like a bouncing ball the more we can
bounce back and the quicker we can bounce
back
The less effect a change or misfortune has
on us.
and I don't know about you guys but I'm
am very interested
and I always stay interested in becoming a
stronger and more resilient
and I lot of the the concept... concepts I will be talking about today come
from the book "Who Moved my Cheese".
you may be familiar
with it or even have a read it in the past
read it at to have a credit it's a very
quick read
easy reading and one of those books that
if NW go
no okay and it gives you that aha moment
the author of that book is Spencer
Johnson it does come in paperback so
am let's go ahead and start this
training and I'll tell you what our
objectives are for today
we're going to be talking about the
nature
change in order to understand why change
affects us so
much we understand Afghanistan mmm what
causes changed how it affects our
and emotionally and biologically
democrat talk about change management
strategies and then connection with that
when we're dealing with change the more
we have a better a good understanding
how to use our time then we can deal
with change effectively
and then finally Harry mention we are
going to talk about resiliency technique
and how to adapt to change
and maintain your motivation am
in order to become more resilient
we have to become better better where am
more understanding what chain here and I
hope by the ended
training you'll have some positive
appropriate options on how to approach
change it work
and other parts of your life as well K
sometimes we have time to prepare for
change and in some time
we don't know when life throws a
curveball
or we don't have that time to prepare it
can be very very unsettling
but wallace's truth that some changes we
don't have time to
expect or stated other favourite beer
we do have control inflexibility
on our response I'm say that again we
might not have
control or say so when a change comes in
our life
but we do have control over
and flexibility but our response career
change
said like three to keep that in mind
that we're talking about change
let's get started even in getting to
this so I know you're on the telephone
today but if you're in a room together
I would sit down and ask you the same
question and
in it means that the first question what
kind of changes to replace it worked my
guess is that I've might hear quite
answers like concerned about
sequestration
increased workload much manpower am
for the second question what kind of
changes are you basing their lives I
might get some responses that mean
technologies make your life easier to
stay connected with people
sometimes a little time to move into bad
many of you know I'm probably would hear
wow it's really hard to keep up with
everything that has to be done
I'm and some other changes in your life
better
and from the changes not so sure about
am
note that brings us to the third
question what
feelings come up when we're dealing with
change
am for most analysts when we think about
change
my hunch is I would get both positive
that could be exciting
or negatively can be pretty scary
Imperial so it does bring both sides of
the coin with your own
change NY is change such a popular world
word am because biologically
we really are creatures of habit human
being we can to experience a change at
the loft
or disruption and not the other side and
an opportunity your denture
armored reaction is who
what happened to the where you to do
things we're safest one morning
established norms
and you know what to expect no change
reports assessed to redefine the storm
redefine the way we do things and
recommit have a new way of doing things
in a new ideas and new thinking
and change for forces us to be adaptable
more we might not be ready to do so cell
and going through this training and we
can talk about change management
techniques and
and time management and resiliency I'd
like to read it
take a second right now now be quiet for
about 20 seconds
to write down art think in your mind
about a change you have recently gone
through are going through gonna be going
through
one make you you know it's coming down
the pike for one that you're right
mexico
home you could think up how you are
dealing with that right now keep that
change in mind
I'd like for you to apply this technique
from the information we talk about today
can exchange somebody quite second why
you write that down
me
okay I hope you had a second to write
down what range you're dealing with
anticipating
maybe in a cab right now and communities
ideas as we move forward
to address those K exchange in see where
you're at with it
am as I mentioned before some
information in this training is from
about a couple who moved my cheese I'm
and
in this book talks about the different
roles that we take on a whim or
in the middle exchange and I'm gonna go
to the border
responses to the common role for people
to play out am
atm in connection with change first one
is the investigator
and the investigator is really pretty
neutral
it changed everything they need more
information
I'm more data in order to understand
what's happening
and they want to get a more information
get answers and just keep adding to the
pile
other information or they're gonna take
a stance whether the changes could be
negative or positive
