 
#  Worry Less and Get More Back

By Earnest Long

Copyright 2017 Earnest Long

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# Chapter 1, Causes

Some people worry constantly about all kinds of things. This book will give the secret of how to stop worrying. The most basic secret is that eventually you will find out enough about your worries. This is to realize they're not worth worrying about, to realize there's nothing you can do about them even if you tried and to realize that if you do try to do them, then there would be a downside if you do anything out of the ordinary. Also, you might eventually realize that the most physically healthy option is often to do least, not to try to get so much news or information, not to talk about all your worries, not to try to get people on your side or not to use your computer. This is except you can watch the TV or use a computer as well as reading and radio to improve your social skills and pass the time. Anything else is ultimately fruitless, it won't make you friends or it won't get you a job. As well, the hardest thing might be to realize that other people really don't expect you to do anything about bad things you see in the news. They really don't expect you to take control and shake people up or anything else that you were told as a child. And that might be the real reason you spend so long learning how to use a computer or to try to get the news for so many hours of the day.

Another secret is that if you did a lot of hobbies and interests by, in fact, managing your time better, you would then get bored with media and hobbies after a few short years. Or, at least, you'd get bored before the end of your lifetime. Then, you might just get a computer and use it out of boredom. And you could post things online out of boredom. Also, you could be imagining it was some kind of business reality show that you were on or it gave you an excuse to study business that used up some of your spare time. This is even if it was that you were an amateur or something like that.

Possibly, if this is you already, you can just try not doing very much. For example, you can go and lie in bed, make yourself a snack in the kitchen or put music on if you're not bored with that. But scale back how much you use your computer and how much you watch of TV when this is too much screen radiation and typing or pressing of buttons.

Also, another secret is that politicians really are in charge, politicians generally know about politics and what they're doing better than most of the population and they can change things if they want to. And it is not some political thriller you might have read years ago about idiots in charge or anything like that. But that one idea in that one book started you off for years. As well, you might now feel resentful or have recriminations that nobody corrected you on your assumptions. Perhaps, just stop now and don't keep going with it all even more.

If you are the kind of person who worries, you may then also be the kind of person that nobody generally expects to help anyone else and not with anything. This is when you worry because people don't explain things that are going on that might be a reason for your worry. And if they don't do this, it is probably that they don't see you as being important enough or they are prejudiced against you. As well, if you are adopted, then you do not have the training to do anything you would have as if you were in your own family or in your own community. Nor would anyone from your adopted community or your birth community actually want you to help with anything. And nor would they ever accept you as being any kind of leader or opinion former.

This is just a fact if you are adopted. Even if you had good talents at something, they could easily find someone from their own community who had always been a part of it to do it. And they could find someone just as talented as you are if anything needed doing or saying or there was any reason to start a campaign. And it is not even if you hadn't been abused by either set of parents that would make you unattractive to anyone.

Really, you must realize yourself that you yourself would not listen to somebody like you. And this is just from general knowledge what people anyone would normally listen to. Anyone wants to listen to somebody who is strong, has had a good life, who has good social skills and a good mind and who has been to university and they can't ever have had any personal problems. Definitely, they can't have had any problems with porn or something like that. Yet knowing this about yourself, that may really only be because people don't always want to talk to you or help you, you still think you could succeed in some way.

As well, here is one more tip. Porn is all about pretensions and double standards and any porn habit might just fade away if you didn't try to do so much. As well, computers, paper, televisions, radios and all these gadgets and technologies for getting information and news and producing typed up content, videos and photographs are all unhygienic. They are unhygienic from touching things or from electrical radiation. And that is to everybody they are unhygienic and bad for health. Nor do they have different computers or give different health and safety advice to university students. You don't have to have it yourself for anything. Maybe then, you just don't have to do it really.

So that possibly is one good thing because of who you are. This is when they say that every person has something going for them in the world that you can do this thing for yourself. And they can say it about you that you don't have the problems other people do. Leave the problems to other people! And you can just read a book or switch the TV on for a bit. That is all you really need to do in your private life. Also, keep friends' confidences. And save some money up without spending it on drink, cigarettes, computers, pads and pencils, art materials, the very latest novel or movie, newspapers or thinking you're being generous to women.

# Chapter 2, Sex!

Sexual Outlet

Don't worry if you are not getting enough sex. You can do other things more constructive than just worrying about sex. Also, you might enjoy doing other things just as much as having a girlfriend. Be grateful you can enjoy reading a book sitting in a comfortable apartment with refreshments from your kitchen and the sound of birdsong, or music and sun coming in your window. And you don't have to be having sex with someone and not yourself or any fake person either. As well, with more access to the media, you can reinvent or transform yourself to be anyone you want to be. You can change anything else about yourself you'd like to do.

Fairy Tale Romances

As children, they promise girls fairy tale romances, handsome princes and adventurous men. And they promise all children that they will find romance once they are adults. Boys are not so much different from girls. Later, however, they hear that sex is not all a positive thing and that it is a powerful drive that can control people. And sex is not all for women to find love and happiness. Most want to learn about sex in a pleasant neutral way. People want to improve their own sex lives. Also, they want to learn how not to worry too much about sex. If you polled 1,000 people, most will say they worry about having sexual satisfaction in their own lives and only that.

Many more people have worries about keeping up their relationship with their girlfriend or wife. This is for both social skills and sexual satisfaction. As well, relationships might also mean a financial commitment to be able to share your life with another person. Or people might spend a lot of money just to go on dates with a new girlfriend. There is also having things to offer your partner as being a decent human being. These can be that you look after your health and are physically fit and have some muscles without any health problems and as well that you keep mentally active so you have a good mind. And you might want to have something such as a hobby you can talk about and not just the television. As well, you might want to read and listen to the radio and not only just watch the television as your only source of information, news and entertainment.

Sexual Worries That People Can Have

Some people worry endlessly if they watch porn. But these are not all the sexual worries that people can have. And there are answers to people who worry that they watch porn. As well, these answers are often scientific fact and have been studied by medical doctors and other professionals.

There are several theories only about why anyone watches porn generally accepted. Many people know them already. The first is that watching porn is from poor personal hygiene. And it is a lack of knowledge of sex or relationships. Or it is a lack of knowledge about the body causes it. Also, somebody might not be getting enough sex or have poor relationships and fears over relationships. And porn use may come from poor physical health, poor diet and lack of exercise. As well, porn being more readily available can cause more porn use. Also, its marketing and promotion mean people might watch more porn. Another theory is that generally objectifying women will lead to porn use. Yet another theory is that porn users have some kind of stress, unresolved feelings or they dislike Public double standards.

Hard Time

If you watch porn, you may have a hard time unless it is just a temporary thing. Nobody likes it. Your worries are genuine, anyone could and should have them and you are not a freak to worry. And watching porn may give you worries in itself. Girls don't like it if people they know watch it. They say that they stare at their breasts and these men often smell bad. And they don't like the way they approach them or talk to them. Nobody else likes it either. Other problems watching porn are poor mental and physical health.

Sex can be two things, 1) procreation 2) pleasure.

Any sex without contraception if the female is fertile could result in a pregnancy. Sometimes pregnancies are planned and sometimes not. It's a fact! You may already know this or have heard something like this. But you would like it to be different. It may be that someone told you not to listen to your teachers about sex education when they didn't say it about anything else. Or you missed some of your lessons.

Men have a basic need to pass on their genes. It's innate in everyone and every human being. One way to pass on your genes is to marry a woman, pay for her and your children and spend the rest of your life with her. This is nurturing a relationship. Another way is to cheat. Maybe if he got her pregnant, her family would help her, she would get social security or manage on her own money. So his child wouldn't die. Otherwise, there would be no good reason to have this approach. And he gets to keep his money and not waste his spare time wiping the new-born's backside. Both strategies can work. One of the strategies is something like, 'I forgot the condoms! Shall we risk it without'? They might do this when they are in a relationship and they have known each other quite some time. However, the drive to pass onto another generation is so powerful that some men may even ask a prostitute if they have to use a condom. Some men find one strategy more attractive than the other one. For example, if they don't think they will be good providers or make good husbands, then they may choose to cheat. Otherwise, the other strategy is often more attractive.

You might think if it bothers you that generally in life, women and men as well, are taken advantage of all the time. However, they are taken advantage of for other things and not just sex. And they are taken advantage of in all kinds of ways. But it is often really all about money, sex, status, prestige or it is about power. Many people have bad things happen to them in the harsh adult world because there are such strong motivations for others to do things.

And plenty of bad things have happened even to people who live near you or you may know personally. They don't talk about it because it is a bad memory that they don't want to bring up again. However, that doesn't mean many people aren't affected. And you know bad things happen to some at least. This is even if you don't think it's everyone.

Perhaps, when people have experience of other bad things happening to them that do not involve sex, then they won't feel so bad about women being paid to take their clothes off and things like that or women unable to get out of abusive relationships for reasons of money or having children with somebody already.

Besides which, the only reason people know about bad things they think happen in porn is that they watch it. So it is that they can see these women on film having sex underneath powerful lights, but really, they very much enjoyed watching the porn film with these women in it. Later, they regret it as someone might have been taking advantage of these women. Then they watch more porn again! These women gave them the sexual enjoyment and satisfaction they wanted and that was why they bought the film.

Also, whilst they worry about these women sometimes, at other times they can give them the pleasure they want only if women like these take their clothes off! And this is the same reason everyone watches a porn film. Also, they watch regardless of how they know it might affect women and their future lives. So it is as if they got an 'excellent deal' compared to the women in the films. Or, at least, they got a different deal to them.

And if desperate for sex, many men might go to a prostitute at least once. This might be if they hadn't had it for a while such as a year or two and were worried about their bodies being able to function sexually properly. Or it could just be to want to have sex if they hadn't had it for something like a month or two and mainly only for the sexual pleasure of meeting a real woman. Who would judge between these two positions? You might not when both involve taking advantage of a woman in paying her for sex. Yet, some men practically might do one but not the other. Almost nobody says there should be no prostitution at all, so what's the solution then?

Answer You Might Get

The answer you might get would be to reduce prostitution. But then as has already been explained, that means being judgmental of some men who go more often and have sex with more girls. Possibly, just don't worry about it if this is one of your worries. Things might change and the amount of prostitution could reduce in society for social reasons and nothing to do with anything else. Or it could change if a politician really did know what he was doing and he could change it. But don't worry until then about these women and all their experiences.

It is not worth worry about many things if you can't change them yourself or if you are just waiting for an election. Also, it is if you examined your own ideas, then they might be less than completely consistent. Or you really do not know the solution yourself. This is already right now. And nor is it if you researched it that you might be able to find it out. Possibly, you would need to know a lot about history and social science when you had not taken enough interest in these subjects before. You could read about them if it reduced your worry. Otherwise, don't worry. Think something positive about it and that is not just worry itself going around in your head.

However, by buying porn, men may not cause 'bad things to happen to women' as they think that they must do. Things people might think are that if they watch a porn film, then more women will have to appear in porn. But they'd still make porn anyway even if one person didn't buy it. So they needn't feel bad about it. It would almost certainly happen anyway. One extra porn viewer doesn't make any difference to how much porn is available. And particularly it does not cause an increase in the number of women working in porn if people don't watch a lot. Nor will it then affect as much women who appear in porn or young women generally.

If you went to a prostitute, then that might affect a real person a lot more. And you might well have a good reason to feel bad if you caught a sexually transmitted disease. As well, you could catch a contagious or infectious disease that she had but you couldn't see she had when you slept with her. And then you may not be cured ever and so pass it on to future partners. Think how this would affect your future relationships, future partners and the future life you wanted to have. As well, this would probably affect the life everyone wants to have at some time in the future. It could shorten your life as well as making it less enjoyable.

So porn is harmless in comparison. And particularly it is harmless in small quantities. People needn't feel bad if they've watched a porn film when they really thought they'd like it. Something was a turn on and it was a pleasurable release. Really, they do not need to think of it afterward as a bad experience. They can still live a decent normal life not affected just because they saw a porn film.

Some say porn really is wrong. And some porn users find these comments constructive despite how they often sound to the casual observer. They say, though, that anyone who talks about morals often uses negative words. Morality seems to lend itself to words generally, but particularly it does to harsh sounding words. However, often what people say is immoral is not a wrong or bad thing in itself. Nor is morality 'complicated'.

Often all anyone is saying about morals is that you should live independently and not rely on others. And nor should anyone constantly ask for help. Everyone should use their life to do something worthwhile, such as challenging or interesting things at work or in their spare time generally. Or they could just try to have as normal a life as possible if they don't feel up achieving much say compared to other people. But they should at least avoid the negative things that some people fall for and that can rule their whole lives.

Sex Surveys

Someone's experience of reading sex surveys, he related for this book,

Like, I suppose, many others, I have bought a newspaper or magazine with a sex survey inside. I wanted to know more about sex. Why was I not having as much sex as I wanted? Were others doing it more than me? What were they doing that I was missing? And more generally, I wanted to know why you heard about sex all the time in the media and yet you still felt that you knew nothing about it.

For the newspaper to say it is printing the results of a survey, then it might make you think you will read something decent about a subject you want to know about. This is particularly when you're the kind of person who thinks surveys tell you facts or you trust opinion polls.

What I found from looking up sex surveys on an Internet news archive is that others do have sex the same as me. But there is some variation in how they do it. Yes, some have done things such as having adulterous affairs and some haven't. Some have gone to prostitutes and some haven't. Also, some have never had sex. Some have had three in a bed. And some have more sex and some have less sex. The percentage is unimportant because the percentage may vary.

Male and Female Orgasm

With girls masturbating, a worry is long fingernails scratching until blood appears. There is a worry over infection for example. And trimming the nails is unhealthy if below the quick. The solutions offered to this are a dildo that prevents the fingernails encountering the vagina and so it is more hygienic. And then even better than this is a vibrator that is better for the body that it might not become twisted. This is from using a hand down by the side of the body or holding the dildo in one hand that is uncomfortably one sided. However, virgins can't use dildos or vibrators except by placing the tip on their clitoris.

A girl's orgasm is a muscular spasm. But the boy's orgasm involves discharge of fluid that is more than just an increase in the production of mucus. Still, the clitoris is actually a large organ only the tip of which is visible and the female orgasm is not fully understood. In men, the semen comes from deep inside and as well, a man can feel it coming all the way. Seminal fluid contains semen that is the germ that can produce life. And often that is why people regard it as particularly important that boys don't masturbate. A girl's orgasm can also be just as intense as a boy's one is. It is also socially unacceptable for both girls and boys to masturbate.

The semen can stay alive outside of the body for some time and possibly make a female pregnant that was exposed to it. This is if she got it on her fingers and then touched her vagina such as when using the bathroom. Or some women rub their clit from time to time during the day. This is even without it being full masturbation in a bed with the lights turned down and a weepy movie or anything else like that. During sex, a female's orgasm can make the semen go deeper inside her. And some people say an orgasm is necessary for pregnancy. Or it makes it more likely. As well, if a girl masturbates on her bed, then she might have heard about dirty bed sheets and things like that that might make her worried about her becoming pregnant.

In both boys and girls, there are changes during orgasm. The boy's penis becomes erect and hard and the girl's vagina becomes red, blood flows to it and it can become inflamed. There is a feeling of release after orgasm. In girls, this is a muscular spasm that is pleasurable. And in boys, there is as well a pleasurable muscular spasm. But as well, in boys there is production of semen. A girl can get pregnant from sex but this is less of a worry for boys. Pleasurable sex with an orgasm is meant to be more likely to cause pregnancy culturally and possibly, it is now scientifically proven to do so as well.

It might not be predictable when sex will be pleasurable on a date before doing it. This is until the boy takes his clothes off and he has a good body. Or he proves to be a more sexually experienced or considerate lover than she thought he was beforehand. It is not just about how kind he is outside of the bedroom if that is something women look for and find a turn on and nor is it how manly he appears to be if that is something many women also look for. He has to be physically good enough in bed to give her an orgasm. That is what matters to her in the end. There is then some unpredictability when having sex with anyone new. This is that the female might get pregnant or if the male partner will give her an orgasm.

In a way, part of the excitement of having sex with a new partner is that women might be more satisfied than with previous partners. As well, the male may be more or less fertile other than for reasons of giving sexual satisfaction. Some men produce more semen than some other men do. Also, some men have a damaged penis from a previous lover who caused them it. This is surprisingly common. It might mean for example that men can't ejaculate properly into a woman and there is only a trickle out.

And in another way, it might be part of the reason that you get jokes about big penises or women sighing resignedly. This is when a man usually regarded a brute socially is able to turn her on in bed. It means that she will get a son the same herself who can turn women on in bed. And this is regardless of what else they say about her son as being uncouth or not having good skills. It seems there is a common belief that the size of the male member and whether a male will be sexually experienced when an adult is inherited in the genes. So, women are not too worried if a man turns them on in bed that they might get pregnant but rather want it for lots of reasons. One big one is of course sexual satisfaction always. But others have been given.

Women want to be turned on in bed no matter how inconvenient it might be if they got pregnant. Or it is anything else that you hear that women enjoy sex with young potent men. There are ways around getting pregnant you hear that is part of the culture but not regarded as scientific. It really may just be a desire women have that they can have sex and enjoy it the same as men. And in this wish to have sexual satisfaction, women will risk getting pregnant outside of marriage. Also, they may want to have lots of children other than by their husbands. This would be similar to the male strategy of spreading his seed between different females and no different. As well, women still like to meet new men no matter how much it is in the history books or the newspapers about unmarried mothers living in poverty. Also, it is no matter that single mothers are discriminated against.

Indeed, people might discriminate against single mothers because they are jealous. This is when sexual pleasure might be the reason they got pregnant. Also, some men find the reality upsetting. And it is not just jokes about women liking big cocks. For some, it goes against it being jokes only about sex. And that is a boundary they don't want to cross in their lives. Particularly, this is if these children need to be looked after they hear about that they might complain.

Some men don't like to think about sex that much. They don't when there are problems with it. Also, this is no matter what else they have in life. And women as well are jealous. This is when some men have small cocks and are inadequate in other ways to satisfy women in bed. Also, it is when some women hardly ever get orgasms.

