Long distance relationship,
6 stages of long distance relationship.
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This is part two of long distance relationship
video.
In the first video I shared 7 advice how to
make it work.
The link will below this video.
Make sure to check it out after this one.
Today I will talk about stages.
Let's start.
The first stage of long distance relationship
is "we can do it" stage.
Usually it lasts about 4 weeks.
It can be a bit longer, a bit shorter in every
couple.
Timeframe is in general, don't be so worried
about how many weeks, but the first stage
is the feeling that "we can do it", when both
partners, a couple, decided that they can
handle all the difficulties and they can be
OK with the long distance.
They call each other every day, send text
messages, pictures, emails, maybe have video
chat.
And they feel good.
They feel strong about their couple and about
the relationship and about their decision.
The second stage is "'first doubts".
Usually at this stage, people not feeling
as strong as they did before.
So at this stage your partner might not answer
your phone, might not reply to your message,
or maybe you called him (or her) and he said
that he's busy at this moment and he will
call you back, and maybe you had a short conversation
on a phone and it was not as it was before.
At this moment you, you start worrying, and
your friends might actually suggest you some
suspicious ideas.
They might say, "You know, you should have
fun.
You should go out.
You should consider other options".
But you, personally, you still believe in
your relationship and you're trying to find
explanations.
You are trying to look on the bright side
of your relationship.
Stage three is stage of loneliness and emptiness.
You feel sad.
You feel angry, you feel disappointed.
You feel lonely.
You might be angry about the situation, about
your partner, about yourself, so you feel
nervous.
You feel... you feel terrible actually at
this stage and you cannot go and talk to your
friends because on the previous stage, they
already told you that you should consider
other options and maybe it's was not the best
decision.
So at this stage you feel that your connection
with your partner is not as strong as it was
before
and this is a really hard stage to experience.
This stage can last for maybe a week to 3-4
weeks.
This is the first breaking point in your relationship
and you still can "save" your relationship
at this point or it might be a starting point
for the breakup.
Stage number four is reconnection stage.
The decision will come out of nowhere.
After the sad, loneliness an empty stage,
you will decide that this is time.
This is time when you want to go and see your
partner.
When you want to get back to this connection
between you, you will leave everything that
you are doing, your job, your friends.
You will just pack your bags and go.
You go to see your partner and you're going
to spend one, two days, maybe a weekend together,
and a lot of couples will feel strong about
their relationship at this point.
You kind of get back to that feeling "we can
do it", and emotions going to be so high,
you will be able to touch, to hug your partner.
You're going to have intimacy.
So at this stage you are reconnected back
together and you feel great again about your
relationship and about your decision.
Stage number five is "lack of trust".
This is a similar stage to the second stage
when you had first doubts, but this time doubts
are not coming from your friends.
They actually inside you, and they're growing
at this moment.
You will feel lonely, empty, angry again.
And at this moment you start considering,
"Is he the one?
What's happening?
Am I wasting my time?
How can I know that he or she is not seeing
someone else?"
At this stage you will start noticing that
people, of opposite sex is flirting with you.
At this stage, your relationship is very shaky.
Stage number six is "cheating / break up or
commitment".
A lot of couples will fail on stage #6, and
if you decided to keep your relationship,
this decision should come from both partners,
and in this case, both partners decided that
they will commit no matter what, and they
will plan their visits ahead of time.
They will highlight all the holidays in their
calendar.
They will decide where, when and how they're
going to see each other, and, eventually,
they will plan how they gonna move in together:
change cities, state, country if necessary.
This is a final stage, and this final stage
can the end of the relationship or the beginning
of strong commitment and important decisions
making in their life.
If you believe in your couple, if you would
like to save your relationship - check the
other video, the link will be below this one
in the description.
7 advice how to make long distance relationship
work.
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