hi everybody... Adrienne Everheart here with
you your feminine energy dating and
relationship coach I am so happy to be
with you today because once in a while I
will get this urge that I just have to
make a video I have to do something
right now I have to share a message with
you and today that message is just about
how much girly feminine energy ignites a
man's heart and can really cure anything
that's going on in a relationship or
even within yourself I'm talking about
depression anxiety being unable to
attract quality men into your life any
problem that today's modern woman faces
in my opinion most of it if not all of
it is rooted in no longer being in your
feminine energy so I want to talk about
that really quickly because I always get
a few people who give me comments like
oh my abuser would have loved it if I
took your advice or you know I can't be
submissive I'm not a submissive woman
and this is just not what feminine
energy is that is your misconception of
feminine energy and I believe those
misconceptions are part of the
oppression of women where women are
actually held down and we don't want to
go too back to the tree of knowledge and
get shunned you know and we don't want
to learn something new because we're
gonna be stepping outside of a boundary
that feels really comfortable to us and
we're gonna be learning something new
and trying something else so I use tell
everyone you can always leave a guy any
of you who are like I'm with a narcissus
he's terrible it's awful
you could always leave a guy that's easy
you can leave him it's not easy to leave
but that's always there for you okay you
can keep doing the way you're doing
things right now and just see what
happens or you can try something new so
feminine energy is probably going to be
the try something
part so I'm gonna teach you a little bit
today and we're gonna see if you can't
put these into practice I'm going to
tell you how kind of really ignite a
man's heart connect you help you be in
this place where you're more focused on
your feelings than fixing the man okay
women are obsessed with fixing men I
believe I've already seen four or five
comments come up and they've all been my
guy has this problem how do I fix it
he's withdrawn he said he's out of work
he told me he's confused he told me he
doesn't know how many of you feel me on
that your guy has some problem and the
problem is he's got a problem and you're
not getting the love and attention that
you want to be getting so you believe
because I'm not getting the love and
attention because he's got locked in his
feminine energy and he's cold I'm not
getting what I want therefore I need to
fix him I need to go on YouTube and ask
a relationship coach how do I fix my guy
your guy is not the problem he's being
who he is which is whatever messed up
version of a human that any of us are at
any given moment right we're all going
through something we're all experiencing
some level of growth or not so think
back to a man you were once in love with
and you had conversation with him and it
went something like this
you know I want us to be together
why can't we be together why can't we be
happy the essence of what you were
saying was that I want us over in his
happy place
the guy tells you well here's my plan
and his plan doesn't sound like it has
anything to do with the happiness that
you're wanting so you want to fix the
man your man is cold he's shutdown he's
depressed he's confused
you want to fix him instead of focusing
on yourself now when you focus on
yourself you're in your feminine energy
you're not in your masculine energy
which is fixing doing solving when you
get out of your masculine energy and
you're not like a microscope peering
down at your guy right and he doesn't
feel all this pressure on him that he's
got to be this way this other energy
wants him to be it's a lot of pressure
we have a whole extra leg on our
chromosome we have a lot more
information going on women do men cannot
be us they cannot communicate as well as
we do they are not concerned about the
things we are concerned about not to the
level and extent that we are they will
not be a woman a dog is a dog and a cat
is a cat you have to let the dogs be
dogs okay so the first thing is when
you're in your feminine energy you
accept the guy wherever he is whatever
he's going through you don't have to be
with him you don't have to stay in love
with his potential one day you don't you
don't have to stay in that relationship
let's say you're married it's been 15
years you've got four kids you can't
leave or you don't want to leave try
something new try your feminine energy
instead of being on him and managing the
house and managing your man I want you
to focus instead on what you feel so
over here fix the guy I got a tinkerer
he's my little project I'm cold I'm
lonely I feel isolated let's focus on
that
that is feminine energy right there how
you're feeling what you're doing with
your life how you're healing yourself
when you heal yourself an amazing
magical thing will happen to the man but
you've got to let it unfold you got to
give it time
