How do I stop ruminating? These thoughts are recurring and relate to every and
any embarrassing moment I have ever had during my lifetime. I'm a 76 year old
woman, well, here's something you could try. Write down everything that
you're ruminating about I know that
seems counterproductive but let's see
ruminations come up accidentally, involuntarily, unconsciously, whereas if
you write down everything that you're
ruminating about you're facing them
voluntarily so I would say well open up
a journal or word document whatever and
write down every time you ruminate about
something, write it down and write down
every rumination you can remember
exhaustively write them all down that
would be the first thing and the second
thing this standard behavioral therapy
practice the second thing the next thing
would be write down why you think they
happened so that you get a good causal
account and then write down well what
you might have done about them then but
more importantly what you could do about
them in the future to avoid that because
it doesn't matter that something
embarrassing happened to you once what
matters is whether or not you're likely
to repeat it in the future but my
suspicions are that even if you just you
could just start simply write down every ruminating thought that you
have voluntarily and think about them in
detail and write them down in detail get
every little word down and then you have
that document and then when you have a
thought and start to ruminate on it then
sit down later after the ruminating
thought goes away and bring it to mind
voluntarily so every time you'll ever
thought you don't want to have later
practice having that thought on purpose
and try that for about a month and see
what happens because it's often the case
that if you start thinking about the
thoughts you're ruminating on
consciously and confront them
voluntarily that they will start to go
away so you could try that, you could try that
that should help
