oh there's a lot to talk about when it
comes to Jake Paul Faze Banks Aiyssa
violet and all this other stuff but you
know how we do here at the rewired soul
there's some valuable mental health
lessons to be learned from it what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem but
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I make a ton of videos I've been
recapping all of the Shane Dawson
episodes I do so many videos this is my
second video today and after this I'm
recording number three so yeah let's
talk about this situation going on but
first let me say this so I wish my last
video I just did about Kati Morton and
Shane Dawson would have gone up a long
time ago right there's no losses there's
only learning experiences this was not
Zak's fault this is my fault
well no no why why am i taking
responsibility for that right like
you've apologized with things that you
don't need to apologize for so here's
the skinny on what happened the hotel
internet sucked right it's sucked it
took like hours to send Zach this file
so anyways I ain't apologizing they need
to apologize to me I'm just gonna get a
homie anything all right so I'm back in
my hotel room I'm sorry for the yellow
tent I don't know if that's something
that zach can fix and his editing he's
amazing so we'll see alright anyways
back to why we're here
so through this episode you know Shane
interviewed Erika Costell mainly and he also has
a little bit of one-on-one time with
Jake we're going to see more one on one
time with Jake Paul I think in the next
episode I don't know how it's going to
be but anyways we a lot of people have
been wondering about the faze banks
Jake Paul situation with alissa violet so
those of you
don't follow this drama like I don't the
only reason I know about it is because
of my boy philip defranco covering stuff
that people are interested in is
basically erica castells
assistant was at a nightclub allegedly
face banks like attacked or put her in
our chokehold she got a big bruise on
her neck and then jake paul the
assistant and erica they made a video
about it and then face banks and alyssa
and I don't know like rice gun was in
that video like why was he in that video
and they claimed that Jake he assaulted
Alissa alright so there is a lot going
on here so I'm gonna break this down in
a few different ways and this is this
video like I don't know I wanna say it's
for young people but my primary audience
is between like 18 and 34 and I think
like every everybody watching this video
like I don't care how old you are but
like primarily like young partiers and
things like that like I don't know it
this is hard now I'm gonna sound like
Papa Chris the rewired salt you know
what I mean but like I hope to teach you
guys lessons you know from my partying
days and and it's just weird and awkward
because I know when anybody older than
me told me anything like screw you old
man you don't know right so take with
this what you will but I hope you can
learn from these experiences so the
first thing I want to talk about is the
whole party scene okay just going out
and partying like the best lesson that I
learned and I was forced into learning
this okay like stay with me everybody
the less you party the less dumb crap
happens
okay the less drama happens like it just
minimizes alright
because I was an alcoholic and a drug
addict like I partied costly and there
was possibly drama because that's what
happens when people get drunk friends
fight friends friends fight strangers
people put Erica's assistant in a
chokehold allegedly like dumb stuff
happens I'm not saying don't go out
don't go have fun I'm not even telling
you not to drink but I just want you to
be aware like if you are going out and
partying every single weekend and your
life seems chaotic it's probably because
of that you know what I'm saying and
it's just something that you need to
identify like there's nothing wrong with
just chilling at home like there's
absolutely nothing wrong with it like so
I'll show some of my personal experience
so like I said I used to party all the
time
dumb stuff happen I gotta fires people
fought with me I follow strangers just
insane stuff right well after getting
sober like I'm sober but like I still
hang out with anybody you know and I won
one thing that's great I'm gonna make
some videos about like why sober people
are awesome like one thing that's great
about me is like you hang out with me
you always got a designated driver baby
you always got one so this is maybe two
or three years ago and some friends were
at a bar they were drinking heavily and
they hit me up they're like Chris we we
need to go home we're too drunk to drive
can you help us out right I don't I
thought was saying that why don't they
just get it uber anyways I'm like yeah
sure whatever it was like a night when I
didn't have my son and I'm like whatever
I'll go pick you up and oh my lord so I
go down there like if any of you sober
people I've ever done this you know
exactly what I'm talking about whenever
I go down there and like when I show up
like chaos was just going off right like
um like it was it was some of my female
friends and like as I'm walking up the
stairs in this like two-story bar one of
them's like coming downstairs screaming
and cussing at you know another one of
the friends and then like it was like
about to get physical and guys were like
pulling them off and I'm sitting there
I'm like oh my lord what is happening
and then like it carries on outside and
they're like cussing at each other once
in the parking lot once up on the
balcony and then this other girl in the
friend group she just like drops her
pants and starts
urinating in the parking lot and I was
sitting there and I'm just I just can't