space how long you give it is up to you
ladies who are dating who fell into the
girlfriend trap you might just be ready
to call it quits and you might want to
give this a couple of weeks and see if
the ship doesn't start turning around
remember it's this great big ship you've
gotta turn it around it takes time for
those of you who are just so ready like
should I leave should I go should I stay
should I get a divorce
try this try it for just like three
months I have a great book out there
it's called 500 ways to talk to a man
it'll help you will help you learn how
to phrase feminine energy because
feminine energy is so gosh darn new to
us because we've had it on a shelf for
so long because at some point growing up
we were like I gotta be tough I gotta be
tough and just to survive this world so
you put your feminine energy on a shelf
and you also believed oh it means I'm
weak I'm submissive if I'm that know it
means I'm a girl I'm a girl and I have
feelings and I want you to cry in front
of the guy show the guy how you're
feeling instead of locking yourself up
in your room and taking a shower or bath
and crying and calling all your
girlfriends and cry be how you feel with
the man be that vulnerable notice when
you're trying to control him when you're
trying to tweak him to be what you need
to be happy just today a woman wrote me
her and her guy live in the same
neighborhood he had something happen
with his job he's in his fifties and she
has clearly fallen in love fallen into
the girlfriend trap because she's been a
girlfriend for I don't know how many
years that's problem number one you
don't want to be a girlfriend for years
that's lowering your value and for all
of you ladies who are like I don't want
to get married marriage is not the
answer look at it from a different
perspective
look at it from a different angle it's
the best surest thing we have to seal
the deal sign on the dotted line
how do people solve lawsuits they give
people money does it really take away
your pain no want to get married it's
it's a legal deal that solves some of
the angst that you'll feel and it's
important to men the ritual is important
to men though ring the giving you the
ring is important to the man to us we
know it's just a ring we know it's just
all of our friends getting together and
it's a piece of paper down at the
courthouse but to the man when he says
those words and this switch gets flipped
on and he goes from just being your
boyfriend to your husband that's as good
as it's gonna get okay just like money
is the best way we ease someone's pain
marriage is the easiest I mean it is the
surest not the easiest but it is the
most concrete thing you can have to
ground yourself to another person so
she's in the girlfriend trap her guy of
to three years is suddenly cold I don't
know where we're going I don't think we
want the same things and she writes me
what should I do and I said well what
are you feeling well I miss him and I
love him and I want everything to go
back to feeling good for me
I want everything back and my world the
way it was for me to hell with what he's
going through
he needs to just fix himself find
another job do whatever you see what I'm
saying focus on you can this guy that
you've invested 2 or 3 years and can he
have a bad 3 to 6 months and trying to
figure his life out yes he can
he's totally allowed that are you gonna
walk out the door the minute it happens
because you're not getting what you need
that's up to you
but I encourage you look into other ways
to make yourself happy then the man let
me repeat that look into other ways to
make your life rich full and juicy other
than the man that's the key here that's
feminine energy you know my mom once
said to me when I was a lot younger and
I had a boyfriend that I was constantly
trying to tweak and fix always on him
tweaking and fixing him
she said why can't you just be happy
can't you just be happy and I repeat
those words to myself my husband is
working on a project he's devoting a lot
of time to this project and I feel a
little neglected
so I go and do some things that I like I
go and make my life rich Phil and juicy
but I still feel like at the end of the
day like where's my husband
like I want oh I'm so tired he says I'm
so tired I did this this and this and
it's all true but it's you know I want
more quality time with him so we talked
about it and we discussed you know I
feel a little neglected I want a little
more quality time what can we do
let him solve it I was met with a little
more demands or not really demands but
he felt a little more attacked like his
his uh his dreams will be under attack
so that's not gonna work so I got a peel
back from that come back around to it
circle back around to it another five
six seven days things were going better
he was making an effort but it wasn't
good enough I wanted more
I wanted it fixed now and so I said to
him I said you know we talked a couple
weeks ago about spending a little more
quality time together and I've noticed
nothing's really changed and he was like
you know he had that like I can't make
you happy and then I realized I'm doing
