What she said as far as, you
know, the grind and everything.
And so I just want to
say that, you know,
oftentimes we talk about
marriage being hard.
Or I hear people say
marriage is hard.
And I don't think
marriage should be hard.
Marriage might be hard work,
- Yeah, it is hard work.
But it's not necessarily hard.
And If you find
yourself in a season
where it's hard
over and over again,
you really should get
some outside help, right?
Oh, I agree.
So marriage is hard work,
but it shouldn't be hard.
Yeah, I agree with that.
Some of the greatest
challenges in marriages
is, when you have two
people that are right.
They're both right
about their decision.
And I think that, how do
you mesh that one's righter?
You see what I'm saying?
You know, how do you
mesh that, those two
ideas, when they're both right?
OK, so I believe that
a lot of times, people
think that a marriage
is hard because it
requires you to actually look
at yourself, have introspective.
And if you don't want
to look at your flaws,
and how your flaws
may be affecting
the other person
in your marriage,
then it's going to be hard.
Because you're having to
stare at your dirty laundry,
or you're making excuses
for your dirty laundry,
and it keeps hitting
you back in the face.
Right.
Hard work means that I'm
going to look at where I am,
what changes can I make, or
what modifications can I make?
Once I make my modifications--
because first off,
a misconception
is, a lot of people
think that marriage
is supposed to be,
the other person
makes you happy.
No, the other person is not
supposed to make you happy.
Now, I will say the other person
is not supposed to hinder,
and be your detriment.
But they're not supposed
to make you happy,
you're supposed to
make yourself happy.
So if you can't figure
out how to do that,
that's why it seems hard.
Yeah.
