Content warning: this video is going to
contain some fairly gross discussion
about an alleged sexual assault and also
a lot of discussion of sexual harassment
so consider yourself... content warned.
Have you ever been lonely? I mean really
lonely? Being lonely fucking sucks, and we
don't like it culturally when men are
vulnerable. Toxic masculinity means that
men have to appear strong and in control
at all times. If you're lonely, toughen up
meet people, don't be a loser! You should
be strong and charismatic all the time,
like Indiana Jones, or Steve Buscemi. If
women don't desire you means you're a
beta male loser. Besides, even if you didn't have it in
your head that talking about your
feelings was for little baby weaklings,
who are you gonna talk to? You're lonely.
If you had someone you could talk to
about your loneliness, you wouldn't be
lonely would you? Now imagine some slick
talking dipshit comes along and tells
you he has all the answers. It's actually
really easy to meet people, especially
women, whose validation and attention you
crave the most. All you have to do is
learn some... little tricks... and he's
willing to teach you... for a price. And
that's how men like me are suckered by
pickup artists. For the uninitiated,
"pickup artists" or "P.U.A.s" or "weird creeps"
are clowns that teach men to sexually
harass, intimidate, and otherwise dupe
women into receiving what one can only
assume to be the worst sex of their
lives. We need to be absolutely 100
percent clear about something before I
can go any further. PUAs are victimizers. They treat women
like garbage, and they infect men with
their toxic, sex negative, abusive
ideology. As I explaine my experience
with this culture it may be tempting to
feel sorry for these guys or, you know, me
but keep in mind that I and all the
other suckers like me are adults who
made shitty choices. The women preyed
upon had no say in the matter
and they're the real victims here. Is
that... is that... are we good? Is that clear?
Okay.
the *sigh* "seduction community" teaches lonely
doofuses how to meet women. They run
seminars, sell books, have web forums,
subreddits, podcasts, documentaries, and TV shows, all dedicated to crunching the
numbers on the best ways to get your sad
little penis into as many vaginas as you
can. Their teachings run the gamut from
genuinely kind of helpful things like
dressing nicely, and not reeking of B.O., to
the cartoonishly evil like breaking down
women's self-esteem or taking advantage
of laxer sex crime laws while traveling
abroad if you think that's an
exaggeration let me read from a book by
a prominent pickup artist named Roosh
V. "While walking to my place I realized
how drunk she was. In America having sex with her would have been rape
since she couldn't legally give her
consent. It didn't help matters that I
was relatively sober, but I can't say I
cared or even hesitated. I won't
rationalize my actions but having sex is
what I do."
That's words that he himself wrote, and
then thought you would read these words
and think "Yes, this is a man who I want
to emulate."
They cover a broad spectrum of ideas and
techniques, but there is one core belief
that they all share: Attractiveness is
not innate but rather a skill that can
be taught. They teach that you can look
like Quasimodo and still have sex with all
the hottest women you've ever met,
because a woman's standards are
negotiable. Remember, if you settle for an
uggo you're a loser.
You should make a pretty a pretty-o... a
pretty-o? You should make a pretty-o
settle for you! That's how you win!
That's how you win at dating! You see men
and women are different. Men are visually
stimulated so a woman, of course, has to be
pretty to be attractive. Whereas women
are emotionally stimulated, so a man can
be a complete uggo, and still win a
woman's heart (and loins) by
demonstrating value. Women don't want a handsome man! They want a high status man!
Now let's just look at this list from Forbes of the most powerful people on earth, let's
look at the men on the list, who are all
very high status, because this is I guess
what we can assume women want. And what woman wouldn't want to fuck Mark
Zuckerberg, or Warren Buffett, or Benjamin Netanyahu? Beefcake all-around. Yum-yum.
You see, women aren't attracted to men
because of any agency of their own,
they're just biologically programmed to
seek out high status men. Notice I used
the word "biologically" there? That's
because this is all very scientific, and
not at all just some weird projections
of male insecurities. Good news though!
You can learn to... have status. Just be an
alpha male with lots of confidence and a
casual disregard for other people's
boundaries! Just keep practicing! You can
do it! There's absolutely no aspects to
whether or not a woman finds you
attractive that are beyond your control! 
Just be an alpha male like Mark
Zuckerberg! Hmm, it seems really important to these guys that things like
attraction or status are within your
control. But why? What would they have to
gain from this? What possible motivation
could they have for getting people to
believe something so counter-intuitive?
Why would they keep insisting this over
and over? I just don't understaaaaaand.
This stuff works. I mean not the parts
that are about unlocking sex mind
control, that's mostly horseshit, I mean
that it's suckers in dumb, horny, and
credulous men. And it's not hard to
figure out why, it worked on me. If you're
lonely (and thirsty) it's easy to be
manipulated the idea that whether or not
people like you is within your control.
That's really appealing to some people,
and pickup offers a community of
like-minded dump Lords who validate both
your preconceptions about the
negotiability of a woman's consent and
also the weird pseudoscience nonsense
that the rest of the community fills
your head with. When you're already super
lonely, having a community changes
everything. Even if you have to believe
stupid things to be a part of that
community, it's easy to shut out your own
doubts. Not to mention, not everything
they say is, you know ,wrong. I mean PUAs believe a lot of terrible and sleazy
stuff, but they do have SOME good advice
to offer. They tell guys to groom
themselves, look nice, smell nice, make eye contact,
stand up straight, talk to strangers, make
friends. That kind of thing sounds
rudimentary but when you grow up a
socially stunted mega-nerd it can be
helpful to have someone explain how to
wear clothes that fit, and what to do
with your hands when you're talking. When you get rid of all the toxic attitudes
and nonsense, there is some truth to the
idea that you can get better at being
the type of person who people want to be
around. The problem is once people see
results from the surface level stuff
it's hard to make them see how harmful
the rest of it is. It was for me.
I was suckered by pickup for a long time,
and while I didn't necessarily subscribe
to all of their... colorful views... it did
make me think of women as a means to an end rather than people. I didn't want to,
but it did. I learned to be a more
charming person, on the outside anyway,
but that loneliness didn't go away.
Because I wasn't connecting with people,
I was manipulating them, and I knew it.
You'll never get rid of loneliness that
way, it keeps you lonely. It alienates you
from everyone trying to genuinely
connect with you, because you're trapped
in your head trying to strategize
instead of connecting back. I think
that's kind of heartbreaking, because
there's so much room for a version of
this that isn't so toxic.
A version that teaches men to be less
afraid of socializing with women without
treating them like interchangeable sex
puzzles. Something that treats women like
human beings who deserve respect, 
regardless of whether or not they want
to have sex with you. My suggestion for
lonely dudes: If you want to know how to
attract women without hurting women,
don't ask men, ask women. They'll tell you
what they like, what they're sick of, and
how they wish men would behave around
them. Even then remember individual women are different, and there's no rule of
thumb that's going to make you able to
be attractive to everyone, and anyone who
tells you otherwise it's trying to sell
you something... Also you could just get a
dog and then people will want to be your
friend because you have a dog. And even
if they don't want to be your friend the
dog will be your friend, so just get a
dog. Dummy!
Adopt a dog, go ahead, do it! Just get a
dog #getadog...  *quietly*#getadog
Hey thanks for watching my video, this is
the end of the video, and here's a couple
more ones if you want to... if you want to
see those. Okay bye!
