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All right. So getting into some some relationship
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and breaking the show down. So make sure you
stick around. First, we get you with a story.
Then moving from a story.
We give you our reaction what we think
about the story. And then finally, we don't
just leave you in the mess. We try to provide
a little motivation with tips on resolving
situations that may be popping up. And not
only the person writing his life, but somebody
you may know or maybe you're going through
as well. So jump in real quick in to the story.
Today's story deals with fake Friends. Oh,
wow. So, near the end of the show, we're going
to kind of talk about signs of your friend
being fake or three signs Your friend is fake.
So we'll talk a little bit about that watching
out for signs of a fake friend. But this one,
I'll let the story speak for itself.
Okay. So jumping in.
The writer writes,
Yesterday, I received a call from my best
friend's husband, claiming my husband was
the father of his wife's four year old daughter.
He said they got into an argument and she
blurted out that her best friend's child isn't
his daughter. He snooped and found out the
child's dad was my husband. I don't know what
to do. A part of me wishes he never told me.
He sent me a blurry video of them both having
sex. She was moaning my husband's name, but
I couldn't really tell If it was him in it
because it was so dark. I feel numb and sick.
To make things worse. Me and my friend are
both pregnant. I'm five months and she's seven
months. Her husband claims that the baby is
also my husbands. They're going to get a divorce.
I just can't believe my husband would do this.
Now my best friend keeps texting me telling
me she's sorry. I've ignored her so far, but
I want to rage at her. She just keeps texting
me stuff like I'm so sorry. Please answer
the phone. Can we talk about it? Please don't
be angry. Forgive me, please. I can explain.
I eventually spoke to her and she says my
husband isn't the person she's been having
an affair with. I told her about him wanting
me to come to their house. And she's when
she's saying him her, her husband wanting
her to come to his house, so that she could
find out some more details on the cheating.
Now, she's saying she doesn't believe the
friend. I don't know what I'm going to do
if we get a divorce. I don't think I can raise
my baby alone. I feel dumb for posting this,
but I have no idea what I should do. Shall
I just pretend?
I don't know.
And it's reaction time. What are your thoughts?
No, you definitely shouldn't pretend that
you don't know because you do know. And does
her husband know that she's aware of his infidelities?
Is he aware just bringing out a letter and
kind of summarizing there she says she hasn't
had that discussion yet. Okay, so the best
friend basically is leaking it. Well, the
the best friend's man husband is leaking is
the one kind of bringing everything to the
light um
I would not I would not keep quiet. Absolutely
not. I would definitely. This is my personal
reaction Okay. I will definitely address a
situation and ask him what's up what's really
going on? And I will just put myself in her
shoes for a second. If this were me having
to go through this yes I would be dev... hearing
all of this Yes, I would be devastated. I
would be mad I would want to rage like she
mentioned in the letter. I would want answers
and you have every right to feel how you feel
you have every right to be mad you have every
right to want to get revenge. You have up
every everything that you are currently feeling
you have every right to feel that way. True
that. I think that it's time for answers.
Period. You need answers. Is your husband
cheating? Is this his baby that's on the way
the baby that they already have? Is that his
baby honey you need answers and DNA test.
Period. Okay.
Right now my my immediate reaction is, it
sounds like you're in denial. It's one of
those scenarios where we don't want to believe
the worst, and people that we love. But if
there's smoke, there more than likely it's
fire. Or like they say, if it walks like a
duck talks like a duck, it's probably a duck.
And I'm saying all that to say this one minute
you're saying you don't want to believe it.
You don't believe what she's saying. And then
the next minute you're you're kind of flip
flopping back and forth. Now on the far fetched
chance, that the other guy that the best friends
so the best friend is saying, I'm not cheating
with your husband. Maybe the guy that she's
cheating with has the same name as your husband
that she was moaning in the video. And there's
just a lot of it. I feel like she's reaching
by not accepting the truth. She said she read
the text messages she wish she could unsee
those text messages. There's just a lot there
in the signs pointing to the husband and the
best friend in that it just, it's just something
that happens. It's always the closest ones
to the closest people to you that you would
never expect will be in your bed getting a
taste to your taste in your
bed and get a taste of your bread. So
I my immediate reaction is Honey, you really
need to kind of come to grips and definitely
sit down with your husband at some point.