And instead, some men will think instead that if they offer to be a provider, then a woman will give them plenty of sex, their time and give birth to their children. Some women it seems take these views on as well if in fact they do get married to men like these. This is when other men wouldn't marry them if they were going to be one of the ones left over. But if their husband is fertile, then they are likely to get pregnant from him. Unless that is, you really can't get pregnant except from an orgasm and their wife is sleeping with younger men or having affairs a lot of the time.

Maleness

So many shots in porn movies, even though supposedly intended for heterosexuals, show penises really a lot although many men who watch don't notice that much. And the reason for this was that, at least until recently, some men who were homosexual worried about social acceptance. Nor did some men want to admit homosexuality even to themselves. And they definitely did not want to admit it to their friends or their families. However, they probably would like to have a good look at some penises and see shots of nude men. So porn has long lingering shots of blow jobs, close-up shots of penetration that go on for some time and it has anal sex with women. There's also a similar thing for women with so many 'girl on girl' scenes that are supposed to appeal to men but are really for lesbians. Some lesbians, the theory goes, worry about getting, or can't get lesbian porn. Nor do they want to go to a lesbian bar. If they were able to meet other women and have a sexual outlet for their desires, then they might not watch porn.

Another view is that hard-core is difficult to film without seeing penises. And blow jobs and anal sex mean you get more much-needed variety. It keeps anyone interested and means porn movies can be longer.

Also, some men would like to see women being penetrated in all ways as they think it is more degrading to the women they see on film. Or there are viewers who like seeing different and new and more various sex scenes. It is 'woman's sexual experiences' that you hear so much about appeal as well it seems to people who watch porn.

So it is not just because of the viewer's sexuality that you see nude men and shots of penises. Yet it still seems to be that only some kind of lack of social acceptance would mean anybody feels the need to buy porn.

Another view, if it is different, is that porn watchers want to see thousands of beautiful and usually young women and jack off over them to prove to themselves, or to others, that they are still really 'men'. Readers may know the old joke story about a team player getting an erection in some way in a sport's fixture or informal game. Also, there are jokes about women getting hard nipples in the showers or under their gym shirt. Such a tiny thing and even if often literally said only jokingly can cause confusion over sexuality or cause feelings that men need to show themselves to be heterosexual for everyone to see. But then, ironically, they never say they watch porn. It is a private obsession. If they said it, then that would mean raising the issue to start with. And so they don't.

Some men have heard that it would not make sense to say if you ever did say it, that you liked looking at just any women in the nude. There has to be some bigger prize than that to justify watching porn that you aren't called names. The women are young because younger women generally are more attractive having as they do better hair and skin from less chance to have had late nights, long drinking sessions or drug-taking binges. More extreme sexual acts are also part of this fear some men have of being ridiculed for watching porn.

Or it might be that if you have been bullied, then you can have nervous habits or seek reassurance by touching your face, clothes or furniture. This is unhygienic. Also, anyone who is in poor health that might be caused by bullying is less able to do the cleaning and look after him or herself.

And low self-esteem in itself can mean poor motivation to wash and clean. Nor does anyone with low self-esteem often feel like using their time usefully so they would be too busy and have no time to watch porn. This is when watching porn does sometimes take a lot of time or people can feel tired afterward.

What is Personal Hygiene?

Personal hygiene is cleaning, washing and personal habits you have and not doing activities that are unhygienic. Germs get into the body and you can expel them by an ejaculation or by sweating. This reduction in germs is what someone who watches porn is seeking. Still, they are not aware often themselves of the reason.

Wash Behind Your Ears

The germ that causes 'poor personal hygiene' lives and grows on the skin behind the ears. You need to wash this area and clean it with a paper towel. Or you can put the towel in the laundry that you use for washing. Also, you should clean your fingernails as your fingernails contain these germs. They don't go unless you scrub them with a nail scrubber. You can get a scrubber to clean your nails. That may be all some need to stop watching porn if they don't already have one. As well, although you may have heard about hygiene, you might need to look up anything that you have forgotten. You can do these things again now. Or look them up as well if you weren't told about them to start with.

To be hygienic, you also need to clean the environment. These germs get onto surfaces and can transfer back to the body. Also, you need to have good personal habits, such as not touching behind your ears, not touching your hair and not touching your face or clothes or things around you. Computer keyboards can have this germ once anyone has used them. And this includes the same person or a different person. Germs can transfer back to the same individual or transfer to a different individual.

Other Germs

Many germs other than the germ that the book has talked about cause disease and illness. Good hygiene is essential for health. This is in both the short and long-term.

How Do Germs Get Into the Body?

Germs are not particularly able to travel through skin, but they can travel through orifices in the body such as the eyes, the nose, the mouth and ears. Touching the face is unhygienic. And you really have to stop this if you do. There is no good reason to touch the face. And not touching the face improves hygiene without any downside. If you do touch your face, you just need to wash it when you feel like scratching. And you can wash your hands as well. Don't touch your hair in particular. This is harder to clean well. Look up any other hygiene advice you need.

Germs then often come into the body through the mouth, the eyes, the ears and the nose when touching the face or hair with the hands. Also, germs get onto the hands and then to the face from the environment. This is often when the environment is not clean or you have done excessive touching of things. Things you touch a lot are such as computer keyboards, loose paper or anything else as well.

Talking a lot is unhygienic both for oral and personal hygiene. The tongue touches the sides of teeth when talking a lot that is bad for oral hygiene. And this is particularly if you have done anything recently to improve your social skills and then gone out and met friends or talked generally more to anyone. The tongue grows quicker than the jaw once the body is more relaxed. So it touches the teeth more. Vapours from the lungs are unhygienic for personal hygiene.

Computers can be unhygienic because it is hard to clean around and behind them. And electromagnetic radiation from them having electric current is unhygienic. Electrical appliances attract dust around them. And you may forget to clean due to poor concentration. As well, there is less fresh air in a room as computers, your desk and paper files take up space.

# Chapter 3, Nowhere Fast

MODERN PRESSURES

Moral Fibre

'Published advice often works for millions'.

Some people say that if you feel stressed, it shows you lack moral fibre. For example, they say that you should ride the punches and punch back when you can. And they say that if you don't have a good chin to take a punch, it is a moral fault. As well, people that worry too much are busybodies and other immoral or detestable people. They are far too interested in other people's business when it doesn't concern them. And if they just concentrated on their own business and their own problems, they would not be worried.

Someone will give others help with their own problems but will not tell anyone else anything about problems they know the people they are talking to don't have. So you cannot get advice if you worry about other people's problems. Everyone has first to ask for him or herself anything. Also, if you did not realize other people could ask for advice for their own problems, then it might show a major fault in your thinking.

People may have nobody else to blame when they get ill and it is their own fault. And if they still do blame others, other people might say that they're simply making excuses. As well, they make these excuses when they really do have decent chances in life. And in particular, they had a good chance of a decent life with all the help they had.

To miss their chances, they ignored all medical advice, scientific research you read and any other advice. And simply it is that they did it their way. Their way was the wrong way. And everyone told them it was the wrong way and that they were mistaken. At least, everyone they knew who had a reason to like them at all or to try to help them told them this. But they only wanted to believe false friends they did not tell their real friends about. And these false friends never gave them anything except letting them hang around with them.

Also, you get people with illogical or wrong ideas but who can rule others' lives. Or there are people who say things as if speaking with authority but perhaps things they say are really like a cabbage. Yet if you tell them this, then they still do not want to give up any power they have over other people. And nor does anyone always take it away from them.

People who complain to somebody they think is reasonable about them might be told the person is correct about what he says and has done nothing wrong. This is the opposite of what they expected a reasonable person to say when they complained. Later they find that they only said this to save themselves a problem of having to talk to the bully, find another supervisor to replace him or lower themselves to argue with him. Also, they might eventually say that the bully is somebody who is bigger and more powerful and so you don't have a choice. And nor do they and that is the big secret.

Also, there are people who openly show favouritism to others but you can't work out why they even like them. And it is people not appreciating things you do and not being listened to or pressured to do things. Or it is people making excuses for others that you don't see how they can believe them themselves or they must know are false.

A kind of joke is that people don't generally mind any of this but then nobody needs the beating they might get around things like this happening. Also, they might beat them just because what they are doing has not had any effect yet. So you can't win! And people might just play along to push the time into the future it happens if it still does happen.

Having had a beating, somebody is more susceptible to mental actions as well. Some people see others behaving unreasonably is all only as a prelude to a beating and this is why they don't like it. A beating, poisoning or some other assault can affect the mind and if you are able to cope well with anything. And this includes the ability to have normal social interaction.

Perhaps there is some reason the same advice doesn't work now but did in the past. Something has changed or now you have modern pressures.

Education

Education has a purpose that children learn how to live life when they are adults. If you have falling educational standards, some adults may not cope. And so they don't live healthily. Nor can they cope with the stress of their jobs or careers. And nor do they understand sex and relationships. Nor do they understand things purely offered as entertainment. And nor do they cope with understanding politics and nor history or culture. Nor do they have a good knowledge or understanding of the world, its people, its geography or its economy. In short, this is everything you did at school or you should have done.

Drinking

There are other reasons why you might not cope as an adult. Since people have left school, they could have drunk too much, taken drugs, bashed their head somehow, not eaten well enough, not done much or any other reason the brain is not fully functioning. And this explains their problems despite the education they had that was adequate.

Overambitious

When someone leaves school, they may have ambitions that they feel others expect of them, such as to learn a musical instrument or to become an artist or writer. And these cause pressures when they can't remember what they did at school, let alone more lessons at college that they would really need to do their choice of an art or a hobby well.

As well, they can't cope managing their computers. However, there is commonly accepted advice about porn that says you should have Parental Controls. And despite all the problems that there are, you might just cope quite normally and well if you are not also watching porn. It seems Parental Controls may wind the clock back to before you got a computer and you started having problems.

You are an Adult and Have a Choice

Some say that when you realize what needs doing, then you should just do it. That shows basic moral fibre. And it shows that you have developed more of an adult mind and can make decisions for yourself. Also, you don't have a mind of a child when you expect to tell a child everything but not an adult.

Hectic Lifestyles

Now with hectic lifestyles such as late-night drinking and other distractions, it is impossible always to cook, to clean or do exercise like you should for health reasons. As well, the things that you can do with all your spare time cloud someone's judgment and place demands on their time. They would rather use a computer or a smart TV and not go out for a walk. Their homes are untidy and dirty. And they do not even always sleep properly and they might have bags under their eyes. Really, it is unattractive. Only when people put health first might things change. But until then, people don't have enough time for everything and so don't have enough time to do exercise or get to bed a bit earlier.

A Proper Purpose in Life

Also, what people really need, if they don't have it already, is a proper purpose in life. And this is more than just keeping occupied. Then they would be too busy and have too much to lose by just wasting time. And any plan that somebody might make would no doubt include being fit and healthy. So, often it is just that people don't keep to their plans when often they are the same. This is at least in terms of wanting to be healthy and fit and looking good. However, when you have personal problems or unnecessary stress, doing exercise and other things like that can become a low priority. If possible, some people might just prioritize things that are healthy and positive for everyone a bit better in their own lives. Then their problems may be over. That is all their problems if they were physically healthy and had good bodies. Maybe, though, they need more advice on diet and exercise and that is all that they need.

Computers

Using a computer is carcinogenic, bad for your hands and back, takes too long for many people, it is unhygienic and it is stressful. Computers are unhygienic because of germs on the keyboard, radiation from the screen and because of electromagnetic radiation from the hardware. Going online and having Emails and personal data is also stressful. Radiation from TVs and radios is also a problem but computers are particularly bad. Microwave radiation from wireless networks or dongles is carcinogenic and unhygienic. So you have more than one reason to avoid too much exposure.

The only solution generally is to use a computer less. This means for less long each day, week or year. And when you do use it, then use the productivity tools as much as possible unless these are taking too long to learn in themselves it would be faster if you didn't learn them. As well, use keyboard or screen wipes when keyboards can have germs. But using these too much can be toxic as well. Still, use them sometimes. And take a break after every hour. Also, don't use it for more than 2 hours per day.

Really, you need to be able to plan your work that is so important to feeling less stressed and getting more from your computer. And have something you want to use your computer to do that you can do reasonably well such as a hobby you can do reasonably well and you don't feel stressed doing. As well, a detailed plan for your creative work might help. Your plan should be from inception to finished product to putting it online and marketing it.

Also, you can adjust how you do a particular hobby so you don't worry about it. An example of this is that if you post things online, then they are well within your capabilities of understanding any controversies around them such as the type of picture you are painting or the genre of writing you are writing in. Then, you will be able to go back to it after and only use your computer for an hour or two a day that it won't be a problem to you.

Get Back Some of That Feeling

Also, you can try to get back some of that feeling you had when you were young and healthy if you did use to be healthy when you were younger and you had no worries. Many of the good feelings you used to have, you may get back by getting fit again. Feeling fit improves overall self-esteem. You do more if you are physically fit and, as well, you will feel happier for having done some exercise.

HEALTH PLANS

Sticking To a Health Plan

Some think that sticking to a health plan is like sticking to anything else you say you'll do. And saying you'll do what you say you'll do is a moral matter. It is about having moral fibre. As well, you have a brain but don't use it. If you did, you would see that some things are really very simple and easy to solve. You should learn all you can about anything. It would help you solve any problems to do with it. Also, good general knowledge helps you generally in life. How to solve problems is something that you did at school. Not being able to follow even easy advice is, though, still due to a lack of morals some will say.

Starting a keep fit plan or healthy diet is all you need to do. Problem solved! Then, you would find concentrating easier that might be all your mental and other problems.

What is stopping people putting more of their efforts into doing exercise? Really, people just need to put their mind to it. They should do a few simple things to get fitter and healthier. Then their problems are over. And why don't people make more efforts to solve their own minor problems that they have in keeping to a personal health plan? There is no good reason. You only have excuses. Still, you can try taking vitamin tablets or other food supplements.

Starting to Succeed

Success builds on success. And people feel motivated by the advantages they have from keeping off from worrying all the time. Worry is a big driver of expenditure when you buy things to make yourself feel good or snack food when you can't be bothered to cook. As well, people who don't worry may get higher self-esteem, be less tired and do more hobbies. And they find it easier to keep to their diet and exercise plan. Also, they like having a cleaner better environment to live in. If they have better self-esteem, then they often find that they get more enjoyment from doing exercise anyway.

Also, people find it easier to do more exercise when not so worried, tense or thinking of other things to do. But if you worry, then you might get physical injuries trying to do exercise from being tense or from being tired. Also, you might have become stiff sitting at a desk or bent over in a chair using a computer or making handwritten notes. All of this is bad for exercise and it will make your self-esteem worse as well if you feel tense and tired. This is in a vicious circle of tiredness, tenseness and not being able to do exercise.

Power over Something

You have power over something because you know the reason for it. Often, you just need to release all this tension and stress from your body. You can do this by doing relaxation exercises such as clenching your hands and then releasing them. Then you repeat it. As well, you can see that worry will not solve problems just by you worrying on its own. You can't solve a frustration with something by becoming more frustrated about everything. Instead, you need to work quite normally using problem solving techniques to solve it. Just knowing you can have a relaxing bath and you don't really need to do anything afterwards can give you a lot of power over your worry. When you can see why it is you worry, then knowing this can give you power over it.

And anything that you can't solve using problem solving techniques means that the task is either too hard or worry on its own is getting in the way. Also, worry can be because you're tired and dirty and you need to have a bath and have a rest.

It might be that you are posting things online when you are not yet able to have learned enough about the publishing industry if you just have a good standard of spelling and grammar. Such mistakes can go around and come back to bite you.

Possibly, always deciding that an ambition is to have good health, be physically fit and mentally active above everything else might really help. Don't ignore feelings but try to find some solution. The solution doesn't just have to be to abandon things and to change things completely. This is if that would cause you more stress or you would be bored with the rest of your time. But you might take a break until you can find some compromise that will work.

Alternatively, you can find some other hobby or interest or spare time activity that might be quite different and would occupy your time so at least you weren't bored and stressed for lack of things to do. Yet, this might take some time to develop, to work on, to learn about something different and to change your habits.

A basic thing you need to do is to take a break, have a good sleep, have a good rest, have a wash and tidy up so you can find things, get out for a walk for fresh air and other things like that. Also, you can get out your laptop or paper pad even. This is with some spare pens, multi-colour pens or anything else you've heard of. Then, work out why you're worrying.

After that, you can just go and have a quick wash or a long bath. But if this doesn't work, then you need to have a good think about what you ambitions are, where you are going wrong in your health plan or how you're going to get a girlfriend you want..

SELF-ESTEEM

A strong reason not to do much and not do things such as exercise you know you really should do is having poor self-esteem. You might feel that you have done wrong in everything or you are a bad person. Or you think that no girls could like you. And you may find it hard to stop thinking these things. Some people however do make a decision that, from now on, they will stop blaming themselves and others. So instantly, they have better self-esteem.

And then, as well, as soon as they do have better self-esteem, many of their problems are over. And this can happen in just the time it takes to decide that you will have a better life because you deserve it as anyone does. Also, you will worry less. Or there are at least some things you don't need to worry about.

However, there are ways around merely improving your self-esteem by making a decision that you will. Possibly this was having been inspired by someone or something. Indeed, somebody helping you that were another person who comes into your life can help many people where they couldn't have been helped any other way.

They also say that sometimes the only people who benefit from self-help are ones who decide that they'll just 'get religion'. This doesn't have to be organized religion when so few people might actually believe in god but it can also be thinking you have a good mind or body, superstitions like touching on wood, science or reason can become your religion or living longer can be an ambition you have. Then in deciding that you will have some other guiding star then how you were doing it already, you might succeed without any problems and you will eventually find your destination.

People with places to go and things to do or someone passionate about his hobbies are too busy to worry. And they would not want to spend all their time worrying anyway when it might cut their ability to make friends and talk about their hobbies. Alternatively, they could be happier doing less or just reading a book. Or they might like doing exercise if this made them feel better about their body and about themselves. Improving self-esteem improves self-care, hygiene, the amount of exercise anyone takes and helps people keep to a diet. As well, people with high self-esteem do anything they try to do properly, such as using their computer to suit their needs.

