There will be no mentorship and no coaching
in today's video.
I need to get something off my chest and I
am just going to talk to you as a friend.
Something happened a few days ago and I think
it's really important that I share this on
YouTube and reach as many people as I can
because I think it's extremely important that
people are aware of this.
For those of you who have been following me
know that I worked 9 to 5 at a desk job for
9 years of my life, over 9 years, 9 to 10
years.
And I started doing this when I was 18, 19
years old.
3 years ago, I decided to take on entrepreneurship.
I found out about Amazon FBA.
I found out about starting my own YouTube
channel, making money online and I will just
never go back to a 9 to 5 job.
That's just me, alright?
That's just me.
And that's something I've made a decision
on and you may be different.
Maybe you love your 9 to 5.
And that's great.
That is extremely awesome.
I am happy for you if you are someone that
enjoys your 9 to 5.
I do have some people in my life where they
actually enjoy it.
And that's great.
However, it's just really discouraging when
I receive a call from my parents'.
I received a call from my parents - actually
let's back up a little.
Growing up, I have traditional Asian parents.
And if you guys don't know what that means,
it's basically parents that try to mold you
into working a 9 to 5 job and being slaved
around by someone else for the rest of your
life because that is what they believe in.
That's in their blood.
Growing up, my parents have always taught
me, "Tamara, go get a proper education for
9, 10 years, be left in debt, and then finally
go get a job, and then work until you're 65,
retire, and die."
That's just what they wanted me to do.
And when I stopped working 9 to 5 a few years
ago, they were extremely disappointed in me.
In fact, they were really worried, extremely
disappointed, and felt like they failed as
being parents because I guess being a parent,
you always want your kids to grow up a certain
way.
You always want to mold your kids and tell
them to do things that are safe for them,
never tell them to take any risks.
I don't know if that is the same situation
with you.
But for traditional Asian parents, that was
my situation.
And my parents were just, they never believed
in me because I have an older sibling, I have
a brother, and he was doing so well in school.
So well.
And they always though I was like the loser
that will get left behind and make nothing
out of herself, until I started my online
business and everything started going really
well for me.
And now when they know that I have become
successful, they are still trying to influence
me into going back to working a 9 to 5 job
where I was literally making pennies.
I was making $3,000 every month.
Which is impossible to survive if you live
where I live.
I am from Vancouver, Canada, and everything
here is really expensive.
But they still, today, they have, they try
influence me in all of these ways where it's
like, "Tamara, why the F are you not going
back to working for someone else, 9 to 5?
Why are you still doing a silly online business?"
Even though I have proved so many things.
I have proved so many things.
We just bought a $2 million house, I drive
a car that I am actually happy about, I drive
a BMW.
I've owned property.
My spouse has owned property.
We invest in real estate.
To me, I feel I am at a very comfortable,
happy time in my life.
I've met someone that I want to marry.
I have really good friends.
I don't have that many friends but I have
enough people in my life where I am extremely
happy about.
And I did this because I just did not believe
in going to a 9 to 5 job.
I just really wanted to make more money my
whole life and experience a better life, experience
freedom, and have the finer things in life.
That was always me.
It's just so discouraging having someone,
having people in your life, where they disagree
with you and try to push you in a different
direction.
With my parents, I am pooping on them and
I am not saying they are wrong and I don't
hate them but at the same time, I just want
to stress that it's so hard to get to where
you want to be in your business if you constantly
have these people tell you other things.
Especially when it's your loved ones.
Especially when it's your spouse, when it's
your parents, if it's your best friend, right?
They are constantly feeding you crap in your
head and asking you, "why are you doing this?
This is so stupid.
Just get a normal job."
But you can't because you've came so far and
the longer you are in business, the longer
you work on your Amazon business, the longer
you work on any business that you are trying
to build, people will judge you more and more.
People will become unrelatable to you.
You will start not - you will not be able
to relate to anybody because these people
believe in something else.
And in my case, my parents believe in getting
a 9 to 5 job and working for the government.
Oh my gosh, you get extra pension and all
that good stuff.
What a good life.
And I always, I feel like I worked so hard
to prove my point to them like, "hey, this
is how much I have achieved.
This is how much I have made in 2019, more
money than I have ever made my entire life.
That's how much."
And I am not saying this to be like, "oh my
gosh, look at me."