But absolutely, I do want to circle back so
that those are just our reactions right now.
We want to deal with handling fake friends.
And this is where I feel like yo girl number
one if she if she having you know husbands
babies on the low oh she is definitely you
want to take that F word out of your verbiage
or Matter of fact you can keep the F word
in your vocabulary. But don't use friend for
that F word. You can use something completely
different when you raging and I will totally
understand.
No, she is she is far bypassed. The word fake.
She is she is over fake friend. I don't even
know what you would call that
right. I mean, let's talk about three signs
that your friend is fake. First and foremost,
you can tell someone's a fake friend When
their behavior is always inconsistent. One
minute, oh man, you my dog, I love you. When
you're like a classic example of fake friends.
If you if somebody is doing this to you, you
may want to put your antennas up, put your
blockers on, if it's all good when you hooking
them up, or giving them something or when
they need something, and then when that same
love needs to be reciprocated, they always
got something else to do, or there's a problem
and if they're not
showing up, no the
adulation that inconsistency and then the
friendship where it's one sided, just loaded
with them receiving the benefits of the friendship.
That's definitely you. Definitely gotta fake
fake fake, fake, fake fake Friend, what are
your thoughts?
Yeah, it's you know it. I don't think it's
really hard these days to tell who's a friend
and who's really not a friend. I mean, if
you're always if one party is always being
successful or succeeding in an area, and you
this other friend is never congratulating
or never wishing them well or never trying
to help them further along in their success
story, then I might consider that someone
who doesn't have my best interest when it
comes to friendships. Yes, if there is someone
every time you achieve a goal every time you,
you, you're doing something big or fantastic
or great in life. And this friend always has
something negative to say. That's not a real
friend. That is a sign of a fake friend. If
you go off and get married, you know, I've
been single for 10 years, I finally found
someone I love. This is the love of my life.
We're gonna make it happen. We gonna buy a
house we won't have kid and they come along
but yeah, she used to date so and so, and
so and so back in the day, did you also know
that she used to do this or you're gonna have
it hard y'all can afford that house y'all
don't need to do fake friend antennas, you
don't need them type of people I have seen
and been around them type of people for some
time. They are not my friends, but I know
how they are right? You know, right. So it's
not very hard to identify what a fake friend
is. Just don't keep this person around you
or near you. Because you feel like you just
need somebody or you you need to call somebody
friend, right? It's not even worth it. So
that's a sign that's just my opinion. All
right,
so So we talked about one sign, your friend
is fake. We've got three signs that your friend
is fake. And this one actually takes me back
to a Kevin Hart comedy special. I don't know
if it was laughing my pain or it was One of
those comedy specials where he talked about
how his wife would call him out. And he would
deflect by just talking about random things.
So she yelled at him about something he's
like, who left the microwave on? Right? It
was it was that comedy special? Yeah. So fake
friends, when the truth is about to come out.
If there's a problem in your relationship,
and you're trying to get down to the truth,
they use self defense, making it seem like
you're the problem. You're the one trying
to ruffle feathers. They use that as a self
defense to deflect from the truth about their
fake behaviors. What are your thoughts?
Well, in this scenario that we're talking
about with her friend, possibly sleeping with
her husband and possibly being pregnant, right,
with his child, that I mean, she like I said,
she has by far exceeded What a fake friend.
She's I mean, she's over her show her friend
fake friend limits he's exceeded.
She then went straight from her fake friend
to needing to a** beaten here. No, it's just
time to go there. If this is what it is, then
it is what it is. And let's just get it to
poppin because you got a whole lot that's
gonna come from me. So if this friend who
you thought was your friend, what's your man
now she pregnant by a man and all this other
stuff? Then she tries to come to you and switch
it around and make it seem like well, if he
was doing this and that that this for your
man, he wouldn't have came to me. So right
that right there is something that a lot of
people do. A lot of women do. And a lot of
men do, especially when they get caught. The
first thing they want to do is switch it on
you Well, you weren't doing this to me. You
weren't giving me that you weren't giving
me this. You weren't making me feel this type
of way. So in return, you go and cheat on
me what my best friend and knock her Come
on now. No, you could have went cheated with
anybody else. But you cheated with somebody
who was available and close in our circle.
