Steve hired me onto the Macintosh
project but at that point we weren't
living together anymore and not really
much spending time together.
He was
working all the time - like from morning
till night: work, work, work.
Always having business dinners so I
didn't really see him that much anymore.
What happened between the two of you?
The first book about Apple was called "The Little Kingdom" by Michael Moritz.
Michael Moritz was a journalist. Now he's
a famous venture capitalist. Steve liked
him and gave him permission to interview
all of us at Apple. What happened is - I
didn't know that Steve was denying that
he had this baby.
Cause we hadn't talked that much and I was a loyal friend I thought. I was trying to
be a loyal friend. But when Michael
Moritz had the Time magazine reporter on
the line and he said: "Oh, Mr. Kottke, I've
just one more question for you. Does
Steve have a daughter named Lisa?" And I
said: "Well, that's not a secret.
He never told me it was a secret.
Why didn't he want to admit that he has a
daughter?
Who could say. As his friend
I thought: "Come on, get a grip!"
And because I lived with
him and his girlfriend and I thought -
well, of course he's the father. There's
no one else who could be.
What I found out last year is that
Steve told his parents that I was
probably the father. It was a surprise to me. He couldn't really
come to grips. He didn't really want to
be in a relationship with Chrisann. He
felt she was holding him back in some
way and he was busy changing the world.
Now you could look at Elon Musk
with his failed marriages. But Elon must
be a difficult person to be married to
because he's very driven. And he's
kind of a maniac,
in the same way that Steve Jobs was a
maniac, and guess what, Steve Wozniak is a maniac also. Woz is just working, working
all the time. And he's on his fourth marriage. Into the 80s
there was a whole syndrome called "The
Silicon Valley Marriage Syndrome".  People
who have started companies, whose
marriages fail for no other reason than
they are just too busy working. And most marriages take some
work - it doesn't just happen  automatically. You
have to work.
