- Hello, hi everyone.
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It's a puffy eyed early morning y'all,
'cause I am tired.
I guess it's not that early,
it's 11 o'clock, but you know,
I stayed up late, so.
You guys have no idea how
excited I am for this video,
and it's funny, because
I literally just thought
of this video idea last night.
It's not something I was preparing for.
I was literally just working last night,
and I was like, "hmm,
it's been a long time
"since I've done a Q&A video,
"like a long time, bitch."
I don't even, I can't.
I don't even remember the
last time I did a Q&A video.
Like, a year?
Okay, so I did one two years ago.
That can't be my last one.
Was that my last one?
Two years ago?
Okay, well regardless, it's
been a long ass time, so yeah.
I asked you guys some questions
on Instagram last night,
which if you haven't followed
me on Instagram already,
we are so close to one million followers.
So close.
And Instagram is where
you're able to participate
in my upcoming videos,
whether it be Q&A videos,
reactions to your skincare routines,
a bunch of different things.
If you don't follow me on
Instagram, you're missing out boo.
But to those who did submit questions,
thank you guys so much.
I wish I had the option to look up
how many people submitted questions.
I don't think I can, but you
can see all the questions
just go on, and on, and on, and on.
So thank you to everyone who asked them.
I remember doing my first Q&A,
and I think I got 20 questions,
and I was like, "oh my God,
"this is like celebrity status."
I'm going to be doing a personal Q&A.
You guys are probably
familiar with my live streams
that I do every other week,
where I answer your
guys' skincare questions,
and that's a really fun
Q&A format, but I thought
why not do a little bit
more of a personal Q&A?
Because it has been a long time.
And I told you guys to
go in and not hold back,
so I am somewhat nervous,
a little anxious,
but mostly excited to
answer these questions,
so let's just get into it.
I haven't read through any of these yet,
so I'm just gonna rapidly
scroll and randomly stop,
and answer whichever question
I think is the most invasive.
(laughs)
Okay, I'm so excited.
Okay, let's go.
Oh my God.
(laughs)
First kiss story.
Okay, so this is from Scarlet.
She asked what's my first kiss story.
I've probably only told maybe two people
in my whole life this story.
It's so cringe.
So I was in sixth grade,
and let me just say
the school that I went
to was a bit ratchet.
And I say that because as six
graders, 11, 12 year olds,
everyone was doing the nasty.
So many people got pregnant.
There was tons of fights
that broke out on campus.
People were constantly
trading addictive substances.
Our teachers were having
extramarital relations
with other teachers.
It was just, yeah, it was crazy.
I'm honestly surprised I
survived my middle school
because it was like hell, it was hell.
But when I was in sixth grade,
I saw that everyone was doing the nasty,
and I was like, "okay, I obviously
"don't feel attraction to girls,
"but I at least need to be doing something
"to, you know, make
sure that I'm not suss."
And I had a girlfriend, but by girlfriend,
I mean we would spend
a little bit more time
together at school than
my other classmates.
And I remember I felt pressure to kiss her
because everyone else was
doing that shit all day long.
And I'm not gonna say your
name in case you're watching,
but I am so sorry.
(laughs)
And I know that may sound shocking,
but here's a reason why I consider myself
a truly golden gay.
Golden meaning you haven't
done anything with girls.
It's because it wasn't even a kiss.
It was literally like a peck.
I will show you with the palm of my hand
exactly what it was like.
(smacking lips)
Yeah.
(laughs)
Literally that was it.
It was like, purse your lips
and go in for the bullseye,
and then retract as
immediately as possible.
Honestly I've showed more passion and love
for my pillow than I did her,
so I don't really consider that a kiss.
Plus I thought it was gross.
It was wet, and uncomfortable,
and not exciting.
So, yeah, that was my first kiss.
(laughs)
I'm so shocked
that I'm sharing that on the internet,
because I literally never
tell anyone that story,
but you guys are lucky.
It's your lucky day.
Okay, this is from someone named Siri.