again just like it says on the screen
seeking information once know what's
going on
and it began to explore the change in
open to it but it has just
open or the door he they haven't gone
through that door
the opportunist am profit about changing
she talked about change
any optimistic about things and the head
in the in the future will be better and
they had better days ahead
for themselves and they
will be banned due to this upcoming
change from
so opportunist looks at this
individually
saying this is going to be good for me I
know I'm gonna make it through
and they they'd look at it as an
opportunity just like it says
the next row you might find yourself I
have been when you dealt with the change
is resistor and this is a tough place to
be
I'm dispersant quite negative and
doesn't like change it all
I'm their reaction to change can be
something like
why now everything was going to find why
couldn't stay the same
and they will very vocally say I don't
like this one bit
in this thing really is gonna have the
hardest time
change because if they're anger and the
frustration and the resistant
I can it's like they're their hang their
head against a wall
I'm you hoping that the door station at
met towards gonna be opened up with the
change coming
I'm so is it says on the on the screen
they feel angry frustrated they complain
a lot and they act out in Connor protect
our way
so if you're in that regard mister
mobile with changes that you're dealing
with
and group at being one small
he said the change that you can begin to
glimmer
that might be a little bit better just
to begin to get out at register all
or also make a comment 2000 I
this change is coming why might not like
it I've got to move forward with it an
adapter timely peppering for support
chrome
missus the adapter the attackers like
opportunist
in that he profited I'm but not only
does the speed that
up there's an opportunity Ford van to
better our growth
arm are good outcome for themselves they
offer
see it at that positive step for an
entire team or
family may want to help others get on
board with this change
I am they actually did after acted like
a change
and sees it as an adventure with new
possibilities
so good after kinda like a cheerleader
in the group
they're gonna be the one who's gonna be
going around saying come on guys we can
do this you know it's gonna get easier
if we all rallied together
so not only are they anything positive
himself
they're pulling the group together cell
again with fed thinking about those four
rolls I'd like to just
remind you that bitch boys you do have a
choice
in the role but you pick when you're
dealing with change
again you might not have a choice when
the change came after
so to speak or that it's there to stay
but you do have a choice
which role you'd like to pick an
as I probably ever attempted to you
being the adapter
is a really good role to be in and not
just in your work
life but also on your home line we want
to be an adapter
to change it now to change I'm we r
in that role we're gonna have a a chance
acting more positive
door to change and to grow net change in
benefit from the experience
am I'm not that the poor panda say it
one more time for emphasis you might
have control over when it right change
come to your line
like you can choose your reaction
alright
so again I bet we were sitting together
i'd have somebody raised her hand right
see some facial expression
saying are not all trainers are so good
you're absolutely right
some changes come to our work light in
our home line
I am that at the time when they come we
can see
anything positive and they don't see we
don't see how they could be
in for our good or in our best interest
perhaps you're even think neighbouring
left pane still trying to meet your
established bills that come to you very
much
perhaps working more people
are not being able to provide services
to your customers that you were
wat doing the pad and you kinda question
the value of your services
because invest in budget cuts so you
can't
are as much as you can and these are all
very strange situation
no doubt home or
when I left out how bout now you have a
new manager because your manager was
down 53 left the company
and you don't know quite how to read
this new manager
it is normal struggle with a change when
it comes to happen we don't feel like we
have control
however gain stack
in net resistant and anger is not her
best friend
have especially now with the furlough
situation you probably have
some additional strain on you that out
of your control
what can you do to make it better for
you
home
to try to keep focused on the goals that
you have in place
readjust your call when you're dealing
with a difficult time
in a very good strategy to take a moment
to talk a little bit more about that
think about the goal thank you happy for
yourself in your own mind
in your job are you going on track with
don't call
maybe not financially at this point I'm
so what do you do have to do to get on
track financially
are you on crack in your career are you
on track and where you hope to be
with your family at this our
relationship time
wanna things that I think it's important
when we're dealing with
uncertain times story mention one mantra
so to speak and that marker what I don't
have control over when chain come
