hi my name's Steve Large and I'm doing
this video just to discuss the whole
issue on Georgian people you know is and
read so much stuff about we should be
doing this we shouldn't be doing that
and you know it all gets very confusing
the way I explain the hard way it comes
to me is I like to see everyone as a
shopkeeper you know so I don't get angry
if I go into the butchers because the
sullen breath you know I don't get angry
because I go into there the bake is
because the selling fish this is how
people's characters are developed and we
have to understand that everyone's
character is in our character our
character and our belief system is made
up on our internal representation and
our perspective of the world which has
been formed over experience our moods or
our social surroundings our family our
peers you know this is where we are with
what we believe and our model foundation
this doesn't mean that because someone
doesn't believe what we believe or
doesn't follow the path the way we
choose doesn't make them right or wrong
you know everything is a matter of
perspective there is no right or wrong
you know from everyone's perspective
they believe what they are doing is
right where would that be what we
believe or what the general masses
believes to be right or wrong is a
different matter but from their
perspective it's okay so once we start
understanding that people don't have the
same belief sizzles and the same models
foundation is all this stops us from
getting hurt we get hurt when we help
people or do things and expect them to
behave how we would behave now this is
naivety on our behalf this isn't their
fault because if they behave the way
they behave and they think they're doing
what's best from their perspective from
what they've learned in their life how
can we get angry with them for being
themselves how can we judge them
behave in the way that they believe is
right we have to behave the way we do
their behavior and the way they conduct
themselves is about their story the way
we choose to respond is about our story
so with the different shopkeeper context
it's it's about understanding that the
person is the way they are now if
there's a person who gossips and you
know that's their social surroundings
and maybe all their friends got sick so
this is learned behavior do I go there
and tell my secret do I go into their
shop and tell the Cephas the first time
I go in and they they make gossip about
my Cephas well that's on them that a bit
of a jerk you know for gossiping about a
Cephas but if I go back to that shop
with another Cephas I have a bit of a
dick because I didn't learn not to go
there there may be a person down the
road that keeps secrets that's where I'm
gonna go to tell my secrets you know I'm
not gonna get angry because that person
got that person gossips that's just the
way they choose to live their life you
know if I went and hung out in their
circle of friends and I didn't gossip
I'd probably be known as that asshole
who who does he think he is he doesn't
even gossip you know he thinks he's
better than all of us if I go to my
circle of friends my close circle of
friends we don't gossip about people or
each other so for all's and our
perspective we wouldn't go there
that's not false that's not our tribe
it's about intelligence of understanding
and learning who's who in the zoo you
know if I put me hand in the petting zoo
that's great if I put me hand in with
the Lions you know and I get bitten
that's on me so we can't just expect
everyone to be like we are we have to
know what each person's characteristics
are about we don't judge him on this we
just have to understand and accept
because then we know where we're gonna
go for the information we need to
advance our life to where we choose to
be we don't keep making the same naive
mistake I've gone to the same people
doing the same
even the same pan and then getting angry
at them for being them or judging them
for being them we accept them for who
they are and if we don't want any of
that we don't go to that shop you know
if there's someone who has had a lot of
formal in the life and they're not ready
to release such form and it's a very
violence or bring in the fat so they're
still very violent minded different
survival mode does that make them bad no
it just means that that's where they are
do I hate them do I ignore them do I
walk past their shop go and I hate that
person because they're not like me no
I'd be polite I will wave as a walk on
by I just won't go into that shop
because there's nothing in that shop for
me so why would I go in there I choose
where I go and I use intelligence of
knowing who is who to know where I'm
gonna go
volve the news and judgments and hate
non people because they're not how I I
want them to be to fit my story but I
want you to behave this way because that
suits me well why should they why should
anyone behave any way that suits me
Who am I that's ego where you believe
that everyone is like you I'm perfect so
everyone should be like me and they're
not like me so I'm gonna judge you and
cast aspersions on because they're not
like me and I'm perfect what is that
nonsense that is ego everyone is where
they are and the minute you start
accepting people are the way they are
and except in their characteristics and
making choices based on this it will
start freeing you up from being reactive
to everybody else's character around you
you will start responding and making
choices that suit your purpose you will
surround yourself with people who suit
your purpose this isn't a bad thing it's
a choice if you've got a purpose where
you want to be in life aim for that and
surround yourself with the tools and
techniques that you need to get where
you choose to be why would you sell
sabotage you know so I hope this
is help they're out a little bit this is
how I explained it to my client you know
it's it helps just give a little bit of
perspective that other people conduct
themself based on their character and
based on the story of them you know I
don't get angry because someone else
conducts themselves a safe and white
another way of looking at it if someone
conducts himself a certain way and they
upset you that's on you you need to heal
why develops at you you know their
behavior is their behavior it's not
personal to you so if they're going
around and telling someone you're a
loser you're a loser you're a loser if
you've won everything in your life in
your head you've been told you you know
winner and there's no trigger for you
feeling like a loser that person is just
a guy or girl or whoever that cause
people are loser there's no trigger
there's no emotional involvement for you
so their behavior is their behavior it's
not personal
now if you've been told you're to lose
it all your life and you feel bad and
you've got pain maybe dad or mom said I
DS a loser and it's an emotional thing
the person who is not personal who's
saying everyone's a loser now you start
disliking because there's a trigger
there for you and they're pressing that
pain that needs to be released so now
their behaviors a problem it's personal
you don't like them where that person is
just behaving the way they behave the
only difference is is that you've got a
trigger that you need to heal we can try
and get away from these people that
figure does as much as you want you know
if someone's got a haunted personality
and characteristics and you know there's
one of them that triggers us we're going
to focus on that one that triggers us
and then we'll start this like in that
person and judging them because they
make us feel bad they're not making you
feel bad you feel bad because you've got
unhealed issues and there's triggers to
that they're just reacting odds figuring
that unconsciously because of their
behavior now you can get rid of this
person out of your life and you know
I've been there where you try and move
away but what happens is someone else
comes into your life of a hundred
different characteristics and
personality traits
and guess what they've got a what
exactly the same as the last person so
before you know it you're focusing on
exactly the same problem the same
trigger in this new person that's the
last person and then you go god why does
everyone treat me like this why is
everyone doing this it's not these
people it's what you're focusing on
because you haven't healed your triggers
and your pain
so you're focusing on the part of them
the characteristic of them that figures
that so it's on you to heal yourself and
so understand people's behavior and
characteristics is about them it's not
personal to you unless there's something
in there
that's personal to you if that makes
sense anyway I hope this has helped you
to understand you know because once we
start understanding who is who in the
zoo we know who to talk to about what
you know everyone has got a purpose in
this world
everyone's got characteristics and
traits that come in useful you know we
just need to know who is who stop being
egotistical and thinking everyone's like
we'll stop being naive and thinking
everyone's model foundation is like ours
and start accepting people for who they
are anyway I've got on long enough
love the lights keep shining wherever
you at all
thank you bye