They said, "what is your
worst high school memory?"
Hmm, my worst high school memory.
I don't know, there's so many.
I don't wanna be super
dark because to be honest,
there was some extremely traumatizing
memories from high school.
Probably should be reserved
for therapists only.
But I say, just a fun worst memory
was probably when my parents
really did not want me
to read Hunger Games.
It was all the rage when
I was in high school,
and the first movie was
going to be coming out,
and I wanted to read the book so badly
because they just seem
so fascinating to me.
My parents said no, so
I went behind their back
and I read it anyway,
and it ended up being
my favorite series ever.
But one time when I went
to the library with my mom,
and I was trying to get a new book,
they said that I was overdue
on a bunch of book fees,
and they printed out an entire receipt,
and I realized in that
moment in front of my mom
that the Hunger Games was on that receipt
with an overdue amount.
And I panicked and tried
to throw away the receipt
without my mom knowing.
And she ended up finding
me and was furious,
and there was a high
school dance that night
that I was supposed to go to,
and I wasn't able to go to.
And I think she didn't
talk to me for a week.
I don't even think she
looked at me for five days.
Anyway, usual parent things.
I got in big trouble,
but it was really funny
because I was bawling my eyes out,
in my room, trying to get
my parents to talk to me.
It was a whole mess.
But it's kinda funny, because
I look back and I'm just like,
"damn, that's so (beep)
dramatic, over a book."
I can think of so many parents
that would jump for joy if they found out
their kid was reading a book.
(laughs)
Favorite song?
Ooh, that is a great question.
Either "Rush Over Me" by Illenium,
Said the Sky, Seven Lions.
When I tell you that song is angelic
and the perfect marriage of
all of my favorite artists,
I am not lying.
I could bathe in that song for eternity.
But probably "Enough" by Thrillogy.
I found that one earlier this year
and ever since it came
out, I just, I can't stop.
I can't not stop listening
to that song at full blast
and damaging my eardrums.
(laughs)
I'd probably say those
are my favorite songs
simply because of how
much I treasure them.
I know I love a song when
I stop listening to it
because I almost want to keep
that listening experience sacred.
Okay, I take music way
too (beep) seriously.
"Do you actually like Curology?"
Oh my gosh, this is so funny
because I was literally
just going to tweet about this today.
I love Curology.
I've always loved Curology.
I did a video two years
ago, an unsponsored video
talking about Curology,
because I was fed up
seeing their advertisements
literally all over the place.
I talked about how much I liked Curology,
and then I recently did a
sponsored video with them,
and now they're using clips
from that video in their ads,
and all of the sudden, I saw
so many people freaking out
and saying like, "Hyram's
been bought out,"
and I'm just like, "no,
I've always loved Curology."
I literally talk about
how much I like them
in every live stream.
Go back years on my channel.
Girl, where have you been?
I don't know who started this rumor
that I don't like Curology,
because I always have.
(laughs)
But yes, I actually like Curology.
I think they're a great company.
I mean, I wouldn't work with
them if I didn't like them.
Okay, this is from Julia.
She says, "if you could
travel anywhere right now,
"where would you go? Much love."
Thank you Julia!
I would say, honestly, South Korea.
I want to go to South Korea so badly.
I was supposed to go earlier this year.
It was canceled because of Covid.
But honestly, looking not only at the way
that they've responded to Covid,
but just at the overall
technology advancements
they have not only in their society,
but also for skincare,
the beautiful nature,
the respectful culture, I'm just like,
"why am I not there?"
(laughs)
It seems like such a cool
country, and honestly,
I really wanna go to a
South Korean nightclub.
I'm not a clubbing person,
mostly because I feel like
USA clubs are really nasty and gross,
but the clubs over there
seem like another level.
Just so cool.
But honestly, I would
just love to go there
to experiment with the skincare
and see all the new
technology that they developed
that we don't have here in the US.
Okay, so Lauren says, "what's one thing
"you don't like about living in Hawaii?"
When I tell you I've had
an answer prepared...
