hi everyone I'm Adrienne Everheart your
feminine energy dating and relationship
coach
and in this video i'm going to talk
about how to really get a man to chase
you and crave you
when the man himself needs healing
so you might find yourself in love with
a wonderful man
but he definitely needs some healing in
his life there are some reasons he's not
coming
forth and claiming you asking you to
marry him and things like this or get
the commitment you really desire
because there are things going on in his
life that he needs to heal from
so in this video i'm going to talk about
how your natural feminine energy
without pushing any agenda on him or
controlling him but how your natural
feminine energy can actually heal
a man now as always if you're new to my
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so the first thing that i want you to
ask yourself is am i attracting men
into my life who need healing and
i want you to just for a moment take a
second and ask yourself
who would i be if i attracted a healthy
man
who would i be if i attracted a man that
had no problems
with claiming me commitment or wanting
to be married so i just want you to take
a few moments and
sit in that energy of what it would feel
like to not have to
help a man get any sort of resources or
therapy
or help from you in order to heal i want
you to spend a little time thinking
about who would i
be if i didn't have to do something to
help the man
who would i be if i attracted a really
healthy guy
who had his job all figured out who had
his life
untangled and was ready for a loving
long-lasting
committed relationship with me what
would i feel like
so as much as you can realign your
feminine energy
with getting in touch with what that
energy feels like
the next thing i want you to consider is
are his problems
your problems no they're not they're his
problems
he's a man he has to figure them out one
of the best things about feminine energy
is that you're not over
functioning you're not overdoing you're
not controlling or manipulating an
outcome you're letting the man have the
time
and space and mental energy away from
you
so that he can figure his life out so so
often women a man can actually feel our
energy
on him and it actually makes them
stiffen up
and how many of you can really figure
out how to do
something or problem solve when
someone's standing right over your
shoulder
it really doesn't feel good you feel
under stress and under pressure
and we are women we have a lot more
receptors to deal with emotion
men have less they get flooded much
easier
emotionally so make sure his problems
are his problems they're not your
problems to fix or solve
you don't have to fix problems in his
life so that he can figure out how to
marry you claim you
be committed and be that guy that you
really really want him to be
the next thing i want you to consider
before you allow your feminine energy to
begin healing a man
is are you in love with his potential so
so often we fall in love with what a man
could be
if only he finished his college degree
if only he could get his ex-wife off his
back
if only he could figure out his bills or
sort out whatever's going on with him or
get over the trauma from his childhood
or his ptsd or his addictions or
whatever it may be
we fall in love with that future man and
this is where i say you're in love with
the god that you're seeing inside of him
you are in love with the life and beauty
that you see inside of him
and you love the person as well but a
woman can really see
into a person and see what more they
have to offer or give
so much so that we end up not living in
the present moment
where the man really is this flawed
person
we all have problems we all have things
that we need to tackle
in our own cosmic karmic journey in life
and we definitely don't want to
intercept someone else's cosmic karmic
journey
this is for him to figure out this is
where he's at in life
and it may not align with your values
you may literally
be on a different plane of existence
than he
is so sometimes we have to say am i
in love with who he could be or am i
really really in love with what i've got
right now
the way he's showing up right now now
what do these questions and tactics get
you to do
they get you to peel your energy off of
the man
when your energy is peeled off of the
man you're in your own
feminine energy body you can get really
clear about
what you're feeling inside your body
when you're up in the masculine energy
world you're thinking
you're doing you're making things happen
and the biggest thing you're problem
solving now don't get me wrong you know
exactly how to put his life back
together and solve his problems
but he doesn't want to hear it a man
doesn't want to be controlled
or someone telling him how to do
something it robs them of their
masculine energy
i really wish things were different i
really wish we could just program men
to do what we know they need to do to
fix their life or any problem
but it doesn't work that way again his
own cosmic karmic journey
it's his steps in life he has to take
even if you're raising children you
understand at some point
you can advise your child but at some
point you have to let them go
you have to let them make their own
decisions so when you peel your energy
off of a man
you allow him time and space to be who
he is
and most importantly show you what he
can
or cannot do and this is where you have
to sit back
and watch and observe i want you to also
be willing to walk away
i want you to have it in your energy
it's nothing that you want to threaten
the man with
you don't want to threaten him like i'll
leave you if this doesn't change
i want you instead to just have it in
your energy that
i know that if this continues and we
don't start making some improvements
i'm going to go somewhere else i'm going
