Hello parents, it's Vechi from Tree House.
I hope everybody's doing well
in our next line of parental education
videos we put together something special
for you guys we've pulled back kind of
the curtain on usage and behaviors. We're
gonna show you some things some obvious
things as far as what behaviors and
items you might find around your home and
some not so obvious ones you may not be
looking for off the bat this will help
you to be able to tell whether or not
your your loved one your son or daughter
whoever it may be is on the path to the
sobriety or you may need to do a little
bit more investigation to make sure that
your home your love and your resources
are used towards their sobriety and not
to continue their addiction. All right
parents so the first place we're gonna
take a look into is the bathroom now the
bathroom is perfect.. turn the shower
on get steamy we can be in there for an
extended period of time
especially if we shower a lot - girls tend
to spend a lot of time in the bathroom
so it's a safe place to go and get some
alone time by yourself so coming in here
don't be afraid to look you have to you
have to be able to look and dig a little
bit what seems like a totally normal
bathroom just on the surface don't be
afraid to come in you know open things
up and look a little bit what you think
maybe just be a nail kit is not. Now
these and by themselves of course are
indicative of something else going on, do
not stop there look around let's say you
don't find all of that let's just say
you find a component of it let's say
lighters stashed up on top of the mirror
why is that up there? Oh wait a minute
where's what's going on here and as you
start to look and see you're gonna find
a certain group of items it's gonna lead
you to believe something else is going on
now if it's just one of these it could
be a coincidence it could be something
of course if you find something like
this it's obvious very obvious very
quickly something is going on but you
may not find all those things together
checking all these places come in pop
open a trash can
take a look inside you know those are
those are the caps to syringes. Why are
they there is there any reason for them
to be there? ARe you checking the college
dorm when you go to visit are you
looking inside asking what they need?
Ordinary things in not ordinary places -
a belt in the bottom of a bathroom
cabinet usually used to tie off with.
Dads I know that this is an area
sometimes you're afraid to go into
especially for those of us with
daughters don't be afraid to this is
they know this.
I had many girlfriends hide their stuff
in their tampon or Tampax boxes because
they knew dad would never ever go there
they know this they know where you won't
look so that's what we're gonna stash
things okay. So now we're gonna head into
the bedroom now you have your obvious
places like under the bed in the drawer
like those are the pretty obvious ones
when they take it one step further they
may be a little hard to find right off
the bat so digging underneath
check the box spring see if there's a
hole cut in it that was a personal
favorite of a couple friends of mine
let's say your your child is an athlete and has
had certain injuries before you know
they've got a bottle of prescription
pills if you look closely it will tell
you what shape and size they should be
along with what imprint should be on the
pill so if you go to open it up and that
description does not match what's on the
outside of the bottle, they've got
something else going on. The other not so
obvious places you may not be looking
for.. they actually build lighting
fixtures that come off that have stash
spots inside of them you can get these at Home Depot
like they're not there they're built in
save don't think so hard sometimes the
easiest place to put something is where
you may never look so certain things are
super obvious your foil obviously burnt
up there's gonna be sut marks on it
lighters being taken apart like this to
turn the flame all the way up some
simple things like we've got a can of I
mean this looks like an energy drink
this is the same weight as an energy
drink like if you saw this and your
child's room you wouldn't think
but this is a great place to hide a
bunch of stuff you know you can put
whatever you need in here drop it inside
no one's gonna know the better this
could be in a car that could be in a
garage you'll be sitting in their room
and you never never think to look again.
Water bottle caps where waters mixed,
burnt spoons, small pieces of cotton,
these are all telltale signs something
else is really going on and something
really to lean forward and look for.
These are some of the things you're
gonna be looking for this one as well
this is this is kratom there's a lot
going on about this right now but these
are like natural supplement pills you
may think that you know they're ginseng
that they're you know ashwagandha if
they're a weightlifter maybe like
pre-workout it's not it's it's it's
something completely different so these
are the common things that you could see
and have no idea that something else is
going on again you want to make sure
that the area you're providing them to
live the money providing for school or
for food or car whatever it is is going
towards that and not going to support
any of this. The most important piece of
this is when you do find out this
information now what do you do with it
it's not best to go on especially
hot-tempered or emotional you're
confronting somebody who's struggling
with something give us a call reach out
to us online give us a call directly let
us help you negotiate the first steps
coming from here out refer to your
parents groups I can guarantee you if
you find something that you're kind of
unsure about take a picture of it go on
the forum of The Addicts Mom hey guys
look this is what I found has anyone
else seen this you're gonna have
thousands of parents who have been
through the same thing we're gonna be
able to say yes I have this is what it
is or this is what it's not and it's
okay so please whatever you do find
before you react and make a situation
worse for your group refer to your coach
refer to some experts if there's
something you want to know more about
whether it's meth specifically pills
specifically something you found
somewhere please subscribe to this video
email us message us on the youtube
channel and we will put together
something for you questions about
anything behaviors some of these things
are not as apparent as you may see it's
not as obvious as a syringe being left
out sometimes it's a venmo account with
mysterious charges at mysterious hours
why is someone spending $42 every night
at 3am and the person supposed to be in
school there's stuff to look for and we
can help you find it just let us know
what you need help figuring out we'll
put a video together for you.
