Hunt Etheridge: Um, hi!
How you doing?
Rachael DeAlto: Hi.
Hunt: Hi.
You, ah, come around here?
Rachael: No.
Hunt: Why not?
Like, this is a great place to be.
It's a fun, fun area.
You don't look like you're having fun.
Rachael: No, I don't really like it here.
Hunt: Well, can I get you a drink or something?
Rachael: I'm good.
Hunt: Really?
Rachael: Yeah, thanks.
Anyway.
Hunt: Okay.
Yeah.
Rachael: That's what not to do on my part
if I was looking to actually be receptive.
Let's try it again with body language that
would show that we're gonna be receptive to
each other.
Hunt: I'd like that.
Rachael: He was a little offended by me.
Hunt: Hello!
Rachael: Hey!
Hunt: Hey, I'm Hunt.
Rachael: Oh, nice to meet you.
I'm Rachael.
Hunt: Oh, nice to meet you too.
So, you part of this meet up group?
Rachael: I am.
I love it!
It's so much fun.
We do really amazing things together.
Hunt: Yeah.
Rachael: So did you just start it?
Hunt: Yeah.
I just joined, I just moved into town.
Rachael: Oh, that's awesome.
Hunt: I don't really know a lot of people
so I figured this'd be a good way to meet
people.
Rachael: Oh, I'm here for you now!
Hunt: Oh, that's great!
That's great!
Rachael: I'll show you around.
Hunt: Um, what are you drinking?
Rachael: Ah, Martini.
Hunt: Oh, can I, may I?
Rachael: Absolutely.
Hunt: Alright.
Give me one second.
Rachael: Okay.
Hunt: I'll be right back.
Rachael: So obviously, that is an example
of open body language.
Where you're facing each other.
You're squared off.
The toes are pointed towards each other and
you're actually using touch to reinforce a
positive feeling.
Hunt: Yep.
I know there's a lot of eye contact too.
Rachael: Yes.
There's smiling.
Hunt: You know, guys don't make as much eye
contact as women do.
Rachael: No.
Hunt: But there's nothing more dismissive
than kind of speaking over your shoulder.
Rachael: That's terrible.
Hunt: Or when she's talking and looking around.
If you feel a connection or you want there
to be a connection, the eyes are the window
to the soul.
Rachael: Aww.
And the other thing that we can talk about
is mirroring.
Hunt: Yes.
Rachael: Mirroring is a really easy way to
make someone else feel super comfortable with
you without even trying.
And it's all about so, if I touch your arm,
you touch my arm.
If I move backwards, you come forwards.
It's all about really mirroring between the
two parties.
A way to make them feel like . . .
Hunt: If she turns around to look at the TV,
you know, you turn around and kind of . . .
Rachael: You leave!
But, it's just a natural way.
It's a subconscious way to let someone else
feel really comfortable with the situation.
You can even take a drink of your Martini
at the same time.
Hunt: Yep, yeah, exactly.
And it's part of actual sociology that we
want to feel connected.
And the quickest way to feel connected is
to be accepted and be doing the same things.
So, and you'll notice this when someone's
interested in you.
And it's also a thing that you can consciously
do yourself to let the other person know that
you're interested.
So, how 'bout that drink?
Rachael: Can't wait.
Hunt: May I?