but I do have control on how I react to
it at Montreux number one
marker number two just a suggestion
today
for you to take away it when you're
dealing with time coming
certainty thinking outside the box and
being restored people
no turkeys 10 reach your goal create new
coal
gold and feel like you have some control
being reportable thinking outside the
box
we may have to do things a little
differently during times have changed
what does that mean to you again after
talking to a
think about those telemarketers so far
and see if you can apply in them to your
situation
show we talked about the poor role but
actually in actuality
dealing with change comes down to to
parking lot come
you can choose to be a change victim or
a change master I'm
you know if they weren't and really
apricot said it I should know who said
this AM but they're going to think that
we can be sure we might have death and
taxes
what they were a contract between
employers and employees
back on track with Greek something like
change is inevitable
that it's only going to be around the
corner
and just like life work is a succession
of changes
and there's no way to prevent change
from occurring
so the real issue is not and
when whether they'll be changed whether
you're gonna how are you going to deal
with it when you're faced with it
so that when we go back to are gonna be
a change faster
are changing Tim talk about the change
victim
the change victim is a person who is I'm
prepared
overwhelmed and victimized by change
change victims fall behind and often get
ahead
of rarely get hurt Friday rarely get
ahead
this person has no idea where they're
going what
in or what they wanted to see they have
no idea what their goals are
and their or they're focused on
long-term goals
Decker drill site or they're not
focusing on the short term goal
that need to be done the here and now
want to talk about that again but I'll
are say it now if that when you're in a
time a change
focusing on the short term goals gives
you a more sense of control
I'm focusing on a long-term goal so what
are you sure
Cup term growth that you need to do for
this week this month
change master he's the one who
recognizes
prepared for and take advantage of
opportunities
and magic ain't he keeps his eye
on it cold and what do you want 30 and
it's ready to change
those gold anything and he needs to do
to keep moving forward
and time uncertainty focusing on the
short term growth
more do more than long-term goal now
they're just fat
no where's your okay are you change
master
her change victim do you know what your
short term and long term goals are
sure can go same IP right now reducing
your weekly expenditure how much you
spend
my nine to ten percent
you might be doing a quick broken you
know not using credit cards right now
and shifting everything in cash
to see how much you actually spend
schork
term goal to work that might be looking
at a project that you have to do
and its due date is right after Labor
Day in getting it done next week
long-term goal I'm those might include
something like getting yourself and your
family
in a position to retire during times of
uncertainty
you may have to extend how many more
years you work to make up for lost
income
did it the parallel or stock market
market issues
I know for myself I was one point in
time I was looking to retire
62 nomadic extended to 65 in
now at 266 met my goal right now
I am long-term work called misprint
really important
you arc on track with where you want to
be in your career
and you no where you'd like to get to
quite campaigning do you need in fact
the company and outside the company
to get a more desirable in in your
agency
where are you putting that into your
plan
long-term goal to your family do you
have the document we all need
for the security or family in place to
have you will
your grandpa directive your and power
attorney set up in
stored in a safe place he took a
document
calling have updated so you can become
a master change and cope with some other
time progresses
do to change that occurred in your life
in your work
no let's take a little bit more specific
approach on this
and look at extent come pick me center
Mac can only help create an attack in
survive during change
help you continue to grow and dried
K slope move a little bit bored
hearing from strategies to become a
change master
and they're called or see as I mentioned
Kb
or the adapter role for Mom mighty
babe love change they actually thrive on
change
some %uh view may thrive on change in
parts of your life
I'm for myself I'll share with you that
I love doing new adventures
am if there's something new out there in
the sports world
or will call activity home
and I'm ready to go try it in a minute
notice
arm but something you also might be more
adaptable in the work world loom
map it comes up to doing something or
one way to top 10
something new comes up and you're going
great let's give it a try
we all have the areas in our lives there
were more adaptable
and we perhaps give yourself credit the
people who are adaptable
are hearty individual and they remain
healthy and productive
even during the night stress and those
are again our change mastered
and the poor things they haven't problem
a problem
or think they have in common are these
foresees commitment can learn to control
