Hey everyone.
I have something
special for you today.
SHAPE magazine
recently came to me, and said,
"Hey, Matthew Hussey."
"Why don't
you have a conversation"
"with your world
renowned boxing trainer,"
"Mr. Martin Snow,"
"and talk about some stuff"
"that would help our readers."
It was a great conversation.
I then said to SHAPE,
"Hey, SHAPE magazine"
"this stuff would be useful
for my community too."
And they were kind enough
to allow me to share
this exclusive conversation
with you too.
So without further adieu
here is myself,
and Mr. Martin Snow.
Enjoy.
Hello everyone
at SHAPE magazine.
I am Matthew Hussey,
creator of
HowToGetTheGuy.com
The world's leading
dating advice for women,
and I am here
with Mr. Martin Snow.
Legendary boxing trainer
who also happens
to be my boxing coach
here at Trinity Gyms.
I'm excited to be with you.
I'm excited to be with you.
We thought we'd do
something together where we would
bring your
knowledge of fighting
Yes.
my knowledge of attraction,
and dating, and love,
and bring it
together to talk about
how to bulletproof yourself,
your body,
and your mind
so that you're
not crippled by fear,
or the fear of rejection.
Done.
So here's my first point.
Tell me what
you think of this.
Okay.
Alright, you taught me
when you were
training me in boxing.
You taught me...
Number One.
Don't over think your punches.
Right.
You saw me
trying to second guess
exactly what
punch to throw, and
throwing the perfect hook.
Throwing the
perfect jab, instead of
you know,
practice form,
but don't get
so obsessed with it
that you never throw.
It's your punch.
Right.
So you can't do
it wrong 'cause it's yours.
Yeah, and it's
got your name on it.
Your signature.
Your fingerprint.
Fighters have fingerprints,
so they teach ya
this is how you sign your name.
Okay, but if everybody's trying
their name the same...
Forgers would
be outta business.
Everybody's got
their own thumbprint.
Everybody's got
their own signature.
It's... ya know.
Specific to you,
so go out there,
be yourself.
The one thing in
life you can't screw up,
and everybody does
is just be yourself.
And I think
it's that fear,
and that impossible standard
that people have in their minds
that stops them from
even throwing a punch.
Gotta be perfect...
You know?
The second
thing I wrote down was
celebrate the punches you take.
'Cause I think people
are so afraid to get hit
that they forget that
there's actually a value
in the experiences you have
even when
they're negative ones.
Yeah, you need to get hit,
just like you
need to get disappointed,
you need to get
your heart broken,
you need to...
Ya know,
that's what makes us resilient.
You can't go through life...
People wanna go
through life bubble-wrapped.
You gotta bulletproof...
And that's why
people choose safe partners.
That's why they choose
someone that they can walk all over,
but someone that
can never hurt them, because
they're afraid of being hit.
You once said to me,
dating is sparing, right?
Go and
get your heart broken... Like be...
You have to.
You're not made of glass.
And you condition yourself
to take a punch.
It's not like you just walk in there...
Okay, I'm gonna...
Ya know, you have to mentally
and physically prepare for that.
Sum up for me
the kill your ego concept
that you've
said to me before
which I found so powerful,
because when you said to me,
"All of that fear, is your ego."
What does it mean in
the boxing ring to kill your ego?
It means you have to...
What ever identity you have
whoever you were,
or whoever you thought you were
has to die,
because if that
person walks into the ring
they will not
walk out of the ring.
So when I
step into the ring
I don't know who I am.
I literally don't
know who I am.
All I see is
a guy over there
who wants
to take my head off,
and all I can
focus on is attack.
That's all.
I have no ego.
But that to me is great,
because then you're not focused on,
this is gonna be
embarrassing if I lose,
and instead
putting the focus on
what is it I wanna do,
what's the
impact I wanna make?
And it's the
same in a relationship, right?
Oh, my partner
did something today
that made me jealous,
ya know, or whatever.
Now I'm gonna...
Ya know. I wanna make
them jealous. That's ego.
Oh, now when I get competitive
in my relationship... that's ego.
I always ask
people when they're boxing,
I say, when
somebody's talking to you
do you listen to
what they're saying,
or are you thinking about
what your reply is gonna be?
And you'd be surprised
how many people when they're...
Are thinking about,
what's my reply?
And they're not even listening..
So in relationships...
So they're not reacting
to what's actually going on...
They're not reacting to
the punch that was thrown,
they're just going in there...
Ya know, this is what
I'm gonna say with my punches,
but they're not actually
reacting to what's happening.
They're not interacting.
So don't over think your punches.
Learn to love
the punches you do take,
and kill your ego.
I'm Matthew Hussey,
this is Martin Snow.
Come to
Trinity Boxing Gym
either in LA or
New York to see Martin,
and if you want some
help for your love life from me
I have a free guide for you at,
3SecretsToLove.com
That's literally where I give
you three things you can do today
to transform your love life
no matter where it is,
or what state it's in.
I will see you there.
Martin,
thank you so much.
I appreciate you being here.
Thank you, Matthew.
Always great.
Always great.
Thanks kid.
