So the first thing I wanna say is that, people
masturbate for many different reasons; and
yet there are a few common ones.
So if you weren't already aware, it's not
only just for sexual pleasure and the release
of orgasm; but often it's the tension relief
that someone experiences physiologically from
orgasm.
It's a great way to regulate mood for someone
who's feeling a little bit more depressed
or is feeling anxious and it's also in that
regard helpful for people who are trying to
get to sleep at night.
The other common reason is for boredom.
So the thing I want you to realize is that
you may choose to masturbate for many different
reasons and you may also choose to have many
different styles of masturbation.
But if you are like many, you may still be
using what you figured out probably early
in your puberty.
And so by that I mean, most people are using
their hand, but you don't just want you to
make that assumption.
I work with both men and women who sometimes
enjoy just like, rubbing up against a mattress
or pillows.
They may be used to using a vibrator.
That may be above or below the underwear.
You never really know what's someone's stlye
or preference is untill you ask.
But I also want to appreciate that it's a
private experience.
The only thing I'd have you consider is whether
or not your masturbation style may in any
way have a negative impact on a partnered
experience.
Because as I mentioned before, if you are
rubbing up against something, like a mattress,
that kind of friction is something typically,
it's very difficult for a partner to duplicate.
So if that's the case, and you ever notice
a masturbation style interferes with a partnered
experience, go back to the basics and try
and explore other ways to bring yourself to
orgasm.
