Send us a message,
oh powerful universe...
My gosh, it’s moving!
Someone’s here!
The spirits are trying
to tell us something!
 
I...
 
A...
 
M...
 
B...
 
I.
 
I am... B. I.
 
Who is B.I.?
 
B.I... B.I...
Who are you, B.I.?
Are you a ghost?
 
Guys, it’s me.
 
What?
 
What are you talking about?
- Your name is Ryan.
- Yeah, it’s not B.I.
 
No, not B.I. Bi!
 
Bi? What kind of name is Bi?
 
No...
No one’s ever
called you Bi before.
- Do you want us to?
- It’s not a name.
- No one’s ever called me that.
- So you’re not B.I.
 
It’s bi. Oh!
 
What’s that?
 
Do you feel something?
Someone’s coming
in the house.
I think the spirits are trying
to say something else.
 
Okay.
 
S...
 
E...
 
X...
 
U...
 
A...
 
L.
- The ghost is bisexual!
- Oh my God...
Oh my gosh!
Ghost, are you bisexual?
 
Shhh!
 
This is a safe space, ghost!
Me! I mean me.
I’m bisexual.
Yeah, you’ve been with women and men,
so we just kind of figured...
 
Yeah. We figured it out.
It’s the ghost we’re trying
to figure out right now.
 
Ghost!
 
Are you bisexual?
 
Ghost?
- Ghost?
- It’s okay!
 
It’s okay to be bisexual!
 
Our friend Ryan is.
Sexual orientation is
defined by a combination
of romantic and
sexual attraction.
It doesn’t come from
external influence
 
or social environment,
but from an inner drive
within each person.
 
Gay and lesbian folks
are attracted to people
of the same gender.
People who identify
as straight
are attracted to people
of another gender.
Bisexual individuals
have attraction to both genders. 
While some recognize
their orientation from childhood,
without learning it or forcing
themselves to feel that way,
 
others discover it over time
or through interpersonal
interactions. 
Romantic and
sexual attraction
aren’t always clear
or permanently fixed.
For some people,
they can change, evolve,
or become more
specific and inflexible.
Past and present
sexual attraction and behavior
 
are only part of the criteria
that define our
sexual orientation.
There are also sexual fantasies,
emotional preferences,
how we identify ourselves
and many other factors.
More and more, ways of defining
one’s orientation are multiplying.
For example, a pansexual person
feels attracted to people 
 
regardless of their gender.
As for someone
who is asexual, 
they feel no sexual
attraction to others.
Using these new words to define
ourselves isn’t mandatory,
but it can help to better
understand each other
 
or to express our orientation.
Orientation is a spectrum,
it is not set or fixed.
It’s healthy to ask yourself
questions, to explore,
and to learn to be
more comfortable
 
with your feelings and desires.
I was 13 years old
when I discovered
that I was into
men and women,
and that’s called
bisexuality.
I think sexual orientation
isn’t necessarily
an “ah-ha!” moment
of realization.
 
I think it’s a process.
And that process can be
throughout your life.
Subconsciously, I think
I always knew I was asexual.
But I didn’t know
there was a term for it.
I sort of just thought
I was broken,
which I know is very common
in the community.
It’s right around the same time
I started masturbating.
It’s quite a good indicator
of what you’re attracted to.
 
So to me, it was women.
I came out as trans
about four years ago.
I lived with that identity,
though uncomfortably,
 
for quite a while.
 
I like both guys and girls.
Through that coming out,
my sexual identity has shifted.
I often times identify
myself as being gay.
I could also identify
as pansexual, because...
Maybe I would like
anyone, I guess.
 
That’s blurry.
 
Yes, it’s blurry!
It’s difficult
to find that line,
and I’ve been asking myself
that question a lot recently.
Is it just men and women
that I enjoy?
 
Or is it anyone?
And I think when
it comes down to it,
if I were to fall in love
with someone,
it would be for who they are,
not for what they identify as.
 
Asexuality is when a person
feels very little to no
sexual attraction.
It’s considered
a sexual orientation,
because just like people
can be gay or straight,
that’s because they feel
sexually attracted
to either the same gender
or a different gender.
So feeling no attraction
is its own type of sexual attraction.
I guess in the beginning
of high school,
I pretty much knew
I was gay.
I didn’t know
what being gay was
until I was
in grade 10 or 11.
 
Yeah.
The question whether or not
they’re gay or bisexual,
it happened to me
in high school,
where I had my doubts
about, like...
 
Hey, no girl approaches me.
So am I gay?
Am I bisexual?
Should I be open
to both guys and girls?
I was at the end
of high school.
I had been
dating the same guy
for almost two years
at that point.
 
And I met this girl.
 
And she was just...
 
Amazing.
And after that
I had boyfriends again.
So I just kind of noticed
that I was into both.
So right before
I got into college.
The role models in my life
were couples. Men and women.
So I never really thought
about being with another woman.
And I just never was
attracted in that way.
It was kind of difficult
to say that you’re gay
when everyone else
around you is straight.
I don’t think there was ever
pressure for me to figure out
what my sexual
orientation was,
just because
I lived in a household
where being queer
was the norm,
growing up
with two moms,
and being around
their friends all the time,
that were not necessarily
in typical binary relationships.
 
I really think it’s a process.
It’s a process
of maybe elimination,
but also a process
of experience.
 
I’m open to the idea
that people should keep
their minds open
 
and could change.
I’m always defining myself
and finding myself.
Oh, that person
is attractive!
Oh, this person
is attractive!
So it’s always surprising me
in my own experiences.
I think a lot of it is about
the people that you meet
and about feeling
comfortable, feeling safe.
Feeling heard and seen
by your partner, so...
A lot of that stuff can
play into your sexual health.
Part of that experience
is diving deeper into yourself
and figuring out
what you are attracted to.
I think sexual orientation
is very fluid.
Some people say:
“When you know, you know”.
And that’s for them,
because they know who they are.
But for me, I think
it can always change.
