[a mini media detox]
Hi guys, it's Cari and
today we're going to be doing something a
little different, but a little the same.
About a month ago I made a video where I didn't
use my phone for an entire day and while I
did see positive effects from that, it wasn't
super duper challenging because that day I
was really busy, I was going out, I went to
a cafe, I went to the movies.
My real issue with using - and when I say
using my phone I'm specifically meaning social
media, that's the only negative thing I use
my phone for.
The times when I struggle with overusing social
media are the days when I don't have a whole
lot to do.
So this week I pretty much am just filming
and editing in the house which takes a lot
less energy obviously than going outside and
doing things.
I'm going to be doing a 3 day - I almost said
3 week - a 3 day cleanse, detox of social
media so I'm still able to use my phone because
I will be filming and looking up things but
I will specifically be avoiding social media
and here are the rules.
First off, like I said, I can still access
the internet because I'm going to be writing
hopefully a little bit during these days so
I want to be able to research and look up
words, etc.
And I will also be able to using Kakao and
Telegram (and email for work) to message people
because I don't feel any kind of addiction
to it.
So I'm talking to you actually on the second
day of this detox.
Yesterday I started it and I failed miserably
the second I woke up I went to go check my
youtube comments which is just not good, it's
what I wanted to avoid.
And I also found myself just muscle memory
picking up my phone and opening Instagram
so what I'm going to do now is I'm going to
move all of my social media apps to a different
folder.
I'm not going to log out of any of them because
I always forget my passwords and that would
be such a hassle to log back in.
I don't get notifications anyway, I don't
have them on so it doesn't really matter if
I'm logged in or not.
So I'm actually just going to let you watch
Monday and then I will meet you back here
in a second.
[If I can't go to my favorite cafe because
of social distancing, at least I can use their coffee beans!]
I am always covered in hair and carpet lol
So I just finished a Chloe Ting workout and
I am drinking, I am guzzling this - I think
it's I don't remember how many litres this
is, 1litre bottle, it's from Frank Green.
I'm waiting on my coffee.
I'm delirious.
I haven't worked out in a very long time.
My hand is shaking so I have to put the camera
down, but catch you in a sec.
[spent the morning editing]
Okay so I have to do a voice over
and I actually do my voice overs just by filming
talking to my camera as if I were vlogging
normally.
So I just put this on a little tripod and
then I rip the audio from that and I put it
in the vlog as a voice over, if that makes
sense.
Got a lot of questions about that so, that's
how I do it.
AC is off, fan is off, so I've got to do this
quick.
Let's go.
[voice over]
I finished that voice over just
in time, they are literally jack hammering
the street right outside of my house.
There goes me filming my other video today,
cause this looks like a project.
Like a long...
Now I'm going to put in the
audio, edit it up, woo!
[Normally while I wait for my rice to cook
I'd watch YouTube or be on my phone but I chose to read one of my new books instead]
[jjigae time!]
[fry your kimchi]
[add onion and water]
[actually, add whatever you like!]
[I am constantly checking my phone while watching TV or movies,
and my attention span has really suffered - I use the 10 second skip on Netflix all the time!
Watching this without my phone or skipping, I felt like I remembered the plot and certain lines better]
[Then I read with the windows
open and it felt like the perfect summer afternoon]
[and i did laundry]
Good bye couch, taken
apart for the 7th and last time.
We're getting our couch tomorrow, memories.
Okay going for a late night walk.
Usually it takes like an hour to an hour and
a half so I'm just going to listen to music,
walk around, and hopefully that will keep
me from doing a usual late night - scroll?
Scroll.
I'm going to do a late night stroll instead
of a late night scroll, alright let's just
leave.
Okay so I just finished with my walk and things
that I've noticed that, this I already knew
happened but, when I notice things that are
interesting or beautiful I will often immediately
share them on Instagram stories and I know
that when I don't, they kind of sit in my
brain a little bit longer and they transform
into other things so a really good example
is I actually wrote a poem I guess, a piece
of creative writing (my writing insta is __mumblebee)
that I will link down below.
