have you ever walked into a room and
heard this surprise what do you feel at
that point of time you feel a sense of
surprise you feel that what do I do now
today I want to break down how to react
whenever you experience a sense of
surprise in your life and channel it
towards seeing higher performance almost
instantly essentially every emotion is
nothing but a message a message that is
influencing how you think feel and act
in any given situation know this that if
you understand and embrace your emotions
and be constantly aware of how they are
impacting you and the people around you
in any given situation you are
guaranteed guaranteed to see higher
performance in every area of your life
keeping that in mind every emotion
impacts us by telling us a message in
these two ways number one it asks us a
question it asks us a question and on
basis of that it does this to influences
our behavior it influences what kind of
results we see and if we are to see high
performance results we need to have a
better understanding of our emotions
emotional intelligence is key have you
ever walked into a room and heard
someone say surprise you immediately get
into this sense of thinking that what is
happening what is is it a good thing is
it a bad thing what is going to happen
this is the question that we typically
ask ourselves whenever we experience a
feeling of surprise it may be a good
surprise it may be a bad surprise but it
influences our behavior very strongly
because it causes us to
come alert when an unexpected thing
happens this is what we ask ourselves
what unexpected event is happening we
try to make sense of it we try to gain
more information we try to gain more
perspective because this was an
unexpected event it may be good it may
be bad but you don't know you're looking
to gather more and more information now
let's say that is a proposition that has
been made to you a new job offer
ready and waiting with an attractive
salary and you didn't see this coming
you are not looking for a job you are
not really anticipating this would come
your way but now it's then front of you
you are completely blown away you're
surprised how can you channel this now
towards doing something how can you take
action when there is a sense of surprise
that is what I am trying to make you
understand here because surprise can
either be something that is off value
something that is productive or it can
be something that is unproductive that
really doesn't lead anywhere the
potential is endless with regard to how
you view a surprise and here when you
receive that attractive offer you aren't
sure how to move whether you're supposed
to fight or flight' run away from the
situation do you take this offer or do
you walk away from it these are the
times of emotional decisions sometimes
we need to make with regard to how we
view a certain situation we didn't see
it coming but now it has happened
decisions are what shape you a decision
can change your life and when you see
this is this going to be of value to me
is the surprise a good thing this is
that sense of alertness that is created
or needs to be created once you have
become alert because Allah
to the larger goal essentially you want
to focus on not the immediate results of
a particular surprise even though
sometimes you need to be practical about
something is this going to help me is
this job going to actually get me the
things that I want for myself is this
new offer of value to me do I want to
invest in this do I want to spend my
money in this making emotional decisions
when we are surprised it can be quite a
challenge that is why emotional
intelligence is so important for you to
make a rational decision that is the
most important thing because your your
hair is standing up you know you're
literally like what should I do now once
you experience that you're already
emotionally aroused what do I want to do
in this situation do I move forward or
do I move back or do I not take any
decision at all here is where you need
to think differently you need to make
rational decisions here rational
decisions once you are emotionally
provoked that what is the long-term
perspective of this what don't I know
what do I think may happen if I make
this particular choice what would happen
if I don't take this particular offer
asking these questions gives you more
perspective and allows you to rationally
understand the consequence of what you
are about to do once you become more
acquainted with all of this you allow
yourself to get into a position that
okay this is what is in front of me this
is what has happened this is what I need
to do now that is the kind of sound
decision-making you want to have because
emotionally provoked when you are alert
you're surprised what is going to happen
next
if you're left in that situation a sense
of unknowing it's not a sense of control
you want to be completely confident and
the way to become more confident by
thinking differently is to think
rationally think rationally as much as
possible and do not look to make
emotional decisions because
they may not lead to what you want for
yourself you they may tell you in the
heat of the moment that this is exactly
what I want but being skeptical asking
yourself a few times okay if this is
what is there how does it benefit me
what does it do for me then you use that
same information you add on once you
keep collecting enough data and you put
the two together and now you have enough
information to make a good decision for
yourself that is the most important
thing because the emotion of surprise
can make us do some stupid things make
us take some risks that we may not
necessarily be too happy about later but
thinking rationally and obtaining a lot
of information to add to the emotion
that we're going through that allows us
to make sound decisions so you use all
of these pieces of information to see
high performance in your life that's how
you want to put it all together think
rationally as much as possible when
there is a great degree of emotion
already present and if there is too much
information try and think about you know
how do I feel about this what this is
the information how do I work with this
now you ask yourself from the other end
of the spectrum you view the information
differently and once you do this in this
fashion you're looking at it from both
perspectives and that in many ways can
be a very powerful thing so combine both
pieces of information to see
higher-performance surprise can make you
feel alert can make you try to bring to
an understanding that what is going to
happen next what do I see coming out of
the situation and you want to be well
prepared for that by having a long-term
perspective you want to expand on this
topic then go watch the video I made on
anticipation and emotional intelligence
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