The idea of being a man has changed so dramatically,
right.
But particularly I think not just the responsibilities
of being a father which has always been, not
to get all Kahlil Gibran like these children
are on loan to us and we’re supposed to
make sure that we take care of them and we’re
the stewards of these human beings.
Male roles which is something my wife and
I have written about in the show because the
concept of a father today is dramatically
different.
I mean obviously it’s different in every
family culture but it’s different from a
generation ago.
And the idea of what a father’s responsibility
whether it’s co-parenting, whether it’s
a stay in home dad or just someone that does
lip service to the idea of sharing responsibility.
Is so different from 1910 and I have this
joke where it’s like – and then you go
back to cavemen and they’re literally eating
their children.
I think it’s perspective on how we treat
women, right.
That is the beginning and the ending of it.
We are animals.
I start from that premise.
And we choose to not behave like animals.
And that’s, you know, a pretty guiding force
through humanity whether it gets completely
out of control or just panting like a dog
when an attractive woman walks by.
I even look at like pornography and all this
stuff where it’s yeah, you know, it’s
like look, I love naked women, I really do.
But I also know that I am a visual human being
and I can’t, you know, consume images of
naked women and not have that influence how
I view other women.
I mean that’s my personal opinion.
It’s like my sexual desires are very valid
and real but if I, you know, follow through
on every sexual desire first of all I’d
have a thousand children.
No but I think then that’s not how you get
– I wouldn’t feel very good.
Do you know what I mean?
When I look at my young sons I think that
look, I know that we love and like the normalization
of porn and I’m not, you know, it’s like
to each their own, right.
But I don’t think that I want my sons consuming
pornography.
I want my sons to look at an advertisement
and say that is a beautiful woman but she’s
being objectified.
And I do want even beyond that I personally
think that in the United States we give credit
and appreciate attractive people too much.
And so I think that I want to instill that,
I mean I think a lot of parents who desperately
want to have nerdy children.
So I don’t know.
I want my kids to be, my sons to be better
men than me.
But I think also, you know, it’s different
paths to getting there.
I mean look, I’m Catholic, you’re going
to think I’m crazy but I think that’s
an important tool also.
But I also think that understanding the logic
and science behind it is vital.
But culturally it’s interesting.
I saw a clip of Match Game which was a game
show when I was growing up from the mid-70s,
80s, I don’t know.
And the beginning of the show it was just
filled with the host more or less sexually
harassing the female contestants.
And it was not malicious and that man did
not know he was doing it.
And maybe those women didn’t feel icky.
But from our standards today it was ridiculous.
I mean I also feel like to discredit everything
I’ve said I also think that I don’t want
us to get to the point where there isn’t
passion, right.
When I met my wife and we went on our first
date I aggressively kissed her.
Not in a monstrous way but even hearing myself
describe it I don’t know if we could do
that today.
And I’m sure I could have because there’s
a communication that’s unspoken when you’re
courting someone.
But courting like it’s the 1800s.
Like you’re riding a horse to meet them.
But there is something about – there’s
rules but there’s also what’s so great
about relationships is that tingling feeling
when the chemistry that we can’t articulate
works.
