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SERENE: PEOPLE MOURNING DIET
OF ANTHONY BOURDAIN CNN CHEF
APPARENTLY HANGED HIMSELF IN A
FRANCE HOTEL ROOM.
FAMILY OWNED BUSINESSES IN
KOREATOWN, AFTER SUICIDE OF
BOURDAIN DESIGNER KATE SPADE
CALLS TO A SUICIDE PREVENTION
CENTER SPIKED.
A TERRIBLE BLOW IN THIS
CASE BLOW OF SEEING SOMEONE
THAT YOU THOUGHT HAD
EVERYTHING AND IF THEY CAN'T
MAKE IT, HOW CAN I MAKE IT?
MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE GIVING UP.
-- THE "DARKEST HOUR" WILL
PASS, SO WE WANT YOU TO GET
PAST IT, AND WE WANT YOU TO
GET HELP.
THIS WEEK CDC RELEASED A
SURVEY THAT SHOWS SUICIDE
RATES IN U.S. HAVE INCREASED
BY 25%, OVER THE PAST 20
YEARS.
HE MORE THAN HALF WHO'VES
DIED HAD NOT BEEN DIAGNOSED
WITH A MENTAL HEALTH
CONDITION.
JOINING US NOW LIFE AND FAMILY
THERAPIST WE TYPICALLY TALK
ABOUT TEEN ISSUES, AND WE
THINK A LOT ABOUT TEEN SUICIDE
BUT TWO DEATHS TALKING ABOUT
KATE SPADE, 55 ANTHONY
BOURDAIN 61 WHAT DO YOU THINK
WE CAN ATTRIBUTE THE SPIKE IN
SUICIDES CDC IS TALKING ABOUT.
A LOT OF THINGS I DON'T
THINK THERE IS ANY ONE THING,
I THINK THERE IS A LOT OF YOU
KNOW, SUBSTANCE ABUSE RAMPANT
IN OUR SOCIETY, I THINK SOME
WAY THE -- THE INTERNET
AMAZING AS IT IS I THINK IT
ALSO HELPS SEPARATE PEOPLE AND
ISOLATE PEOPLE A LOT MORE HE
ISOLATION A SENSE OF SHAME A
NEED FOR TRYING TO HIDE AWAY
FROM SHAME, OF COURSE, WHEN
YOU DO MAKES IT WORSE.
AND, YOU KNOW, I DON'T KNOW
THE PARTICULARS OF KATE SPADE
BOURDAIN WHAT'S GOING ON WITH
THEM BUT IN GENERAL, I THINK
THERE IS SO MUCH PRESSURE ON
US TO SUCCEED BE SUCCESSFUL
EVERY STEP OF THE MOMENT EVERY
DAY, THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE.
AND IMPORTANT FOR US TO
REALIZE THAT YOU KNOW WE'RE
NOT REPTILES WE NEED TO LEAN
ON EACH OTHER THE MORE WE LEAN
ON EACH OTHER MORE WE HAVE
OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW, AND
HEAL, AND GET BACK UP AND KEEP
GOING.
SERENE: UM-HMM WE HEARD THAT
A LOT OF TIMES UNDIAGNOSED
MENTAL HEALTH DISORDERS -- IT
STARTS WITH GETTING INTO SEE
SOMEONE LIKE YOU; RIGHT?
I THINK SO, AS WE START THE
CONVERSATION, YOU KNOW IT MAY
BE SOMEONE MAY NEED MORE THAN
TALK THERAPY MEDICATION MAY
NEED TO GO TO A HOSPITAL NO
SHAME IN THAT IT IS OKAY GET
HEALTHY IF YOU HAD A BROKEN
ARM YOU GO TO THE
YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY NOT STABLE
GO TO THE HOSPITAL PEOPLE
DEPEND ON ONE ANOTHER IF ONE
COMMITS SUICIDE IT IS TRAGIC
IT IS PAINFUL FOR THAT PERSON,
BUT EVERYONE AROUND THEM
PAINFUL FOR THEM TOO, NOT THAT
WE WANT TO SHAME SEMWON INTO
NOT COMMITINGS SUICIDE BECAUSE
THAT IS NOT GOING TO WORK BUT
IT IS IMPORTANT TO HELP PEOPLE
REALIZE THERE IS HELP AND ITS
OKAY TO REACH OUT FOR HELP.
