What up, beautiful people?
It is your
homegirl, Ms. Shameless,
all up in your
phone, your desktop,
your laptop, your device.
We are back with
another Shameless Sunday.
So this week I asked
you guys on my Snapchat
what should I talk
about in the next video,
and a request I got on Snapchat
as well as in emails --
and this is a
really popular request --
is, how do I
discover my passion?
And I actually started a group
with my cousin Jay on Facebook
called, "Do You, Boo," group,
and that group was
inspired by the question of
discovering passion.
So we created a challenge
of 15 weeks and 15 videos
and a downloadable PDF.
I will put everything
here in the description box.
But ways to
discover your passion.
And that's there for you
guys to download and take on.
But the first and
important question is,
what do you like?
What do you enjoy doing?
You've got to ask
yourself questions
and focus on the possibilities
and the positivities
versus, "I suck. I'm lame. I
can't do this. I can't do that."
Just try to focus
in and hone in on you
and what your strengths
are, what your weaknesses are.
And then most
importantly, doing things.
Living life beyond social media.
You know what? Actually,
I do challenge everyone
to do a social media cleanse,
and also just manage
your time on social media,
because it's hard to listen
and focus in on what's in here,
the truth, the honesty of you,
when everyone is
showing and in your face, like,
"How amazing my life
is! Like, oh my gah.
Like, look at my
life. It's so amazing."
It's hard to focus in
on you when you're so
busy and distracted by looking
at everyone else's life.
I mean, I'm guilty of this too.
It's kind of hard to not see
what everyone else is doing,
be like, "Do I want" --
I feel like a child,
and someone else has a toy.
And I'm like, "I
want that toy, too."
But do I really want that toy?
I just want that happiness
that the other kid
has with that toy,
is really what I want.
So it's so important to --
it's okay to look,
but it's dangerous
to envy what someone else
has versus being inspired
by their passion.
And kind of like taking notes --
like, oh, okay,
there's that that exists,
but what do I like? What
do I want? What do I enjoy?
And the more you can do --
like when I was young,
I did arts and crafts.
I also had a friggin' bomb mom
who enrolled me and
my brother in a bunch
of after-school activities,
and they were
either free or super-cheap
because they were
part of Parks and Rec.
Affordable, I'm talking, guys.
So if you have kids or
if you yourself are young,
look into -- young.
You could be anyone.
Look into programs
that are affordable or free
that you can join.
I did synchronized swimming,
high diving, swimming,
calligraphy
classes, painting classes,
dance, acting classes --
I did so many
classes and courses that,
because I did so much,
I was able to be like,
"I like this. I like that."
And sometimes it
doesn't have to have
the weight of the
world on your shoulders
and discovering your passion.
I do think that some of
us feel a pressure to choose
something right now,
when I've found
through my personal experience
just riding the wave
-- just doing the things
that I enjoy doing, and
then stopping to ask myself,
"Oh, how can I take
this and move it here?"
Or, "How can I
get inspiration here
and just kind of
keep it moving?"
But the
important thing is to do.
To do you, boo.
And that's not just a saying.
It's to actually do
you by doing things
and not just
absorbing everyone else's life
and doing nothing and
getting stuck in your head.
But to do.
Something as simple as
going out on the weekend
with your friends or your
family or even by yourself --
there are art galleries,
there are exhibits, shows,
all across town.
Depending on where you
are, you might even have
a small theater
production that's playing.
I encourage you to read the
trades or community resources
and get out.
Get out and do.
It's so important.
So I did a lot
of that growing up.
I did a lot of stuff.
And I was able to kind of
distill what I enjoy doing,
which is
storytelling, essentially,
and doing that in the
form of acting and producing.
And photography.
I love photography.
And I actually had to
make the distinction between
things that I enjoy for passion,
which, for me, is photography,
versus things to do as a career.
So that's something that
you also have to discover
on your own journey:
something that you
enjoy for yourself --
do you want to turn that into a
business and make money of it?
I did that for photography,
and then I realized,
"I don't want to
do this for a living.
I want to do this as a hobby and
do other things as a living."
But yes, get a pen
and paper out right now.
Write down the
things you enjoy doing,
the things that
you want to do --
and it could be something
as simple as traveling.
And that might
not even be simple,
because you need
money to travel,
so in order to get to the
travel part, you need money.
And how to get the
money? You need a job.
Get the job, you
need an interview.
Interview, you need a resume.
"I need a resume."
There's lots of steps involved.
And just focus on one
step at a time to get here.
And then once you
get here, it's like,
"Okay. New vision. New goal."
Speaking of vision, creating a
mood board or a vision board --
I'm big on these.
You can create them on
your desktop, on your computer
or cutting things
out of magazines,
and cutting out the
things that speak to you.
Fran had an episode
on The Friend Zone,
and they had a vibe board.
I call it a mood board.
A vibe board of the
things that just speak to you.
I like cutting out
pictures of families,
of a mother and a father
or husband and wife and kids,
because that was hard
for me to believe existed.
I still have a
challenging time with it.
But in order to
believe it, I have to see it,
so I cut these things out
-- you know, loft -- okay.
And words. I love
cutting out words.
"Inspiring." "Love."
And I have that in my room.
I have that on my
mirrors, on my fridge.
I try to put it
in as many places,
because whatever your focus
is, that's where you'll go.
If your focus is on
negativity, you'll go negative.
If your focus is, "I
don't know what my passion is,"
you'll go to, "I don't
know what my passion is."
If your focus is, "I'm going
to discover what that is,"
you will figure it out.
So focus on the cans,
the dos, the things that
are tangible and
are constructive
and that will move you forward,
versus everything
that you suck at in life,
how inadequate we are.
"I'm not good enough
for this. I'm not good" --
I would focus on
strength and weakness.
"I'm good at this.
I'm not so good at that."
But it has to be constructive.
It has to come from a
place of healthy growth
versus toxic self-sabotage.
I have links to all of
these questions of networking,
resumes, because I really and
truly want to give you guys the
skills and resources to get out
and do you and be shameless.
I think if I'm capable of living
this freaking amazing life,
I want to share
and impart what I know
and what I even
believe with you guys
to help inspire you.
You don't have to take
it. You don't have to do it.
But I'm just trying to
share with you how I got here,
and sharing is caring.
And I would love to have
information shared with me.
Speaking of sharing
information, TED Talks --
TED Radio Hour, I love.
It's an amazing podcast.
I was listening to that.
I listen to it every week.
But this one episode
on the meaning of work
was a really interesting listen,
so I'll put that here as well.
And -- yeah.
Comment below and let
me know what other talks
you'd like to have and questions
this video has inspired.
And remember to do you, boo.
Be shameless.
Yes, go on.
Go to my Facebook group.
[devilish chuckle]
[wolf howl]
I have doubts.
I'm a very faithful
person, but I have doubts.
How do I know that person?
And I decided to break it
down for you, break it down,
and it's all about networking.
