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the video today is on relationships the
three three biggest my three biggest
tips on relationships this includes
almost any relationship but specifically
on romantic relationships so if you're
with lover or somebody romantic
relationship let's talk about that so
number one thing and these are not in
any specific order but I think this is
the biggest thing the biggest one is
before you get into relationship know
yourself now you're never gonna know
yourself completely but you're gonna
know you you gotta know yourself
somewhat before you get into some
relationship okay so that is know
yourself so what that what does that
mean a lot of times people are confused
and they don't know they don't really
know what they want they still ain't
settling and this is actually for this
is actually number two so I'm gonna
leave it for number two but basically
they don't know themselves they don't
really know what they want in life
they're just running you know from job
to job and they think like you don't
love themselves and I think if somebody
loves damn it's gonna help them and they
think that by by being with somebody
that they're gonna they're gonna try and
help them with with their issues that
they're facing no no no no no you first
have to know yourself before you get
into any relationship and if you are in
a relationship really don't know
yourself or you try and still trying to
figure out things or you haven't you
know you're still working on a few
issues then get out of the relationship
work on yourself and when you're ready
you'll know when you're ready you have
instinctual feelings within you that
tells you I'm ready now
I'm ready
that person and that person will come
into your life if you just fear lies and
if you mentally and spiritually want it
that person that person will come so the
second thing which I was about to
mention before it's don't settle for too
little people always say well this is
the only this is the only you know guy
or girl I'm gonna never get and I'm
selling for that because that's all I
can get you know they're settling for
that because they don't think they're
worth it you are worth every everything
and you know what you deserve the best
and so don't settle for too little so
what that actually means is that okay
you want this and this and this and this
is a person but you not gonna get that
person so you think oh I'm not gonna get
that person now you know I'm not
probably not good enough not
good-looking enough whatever and you
then you settle for someone oh that
person is good enough for me and no no
no no no what you need to do is write
down the things that you really most
want in a person you know in a partner
and write down those qualities those
points and be specific
write down 20 write down 50 even a
hundred things that you want in a
partner and when you find that person
make sure that person is all the
qualities that you've listed in your
paper whatever you written it on and how
about paper with you check it out from
time to time put it in your backpack or
whatever and keep it with you at all
times but don't look at it at every
moment look at it from time to time but
not every moment and be specific write
down specific things like for example I
want this person to be gorgeous I want
this person to like to do barrel biking
you know cycling I want this person to
like to want to read mystery novels
whatever it may be
you write those things down I want that
person to be a vegan I want that person
to be into eating a lot of fruit I want
that person to be this and that and
guess what if you send that message out
to the universe to God you're gonna get
that person you pray you get that person
you write all the qualities down that
you're looking for and you're I'm gonna
skyrocket yes you're gonna skyrocket and
you're gonna get that person okay it
might take a little while for that to
happen and not gonna happen overnight
might take a few years or even a decade
or so but that person will come into
your life you network you go to
different events you are on Facebook all
the time and all these social media you
have a social media presence you're on
YouTube and all this stuff and that
person will come along trust me if you
have the the feeling within your mind in
your heart and you are a go-getter and
you write down those things that you
want in a person specifically and you
ask for these things specific things 20
50 100 200 500 whatever it is put those
things down and you are don't settle for
too little because you are great you are
amazing never mind great you're amazing
you're fantastic you deserve the best so
don't settle for a little and the third
thing is get out of toxic relationships
third thing so how do you know a
relationship is toxic number one you
know when the talks there's a real oxic
relationship when you are always arguing
when you're always you know fighting and
screaming at each other number two even
if you don't do that or maybe you do to
it sometimes second thing is if you hold
in your feelings so if you don't share
your feelings with the other person then
I mean you're supposed to be
communicating with the other person it's
like it's like you don't communicate
with that other person if you don't put
everything on the table if you don't
tell them everything if
don't tell you everything then it's not
you know it's not an honest and open
relationship okay you got to be open
with the person you gotta be really you
gotta be honest and truthful you got to
put everything down on the table if you
want to be with a person you got to be
with the person and forget about all
this you know crap behind you so another
thing about about arguing and fighting
is that if two parties are arguing and
fighting and shouting on all the time
then those two people need to work on
themselves because it looks like nobody
knows who they are because spiritually
highly enlightened people are not
screaming and shouting and you know
causing all kinds of commotions and
things like that
so I need to know that that probably
Buddha and Jesus and all the other
enlightened people most likely they
wouldn't be shouting most like they
would it be loud and you know like you
got to understand that if your want a
perfect life with a perfect partner then
you're going to have to be a perfect
partner okay so number one know yourself
very very key probably the biggest thing
if you don't know yourself if you don't
have a direction in your life you don't
know what your mission in life is hey
get out of any relationship and stay
single and learn about yourself meditate
meditate on self inquiry or self
contemplation meditation
Who am I may keep meditating on that Who
am I
number two don't settle for too little
just because that guy or a girl or
whoever is oh you know like I'm not I
can't that's the only guy I could find
and you know that's good enough and no
you are amazing you deserve more users
better so find the right person for you
okay
and number three get out of toxic
relationships if you're fighting if
you're arguing all the time and even if
it's like
once every two or three months like if
it doesn't come out you know an end like
like nice if it comes out that there's
no settlement or if you hold in your
feelings all the time you know let's say
you don't argue and you don't you know
fight and everything but let's say you
hold in your feelings all the time you
don't tell your partner how you feel
look the relationship has to be 100%
honest 100% truthful and open both of
you have to talk both of you have to
share your feelings both of you have to
you know do things together and really
like be there for each other and and if
you really want to be with somebody
listen I don't understand when people
say oh you know sometimes you get tired
of that person you want little space
it's like if you love somebody truly
love somebody and want to be with them
you want to be with them you don't want
a minute away from them that's my
philosophy anyways so if you have that
feeling that you want to be with
somebody and you don't want to let them
go hey you know that's the perfect
relationship so I hope these three tips
helped you there might be many more that
I just haven't discussed so post your
tips and comments down below what has
made your relationship successful for
you so put it down in the comments if
you have any further questions don't
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