(laughs)
I love Hawaii, I think it's amazing.
I love nearly everything about here,
except for the gay community.
It is the most toxic gay community
that I have ever experienced in my life,
and I know many people who
have moved here from New York,
they've moved here from
all over the place,
and collectively, they have all told me
that it is the most
toxic, shallow, racist,
disgusting community that
they've ever experienced,
and I have to say that I agree.
And it's definitely turned me off.
I don't know what the reasoning is.
I think Hawaii is absolutely incredible,
and the local culture here is so amazing,
but I will say that I never experienced
first hand, face-to-face,
unapologetic racism
until I entered the Hawaii gay community.
Before that, where I grew up,
people would, you know,
try to hide their racism,
but here in the gay community,
people do not hide it.
It is full blown disgusting racism,
using people, shallowness.
It is just so bad, and I don't like
to make a blanket statement
for the entire gay community
because obviously, I can only speak
on my experiences that I've had here.
But collectively from a lot
of people I've talked to,
that seems to be the general consensus.
So I will say that's the one downside
of living in Hawaii, unfortunately.
But it's okay, I'm
pretty much not connected
with the gay community anymore
and I'm totally okay with that.
I do my own thing, I don't
have friends, it's great.
Mia says, "when did you discover
your passion for skin care?
"I love you," oh, thank you Mia.
So it's kinda a two part story.
I'll tell you when I discovered my passion
for cosmetics in general.
I was struggling with an eating disorder.
I was slowly getting to a point
where I was comfortable recovering,
but I still couldn't find ways
that I was able to see my own beauty.
In my entire life, I had never
once looked in the mirror
and thought to myself, "I'm beautiful,"
or "I'm handsome," or "I look good."
My experience with viewing
myself was only negative.
I remember one day I went to the safari
'cause I got super sunburned,
and I got a tinted moisturizer,
and I brought it home,
and I put it on and I
looked in the mirror,
and it was the first
time in my entire life
that I had ever felt beautiful.
And it wasn't because of
how I looked with makeup on,
it was just the thing
that unlocked my ability
to see the beauty within myself.
And it was just an incredible,
life-changing experience,
and I got really passionate about makeup.
But I think makeup kind of capped for me
because I began working
as a makeup artist,
and working on a lot of clients
who didn't want to do fun looks,
but wanted to do super
natural basic looks,
it just kind of, I don't know,
it kind of ruined the fun for me.
But in that process, I
was able to start learning
about skincare and ingredients,
and I was just amazed by just the amount
of information out there.
Never ending information about skincare.
And to this day, I am learning new things
every single day about skincare,
whereas with makeup, I didn't
feel, for me personally,
that there was as much
education to pursue.
And to be honest, I think that's what's
hooked me in for so long.
It's just the amount of
learning that there is.
So yeah, kind of a fun story.
"What was my major in college?"
Good question.
It is the most complicated
freaking answer ever.
I studied international cultural studies
with a primary emphasis of
intercultural peace building,
and a secondary emphasis of anthropology,
and a certificate on entrepreneurship.
Basically, I was studying
about sustainable ways
to make a positive impact on the world,
as in social entrepreneurship,
which bridges the gap
between nonprofit work
and entrepreneurship,
to make sure that you're
not hurting the people
that you're trying to help
by being a toxic nonprofit,
but that you're also
sustainable and able to grow
and not just relying solely
on people's donations,
while also studying methods
of conflict resolution,
globally and locally, and
learning about the complexities
of anthropology through ethnography.
It was so much fun, I love what I studied.
College overall was kind of
a, it was an okay experience,
but what I was studying
was just fascinating to me.
I could learn that stuff forever.
Emily asked, "do you
have self confidence?"
I actually like this question
because, I don't know,
I think people should be expressive
about this kind of stuff.
To be honest, I don't think I really have
any self confidence, or how I look.
I do have little moments
where I do feel good,
or I do feel, you know, beautiful,
or maybe attractive, once every few years,
but besides that, no, and I
feel like it's okay to say that.