in connection very embody these for ID
let's talk about each of them
individually they demonstrate
straight a commitment to their growth
and get their career
they haven't sent a meaning and purpose
to what they do
and they have a commitment to change and
grow so they
know where they wanna go in light and in
with their job
and they're working toward that safety
changes both a challenge and an
opportunity
they don't you stick to your word it's
not scary it's a challenge it's an
opportunity
there energized to change and they want
to take on job to stretch their ability
connection they seek support from other
so there's sector
sense of connection when we're going to
time for change it's very very important
to have a support group
and it work they're going to seek out
those long
ok and support them in the chain and
that they can help in rally around as
well
may learn from others around them they
are like to help others
and by my control they focus their
energy and attention to what they can
control
they don't get frustrated and what they
can't and they are constantly looking
for new ways to accomplish the girls
they're working court and again yes it
does sound like the attacker person
cell they're gonna spend their energy
I'm what is
changeable and what's in their control
and Mike Goldberg Gration I'm noticing
that they can't
show take a second and look at the
deportees
and think about for yourself it you do
if you're doing wannabes if your body
wanted these characteristics
now artist one more Q that you need to
work on
make a note of it for yourself right now
after we finish up this part about to
change master
wanna read this quote here in an
alternate line for any questions that
you had
when a door closed another one opens
we've all heard that
but often we stand there home long
looking at the closed-door
that we don't see the one that it opened
help it
essential to change a mastery simple
but it's a session central are change
and management experts
we have to recognize that change commit
morn
we we want to commit yourself to become
a changed man after
you keep looking backward what one your
missed some opportunities ahead of you
no market-wide keep looking forward
so let me go ahead open up the lines
before we start talking about
other changes we face in our life
the conference is now and talk mode
kennett I hear lot no respect thereto
does anyone have any questions
smoke actually your children
ok for your children the background
now okay I had alright
bookend if there's any questions you
wanted to chat
adding sentiment at our sponsors program
alright and they're close to linebacker
more convenient
the conference is now in silent mode
i right so we been talking about being a
change master
I'm and the different roles that we can
take on
let's talk a little bit more about the
different types of changes that were to
pay for them I'd
and basically you can break them down
into three different categories
they're expected changes unexpected and
planned changes
plan changes the expected changes
are those changes or those events in our
lives
that we expect to go through at the Wii
go through life
I'm you including finishing high school
going to college
getting married having children at
changing dad
retiring so while we might
not know the exact time frame we have a
general idea
like I mentioned before I have a general
idea when I'd like to retire
I'm yet we're aiming for that we feel
some 10 percent to control I'm
however somebody's changes or like
stepping down can become unexpected 1
we don't graduate college when we want
it
we didn't get married too person we've
got we're gonna stay married to you for
the rest of your life only one that can
be more
I'll we find out we have an element
serious illness only lose a loved one
sudden illness or a car accident
or perhaps we might have to change
cities because the cap opportunity for
our health report about
not expected not in our are plan
didn't what didn't expect to be dealt
that hampered be
and we don't get much time here for this
change
and it just feels like our world that we
knew yesterday
is totally different today mom
be unexpected changes are gonna
obviously
be much more taxing on expected life
changes
we can prepare for then the third one
is that what he called the planned
changes do you want we say
this is what I'm going to do it could be
anywhere from
arm setting up an expedited program in
saying your gonna run your bird
road race to losing weight planning a
trip to learning a new language to going
back to school
arm to remodeling your house you
set plan in motion and you have total
control
over moving forward with it in most
cases
I'm so we do feel in control early but
of these changes
want to restart them it doesn't make it
a little bit unsteady
because we are changing the way our
world look
and we're not quite as anchored down and
we were before the change happen
and what I wanna miss the making a the
changes like bill
very unsettling so keep in mind it would
be kinda change are you dealing with
it's an unexpected change that it didn't
have very much time to prepare for
acknowledge that Wow you current your
world kinda topic early right now
and that the normal reaction
tell it we were back in the room
together
amity now everything in a conference
room here in Georgia my office that we
can all meet
