You’re struggling; you’ve lost your mojo.
Covid-19 has nipped in and stolen your dreams.
All those bold plans — or even any plans
— you had for the future have been put on
ice.
Maybe you’ve lost your job?
Or your options for getting one have been
stymied?
Maybe you hate the job you have but you’re
now too scared to jack it in because the job
market’s in turmoil?
Maybe you can’t move to a new city as you’d
hoped to do?
Or that side hustle you thought was your ticket
to freedom now looks, and feels, like a massive
waste of time?
You’re trying hard — but it’s getting
to you.
You’re waking up each day in a fog, unmotivated
for a future that’s had all the colour sucked
out of it.
What to do?
First, take your feelings seriously.
Seriously.
This is a delicate time for our mental health.
Because when people can’t see a future they
lose hope.
And a lack of hope leads to despair.
The best way to protect ourselves from that
is to deploy the most unsexy, under-rated
secret of success: CONSISTENCY.
I know, you’re rolling your eyes.
“Consistency” as a concept lacks verve;
even the word is boring.
(And no-one rates consistency in a partner
until they’ve been messed up by an inconsistent
one!)
But the truth is consistency rules — in
your job, your art, your relationships, your
friendships, your health habits, your knowledge,
your interests.
And the danger in a volatile world is that
we’re destabilised, that we lose our good
habits, that we lose faith in what we know
is good and true.
So here are the keys to consistency.
“Relying on craft and routine is a lot less
sexy than being an artistic genius.
But it is an excellent strategy for not going
insane.”
If you’re aiming to be something or someone
in this environment, you’re in trouble because
outcomes are even harder to predict than they
used to be.
You don’t have to drop your expectations:
just aim to get (really) good at whatever
you do.
If you’re a writer, write.
If you make art, make it.
If you tinker with motorbikes, tinker.
If you’re lifting weights, lift more or
bigger.
If you’re learning something, learn it well.
Keep going and you’ll get good.
“The willingness to show up changes us,
it makes us a little braver each time.”
Put your bum in your chair or your feet in
your garage regularly — daily if possible.
Don’t just turn up every now and then or
when the mood strikes.
You won’t get really good by doing that.
Nor will you get the satisfaction that comes
with consistent effort.
“Just being there is ninety-nine percent
of what matters when your world falls apart.”
Our moods and feelings are valid, especially
now, but we can’t afford to let them govern
everything.
Especially when we’re struggling with motivation.
So don’t ask yourself how you’re feeling
before taking action.
Just schedule it and follow through.
“Some days you just have to get rid of as
best as you can.”
You’ll have bad days.
But you had bad days before coronavirus, remember?
Anyone who’s successful in any field will
say you always have to get past bad to get
to good.
And one of the great lessons of life is that
you don’t have to be feeling amazing to
do great work.
Stay in the game.
“If you compare yourself with others, you
may become vain or bitter, for always there
will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
Beware of comparison — it’ll put you in
a deep, dark hole.
And the sad thing is it’ll be one you dug
yourself.
Other people are getting on with their stuff.
So just get on with yours.
“If the ladder is not leaning against the
right wall, every step we take just gets us
to the wrong place faster.”
You’re allowed to change course: if you
eventually find you want to do something else,
you can.
Nothing is wasted (a truth we don’t fully
believe until we’re old enough to Look Back
on our lives).
Time spent improving yourself and mastering
your skills is always time well spent.
And if you’ve shown commitment and perseverance
to anything, you’ll have a magic bullet
no-one can ever take from you: proof that
you can.