I feel like it's okay to talk about.
I love the culture that we've created
around self confidence,
but I feel like sometimes
when I say I don't have self confidence,
people automatically feel like
they're obligated to say
something to boost my confidence,
and while I appreciate that,
I think that people don't
realize that self confidence
truly comes from yourself.
You can have everyone telling
you that you look beautiful,
you look amazing, you're
an incredible person,
but that shit doesn't matter
if you don't feel it yourself,
and I've always been that way.
I could have a million people
telling me good things about myself,
but I'm like, "until I believe it,
"that shit's not gonna happen."
And maybe that's an unpopular
opinion, I don't know.
And I know a lot of
times you guys grill me
for my constant self-deprecating humor,
but I feel like I really
accepted it, and it's okay.
It's okay to not feel confident,
and I don't think we should be
afraid of talking about that.
So, no, to answer your question, I do not.
Oh my God.
Oh my God, I cannot believe
someone asked this question.
This is hilarious.
Okay, you know what?
It is technically a skincare question,
but I will respond to it.
(laughs)
"Does (beep) actually help your skin?
"And if so, why?"
(laughs)
So, no, it doesn't.
It can actually be kind of dehydrating
and stripping to the skin.
It is not meant for the skin.
I do not encourage those types of facials,
and I will leave it at that.
Oh my God, I am seeing so many questions
of people asking me if
I'm a top or a bottom.
Guys, I'll be honest, I do it all.
Just take your pick, and
we'll go with it boo.
I'm personally not super
offended by this question
'cause I don't really care,
and I don't think that we
should be secretive about sex
because everyone does it.
It's how you came into the world, boo.
But I will say, I wanna bring this up
because this is a question
that I get asked so often,
not only online and in the real world,
and it is not an appropriate
question to ask most people.
Think about it, do you have random people
coming up to you and asking you,
"what's your favorite sexual position?"
Like, "tell me what you do with
another person in your bed."
"Share the details with
me, every gross detail."
No, that's freaking weird,
so why are you asking gay people that?
While I'm not personally offended by it,
it is very offensive to
ask that question to people
unless you are on a best friends basis.
If you're not on a best
friend basis, bitch,
don't ask that question.
It's a weird question and
people should not feel obligated
to respond to that.
But I just wanted to say mine
because people are constantly
speculating over it and I'm tired of it.
I'm tired.
(laughs)
"How tall are you?"
Okay, I'm glad someone asked this question
because you guys, for some
reason, think I'm super short.
I don't know why,
everyone thinks I'm 5'2".
And every time, on Tik Tok, or wherever
I show videos of my whole
body, people are always like,
"oh my gosh, you're so much
shorter than I thought,
"you're tiny."
I'm like, "I don't care
if I was tiny, but, no."
(laughs)
My leg length is more
equivalent to my torso,
and also, I'm not like a twig.
I have a little bit of meat on my bones,
and I'm definitely kinda curvy,
so I think maybe that's why.
I honestly don't know.
I'm 5'7", I think that's average.
Maybe it's short to you, I don't know.
But yeah, that's how tall I am.
Okay, I'll answer a few more questions,
and I'll try to make them
real juicy and personal.
Oh, this is a good one.
"Do you see yourself with kids one day?"
Absolutely.
I love children so much,
just because I feel like
they're such beacons of positivity,
and they're so loving.
They truly know how to
show an un-equivocated
and unconditional love,
and they inspire me so
much to be a better person.
I really want to have kids one day
because I know that
there are so many orphans
around the world who don't have parents,
who are in cycles of poverty,
who will continue to be
in those cycles of poverty
for the rest of their lives
unless they're presented
with opportunities
for empowerment, education,
and honestly my dream is just to adopt
so many kids from around the world
and give them the best
opportunities possible,
whether it'd be through education,
helping them grow
businesses or nonprofits,
or just showing them love
that they have not been able
to receive throughout their life.
But I do wanna wait until
I'm in a really good place
to be able to do that.