When you otherwise know that something is the right thing to do, then you won't do it if you have low self-esteem. Something for you to play with is more attractive. Also, something that promises improved self-esteem is attractive but it may not always give it in practice. As well, something that is even a long-term goal or a hard-to-achieve goal that you hear might be stressful if you think it is the right thing to do then it is often not so stressful at all.

Some people might not switch off their computers late at night when they feel they've no reason to value themselves, their health or anything else. This is when their computer makes them feel temporarily better. So, they are not bothered with long-term health goals. Nor do they make proper plans for hobbies and interests and other spare time activities.

Also, poor self-esteem might mean not switching off the light and going to bed at the right time. You don't feel like it when the night is peaceful and you might do some goals that you haven't done yet during the day. This is even without a computer you could still stay up late just watching television or reading. But it is likely you will sleep if you have nothing you can think of doing.

Or you really know anything will be better tomorrow when you're less tired. But then, you have to able to keep this in mind when it's late at night and you're tired so you will still then go to bed. And this is if all the time you plan to sleep better but come midnight, you don't feel like going to bed. Such a plan to sleep better will never work if you don't actually feel like going to bed at bedtime.

Having a Good Lifestyle

Self-esteem is the feeling you are living a good useful life and others appreciate you for what you are and what you have done. Criticism leads to poor self-esteem. As well, not having genuine friendships does. Also, poor relationships do. Worries about the body such as poor physical appearance or other health problems also cause low self-esteem.

Hate and Anger

Some people are full of hate and anger or have bitterness and resentment. And it is no wonder they feel stressed as well. Some therapies such as anger management help with these or any other worries and so can reduce porn use.

Cultural Solutions

There are cultural solutions to lots of worries. It seems some people might not have realized these cultural solutions were available all the time.

Adventure stories or action films help with aggression for some people. And they are a motivation to cope with life's sometimes more mundane challenges. Many books are about people, society or change that worry some people and that on a bad day can make them feel angry and frustrated.

Anger against women also has books and films, both fiction and non-fiction, that can help. A novel portraying an evil powerful woman can make some men feel better. For example, they laugh when the wicked woman has temporarily to lower herself to fulfil her sexual needs that she has the same as everyone else.

Some find historical novels or science fiction novels get them out of the habit of thinking about worries. They find these worries hard just because they are living in them. Also, history books often show how people's problems in the past were resolved. Art is about beauty and distracts people from the mundane and the ordinary and their everyday lives.

Philosophers offer a good read and people enjoy reading their arguments. Also, people more generally want to know about the human condition as this makes them feel more human and less bad about themselves or it is interesting. And there are plenty of books about it.

Also, there is the world with its different people and its geography. And there is a world of science and the natural world. Some people say it is all definitely worth reading about because it is all that we have to share or to talk about. Also, it is 'us'. And these things are really the only things there are or that we know about.

As well, you can read about it all because of the wonders of technology such as the printing press and then later the Internet and other things. Everyone knows about them but they are still really wonders.

TRY A FEW THINGS ONLY FOR GETTING STARTED

Work On One or Two Things Only

To work on one or two things only, people can try to solve their personal problems and, as well, they can do anything that means they have better self-esteem. Also, they can do a bit of exercise and eat healthily. And they can read anything that might help them.

Worrying about anything lowers your self-esteem. So don't you worry that learning at home has to take you above the level you were when you left fulltime education. This is as an example of a needless worry. Instead, revise what you did do or read books you heard about in class. And don't worry if you have poor study skills. You can just revise these as well and improve them. Also, people shouldn't worry if they find it hard to learn or study. They might know there is a good reason that they would not find any kind of learning easy for them to do. Then, knowing this also gives them power over it at least in that they can learn better not feeling stressed that they should be able to do it really much better than they can do now. So they might just take a bit more time over it or they might just make a few more crib notes. Also, they can use their computers to help them learn when other people are watching comedies and other videos for entertainment.

Computers are Stressful

Also, some find trying to use a computer stressful without a proper purpose or without adequate advice or training. As well, they might find it stressful to use paper and pen or write a diary. It is also unhygienic to keep touching objects or to look for long hours at a screen or TV set. Using a computer a lot or using pen or paper a lot is stressful and unhygienic.

Sexual Needs

Another theory is that someone does not get enough sex or worries about sex. For example, they do not find their wife attractive but there are pressures on them. They have commitments that mean they stay together for example. Any physical worries over sexual performance, physical appearance or potency may affect someone's sex life and cause worry about sex.

Hiding

Alternatively, people with problems are or have been in prison. Or they are in a care home or other long-term care or have long-term health problems. The worried person might also be hiding a disability that others don't know they have. Or they are hiding an alcohol, a drug or a gambling addiction. Or they have some other reason to worry such as they have done something to annoy someone, hid their use of prostitutes or they worry about something else from their past.

Read More

They say reading more may help. But you don't often read enough if you feel stressed or not for a long time do you read as much as you would want. Using a computer for hobbies to improve self-esteem that you might not normally do reduces the amount of time you can spend on reading. Also, if you think TV is not as good as reading when really you like your TV, then you might feel stressed. If you find it hard to do too much reading and other activities as well, then that is another reason you might worry feeling you are behind in something you said you'd do. And this is even if it was only to yourself that you promised you'd read more or do a hobby.

Over-ambition

Perhaps, you think that you are really being too ambitious to start with, but others tell you that things you have problems with are perfectly normal things to do. And they say that nobody else has problems with them. If you wanted to read more, then you really could just do less of other things that take up too much of your spare time. But you can't read more. You can't, as you want to do all these other things as well. It seems once you start, then you often develop a hobby more. So you are good at it and enjoy it. But it may still be time-consuming.

Fear of Change

You hear it sometimes said that it is not being brave enough to make decisions for yourself and your own life that means you continue to worry and not do things you should. And you keep worrying about it when you are yet unable to do anything that would help yourself. You cannot help yourself even when you know what you should do.

However, another suggestion is that when someone has enough advice and information they will stop worrying quite naturally having seen all the reasons they might stop for and there not being any very good reasons to continue.

If you have been able to take control of your life and been able to reduce stress in one way, then you can often do so in other ways. Really, you just need to feel that you are now able to take the steps you need so you don't keep on worrying. And then all this worry will actually stop. You may have been able to take control and reduce stress such as at your work. Or you have been able to reduce your stress from using a home computer. Today, you can take control of your life and reduce stress in other parts of your work or personal life. Or you can take control of anything in your life at all.

Self-control

Try self-control if you've tried everything else. For example, it may be useful to try self-control if you are not doing things you know you should do but don't. Really, you know how to do them but still don't. To use self-control to help your health, you need to improve your self-control to do any task including tasks that affect health. You can try to exercise a bit more self-control to build up your ability. Self-control is like a muscle and responds to training in the same way. If you worry about not having done something even though you tried to do it, think you are at least exercising this muscle.

Try always to have a goal of 'keeping it going'. And this can be your most important goal. Successfully keeping it going is more important than any other successes or failures. However, 'don't make it too hard for yourself if you can help it' is also good advice. Perhaps, just try following all the health and other advice you have heard as well as you possibly can. And don't worry too much if you sometimes don't do it all. Instead, work towards your goals despite any small failures you may have along the way.

You can think well of yourself if you have done some of your goals, done it a little better, done it at all or felt you might do it better next time. And trying to exercise some self-control, you don't feel so bad about occasional lapses. So you don't need to feel so bad about occasional food binges or lying in bed all day and never going out even for a walk. You can improve still further the next time. And you don't have to feel that you are a failure and give up just because you did not get perfection. Instead, work on it.

Don't give up on health even if you give up on anything else. Keep working on it. And do your best with any resources that you have outside of yourself or from within yourself. Look up or ask for any advice that you may not have had yet. Or look up advice that you want reminding of. You may still live the life you want and be happy. As well, you will have made the first steps you would have had to make to succeed at anything. Alternatively, you will have taken the first steps to just having a normal life. And a normal life is a massive success to anyone who worries today that his or her life is not quite normal.

If you did everything that might work for you, then you may succeed in not worrying, wasting your time, feeling stressed or not doing enough exercise. Also, it could really help if you just had a goal of keeping it going and not feeling too stressed over any successes or failures along the way. Then, you might succeed.

Try having a goal just to prioritize personal hygiene if you have had trouble with it and then just to watch some television. You could try to do all you can to have good hygiene regardless of any of your other problems. Alternatively, abandon any other ambitions other than just having good personal hygiene and keeping your home clean. Cook, clean, and wash regularly. Anything you do, you can try to do well, such as use your computer well. This is if you still use one. And follow any other health, any diet or any exercise advice. Or do any hobby so you get more enjoyment from it when this is all you owe yourself about it. Then your worries may be over and after a while, you could try pursuing some more ambitious things anyone without a personal hygiene problem would do.

Buying a Computer

Some say the main reason many really want a computer is to watch porn. This is despite everything else a computer promises, such as doing your hobbies better or looking things up online. Really, you need to think about why you want a computer. Think what else a computer can do. You may watch porn on it even if you do not watch porn on it exclusively. Would doing other activities on it be helpful to not watching porn on it? Or do they in some way encourage it? For example, you may feel you have no use for your computer and that is the only reason you watch porn on it. This is as you are at least using it for something like photography or other creative art.

Alternatively, you might find hobbies hard to do when it is a long time since you did any of the creative arts at school. And this worry is why you turn from doing hobbies to look up online porn. Possibly, just think it as being a long-term project to do hobbies that could be a lifetime's work. After all, once you can do any hobbies you would like to do and you've read about all your interests, then you might have nothing to do with the rest of your life and be bored in your retirement. So don't worry about it now but regard it as a work in progress.

Or if you can't do this, then possibly don't just plan. Instead, just do anything to occupy your time. That might be a bit of reading or watching television or writing a poem that could eventually get you there anyway. And it could as well just be making 20 minutes to go out for a walk or do exercises at home. If that was all you did to make some time to do 20 minutes exercises a day, you might be succeeding much better than many other goal setters and self-help book readers.

Health Problems Using a Computer

If you don't get a computer, then you may save yourself health problems. Some say you get these health problems quite inevitably from using a computer even for just a few years. Computers might quite likely eventually hurt your hands, give you a bad back or cause eyestrain. Particularly, they will do so if you overuse them. As well, you will have time for non-computer hobbies if you don't overuse your computer. So the worry Computer Users have of making time to do other hobbies, or not becoming computer bores, seems to have an easy solution. Don't have a computer! Or just use it less so it is not all your life!

Do you think that there are health problems from overusing a computer, but not from a sensible use? Then how much is too much? Computers offer benefits to the User. But they offer more benefits if you are just talking about normal benefits without arguments over radiation or health when you spend more time on them. And you may feel that the more time you spend on them, the more the benefits keep flowing. Less computer time is a hard-to-define goal because really you might think you would not use a computer at all if you thought too much about the kind of health advice you get about them. Some perhaps ignore health advice because they don't think it will happen to them when they have heard other more positive reports about computers. And so they use their computer all they like. As well, everyone, it seems, thinks it is an excellent piece of technology to have in the home. But using a computer all you like and in all your spare time is likely to cause health problems.

About 5 hours a week or an hour or two a day at most is about all you can probably do. So there is a proper measure of it that has been decided by scientific research after all. And that is no more than 2 hours per day with a break after an hour for half an hour. Now you really know about it! As well, you should not use it for that much long-term. You cannot do a job of work in it for that long and if you use it for studying, then that would be for the period of a course you were doing or for a period of study you were doing at home. And it would not be for life that you could use your computer for anything. This is unless you were only to use it for an hour or two a week for the rest of your life after you had finished getting benefits from it that generally required an hour or two a day. As well, this was if these offer genuine benefits now and you weren't just waiting for the technology to improve that you can also do.

Computer Bores

If you think you are a computer bore, then you may feel you are a bad person. This is having heard people called computer bores in very negative terms. And they were saying it about someone like you who uses a computer a lot. As well, what if using a computer too much really is making you a bore. Shouldn't you change it? However, that gives rise to all kinds of feelings. You worry you are a bad person for becoming a computer bore. Or you worry that you are a bad person for not being able to keep to your plans. Also, you worry that you are a bad person when you cannot make your computer work for you. As well, you may worry over health from using a computer. And you may worry as well over other things you hear about.

One solution is to take breaks but not to otherwise worry how long you spend on your computer each day. At least, this is for a short period. Another solution is to look things up online as they occur to you so you get some reading in. Or if you connect your computer to your TV, then you can choose a video with the computer to watch on normal TV. When you stay on your computer but do something different with it, it is not such a different thing to do generally that you don't feel like doing it. Other things you can do instead of a time-consuming hobby or other activity are to try another computer hobby or you can try to do some reading online. Or you can watch some short videos. And you do not have to keep doing only one hobby or only one other activity. So you get better use from your computer and feel happier about it.

And your social skills and self-esteem as well will improve from having more hobbies or because you have looked up more things online. Also, you can watch the screen from further away if your computer is on your TV and so you will reduce health anxiety. Having your computer in your living room as a TV together with other advice such as taking breaks means you don't get so much radiation. Yet another idea is to have an ergonomic computer and make your use in every other way as well as healthy as you can. You may print to look at your files when you are not on your computer. This means less screen time and it varies your tasks so they are more interesting. Also, you can back up your files regularly so you don't worry about them as much. But computers are sometimes bound to cause worry. It depends on what you use computers for, genuine worries this causes and the personal value your computer and your files have to you.

Unnecessary worry and stress will kill you. So why do you want a computer at all? You can have less stress by just doing without a computer. Also, you do not have to have the stress of trying too hard, perhaps for years, to learn computer skills. And this is just common sense that it is something that worries you. Yet it might be such a needless worry. Or make better use of your computer so you don't worry all the time about how much you use it or what you use it for. You can try not using such key-heavy programs. For example, you can try playing more video on it or use it to read but without using a word processor to do a lot of writing. Or you could just aim to reduce how much you use a word processor, art software and other hobby software. Instead, you can get some culture instead and not try to become a producer of it. This is at least temporarily until you get better social skills and better creative arts skills and get some kind of a life. Then if you had better creative arts skills, you would not probably worry so much about posting stuff online. This is such as if you feel people who see your work can't really appreciate it or they are probably wasting their time looking at your work and not at better writers and artists. Or you've not yet worked out what you want to say but don't feel you can experiment to try it out on the world just to improve your own writing or creative skills.

Really, you have two extremes that seem to work. The first is you don't bother with it at all and so you don't have a computer in your home. The second is that you take pleasure in your computer and welcome it as an important part of your life for doing hobbies, interests and for entertainment. And you don't worry it is too important to you or that you use it too much or anything else when you like it. As well, there are just a few tips you could use to cut worries from it such as taking breaks and having an ergonomic computer. Then you don't get into this vicious cycle of having feelings of emotional arousal doing a creative hobby or switching on your computer in the morning and then spending all day on it to the detriment of your other life outside of computers. Yet, thinking only different extremes would work is a sign of anxiety and is a maladapted thinking strategy. And the best solution is a compromise. You can get some work done on your computer and still have time to clean up your apartment, go out for a walk, catch some TV show as you always usually did, cook a meal for yourself or listen to music on a traditional looking radio. This is the only solution that would generally work that you didn't do just one thing and try to do it all the time as if it would solve all your problems. And you didn't either just abandon anything else completely. This is when you said that it was a bad thing to do but that really might have benefits to you. Still, with the current state of technology, some people do say it is not safe yet. And so they don't use a computer at all.

Cure-all

A cure-all is to dump your computer or give it away to a friend. Then, you might just turn the clock right back. You'd do so just by not doing one thing that you don't need. Still, today, you don't really need a computer even if sometime in the future and sooner if not later, many more people will have to have a computer. They'll need one for shopping or for work and have no other easy choices. Today, you probably do only want a computer to do hobbies and to look things up online. But computers are also unhygienic as you forget to clean your home and you have germs on the keyboard. They could also give you cancer and other diseases. It seems you can't get off your computer to do something as mundane as tidy up or to live life as people have been used to in the late 20th century that is actually healthy.

And you might then use your computer all the time! You might want an Internet connection for hobbies so you can share work, get tutorials online and other help you get for your hobbies online. Nor are computers an ideal solution to many problems. And these are not even ones they say you really should solve more easily when you have a computer but that some people still struggle with. And this is it seems if you don't just go about it in the right way. Computers don't help as much as they might otherwise do when they have such big health concerns around them and it is hard to concentrate when using them that can affect how well you use them for anything or that you're even using them correctly as is the information available about how to do it.

Perhaps, try a computer for a while for the sometimes very positive experiences you can get from them, but then stop and don't have one anymore. This is the best of both possible worlds. Yet, some people read about them, don't want one at all, and don't regret it. And, really, you can't worry if you have a little worry about computers at times if you're using one. Perhaps, just don't let it get you down too much. That would be an unnecessary worry when it might really not be that important. And to do anything on it that is valuable, you might think that you really can't restrict yourself to do it in too short a time that you have available unless you gave more effort to your computer. It might just be temporary. But then, it can also be a difficult learning experience for some people that might not have a satisfactory outcome. And there are worries about health the whole time using one like this or even you would still have worries about health just using one at all and even when you were more successful on it. Some people might think to learn something or to do something on it; they can't then use it for so little time that there would not be some really quite considerable worries about health. Nor are there no worries you might have about your long-term health if you used it a decent enough amount to do anything that was worthwhile to be able to do. And this is even if you stopped before it was too late after even quite a few short years that you might get ill. But then, you could still get ill in later years. You could get ill even just using a computer for a year or two or if you ever use one at all.

