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Deepak I'm really curious about emotional
reactivity.
What does it mean when someone is feeling emotionally reactive?
And what can we do about it?
Okay so...
Anytime you anticipate in your mind
something going wrong
that produces anxiety or fear.
Anytime you
remember a past hurt,
that creates the emotion that recalls anger.
So anger even
though it might be expressed right now,
it's actually the memory of the past hurt.
Fear is the anticipation or floating in.
Guilt is blaming yourself because you're a Catholic or something like that!
Jew, but we also have it!
Yeah, true.
And shame
is a consequence of that.
And the depletion of energy is... depression.
So... fear, anxiety, anger, guilt, shame, depression
are all in a way, the inability to be totally present,
because you're either remembering a past hurt
or anticipating a future hurt again,
because you didn't know how to deal with it in the past.
Now there are other emotions...
toxic emotions.
Like holding grievances,
resentments, hostility, which is the
desire to get even.
So, all mammals actually have emotions.
The word mammal comes from the word mama.
So, mammals are not egg-laying.
Rodents will make babies and
breastfeed.  They all have emotions.
Other animals have these emotions too
but I don't think dogs or other mammals have the facility.
So if you meet a dog, and you enjoy the dog, and you meet the dog 5 minutes later it might attack you.
But... it won't plan to fight with you.
It's not plotting its revenge.
Yeah, it's not plotting its revenge.
So these are all emotions,
and our inability to deal with them recycles
them, and then they evolve to greater depths.
So gloominess and doom.
So the way to deal with these emotions is....
how to take responsibility, to feel them.
To learn to label them, describe them, express them, share them.
Use rituals to release them, and ultimately be totally free.
Or what we call emotional toxicity.
Once you're free from emotional toxicity, then you can engage in...
Social emotional intelligence should come after that.
A lot of people want emotional social intelligence,
which is empathy, compassion, love,
joy, equanimity.
But they haven't gotten rid of their own toxic emotions so it ends up being... I mean, hypocrisy,
which is in my view, of all of so-called moralities... jealousy with a halo and,
and cunning hypocrisy.
Unless it emerges spontaneously as a result of the evolution of consciousness.
That's what toxic emotions are.
They don't deal with what is actually happening.
And the seven steps that I mentioned...
They are a way to release the emotion.
And then you cultivate emotional social intelligence.
And ultimately, you come to a stage where the right response occurs to you,
and to every situation as it occurs so you don't have to think about it!
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