think about 35 us online we could all
meet together
captain copy and I said well we're going
we manage like changes
had demanded change and at this point
I'd be talking about
how do you manage stress because we know
that
another equation stress secret change
change economic stress
okay start that would come up with a
pretty extensive list
might someone might say well may
exercise they eat healthy
they get himself a mental break someone
like 50
armpit the stress listen to music to
yoga
with children play with Pat right to
stop down journaling
play an instrument go for a walk in the
woods
go for a swim you get the idea
have listed them the key to managing
how you deal with change and your stress
related to change
taking the combination thing that work
for you
and that you have access to on a regular
basis
cell notice it did not say planet
Krypton go to Tahiti Hawaii
that would be on my list but I can't do
that on a regular basis
so it has to be there think that people
yet rule break
and in a sense of calmness for comfort
on a regular basis cell but you know I'm
gonna ask
take a moment now and write down a
couple of things
that help you to deal with stress or
change I'll give you a second write it
down
alright help you wrote a couple things
down how you deal with director change
we're gonna move on to talking about
time management and memo to talk about
building resilient
3 and Polycom circle back around to it
talking about changing our production
home we didn't mention that in order to
take care
ourselves when it acted change we have
to become more resilient
and more hey we r more balanced life we
are the more resilient we r
I'm and then we offered mention that the
way we think about a change
is going to affect how we cope with the
change know that our perception that we
have to look at our perception
home wanted ways in this in another
kinda technique that you can hold on to
hope it works for you that when you're
in the mississippi chain
change or stressful time think ahead to
the future
maybe go out every six months envision
your life
three to six months now how does it look
and do you kinda gone over this heard or
gotten through that hurdle
and you figured out the change in what
that your night your workers gonna look
like three to six months from now
you bad as a coping techniques a lot of
people who have used this technique and
myself included have found it helpful
because you
give yourself the ability to envision
where you want to go
waterline look at like in the future
peacekeeping
another important component
at dealing with time management cut
change management
how you better time go to participate
second
hold on to beat me of
not back to get cut off when you're
doing a webinar but help
I'm sorry and so we're going to talk
about time and
am cuz if we can manage your time better
then we can manage the change is coming
at it full force because we're using our
time winding
am helped you
%um when we use time management on a
daily basis we handle the day-to-day
life on a regular basis our job and
family obligations are handled well
jacket this again a better time to
control for those things that bill
like their outta control we have more
time and energy to devote to you
and we're taking some time to redo some
important I management techniques to
help us to become
more effective and a long round long run
cope with change turned Center time
and as we go through these different
time management techniques again
take affect paper can keep it up credit
for their own technique that you're
doing pretty well at but also a
write-down
know the area to wander gonna be
happened a little bit better at
to let go to them points behind
awareness how to use your time
think about the ways you waste your time
how many hours on a weekend to you too
sit there my mostly
surfing the web I'm or shopping online
at our website
that you know you can't for shouldn't
buy anything on
am how many times during the day be
duplicate at
am spend your time on non-productive
thing
okay how much time do you spend on path
that are low priority
when you're looking at time allocation
time awareness
it really really important to make sure
that the energy your spending
is non-polluting that are high-priority
and up important in your life and not
low priority
if you can answer doesn't matter
if I do this now or six months from now
and Manfred yes it low priority it
it you answer doesn't matter I do it now
or
next week in the anterior yes you have
to do it now
senator high-priority cell and bring at
in that time frame
element to that whatever I can if you're
doing it's a way to help you look at how
how important ask is that you doing
let's say you want to improve your
business or your skills we're
in your calendar I'll have to do it
is bad it where it
you have at the fact that you're looking
at taking
are you any crap are you practicing
business writing skills wanted a 12 week
want them on not going to be very often
if you take a look once a month are you
trying to find other people who use who
business killed
writing skills are excellent and you
admire them and want to spend time with
them
get some to turn them again that's just
an example
but look how much time you're spending
toward the things that are important
I get mint condition
in conjunction with time where the is a