I THINK THE HARDEST THING
FOR ME ESPECIALLY WITH KIDS --
A YOUNG DAUGHTER -- YOU KNOW,
13-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER WE TALK
ABOUT TEEN SUICIDE A LOT BUT
GOING TO BE VERY DIFFICULT FOR
HER TO COPE WITH SOMETHING
LIKE THIS, HAVING HER MOTHER
COMMIT SUICIDE.
TREMENDOUS ISSUES GOING ON,
I CAN'T EXPRESS THE SADNESS,
AND THE -- THE RESPECT I GIVE
TO HER, FOR ANTHONY BORROW
DAIPS DAUGHTER ALL OTHER SONS
AND DAUGHTERS YOU CAN BE 33 IT
IS DEVASTATING ABANDONMENT.
WE ALSO KNOW THAT ONE TELLTALE
SIGN OF SUICIDE RISK IS HAVING
SOMEONE CLOSE IN YOUR LIFE
ALSO COMMITTED SUICIDE PLANTS
THAT SEED OF THIS IS THIS IS A
WAY OUT.
AND, IT IS NEVER A WAY OUT IT
IS -- IT IS ESCAPE OFTEN WHEN
I TALK TO CLIENTS WHO ARE
SUICIDAL I FIND THAT A LOT OF
TIME THEY DON'T WANT TO DIE
THEY WANT TO ESCAPE DON'T KNOW
HOW TO ESCAPE THEY LOSE HOPE
START REACHING TOWARD WAY TO
HURT THEMSELVES.
WHAT ARE REZ FLAGS PEOPLE
CAN BE AWARE OF RED FLAGS IF A
LOVED ONE IS HAVING THOSE
THOUGHTS.
I'D SAY, ARE THEY TALKING
ABOUT IT DEFEATIST, I AM NOT
GOOD ENOUGH NO ONE LOVED ME I
WILL NEVER SUCCEED IN LIFE I
WISH I WAS NEVER BORN
SOMETIMES THAT THIS --
TYPICALLY LIKE TEENAGE
BEHAVIOR.
THEY WANT TO STAKE THAT WAS
SERIOUSLY IF YOU LET THAT GO
UNCHECKED THAT COULD LEAD TO
SUICIDAL THOUGHTS, ACTIONS YOU
WANT TO CHECK IN WITH THAT
PERSON OKAY TO ASK HEY DO YOU
EVER -- THINK ABOUT HURTING
YOURSELF NOT PLANTING A SEED
IF NOT THINKING ABOUT THAT SAY
NO, I AM NOT GOING TO HURT
MILES BUT IF NOT SAYING THAT
WELL I THINK ABOUT IT
SOMETIMES IT IS A VERY COMMON
THOUGHT THOF HAVING THOUGHTS
DOESN'T MEAN YOU WANT TO DO
SOMETHING IT IS KNOWING
THOUGHTS IT IS THE PLAN DOES
THAT PERSON HAVE A PLAN DO
THEY HAVE MOO ENZ TO CARRY OUT
THAT PLAN DO THEY HAVE AROPE
IN THE GARAGE A FIREARM, DO
THEY HAVE A LOT OF PILLS IN
THE HOUSE?
NOT EASY TO LIST THAT IS IS AN
CAP
EXAMPLE THE INTENT YES THIS IS
WHAT I WANT TO DO YOU WANT TO
GET HELP IF YOU CAN GET THEM
TO A HOSPITAL, IF YOU CAN'T
GET THEM TO A HOSPITAL CALL
NEN SUICIDE PREVENTION LINES
TEEN LINES ADULT LINES, I
THINK WE MAKE SURE WE ARE NOT
TRYING TO SHAME THE PERSON NOT
TRYING TO FIX THE PERSON NOT
TRYING TO CHANGE MIND IT
DOESN'T WORK BUT COMPASSION
AND UNDERSTANDING SHARING
CONCERN THAT HELPS THEM KNOW
NOT LONE MY HELP OPEN TO UP
IDEA.
THANK YOU
HERE WE APPRECIATE IT.
YOU ARE VERY WELCOME.