That's what you do so fake friend, honey.
She is way over that limit. She's She's at
this point. At this point she the enemy forget
a fake friend. She's the enemy, because she's
over there starting a family a whole family
with your man, so nothing works. That's
not even. We were already saying one kid is
in the world now we've got another way. So
you you know, as weird as it sounds, your
children may have new brothers and sisters
on the way Exactly. You didn't even know about.
Exactly. I can honestly see why Drake says
no new friends lately. Oh, Lord have mercy.
Ooh.
Yeah, that's, that's hard. That's hard to
deal with. That is deep and boy, let me tell
you counseling sessions for this whole little
crew is gone. Something
right right now, once again, we're dealing
with watching out for signs of a fake friend.
So you got to watch out because not as my
grandma used to say, baby, you got a lot of
associates, but be careful about calling everybody.
Yo friend. So once again, we're dealing with
fake friends and our reaction. But the third
and final sign and if you're watching along
and you've made it this far with us, definitely
reach out to us on social media, Instagram,
Twitter, Reddit. If you're watching on YouTube,
definitely let us know in the comments. What
are your thoughts on this story? The final
sign I want to give you is they never want
to deal with facts. Anytime you bring up facts,
the truth, anything that sheds the light,
especially on them negative, they don't mind
facts about other people that they can Haha,
I'm Keekee with you all. But when it comes
to the real deal facts, they always run from
those. What do you what do you think?
And you know, that is very true. I have seen,
especially Lord knows, especially this year
since the whole political issues of America
has arised I've seen a lot of friends, a lot
of people who thought they had real friends,
and real relationships and real people in
their corners. But when all this political
junk drama started to swirl, you have gotten
to see who is really a friend and who was
really a fake friend. We have a lot of movements
going on at the moment. We have a lot of political
talk going on at the moment. Who's voting
for who who's not voting for who and people's
real what what's the word I'm looking for?
There's their true colors have started to
show in a way that you have, you never would
have thought. And you and you sit back and
you think to yourself, I thought this person
was my friend. This was my homie, this was
my ace. But now since we are in the era that
we are living in, the true colors have popped
out. And you have realized you have been awakened.
That this person was never your friend ever.
They were the fakest friend on your Facebook
list on your Instagram. There was the fakest
person out there and it took something like
this to actually reveal that to you. You can
see past the we hanging out at the barbecue
together. You know, he liked my stuff on social
media, I'm liking his stuff. He** we even
go to church together. You didn't see past
all of that. And so, excuse me until all of
this stuff started to flow. All of this stuff
started to come about and people's true Colors
started to show. Boy, boy, boy... You got
a lot of fake friends on your friends list
baby. I feel like Poppy you know, we should
see like like all the Trolls move. Oh wait,
nevermind the Trolls they already having they
own issues. We can't go there right now.
But you know True Colors definitely show and
here kind of going back to the story or any
whether you're the person who wrote the story
or somebody's dealing with something similar.
It's all about the facts at this point. DNA
tests. Check it if your husband truly loves
you and He wants to put this to bed, it's
not about baby you got to trust me. It's about
the fact he shouldn't have a problem. If it'll
as as and I'm talking to you. Heck a old school
right now. But as a man a man's job is to
protect his woman right if a part of it A
part of protecting your woman means you got
to go out and do a test, a DNA test that you
know has nothing to do with you just to keep
the peace in your home. Do the DNA test because
once it comes back negative and of course
you know you get all that makeup goodness
If that it comes back negative all the
if it goes back you're gonna reap the rewards
of that $200-300 DNA test you might even get
it for free if you go to Lauren Lake you know
shout out Lauren Lake, Maury Povich you know
one more Maury P.
but shoutout to Lauren Lake though
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Any final words before we check out?
final words is, you know what, bring it all
to light. Don't hold it in. Don't, don't feel
like it's fake. Don't question it. Bring it
to light, get a handle,
yo
and that's a wrap.
