hey guys whats up its Amanda and welcome back to my channel
so todays video as you can see by the title already is about sexuality figuring out your sexuality
if you have any confusions and stuff this video is for you so i've already made a video like this how to figure out your sexuality
i'll link it down below
that video was made i think over a year ago kinda old still the tips that i gave
were very i don't know the word - helpful I think because the video has quite a few thousand views
so I thought I would make like a part two type of thing just like I've grown since then and I've learnt more since then
so I think i'm able to give different outlook and different advice and different tips
so I got a little notebook i wrote out a little plan of the video and my tips I wanna tell you because i'm very forgetful
buckle your seatbelts and were just gunna hop on into this video I dont know why i'm trying to be funny
so the first thing I wanna say is you don't have to feel obligated to give yourself a label
you don't have to feel obligated to call yourself gay, call yourself lesbian, call yourself bisexual you don't have to know
you don't have to fit in to a certain label, labels honestly they kinda suck in a way
make you feel like if you come out as lesbian you can't become bisexual because people are gunna think you're a fraud
or that you're fake or that you're just doing it for attention - something i've learnt in my lifetime
is that sexuality is very fluid and it can change so personally i think labelling yourself is really hard
and can be confusing not only towards the people that you're trying to reach or trying to make these connections with
but it can also be very confusing towards yourself because you can be like oh my god like what am i
am I actually just straight am I like whatever and it's just going to be a back and forth brawl with yourself So i think that
you don't need to label yourself and thats the first tip I wanna give
the next one to figure out your sexuality is that you have to kinda see if you can picture yourself with
someone that is the same sex as you, you have to see if you can be with anyone else other than
the opposite gender of you, you have to see if you can widen those horizons you have to know if you're comfortable with that
so the number one tip I think you have to go through first is to know that if you can see yourself with the same gender
if you can see yourself with the same gender that's already a start to know that you're not straight
you know what i mean
the next one is do you enjoy getting attention from the same gender
when someone of the same gender compliments you , when they hug you, do you feel that like extra
beat in your heart that you would um with someone that you like? you have a crush on do you feel that
how do you feel when you're getting attention from the same gender as you? because people that are straight
won't take it in a way like "omg that was so cute" oh my god oh my god
you know like they wont think like that - for my friends if i comment like aw so pretty
they're gunna take in a way like aw shes so nice shes complimenting me girls supporting girls type of thing
but like if someone were to comment , someone who was bisexual were to comment on someone elses
posts that was like lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, anything like that you know what i mean
and they felt that little flutter in their heart like that means they enjoyed the attention from the same gender
and that could then mean that they are attracted to the same gender
I don't know if that was confusing but like if you enjoy getting attention from people other than
your opposite gender then I feel like that can say something about your sexuality
the next one is your opinion on the LGBTQ+ community can have a big impact on whether you hide
your sexuality or whether you tell people your sexuality so if you grew up in a household that was very
against like the gay community can have an impact on you that can make you feel like oh
that's wrong im not gunna be like that I don't wanna be like that so I'm not that
and that can really impact you and it can physically and emotionally really hurt you
you have to think about your surroundings and your own views  because if your family does not like the community
that can lead to a bias on yourself and that can make you therefore not wanna be in that community
and then hiding it and pushing it off so that can have a big impact on you also
the next one is something that is kinda controversial in the community and that would be experiences
people think that you don't have to have experiences to know your sexuality which is 100% true
I did not have to have any experiences to know that I had an attraction to more than just guys
but for some people you need that physical, emotional attraction before they really know and that's okay
people are always like "oh you don't need to have an experience you should know your sexuality from the get go"
like thats not how it happens and if you need to go through that, that's okay - why is someone calling
and the last one is don't try to place yourself in a box um I basically wrote
forcing yourself to put a label on you can be negative - like i said at the beginning
you don't have to try to fit in to a certain box because sexuality is hella fluid and it can change
all the damn time - so don't try to put yourself in a box because in the end it might be
negative towards you, negative towards the people around you
ok so they finally got off the phone but what I was saying was you don't have to place yourself in a box
you don't have to be gay, you don't have to be lesbian, you don't have to be any label
if you don't feel like you fit into a label , that's okay and that is something that i feel like
is really hard to like differentiate, you wanna know your sexuality , you wanna know what you like
but at the same time sometimes you just wont and it changes alot and its fluid like i said
so I hope this video helped you a bit, i hope it helped you kind of figure out something, a little bit more than you already knew
if you want more videos like this please comment down below some suggestions I love doing
LGBT content, and I would love to do more and broaden it um so let me know if you have any video ideas you would like to see
so if you guys liked it give it a thumbs up subscribe to me below and I will see you next time
and remember live life, dont think twice I'm out of here
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