- We need to talk about the sexualization
of LGBTQ plus people.
So since I was last making videos,
Kevin Spacey has been outed
as both a sexual predator
and as gay and for some
reason, that second one
seems to be much more interesting
to a lot of the papers who
were first reporting it.
Sexual identity and sexual
assault are not the same thing
and yet Spacey decided to address
them in the same statement
and I am pissed, make no mistake,
spacey know exactly what he's doing.
He's feeding into those homophobic ideas
to shift the focus off of his crimes.
By addressing rumours about his sexuality
and the accusation that he
sexually pursued a minor,
he is linking those two things together
even implicitly and he knows it.
The connecting of our identities
with an innate perversion is something
which is still present today
and has a long history.
Even from my own experiences,
from the moment I came out,
the perceptions around my sexuality
have been vastly apparent.
People have asked me, in my school,
at my work, in the
street, how do you fuck,
do you use dildos, how do
you get each other off,
can I watch?
And from a lot of guys, can I join in?
But this sexualization goes far beyond
harassing comments from curious fuckboys,
this is something which is
entrenched in our history
and in our society.
Looks like Anita Bryant from
the Save Our Children campaign
which was a campaign about how gay people
were corrupting or recruiting children.
It looks like the wave of parents saying
we couldn't have a gay
character in a kid's show,
it's not appropriate, as there's literally
a prince and a princess
kissing on the television
in the background.
And it's my high school
only a few years ago
telling me that no teachers could be
openly friendly towards LGBT people
in case inappropriate
relationships started.
As if just supporting gay rights
would make you a paedophile.
You see it in every argument
that is going on today
around trans people not being able to use
the bathrooms that they
want to because of the fear
that if they did, they
would just rape any woman
or child that they found there.
The equating of sexuality and sexual abuse
keeps people in the
closet, destroys any hope
of cohesive queer communities.
And stops LGBTQ plus survivors
of sexual assault speaking out.
It keeps people in the
closet because it makes
being LGBTQ plus feel like
something that's dirty,
something to be ashamed of.
It contributes to this
dangerous self loathing
that people can have in the closet
and when they're out of it.
As I said it also destroys any hope
of us having meaningful,
intergenerational communities.
I've seen some incredible
videos that have gone viral
of, you know, women
volunteering at brownie groups
or girl guides and helping
girls younger than themselves
believe in themselves.
I've seen videos about kids
chilling in old people's homes
keeping them company, giving
them some joy in their lives.
I've seen videos about
young African American boys
going to things like a
mixed martial arts class
where they have a sense of community
and foster support from other black men.
The intergenerational
community relationships
in all communities are so important,
but I know that if we had a video
about how a middle aged gay man
was spending time in any
way with underage boys,
it would be something
that people would perceive
as totally different even though it isn't.
We don't have the ability
to form these connections,
because it's always seen
as something sinister.
And it means that we are so
disconnected from each other.
It is directly isolating for queer youth
who have nowhere else to turn to
for information that the
internet and comment places
which is the very places
that are telling them
that they're wrong.
And thirdly as I said
it keeps LGBT survivors
of these crimes from speaking out,
because it feels like if they do,
they're gonna contribute
to exactly what Spacey has
a vindication for bigots.
The feeling of if I speak
about my individual experiences
it will be used so
ammunition against my people.
It is a horrendous choice
that so many survivors
feel like they have to make.
Which is why the focus
needs to be on supporting
these survivors, purging
abusers from our community
and stopping the completion of the two.
We need a change in policy
and a change in attitude
to educate kids and
adults about the history
and reality of LGBT people.
Because only then can
we look forward to a day
when we are seen as a
fully respected community,
where our youth can learn from our elders
and not be protected from them.
So hopefully you enjoyed that video.
Please leave all your thoughts
in this topic in the comments
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And until I see you next time, bye.