Still, you could try to solve the problems! And then you might find you do indeed solve them. So your computer use improves and you feel that as you've learnt how to use it by now, then you may as well keep using it. This might be a false economy. A possible solution is for example to make use of the computer software's features so that they help you to do more in a shorter time. Also, you can plan your work better. You decide what you want to do, how you want to do it and by when. Or if you really don't want to watch porn on it like so many actually do that they probably only say they want a computer for anything else and deny it even to themselves, then you might think what else you really would want to do on it. Get parental controls and if you take them off again, you know you're losing out if you try to use it for anything else. Without the worry about watching porn on your computer and using it for other normal things when you know you have really already been watching porn on it, you may not feel stressed giving up other activities than porn on it. This is even if you can't give up porn. And don't have one if you don't find the advantages attractive enough once you know you're not just watching porn on it and making an excuse to other people as to why you would have one in the room that you think they might ask if they came round. Computers have carcinogens and cause poor personal hygiene, arthritis and other health problems. And radiation affects concentration and possibly gives brain damage. That is a kind of given for any computer use. But still, you might decide if you still want to use one. This is such as if you don't really use it for very much or you feel your computer set up is safer than other people's or safer than it ever was before for anyone such as even just a few short years ago you might have heard horror stories about.

Yet, sometimes you hear it said that people behind in their reading and unmotivated to do any reading, other activities or anything at all really in their lives that they were in a very bad way found computers a gimmick that got them started again. Others found that computers were good to do creative arts when these hobbies already have a health downside. Yet others found looking up short videos and other websites gave lots of information, entertainment, and social skills they couldn't get anywhere else or that they had tried and were bored with. For example, they couldn't get it just from normal TV or from the library anymore. And they enjoyed having some more choice and doing things for themselves that they could also talk about and that made them feel interested in any kind of culture at all. And they enjoyed choosing them themselves that made them feel happier on its own no matter how much people said you already had all the choice there was anyway. This is when people say that there are only so many movies that are not the same as another one. And it is the same for any other creative arts.

Do you use a computer because you have poor self-esteem? Do you want the attention you get online because you don't get enough attention in your non-cyber life? Then consider if you would be able to give it up ever once you got one and once you got started. Or ask yourself if you really do need it for anything else. Do you already have health problems that anyone you met would find unattractive who knew about them and whom you had met in person? You could make them worse or get new ones trying to live a cyber life. Or it could become more noticeable than it would be otherwise and as well, it could be less attractive in your real life. Eventually, it would also be unattractive in your cyber life. And you might still have your real friends now. Also, do you want to help others? Then help yourself first! Anyone could probably help himself or herself who wanted to. This is if they knew that they used a computer too much just by not using it as much again. That is all your problems solved! So, what about other people's problems? You can't possibly care. They might also have such simple solutions as you did.

Yet if you did not have a computer and nothing much else to do, then you could in a short time find it hard to keep doing anything with your day or to keep your mind active. You might find it hard to keep it going if you had only a few friends and not much money to go out. But your computer could help you express yourself and could help you keep up interests. It could if you did not get on with your relatives, you were unemployed or lots of other reasons. Really, in a short time without your computer, you could start going downhill. But in a computer, you have all the things that anyone might generally want for entertainment, for hobbies and interests or for many other things. It is much more than just a gimmick. But then and importantly, it is that as well. And for some people, all that is needed is a gimmick that works for them. They keep active and take more interest in things when before they were bored or listless. Not only is it a gimmick, a computer is a toy, a media machine, an educational machine, a games machine and much more besides. You can do your hobbies, get entertainment, see the news and find information. If you did not have something like a computer, then you might lose your normally good social skills. That is if you were bored for a while doing anything else or doing nothing. And this is despite things you often hear that computers give poor social skills. You might not be motivated to do anything and then soon you'll have nothing going on in your head. Nor might you have any friends if you really did get poor social skills. And this is when you really can now talk to lots of people. As well, you can talk to them about anything you are doing. Then knowing all this, you should feel grateful you have a computer. Just don't take the proverbial and use it every hour of your spare time every day for years. You can do other things as well and you don't just have to use a computer all the time.

And if you have a computer, then you can treat it with a bit of respect. As well, you can treat yourself with a bit more respect and if only just for the sake of doing so. But then, if you respect yourself, others might in time respect you as well. Make a start by respecting yourself today. And you can respect yourself even if nobody else right now would do so. Get a good night's sleep, get up, and do something that is more normal living. This might be taking a break from your computer, getting on with your washing, going for a walk in the morning or anything decent.

Then keep this up even if you notice no difference except your own new respect for yourself. Also, keep it up even if it has been quite some while and people still try to put you down or you might say you've been mistreating yourself for years and so what's the difference. You will notice a difference eventually if not immediately. As well, respecting yourself is about all that may be open to people with few friends or problem families. But it is a great deal more that they will get by respecting themselves now than if they got ill and could have no respect for themselves at all.

REMINISCING

After writing most of the rest of this book, the author doing some further research spoke to people who lived in an era before personal computers. They used to live on their own in an apartment and the author asked them if they thought there was any stuff similar to computers like there is now. Also, was it a problem?

They said that people might live alone and have time on their hands where they could not find a job. Perhaps they needed to do a course as many people did who were like them. It was normal to be unemployed for a few months just as it is now. The person the author spoke to said that it was impossible to watch television or to read all day long. The alternative was a paper notepad on which they could make notes or write a story or an essay.

One of the problems with this was that paper was unhygienic if it was touched a lot and so people agonized over whether they should read again or not read again their notebooks. They wondered if they should perhaps wait a few months before reading them again. Ultimately, if they read them too many times, then they would have to throw them away when they got worn and dirty. And this was a well-known fact about using paper. This often meant heartache having to throw away your old notebooks if they got too worn and dirty. Some people thought that, at some time in the future, when they earned good money and lived in a big house, they might like to look back on some notes they had made when they rented a small apartment. However, this was often not to be as their notebooks would be worn out before then or would be quite worn.

The problem was that if they began to feel generally germy and ill, then they have already probably spent plenty of time to learn to write or do art. Also, they found they probably did really enjoy it just as a hobby. As well, people might study from published books and make notes. Otherwise, they might play some kind of paper and pencil game. And there were other things as well they could do with pens and paper. As well, they might have some kind of interest in reading things again that they had written down. If they stopped writing or doing arts completely, they would then lose any skills that they had. As well, they would lose any enjoyment that they had as well. Also, if someone thought that their writing had improved to the extent that they could write a decent novel, then they might get a typewriter and type it up.

Still, writing a novel and typing it on a typewriter had several disadvantages. Typewriters had carriage returns that were hard on the elbow, the paper put into it was fiddly and particularly it was fiddly with carbon paper and it all damaged your hands and perhaps caused heart flutters. As well, the keys on a typewriter are much harder to press than keys on a computer keyboard. Also, the chances of being published were much less and some people knew this. And those who read newspaper articles or books about publishing might find out that most writers were people who already knew a publisher or a publisher employed them directly. They had also likely recently completed a course in English literature. Many authors were teenage girls. Or students at university wrote novels when doing a year's postgraduate writing class. Anyone else who attempted to write a novel would find that their first efforts had quite a few mistakes. Their book would need a lot of editing that they could not do themselves very well without a word processor. Only publishers had WPs. The would-be writer could not edit except by typing up the whole novel again. Publishers would reject a novel like this anyway and for good reasons when they had better ways of getting manuscripts. So hearing this, the would-be writer might abandon their novel. And anyone who had finished their novel might have health problems or be luckier and not have them. As well, they only had one copy of the manuscript. And it was stressful to send it off and put their faith in the publishers to return it. Many manuscripts were actually lost and then it would result in an exchange of letters that often got nowhere. That is until the publishers told them to stop writing to them again and said something cryptically that they would never have published their book anyway, they didn't know why they had sent it to them and that was why they lost it. Really, it implied they had taken something that was valuable to them and just thrown it away. But, as well, some people might then really see that they knew very little about publishing or anything else when they talked to other people who were shocked that they could be so silly.

Eventually, having had their dreams crushed in whatever way it was as a would-be author that wanted their name on a book cover, they got out of their malaise by somebody telling them something to help them. For example, they might say that they still had a job. If they complained about their employer and what he knew or didn't know or why they would employ them, then they might be sacked from their employer as well. This was often without any explanation. Possibly, most people might come down from it all and be fairly unscathed. And they had just bored people for about six months plus another six months when they were sending their manuscript off and that was all it was. This was if you didn't go on for nearly about five years that it did for some people. They might have taken two years to write the manuscript and sent it back and forth for three years. Still, most people gave up before they had finished writing a novel and the few brave ones that kept on to the end would be disappointed anyway but often not physically hurt. This is if the number of words they had typed or thrown away in the wastepaper basket was not too much. People they knew personally might tell them that their manuscript was out of date and so couldn't change the world anyway. This might be after an election for example that they could probably see it for themselves as well.

As has been suggested, if they had done so much work and they tried to complete their novel so they hadn't wasted all the time that they'd spent already, then there were problems with health from typewriters. And these health problems were the same, more or different from today with word processors. It was about as much as anyone could do with a typewriter to type up about only one or perhaps at most two novels. Computer keyboards are easier on the hands and editing and proofreading tools save on the amount of typing as well. And you have things like speech recognition that some writers can use to type reasonably fast and as much as they could with a typewriter keyboard. You can also make notes with a portable sound recorder or with the sound recorder on your computer.

So what could you do with your time if you didn't do something that was like using a computer in your home today? You had as the book has already said a paper notebook and pen, sketchpad and pencils or something else similar but that today you do on a computer. The answer is that you would just have to do nothing for several hours a day. You can always try just not to do something all the time. Instead, you can reflect on things that you have read sitting in a chair doing nothing else. Or you can listen to the sounds of the traffic outside the window, watch the breeze in the trees or listen to bird song. Also, you can just enjoy the sunshine or enjoy watching the rain falling down the windowpane. You can do this on your bed as well as in a chair. This is when relaxing into a chair too long you might sweat and have sweat marks on your body and torso. Or your back could become curved if you were sitting in a chair all day.

You could do mental puzzles that you just thought of when you sat there. Also, you could do a crossword once a day or other newspaper puzzles or something like that. They say that thinking is not harmful and you can't damage yourself by it. For example, you could try to think of a five-paragraph essay in your head and you would have no worries that this could harm your health. You could do this with a topic you had just read about. As well, you could do it with something you read some time ago. This is when there's no point reading things if you really can't remember them a few months later or six months later or a year or two later. Also, you could imagine that you were writing a review of a book or a film you had seen. Or you could just think of things in the newspaper and to what extent you agreed or disagreed with newspaper articles or something else you had read. However, thinking is not a terribly good thing as you forget what you thought soon after without a conscious effort. And you cannot write it down for the reasons given already that it would be too much work and the paper would get grubby or you would have too many piece of paper in your apartment. So you have to listen to the radio or listen to the sound of birdsong or the traffic or to 'the silence of the silence'. You cannot listen to the radio for that long without becoming bored. But you might listen for about half the time that you are not doing anything else such as reading or watching television.

You cannot read or watch television all day because, for example, if you watch two films in one day, then that might be something that you could think about and remember and talk to friends about. But it would probably be too much to watch three films. Also, if a book was very interesting, then you could finish it in a day. But you were unlikely to want to read two or three books in a day. You need time to reflect on what you have read to learn. Also, you need time to yourself to think about what you're going to do later, the next day or the next week. If you take some time to think about your plans, then you do not need to write them down.

The principle is and this is really something that everyone knows, that you cannot read and watch television all day. Also, as computers and paper are unhygienic, you cannot use them all day either. It is also bad for your health in other ways if you overuse them. The way out of this problem is that you take some time for just yourself where you do nothing or almost nothing except think or listen to the radio. You can just take a nap. But then, you might not sleep at night. However, you can listen to the sounds of the night if you are awake such as passing motor vehicles on the road outside and then the silence for several minutes until the next one. Or you can see the light from a street lamp that comes in your window and think what you know about the technical invention of the light bulb. Also, you can listen to the nocturnal animals you are able to hear as well. In short, you cannot do something all day and every day as it involves touching things or has other health problems.

Also, it means learning too much or becoming bored with popular books if you are doing some reading all the time. Or you do not have enough time to reflect properly on what you have already done but would be bored to read the same thing again. So to pass the time and keep your health, you don't do everything. Instead, you can take some time just to think, to listen to music or to listen to the silence. This is a learning experience and a time to reflect about your life as a human being on the planet right now. The sounds of people going about their daily lives outside your window can be pleasant to listen to when they are other people and you might feel lonely otherwise. And it is really doing something and not like you're doing absolutely nothing. Also, being in silence is still doing something. You don't always need sound and other peoples' input to live life. It is impossible to do everything you want for health reasons even if you'd really want to do it. Really, you can't keep your concentration for long if you're reading much more than 1 hour anyway. That means that in a way you are deluded but you might still feel bored turning over the same book cover again or recognizing the same diagram or a passage that did imprint itself in your mind somewhere somehow. So you can't keep your concentration anyway and you won't keep your long-term health if you do it as well. And you can't really get that much done. Except, that today, you might think that you really do hear that you can do more with computers than one person could ever do beforehand. That is if there isn't something else going on. This is such as everybody having one you hear as well.

ALL TOGETHER

It's Real!

All of these problems and worries come from one source. People often feel worried because of a real source of stress in their lives. And they really might not be able to change a concern of theirs. This could be because of worries about how people treated them in the past or other sources of stress.

Gratitude

Nor think how you didn't get what you wanted when you were at school, in your job, or from family members and from others. You still have a lot even to be alive and living in today's society that is money hungry just to live above the poverty line. And plenty of people are worse off than you not just in your own country but in other countries as well.

Personal Hygiene

To improve personal hygiene, you don't have to use a computer or write a diary. You may find these are stressful. Stress causes sweating that is also unhygienic. It also causes doing repetitive activities that waste time. And it means that you sweat more or touch things repeatedly. Watching porn itself is unhygienic.

Health Anxiety

Try doing more exercise. Sitting at a computer desk increases girth and using a computer makes it hard to find time or energy to do any exercise, cook for yourself or do any other healthy activities. This could also be true of any other time consuming hobby. And as well, this is when computers are ubiquitous anyway. So it is not really down to computers. You could just say it is having a time consuming hobby just as well.

Do a Variety of Things

Another idea is to have a rule that you don't do one thing all day. This means you don't have worries over never doing much, poor social skills or never doing exercise and having a poor body.

NOBODY ELSE'S CHOICE BUT YOURS

Over-ambition

Also, when you read, don't think how you might improve your conversation with a girl. Instead, read out of general interest. It is the same for something creative. You shouldn't do it to try to impress a girl. But you can do it for the sake of creativity or for the sake of occupying your time. Also, don't study so you might interest a girl in your subject. Instead, study out of a thirst for knowledge. As well, some educators say that doing a subject for general interest, creativity or a thirst for knowledge are all good reasons for doing them. And they say as well that learning anything is not just to chat up girls or to impress them.

Old Stories are Sometimes True

It is the old cliché you hear that 'someone will come along one day and then you'll be ready for them'. Yes, some do have this experience and then they were happy. Many others have bad experiences of being in poor health from worry later on. And this is when they find there are more girls around than they remembered. So they really could have dated more now if only they had kept in better health. Yet now they are in poor health when the girl of their dreams literally walks through the door. They know they can't make either her or themselves happy because of their earlier unhealthy lifestyle. Now they feel that they've made themselves unhappy when they really did have a future. But they just didn't know it. You can only make long-term plans when you are not obsessed with sex.

Make Changes

Set a time such as a month from now to have organized your files, to have edited your WP files, printed them and to print anything else. Also, you can Email them to friends. Put it all on memory sticks/USB drives including a second backup copy. Then you can give your computer to a friend if you don't want to sell it. Or you can put your computer into storage. Use paper again! Or you can switch on your TV. This might seem like a change when you have not done it for so long. You can live a normal life and not just a cyber life.

Not Everyone Has a Problem with Computers

If you don't have a porn problem and computers cause you no stress, then you might not need any advice in this book. You probably have a body without a lot of hormones or testosterone or bacteria. And so that is why you don't really need any advice. Vegetarian food is lower in testosterone for anyone who feels that this is his or her only problem. High testosterone is the reason given for more males to watch porn than females.

And when you have no computer problems, you are probably a competent typist. Also, you probably have good relevant skills to doing your hobbies and using a computer. And you probably have many skills for anything at all that you do and are generally competent. You may be educated enough so you can solve problems. Or you did things like your hobbies in school or college. As well, you probably have good living skills and never have any problems not tidying up or forgetting to do the washing. And you have quite probably good life skills, general learning skills and other skills even if you did not go to college.

Yet if you are not like that or can't change it, then give up your computer completely, use it less, or do something else on it that you personally find easier. Or just do anything you know that you are capable of doing. Also, you can do anything you find that you do well. And this is even if this was not before your hobby or other activity. Maybe, you had just become a bit obsessed about something people said you were no good at. So you wanted to prove them wrong. But it really was just a bit too hard for you. Still, you felt your computer would help you with it that you needn't worry too much about these earlier experiences.

However, when you still couldn't do it, you could not just give it up. Perhaps, you thought you should be able to do it for some reason. This reason could be others' expectations that you felt they had of you. Or you'd read somewhere that lots of people did the same hobby on their computers without any problems. Also, computers affecting concentration and being bad for personal hygiene or not having parental controls may have prevented you from using them properly when otherwise you could have done so. Perhaps, if this is you, then just take your breaks a bit better than you have done up until now.

Is There Something That Really Works I'm Missing?

You can just decide to change. And you could today. Perhaps, say to yourself that 'you don't need it anymore'. Today, you have better things to do. Look at what you do on your computer with fresh eyes. These could be fresh eyes about whether you do the same hobbies or interests or you could look afresh at how you do them if you do them still. It is just what everyone knows that you don't do the types of things that you yourself only as a misguided person are doing wrong. And definitely, don't do something that you know is a problem to you. Nor do you have to do nothing else at all.

No Time like the Present

When you don't want what you have now, you can make some changes now today that really might help you even by the end of the week. This is at least in feeling you've made a start, you feel more relaxed and you know that you are on the right track. And all of this can happen today even.

