 
Rose, thanks for these muffins!
 
Thank Julian! He made them.
 
You bake?
 
So? Baking is a chick magnet!
And that’s why you’re
my cuddle-muffin!
That’s why you’re my
cuddle-muffin!
You know, before Julian,
I had a lot of muffins.
 
Like, a lot.
Yeah, and I did too.
I had like... one muffin.
But now I only want
to eat Julian’s muffins.
And I love that you’ve had
so many muffins!
 
Really?
 
How many have you had?
 
That’s different.
 
Why?
 
Cause I’m a dude.
Oh! So when you eat muffins,
you’re Romeo.
And when I eat muffins,
I’m... what?
Look, I’m just saying that
I’ve been with men and women,
and I usually feel better when
women have had less muffins.
- Wow!
- Whoa...
Okay, wow!
Ryan, muffin shaming is not cool.
 
So not cool!
How many muffins
should I have had?
 
Two? Four? Ten?
 
I don’t know.
 
Women can choose to be
with as many different
kinds of muffins as we want.
We’re talking bran muffins,
blueberry muffins,
 
carrot muffins.
 
And just like in a Lizzo song,
we can choose to be with muffins
and donuts, just like you.
 
Boston cream donuts,
vanilla donuts,
sprinkle donuts...
And it doesn’t
make us slutty. Okay?
 
Yeah. Yeah!
Those were so good.
I’m just gonna...
 
Delicious.
 
Oh...
 
“Muffins”.
 
There he is.
A double standard
is when the same behavior
is perceived and
judged differently 
depending on whether
it involves a male or a female. 
Double standards
come from stereotypes.
 
According to stereotypes,
males have a lot
of interest in sex,
take the lead in seduction
and sexual interactions,
 
have several partners,
and are generally
more interested in sex 
 
than emotional connection.
On the flip side,
stereotypes for females include 
that they prefer
emotional connection to sex,
 
have few partners,
spend time trying
to look desirable,
wait on males
to make a move
and have the final say
about a possible relationship.
These stereotypes
can lead people
to judge identical
sexual behaviors differently.
For example, a male and a female
who’ve had multiple partners
 
aren’t judged the same way.
These judgments end up
creating pressure
 
to conform to stereotypes.
They can also create
feelings of guilt
for those who choose
not to conform.
For example, a female
might feel abnormal
about having
an interest in sex,
 
ashamed to masturbate,
or afraid of being
judged negatively
because she’s had 
more than one partner.
A male might feel
obligated to lie
in order to hide his lack
of interest in sex
or feel pressured
to be sexually active
out of fear
of being ridiculed.
 
It’s important to remember
that double standards
come from sexist stereotypes
that should not dictate
sexual behaviors of anyone.
Everyone has a personality,
a set of values,
and their own vision
of sexuality.
Being aware of sexist prejudices
conveyed by double standards
reminds us that
everyone has the right
to experience sexuality
as they choose to.
 
I think double standards
definitely are enforced
on us by society.
 
And it’s just a cycle.
I feel that as far as grooming
in the pubic region,
I feel there’s a slight
double standard.
Well, a quite large double standard
for women as to men.
I was raised
in a queer household
 
with two lesbian parents.
So double standards weren’t
as present in my household.
 
I’d say virginity is a...
Virginity and promiscuousness
are big ones.
I believe there’s definitely
a double standard
when it comes to virginity,
whereas like...
When it comes down
to younger men,
they’re wanting to
get rid of it right away.
Women are more expected
by society to be more sexual.
 
And to like... you know.
But they’re also
expected to be pure.
If you’re a woman
who’s just looking
and exploring
your sexuality,
you’re condemned for
exploring it too early of an age.
You will see
in the porn industry
where the role play
is based on
the female partner
losing her virginity.
I think that’s
a double standard.
I feel like that’s
religious heritage.
I think there’s this common
double standard
where if a guy sleeps
with many women, he’s this...
He’s seen as a player,
as a cool guy,
who’s gotten laid
many, many times.
It’s like:
“Ah, yeah! Good job! High-five!”
 
“Such a great achievement!”
And when it’s girls,
it’s like...
 
They’re sluts, you know?
They’re just there
for the sex,
and that’s like
a bad thing for them.
But it’s a good thing
for the guy.
I honestly
find it disgusting.
I’ve heard the analogy
of the lock and the key.
So if you compare
women to locks,
a lock that can be unlocked
by a bunch of keys
 
is a terrible lock.
But a key that can fit
into a bunch of locks
 
is a really good key.
And I think that’s the way
most people view
sexual partners
for men and for women.
When a woman is harassed,
usually there’s a whole outrage
 
if it breaks out in the media.
But when a man
is sexually harassed,
 
usually, they’ll tell him:
 
“Well, you liked it.”
“How can you fall
for that as a man?”
“You must have been
really into it.”
So that’s a double standard
we uphold.
We treat women differently
than we do with men.
In history,
men have always been
put on a greater level
than everything else.
Women or other races,
so like...
It probably comes
from there,
but I hope it’s becoming
less of an issue.
I think we really strive
for equality,
so that’s why we’re going
to push aside the stereotypes,
 
and all those.
