I should have left I really like should
have left so many times and the Shane
Dawson interview with Alissa Violet in
the latest episode the ex-girlfriend of
Jake Paul we learn a lot a lot about the
major pom with YouTube but even more so
a problem that you're probably
struggling with as well what is
everybody this is Chris from the rewired
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helping you improve your mental health
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notification bell so yeah this is a
video that I I really wanted to make
because it was addressed this topic the
serious topic was addressed in this
latest episode from the Shane Dawson
series the mind of Jake Paul so what
we're gonna be talking about today is a
couple things right we're gonna be
talking about role models we're also
going to be talking about our false idea
of success and when I talk about the
false idea of success we're gonna be
talking about our idea of happiness and
and what our true values are because if
we can take these lessons that a lot of
famous people are struggling with we
might be able to improve our own lives
and when I got some of these you know
insights into my my own life and what I
was doing like my mental health started
to get drastically better drastically so
the first thing let's talk about let's
talk about at the beginning of the
episode Shane Dawson was talking to Keemstar from dramaalert right they were talking and they
shot a few really good subjects I'm not
a huge fan of keemstar
but he made he made some valid points so
one of the things that they talked about
was these youtubers or constantly
causing drama and acting a fool and
going crazy and all this other stuff
what they're doing is setting an example
for the younger generation of youtubers
I think the biggest problem is
most youtubers of our attention seekers
in the best way throughout I think it's
more important like just to kind of look
at what's happening as a whole because
this is something that's been happening
for a very very long time one of the
best analogies I can give you is about
the failed dare program did any of you
have dare did any of you have the DARE
program when you're in school like
they're trying to bring it back and I
think next week up in the shane dawson
series is over i'm gonna talk a little
bit about mental health and politics
just because the midterms are coming up
you should understand how mental health
plays a role in politics alright anyways
getting back to a point the DARE program
okay study after study has proven that
the DARE program failed for all of you
who don't know that their program is you
know different like police officers or
other people go to schools and teach
people like drugs are bad say no to
drugs there there was some good stories
about you know drugs like dare clearly
didn't work right but i just want to tie
this into the youtube scenario for you
so one of the reasons the DARE program
didn't work was i use my own experiment
so
I grew up I was in elementary school in
the late 90s I know I'm old
so I would go to school and then you
know the DARE officer would come and I'm
like oh snap drugs are bad I ain't never
doing drugs
that's awful right then I would go home
I ride my bike or walk home whenever I
was doing back there I get home and I
turn on TRL did they bring TRL back I
think they did anyways back in the day
it was terrible Carson Daly music videos
and see like what the ratings weren't
stopped but anyways I was just in school
but then I turn on you know TRL I don't
know let's say Snoop Dogg and dr. Dre I
like popping bottles smoking blunts wait
a second I'm like this DARE officer
rolled up to my school and like a 92
Toyota Corolla telling me drugs are bad
and he's making like $40,000 a year
meanwhile these celebrities are out
there partying doing drugs and drinking
so this is what we're seeing with
YouTube especially because YouTube is so
easily accessed to anybody any age if
you have a smartphone you could be on
YouTube so what kids are seeing is oh
okay at the full get rich get famous
right and this is gonna tie into the
next subject of rich and being rich and
famous that means you're gonna be happy
right and I think it's a point that we
discuss this like we idolize these
people we're trying to emulate people we
try to you know model ourselves after
that maybe we try to buy you know the
clothes that we saw somebody who we deem
is successful wearing it but like think
about where our morals and our values go
as we're trying to pursue these things
right so if you're a parent out there
start thinking about that sort of
thinking about where your kids are
seeing what their views of successful
and all that as a kid it seems great I
have a lot of money I can buy all the
toys I wanted and all that right well
here's the thing
we move into the next topic of you know
success and happiness I talked about
this a while ago on my channel before a
lot of you join me when Anthony Bourdain
and Kate Spade committed suicide like
every time a celebrity commits suicide
it is a reminder to me that money and
fame do not equal happiness there was no
guarantee that money and fame equal
happiness but let's look at a list of
violent situation and I hope all of you
watch my follow-up video like this isn't
a victim blaming video or anything like
that but I do think like I hope you all
learned like what my tough love is like
when we start to make better decisions
like and start to lose these false ideas
that money and fame are gonna make us
happy were able to make better decisions
right so Alyssa violet she was drawn to
Jake because of Jake's internet fame and
popularity Jake told her you know hey
let me use you for my videos and
thumbnails now help you be a model I'll
help you get you know just stuff like
that like when vine was popping he was
like yeah you can I'll put you into my
vines and then you'll get like a little
bit of a following and you can lick use
that for modeling and all that stuff
good comment on my first Alissa violet
video we're talking about abuse right
and this is one of those things where
you know people stay in relationships
because their money is dependent on the
other person or they're invested in the
other person sometimes it's a child and
things like that and it's very very hard
to leave an abusive relationship but let
me tell you this let me tell you this on
the side note in interviewing loved ones
and alcoholics right
some are wives some are children some
are sisters and like I hear them talking
about setting up these boundaries
cutting ties leaving that person right
like it's scary to leave that person but
they have to do it like a mother has to
protect her child from the alcoholic dad
you know what I mean and they they were
willing to take that risk and they moved
in with their mom they moved in with
their dad they did something to get out
of that situation and that's empowering
like my mom for example my mom left her
husband because if she stayed with him
she was going to die of alcoholism all
right and that's what I hope to bring
bring to this channel I just want help
empower all of you and share with you
somebody's little like these stories and
let you know like you do not have to
stay in these situations but Alissa
violet being young and wanted to you
know move out of the Midwest and out to
Hollywood become famous and stuff she
she made some decisions right and not to
excuse anything that Jake Paul did but
you can see how this goes in motion
right and constantly not just with
YouTube we see this in Hollywood we see
this with you know quote unquote
successful people how many times do
people sacrifice their values and their
morals or put themselves in a bad
situation for for money right before a
certain career I should have left I
really like should have left so many
times
and I packed my bags and I was I have a
medium I'm okay I want to leave and they
be like sorry you can't you're not
allowed to leave and I couldn't even
afford to leave okay
because we get the idea of success and
Happiness twisted a lot of us work at
jobs that we hate for a long long time
you watching this right now
you might be working at a job that you
absolutely hate because you don't want
to take a $5,000 a year pay cut let's
think about that right 80 hours a day 5
hours a week if you're lucky you are
miserable work right then you go home
and you can't even enjoy your stuff
we're just so stressed from your day and
because you don't want to get a smaller
house because you don't want to get a
different car because you don't want to
you know downgrade your furniture or get
rid of some of your expenses you stay at
a job that you hate because it's been
implanted in our brains that money
equals happiness I'm telling you as
somebody who used to make a lot of money
right I made a lot of money and I
couldn't understand why I wasn't happy
it's because my values were messed up
what what I thought was at the top of
the mountain wasn't there I was trying
to get the things the stuff and none of
that stuff ever filled that void that I
had so now today I can make better
decisions because money is you know
you're just making videos like would it
be nice since my values all aligned with
helping people like I'm constantly in a
good mood you know like no longer
sacrificing my values or my happiness
just to chase those things you know what
I mean so I want you to think about that
I want you to ask yourself
many times have you sacrificed you know
your morals your values your happiness
just for a little extra dough in your
bank account all right but I think if we
can start learning about that we can
start making better decisions and
improve our mental health on a daily
basis okay all of you the comments below
like what's your experience have you
learned that money doesn't always
necessarily make you happy I would
really love to hear from you down below
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