I wanna wait until I have
the time, the energy,
to be able to completely devote to kids.
I don't think it's good to have kids
when you're young and not
ready, because think about it,
you are raising another human being
that could have the potential
to either be a Nelson Mandela
or a Hitler, and that's all up to you.
Really freaking terrifying.
So for me, I wanna make sure
I'm in the best place possible
to be able to create the
best future for my children.
And right now as a 24 year old YouTuber,
I'm definitely not ready.
(laughs)
I think I might be ready
when I'm 30, I don't know.
I still have to read up a lot
on childhood psychological understanding,
methods of us raising a child.
I know I have to go
through a lot of therapy,
so I'm not exerting any
of my childhood trauma
onto my children.
Making sure my finances are stable enough
to be able to make sure
I have enough free time
to devote to my children.
There's just a lot of factors
that would need to be at play
for me to be ready to have kids, but yes,
I definitely wanna have kids so bad.
I'm so excited for the
day I get to have some.
Ooh, Sarah asked, "what's
your biggest regret?"
That is a good question.
You know, I don't really
live my life with regrets.
I know that might sound a little cliche,
but I truly believe that
every decision I've made
in my entire life has
gotten me to this point,
which kinda makes me not
really regret anything
that I've done.
Yes, maybe there are
moments where I'm like,
"I could have done that better,"
or "I wish I would have known earlier
"to get out of that situation,"
but at the same time I'm
like, "no, everything
"had to be in place for me
to be where I am right now."
And I'm so grateful to be where I am,
to be creating videos for you guys,
helping people with their skin,
and if even one thing
had changed in the past,
it could have derailed everything
and put me in a completely different spot.
So I truly do not believe in regrets.
But I definitely believe in being smart
and working hard right now,
so that your future can be better.
I think it's good to
not live with regrets,
but also not be doing anything
really stupid in the present
so you don't have issues down the road,
if that makes sense.
We all make mistakes, but
be as smart as you can.
Okay, one more question.
Okay, this is a good one.
Kate asked, "how was your
life before YouTube?"
You know, I always like to look at my life
through a very positive lens.
I don't like to be
negative, but I will say,
life before YouTube was really hard.
I've been rejected by people
I loved for being gay.
I wasn't able to continue my education
because I was completely broke,
I only had 25 cents a day for food.
I was working my ass off 60 hours a week.
I was going through a really, really dark
mental health issues.
I was struggling with an
eating disorder, self harm,
a lot of emotional ache and issues,
and while, yes, there were
a lot of good moments,
and it wasn't complete awful,
I will say I have noticed since
YouTube came into my life,
I am just so much of a happier person.
I feel so grateful to be
able to make this content
for all of you and help you
guys feel more confident.
I love that I have an endless
amount of things to do,
and projects to work
on, and things to build.
I'm so, so, so grateful to be able
to have the financial means
to help other people around the world,
and donate to nonprofits,
and build projects
that are gonna help even more people,
and best of all, I get to wake up everyday
looking forward to all
the things I have to do.
So, you know, life since
YouTube has improved so much
and I'm so grateful, and I don't like
to talk about it very much
because I get emotional.
(laughs)
But yes, even though I
have so many good things
in the past, and I'm so
grateful for my past,
and I think I have a
wonderful, wonderful life,
I am really grateful for YouTube
and opportunities that it's given me,
and just the overall happiness
that it has brought me.
And none of that would have been possible
without you guys, so thank you
guys so, so much, as always.
I am just so grateful for
you guys, all the moments.
When you're sending me videos
of your skincare
transformations, everything.
I'm so grateful to all of you
for creating this future for me.
And yes, thank you guys
for sending the questions.
This was so much fun.
This definitely got really personal,
I was not expecting that.
But that's okay, I feel like my content
is so skincare focused all the time
that maybe some of you guys want to learn
a little bit more about me, who knows.
Thank you all for watching.
Make sure you follow me on Instagram,
so that you can be a part of the next Q&A,
and if you haven't already,
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and I'll see you guys
in the next one, mwah.
