a long time ago somebody told me that
there's a right way and a wrong way to
do everything and there's no difference
when it comes to mental health and how
you help someone that you care about
what is up everybody this is Chris from
the rewired so where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if
you're new to my channel my channel is
all about mental health and what I like
to do is pull different topics from the
YouTube community to try to teach you
how to improve your mental and emotional
well-being so if you're into that stuff
make sure you subscribe and bring that
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pull things from the YouTube community
I also pull things from pop culture and
social media in general and a lot of you
know that I am trying so so hard to get
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your notifications are turned on so yeah
I've had a ton a ton of requests to
discuss Alexis stone and it's
interesting because I've had requests
for awhile and I'm just now discussing
it and I'll explain in a minute
why it's a good thing that I waited so
those of you who don't know the
backstory behind this
Alexis stone is actually a man by the
name of Elliot Alexis stone is his drag
queen persona looking amazing and
basically not long ago I think it was a
few months ago maybe in this summer or
in the fall I started getting a lot of
DMS saying you know hey he talked about
Alexis stone
Alexis stone just got all this plastic
surgery and it looks terrible and people
are really worried about Alexis and you
know all sorts of things and first off I
mentioned this into James Charles video
the other day this is one of the reasons
impulse control is very important and
it's kind of interesting to like because
a lot of people like oh you just make
these videos for views and data data da
but you got to understand I don't jump
on every single topic going on for good
reason
and
yes this story was interesting after all
the past the quote unquote plastic
surgery took place but I held back and I
didn't jump on that to discuss it and
it's a damn good thing too because
Alexis stone dumped bamboozled all of us
so those of you who aren't caught up to
date basically Alexis stone removed the
prosthetics and this was all
quote-unquote social experiment alright
and there's a lot of very valuable
mental health lessons that we can learn
from this I'm debating on doing a video
about Elliot and his recovery because
Tristan and I watched his video
yesterday and he mentioned like during
this process he was in early sobriety
and there's a lot of interesting topics
about that because people have also
asked you know do you think Alexis is
addicted to you know plastic surgery and
things like that so if you would like me
to do a video talking about the
addiction aspect of this story let me
know down in the comments okay anyways
some of you who saw my Bobby burns video
you know that my channel has been
inspired by other channels such as
wisecrack so I absolutely Weiss love
wisecrack if you don't know what
wisecracking is it's a channel where
basically they are taking pop culture
like movies and TV shows and things like
that and using it to teach you about
philosophy so over on my channel I'm
taking things from pop culture sometimes
movies sometimes TV but mainly youtubers
to try to teach you about mental health
well I've been behind on wisecrack and
the other day I sort of binge watching
their stuff and they had a really
interesting video about why villains
have changed in movies really cool if
you're into like the history of cinema
and just villains and superheroes and
just movie I don't know whatever like go
check it out but one of the best points
that they brought up is how villains
have evolved over the years especially
in cinema where a lot of villains are
trying to do good they're just going
about it in the wrong way
today our villains are the product of an
increasingly divided America bracing
itself for impact with trust in
government media and religious faith at
all
villains reflect America's innate
skepticism towards systems any systems
all the systems villains simply embody
solutions that are way too radical and
usually mind-boggling ly violent the
polar opposite of a 1950's villain who
represented an evildoer infiltrating an
inherently good system in hopes of
corrupting it today's villains
increasingly face objectively evil
systems which they want to change for
the better the only thing that makes
these characters villains rather than
starry-eyed heroes is their means of
carrying out that change so something
I'm always trying to teach you guys
about is how perspective is such a just
fascinating thing right I'm always
talking about perspective cuz two people
could be sitting in the exact same room
and have two completely different
experiences right and something that
we're gonna be talking about in this
video is you know how to help somebody
with mental health tough-love that'll be
the second half of this video but what I
want you to remember is everybody is a
hero in their own story okay and part of
that is our ego our ego is always
telling us what we're doing is right so
when you look at you know what wisecrack
was talking about and I'm a big
superhero Marvel nerd my son and I love
going to see all the superhero movies I
think we're actually gonna go see
Aquaman today for his birthday we saw
spider-man into the spider verse for the
second time but anyways when wisecrack
was talking about people like kill
monger in Black Panther or Thanos and
Avengers like they believe that they're
