Sup guys it's Leah Chen I'm back I just
made a video about how to make dental
dam from condom and I forwarded the a /
actuallesbians and I got two comments
long***et says subscribed short and sweet
and I got four subscribers the another
comments from R3***a says a very useful video. i would've liked my sex
ed classes to at least MENTION the existence of dental dams and not
learning what they were from a webcomic
the common has actually inspired me of
making another way video about
stereotypical view about sex in China to
begin with I should say I can only
represent myself it's my own personal
experience growing up in China I can't
represent all the Chinese people and
before I begin I like to come clean that
I used to come up on reddit it was on
subreddit LGBT I launched an AMA after
that I was not able to visit reddit
many times because of the firewall thing
I got some very warm messages in my
inbox and I like to share it on the next
video
okay cut to the chase you never know the
first I the first concept I know about
sex is armpit hair - younger me the hair
going in here was quite mysterious
The underarm hair normally starts to appear
at the beginning of puberty I wasn't
aware of that
it was a summer my mom was wearing a
t-shirt the kind that you can see her
underarm hair I was like two or three year
old I didn't know
human can grow underarm hair
looked funny to me
so the innocent younger me just asked my
mom quite bluntly like mom why is your
armpit growing hair and suddenly without
a sign she just went furious ranted at
me seriously what's wrong with you
you are being rude
stop asking the question like that you
must do a kid the innocent younger me
was like okay I didn't understand my mom
at all I had thought about it maybe she
she yelled at me is because I was a kid
a kid so little shouldn't ask a question
like that this thing just carved into my
mind I kept that in mind until I was 10
or 11 year old and I just asked my mom
that question again believe me I tried
to act like an adult like being a mature
guy
it was another summer and my mom was
wearing another t-shirt that you can still
see her underarm hair and I just asked
her mum why is your arm growing hair
and again suddenly without a sign she
went furious again oh you rude kid could
ask her question like that huh and I was
like huh okay and I did stop asking a
question right because I grew armpit hair
myself in my puberty and I figure out
myself on the Internet
I did sulk about it it's not an
offensive question but as an
afterthought I can't blame her for not
being open-minded back in her time in
the past she got no one to teacher
that's when I realized that for many
parents their sex education is not
having sex education the following are
about a few things about typical
attitude
sex-related experience of me and the
people around me
first period-shaming sanitary pad you
know girls are so shy to take the
sanitary pass to the restroom it was like they were stealing the pads from
other girls they sneak into the restroom
with a sanitary pad carefully in her
pocket hey Leah Who dropped a tissue?
It's ridiculous, right? For most of girls especially
teenage girls they are not aware of that
they just hide the period topic as a
secret deliberately the worst thing is
when girls hiding is so bad the boys get
aggressive one time we were we were
getting back to the classroom we didn't
know how boys got the sanitary pad they
were holding it and opening it publicly
and laughing at it and I saw some girls
can't couldn't stand the shame and just
ran out of the classroom I didn't know
what happened maybe girls and boys were
joking about periods and the boys just
crossed the line you never know and it's
not important what important is period
shouldn't be something to be ashamed of
let alone to be made fun out of it the
next thing is something I feel really
angry about you know there our whole
nation even the whole world are fighting
against coronavirus especially the
medical workers they are at the
forefront of the fight and you can say
almost 50% of them are female because of
the they are wearing the protection suit
they they can't change the sanitary pads
once every three or four hours so they
are in need
sanitary towels in in a shape of shorts
somehow the nice are neglected I once
saw an interview about about a nurse who
is talking about taking care of the
patients while she have to she had to
undergo the that the pain the menstrual
pain and the clip of mentioning the the
menstrual pain was cut so you can
only see that she was talking about
taking care of the patients without
menstrual pain that's what makes me even
the whole internet furious about I
really or just say to the people who
decided to cut a clip period is
something that happened happens to the
50% of the population are you cutting it
are you okay hello? stay calm number two
the skipped causes in biology class back
in my eighth grade there were two
courses in biology class about human
genitals how people make a baby which
teenagers are crazily interested in they
even preview the causes I know because
I'm one of them
we have several conjectures about the
class with the students separate in boys
and girls in into different class world
we couldn't wait for the class to come
foreigner II the day had come
the teacher was standing on the platform
very calm we were looking for what you
what he was gonna say next
guess what he said let's skip to the
third division course third sexual
orientation I didn't know I like girls 
until I was in college I felt nothing
while I was watching watching the the
television or movies about about
heterosexual love I saw them flirting I
saw them kissing I saw them sleeping I
felt nothing like mr. Knightley & Emma
I felt happy for them
I liked the couple so that's all I have
I love me because I was like a friend
standing standing right next next to
them and happy when
they were holding hands or something I
wouldn't think of me as Emma
kissing Knightley because that's weird
the guy's so nice I will befriend him
many girls around me when they watch
Korean serious they there was like my
boyfriend my husband my new husband I would like he's cute look at his muscles as hard as
the cutting board until I saw homosexual
movies oh Carol My heart I think I'm in love with
Shaw but I hope Root doesn't know. That
explains everything
I said why I'm torn is because I it had
have been a long time that I couldn't
believe that I I am actually a lesbian I
thought I thought it was something
happened only on on series of movies it
doesn't matter now I've finally embraced
myself
the fourth sexual assault the reason why
add this topic is because I I just read
the definition of sexual assault is an
is an sexual act without without one
part's consent including but not
limited to rape to to sexually a sexual
abuse groping or something is when I was
14
eighth grade we were preparing for an
exam we were taking the exam in our own
classroom we have to clear out
or the textbooks or any any any notes
we were putting on the on the desk
and I was standing in my in my seat
tidying up my books and I and I felt
someone just pinched my butt it's a boy
my classmate we barely talked before he
pinched me and he held back didn't dare
to see me there was another boy just
witnessed what had happened and he laughed
he said to the boy who pinched me he
said whoa way to go I was upset for
several months I never I I saw the news
about about rape and I saw the people
were accusing of the girls clothes and
they act like why why did you wear
makeup
why did you flirt why did you go out so
late you had it coming what did I do
I was wearing school uniform look at
that
does he look sexy and what was I doing I
was tidying up my books so I had it
coming
I've heard a lot about parents do don't
want to teach their children to protect
themselves and I saw on the news I
saw the statistics most children get
assaulted by their relatives or friends
or the
close people around them I sincerely
hope that parents could teach their
children the sex education it's never
too early to let them understand the
Fifth having children
I guess the top one of the topic is is
the traditional concept people prefer
boys to girls especially for the for the
elder generation my mom was one of the
victims
when my sister was born my grandparents
were quite mean to my mom that's why I
never liked the grandparents on my
father's side
speaking of my mom I believe that my mom
was one of the parents who who wished
their children never fall in love with
anybody until they are no longer a
student and the weirdest thing is after
children were graduated their parents would
like them to get get married right away
it was like I don't care if you if you
have learned how to love a person or not
but I just want you to get married at
the moment I want you to Surely of all I
have talked about there are surely many
subjects i I didn't cover like
masturbation like condom SM sex
before marriage it's because I don't
know much experience on these maybe
someday I will come back and talk about
this who knows ok that's enough for
today's video i'm Leah Chen thank you for
watching this if there's more you like
to know you may you may tell me on the
comments section so bye
