- Do you have someone who's inherently
an energy vampire in your life?
Some people consume
tremendous amounts of energy.
That's what a vampire does, right?
He bites you in the neck and
sucks the life out of you.
There are three types of people.
There are uplifting people,
there are neutral people,
and there are not-uplifting people.
(audience laughs)
Okay?
Let's define what this is.
An uplifting person,
I spend five minutes
with an uplifting person.
I walk away, I feel great and go like,
"Wow, that was an amazing conversation."
A neutral person,
I spend five minutes with them,
I walk away, I'm still the same.
A not-uplifting person,
I spend five minutes with them,
I walk away and I go like,
"Oh my god, that was exhausting."
Alright, and you've probably
experienced that in your life.
The next question is,
are they are transient energy vampire
or inherently an energy vampire, alright?
What's a transient energy vampire?
Just say John is going
through a hard time in life
because his dad is dying
of cancer, for example.
And for three years, it's
consumed a lot of energy.
You know, he's always down.
He needs uplifting, he's feeling very sad.
It's okay.
You give him that energy
because he's your friend,
and that's what we do.
We expression compassion,
empathy, and love,
and we support our friends
during difficult times.
What's someone who's
inherently an energy vampire?
Someone who's inherently an energy vampire
has always been this way.
For decades, they just haven't changed.
This is not an uplifting
human being at all.
My guru taught me the best way to do this
is to practice the art of
being affectionately detached.
So the concept of being
affectionately detached
is not to engage with someone, right?
Just to be kind, to be gentle,
to be sincere and loving towards them
but not engaging with them.
What's another way to protect yourself
from an energy vampire?
It's to place the burden
of responsibility on them.
If they fulfill their
task and come back to you,
then go out of your way to help them,
to treat energy the same
way you treat money.
It's a finite resource that
needs to be wisely managed,
wisely reallocated, and wisely invested.
If I took 10% of my energy
and I gave it to John,
that's 10% I could have
given to my spouse,
my business, the things
and people that I love.
Energy has no ability to discriminate
between what's positive
and what's negative.
If I took a watering can and
I watered the garden bed,
would the weeds grow or the flowers grow?
Both, right?
Water has no ability to discriminate
between the weeds and the flowers.
Whatever I water starts to grow.
Energy's the same way as well.
If I took energy and I invested
it into something negative,
it will grow and become more negative.
If I took energy, invested
it into something positive,
it will grow and become more positive.
Whatever you invest energy into
starts to grow and manifest in your life.
To know yourself is one
of the greatest gifts
you can give yourself.
Reallocate your energy
between people who uplift you
and people that don't uplift you.
Life is meant to be lived joyously.
Pursue a lifestyle that
results in happiness.
I never chase happiness.
I pursue a lifestyle where the byproduct
of the lifestyle is happiness.
In order to find our
what the lifestyle is,
I need to know what my purpose in life is.
In order to do that, I need to spend time
with myself each day to find out
who and what's important in my life,
take that finite amount of
energy that I have each day,
focus it onto those things,
and also believe in your ability
to manifest something in your life.
(uplifting music)