help but think like I do not miss this
at all like I just didn't like nothing
about that was like exciting for me or
like pleasurable you know and it it made
me wonder too and this is just a few
years ago right like it made me wonder
like how did I ever find this kind of
chaos fun but I know the answer to that
because I had a very chaotic life I felt
comfortable in the chaos so anyways I
just wanted to use that as a learning
experience or learning opportunity for
all of you who are young you probably a
lot like you got started looking at your
life and auditing it and saying okay
like what what is in my control of what
is out of my control like you can't you
can't control whether or not your
friends act a fool when you guys go out
but you can choose whether or not you go
out with your friends who act the fool
and I hope that makes sense alright so
the next thing I want to talk about is
these next two topics are gonna kind of
blend in with each other so when Jake's
talking about it he talks about how you
know they you know they made that video
and he took a little bit a little bit of
fault and then he put a lot back on face
banks and Alyssa I have known this girl
since I was like 13 this has been like
seven plus years of friendship which is
what makes this so hard for me to do I
did not see you assault anybody that
night and shame being the empathetic
person he is he's sympathizing with Jake
in that moment but we're about to see
him with Alyssa and I guarantee Shane is
going to empathize with Alyssa kinda
like when Shane was with Tana mojo and
then Michael Wiese right like when he
was talking to Michael he he's
sympathized with Michael he was was
Tanner he sympathizes they're like
that's just what how Shane is and
hopefully he works on that but anyways
what I'm kidding at is like Jake Jake
definitely needs to grow up like he was
just like talking and he had these
little like puppy-dog eyes and he's just
like yeah they say some things about me
hurting Alyssa and
wasn't true like grow up Jake like grow
up like yeah that sucks luckily like no
charges were pressed and they're just
like I don't know fizzle away oh you
lost some subscribers like whatever but
like like they instigated it and this is
another thing like quit hanging around
with chaotic people like you see what I
mean but like Jake deserves no sympathy
for that situation like they they kick
that thing off like I understand that
these daily vloggers and youtubers and
you know whatever but when you are
accusing somebody a physical assault and
you have millions and millions of people
like you need to think things through
and this goes into the second topic
about this Jake admits Jake admits and
even Eric had myths like okay okay
whatever I'll say this Erika's being
held on this like gigantic pedestal
right like she's the one who's gonna
save Jake and fix Jake and all this
other stuff like don't give her too much
credit here all right because I would
argue that you know even though she does
tell him how it is sometimes like she
kind of feeds into it sometimes right
like there is no chance in like in the
world that I would let a friend with
that many subscribers make those kind of
allegations because you saw both Jake
and Erica both say yeah we don't really
know it's true if it's true but we think
it was like what
what actually happened Jesus do you guys
know people yeah yeah I mean I believe
something very unfortunate something
definitely happened not what happening
like I don't know if I can trust her
really but what luck you just accuse
somebody of assaulting a woman like what
so this is why you guys ready for this
this is why I talk about mindfulness so
so so much
mindfulness helps us respond to
situations rather than react like Jake
reflecting on it like in the whole
hindsight is twenty-twenty thin light
reflecting he talks about how he could
have handled that better he talks about
how he could have reached out to you
know phase and you know and because he
retaliated these banks retaliated so I
was just looking at the comments on my
other video and I mentioned brain
science and somebody mentioned brain
science you know what Zak edit this out
if you have to maybe not I don't know
but yeah I'm gonna find her name so I
can shout her out because that's what I
am as a creator I have a family here and
I like talking to all of you
ah
so Kelsey Murphy Kelsey Murphy said you
should do more videos on brain science I
love it well Kelsey Murphy this is for
you so for for those of you who don't
understand how the brain works it's a
part of your brain called the amygdala
this is your your survival instincts
right it's where the fight flight or
freeze comes in so what happens is is
when you're when your pride gets hurt
when your ego gets hurt when someone in
your circle gets wrong your amygdala
goes off and it makes you want to attack
right so what happens is is that you
attack but in a second you attack
somebody their amygdala goes off so they
attack back and then you get this
never-ending cycle of retaliation
because the first person did it the
second person responds it triggers the
other person's amygdala and it goes back
and forth
that's why revenge and retaliation is
just such a sick cycle right that's why
we got to calm down and learn how to
respond rather than react so Jake needs
I hope that was a learning experience
for Jake and he can calm down and not
jump the gun on this stuff but anyways
that's all I got like let me know down
in the comments below like do you live a
crazy party lifestyle or if you're older
and you left that behind
like let's talk about it like can you
relate to what I was sharing ok let me
know in the comments but that's all I
got for you if you like this video
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