When I went to the grocery store and I didn't
have my phone with me and I saw the moon and
instead of taking a picture of the moon and
posting how pretty it was, it in the time
it took me to walk back home it became a piece
of writing in my head and so that's something
that I think can't be stressed enough is that
when you aren't able to instantaneously share
something it kind of sits and simmers in your
brain a little bit and becomes something much
bigger than it was so that was nice.
My only other struggle was that I wanted to
share my music that I was listening to.
Other than that it was fine and yeah I haven't,
today was a really busy day so I didn't even
really notice anything and tomorrow is going
to be semi busy because we're getting our
couch delivered and that's really exciting.
So far it's been okay but it has, like I said,
been a busy day.
I'm going to go home and wash my face off,
take this mask off and see you tomorrow!
Bye!
Okay it is Tuesday, welcome, day 2.
It is now 11:40am and I have already filmed
a video for my book channel so I need to just
dive right in and edit that.
It's pretty, those videos are pretty easy
to edit, so I should be done by 3pm, we're
going to get the couch delivered at like 4pm?
So pretty much after 3pm I don't have anything
to do.
I'm going to read.
I don't know I don't have any plans so we
will see about that.
But so far today with wanting to check Instagram
or anything like that, I've noticed that it
was when I was uploading my content to my
computer, it takes a little while and in those
couple of seconds what else are you going
to do but open Instagram and check it rather
than just sitting looking around (and yet
I survived my entire childhood...)
It's like those short amount of times where
you can't really do anything else, like I
don't want to read a book for 30 seconds but
opening up and scrolling you can.
So that's one thing I'm trying to work on.
It sucks because I want to share a lot of
little things like the weather or the clouds
are looking really really nice right now or
what music I'm listening to.
That's a little bit of a bummer but I don't
need to share everything, you know?
Anyway, rambling, Tuseday here we go, not
checking social media, let's go edit!
Okay now I am going to be filming a video
for my book channel so far today I have worked
out, I have cleaned, I have done some subtitles,
and is that it?
I just wrote out the script for what I'm going
to say for the book video so busy morning.
[Editing sit down and chat videos is relatively quick so I got this uploaded and scheduled the same day I filmed]
Well hello there, it's
now 2pm so I still have 2 hours before the
couch is delivered and I actually finished
editing my video so I know that I just want
to sit around and do nothing but I'm going
to push myself to go and write but I know
if I stay in the house I won't end up doing
it, I just cannot focus so I'm going to hit
the cafe that is literally right next door
to my house, get a coffee, work there for
about an hour and a half and then come back
here and cool off the apartment for the people
who are delivering the couch.
Yeah okay, exciting times, let's go.
[Finally broke the 40,000 word count but lately I've been doing more backspacing than typing lol]
[it's here]
oh my gosh! yay!
We gained so much space.
Oh my gosh, we can put a little table here,
we can finally access that plug.
Oh my gosh I'm so happy.
[wrote the subtitles for the book video I filmed]
[then had a noraebang session at home]
[still haven't fully digested folklore]
[it's the best stress reliever out there]
[did this until kurt came home]
[then he joined in lol]
[spent the morning working at the same place as yesterday]
Hello, we are going to go out
right now, it is 1pm actually.
It is my friend's birthday soon so I'm actually
going to run out and get her a little present.
We're still technically on level 2 which means,
as far as social distancing, which means that
we're good to still go out we just can't congregate.
There is a threat that we're going to go to
level 3 which means things will all be closed
like movie theatres and bars and stuff like
that but we're not there yet.
Just in case you wanted to know.
It is August 26 in case something changes
tomorrow.I have written down some of my feelings,
some of my musings about not using social
media for this period and I'll talk about
that later tonight.
One thing I was really tempted to share was
I watched the Enola Holmes Netflix movie trailer
and I don't know if the film will be good
but I thought that the trailer was actually
excellent, like the trailer in and of itself
could have qualified as a short film.
I got so much joy from that trailer, I really
wanted to share it on Instagram yesterday
but I couldn't so I'm talking about it now
to you in the future.
Anyway, enough rambling, let's pack up, let's
go.
[so many choices]
That was easy. Step one: done.
so let's go back home.
[spent the bus ride listening to music, no distractions]
Sad days, they are - well you
can't see it now but - there's a man tying
up the swings which means that soon the playgrounds
and little public gyms will be off limits
for virus control.