You could give up using your computer too much, give up using it for anything at all or use it for very little indeed. Perhaps, it really wouldn't matter. And instead, when you worry about anything to do with your computer, think you have better things you could be doing. Also, just putting parental controls on your computer might be all you need to do to have a proper use of it when anything else would be OK really to do on it.

As well, you can just decide that whatever you do in your life, you'll be happy. This is as well when you realize that you might have faults that can't be easily changed. You really might have bugs in your groin that need expelling and that's the only reason you watch porn when really you know you'd feel ill if you didn't do it. So don't feel guilty about watching porn but still don't do it all the time you don't really need to. And don't feel bad if you spent some time on your computer doing something such as polishing a project you were doing in the creative arts when you can do something different another day if you would want to do that instead.

Anyway, in a week or a month, you're almost bound unless you're doing something very bad such as not concentrating at all to get enough movies and TV shows, radio shows and chapters of books to have normal social skills. And really, normal social skills are all anyone is trying to achieve by reading unless they are students studying for a qualification.

Doing more than that, you might get bored with reading and your social skills could then reduce to almost nothing if you did. So you don't want that! Instead, just do a bit of everything and use your computer if you want and you don't think it's hurting your health. Also, some people might feel they are into their computers but they can just try to do them less or less harmfully.

And if you've had a warning from already getting a medical complaint that your doctor has told you could be from computers, then you really know that you should stop using them completely. That is the only way it will work if you should not be using them at all when keystrokes are bad for your hands.

It is just so sad in the history of computers that you can't use speech recognition all the time but you have to use a keyboard sometimes. And that was unlike people used to think for this brave technology. If that is you, then you might stop reading this book now and not use your computer. As well, you can look up advice if you want online that might be the last thing you do with your computer and still get to live a long life even with some of these illnesses.

Or you could keep your computer just to watch porn on. And don't bother, as well, with other things you are not interested in. This is if you have many germs and need to expel them. And don't have such old-fashioned ideas like saying as excuse material you use your computer for something else. You could just have a laptop in a drawer and probably nobody would ask what you used it for even if they did see it out the drawer or its box.

As well, if you know that you watch porn, you know that you're not really much of a proper rebel either. It just got confused by somebody saying that everybody watched porn. Yet, that really might not be true after all unless society really was in danger of disintegrating by so many people believing such lies.

Be a rebel and don't get a computer like everybody else to go online. As well, it is nonsense to talk about anonymity online when inevitably you will leave a data footprint for people to see. If you don't have a computer, you don't generate as much data for other people to look at or not as accessible data and you're more likely to remain anonymous and out of people's attention. That's an instant reduction in the amount you might sweat! Alternatively, if you've always wanted to have an art exhibition or for people to see your creative work, you might just feel stressed that you're not taking opportunities you get online. And that's not a joke either! It is probably true for some people. Who's to say? Just don't do things for too long you find stressful because that really would harm your life you could have in your old age when stress causes senility.

And if you needed to be looked after, your carers would probably delete all of your creative output you had done and any online as well. It is just not attractive even if they agreed with your views. And after all, anyone knows that any views anyone has there must be millions of people who agree with them. So they didn't need anyone to put in more than a bit of their spare time that wouldn't hurt themselves. Or they could put time in that they were paid for it if a job. And any job is after all only still really to put food on the table no matter what it is you do.

# Chapter 4, Media Anxiety

ART

Art Has Value

People have always valued art. It brings people together as a community. And many different people can take part in creating art or in appreciating art. They can be all ages, be male or female or they could be anyone. Art is, though, in some ways just a way of occupying some time. It alleviates boredom and is mental and physical stimulation. And art will improve self-esteem, is relaxing and it gives a purpose to the day. Also, you can admire the finished painting as a communal effort, for its beauty or for the technical skill of the artist or artists.

Throughout history, people have decorated spaces that were important to them. And they decorated these spaces with paintings important to them. There is no bigger reason to do art than to paint something that is important to you. Alternatively, you could own a painting important to you because of its subject or for some other reason. Paintings could be of people, places or of things that you knew personally. Or you could have a painting that you thought said something about you for having it on your wall. As well, you could just have a painting that was pleasant to look at.

Owning art or having your picture painted was always a status symbol of wealthy men and political leaders. Today, businesses own 'corporate art' collections. And paintings sometimes fetch millions at auction. Art has become more popular than ever in recent times and, as well, it is now less elitist. Galleries have more visitors than ever. And more people than ever have some art of some kind on their walls. Today, more and more people regard themselves as being 'art lovers'.

Another reason to want art is that a work of art could be a 'unique object'. In the past, before photography, one reason for art was to paint portraits. Somebody wanted to see a likeness, such as an artist had painted what he or she looked like in real life. Rarity makes something more valuable and more treasured. In one way, a portrait is not a unique object because there are other portraits of other sitters by other artists. Still, one of the attractions of art is the production of unique objects for people who want something that has such a value to it.

And another reason is that portraits or other paintings could be given as gifts. The Subject might be known to the receiver of the gift or it could just be a beautiful painting. This meant it was not just any work of art. For example, it could be a portrait of someone they knew or buildings and landscapes that were known to them or exceptionally beautiful.

Art can be collected. As well, it is an investment. And plenty of people just like pretty pictures. Some people, as well, like art's edifying or moral purpose.

Only in recent years have many artists really been expected to produce original works of art, use their own creative ideas and not just be artisans or technicians. This idea of the artist as an imaginative creative person is quite new in fact. And it dates from the time of the Impressionists. The Impressionists were a group of artists painting about the time of photography's invention. They said creative ideas were more important than technique. It was like an equation. The more you focused on your technique, the less creative your ideas became. And the more you focused on your creativity, then the less good your technique became. However, they may also not have been too bothered about technique because photography could reproduce what was there at a click of a shutter.

They used to say and still do, that 'everyone knows artists paint nude models'. And they said artists persuaded girls to go in the nude just by asking them to take their clothes off 'for art's sake'. This is, perhaps, a joke. Really, it is a dirty joke that if you are a male artist you can persuade a woman to take her clothes off like this and women believe you.

When boys hear this, they find it funny any adult woman would believe it or anyone would. It, they think, gives the male artist unbelievable power. He stays fully clothed and she takes her clothes off. As well, he has a male role and she bows before this male role. And her female role is, to add even more into the mix of the believable and unbelievable, that she just goes nude. It sounds too sexist for even young boys to believe, yet responsible adults tell them it is not sexist. And male artists like this really do exist and it is socially acceptable to be an artist and to do this. Not only did someone say it is socially acceptable but that, as well, that it is acceptable to polite society and even applauded. And this even includes polite female society. Also, rich well-educated women want to buy nude works of art and speak to the artist. So it mixes sexism with elitism and it mixes education with wealth. And all that is perfectly all right.

It was good, though, for art schools that so many would-be artists only wanted to become artists to paint nudes. So art schools did not have to worry too much about an 'elitist' image or that they were some kind of training school or preparation for students who wanted to change the world. Students didn't want to change the world because they only wanted to amuse themselves, to occupy their time not doing much and often they were only interested in women. Some artists may be more serious about art and want some of art's power, prestige, etc. for themselves. And they were able to train as artists at the same art schools. Art schools could train more artists of any kind like this and produce better artists. Also, art is a technical and artistic skill that can be taught and that is, as well, needed by society and by everyone. So all that matters is that there is a strong enough motivation for enough good students to enrol. They need to attend regularly for the time it takes to learn the required skills and techniques.

And this is when these skills are not just wanted by people interested in politics. Many people like to look at pretty pictures. And, in one way, if this was all art did, it would not be so different from any other claims for it. People want to see any decent work of art. Some people like art as they have been taught by their parents and by their teachers at thousands of schools and colleges that they should appreciate art generally.

In fact, artists seldom persuaded women to take their clothes off for 'art's sake'. Most artists' models were, in fact, prostitutes. Artists knew them because artists often visited red light districts to have sex with prostitutes as paying clients. And they were the same as any other paying clients who went to red light districts and visited prostitutes. Being an artist's model was generally regarded as socially unacceptable and like prostitution. The artists even had a hard time persuading prostitutes to do it. Or it might be that artists never even said what they'd heard as young boys to anyone as adults.

There is another twist in the tale no matter. Some viewers of art really do believe that nude paintings are art and not prurient at all. Indeed, they find them morally uplifting. They see the artist is teaching that you should respect women by the artist turning them into works of art. Art lovers want a nude image and satisfactorily control their desires by seeing it as a work of art. As well, the viewer comes to see the female body as beautiful and almost a work of art itself. And he comes to see that the female body is not all about sexual lust, desire and satisfying sexual cravings. From art, you learn more respect for women. By painting them, you, by contrast, see them in everyday life as real people. This is despite women having to go nude in real life so artists can do a painting or that some of them were prostitutes in real life.

Rich Women

There are thousands of paintings of rich homemakers receiving commercial travellers and signing bills for goods for their home. As a rich woman, the viewer of the picture is led to believe, she receives visitors in the nude. Paintings of rich women receiving guests in the nude mix both status and wealth. As well, it is about the power imbalance of a homemaker wanting a pretty home that the trader can provide on her husband's money. But she still has to persuade her husband to pay for it. Yet there is some say still no suggestion of prostitution with her actually having sex with the commercial traveller. Or this is at least as some people see it. And other people see that after looking at the bill they obviously definitely did.

It could also be a picture of a Roman woman receiving a Tribune talking about her husband's death and her son becoming a cripple on the battlefield. She sees him whilst having a bath after the Tribune has just come back from three months on campaign. There might be something else to it such as the bath is ass's milk and she has servants who help dress her so that he doesn't actually see much. Also, she may have been unaware as to why he was calling and that meant that she did not go through with sex as she planned out of respect for her husband and crippled son. But this is only partly implied and it may not actually be true in some way that it is the only reason she does not have sex with him. The idea is that he doesn't do it because he is a man of the world that doesn't have to have sex with just any nude women he meets by chance. This is when they are naked but she wants to hear what he has to say. Or it is something else like that when they are naked.

Other ideas about the nude and art are that the naked female form is just plain beautiful as something in the natural world is. And people often look at porn because they see women as only being beautiful. This is despite women in porn giving blow jobs and other things. Yet, this would be different if it were art. There is a suggestion in art often that sex does not take place with nude women always. Or for some reason you're really like a Peeping Tom but by some accident. You didn't go there planning it but can look appreciatively.

A nude woman equals art. This is the sad truth of western art. And it is particularly more unfortunate once you realize that it was only a trick by artists to make money out of young men. This might be when they might have found it hard to get commissions normally for any other paintings. And often other paintings might only be excuse material for people wanting to buy nudes. Also, many artists started down a long and arduous path to become proficient with paintbrushes and paints only from the attraction of painting nudes.

'Being able to show artificially a nude woman is really like the thing that ate itself'.

An Artist Changes How People Look At Something

An example of this is an artist who changes how people look at something they might see every day. Edward Hopper changed how people looked at buildings. Buildings had a personality such as they could be ominous or lonely. Other artists have changed how people look at a flower, a vase or at a sleeping girl, an old person with lines on their face and many other things. But none of this might affect how people voted in an election. Yet it does have an effect on how people feel when they see these objects.

Another example is what they say about famous sports personalities. They might be married to models today, pop stars or actresses. And they might model clothes, drive sports cars, be mentioned in gossip magazines in their own right and be some of the wealthiest most eligible type of young men in the country. Instead of all this, if it was different and the newspaper had stories about how they used to work as miners or in manual jobs before they became soccer players, then you might imagine that could change many people's perceptions of sports personalities. As well, it might have changed peoples' thoughts about many things. This could be because they were sports fans and supported a team. So this then might be what they had in mind when they watched. But also, sport is part of the common culture. And what you hear about sports affects how many people think that wouldn't even call themselves sports fans.

Both these general examples are things that schoolchildren do not question that much. They might learn it, for example, just as part of a history lesson. This could be on an exam syllabus, their teachers might just tell them it as an interesting fact or it could be a piece in a TV show. What they would think is that it was a historical fact. And it would not worry them that it had any deeper meaning other than it being history.

Perhaps, an adult who worries could just go back to being naïve like a child and not question things too much. This is when many things really don't bear too much examination.

People are just people. Science tells us what the capabilities of the human body and the human brain are. Academics have analysed every part of human endeavour as well. Still, people will try to do things that create the change that they want. This is even if any path people might take is as good as any other. At least, this is one theory. But not everyone shares it. And people do make value judgements about what change they want. Or change could happen more by chance. This is such as science making something possible. Or it could be because of where you live or the times that you live in. And it is how people take advantage of these changes to make money or get power for themselves, what personalities are involved, the decisions they make and any mistakes they make as well.

Science has killed so many cherished ideals that people might have had beforehand. You can trace back any change. You can see all the people, ideas and technology that made it possible. And because people have analysed it so much, there is no magic in it anymore. Chance is only chance and any luck is only luck. They have done such analysis in all fields. This is from science to history to social science and psychology.

Politics has its own theory as well. In fact, politics is one of the few areas that school might not have prepared people for. Teachers are not allowed to give their political opinion. And most people don't form their own political opinions and can't vote until they are 18 years old. Possibly then, this may be one of the reasons that people worry about politics. And they really did learn all the other lessons.

'People could still apply general learning skills to find out about politics. This is such as keeping newspaper clippings, making notes, remembering facts and understanding ideas'.

PHOTOGRAPHY

Many people's experiences of getting a new camera were of reading the instructions in less than half an hour and a photography book on how to take photographs in no more than a day or two. After that, they could take really quite decent photographs. But after a few weeks of taking photographs and having got a few films back from the developers, many new camera buyers lost interest.

To develop your own photos, you needed a darkroom, an expensive enlarger and other equipment. Also, you needed to buy chemicals that often came with warnings about their safety and had to be handled correctly. It was not cheaper and in fact more expensive and more effort than sending them to a developer. A developer had machines that did it automatically and cheaply. In a darkroom, an amateur photographer could adjust the contrast and brightness where the photo was not taken correctly to start with. Also, he could use different photographic papers for different effects and do other things such as making a small area into a whole photo. You could not get this from a developer, such as your photos would come back over or under-exposed from when you pressed the shutter.

For many photographers, the real attraction of having your own darkroom was to develop nude photos that the usual commercial developers would not develop for you. And you would not trust anyone else who offered to do it for you commercially because they might pressure you in some way. The photos were of women you knew and had persuaded to pose for you. This gave you tremendous power over women, both generally and more directly because you could say you had this male profession of a photographer, you could point a camera at her and she would take her clothes off.

This was something photography gave you when you would otherwise be bored with taking photographs. You needed to be motivated to learn photography properly and the necessary motivation was often from having a darkroom. Developing your own photographs yourself is also necessary for learning about the craft and for producing better photographs. It is impossible using a commercial developer to develop your skills much further than anyone would have done a few months after getting a camera and getting their first few films back. As well, you often would not take so many photographs without your own darkroom. So without your own darkroom, you would not develop your skill as a photographer further. Also, you'd forget how to do photography if you didn't do any for a time.

Someone who likes looking at photos as art may never look at nude photos as they see them as being porn and not like other photos. The photography market supplies all tastes and requirements. And if photographers have taken nude photos in their career, people generally, even if they don't like porn or nude photography, accept this as the price of having other beautiful photos. The reason they may not look at nudes is not that they don't think they are beautiful or good photographs, but only because they don't want to get sexually aroused.

This is when getting sexually aroused over photographs is unattractive. And this is even if 'art' is attractive. People may say that they find looking at any photographic nudity or nude photo is a turn-on. And they say that any nude photos are the same as 'porn'. However, you might think that they say this as though everything about nude photos is entirely derogatory, such as they were not beautiful or nude photos have no technical merit. Yet, they often don't think that. But, still, there is this idea that they would become the same as the dirty old men in raincoats you see who go out on sunny days to buy porn if they looked at any nude photos. And they would become like them because like many other men when they look at nudity they are turned on. This is even if it is a beautifully taken photo and not just intended as porn from the start. But then, if it was not for this reaction to something that might otherwise just be like any art, more people might quite like to see these photos just as good photos. It is well known there are published photos of nude models in photographic art books. And it is well-known photographers take nude photos for a lot of commercial porn.

Some photographers turn their hobby into a career. Often they will book themselves on a photography course if they have an interest or they want a career in photography. As well, teenagers also choose these courses just as a normal career that photography can offer. Anyone who is a professional photographer learned their trade usually on a college course so they could be good enough at it. To be decent photographers they have to learn quite technical things about photography, such as lighting and touching up photos. The critical theory of photography is not so long or difficult.

Colleges will often only take new students who have a decent camera, such as an SLR or DSLR. They will ask new students about photos the student has taken with their own camera and expect good replies. However, some college photography courses don't insist that the prospective student has already owned or used a darkroom. This, however, did not exclude any students if they had. Now you have digital and so this doesn't apply.

Photographers are in some ways artisans who produce professional work to high enough technical standards for print publications and websites. As well, photography is art for hanging on walls of homes and in galleries. Also, there are collectors of photographic art. Almost everyone looks at a well-taken photograph of anything as art. Some, though, don't see photography as art the same as paintings are because 'art has to be a painting'. Nonetheless, someone who likes any art might accept technically good or beautiful photography as a form of art.

Another side to photography started really with the sale of the Box Brownie, which was an easy-to-use and cheap-to-buy camera. The people who took up this camera used it to take family snaps. They treasured these pictures in photo albums that they took out to look at on special occasions. So indeed the technology does have another side even though it is roughly the same technology and skills to use it.

Some buy a decent camera, a computer and software because they want to take nude photos still as they always used to do, but also they might want to take plenty of other types of photos. It seems sex is a strong drive that everyone has to some degree or another. And most did not want the disadvantages of a darkroom when they had read about them. Anyone who still wanted a darkroom and to do photography often only wanted it when there was something that would void all other considerations, such as being able to develop nude photos. And today with digital photography, many keen amateur photographers no longer have the problems associated with darkrooms such as chemicals and financial expense.

TELEVISION

Millions watch TV every day. And this is even if they do not have any other entertainment. Also, some people only watch the TV news and don't read a newspaper. They learn about everything from their TV. Television is by far more popular than reading or radio. All the new TV channels mean more content. And although a lot of this content is old shows, there is new content encouraged by reduced costs from digital technology and computers more generally.

