Hey, hey!
This is Africa.
I'm so excited to talk to you today.
I really have this thing, I've been watching
these natural disasters that have been occurring
for us.
We had Hurricane Harvey.
There was an earthquake earlier in Mexico.
Hurricane Irma coming up and behind her, hurricane
Jose.
And then I think hurricane Katia is hitting
Mexico tomorrow.
All of these different natural disasters,
and I want to say is, it brought out the beauty,
the love of everyone.
People have been pitching in to help.
I think one of the most exciting things has
been seeing all the different people in my
neighborhood, and really across the country
converging onto Houston with their own equipment,
their boats.
Going down to some of the other Gulf Coast
communities in Texas with just loads of staff,
with gear, pitching in to help, getting trees
cut, you know, finish cutting down helping
to clear the roads.
Just volunteering and doing what people do
best when they really form the community.
What I have to say is these natural disasters
have brought out the absolute best in people.
The absolute best.
It's been a beautiful thing to watch, and
I just want to ask.
I was thinking about it, and I was thinking.
OK so there's this verse in the Bible that
really kind of drives a lot of things that
I do.
And it's something that's pretty germane to
right now.
It's "Love your neighbor as you love yourself."
Right.
Treat other people how you'd want to be treated.
If you want to think of it that way, like
the golden rule.
And when I thought about, love your neighbor,
as you love yourself, prior to natural disasters
or I would say in absence of natural disasters,
I honestly don't see a lot of love, you know.
And it really had me in this really jaded
view of the world where I just, you know,
you had a couple of campaigns about pay it
forward where people could do the right thing,
random acts of helping, random acts, where
you help other people.
I'll get out there eventually.
And all of those things were important, but
that just inner drive to do good, that inner
drive to treat other people well.
What happened with that?
And it took a little bit of time as I kind
of observed what was going on, and like I
said in absence of natural disaster, it just
doesn't happen.
It's like people don't, can't see themselves
in other people situations.
Right.
They're too, maybe too self-focused but that
wasn't quite it either.
It wasn't about being too self-focused or
other focused, it was something much, much
deeper.
And what I really realized was people actually
did love their neighbors as much as they loved
themselves.
Hey Maria!
They really, really did.
The problem was people don't really love themselves
much if at all.
Now you'll always get that person they're
like, "Oh they're so in love with themselves,
they do this, they do that, they do their
makeup, they do the nice car and they have
all this and that and they just want to spend
money on themselves."
Yes there are people like that and that does
not necessarily mean that they even love themselves.
Right.
Sometimes they're just trying to purchase
and present a face because they're filling
a hole that they have inside.
We all have that hole inside of us,that part
of us that tells us that we're no good.
That part of us that has all those negative
thoughts that pop up.
Maybe that one person or two told us when
we were younger that still play over and over
in our heads telling us we're unworthy, we're
not pretty enough, we're not smart enough
or whatever insults got thrown at you.
And you're constantly trying to fill that
hole inside of you and it doesn't fill.
It never fills because that hole doesn't need
to be filled with stuff, right.
It needs to be filled with love.
Which means you got to learn how to love yourself.
Every single part of yourself.
Now there might be some parts of yourself
that you're woefully ashamed of that you're
like, "I cannot believe that I did that thing.
I can't believe that I said that.
I can't believe I was a part of a certain
group or ran with a certain group of people."
But that's OK, that was the past.
The point is now from this moment forward
to fully and passionately love yourself.
And there's a process.
There's a process we all have to go through
to get there, to really, truly love ourselves.
And it's only when we really, truly love ourselves
that we can actually love our neighbor as
intended.
Right.
You can't give what you don't have.
So, if you don't love yourself, how do you
expect to give love?
Just think of that just wholly in your personal
relationships right now.
There's a lot of damage to relationships,
whether they're marriages, just people dating
even between siblings, or between parents
and children, and they're damaged because
one or both parties don't love themselves.
Right.
They don't love themselves fully.
They get, how can you give what you don't
have?
And to me I find that super troubling.
Because to me, that is the root cause of what's
wrong, that lack, complete lack of self-love.
And so what I want to do is offer some kind
of solution, because I think it's super important
for you to know like what I do.
How do I go through that process of self-love
to get to that point where I'm fully and completely
loving myself?
And let me just, spoiler alert, one of the
great things about learning to fully and completely
love yourself is that other people fall madly
in love with you too.
There's something so insanely attractive about
someone who loves themselves.
I think it's because they can give more fully,
they give more completely, they give more
selflessly because they have it to give.
They have that love to spread around when
they love themselves fully.
And I want that for you too.
I wanted that for me.
And I had to go through a process to get there.
I want to share a process with you right now.
So one of the things I decided to do so I
could share it with you is teach you five
ways to learn how to love yourself fully.
And so one is learning more about your core
values, more about your needs and desires,
learning how to get to that natural high that
we all can get to, about boundaries, about
your own innate hottiness, right.
And using all of those techniques, you will
fall madly in love with yourself and others
will fall in love with you too.
And in that process you're going to unleash
your inner bad ass.
So I want to invite you to go deep on these
things with me.
I have a five day challenge coming up and
I want to invite you to it.
And it's called "Fall in Love with You Challenge"
and in five days you'll learn the five ways
to fall in love with you and unleash your
inner bad ass.
I mean, it's, it's going to be a lot of fun.
I think one of the things I love so much about
the challenge, and I promise I will throw
the link to the challenge in the comments
or in the description of the video, but it's
africaarchield.com/fall-in-love-with-you-challenge.
So it's kind of long, so I'll put it in there,
don't worry.
But one of the things I just really am excited
about with this challenge is not like, not
just that I get to work one on one with you.
I mean every day of the challenge we'll be
doing live streams we'll be doing activities
together we'll really be building a supportive
community.
Other people who really want to see this change
happen.
And for it to be permanent, not the temporary
thing that happens during natural disasters,
but a permanent thing that is sustainable
and grows and ripples out to those around
them.
That's the beauty of it.
So also doing the challenge I have prizes
every day.
So I'm really excited about these prizes because
with these prizes, these are people who have
chipped in and said, "Hey we believe in what
you're doing."
These are friends, these are mentors have
chipped in different items that you're going
to love.
And I'll explain more about that when you
join the challenge how to win.
So go on, click the link.
Like I said, I'll drop it in there, in the
description and in the comments about the
challenge.
And if you want to know more about it, feel
free to put in some comments below this video.
Ask me questions about the challenge.
I'll be happy to answer them for you.
You can private message me.
Make sure to LIKE and SHARE this video if
you know you have people you want to have
join the challenge with you, the more, the
more the merrier.
The better community that we can build so
we can move forward together even faster.
So I'm really excited about the challenge.
I'm looking forward to working with you.
So with that I say #PeaceJoyLove to you.
Hope to see you in the challenge.
Bye!