doing this for the greater good right
but they're going about it in a bad way
well what we see with the Alexis Stone
situation is that we see the same thing
so those of you who follow my channel
you know I'm a big fan of tough love but
there's there's this not even a fine
line I think there's a really thick line
between tough love and shaming somebody
so Alexis Stone when when Alexis did
this experiment like there was so much
hate just so much hate right there's so
much hate people saying oh my god what
have you done you were so beautiful
before you've turned into a monster and
just people just straight-up hating and
time and time and time again
it's been proven that shaming people
does not help in fact most of the time
most the time it does the opposite now I
know there are exceptions to the rule
every now and then you know just shaming
somebody like if they're back together
but it's been statistically proven that
it does not work in most cases
so a lot of you know that I'm a drug
addict an alcoholic in a recovery and
this is something that they actually
used to do when trying to help people
get sober right so back in the day way
back in the day before we have like
evidence-based treatment and things like
that they used to put drug addicts and
alcoholics into a room right and people
would just talk crap to them just tell
them they're awful tumblr terrible human
beings and all this and this was
supposed to inspire them to change but
we saw that most of the time that didn't
work something else they did before they
realize how dangerous it was was forced
people to detox cold turkey without any
assistance and hopefully that pain and
that suffering would make them never
want to do it again now what's kind of
interesting about that is that's
actually one of the reasons why I'm
clean today is because I went to a cold
turkey opioid detox but if any of you
watch my videos about withdrawal never
ever ever ever do that it can be very
unsafe alright but anyways this is this
is a problem so when it comes to you
know mental health issues whether it's
addiction whether it's um you know
overeating whether it's anorexia like
the shaming of it is not helping but I
relate it to kind of what I was talking
about in that wisecrack video because I
it's hard to explain but there is a part
there is a part of these people
somewhere deep deep down inside where
they care they legitimately care right
so someone who's a great example of how
not to do this is onion boy all right
hopefully you know who that is because I
made a video a while back about how I'm
not mentioning his name on my channel
but onion boy is somebody who shames
people and sits under this this guy's
that he's helping people alright so so I
do know that a lot of people are coming
from a place of concern but they're
going about it in the wrong way so now
let's talk about the right way okay
tough love and by the way like the
amount of support I've gone from
of you lately like on my Bobby burns
video my Trisha Paytas video like it
really really warms my heart because one
of my concerns is always that I'm not
getting through to people that people
don't understand what I'm trying to do
here and all of that and those of you
who are like my loyal subscribers or
people who just see what I'm doing here
you know that I never do anything from a
malicious point of view I'm always doing
things from a position of trying to help
and trying to educate and trying to
raise awareness I try to take topics
that people are already you know seeing
and/or hearing about and try to use it
to help other people and that's kind of
what you know this tough love thing is
for me
so like when it comes to helping
somebody that you know you have to
always make sure that you're coming from
a place of concern not a place of
judgment alright and by the way let me
know down in the comments below like if
you're somebody who struggles with any
form of mental illness let me know if
you can tell the difference between
somebody trying to help you through
judgment or someone trying to help you
through a place of concern and
compassion right like I've made videos
in the past about how to help somebody
with depression how to help somebody
with anxiety how to help somebody with
addiction
one of my friends Kay my amazing friend
Kay from the channel bipolar pug she did
a guest video a while back about how to
help somebody with bipolar disorder so
we need to just let people know like hey
I'm just coming from a place of concern
like that is it and then I have other
videos about boundaries and things like
that because at the end of the day
people can only get help if they want
help themselves but when it comes to
this shaming like we have to understand
that a lot of people who are struggling
with mental illness whether they're
addicted to plastic surgery or eating or
drugs or alcohol or you know they have
an eating disorder or whatever it is and
you got to understand that a lot of
their mental illness is already deep
rooted in some type of pain right a lot
of people don't like themselves so they
self-medicate with unhealthy behaviors
right so when you are sitting there and
shaming them you are not helping the
situation so when it comes to Alexis
stone I think that that is the biggest
takeaway from this whole social
experiment all right but anyways like I
said if you would like me
tackle this from the addiction aspect I
definitely have a few topics that I
would like to discuss if you're
interested in it let me know down in the
comments below
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