head? the ballad
of guiteau
do you have a lucky number? no where
would you travel if you had unlimited
funds?
either the villa diodati to see where
mary shelley wrote frankenstein or the
godzilla hotel in japan favorite colour?
asexual purple of course
okay bye jairon miguiel mariano
asks recommend any other queer
educational youtubers?
oh heck yes I do I picked this one to be
the last question because I thought it
was
a nice note to end out on would be to
just recommend some of my cool youtube
friends
the first I'm gonna say is alice quinn
rose what I would recommend from her is
her series
either her series trans 101 which gives
you these really
useful bite-sized bits of information
about trans issues
and like she is very very good at making
these things accessible
and understandable I I learned a lot by
watching her videos
but in terms of a specific video I would
recommend she has one called the tale of
frank and alice which is a short film
and it is I don't want to give away too
much about it but it's very much
about the roles that people assign to
you
based on your gender and how that messes
you up
and gives you some trauma and it's
just so well made it's absolutely
brilliant one of the best
things people so mleh one of the best
things that anyone has put on youtube
I think next I was going to say bev
veach
bev does these really good like
documentary style videos
she like alice and bev are probably the
two people out of any on youtube that I
would say are actually
filmmakers rather than youtubers and I
know that that's
also how they think of themselves
because I'm friends with them and
to recommend one video for bev I would
say her video part of your world which
is all about the little mermaid
and how hans christian anderson and
howard ashman two people who are hugely
influential in making this
story happen and how they were both
queer men separated by
a few centuries but how there is that
commonality between them and it's it's
just a really really beautiful touching
piece
that I I absolutely love that one and
the next one would be
that jess jess makes videos about
about trans issues and about videosgame
I would recommend
one of her trans issue videos
particularly as like a really good
introduction to her channel
which is are trans women biologically
male which
that video really breaks down a lot of
the misconceptions that people have
about biological sex
and a lot of very good information about
intersex people and
all that sort of thing it is a very very
good breakdown
of the talking points that people have
and why they are often wrong
okay my my battery died during that last
bit
so I was up to
recommending laura crone her videos
aren't generally specifically about
being queer but she is much more of a
film youtuber but her videos are really
really good she's one of my favorite
people making stuff on this platform and
to recommend one specific video of hers
I would say
her video from last year called I am
nobody which is about this
very small film that you've definitely
never heard of and about
finding yourself as an artist and
learning that sometimes
you just need to make stuff and not
worry about whether or not it's
going to be good and that that video
just really really spoke to me
I think it's one of the best things
she's ever done and it just really moved
me she is currently making a series of
videos about the marvel cinematic
universe and the personality sorter the
enneagram and using them both to teach
you about the other one
it's a really really fun interesting
series with a lot of really great
character analysis
so I would recommend those as well but I
would
mostly I would recommend I'm nobody as
like the perfect place
to find laura's channel the next one I
want to recommend
is ms lola ms lola is a friend of
mine she makes very very good videos
about literature so the one that's most
popular on her channel is she did
the definitive video essay on lolita so
the video I would recommend from lola is
one she had out just a few weeks ago
called
the absurd horror of marge simpson which
is
using the simpsons to teach you about
absurdist philosophy and using absurdist
philosophy to teach you about the
simpsons
it's absolutely fantastic moving
like funny she does a level of analysis
with
the simpsons that I think is kind of
unprecedented but also
it's very very based strongly in
literature
and in the myth of sisyphus and in
samuel beckett's endgame
and there is a lot of very very good
stuff that she's doing there she
she continues to impress me with pretty
much everything
she does and also she's just like a
really nice person to be friends with so
yeah and the last one I'm going to
recommend is transparency
transparency uh it's kiki and alicia
a couple of trans women who make some
really good videos generally about
videosgame
but also about a lot of social issues
like they use the videosgame
to teach you about the social issues
they sneak those things in there they're
clever like that
the video I would recommend from them as
being a really good place to start would
be their video queering animal crossing
which teaches you how to apply queer
theory to things
via looking animal crossing they make
some very very
interesting nuanced videos that are very
very fun
like and they work in like so many like
great visual gangs as they go
they're great absolutely definitely
check out transparency if you haven't
and that is all the names I have down on
my list of people that I should shout
out I also totally forgot to mention
this while I was actually
recording the thing but I will link all
the specific videos that I just
mentioned
in the etc so go check them out tell
people I sent you
be nice to my cool youtube friends that
was the last question
so I want to say thank you all so much
for asking me questions and
for being interested enough to check out
my answers to them I guess
thank you so much for getting me past
10000 subscribers it has been a surreal
experience
and I'm so grateful I I cannot express
that enough
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