hi everyone! this is Celina Belizan and
today I'm going to show you a clip from
a video that i did recently for a group
of entrepreneurs
so what do entrepreneurs and parents
have in common?
well what do we all have in common that
we are all
at the mercy of our egos until we truly
understand
what that means. So please if you like
what you see
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what you think
Know that that's not a
dead dog behind me that's Mila. Mila say
hi
that's Mila
I wanted to do a quick rundown of what I
am referring to
when I talk about the inner child
the ego and the adult. This is maybe a
little different than what you're used
to but just so that we're all on the
same page I'm gonna explain this really
quickly. I'll go fast let me know if you
have questions.
So, the child is born by definition they are
closest to source they
are pure, they have no baggage, they
look out into the world just to see what
there is to see. They're fascinated by
their hands.
They are fascinated by every single little
thing. They look out
to their caregivers to their parents and
the other people around them
and they seek their own reflection and
they don't see themselves, so they start
to adjust
and start to put layers on themselves
that they are getting from the outside
and not from
their authentic nature and so in a very
simplistic way
they figure out that people think it's
funny when they giggle a certain way and
so they giggle a lot or when they cry
someone will come or when they cry
someone won't come
and they learn these coping mechanisms
in order to exist
in this world if you think about it by
the time the kid is two they already
have about a
thousand things that they need to know
how to do in order to sit at a dinner
table
and what happens is that's that this kid
comes in
to the world of form by that i just mean
that
they go from nothing you know uh
and magically quite magically become
babies okay
and now they're in form and so they look
outward
do you see me do you love me do you
honor me do you trust me as the child
goes
they're looking for clues that they
belong that they fit in and so
they learn how to meet those needs but
rather than looking inward because
that's not what we do as a culture
they look outward and they
mimic
other people and they do what is
expected of them in society
so they look out on the world of form. In
the world of form
they see my family, your neighborhood,
not enough food. Don't do that. Do this
doing, doing, doing, doing, doing that's the
world of form.
So their true self which came in as
abundance acceptance you know you never
had to teach
a one-year-old how to be confident i
mean they fart and everybody laughs and
thinks it's hysterical right
but that divinity or that layer of
purity
gets obfuscated with the world of form
and they
learn how to be a part of this world
which is great what happens though
is that sometimes they don't feel good
things don't work out and, they need an
extra layer of protection
the ego comes in to help that child so
no one comes to the kid when it cries
the ego comes in
and teaches it don't bother sharing your
emotions no one's going to come. Or you
know what? when you're funny
everyone's really really nice to you or
you know when you when you
get up and walk everyone claps. An
achiever is born. So all of those
different
things that happen by the way that the
world reacts to us
good and bad the ego comes in the ego
basically
helps us as children to survive in a
world where we
are not having our needs met by our
caregivers or by
culture or what have you. The ego is very
helpful in that way and we would not be
able to
survive, and we would not be who we are
in order to survive. If you think of an
egg and the shell around the egg that's
the ego and it
comes in during childhood to protect.
When we're not children anymore though
and the ego is still intact what that
does
is, we have an inner child who often can
unconsciously take the wheel.
So inner child just means where you got
stuck, it's all the different places
where you got stuck and why it's so
important to know,
is because if you're stuck there, your
ego is still gonna come in to protect
you that's its
job it is very, very, very loyal and it
will do whatever it can to protect that
child. The problem is when you're
a 30 year old woman, you don't
necessarily need
an ego to rush in and run the show. You
don't need your six-year-old inner child
feeling like she can't speak her mind.
You don't need your ego telling you, you
know what you're terrified of speaking
in public
don't worry we're gonna break out into
hives and you're gonna sit down and that
way you're not gonna have to do anything.
You know, your ego is trying to protect
you but the problem is your needs have
now changed.
The needs of a 30 year old woman are no
longer the needs of a six-year-old.
Another great example is just the way
that our egos manifest in everyday life
the
martyr like oh! I do everything for
everyone. The victim,
you know are we always feeling bad for
yourself or the procrastinator or the
do-gooder or the over-pleaser these are
all ways in which we learn to cope as
children.
And it's fine if it works for you. The
problem is
if it doesn't work for you and you have
unconscious ego
and inner child running the show you're
not going to be able to get what you
want.
You have 75 of your being fighting
against
the 25 that you're setting out your
goals every day.
It's really really important to look
at the ways in which your ego shows up.
To look at the ways in which you're
stuck.
We don't need to go back and figure out
what your uncle said to you when you
were five, it's actually not necessary.
It's helpful if that works for
you but what's more helpful is to just
recognize
the many faces of the ego and what faces
are most
commonly coming up for you. So here I
have false self
the ego and then these are many ways in
which the ego manifests.
I'll post this martyr, no boundaries,
victim, freezing up, my specialty.
Rageful, sulky whiner, narcissist, shy
the jokesters, anxiety, clown, overly
cheerful,
no self-care, addicts, busy doer, pessimist,
depressive avoided,
fearful, over empathic. So these are the
many ways in which
you, as a grown-up, may be being
controlled
by your ego. For now just really try to
think about what are the ways
that your ego is constantly showing up.
So for me,
I would say that I go to victim, so
I have to be very careful when I'm
triggered. I can catch myself
thinking how could they do this to me?
after everything, Martyr/victim
after everything I do, all I want to do
is
help, you know, how could they this. No good, 
it just really just gets in the way of
what you're seeing in front of you.
Another thing I do
is I don't know that's my specialty. what
do you want? I don't know.
What do you think? i don't
know, i don't know, i don't know, and
it's because I have learned to not trust
myself and my ego comes in to say no,
no, no, let's not do anything that puts us
at risk! So those are two of my examples
what are some of yours I'd love to hear
about them and see if we can work
together and
get this ego in check.