TV shows to reach a wide audience have to be understandable by people who are not so well educated. But TV has advantages for the poorly educated anyway. As well, TVs have radiation that affects concentration. Also, the screen flickering and having moving pictures affect the eyes. As TVs have radiation, TV shows have to be easily understood anyway. And this is particularly if anyone watches regularly. You still need educated workers who don't watch TV who could do necessary work that actually needs an education or that needs good mental agility. Many other people, though, want to watch TV as it is good to talk about and they feel it gives them better social skills. But this might be a bit self-fulfilling. Indeed, to talk about last night's TV has today become such a cliché that it seems television is often all anyone does talk about.

Television requires less effort to watch than to read a book or to do anything else. It requires less effort because you just have to sit in front of it and switch it on. A book is more effort, as you have to turn the page and follow the line. And anything else requires some kind of physical effort. It is easy to remember sound and pictures as you remember 50% of this compared to 20% of what you hear or 10% of what you have read.

Anyone can understand TV. It is visual as well as having sound. So it does not have long descriptions of scenery or descriptions of people that you would get in novels. Some find these make the book harder to follow or the vocabulary used for descriptions is more difficult. As well, dialogue often carries the plot in TV and in the movies and not lengthy prose descriptions of people or events. Dialogue is often easier for anyone to understand than any other form of writing or communication.

They say flat screen TVs have reduced radiation. But they are also often bigger. And this increases the amount of radiation and the amount of picture and light the viewer can see. Whilst you often hear today about radiation from computer VDUs, they were saying back in the 1970s that it was never safe radiation to have a TV in an average size room. Televisions have radiation and they say the only safe distance to watch a TV is 20 meters or 60 feet away. Worries about radiation mean many have their TVs in the corner of the living room despite it being bad for the eyes to look at a corner like this. However, it has the advantage to them that it is the furthest from the TV it is possible to get for radiation. Or, at least, you had high radiation with the older big and deep CRT televisions. But the new flat screen televisions are supposed to have less radiation.

Still, the author found the literature on TV radiation confused as to how much radiation flat screens have compared to older TVs. For example, one suggestion is they had zero radiation and another they had 10% of the radiation of CRTs. Yet another article seemed to say that the advantages they had and their popularity has nothing to do with flat-screen TVs having less radiation. Now with the Internet, a lot of television is watched on computers.

SEX BOOKS AND FILMS

It is enough to say that all references to sex are satisfactorily explained to someone who was initially very interested in them and reads avidly about them even for a short time. The explanations he finds are in the end no more than he knew already and he finds can be talked about in ordinary terms. He may already have known it all from a young age but did not think the innuendo he heard was just the same things that he already knew. However, everything anyone hears about is often ultimately explained. And when it is, then it does not seem as prurient as when they first thought of it.

The explanations people eventually hear are all around men getting more sex when the worried person knows most men would like more sex. Also, it is to make money if anyone worries about their reputation. And it is to have power over women, particularly sexual power. Often it involves in some way paying a woman to take her clothes off or paying her for sex. Or it is attracting women by having some status or profession.

As well, nudity includes many ideas about women. It is a big subject. Sex, power, status, wealth are all strong motivations. And so there are drives and strong reasons for people to want to get women. This is in all kinds of ways. Or, at least, it is just how you look at girls even if everybody really just has a girlfriend.

STRESS

There are many causes of stress. Examples are work, going online, relationships, family arguments, getting older, illnesses and disease, people moving away or dying, financial worries, worries about health care, computers, making time for everything and many other worries.

It is not so important to talk about each individual worry and how you cope. There are things you can do that work for any worry. Things that always help for stress and for health generally are to do more exercise and get an early night. Also, you can keep your living area clean, neat and presentable for friends when they visit. And it is pleasant for you to live in yourself. As well, you can find things. And your home can reflect your personality. So your house is also your home. Also, you can try having a healthy diet and take up any other health tips or advice. It often does work even in a short time. Doing exercise and other health tips reduce health anxiety. Also, it gives a better self-image.

If you don't feel tired, you will be able to do more. You can also try drinking less caffeine or any other health tips that you hear about. Also, you may find that you save money if you don't buy snack food and nor other things purely for comfort or because you feel low. Nor do you have to pay for a cab when you can walk.

Having a healthy diet and doing some exercise means you can better enjoy things that otherwise you might not be able to do. You can go to the park, go into town or go on vacation. And you can do so without feeling tired, needing the toilet or having to take medication with you. Also, you will generally feel better about yourself if healthier and you'll have a better lifestyle.

As well, you can try to improve your social skills by regularly watching TV or reading. When you read or watch TV, you are taking an interest in current affairs and have things to say about anything going on in society, culturally or in the news. It makes friends, more friends, and better friends.

Even your existing friends will like you better, they will be more giving to you and they will tell you more about their lives and the things they think. If you don't have good social skills, it is almost impossible to hear how other people talk about themselves. This is when you'd like to hear what others think. You cannot learn about it all from books even if you did read them.

You can also improve your appearance by moisturizing, paying attention to your grooming, personal hygiene, clothes and your posture. And you will find that if you work on your physical fitness etc. for even just a short time, then attractive girls may fling themselves at you. You are likely to find this refreshing or at least diverting. And if you had a very attractive girl who wanted to date you or to sleep with you, then would you really want anything you did on your computer or think it good conversation or anything else valuable? Nobody like that would probably care about doing it anymore!

Suggestions about how you cope with particular worries are not always that helpful. For any worry, you can look it up online, make notes, do art about it and you can use this creative work and notes to discuss it with friends. But this can lead to worries about overusing your computer and making time to do other things. And you can worry about other people seeing your notes or diaries. Also, you have Internet access costs, printing costs and costs of buying hardware and software.

Then, if you do creative work you feel is decent, you have to decide if you will post it online or not. It means deciding if it is publishable, whether it will help people like you or hinder them and more concerns than just these. For example, anyone really might benefit from just going to a therapist or an adviser. Also, if you publish, then friends might not want to know you or there is some other reason not to publish.

Having a Good Lifestyle

Self-esteem is the feeling you are living a good useful life and others appreciate you for what you are and what you have done. Criticism leads to poor self-esteem. As well, not having genuine friendships does. Also, poor relationships do as well. Worries about the body such as poor physical appearance or other health problems also cause low self-esteem.

Cultural Solutions

There are cultural solutions to lots of worries. And some people might not have realized these cultural solutions were available all the time. Exercise has a long cultural history dating back several thousand years.

Find Words for Your Problems

The following passages are ideas about how to manage your time and things to do with it that will improve your health, diet and fitness. Also, they stop people worrying about porn by having something better to do than look at tits. This is a proper purpose in life. And it is being able to see your progress and other ideas like that many people say can really help so much. As well, it can really help for almost anyone.

The first item below is on making notes about health advice and seeing your progress in keeping to it.

Follow Health Advice, Just Make Notes

People may have heard lots of health advice that can help them but they don't do it. Possibly, you can shorten all the thoughts going around in your head. Then, you can learn a few lines off by heart. As well, this will be once you have understood anything the lines refer to or already know most of the details. An example is that you don't have to keep notes about how to mop a floor or other cleaning tips. This is once you've done the cleaning for a few weeks putting these tips into practice. So, they don't need to be a part of a new plan. This is sometimes only common sense. But at other times, people repeat things in plans that they should really know already. Perhaps, learn these as well off by heart if not completely word for word. This is similar to the sentences you learn word for word.

An example is that somebody was in their 40s with problems caused by excessive computer use, watching TV too much and poor physical health. Below are some notes the Subject made ending with the two or three lines he thought of in the end. These are the two or three lines at the end to remember off by heart. And the Subject might attempt to remember the rest as well off by heart. He might when he'd had them all going around in his head for so long but not really learned them. Other things he had learned about, made notes about and hardly ever thought of again. For example, he knew what exercises were right for him, he had obtained good cookery skills already and he had learnt computer hobby software by now. Also, he knew what TV and radio shows he might like to see. And he knew as well what listings magazines he liked. This was all except that recently he had a Smart TV.

The following is in his words.

Don't have too much computer screen time or keying. Learn how to do any hobby I have on my computer so I can do it a bit more quickly and easily and do it just a bit and not all the time. Think about what I want to do before I do it. Research is enjoyable in itself. And it can be recycled for social skills. Writing on its own is not good social skills. If, for example, you are good at art and can run off quite a few paintings quickly, then do that. And don't just write a story that takes you a month to write 2-5,000 words and you don't think anyone would like to read or you'd find it embarrassing to say that you wrote it. Use speech recognition and sound recordings.

And you can particularly do this if you don't have family and friends that you see and speak to all the time. Or just don't talk about your guilt trips. Nor talk about how one day you will be a famous artist or writer. This is so that interested members of the press or local historians or other people writing to boost your posterity can interview your older relatives if they live to a hundred and they are the ones who listened to you. As well, it is when you have used your computer word processor too much. So it is so they can tell them all about what you said of your juvenile work and your thoughts from the time that you spent alone in the spare room. This is when you can't come down and talk now to the journalist.

Instead, you can perhaps now still just put a movie on. Or you can read. Somebody else has done the work for you and it doesn't affect you. Nor only read things that you've spent hundreds of hours already on writing it, reading it back to yourself again and proofreading and editing it. This is not good now to spend even more time on it with you reading the same words repeatedly so many more times. You have another book called 'life' to write still or should have. Try to do all you need to do to cook and clean. And go out for a walk and do exercises in your room. Also, you can have a well-stocked food cupboard and eat healthily out of it. You can get low alcoholic larger from a shop if you know one that is nearby sells it. And skip too many sugary things. Get to sleep before it gets too late. But you can still watch the late film. Also, you can listen on late night radio to phone-ins, chat, music or news shows. And you can listen to music late at night in the half-light of your living room or bedroom before finally turning in. Such things are memories made of. And you gain pleasures at the time unless you spend more than an hour or two doing it. So don't see in the dawn except a few times in your life that you can remember but not repeat lots of times over the years.

Try always to do some goals and not do zero of them. You can try doing some goals every day. Or do them for at least a bit each week. Possibly, do 10-15 hours a week of goals. This is enough for social skills. Or it is enough for a getting a reasonably good mind. These goals could be reading, watching TV or listening to the radio. You can listen to music and then turn on talk and you can change from music videos to other TV. An hour or two a day of hobbies are all right. But think if anything is making you worried about using a computer or worried about doing any non-computer hobbies.

And when worried, you can try to get to the root of what it is. Only you will know what the problems are with why a hobby or an interest is causing you an undue worry. Any solution will require reading and writing skills and other educational skills. These are things you probably last learnt at school or college. And possibly, it may now be a while ago. It could be anything you learnt at school that could help you. Things you learnt how to do afterwards could help you as well. This is at college, from published books or at work.

For example, you can try to keep a variety of documents about a problem. They could be your own or others' work, formal or informal, imaginative or boring, fiction or fact and so on. Documents people have are diaries, notes from books they've read, reading lists, essays about some aspect of it, pictures they've drawn about it, newspaper clippings or things they've copied and pasted from the Internet or web links or bookmarks to web pages. Also, you have TV shows and radio shows that are on now or on a catch up service, podcasts and videos.

Get an early night's sleep. Also, you can avoid too much screen time that can affect your concentration and too much keying or talking the same. Also, do a variety of things. And you can take an interest in new things as well as old things. You can borrow things from books or the television or make up imaginative things of your own on your computer to talk about. Really, you can talk just as well about last night's TV or a painting you have done but better about both.

As well, you could have a Smart TV and the latest laptop or you could have only the terrestrial channels and get your books from the library or other reading matter at the newspaper shop. It all depends if you have been going to the library a while or you've already seen many old films you get on the terrestrial channels. If you have, then you might really 'need' a Smart TV. Or you could get your own Internet connection if you haven't your own already. Also, you can upgrade your TV package. You could even give up your TV package. And you can instead go back to getting reading from a newspaper and going to the library if you are bored with all the channels and so much TV.

You can read about diet and exercise or about any health complaints if you have them or might get them in the future. This is as there might be more health tips you don't know. Or you need to lower your ambitions. Also, you could do a different exercise program if you have a health condition. This is when some health conditions might affect what exercise you can do. And you can read about health to motivate yourself to be healthy. As well, other people's active lifestyles can be an inspiration.

In short, remember these sentences now word for word.

I will say the sentence below to myself. This is at any time. It is as well when I need motivation. Examples are watching TV too long or my home needing cleaning. I will say these lines if I feel like it or if I want more motivation.

In one line

'You have to want to help yourself as nobody else can do it for you'.

'Being active and following health advice will help you with your health and in all other ways'.

After that, you can say if you need it,

Cook, clean and do some exercise. Get to bed at night.

It is motivating to hear health advice again.

Any media is about people, joy, hope and love.

Do a variety of hobbies and interests. Read the printed word and listen to old-fashioned radios.

Eureka!

It is frustrating to think of some solution to something and then forget what it was later. This is often only to be reminded of it when the same things go wrong again. And you have had to go unnecessarily through the same time-consuming problem solving process. Once you have the solution, you can move on to find more solutions. Forgetting solutions is why you don't make progress that you should. Possibly, prioritize things you want solutions to. Every time you think of what to do, you think of words that say what your priorities are and why you have them.

Some people for something so important to them that daily life is for many people want unique ways of describing it or some secret to it they can know. This is the only way they can feel safe. When there is nobody like a clergyman, teacher, parent or relative they trust, they can develop 'trust in themselves' by feeling they have researched it. They are like students or scientists even without qualifications. And they have discovered it for themselves.

A computer offers almost unlimited folders and files. Also, you have different file types, different ways of formatting documents, editing documents and different lengths of documents. There is customizable folder navigation and you can customize the appearance of what you see on the screen. You can choose your own folder and file names. As well, you can have economy of effort to a certain extent. You can by using features like copy and paste, other productivity tools and saving settings.

Often, some people after doing enough research might know in fact many of the solutions. This is quite soon. And it is as well if they don't know them already. But they need to put it in their own words and give their own examples and references they understand better. Even simple solutions, if somebody might have just told you them, will make no sense to some people unless they have done some reading and writing of their own. This is to have that Eureka moment. And then, you know that you might after all now be able to do it. Before that, you couldn't do it or you couldn't just listen to somebody who told you it.

Why do you need a Eureka Moment? Part of people's problems is if they don't have a good mind anyway or they have a problem with words. Some people say this is from previous computer use. But then, a computer offers a solution to it as well. Handwriting and paper also have downsides. The problems don't go away either if you just ignore them. That is unless you think blanking out problems and not thinking about them is the genuine solution you've discovered. So do it. That can be your thing. It might work if you just believe it will. Stanger things have happened in real life to fiction.

Generally, for most solutions, it is helpful to remember what you have said already and not do it all over again. This is if already done almost the same. It is even if there is some redundancy that it might still be helpful to keep old documents. So read them again and perhaps think of something different. But words generally lead to lots of ways of saying the same things. As well, you have other creative arts and other hobby software on your computer.

Going online gives some people the feeling they have almost unlimited choice. You have interactivity with computers such as you can share creative work, click on the 'like' button, bookmark websites, download and copy and paste from websites or the computer can make personalized choices for you. It feels like you are taking an active part in a technological revolution. This is no matter in your real and not cyber life how small a person you are.

Switching on the TV or radio or computer and being able to choose what you do in other ways is something people nowadays have forgotten how good it would have felt to somebody in the past. Today, you have many more channels on TV. As well, TV is on late at night and on early in the morning. Also, you can have more than one book you are reading on an E Reader. And well-stocked public libraries allow you to take out more books than they ever did in the past. As well, there are different types of books. And they are not all novels.

You also have choices in how you spend your time. These could be such as going out in the garden, for a walk in the park or around the streets. You can go for a walk for the exercise, for the fresh air or it helps you to think through a problem in your head. Also, you can move to another room. This is when most people don't just live in one room. You can do such as go and lie down in a bedroom or you can watch the TV in your living room or another room of your house. Or you can read in an armchair, at the dining room table, in bed or at the kitchen table. And you do not always have to read in the same room or the same chair. Nor do you have to do other things always the same like this.

People have so much today. So, it is a great shame that so many people are unhappy, alone or can't budget on their money. Reading would help people's social skills, their budgeting skills and make them friends. They don't just have to watch TV. And anyway, the TV is a lot better than it ever used to be. TV sets are bigger with better picture quality. There is more TV on. As well, you have TV on later. Possibly, some people just take the proverbial. It is just that they never pick up and read an old-fashioned book. Nor do they ever listen to an old-fashioned radio. Don't be like them. Buck the trend.

You have all the information you need in the media to help you. This is with goal setting and other common things. You have health advice online. This is such as about the TV or computers. You can also find out how to do hobbies or get software for doing them. And the Internet offers many more possibilities. It does for hobbies and interests and, as well, you can look up anything online.

'People have too much to do today. And people do all too much'.

'It is too much sometimes!'

You have so many TV channels. And you can have a laptop in your bedroom. Also, home PCs have Email, word processors and spreadsheets on them the same as work ones. And people have art software, video-editing and photo-editing software. This is on their computers or they can download online. People, though, really could in spite of everything, just read a book. And often today, people, just as you used to hear them complain in the past, still say that they'd like to do more reading. It is like years ago! This is when people used to say things like this. But even now, they are still saying it. Today, you can read online without even going to a bookshop or newsagent.

So what's the problem with not reading enough! It is for now a mystery of our times. That is until somebody comes up with an answer. Or it is something better you wanted than that people are just messing around seeing what software there is on their computers. But then, that still might really be it! And it is no different today.

There are a number of problems with ideas like these to do with making notes or looking up health advice online. The first is that computers and paper are unhygienic. But the thing they often say is that some people actually use computers at work or use paper still to work. It is completely necessary for some jobs. And this is particularly by chance even with most jobs considered good jobs. These people can't have a problem when otherwise society could collapse. So how can you have a problem? Another issue they raise is that other people also use computers and paper such as writers, artists and other creative people. Also, students use computers and paper.