That's not what I am doing here but it's me
proving a point that you can get so much further
by starting your own business.
Well, if you do it right.
And I got this phone call from my mom a few
days ago and she totally shot me down.
And I am still feeling very, I don't even
know what word to use, it's just so discouraging
to hear someone in your life that has raised
you and telling you that you are still pretty
much a loser because you're not listening
and living life the way they want.
And that's the message I got because it feels
like everything that I have accomplished and
that I have achieved and all the hard work
that I have put in, my parents do not understand.
And they're still trying to get me off the
Internet.
They're still trying to get me to live a normal
life and be normal and it sucks.
It sucks.
And I need to get this off my chest because
I get messages from people and I don't know
them but they tell me, "Tamara, it's so hard
to keep up with my business, it keep up with
trying to be successful at Amazon or trying
to be successful at my business because my
parents or my husband or my wife is in the
way."
They're in the way.
And that's exactly what's happening to me.
My parents, I feel like are in the way.
And it's sad because they're my parents.
I am kind of at the point where I feel like
I have to distance myself from these people
even though they are my parents because they
are just so bad for me.
We are just different, right?
We are from different planets.
I was raised here, I am Canadian.
They were raised in Asia, which is - I am
sure you guys know how it is.
It's just different.
It's a different generation now.
It's 2020.
People make money online.
People go on YouTube and call it a business.
That's just how it is today.
But a lot of the older folks don't see it
that way and instead, they will shoot you
down if you try to live your life a different
way.
This is something I've been struggling with
for ever since I started my YouTube channel,
ever since I started Amazon.
And it feels like no matter how much I have
accomplished, it doesn't matter.
I could probably go out there and buy a Lamborghini
and maybe even buy a $10 million house, but
that will never be enough for them.
It will never be enough to anybody who just
sees things differently because they are in
a complete different mindset.
It's kind messing with my brain a little and
I try not to let it bother me.
But I just have to get this off my chest.
I feel like there's so many people online
that could possibly relate to what I am saying
right now and it's so hard.
It's so hard because you love these people
and I almost feel guilty because they are
my parents, I love them but I can't be around
them.
I just can't because it's so bad.
Because we are so different.
And we have different belief systems and you
can't change that.
Just so you know, you cannot change people.
People have to change themselves from within,
right?
It's like trying to talk a friend into entrepreneurship.
Let's say you have a BFF or a circle of friends
who are completely different from you.
You have your own vision, your own goals,
you know how much money you want to make,
you know what kind of business you want to
build.
But people in your life, the closest people
to you, are just not on the same page.
You cannot change them.
The only thing you can do is make new friends
or spend time with people who are on the same
page, who are on the same hustle as you, who
understand everything that you are going through.
And that is why I have distanced myself from
my family and distanced myself from a lot
of people the last few years because they
simply did not understand the hard work and
everything that I have put in to get to where
I am right now.
And I just find that sad.
If you are someone that is watching me and
you may be in this position, maybe it's your
parents, maybe it's your friends, maybe it's
colleagues, but you are just so full of people
in your life that are constantly telling you
to stop doing whatever it is that you are
doing, to build your own business, to take
on entrepreneurship, to work from the comfort
of your own home, to live the laptop lifestyle,
whatever it is that you want to call it, you
need to get away from them.
You need to get away from them.
Do you have to completely cut them off?
No.
I am not telling you to cut them off.
I just think it's so bad for you.
It's so, so bad for you.
And it's so unfortunate that it has to come
to this - it's so unfortunate that it has
to reach this point.
I don't want to not talk to you.
I don't want to cut you out of my life.
I am not really cutting them out, I am just
spending way less time with them.
I do not contact people ever.
I will never make, I will never be the first
one to contact you if you are someone that
is constantly feeding me negativity.
If we are on different pages and you are just
getting in the way of my success.
And unfortunately, the most important people,
the closest people in my life have been like
that towards me.
And if I had listened to them, I would never
be where I am right now.
When I was talking to my mom, and it's not
just about business, she has this whole belief
or thought that she raised a kid that was
not living life on her terms.
And I just don't know why they think that
way sometimes.
I just feel extremely knocked down because
I personally feel that I have accomplished
so much.
I've changed so many lives.
And I am not even talking about money.