Not that I use the swings but just kind of
a sad signal that the virus is where it's
at so anyway we're going to ArtBox and we're
going to walk home.
It's so hot but I'm listening to such good
music.
I'm listening to an album that I never fully
finished listening to and I have just discovered
a song that's going to be on repeat for weeks.
Well, we'll see Kurt's reaction to it once
he gets home but it's a little bigger than
I expected.
It looks really cool actually on camera, but
it's a little big, a little ridiculously big.
But it looks so cool I don't know.
To be continued.
But damn it looks really cool.
Alright :/
[then i started editing]
[then we hunkered down for the incoming typhoon]
We're going to keep this for the time being,
I really like it.
It's way too big but its still really cool
so anyway, hello it is the end of my little
experiment and I just wanted to talk about
a couple things that I recognized, a couple
things that I learned.
Excuse my voice, I just got off the phone
with Kayla, we were on Skype for 4 hours so
- I never speak that much in a day - excuse
the rasp.
But according to my list [I need to change
my morning routine] the morning is the hardest to change
I feel like I no longer know how to start
my day without immediately jumping in to work.
And the thing is, I like working, I like checking
YouTube comments and seeing how the video
did overnight etc, but I can't keep doing
that so that's something I'm really working
on.
I keep my phone away from my bed so I don't
just roll over and pick it up, I do have to
get up but it is still something I pick up
very first thing which is quite annoying.
But another thing especially with, mostly
with Instagram, I don't feel FOMO.
[I don't feel the need to know what others
are doing at the exact moment] I don't feel
like I'm missing out, not being able to see
what other people are sharing.
And I don't know what that says about me,
if that says that I'm really selfish or something
I'm not sure but the only time that I felt
like I was frustrated was when I wanted to
share something myself or I wanted to kill
time.
It was never like 'I'm so interested in seeing
what this person is doing right now' which
brings me to my next point - As I mentioned,
it was hard to not look at my phone when Iwas
doing weird little things [I use social media
to help with my short attention span which makes my attention span worse]
like waiting for something to load.
But one amazing thing that I found is that
when I went to the cafe to write, I was writing
and I always reach a point where I'm kind
of like, I want to take a mental break, I
can't write anymore, I want to procrastinate.
And normally I would turn and I would scroll
through Instagram and kill a few minutes or
more than a few minutes unfortunately, but
instead what I found myself doing, because
I couldn't go on social media, I answered
emails.
I opened my gmail and answered emails that
have been sitting in my inbox for a week.
So I actually productively procrastinated
which is excellent and I hope that that trend
continues.
And another really great thing is that I answered
communication faster [I felt less communication burn out]
I find that even if I'm not actively
chatting with people on social media, just
seeing that much communication happen, that
much potential for communication happen, I
get a little bit overwhelmed and I find myself
unable to answer a simple text from my parents
or from my friends.
So I'll leave people unread, not even on read,
unread for weeks and it's just because I am
exhausted from communication online.
And because I wasn't on social media a lot,
I didn't feel that exhaustion and I found
myself capable of responding at a slow but
acceptable pace.
At the end of the day how is this going to
change?
How am I going to continue?
What's going on?
I'm thinking of imposing something a little
bit similar to intermittent fasting where
I set specific times when I will be posting
and consuming content so I think I'm going
to try to just give myself an hour or two
you know, be lenient, just right after dinner
cause that's the time when I do tend to scroll
the most.
And try my very best throughout the rest of
the day to not pick it up.
Even just the bored pick up and scroll.
I do still like some instantaneous sharing.
I think getting content throughout the day
is nice so we'll see, I'll play around with
it but overall I feel like I did more work,
I learned more things because I wasn't able
to just sit and scroll.
I had to actively - like I read my mythology
book which sent me on a really weird Wikipedia
rabbit hole and stuff like that - that normally
I might not have had time to do because I
was busy doing nothing.
Not shaming social media at all, I just think
for me personally limiting it a little bit
could be really great.
So I don't know, I don't even know what this
video is to be honest, but I hope that you
got something out of it.
I am so hungry so I'm going to go make lunch.
We allegedly got hit with a typhoon but nothing
happened.
I will catch you guys later, I hope you are
all doing alright and see you next time.
Bye!
