hey guys I'm willing to bet this isn't
the first video you've ever watched
about body language in fact I'm willing
to bet you already know quite a bit
about it so then why do you have the
experience that I have had so many times
in my past where you actually try to use
what you've learned about body language
and nothing seems to be obvious I mean
you see a woman and it looks like she's
doing some body language that suggests
she likes you and some bodys language
that suggests she doesn't and it's all
confusing and mixed up in your head why
does it never you know why is it never
seen to mix with what you heard why is
it never that easy and the reason for
this is it there's actually a whole
element to body language that no one
ever tells us and that's that our body
language is kind of controlled by two
parts of our brain at any given time so
when we walk out in the public we're
doing two things one our emotions are
trying to work their way through to what
our bodies do right you walk into a room
you feel insecure and nervous you want a
hunch ever you want to take up less
space you know you want to not look at
anyone in the eye you one look downwards
because these are all the body language
accuses someone who's insecure and
nervous but logically our brains take
over and we try to force our bodies to
show body language of confidence so we
purposely try to act more confident we
purposely try to take up space we
purposely try to look people in the eye
and do all these things to appear
confident and everyone's doing that so
any time you're around a woman you know
her she is logically trying to make her
body language say one thing while she's
of her emotions are trying to make a
body to another and that creates static
noise and makes body language really
hard to interpret so when trying to read
a woman's body language it can get very
confusing you can have a woman who loves
flirting with guys and so when she meets
you she is consciously intellectually
logically trying to demonstrate body
language that shows she digs you she's
flicking with her hair she is you know
batting her eyes at you she's crossing
her legs towards you she's leaning into
you when you talk she's touching you on
the arm she's doing really things
purposely while emotionally she feels no
attraction to you whatsoever conversely
you can have women who are really shy
and nervous and you can meet this girl
and she really likes you but she is
purposely logically actively charged
create body language that demonstrates
she doesn't like you because she doesn't
want to be embarrassed when you find out
that she's got a thing for you so this
can make it really hard to interpret so
what do we do about it it's actually
really simple we have to turn the dial
you see have you ever had the experience
of going somewhere and you're really
nervous and you're feeling feeling so
nervous that you cannot hide it anymore
you know it's being expressed by your
body that's what you have to do to
people when you really want to tell what
they're really experiencing now I don't
mean that you have to make them feel
nervous and insecure I mean you have to
make them feel strongly whenever we feel
strongly our ability to control our body
language diminishes and our body
language get to control by our emotions
so if you're talking to a girl and you
want to find out whether she likes you
or not you can't just rely on having a
regular conversation with her and hoping
that her hair flicking and her I padding
or all these other kind of body language
cues that we look for we can't just hope
that that's telling the truth the way to
get her to tell the truth is to do
something that's going to make a feel
what could that be well if you're
talking to a girl and you say to her you
know what I just got to stop you you are
so cute when you smile it's absolutely
gorgeous what does she do in that moment
now this window of honesty of body
language honesty it'll last for about 30
seconds tops maybe a minute if you're
lucky so you're going to watch her at
that moment you know that she does her
body language clothes off turn away that
she stopped smiling as much you know if
her body language in that moment is
negative then she didn't like the
comment you know if you do it and all of
a sudden she smiles more she breaks eye
contact but her eyes kind of look a down
like in the shy of isn't as opposed to a
way cuz I contact looking away it's
generally disinterest looking down as
shy and nervous you know and she gets a
little she gets more active in the
conversation in the next sort of 30
seconds to a minute it's a good Simon
she really likes you you know it's not
something that you say it could be
emotion so if I want to work out if a
girl really likes me what I do well I
might go to show her something on my
phone and go really close to her and
in really close so I'm in her personal
space for a very short period of time
and then I'm going to watch what her
body does I'll live away sit back and
just watch her right if she kind of more
excited legs excited a little bit
flustered or a little bit annoyed or a
little bit cold all of a sudden and
standoffish what is her body doing
because only in that moment is her body
telling the truth now a really good
example of this for me was I was asked
to go on one of Australia's biggest
radio shows and predict who had won The
Bachelor the two last bachelorettes in
the show were being interviewed and i
had to guess who had one who had been
chosen by the bachelor to be the winner
and both girls really loved him so there
were emotions involved but it was really
difficult for me to do the reason being
I didn't get to ask them the question to
make them feel something so I could
watch how their body language would
respond see it was useless to just ask
the girls you know you know how did you
find being on the show what did you guys
think of Richie's and bachelor you know
these questions don't matter if I could
have just asked these girls if I thought
it just looked at one of them and said
so how did it feel to to not get chosen
by Richie and just watch how her body
responds because she feels strongly
about being the loser and she's not
allowed to show it but when I when I
make her feel like a loser it'll come
out and if I picked the wrong girl to
say how did it feel to lose I won't see
any negative emotions there in her body
language and that's actually what i need
to do that's what you need to do that's
what anyone needs to do when the china
work out what someone's really thinking
turn up the emotion dial so guys that's
it it's really short and simple anytime
that you want to learn what someone's
really thinking you've got to make them
feel you've got to kind of turn up the
emotions you can't just watch them on a
minute to minute basis because most of
us at all times any time we're in public
we're purposely controlling our body
language and trying to lie with it and
the only time we can't lie very well is
when we're forced to feel something
strongly that's the key and that's what
no one ever tells you about reading body
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