It makes me happy when I see other people,
when I see other people's lives changing because
of things I have taught them and from them
watching my channel, everything that I've
posted and talked about.
And every time someone says, "thank you, Tamara,
that changed my life, that really helped."
I am fulfilled.
I am extremely fulfilled.
I don't know.
I just think this is so hard.
It's just so hard and I need to get this off
my chest.
But going back to what I was saying, it's
not even just business where I feel like the
closest people to me have knocked me down.
It's about past relationships.
I didn't make, I wasn't in the best relationships
in my life and they knocked me down.
I didn't make the best decisions when it comes
to making friends in the past.
They knocked me down about that.
I didn't go to college.
They knocked me down about that.
I don't even need college.
I honestly feel, I don't need college.
This is just me.
I don't need to pay 5 figures, 5 to 6 figures
for someone to teach me something and then
get a normal 9 to 5 job, that's just not me.
But it's so hard, it's just so hard to succeed
at any business when you have people, the
closest people to you, knocking you down every
single time you try to get somewhere.
I've heard this so many times before that
it makes me just want to do something about
it.
But I can't.
Obviously, I am just someone on the internet.
It sucks.
And whoever is feeling this right now, I totally
understand where you are coming from.
And message to you is that I hope you find
people in your life that will support you
and will understand what you are going through,
that will not judge you if you seem crazy.
We all have that person in our life, where
when you start your business, they look at
you funny.
They think you're weird like, "why are you
doing that?
Oh, selling products on Amazon?
What the F is that?"
You get all of these judgments and questions
from other people and it's so, so important
that you remove these thoughts and people
from your life.
Maybe temporarily, I don't know, right?
But it's so important that you surround yourself
with people who are like you, who are like-minded
like you, who think the same as you, who have
the same vision as you, who have the same
goals as you, who want to get from A to B.
Seriously, people who are dead serious about
achieving all of their goals, people with
good habits, people who will not fill your
mind with all of these negative thoughts and
just knock you down every time you actually
succeed.
You have to find people like that in your
life if you want to actually be successful
at business.
Every time I talk about something like this,
I think about my own mentor and he has cut
off everybody in his life, friends, family.
I am not saying cut off cold turkey.
They still talk.
But from what I know, he just doesn't associate
any type of, he doesn't allow any type of
negative energy from these people into his
life or else you're going to fail.
And this is why, I strongly believe this is
why a lot of businesses fail, because everyone
is feeding them f*cking garbage.
People are feeding you garbage.
They are feeding you garbage.
And I cannot be more serious about this whole
message that I am trying to send you.
I didn't prepare for this video by the way,
that why I am all over the place.
But I hope you understand that it's so important
to remove these types of people and thoughts
or any kind of negativity in your life if
you want to really succeed.
It's so important.
And I am at a point now where it's I don't
even care.
I really don't care.
If you are going to be unsupportive about
what I do, if you are going to knock me down,
if you are going to tell me that I am a loser
when I actually felt like I've achieved something,
you do not belong in my life.
You do not belong.
Goodbye.
Bye bye and that's it.
That's it.
Find people who give a sh*t.
Find people who care about you and what you
are doing.
Find people who will not judge you from doing
whatever it is that you are trying to do right
now.
Just find those people.
And I promise you, your life is going to change
for the better.
It's going to change, it's going to be so
much better.
You will realize that you are going to allow
people into your life that you never even
thought existed and these people are going
to support you.
This has not happened to me since I pretty
much let go of people that were being unsupportive.
And then I started noticing, I started attracting
much better people into my life and that's
really the truth as to how things blew up
for me, how I feel like my income levels have
grown so fast, is because I was so set on
not listening to these people and not paying
attention to these people.
Anyways guys, that's the end.
That's all I have for today.
I do hope you guys have very loving and supportive
people in your life because it's so important.
If you guys do have a question, just drop
it in the comment section below.
Give this video a huge thumbs up.
And I just want to remind once more, in case
I get some weird messages, that I am not pooping
on anybody.
I am not pooping on anybody.
What you decide to do is really up to you.
It's really up to you.
It's not up to me.
I am just sharing what has happened with me
and people who are experiencing the same thing,
I hope you find some comfort in this video.
I am not telling you to cut off anybody.
I am just saying it's so important to surround
yourself with supportive, like-minded, smart
people who will help you excel in your life
and to be happy.
