hello Channel NITT viewers, 
I am DS and welcome to another episode
on channel NITT so in this episode we
are going to start a new series called
body language 101 series
so what is this
body language 101 about so in
this body language 101 series we will be
sharing with our viewers some very basic
principles of interpreting body language
so hopefully after watching the entire
series you will be better at
interpreting the body language of other
people and also watching the body
language of yourself this can definitely
help you in a lot of ways
this will
definitely help you in many different
areas such as dating parenting and at
work so in our very first video on body
language we are going to talk about space
the term personal space refers to the
physical distance between two
individuals in a social environment a
family environment
or a work environment
you can treat personal space as this
invisible bubble shield around you that
you call your own physical comfort zone
imagine you are on a relatively empty
bus so you go on the bus and you choose
your seat there are a lot of other
vacant seats
however on the next stop the next passenger comes
in and of all the spaces choose to sit
beside you and he is a stranger you
don't know him you definitely will be
irritated
there are so many seats around
why do you choose to sit beside me
well you will be irritated because this
person a stranger has invaded into your
personal space so the concept of
personal space is very fluid imagine
that the bus is getting filled and the only
available seat now let's just beside you
you will feel that it is ok for somebody
to sit beside you but definitely not in
the case of the empty bus so what are
other factors that will determine
personal space one of the most important
factors in determining how much personal
space you need with another person is
how familiar you are with this person so
in general people who are intimate such
as lovers and children generally your
personal space with them is between 0 to
30 cm
and with friends the personal space may
be slightly more and it is going to be
even more if this person is an
acquaintance or just a co-worker so at
work we also tend to maintain a large
personal space between our clients and
our customers
however this personal
space is going to be less than that of a stranger
so if you are with someone you
do not know at all
you will tend to stand further away from
this person but it also depends on
constrained space so imagine you are in
a lift and this lift is only one meter by
one meter okay that is just one meter by
one because you cannot stand that far
away from that individual you will tend
to stand maybe diagonally away from the
other person and this maximizes the
distance between the two of you however
generally in a wide space such as in a
restaurant or in a park the physical
distance that you would want to maintain
with a stranger or another group of
people that you do not know would be at
least one to three meters
 
so we have talked about how the type of
relationship may affect the personal
space that you need whether it is a
professional relationship a platonic
relationship or no relationship
so another factor that might affect the
actual distance between two individuals
is gender
so let's say you are female and then you
are interacting with another male or
another female the physical distance
that you need that you will consider
comfortable may be really different so
talking about personal space there is
always this implicit understanding
between individuals regardless of
whether you know one another that is you
need to maintain a safe distance between
another person so this will be very
evident in queues
so also when you board an
empty bus or an empty train the implicit
understanding is that you try to fill up a
seat
that is not occupied either on the left or
the right by another person this is because
you need a personal space and you do not
want to invade into another (person's) personal
space as well
however it also depends there are a lot
of people who want convenience so they
just want to sit beside the door
of
course there is another exception and
that is indeed gentlemen's lavatory
now generally men are very lazy fellows
they will go to the nearest urinal
wherever possible so you may already
taken up the first urinal the next man
who comes in will definitely just use
the second one
so in this case it's a
common understanding between men that there
is no need for personal space
but of
course is that if there is a man who comes in
and prefers to go all the way to the
back to pee that is possibly an indication
that he as an individual needs a lot
personal space or he may have urination
anxiety okay there is a totally
different topic altogether we'll talk
about that if there is an opportunity
next time so now that we have talked
about personal space how is it relevant
to body language so imagine now you're
going on a date with someone
 
so generally when a person is talking to
you they are being polite by leaning
forward and appearing to be very
attentive so leaning forward itself is
just a sign of courtesy and may not be a
sign of interest so how can you tell
whether the person might be interested
so you can look for other subconscious
or unconscious body language signs in
this case I would encourage you to look
discreetly and his or her toes well of
course the person must be wearing a shoe
right so what I'm talking about is the
tip of the feet look at where the shoe
is pointing so an indication of interest
is possibly that the person is actually
stretching the leg somewhat towards you
this somehow minimizes or shortens the
perceived personal distance between you
and the person you understand I'm
talking about of course if a person
likes you he or she will likely also
show you other indicators but in this
episode since we are talking about
personal space and personal distance
between individuals we will only focus
on this tip so remember the tip so again
this tip is watch out for the distance
between the person's feet and you is the
person pointing his or her feet towards
you of course
please look discreetly
in our future episodes we'll be sharing
more videos like this which will tell
you how to interpret body language from
a psychological point of view if you
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hope you enjoyed today's episode and
I'll see you again in our next episode
goodbye
 
