hello and welcome to feminine success
secrets the place women come to become
powerfully feminine I'm Candice Oneida so
in today's video I'm going to share five secrets to self care
so today I'm
sharing this from my bed because I fell secrets to self-care
off the self-care wagon big time in the
last month due to going back into man
load into pushing striving overworking
overdoing and frankly under the premise
or under the banner of service
two of the three weekends I was working
with assisting meditation workshops and
personal development workshops and the
thing I realized if my body doesn't know
the difference she doesn't know the
difference and all the signals were
there and I have this terrible habit of
ignoring them I'm being totally
confessional and frank with you today I
ignore the signals and I used to do it
in my 20s and 30s and I had a lot more
Jing as they say in the Chinese
traditions so I could get keep burning
and burning in and I'm not 25 anymore
and so my body tells me and I have to
listen again as the prophetess of the
future if you are younger in the 20s and
30s then do take care of yourself
self-care sososo importance so you know
what I tended to do is I sublimate the
needs of my body to that of my mind and
the spirit now the thing is our body is
actually the weak link in the chain and
human beings so what I mean by that is
you can see my spirit is strong my mind
is strong and they can go 24/7 right and
yet the body and the energy system needs
rest that's why we sleep right so
obviously sleep is a self-care thing
that we all do and have to do and if you
under do sleep as you probably perfectly
know for yourself it
not good that does not work okay your
mind actually starts not working so well
your meditations your spirit starts
fading so that's why it's a weak link
see so although I've often said and I do
believe our body has to be treated like
a temple what I mean by that is if
you've ever been into a temple or even
just a room that is like this unkempt
uncared-for is dirty as filthy is
energetically bad you don't feel good
things can happen in there right so bad
things can happen
tend to happen in those bad places and
yet you walk into a temple or a room
that is really lost and there's a lot of
care put into it you can feel a
different energy a different space and
so for our body so if we treat our body
like a temple then we are treating it
like the beautiful space in which we
want clarity to be able to learn to
clarity of mind clarity of presence
clarity of spirit right so you know in
our modern day obviously we are
disciplined by we so so so much at the
moment we are energetically bombarded
from all directions and so the need for
what has become known as radical
self-care has become really really
important the truth is however I would
love to take the radical out of
self-care and it becomes something way
more normal when way less of a guilty
pleasure for us as women then it is
deemed I know that I grew up in an
environment in which the concept of
self-care was not even positioned in my
world what even considered I didn't even
consider this until I was in my 40s
didn't look the concept of what was that
what is stuff care why does why would
you do that and it was sort of seeing
through the lens of being selfish or
self-centered or something like that and
I would position it as something quite
different what I call self full and so
when we self-care as women we are still
full and we fill up our energy when we
are in self-care and in my model with
eunuchs been following my model a little
bit that takes you from the lower
feminine or the false women
into the true feminine levels of the
true feminine vibrations that is the
queen and the priests ear and so of
course at the moment I'm talking to
myself here as I'm talking to you
because I'm still sitting in my bed
because after I record this to you I'm
probably going to get horizontal again
okay so the five secrets so the first
and foremost secret and it's a global
concept here but I want you to have it
in mind is listen to your body please
listen to your body your body is telling
you things all of the time tell me when
it's tired it's telling you it's hungry
it's telling you when it's thirsty it's
telling you when it needs things it's
telling you when it needs touch telling
you when you need space it's telling you
in your new creativity it's telling you
when you need section yumminess and that
kind of nourishment for God's sake
listen to your body now tip number two
is take time off you have to I hate to
say this it's true we have to schedule
time off in our life now edge alert as
in schedule the gap schedule a gap in
your life I'm not saying that you have
to schedule exactly what's going to go
in there sometimes I love to schedule
the unscheduled gap right I think I
don't know what's going to happen in
there but I'm gonna do some yummy
something right take time off you have
to schedule time off schedule time off
into your schedule schedule a pleasure
date with yourself so in one of your
time off make it a pleasure date with
yourself now what I'm talking about is
just with yourself so we can do other
time with other people but I'm talking
about what would you do just with
yourself that will bring you great
pleasure bring you great pleasure right
leisure means I want you to feel
pleasure in your body so for me for
example if I'm not in movement something
starts to die in me so
that can be walking moving hiking which
I do love to do in nature I have got a
video on that that you've seen and I'll
give you a link to being in nature such
a big pleasure date for me otherwise
movement can mean dance or something
moving my body in a more sensual way so
often have like little naked dance
breaks on my own because I work in my
home I can just crank the tunes when I
want and just oh my body needs to move I
literally find that my body freezes up
if it doesn't move and by the way
movement is a big aspect of the feminine
pleasure can be self pleasure as in
masturbation or something sensual with
the body or just after you come out of
the shower just the way that you put on
your creams or your oils do it in a way
that's sensual and nourishing and loving
in the way that you do it to yourself
so make a pleasure date with yourself
find ways that bring you pleasure tip
number four habit hack so I've known
this thing for years actually I would
find myself going into this sort of
escalating spiral of overworking long
hours and pushing pushing and I would
just do this thing okay I'll just shut
down my laptop and I would just go out
for a walk already shut down my laptop I
would just check the movie times and I
would just go to a movie and it would
bring so much nourishment it would be
this interrupts it would be this habit
interrupt and it would shake something
up inside me and give me that space and
then out-breath as I often speak about
right out this space we have to inject
space so do a habit interrupt in your
life and just it's something to get used
to just trying to do is just go I'm just
stopping what I'm doing right now I'm
over working things out working because
what will happen for me is if I start to
go in a spiral of overworking things
stop working good so all do I have it
interrupt and I'll change the space
because that's what it does is it is
changing the space that you're in yeah
some of the headspace ones the energetic
space you're in and tip number five is
making desire a priority we are designer
creatures as women we working out what
you want feeling into what you want
diving into what you want and then doing
or getting what you want or asking for
it
sometimes is such a cool part of us of
our feminine nature and as a woman we
are more in touch with the feminine
spectrum if you like then men are now I
do entire trainings on desire in my
powerfully feminine intensive I just
want you to consider this concept of
prioritizing desire rather than deep
prioritizing desire which is what we
tend to do we make it unimportant we
believe it's not an important thing but
it is it's really really important so
when I speak about desire I'm talking
about everything from I decided make or
eat or go out and have really yummy
nourishing food right now - I want some
space to think about my life and about
what I want and what's my purpose all
the way through - Wow I really want to
experience certain type of sexual desire
certain type of sexual interaction or
other more unconscious more unsaid more
unexplored desire territory now that's
what I call the desire spectrum I just
said to you there so let yourself
prioritize desire dive into it enjoy the
desires that emerge from you share them
with people that you trust ask for those
and people that can help you deliver
them will help deliver them to you and
enjoy your designer nature well I'd love
you to do today is comment below on how
these five secrets help you and if you
have any additional self-care secrets
please share them with the channel and
remember when you have the courage to go
out there and shine you give others
permission to do the same so let's
during shine this week or bye for now
