 
Hey, I dirtied my shirt doing...
 
Actually, that doesn’t matter.
But I took a fresh one
from the laundry.
- No problem.
- What do you think?
 
Oh, it’s one of mine!
 
Looks good on you.
 
Thank you.
Wait. Did you just say
this was one of yours?
 
Yeah. So?
I wear boyfriend jeans
all the time.
- Those are boyfriend jeans?
- Yeah.
Wait. If you’re wearing
boyfriend jeans...
 
Does that make me gay?
 
What?
 
No. I mean...
I don’t know, Julian.
Are you?
I don’t know.
I mean, I don’t think so.
No, I’m attracted
to a lot of women.
 
Who are these women?
But if I’m wearing a girl’s shirt
and you’re wearing boyfriend jeans,
am I the girlfriend
and you’re the boyfriend?
How does this work?
What’s going on?
 
Julian!
Just because you’re wearing a girl’s
shirt doesn’t change your gender.
You’re a girl if you feel
like a girl on the inside.
Regardless of what’s
in your pants.
What’s in my pants?
Oh man... oh no!
 
Oh!
I can’t believe
that didn’t break!
 
Can you...
Can you please not tell anybody
that I’m wearing a girl’s shirt?
It’s not really
a girl’s shirt, Julian.
We don’t need to label
people... or clothing.
 
We are just who we are.
Yeah! We don’t need to be
constrained by those labels.
- I’m just me!
- Exactly.
 
Awesome!
 
But...
Where are you going
in my shirt?
Your shirt? Oh no.
We don’t use labels.
Gender identity refers
to a person’s internal sense
 
of being a woman,
 
a man,
 
both,
 
neither,
 
or another gender.
In the past, it was believed
that birth-assigned sex,
 
also called biological sex,
alone determined
gender identity. 
If you were born
with female genitalia,
it meant that you defined
yourself as a woman
and that you acted
in a feminine way.
We now know this isn’t
necessarily the case.
Today’s knowledge shows us
that biological sex
 
can be male,
 
female,
 
or intersex. 
People who are intersex
are born with
external and/or
internal genitals
that do not fit
typical definitions
 
of male or female bodies.
When people identify
with the gender 
that corresponds
to their biological sex,
 
they’re called cisgender.
For people whose gender
and biological sex do not align,
 
they often identify as trans.
For example,
an individual can be born
with a male biological sex
and feel like a woman,
 
or vice versa.
In short, gender identity
is determined
by how you feel
and see yourself.
Gender expression is
how we communicate 
 
and present our gender.
It corresponds to behavior
and outward appearance
conveyed by attitudes,
interests and clothing.
People generally use elements
viewed as masculine,
feminine,
a combination of both, 
or those that are neutral
to express their gender.
For example, you can have
a female biological sex,
 
identify as a man,
and choose to behave
and dress in a feminine way.
Or you may have
a male biological sex,
 
identify as a man,
and get dressed
and act in feminine ways.
 
The combinations are numerous!
Gender expression is independent
from biological sex
 
and gender identity.
And it has nothing to do
with sexual orientation either.
Knowing more about
these different possibilities
helps to understand
sexual diversity.
And diversity is expressed
even through language
because new pronouns
are now used
to better
represent identity!
I was assigned
female at birth,
 
and I identify as male.
My definition is how the person
feels they want to identify as.
It’s not what they were born with,
what’s in their pants...
What organs you have
in your body
that identify you
as male or female.
It’s really, if the person
is non-binary,
they feel more towards female
or they feel more towards male.
For me, it’s always been clear
that I’m a girl.
 
I identify as female.
For me, it was more like,
I’m a man,
 
I’m the son of my father.
It was never really an issue
much for me in my family.
 
It’s always been very clear.
I never had to
question myself.
I always had the liberty
to choose for myself,
whether it be my religion,
my sexuality,
 
or even my gender.
I think I’ve always known
that I was trans,
but I didn’t know
that it was a thing.
For example, I have
a very vivid memory,
 
of in kindergarten,
having my best friend
try to teach me
 
how to pee standing up.
I didn’t have
a solid concept of it
 
until I was in my teens,
but I always knew
when I was a child that I...
wanted to be part
of the boys, I had...
Maybe this it
too much information,
 
I had severe penis envy,
which I think is normal
at some age,
but I never
grew out of it.
My gender identity
has always been clear to me.
I’ve always felt
like a woman.
But that doesn’t mean
that I’ve always
presented
myself that way.
 
Socially, today,
a lot more people are
open about their gender
and what they
identify with.
It’s not so much
biologically, nowadays,
but more what
a person is feeling.
And I guess that can be
confusing for people.
 
I’m a woman.
I’m a woman
with short hair.
Which comes with
a lot of stereotypes,
but I’m definitely
100% a woman.
Like today, I look
like a barbecue dad,
but on a regular basis,
I love wearing dresses,
I love wearing makeup
and being very feminine.
But today,
it just didn’t happen!
 
People are going to say:
- Like, that’s wrong!
- That’s wrong!
 
You should be this way.
They will judge you
based on your voice,
 
the way that you appear,
 
the way that you do things...
 
People are so different
that we should just stop
trying to label everything,
and just let people be
what they want to be
 
and who they want to be.
Having to fear
being yourself,
it’s the worst thing
you can imagine.
 
I just feel so bad
that some people
can’t accept that.
Because it just doesn’t
make sense for me
 
why someone else
would even care about
what you identify as.
My family is working
very hard to be...
open and accepting
of my trans identity.
It’s important
that we prioritize
unlearning those
binaries in our lives,
because life isn’t
black and white.
They’re all making
an effort to do research,
and ask questions,
become more knowledgeable.
It’s like, even if your kid
is biologically female,
and identifies
as a female,
pink might not
be their thing.
And that’s the assumption
that you’re making,
even at that
gender reveal party.
 
It’s just so screwed up.
No one knows you
better than you
and it’s okay if you don’t
know you yet.
Do things at
your own pace,
but also seek out
other people
that you know have had
similar experiences.
It’s okay to
question yourself,
and in the end,
decide that you’re not trans.
It’s not like:
“Oh, it sucks to be trans.”
It sucks to be in this society
as a trans person.
You’re always allowed
to think about who you are
and constantly change
the way you relate to the world.
 
You are you.
And that’s always
going to be okay.
 
Own it.
Own it. However you feel
right and happy...
Who is to say that
that’s wrong?