priority doing your mercy most important
task
for thing is is going to be a great you
have time
now I'm going to contradict that real
quickly here that
say it back from other our most
productive time
into the evening and you need to do your
most difficult path in the evening
and that's available to you been and
network
where you stay with it but not motivated
to work a daytime job
are most protected time probably in the
morning
versus after run through it later in the
day when word spread
I'm so keep that in mind a prioritizing
and when are you the most productive
the better technique is partial I think
and this is a great one
to keep in mind when you have a huge
project
that your head start because
overwhelming to you
by breaking it down into smaller and
smaller manageable
had that's going to be a trick for
yourself
to to be able to accomplish it
prepared smaller casket eat here and
complicated
and you'll be adding all those path back
together Taylor
accomplished actor call am
8 at American in this is when you write
something down and you look at it
say and you can say I can do that Dennis
Mahon
if you look at it at No I can't do that
yet they need to break it down even more
and you probably want to write all the
cast down your project
in order I'm and try to put the time
frame
how long they may take to do and no
deadline for me
you know you can change the deadline but
by thing the list
everything you need done get done and
starting with the easiest one in
building up from there
you get a sense of accomplishment and
they keep it going
prepare I don't know about you guys but
oftentimes when I started a home project
I think I have everything ready
I get it all out I'm half an hour into
the project
and Maria life I'm missing something and
gotta go back to you
home depot at a hardware store and get
something out
same thing at work when you're working
on a project at work
make sure you have all the documentation
all the resources all the emails
alternate
whatever statistic that you need to get
the job done
I am prepare yourself prepare yourself
mentally
that you can if they decide to do this
task
if you're in a work setting where you
can let others know that you're going to
be unavailable for an hour to hour
great I know some work setting art like
that
you can let them know that only contact
you for emergency
that second best way of doing it com
if you can postpone looking at your
email to are you working on their
that expected state located again
it work situation is different
then attack project and work steadily
and be realistic about what you can
accomplish
in net hour to hour to decide make goal
any import K when you're working on a
project
am it's really important just have that
project in Prairie View
I'm if you're sitting at a desk and you
have different piled other things better
distracting
whether you've looked at them recently
or not both are distractions
they take your focus away from what
you're working on suggested
working on on your desk is heading into
to have it back to compare you
you've done your two hours again with
the project right now you can as much as
you can
clear the area move the project storage
for the time being
and recognized what you've accomplished
at the end of the day when you leave
your workday make your desk squared off
I'm best possible meeting organized and
that you know what you're gonna be
focusing on the next morning and I know
and hearing it already
acting here to the phone line to get it
going but between out when I leave him
when I start
blood-typing change understand at least
you
set in place what things you organ at
Camp star on the next morning
and have a plan that plan may have to
change at least
you did what you could do that day and
you know your starting point is the next
day
okay the same thing when you get home
with your family
maybe prepare some topic to talk about
around the dinner car
table with your family or prepare ball
and board games that you wanted to
or evening a short you know inexpensive
activity you want to be with your family
I am go for a walk after dinner but
by taking a mental break leaving more
behind
and switching gears to spending time in
your relationship with your family
I'm that recharges in it right
when
the last two parts have time and getting
our focus and achieve have talked a
little about
about treatment already been let's talk
a little bit about poker
I'm all over her have a tendency to
procrastinate or forget
that were put to be doing something arm
we put it off that's another way of
putting it
it's important to look at why you
procrastinate
and why you don't want to do something
and discover your motivation
for this behavior it going to help you
to move forward
so be honest with yourself and say you
know I don't
my work on the project now because or
don't want to work on this project
because
me more information you need help what
is it that
keeping you from moving forward
I'm along with that look at your work
habits
if a separate particular habit or map
editor Peter
set kinda getting in your way and your
ability appear
complete ass I'm try technology it
an work on it
could be looking at emailed every five
or ten minutes I am
I am
what stops you from staying focused
in connection with that is are you
always saying yes
you need to learn to say no when you