to figure out something else for myself
i know i'm going to be okay i'm a
beautiful dynamite
powerful woman i know i'm gonna be just
fine
if this guy's problems don't get solved
and it's not what i want
so just have that in your energy have
that in your vibe
that you're gonna be okay no matter what
and believe me you will
now on to really healing the man and
this is what i love about my feminine
energy work
is that i really use some powerful
things that exist
naturally inside of you when we step
away from thinking and doing and solving
and you really get inside your body
you'll find that these steps feel really
authentic and natural
they support good psychology they
support
healthy spiritual connection and they're
going to feel right and authentic to you
the first one i want you to be okay
listening but listen
up to a point this is where you want to
have a boundary
if the man is droning on and on every
day when he comes home from work or he
talks about his ex-wife or his
old pains and hurts there's a limit to
how much you can handle
and really soak in and be there for him
after about
five minutes of listening to him you
need to
take a break you need to do something
else i don't want you to turn into his
therapist
i want you to be able to have that
boundary and be able to say to him
okay i've i've listened and i feel so
terrible about what's going on
i trust you're going to figure it out
and i'm always here for you
but i need a break for a little while
you need to be able to have that
boundary
so you don't merge or melt into becoming
his therapist
instead of his hot sexy wife or
girlfriend another
really important one when a man is
speaking or doing the talking
give him your undivided attention put
away your cell phone
studies have been shown even if a cell
phone is on a table while a conversation
is being had
the importance is lowered the value is
lowered of that conversation
so put away your cell phone look him
right in the eyes
and nod and listen let him know you're
there and you're not interrupting him to
problem solve
or give your point of view or offer how
you would do it differently
just let him have that moment
all of the focuses on him so you can be
an empathetic loving and caring partner
i want you to make sure that you're
always embracing the good
when there's a problem masculine energy
is going to want to take over
and work on the problem and work on the
problem and work on the problem and work
on the problem
and work on the problem so that that's
all you're seeing is what's wrong
and so often we really need to pause get
out of that loop
untangle ourselves from that sort of
thinking
about what is wrong and how do we fix it
and i want you to begin to notice
what is going right your eyes will get
opened
really wide to how many good things are
happening
when he walks in the back door he
doesn't have to shut the door
he doesn't have to wear a clean shirt he
doesn't have to shower
he doesn't have to brush his teeth or
let the dog out to go to the bathroom
these are all wonderful things that he
is doing that i want you to begin to
notice no matter
how tiny or seemingly insignificant they
are
remember women we can live in this place
of masculine boy energy
and it almost becomes like a superpower
for us where anything that we perceive
as
wrong or needs fixing it takes utmost
importance in our thinking in our lives
so we become hyper focused on
outcome and results instead of the
beautiful life that we're really having
so i want you to be able to slow down
and observe what really is working
where is your man really doing good
stuff and make sure you tell him and
notice it this isn't about nurturing his
ego
or making him feel better it's about
focusing on the good that you do want to
have in the relationship
the last thing i want to share with you
while your man is healing
you've done all these wonderful steps
you have this mindset now
you're really going in with within and
finding what you feel and you're not
over focusing on him
i never ever want you to be fearful of
asking him the following
where do you see us going this is a
question it is your right to ask
you are investing your time to this
person and this relationship
take a moment to ask where do you see us
going
the past few months have felt amazing
and i know we're still figuring things
out but
it feels so wonderful to be wrapped up
in your arms and we have
so much fun and i enjoy our time
together i just feel
like every day's a vacation and i'm just
curious
where do you see us going and be willing
to
sit back in silence and observe the man
and see how he answers you and see how
things begin to change
now don't be too scared if he for a
couple of weeks
backs off a little bit that this
question might really make
him reflect and when men reflect they go
to the cave
and they need a little alone time and
they need to make sure that you're not
going to freak out if they take this
now remember dropping out of the
relationship for two weeks is not what
i'm talking about
but definitely a little time encourage
him to have this time alone
support him to have his own time alone
men
need that time to recharge all right
ladies i hope this video has been
helpful
on how you can help heal your man and
heal the relationship
to get him to chase you crave you want
to claim you again i hope you can review
all the steps in this video you've made
good notes and as always
if you want to learn more i have so many
programs out there
including FEMM Tools for Dating it
stands for feminine energy
mindset method as well as my ebook 500
ways to talk to a man
all of these give you more resources and
more repetition
there's always more to learn and develop
as you get in touch with your natural
feminine energy
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thanks so much for joining me today much
love, bye