it why can't I just
happy why can't I write now where we're
at whatever we're going through whatever
the hell he's going through let's just
I'm just gonna write it out I'm not
gonna live a year of my life this way No
can I take a month or two this way
probably and I'm gonna continue to just
enrich my life make myself available and
then sure enough yesterday he took all
of us hiking on this very long hiking
trail me and the dogs and I let him lead
the way there was a time in my life when
I would have led the way I would have
gone hiking with the man
and I would have been leading the way
and checking for all the snakes and
anything else that might be hiding while
we were hiking but I let him lead the
way he pointed out to me wherever there
were little patches of mud or somewhere
I might slip or fall several times he
offered me his hand to help me get a
wristlet brief spot we've had a lot of
rain here in North Carolina so you see
how beautiful this is I'm just letting
this man lead and all I have to do is
absorb it all that wonderful he's giving
to me making me happy and giving to me
you see how great this is it's an easy
life I'm allowing myself to just be
happy and then we had wonderful
conversations I was making sure not to
run the show verbally cuz women we can
do that we can talk endlessly we can
fill in the gaps we can notice
everything we hyped up that mountain and
I just listened to him he told me about
how he used to search for morels with
his family and they lived near a lake
and that's how they would go hiking they
weren't really into camping and he told
me all these beautiful stories she and I
we talked about what if there was a bear
right now what would we do this is the
time that you're having with your
where your man gets to be your protector
he gets to lead you up that mountain
hold his hand out to you be there for
you look out for you protect you provide
for you when you get a guy in that spot
he's feeling good about himself so
masculine energy testosterone makes a
man feel good about himself did you know
the more time you spend with your man
the less testosterone he has it'll go
down how do you get his testosterone
back up time and space you're not all
over him and you have time apart and a
lot of you even and though you work
different jobs and you're in different
places you're texting each other and
you're up here in his head
okay you want to lean back a little bit
have a little more going on for you for
your life in your feminine energy not
making it about the man remember a man
feels good when he's successful at
anything his ball team can win it's a
success he mowed the front grass it's a
success he's made you happy it's a
success he made a dinner he overcooked
the meat but you and the kids are gonna
eat it anyway it's a success we're happy
we're not complaining let him have the
successes allow yourself to be happy
instead of tweaking and tinkering trying
to fix the guy your man is not a project
for you to fix he's his own independent
person beautiful flawed full of hopes
and dreams
yeah the lovin boy is are you try to
change yourself to attract more what it
is you're looking for all right it's
always gonna be some give-and-take with
that okay so that is what I wanted to
share with you all so much that polarity
of masculine feminine energy in your
relationship with your man practice
being in the feminine as much as you can
that means focusing on how you feel not
what I want
what
need what you can do to make me happy be
in your body if you think like what am I
feeling you're up in your head I don't
want you to get back down into your body
how do you know you're feeling sad what
does it feel like in your face how do
you know you're feeling happy what does
it feel like in your chest get
reacquainted with your body masculine
energy means like kind of numbing out or
up here I said it in your body
alright so hi everybody I'm gonna go to
live chat now and let's just take a
couple of questions about feminine
energy or if you're having any
relationship problems thank you sub clay
you said your guy's treating you like a
queen cuz you're out of your head I'm
looking for a question how to be more
feminine so erm ah let's start with
acquainting yourself with how you feel
when you are sipping a cup of tea how
does it feel in your mouth how does the
cup feel to your hands how does your
throat feel after you swallow a little
sip of tea start by just noticing what
you're feeling in your body with
anything oh hi my girlfriend Helena's
llama Channel hi Elena I wish you could
join in we were on Instagram you could
someone says he wishes I did more of the
planning how do you approach that so I'm
gonna guess that you're in a dating
relationship or if you're in a marriage
go ahead and plan the guy is telling you
what he he's giving you a job he's
delegating so go ahead and give planning
a little try but always come to him and
say what do you think let's see
see here okay
MV says what thought process do you use
to drop down in and widen and so we're
talking about dropping down into your
body and widening in through the hips
and that area is where your received