really can't
spend time talking to someone obviously
with
tact and courtesy I don't overbook it up
with other projects
when when they don't fit in with what
you're working on
when you are in rapid come on computer
or someone called he
you get an email arm ask if you could
make up on later
female again that work situation can you
not respond right now
become cute or what can I do for you
you're on the home with them
and can I get back with you in you know
later today
final part of this is focuses where can
you tell a gate
am something that we can delegate that
we don't need to
focused on our out whether to home
project that we can hire someone or
someone else does it better than we do
or if you work project
someone else can can help you with
another way to look at it or just like
when we talked about
dealing with change in the future if
you're going through a rough time now
what can look like three to six months
now same thing with a project or task
delight how that project is gonna look
down on how you gonna feel when it's all
done
kickin it painted the bathroom remodeled
or that
project that you've been working on for
six months at work is done
that visual way to know the future and
seeing it
motivator to keep me court
and then a cantor turnout but you do
have to take break
we can stay focused for our hour and a
half at most
promoted then we need a break 5 10 15
minutes
greater light get something to drink
from
10 make a mental break 30 minutes can
timely about achieve take the time to
achieve
and acknowledge your agreement what
you've done each step along the way
and obviously when a project is done
no hope does technique that I mention
about
achieving ok putting preparing time
awareness
prioritizing impartial I think help you
with dealing with change and you reach
your goals and open up the lines
found fewer questions you might have the
conference is now in talks
mode what questions does anyone have a
good
speak
no
okay alright home around to
I'll final part on the presentation
I'll go ahead and not meet online for
more time
conferences now in silent mode
okay connect with gonna be talking about
resiliency and we've already talked
about this a little bit but we're gonna
have
and wind up on this and talk at I only
about
how we build resiliency and then our
perceptions about
change in strategy I'm so resiliency the
definition is again once capacity to
cope with stress and Pastor free
am resiliency the process of adapting
well in the face it appeared to be
drama tragedy threats for even
insignificant
significant sources strategist family
related
problem series family help matters
worker financial structures
in Maine bouncing back from typical
spirited
think that bouncing ball and
research note that thing we're doing it
is not an extraordinary
appeal or quality very ordinary
from people showed resiliency call it
I'm
how one example that was am
I'm sure many you watch from most walked
with
already people who came port at the am
bond American bombing back in April
home many people were affected by this
tragedy
many people helped out and happen
without in thinking about it
and I'm sure you clean the storied
there's people were affected
laughlin am and more
were I'm interviewed and how resilient
they were and how they were moving
forward with their lives
at an example on refinancing
I'm resiliency does not mean know that
someone doesn't experience
distress an emotional pain bannister
very common
when with people who are really into and
when we dated for two years from our
life
that point about resiliency is that we
don't
get stacked in the neck negativity or
the anger about it
we knew for so with million for you
something that people
a not company people had her don't have
it is something that we all had
it's a focus perception how we're going
to deal with what come my way
let's talk about how we build resiliency
when we are talking about it resiliency
we have to go back to basics and the
basics are
the more we r able to take care out on a
daily basis day in day out
that leaves more time could be able to
be more resilient
when the to change is good situations
come to places
that this is really how we build
resiliency like taking care of itself
on a regular basis physically what does
that mean
you can read the screen with me about
being able to eat healthy
most a lot great information out there
and not a fad diets good information on
how to eat healthy in about
me know getting regular at a time
human beings were meant to move we were
not meant to sit at a desk all day and
then drive home and
did home all night we were meant to
looking at how you relax whether that
medication
prayer just going in nature listening to
music
whatever way you relax it's important to
incorporate into your day
limit the use of alcohol and other
substances including cigarette
we know these substances 30 pops into
your body and
prolonged use it any type of chemical is
could lead to an addiction and then we
have not just one problem common
structure change their lives
now we have the stress and the change
family may have an addiction
eliminating toward that can be talked to
us
is a white man and finally adequately
sleep in regular screening am though it
may be an
am a mess that I keep hearing out there
that we
as we get older we think we need lots of