That means that you would not have great works of art if there were a basic problem with it. In fact, the problem might be with certain people only and that is really the answer. They have a problem with sweating too much or particularly their sweat is unhygienic. It is possible that they have a higher level of bacteria in their bodies than is healthy. So, they would feel ill anyway. This is even if they didn't have a problem with touching things or using their hands. Yet another reason that is given is that people have poor technique in how they hold paper, hold a paintbrush or type or use a computer mouse. As well, they don't take breaks from their computers or use them for a bit longer each day than they should do compared to other people.

A joke is that if nobody told them about techniques for holding objects hygienically, then they might have too much bacteria in their bodies now even if they didn't to start with.

Two possible solutions might help. One is that people do better what they were before doing poorly. This may mean doing it hygienically and as well feeling less stressed about it. And the other solution is that people do fewer things. That is always more hygienic. And it as well gives you more spare time to do other things. More time to do other things will improve your social skills.

How You Really Knew It All As a Teenager but Then It Went Wrong

Much has been written about connecting to your inner teenager. Things that you got from your teachers in your lessons or from other kids in the schoolyard or that your parents told you, you forgot later. And then you began to worry. Possibly, you worried for years. Rain forests had to be cut down so you could read the newspaper and the carbon footprint of all the TV News shows that you watched would be enormous. As well, you are always looking for new things and spent thousands probably on the media when so much of it is free. All this money could have been a tidy sum in your bank account that now you won't have. But you spent more money to try to reduce the anxiety that you have hoping that this might have long-term health, goal setting, social skills and relationship benefits.

Maybe, it might really work. Alternatively, if you have forgotten what you did at school, then you need to go back and revise it. This is because people really did tell you it all then. They told you so that you would be able to cope as an adult. Still, some people don't realize that this means not feeling stressed, worried, and anxious today. This is when they are older adults. And it wasn't just about them starting work, having their first relationships or leaving home. Instead, it is to help them throughout their lives. And that includes not feeling stressed.

IS THERE A PANACEA TO ALL PROBLEMS?

Idea 1, How Kids Are Brought Up

This idea has one basic premise. It is that kids will eventually become adults. Problem kids become problem adults. Another part of this is that educated, well-rounded and motivated individuals learned all the things they needed as children, teenagers and as young adults. This was when teachers and other responsible adults could still influence them if still in school. They had plenty of time and contact with them and things to offer them such as an education academically or in sports. So you just have to have motivated teachers and other people such as in the media to act as positive role models. Also, you need to spend money on education. Then, the country will be a success politically, economically and socially. You will have fewer problems with people committing crime, watching porn, not having any good hobbies or interests, not keeping fit and instead getting diabetes, other illnesses and getting other failures.

So why hasn't it worked so far?

One possible reason is, in fact, that it has really worked remarkably very well indeed. The economy of many parts of the world has grown. And this is particularly after the Cold War ended that was responsible for many problems with it. Until recently, the economies of the West had grown as well. This was at least until the world changed and you had emerging economies. But up to that point, the economy of the West had grown steadily for over 200 years. And this was still with all the problems that you hear that people seem to talk about.

The problems that you hear about are such things as gangs in schools intimidating good teachers. And these good teachers just want kids to learn but they are being stopped from giving lessons. Also, it is drug dealers being kids' only role model or even the only adult that they know other than single mothers and as well, drug dealers have money, status, and everyone on their council estate looks up to them. Or it is any other problems that at some time you might have heard about.

And these problems made you look up and think. You might have thought that they were still bad problems. And you didn't know how to cope with them yourself either or even less than the people they are talking about. Also, it is particularly when what you hear about is not like the school you had been to as a kid yourself. Your school really had no problems like these. But you hear about it with other schools and other neighbourhoods. And for these schools and the people they serve, it is a major intractable problem. Possibly, there is years of work still to do. This is ultimately as well if you believe you can never do anything about these things as well. You still have the problems but no solutions. That is also anxiety.

Yet, some people say that gangs and other things you hear are not the problem. Kids still want to learn. They will not all join gangs by any means. And most don't. Many will go to work in completely normal jobs and careers. Also, TV shows and films you see about problem kids putting on rap and hip-hop concerts or people watching them in break dancing competitions happen in real schools as well. This is thousands of real schools and not just a few fictional ones.

Really, it can all sound confusing. This is much of what you hear. Some people after reading the newspapers for years feel angry and bitter and have recriminations about what newspapers told them in their pages or not or with people who told them to read the newspapers. People say other people did not tell the truth. Or people point out that, at some time, newspapers did say everything. And they qualified everything. But some people still feel that the newspapers in some way did cheat them. Or they might think as well that they must have unusually poor minds not to have gotten what it said before or to have thought some things were still a problem. Also, they must have been mistaken somehow if they only read some articles and nothing else. People tell them now that there are very few articles like what they talked about, the newspaper was not going on about it the whole time and hardly ever in the editorials.

So what other answers might there be?

One answer is that poverty and poor nutrition, lack of libraries, poor housing and arguments at home will cause stunted educational, physical and moral development amongst the children of the poor. This has nothing to do with these being high crime neighbourhoods for example. People just don't have enough money and live in poverty with dirty streets and pollution. It is a coincidence only that they are high crime neighbourhoods. Criminals aren't really the problem. This is when successful criminals are able to feed themselves and their families. Still, the argument is that poverty, pollution, poor housing conditions and lack of proper nutrition cause social problems, people not succeeding in life and not having strong communities. And the newspapers said all this as well if you just wanted to read these articles.

Poor people who do not get enough to eat become malnourished and can't be full members of society or their communities. Nor can they get jobs. And it is a vicious cycle of ill health and poverty. Also, it is a value judgment that criminals are antisocial. This is when, in another way, they are at least normally fully functioning human beings. Though, this is without arguments as to whether illegal drugs cause brain damage or not and how many people become criminals just to pay for their drug habit, how many are badly affected by prison socially and things like that.

Another idea is that where you get poor housing and people are living too close to each other, there is sexual promiscuity and children are abused sexually, physically, financially and in other ways. There are many opportunities to abuse them when mothers leave them at home on their own or children come in from school on their own whilst their mothers are at work or their mothers work as prostitutes from home. Alternatively, their mothers actively seek to prostitute their own daughters when they are old enough so that they can get another income. Or Johns who visit their mothers could abuse them before that. They at some time had opportunities to abuse them. This is being in the same house waiting whilst their mothers saw other clients. Also, they had the means in that they weren't sexually impotent and the motive as well was to do it when the mothers were hookers that they disregarded.

Sexually abused children when they become adults are really a big problem. But people don't like to talk about it. It does not make sense to always when someone is now an adult. This is to say that a teenage delinquent's real problems are from having his trousers pulled down by a John visiting his mother when he was 10 years old. And all he did was look stupid and innocent when he exposed his little peewee. Yet later as an adult, he is massively disturbed. He hates his mother, he hates the world and he hates authority.

Pimps may have up to 30 children or more by their girls. And people can pay a pimp they are friends with to get one of his girls pregnant. You also hear about other men paying for it who just have money. But this might be more of a myth. Also, there are ideas you hear about women working as prostitutes that it is a normal tradition in prostitution for men to be able to ask a working girl to do it without a condom for the same price and no other contraception as well. It has been in a few apparently well-known normal mainstream films just like this. And some people maintain vigorously that it is true and just a service prostitutes provide if they do work like this. It can get confusing and make some people angry. Possibly, the pimp is most of the children's fathers.

Idea 2, Food, Hygiene

Food Supply

Is the food supply safe? This is a basic question around food. It refers to food being fresh and unadulterated. Yet, it can get more complicated than that. For example, additives that food companies put in to improve freshness, colour and other qualities have to be regulated when they can be toxic. It is not enough to say that if people make something people eat, they should just keep their house in order. In fact, they won't. And food-manufacturing processes are not as simple either as picking a fruit from a tree in your garden. It has its own problems and difficulties in producing healthy food. For example, food high in salt, fat and sugar is tastier. And people will buy it but it is unhealthy. Many people already know from the press that it is unhealthy. Yet they still buy it. Why do they?

A possible answer is that they've slept poorly, they feel tired, depressed or unwell and that is why they have it. In fact, for such people it might do some good. Somebody who had been sweating might need salt and sugar to replace natural salts and sugars lost in sweat. And food that tastes good might have some reason to do with your body why you'd want it. Also, no food manufacturer could create tasty food without the body doing the work already. The body craves food that it wants and needs for it to be healthy.

Possibly, then, the body craves fat when it lacks fat that it actually needs. Fat is actually good for you. Most of the brain is composed of fat and fat is necessary for brain function. It is also necessary for the function of the other organs of the body. Yet you hear so much about good fats and bad fats and very bad fats. Which is right and how much should you have of each? The answer that you might eventually get is that you need a healthy balanced diet that means you have something of everything. But this does not seem to be the answer that they gave for years. The science made people worry about their eating. And it created a generation of anorexics. It created them together with the fashion industry as you hear about more often. But perhaps they were also a bit like that to start with. And the fashion industry just made clothes for people who were already thin.

Another problem is genetically modified crops and whether these are safe that science does not really have a short answer to right now. Except, that is, some crops are probably definitely not safe. For example, you can make foods glow in the dark. You can do this by such as adding genes from a jellyfish to fruit. But while food manufacturers might think this is a good novelty product, it horrifies many consumers. And many consumers would just be forced to eat it even if they didn't want it. This is if food manufacturers had their way. They might have argued this for sound business reasons such as some people might want food that glowed in the dark and other people may as well just have it anyway if it didn't actually cost anymore.

But then consumers feel they can complain to the authorities and people will listen to them. To some extent, people do listen to them. And to some extent, food manufacturers have their way. Some people say that no genetically modified crops are safe. But others say it is yet undecided and they should give genetically modified crops another chance. And yet others are already saying that they are completely safe. Who is telling the truth? Or who thinks they are telling the truth but they are deluded? And who is just trying to cash in? Possibly, nobody knows the truth yet. But it could cause a human and ecological disaster if assumptions made even now about its safety are not actually true.

Public Hygiene and Personal Hygiene

It is often of great amusement to some people when they hear about a purpose of public hygiene that the government has any hand in whether people watch porn or not or that they care about it at all officially. Yet, it is an age-old preoccupation of government that people don't do the thing that 'watching porn' is now the euphemism for. This is when you hear so much about the government giving rights to pornographers to peddle their wares and seemingly promote it and its greater sales without hindrance.

Public hygiene is things such as garbage collection, road sweeping, public parks, open areas, sewers and run offs from fields. Personal hygiene is things such as bathing and showering, cleaning your home, deodorant, soap and other toiletries, radiation from televisions, computers and radio sets, rising damp and a few other things.

All of these things keep people healthy and the germs at bay. This is including the germ that causes porn use. The only thing people need to do for themselves assuming no fault with the public hygiene provision is to wash, clean and follow food and other hygiene rules. Other hygiene rules are things such as not watching too much TV, taking breaks from your computer, handling paper correctly and sexual continence in not having sex that often or with too many women and never with promiscuous women or prostitutes.

The individual can do nothing about public hygiene. It is up to the local council usually to do most of the work. Yet, the problem with all of this is that the authorities prosecute people breaking public hygiene rules, you have to have witnesses and they treat it like any other crime when some people say crime is almost out of control. And the second problem is that porn is marketed and promoted that does have at least some effect on how many people watch it.

Also, although porn is within a legal framework usually about what they can show and where they can sell it, successful entrepreneurs and good businessmen can increase sales of porn or anything else if they are able to market it effectively. Today, as well, it is online. It is yet not highly regulated or not many prosecutions have been brought for the total number of people known to be breaking the law. Yet, that really is only illegal pornography. And it makes nonsense of many ideas around public health and personal hygiene if you can legally get hard-core pornography anyway.

This legal pornography has consensual sex between adults showing penetration, blow jobs and anal sex. Also, it shows all races of women and many different nationalities. And there are many kinds of interracial pairings. It is really a big turn-on for many men that can keep them going for years. And all of this is without ever watching anything illegal. Legal pornography is usually enough for all the highs, lows, and kicks they need.

Idea 3, Exercise

The body needs exercise. Exercise is good for the body and the body becomes ill without doing exercise. Somebody who is physically unfit can't do manual work and probably has problems doing any work at all to a reasonable standard, concentrating or being productive. Therefore, your work and productivity is to some extent dependent on having good physical fitness. Also, it is the normal physical abilities as well that people have who are not disabled, ill or so grossly unfit or overweight that you might say they were indeed disabled.

And the chances of having healthy children are greatly increased if both partners are physically fit and young, not taking any medicines or medications and with no health complaints. Future generations are at stake if people don't do exercise. And all the sciences about health reported in the press suggest to just to do 20 minutes exercise a day. Just going for a walk each day might really be enough for so many things.

'So why don't people do more exercise? Really, nobody knows'.

Idea 4, Television and Computers

One reason to encourage reading that many people don't realize is that if people read, then they just don't watch as much television. Television is bad for you as it has radiation. This radiation can affect your concentration. 'Concentration' is a term euphemistically used for brain damage from a computer or television screen. Eventually, people who watch a lot of television could become senile in old age.

As well, they could go blind in their old age. This blindness is from radiation damage to the centre of the back of the eye where the television rays focus. It is the same part of the eye that the television rays focus on the eye uses to read or you use to recognize somebody's face.

There are other health problems with computers. Computers and televisions are carcinogenic. This is from the radiation but also from electricity in them and materials used in their manufacture. Also, flashes from the screen but also just the large amount of light coming from a television or computer screen can cause epilepsy.

'Really, there is a vicious circle in that people watch TV or use a computer for a few hours and then can't concentrate on anything else so they keep watching'.

Examples of this vicious circle in that people watch TV or use a computer for a few hours and then can't concentrate on anything else. Somebody had an exercise program to do exercises for his back when he'd had a bad back and had an overhanging gut but he couldn't no matter remember to do them. He knew the exercises off by heart and they only took 10 minutes in front of the television or with the radio on. But for six months, he did almost no exercise sessions at all. Only when he reduced television viewing as part of a conscious health plan to do so did he do any more exercise. As well, he cleaned his room more often. And he took medicines he had for another health complaint more regularly as well. This was the first time in years that he had been able to keep to any health plan. And this was despite being sometimes on his computer for hours writing one out, rewriting and editing it. It seemed that radiation and the unseen rays that science tells us are there fuddled his brain. But, until now, he didn't fully realize it had been the cause of all his problems.

And this is when all his problems would have filled shelffuls of so many types of books about problems you hear people have. They included computer addiction, poor social skills, goal setting problems, many different types of health problems with diet, exercise, sleep, personal hygiene, taking medicines and supplements, obesity and other worries.

Idea 5, Panacea

So far, in this article, we've said that you can do nothing about the cleanliness of the streets around where you live but you can attend to your own personal hygiene, washing and cleaning in your own home. Also, you could say as well that you can do nothing about the television or radio rays that are in the air. Nor can you do much about microwave phone masts that might be near you except move house. These come through the air and you can't really do much about them. Still, you can avoid more radiation by not switching these appliances on.

You can try to choose your food to be healthier but you can't do anything all the time that you might want to. For example, though it might sometimes be helpful, food labelling is not always accurate. Still, there is widely publicized unhealthy food that you can avoid. These are things such as frozen pizzas, oven chips, soft drinks, confectionery, cakes, snack food you get at the counters in shops, alcohol, not drinking enough water, too much tinned stuff and not enough fresh stuff and everything else you might have heard at one time or another. And for the rest, you just have to learn how to cook. This is at all that you might learn how to cook.

You can cook traditional recipes in any style and they are almost all healthy. And this is particularly if it was recently published cookbooks that they are more likely to remove any unhealthy problematic recipes. They would have done this when editing the book for its new edition or its completely new publication in the light of new ideas. It is also because of readers' expectations that a cookbook would generally be healthy today. And this is if it wasn't in the past or they now know that some of the old recipes were really quite unhealthy. It is possible that they just didn't really know this beforehand. Otherwise, it would have been healthy years ago.

You can try doing some exercise any way you are able to motivate yourself, find time to do it and with whatever exercises you want to do that suit you best. Somebody might find something motivating and somebody else finds something else motivating. An example is that a young man might find getting fit so that he can be a top sportsman motivating. But an older person may have more limited fitness goals in terms of total achievement. Still, the basic goals anyone has are to build up muscles or tone muscle, have cardiovascular fitness, to use an exercise program to help them relax and not feel so tense and to sleep better, eat better, work better and to make love better.

One prime mover in everything is to have a good night's sleep. Things that contribute to a good night's sleep are not writing a long diary last thing at night, not watching too much television or overusing a computer, having a bedtime routine, having less clutter around your bed and in your bedroom and a few other sleeping tips that there are. If you are not doing something that you should be doing and even one of all of these things that you're not doing, then that can mean that you don't sleep well. And you can keep not sleeping well for months or years until you change whatever it is or whatever combination of things they are.

Top Tip

Go to bed earlier than most people do and then, you can get up earlier than most people do. This is when it is so quiet early in the morning. You can hear birds singing in the garden or you can hear an engine that is miles away. Also, you can get a lot done of something early in the morning. It is completely quiet and nobody will interrupt you.

Idea 6, Learn

Consider these three statements, A, B and C, and see if you think they are contradictory or what you do think of them. Afterwards, the section will discuss them.

Statement A

Many people today do not have the good minds they did when they left school and they were still teenagers. People go out drinking, they fall over and bash their heads, they try illegal drugs, they get physically sick that can affect their minds, they are poor for a time and go without food, water or heat and there are lots of other ways that people don't have the good minds they did years ago.

Statement B

People want to be students to learn about the wonderful world we live in, to broaden their minds, to have the joy of having some facts in their heads, to talk in the student bar and to get good jobs. Other people would like to start living the web lifestyle they've heard so much about. Also, other people would like to read more and for people to know them as somebody that talks about art and literature for example. And some people would like to take up a creative arts hobby and become an amateur artist of some kind.

