now I know a lot of you who know me by
now you're like man that guy Chris is a
pretty good guy well it wasn't always
that way
so in light of the fact that Jake Paul
was most likely cheating on Erika Costell with Nikki Banner
today I want to get you inside the mind
of a scumbag what is up everybody this
is Chris from the rewired soul where we
talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and if you're new to my channel
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bell because I make a ton a ton of
videos so yeah a huge part of mental
health is relationships
who you're dating and the topic today in
regards to is you know like
understanding why people do the things
they do so this is you know I wasn't a
great guy I don't know why this woman in
my life dude okay so basically for those
of you who are going on different ways
and she put some things together because
what comes Jake Paul and that was like a
serious thing okay so if you want to
check out my last video I made about
them about fake relationships and why
social media is probably making you
depressed
but yeah so let's talk about getting
inside the mind well it's gonna be dude
like myself like Jake Paul I really hope I
really hope I don't end up on my credit
as like some kind of or slash nice guys
do polite young immature toxic terrible
guy and you know I just want to bring
light to some of these situations a lot
of it has to do with age some of it just
has to do with people being scummy
but anyways like the first thing I want
to talk about is like men controlling
their urges okay like this this is an
issue like this is one of the reasons
why people cheat you know and when I say
all this stuff like you know women can
do it too you know it's all that kind of
you know PC whatever but anyways like
men have a problem with controlling the
urges I know I was gonna explain this a
little bit more on a psychological level
below you don't have to go and sleep
with you know there's a huge it's really
interesting to me that a lot of a very
large percentage of you are women
because most of my life most of my
friends have been women like my best
friend is a woman
I have friends with a lot of women like
you know a lot of them come to me for
advice about guys and seeing what things
are you know when they're dating or
whatever but I also hear about all this
like terrible things like then getting
catcalled and followed in all sorts of
crazy stuff and I'm just sitting here
I'm like dudes like control yourself
control your urges now like we can go
you know to like them like evolutionary
like type level where you know guys
hormones and you know whatever but like
here's the thing here's what separates
us for most of the animal species okay
is that we don't on all of our impulses
we don't all of our urges just because
you see a attractive woman walking path
doesn't mean you have to shout at them
this because you see an attractive woman
doesn't mean you have to DM them or
message them or anything like that and
this is a huge problem in relationships
because guys sometimes cannot control
themselves
not saying like this is a path like they
need to work on this so if you're a guy
watching this or if you're a woman
watching this and you can relate you
need to start working on this and
checking in like this is what meditation
and mindfulness like why do I have to
urge to say this or reach out to this
person so let's get into the cheating
aspect so again like I've never cheated
but like i emotionally cheated a lot a
lot of you know girlfriends where i
would be talking to other women and
flirting with other women
oh so there was also a time when I was
single and I was you know being kind of
a hole myself in my younger days so one
of the things that I think Jake might be
struggling with or you know men in
general or some women in general mainly
I would say mainly men on this point is
impressing other people right like this
is a huge issue a lot of our actions and
this goes back to what I keep telling
you all we care way too much about what
other people think
right so like Jake Paul hooking up with other
women Jake talking to other women you
know Jake putting more notches on his
belt if you will some of that is to
impress other people to impress friends
like it's the same reason why people buy
fancy cars and watches and you know big
houses and all these other things like
they want to impress other people and
this becomes an issue and telling me
like this this is a problem like so for
example I just made a video with my
buddy Patrick and he's a veteran with
PTSD you have got oh you shouldn't be
single you should or you shouldn't be
dating you shouldn't be tied down you
should be out there you know you can get
all these chicks and sometimes that gets
in your head right and that's something
very possible with Jake especially when
we look at the way Greg Paul is with
Logan and Jake like that can become an
issue because this goes back to some of
that locker room talk that you hear
about like you know these like conquest
these things in like this is why this is
what I like I just did a pull over on my
community page and like I'm kind of
surprised how many people are single in
a long-term relationship or married and
a lot of people are single I actually
thought most of my audience was like
long-term relationship and married but
like I'm glad you guys participate
because it helps me kind of make videos
geared more towards you but this is why
it's such a big problem like because
most of you need to stay single most