sleep that is not true
and research proves that over and over
again that even no matter how old we get
we need 7 to 9 our quality 3
South that's an issue for you please
address it before takes its toll on you
and their regular screening health
screening better now available to us
um make sure that you put them into your
account to take advantage of because
little problems can turn into big
problem if we don't take care of them
am at are insurance to our felt that
work
were taken care of
how do we believe in be mentally how do
you talk to them
that point inside your head is it
negative neutral pocketed
probably positive more we can be our own
cheerleader
versus being our worst critic the more
we're gonna be able to build resiliency
do you sense of humor your life do you
look for
silliness am to you at enjoyed good
belly laugh
home you know what makes you happy
greater things in life
going to talk about the third one
getting clear about what your values
goals and priorities are
you may not have them where you could
write them down
but I bet if I asked everyone w what
your goals and priorities
and and and values weren't
you would be able to tell me that would
leave what you told him values and
priorities are
this is a starting point being assertive
for some other
be answered it is really difficult we
don't like to ask
others to help but or from and
for anything look around doing the right
thing to do
is assertive and emulate them ask them
how they are deterred
me know that being assertive is a way
that we take care yourself and what you
can and cannot do
and in conjunction with that continuing
to improve your communication skills
the clear you aren't communicating to
with those that work in your life your
friends and loved ones
them more you're going to be able to
clearly after what you need
I'm listening to others as well and then
finally
taking time for mental health
recognizing when you are an overload
recognizing when you need to step back
recognizing when you can't say yes to
project
another volunteer something okay people
back into
take time for yourself that's how we
build return be mentally
socially human beings are not meant to
be alone
we thriving get energy most ever you
from being around people places and
things that we enjoy
so what are those people places and
things in your life that bring you joy
animals in activity friends family your
children
your church activity make them part of
your life
find this thing at built you up when you
gold apparently very girl that belgrade
in order to have this relationship to
tell we have to have that clear
communication again
and then finally intimacy is that
relationship but crowd
with that friend or partner that is
beyond just the chitter chatter
is that connection that we know that
person behind us and one reporter
and that kinda relationship obviously
takes time and effort
you know
spiritually building resiliency
home there are many ways that you can
build
and take care yourself spiritually and
for many people this is a private
way you could be their medication arm
Kb communing with nature or could be
organized religion
from are practicing at me our prayer
whichever way works for you incorporated
we all need that connection they
I'm whatever that means to you and
spirituality
but a commitment to just be true to
yourself in your home believe
it a great place to start and has built
a pretty lean figure internal renowned
see
so we're kinda wind it back up now we
talked about getting wasted or reject it
going back to
section and we talked about this at the
beginning at
how we look at changes address
is if we look at it unrealistically
and we have come a rational beliefs
about dealing with a changer
dealing with the crafter we're really
have a distorted perception
if you set yourself why should be able
to you be
able to do this new wave fine our I
should you know why couldn't think
say this same you get secondary smoke
that with the weight that way and
focusing that's not going to be helpful
to you to move toward
in order to move toward a look at our
perception we had to look it up
our own self-worth that if you believe
in yourself
you believe that you're able to adapt
net gonna build on your self-esteem
again looking at building up positive
attitude that it after all
and dealing with change is going to help
you with your perception
and then looking at the situation you
know less stress provoking way
what little piece can you see benefit
you can benefit from this yes mister
perry
mom that that's a great place start just
keep building on it
finely as we talk before changes not
an option it take a mint condition and
we
have the choice to become a changed man
after allied
we have a choice about how you react to
change
we may not have a choice to win that
chain come but our reaction
in our flexibility is within our control
am like them into beginning I want your
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I hope this information was helpful to
you you learned a little bit
and gave you a different perspective I'm
gonna open up
wine people more time for any idle
questions
the conference is now and talk mode
in any final question
have any questions thank you that was
good information okay
yeah alright a family I'm a little bit
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