- You know, in any relationship
that's progressing,
it's really important to know
whether both people are on the same page
as to how they see that
relationship in the longterm.
Do you see this thing working out?
Do you see it going the distance?
Or do you not?
And in order to know that
there are critical questions
that we've got to ask on the
path of that relationship,
but it's really easy to avoid
those questions isn't it?
It's really easy to say,
"Ah, I'm gonna ask it later"
or "I'm not gonna ask it at all."
And so what is it that causes us
to not wanna ask those questions?
Well, it's the fear that
if we ask the question,
it'll either, push the person
away and drive them away
or we'll get the answer we don't want,
which is the rejection answer.
They don't see us as a longterm partner
or they don't have the same
expectation that we do.
I was having a conversation
with a client this week
and she had a beautiful mindset
that I wanted to share with
you that was the outcome
of a situation that on the surface level
might look like it was
painful or look bad,
but in the long run was ultimately
what she said she wanted.
And this client was dating this guy
and they've been dating for quite a while
and then she decided to take
my program to figure out,
how can I progress this
relationship forward?
So she signs up for Manifest Your Man.
And throughout that course,
one of the questions that's
key to ask along the way is,
where do you see this going?
Do you see this longterm?
Now they had been dating for
months and months and months.
And this man is in the military
and so she finally conjured up the courage
to ask him that question.
And I'll share with you in a moment,
the mindset that she used
to give herself the courage
to ask that question.
But she asked that question.
She says, "Where do you see this going?
"Do you see me as someone in your future?
"Do you see me as a
potential lifelong partner?
"Not that you have to
propose to me right away,
"but just, do you see
us on the same path?"
And he came back to her and he said,
"You know, I love what we have now.
"And I love the interaction
"that we've been sharing with one another,
"but I really don't see
you as a lifelong partner."
And part of her was shocked by that,
the part of her that was in denial,
the part of her that didn't
wanna ask the question.
The part of her that was clinging onto
a false hope was like,
"Oh my gosh, I've been fooling
myself all these months."
But there was another part of her
that knew that was
probably gonna be the case
because she could sense it.
She was intuiting that,
and she was avoiding that
question in the first place.
And then she shared with me.
So I was on the phone
with her and she came,
she was gonna ask that question.
She got back on the line
a couple of weeks later
after she had asked the question
and she told us the story.
And she goes, "Matt, you know,
"he told me that he doesn't really see
"a longterm relationship
with me, but let me tell you,
"I'm so grateful to get
that information now,
"because I could have
been with him for a year
"and he's content to
just let the relationship
"be status quo.
"And that's not what I want.
"I want a partner in life.
"I wanna know I'm progressing
towards something meaningful,
"towards a marriage."
And so here's the mindset that she shared.
And I wanna share it with
you 'cause it's so powerful.
And she goes,
"I really believe that
rejection is God's protection."
Rejection is God's protection.
So as she shared this idea
with me, I began contemplating,
well, what is it exactly?
What is rejection exactly
protecting us from?
And there are three ideas
I wanna share with you
that it will help you
drive this principle home,
really anchor it so that you
can ask the tough questions
in the moments that you
need to ask those questions.
The first idea that
rejection protects you from
is it protects your time.
So you don't waste a whole bunch
of time with the wrong guy.
The second idea is rejection
actually protects your heart.
And now I know that's a strange idea,
and there's a part of
you probably thinking,
"Well, Matt, rejection breaks my heart.
"How can it protect my heart?"
And here's the deal.
If you're with the wrong guy,
the breakup that occurs down the road
is way more painful than the
breakup that's happening now.
The betrayal that happens down the road,
the feeling of that betrayal,
the feeling of that intense
rejection or the lies,
or however that relationship
doesn't work out
down the road with the wrong guy
will be worse years later
than it is right now.
So essentially it's the smaller
pain that you're feeling now
is protecting you from the
greater pain that you feel later.
And the third idea that
rejection protects us from,
and I love this one, this is my favorite,
rejection protects the future relationship
that you're gonna have with your man.
Think about this.
There's some amazing relationship
that's in store for you,
some incredible guy that's
out there right now,
looking for you and the two
of you are gonna connect.
The rejection from the wrong guy,
actually protects that
sacred, beautiful relationship
that you're gonna have with the right guy.
So when the fear of rejection
starts to rise up in you,
cast it aside and say,
"No, if I get rejected,
"that's not a thing to fear
that's actually protecting me.
"It's protecting my time,
protecting my heart,
"and protecting this amazing relationship
"that I will have with
some guy someday soon."
And that's exactly what
this client on this call
shared with me, that
rejection is God's protection.
She goes, "You know what?
"I'm connecting to this great relationship
"that's about to come into my life.
"And I'm feeling really
good about being set free
"from something that wasn't
gonna go the distance."
So my question for you is,
what idea can you connect to rejection
that will empower you?
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