people need to stay single like if you
are still in the mindset where you need
to impress your friends with how many
girls you talk to or how many guys you
talk to or whatever it is like you
should be single you are not in a
position to date like I don't care like
if you want to be promiscuous if you
want to hook up with every man or woman
on the planet you do you baby girl
but be self-aware about that and do not
get into a committed relationship like I
have no problem with promiscuity but
when you're getting it into a committed
relationship you need to be in a place
where you are being committed in a
monogamous relationship like if you are
into like polyamory or open
relationships that's cool but like I
talked about with the
friends-with-benefits issue with Jake
and Alyssa like you have to be on the
same page or somebody else is gonna be
hurt like one of your goals every single
day is to minimize the damage it should
be to minimize the damage that you do to
other people on this planet okay so
lastly to round this video out I will
empathize with Jake a little bit just
because I understand if this is what's
happening I also want to give some of
you some insight as well if you've ever
been hurt in a relationship in a similar
way
talk about insecurity okay so this is
something that I personally struggle
with a lot and for a lot of other
reasons there are so many different
reasons like I try to talk to all of you
about like you know what's enough well
we always want more a lot more we want
more like when I talked in that Anna
Akana video from the other day we're
always moving the goalposts so like
first like we're single and we want to
get you know a boyfriend or a girlfriend
we get them okay cool well now we want
the love and we want the affection okay
cool but now we want more more and more
and more knowing my situation like no
matter how much love no matter how much
affection my girlfriend was giving me it
was never enough it was never enough so
I'd start talking to other girls and you
know flirting with other girls and stuff
because I wanted that attention and then
it would get especially worse
my girlfriend and I were in an argument
that I would go look for that and I know
a lot of people do that I know somebody
who's been in a relationship for like a
little over a year now and every time
her and her boyfriend get into a fight
she starts texting other guys like every
single time it's like clockwork right
and so much of this is insecurity so
much of this is pettiness like so much
like I know for me personally a lot of
mine was based on insecurity like I felt
like if I could only get the attention
from other women's that I would be okay
and a lot of this a lot of this stems
from being the son of an alcoholic mom
all right so like on a psychological
level like I felt like I never had
enough love or attention from the
primary woman in my life so when I when
I felt like that in a relationship I
would reach out and try to get attention
from other women so Tristan and I have
been together for like two years now and
this is something that you know I no
longer do I have never done it with
Tristan because I took a lot of time to
work on myself like believe it or not
both Tristan and I were single for a
very long time before we found each
other and started dating but these are
things that I worked on because these
are things during my single time that I
acknowledge a lot of you in my poll you
talked about your jealousy and all of
those other things these are reasons why
we need to stay single I had to work on
all of these things because getting into
a relationship with Tristan two years
ago it wouldn't have been fair to her
and every time I felt neglected every
time we got into a little argument or
debate I started reaching out to other
women that would not be fair for Tristan
so like for a long time before Tristan
and I got together I was working on
myself so by the time I was ready to
date and find somebody as amazing as
Tristan like I was in a place where I no
longer do those things like and it's so
nice - it's so nice because Tristan can
go through this cell phone anytime she
wants and if such a relief in feeling
like what have you commented on my video
yesterday about how I call people out
for quick creating your own problems
yes talking to other women whenever I
felt insecure was me creating my
own problems and I no longer do that
today because I am secure and a lot of
people with borderline personality
disorder reach out to me about this
stuff like is that black and white
thinking it's a problem with separating
the truth from the false so in Jake's
case he might be doing this because he's
just an insecure little boy and that's
possible doesn't excuse the behavior
absolutely not but for any of you who
have had this happen to in a
relationship I just really want to give
you some insight I really want to help
you understand what's going on and the
other person's mind like although it
doesn't justify their behaviors because
we need to take responsibility and work
on ourselves I hope it gives you a
little bit more understanding and maybe
maybe just a little bit of closure okay
but anyways I want to know down in the
comments below like you personally not
not your ex boyfriend not your ex
girlfriend I want to know you personally
are you the type of person who feels
insecure and you reach out to others to
get attention to kind of remedy your
insecurities alright let's have a
conversation down in the comments below
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