from a man is it not this is where you
receive from a man so you want to widen
that area and just imagine all of those
muscles loosening up I sometimes even
imagine my bones separating okay and
just I'll create that space below your
belly button you can even take your
fingertips kind of go like this across
your tummy alley says I have a guy
that's writing me that's a celebrity he
thinks I'm unique I was shocked at his
private message meet him in person
online anybody can say there anybody but
have fun with that my baby's father just
found out I was dating after four years
of being a girlfriend and wants to get
married congratulations
I love him but I'm not sure if he's
acting from a place and jealousy or true
love it might be the same place I mean
love is different for men than it is for
us they want to you know kind of claim
us and have us
I personally don't want to claim a guy I
want to be claimed
so if jealousy is part of that then so
be it a lot of things wake up a man's
masculine energy and losing you is one
of those things knowing he's losing you
filibus says new guy i've been talking
with online for the last two weeks there
seems to be a lot we want to talk about
and meeting he's wanted to meet a couple
of times meet a guy quickly do not get
in a textually exclusive relationship
meet texting is a fantasy world with
someone you haven't met you create a
fantasy relationship it is not real it's
you know we used to let it write letter
writing something but texting is a great
way to get to know someone but you're
only getting to know them on one level
so when you're getting to know meet
someone new you go couple rounds of text
hi how are you you have phone call yes
your phone you actually use your phone
as a phone have a phone call hi oh he
doesn't sound like a total weirdo he can
put together sentences I
I would love to meet for coffee sometime
okay bye bye if he doesn't make a coffee
date with you and he keeps trying to
text you drop it
hey you're so sweet this has been a lot
of fun I'm not looking for just a
texting relationship I want a regular
dating relationship if that guy can't
get it together and meet you at
Starbucks for half an hour Saturday
morning get him out of your life you've
gotta let guys out to let new guys in
every guy that pops in front of you is
gonna teach you something he's gonna be
there for you you can imagine it like a
little you know mini class session every
man that comes around your way so go on
a date quickly and please if you can
avoid long-distance relationships they
do not bring you happiness again they
become fantasy relationships unless you
know you're married and you're forced to
be in one last question
JC says I've been wanting to ask you
this I have a lot of male energy I like
to pursue compliment decide and plan
with a man is there any possibility for
this energy as well as my feminine well
for sure I mean you know I'm a little
bit the brains and my husband's the
Brawn and our family I will sometimes
think of something
that he certainly hasn't thought of and
I'm like whew I'm glad I thought of that
one because I don't know what would have
happened here's what would have happened
you would have been just fine you would
have been just fine it'll unfold so
don't put too much pressure on yourself
for having masculine energy and for
being smart being able to put things
together and figure things out that
relationship when you're with him when
you're hiking together when you're just
watching TV together or making dinner
that is where the magic is happening
flirting is a great way to receive
arrows you want to be open to receiving
those arrows and just notice jccc notice
if you're pushing your agenda on a man
like here's what I want to have happen
go do it and if he's more passive just
let him be more passive as long as
you're doing things for him he's not
gonna wake up his masculine energy guys
will sit back and let you do it you know
what I can't remember last time I cooked
dinner I can't because my husband always
does it he beats me to it every night I
used to beat him to it he does it now I
don't have to think about dinner anymore
I'll let him do it as long as he wants
to do it okay everybody I'm gonna close
this up I hope this has been a great
help to you about feminine energy how to
really ignite a guy's passion for you
practice being in your feminine energy
instead of controlling him and changing
him and getting him to be you know we
talked about well here's all the things
wrong with him that I want changed okay
let's focus on what you're feeling for
example I don't feel touched enough and
go to him and say oh feels so good when
you touch me focus on what is working
focus on that you know that one or two
percent that it is giving you that does
feel good
see all right all Thank You shaylene
Shailene sent me a super chat I'm
donating this once all this month's
super chats to Fred my little rescue
kitty all right I'm gonna let you guys
all go I'm starting to lose my voice
sending you much love mwah Shailene feel
free to email me if you need to I know
you've got my address much love
