My 14 year old nephew, Jason,
is gonna end up in jail or dead
and it's my sister's fault.
My sister, Heather, is the real problem.
She does not make her son a priority.
She puts her boyfriend first, work first,
and it is making Jason resent her.
He stays gone constantly
at the neighbors house.
'Cause he's more of a dad
and parent to me then y'all been.
Jason has been expelled from many schools.
When he goes to school he fights students,
teachers, law enforcement.
Jason is violent at home.
Heather and Jason fight at least
every other day.
I get phone calls and texts all times of the night.
Heather and Jason's arguments will escalate
from name calling to he's punching holes
in the walls and they are fighting each other.
I don't think my sister, Heather,
is a good parent.
Jason hates his mom.
I worry that if Jason gets angry enough
he could kill his mom.
My sister provokes Jason.
I think she wants him to leave
so that she can be alone with her boyfriend.
He respects me differently than you,
so maybe that's the issue.
He has no respect for you.
Jason is not a lost cause.
Deep down he is a good kid.
I think Jason is rebelling
to get attention from his mom.
Okay now, you say that your sister
has ignored him his whole life.
She has, yeah.
She just recently got him back, he's 14.
And he's been with his dad?
He has, yeah, or passed around, from grandparents,
he's been between a lot of people.
From zero to 1 1/2, he lives with Heather
and the bio-dad until they break up.
Then from 1 1/2 to five, he lives with Heather.
Then five, he moves in with the bio-dad
because Heather claims, "Not stable enough."
Then at six, he moves in with paternal grandmother
because, "Too much of a handful for the father."
Then at seven, moves in with Heather's parents
because, kicked out of daycare for fighting.
Then from eight to 10, moves back in with Heather
because, kicked out of elementary school
for running in front of a bus.
Then 10 to 12--
That's a lie.
Moves back in with bio-dad
after Jason makes false DCFS case
against Heather's boyfriend.
Then from 12 to 13,
bounces between bio-dad, paternal grandmother.
Then 14, five months ago,
moves back in with Heather
after bio-dad says, quote,
"I just can't take it anymore."
So, never a time where he feel like,
"This is my safe harbor,
"this is where I have roots."
Right, no stability.
I'm unwanted, you know?
Now, he's combative with his mother.
Very much.
And she's combative with him.
Very much, yep.
He has said to us that he actually believes
that his mother is calling the police on purpose
to get him in trouble
so she can get rid of him.
I believe that same thing.
She has quoted, "I'm making a paper trail
"because the police won't take him
"unless I have enough reports."
She calls the police for,
she'll set up a conflict--
Or he'll walk outside
to avoid the situation and then she will
call and say he's a runaway.
He goes to the neighbor's house.
Right, yeah, he spends a lot of time there.
And she knows exactly where he is,
exactly when he went, exactly what he's doin'
and she'll turn him in as a runaway?
Yes.
What has she done with him for fun?
Vacations?
Birthday parties?
Holidays, what does she do with him to celebrate.
I vaguely remember one birthday,
maybe it was the second or third.
Since then, nothing.
He's 14.
He's 14.
So for 12 years she's never
taken him on a vacation,
celebrated with him?
Never, never.
Nope, not him.
Other ones and her boyfriend,
but not Jason.
What do you mean,
other ones and her boyfriend.
Well, she has other children.
She has taken, for their birthday,
one went to Disney World,
just this kid and the boyfriend.
And then the other kid went to Six Flags,
with the boyfriend and the mom, my sister.
But never Jason.
He feels like she chooses men,
partying, goin' out at night, over him.
That she could take that time,
that effort, that energy, invest it in him
and instead, her M.O. is to invest it in
men and partying, true or false?
Yes, well one man in particular, but yes.
The partying, not so much now,
she uses work as an escape.
When you have a child you should,
your work should accommodate
a schedule for a child.
Well, hers doesn't, she can take off
for her boyfriend's birthday
and pick hours that she wants for those occasions,
but anything else and she's night shift.