Statement C

Man really does stoop to learn. Students often use computers and so do people in good jobs but computers have radiation. Overusing computers and not taking breaks or using them for several years can cause a reduction in white and grey matter in the brain. Also, television is audio-visual that means people remember an awful lot of it compared to reading or radio but that also has radiation. The human eye is not able to read naturally. It can't follow a line going across the page without it causing some kind of brain damage. And it is worse for doing any writing as the hand makes small movements when writing that means writing is even worse than reading. Overusing one sense such as listening to the radio a lot can cause deafness. Nor can anyone hand write for very long or at least not for years and years. Nobody can do this when you will end up getting arthritis when you're older or some other disease or illness. And nor can the voice speak for very long such as to make notes into a portable sound recorder or to use speech recognition. You can't speak for that long as speaking too long can shorten your lifespan. A student at university has intensive lessons. They are unlikely to be able to keep it up if for example they had tried to in some way for the sake of argument for more than a year or two after they would have left university. And there is a similar principle to people trying to read more or do more even if they haven't been students.

So there are a number of things to discuss. What if somebody fits statement A above but would like to be as in statement B? So long as somebody like that can still remember at least some of his education or revise it, he has not actually become illiterate since leaving school and can still read and he is capable of learning some things, then he still has some chance. They say that you only have one life and no other life than the one you do have. So you may as well try to read more and learn more if you want to.

The first thing you need to do if you want to change is to have something you know that can help you. Remember, that you have an education and so may be able to solve many of your problems yourself. You can do this by making notes, understanding figures and using your education in many ways. One way you can use your education is to start a short time management project.

On the top of the page, write the date. Underneath that, rule the page down the middle. On one side, you write the time and on the other side, you write the task that you're doing. And do this for the week. You might need a computer to help you analyse your data. Also, you need to use abbreviations for the tasks you do so you don't handwrite too much. Use the shortest abbreviations possible as that helps. The ideal abbreviation would only be one letter. The abbreviation might be the first letter of the start of the word that describes the task. For example, C is cleaning and tidying up. T is watching television. Do this for the most frequently used words. When a word is less frequent, you might use two letters of the alphabet. Chatting to friends for example might be, Ch. After a week, analyse your data to see how long you're spending on things.

Some of the answers you get might surprise you. For example, you might not know how much you watch television or how little you listen to the radio. Also, you might have thought that you did a hobby a lot but you only in fact do it for about an hour or two a week. As well, you might not have realized how long you spend sitting at your computer desk using a computer.

With this data, you can now attempt to change your time use. A good tip is to buy a listings magazine. A listings magazine will help you to listen to more radio if you don't want to watch so much television. It is just that before you didn't really know when the radio shows you wanted to hear were on. Also, you might watch less television if you look forward to just watching something more decent. As well, if you only do a hobby for an hour or two a week that you want to do more of, then every day you could try to do it for a bit more. And you really could just switch it all off, go into the kitchen and make yourself a snack and then come back and do nothing for at least half an hour to an hour. You are at least doing yourself no harm when you know that almost everything that you do to learn and improve your mind actually has a downside. Also, you could do something that was actually useful such as tidy up or go out for a walk for exercise.

You may have poor social skills to start with or a poor memory and a poor vocabulary. But you can improve all these quite rapidly. Try doing brain training games or word puzzles as these can really help. As well, go back to your school textbooks and revise them. This is also a way of accelerating your learning. You did it before to a high standard with the help of your teachers and so it is a good idea to do it again. Also, you can make notes and write essays like you learned at school or college to help you understand any subject or topic that you read about. As well, you can use these study skills to help you make crib notes. And you can learn these crib notes off by heart. This is for when you meet people later and you want to appear to have a good mind and good social skills.

It sounds like as it is artificial it is cheating. But in fact, there is no noticeable difference. Or, in fact, it is what everyone learned in his or her educations. Your education is a great thing that can help you with your social skills, with your living skills, to help you enjoy yourself and understand and consume more media and it can help in so many other ways as well. Whatever you do, go for it!

And don't worry that you are not starting from exactly the same position as you did when you were a teenager. You can still have a lot of fun and enjoy using your mind. And you can as well make some notes along the way! This is when people's teachers told them how they should do it. So there's no difference to you doing it now. This is with your hobbies and interests rather than any school subject.

As well, you can make notes on the hobbies you've done such as what you're doing with them now or what you're trying to achieve that you can feed into a conversation. Another example is that you can read a passage from a book, make notes on it and learn it. Then you can say that that is where you got to in the book and talk about it as well.

Computers are great for making notes like this. So try to use one. If you don't use it all the time, it should be all right. A good tip is to have a printer and print things off you want to read instead of reading them from the screen. A printer is really the solution to so many computer problems. As well, you can have easy to remember goals.

One goal other than social skills might be that you just look after your physical health. Then, you might think you will get good social skills anyway if you do that. At least, many women will find a good body attractive. This is even if you didn't have good social skills anyway without feeling tired because you were obese or it is with other women having not wanted to talk to you. Indeed, some people have the goal of never getting bad social skills again to motivate them.

However, it might be hard to tell if you're going below a certain level if good social skills were your only goal. Instead, you could have a goal such as just to revise your schoolwork at least once a year. Other people say that prioritizing personal hygiene has really worked for them. This is in all sorts of ways it has worked for them including in improving their minds, giving them good social skills and making them attractive to women. Too much screen radiation, touching things like paper and keyboards, handwriting or talking is bad for personal hygiene.

Just do a bit every day! But then, you don't have to do something all day. Or do something that will be useful with your time but that does not involve learning. This might be tidying up, fixing something around the house, doing exercise or anything else. Also, you can just rest. Rest is always good for you. As well, remember always that your mind can get worse for not reading anything. And be grateful for your education and that you can read.

Idea 7, Quick Fixes

Some people are always planning how to do more. They think that if they do more, they will then have more to say. This is to the people they know and care about and who care about them. But they still worry that they never really have that good conversations anymore with anyone. And if they did ever find it easy to have good conversations, it is now a problem to people. So someone keeps struggling to watch more decent TV, to read more and as well to possibly fit in a hobby better on top of all that.

This section is about two problems people have with goal setting and social skills. They are first that people have a time-consuming hobby and second that they watch all the TV and read all the books they like themselves but that their friends are not interested in. Conversely, they don't watch the same TV or read the same books as their friends. Only by not spending so long on your hobby and not having to spend so long on goals will you have more time overall. You could spend his time instead on a new hobby, on studying, on doing other goals just for you or on an exercise or keep fit program. Possibly, you could with the advice in this section just have enough time to do all you want to do without worrying anymore.

If you have a time-consuming hobby, then you can help yourself by spending less time on it. But you don't ever have to do it never again. This is when you have now learnt the skills or knack of how to do it. So you might not want to forget these skills. And even if you see it as a problem now, it probably has given you experiences you enjoyed and as well, you could keep on enjoying. A hobby is also some time to spend by yourself, a chance to be creative or something different to do with your time to TV and reading that can get a bit boring or depressing after a while.

Too much screen time can cause depression and affect concentration, so doing at least part of your hobby away from the computer or TV can help. So many hobbies are now on computers but you can still read about your hobby in paper books. As well, you can go to see places such as art galleries, still do art on paper or canvas sometimes, make notes on a portable sound recorder or on a paper notebook and spend time thinking about your hobby. Being better at your hobby by not spending so much time in front of a screen doing it, trying different ways of doing it and spending time thinking about and learning it before you go on a computer and produce your masterwork reduces the computer and other time a hobby will take up. This is to produce the same amount of work and it is to produce better work. So keep doing your hobby but spend less time on it.

There are many tips on how to spend less time on your hobby without much of a downside for anything and an upside in less time in front of the screen and fewer keystrokes. One tip already mentioned is in not having too much screen time. Perhaps, you should remember or note down how much screen time you've had and other things you have been doing. You can do this in a time management diary or in a more conventional personal journal. A basic aim in your hobbies and your spare time generally is to keep your concentration better.

Another tip is to be better at whatever you do for a hobby or creative art, so you can produce work more quickly and easily. It will be better work anyway. This tip also means that you don't worry about posting stuff online that is just too plain bad to get an appreciative audience. If you get critical comments and withdraw your work, then that is a waste of time. It is at least in reading the comments and the time it took to upload and take down.

As well, worry on its own will often waste time. You spend time just thinking about any worry. And you get nowhere fast with some task or hobby if worried about how you should be doing it. Worry is time consuming in other ways as well. When worried an online work is still in need of editing, you might spend all your spare time editing it. This is until you can post it again. As well, you don't have time to read about what mistakes you might be making, to look at other people's work other than your own or to have a normal life until you feel it is ready.

Editing stuff or spending too long producing work you have done that should be finished but is still not a good piece wastes really so much time. Don't do it! Learn how to do your hobby properly before trying projects that are more ambitious or before posting stuff online. With just this one tip if nothing else, then you might not find your hobby too time consuming anymore. And you could get on with the rest of your life. This might be the only tip you'd need. But there are more as well that will help.

If you were not always a good artist or writer and still need practice, then you can post only your best stuff. And you can avoid lots of time wasting and criticism if you don't post not so good ones or dubious ones you are not completely happy with to start with. Who wants to read lots of mediocre stuff or see so much stuff just by one writer or artist? People generally only appreciate the best stuff or stuff that has something different to offer. This is to other pieces or other writers or artists.

Examples are that you can write 2,000 word short stories and not ones over 5,000 words. People will read the shorter short story and enjoy it just as well if not better. You can also write 30-line poems and not epic poems. Or you could use art software you find faster than other art software. Some people find computer art software has tools that make it faster and more convenient to produce a painting than paper art. And they use these tools that save them a lot of time and effort to produce more paintings in a shorter time. Photographers might not bother editing photos that are not much good to start with. They can take fewer photos when ones they take might be better. This is when they click the shutter.

You can aim to spend one hour per day on your computer doing a creative hobby. That takes away problems of not taking breaks or being bored in your breaks. You don't have so much going around in your head that you will want to work on it some more if you don't spend more than an hour on your computer. There is a convenient point to take a break if you use your computer only an hour a day. This is helped by being good at your hobby or creative art, doing less ambitious projects or if you don't post everything online.

You can have quicker and easier social skills as well. Think what other people have said to you and what their interests are. Then, you watch the same TV shows as them and you talk about these shows to them. You can watch the same ones or ones on the same subject. An example is a particular cookery show they mention or cookery shows generally or you can learn to cook and talk about recipes you've made. Another example is when people like talking about the news. You can start reading a newspaper or watching the TV news even if you are not aware what newspaper they read or what news shows they like or you like different ones.

Also, you can take an interest in what they watch themselves just because they are your friends. As well, you might find something interesting in a new subject because part of it is already an interest of yours. For example, if somebody reads about a particular period of history, then someone like that might want to see a movie placed in the same historical period.

As well, when somebody talks about something well that it sounds interesting, you can learn from them free how to talk about it well yourself. This is when they are your friends this it is something you get free. Before, you might not have seen how anyone could have ever interested someone else in talking about a subject, but now you can see how you would do it. As well, you can talk about these subjects or topics to your other friends. And you have this social skill just by the friends you keep and by paying a bit more attention to them.

When you talk about something others have also seen on TV or read in a book themselves the same, then you can talk for longer about it when you are with them. And that will fill up the time you are with them. So this is good social skills. And you don't have to do so many goals to keep up the conversation in other things. This was when they were really showing you that they might not really want to talk about some subjects by having poor conversations about them. As well, it is more economical in time both doing goals and in talking about them. It gives you better social skills when you both share the same interests and you both have seen the same things on the TV. As well, this is when different goals may mean you will never hold a good long conversation.

Both these tips of doing the same goals and in talking about them have common principles. Readers might see for themselves that they are going to work. Or there is at least a chance they will work.

The first principle is that you don't just work harder but instead, you try to pick up all the tips you can about something.

And the second principle is that you do not have to 'make time' or 'find time'. This is when probably you are already doing something with all your spare time unless you are just resting. So, you can only 'make time' by doing different things.

More fully,

Spend less time on hobbies so they are less time consuming. You can do this by being better at them and learning how to do them more thoroughly. This is particularly before posting things online. As well, don't post stuff online you think might not be very good. Also, you can try less ambitious projects. And you can check how much concentration you have by making notes of when you've been on your computer or in front of a screen.

For spending less time on social skills and having better social skills, you can try to read books and watch TV that people have mentioned themselves doing. You can also take up any hobby they mention that they do in a practical way themselves. This gives you more to say about these things they are interested in, you will talk for longer about things that took you less time to do or to watch and your friends will appreciate somebody that appears to have the same interests as them.

Also, just by doing the same things yourself, you do have the same genuine interests they do. You do because you are likely to find something interesting about them if you tried them out and because you have the pleasure of having talked about them. This is to different people you might have talked about them and for the different friendships you got when talking about it. Also, you have free lessons that you can't get anywhere else but from your friends. This is in how to talk interestingly about some things.

'It is all of it bigger than any one part of it. You can have friends, good socials skills with your friends and other people you meet later, you can have a girlfriend or boyfriend, you can do more goals, you can have better hobbies and you can worry less'.

Idea 8, Get Back To Normal

The only way people can get back to normal is if they get some of their previous good mind back. This is from stopping watching too much television. Or it is not using a computer too much. It only made them feel temporarily better. Sometimes people can do all this on their own and sometimes they need outside help. Also, it is not doing other unhygienic things such as to handwrite too much. Only one thing can cut the circle other than not watching TV possibly. And that is to stop worrying about social skills. Temporarily, at least, don't have a girlfriend. This is one that you are worried about your relationship communicating and you are worried about your sex life as well quite probably. Another problem with all of this is that when tired and lacking concentration, people don't clean their rooms or do any exercise. And poor physical health, diet, exercise and poor personal hygiene and poor sleep can all cause people other problems. Also, worries about social skills or any other worries can mean people might not want to do anything positive. So really, it is a vicious circle.

Part of it might be that there is not just one model. But people have to have good physical as well as mental health. And some people find this dichotomy confusing. As well, there is disgust about illness that puts some people off. Also, there is the idea as to whether people are actually doctors and scientists, they are educated and read about it, everybody as well even if not educated has read about it or some people are generally not educated even in modern societies. Also, there are problems if you don't fully understand the science and all the ideas when some people say you should just follow doctor's advice. So that is all you have to do. No one who does not just follow doctor's advice can be talked to when they are going against a basic principle that they should listen to their doctor. As well, this is no matter how much you hear health issues and other problems talked about on TV as apparently being educational or normal entertainment. They might have nothing to do with people's health you'll hear eventually. They are generally only philosophical. And nor are they either to give students a head start with their health. As well, there are other ideas such as some people's bodies are different. But not everybody reading a book about it can tell what exercises would be better for them. Nor do they see how to solve their other difficulties that might be due to their physical bodies. They could ask a doctor but doctors are busy and they might not know what to ask. This is particularly around ideas such as talking about time management and thinking people have solutions for you who are professionals. They might not do. Another idea is that common people have a right to feel disgusted when they are not doctors and scientists with dirt and illness. So you have to watch out for these people as well! This is even if you don't have a degree yourself. As well, you might hear an idea that disgust is what worked for centuries as an apparently new educational idea and it is not the reverse of what you heard more often that only cold science had answers.

Really, it can be a bit confusing. And out of this people just don't do exercise, clean their homes, wash, cook, go to bed and nor do they just tidy up a bit.

Yet other people say that anyone knows how to follow doctor's advice. And they don't need any extra explanation.

Idea 9, People Want Help from You

Other worries people have is that they think people want help from them that they might not do. Also, they think that their parents or other people such as their friends want them to have done something in life such as had some kind of a career or even a claim to fame they can mention to their other friends. Or people expect them to talk to them about how they have lived full interesting lives. As well, they might have a fantasy to involve their normal friends in their achievements. Their friends might want to know someone who is rich or who is not just a loser.

The answer the book gives is that people should just enjoy themselves watching television, reading a bit, listening to the radio and go back to bed. This is particularly if they have any worries about their bodies not answered when they read a sex education book in class at school. And it has continued ever since then.

Idea 10, Does the Media Make You Feel Good or Bad?

Many people have cringe making worries. People won't to read to see how to make the world a better place. Yet, they worry about the media when they consume so much of it. It is as if their only real friend is in the media and they have few other proper friends. Yet, they worry incessantly about what they are given. This is even when a lot of the media is free or very cheap and anyone can get a lot of it that there is or more if prepared to make a financial sacrifice. Other people argue with their families when their families might be some of the few people they see. Perhaps, they should just get reasonable socials skills if their social skills have fallen off a bit recently. Then, their problems would be over.

Other people have had the cathartic feeling when coming out the cinema having seen a good film that somehow all their own worries have also been resolved just like those of the hero in the film. Yet, when they think of worry, it often revolves around disputes and queries they have about other things they see in the media. Or, at least, it does sometimes. Other programs make them positively fume with anger and boil with rage or tear their hair out with frustration and impotence. Yet they can't always tell why they feel so angry. And this makes it worse.

Sometimes, much later, they do hear an 'explanation'. But not everybody will just accept that something once explained is completely OK. Yet others after so much frustration not knowing do accept the explanation without needing any further thing about it. This is if there was something in the program that was fluid at the time and so they might not have explained it for that reason. Or it was in the newspapers people will tell them but they just didn't see it was the same thing.

People have heard that TV programs are like art and made objects or the video needs heavy cutting to keep it within time limits. But, they might still think if something is fakery in a way they didn't realize beforehand, then it shouldn't be or they may as well just watch the proper news.

As well, there is the whole idea about whether somebody is poorly educated that they don't understand what is happening in the world when they can barely read and write as adults. Also, this is if they forgot much of what they learnt at school or they drank too much. Or it is if there is some guilt trip about other things. This is what people told them or didn't tell them what to do.

Finally, there are people telling them that everybody knew from psychology books in the sixties that you shouldn't feel bad. And his has all been thoroughly written about. So why are you still falling for it right now? Everybody but you knows already unless still very young. So why haven't you helped yourself yet. Perhaps, it is time now to do so.

# Chapter 5, Quotes and Jokes

QUOTES

'Take some time to enjoy the view and look at the beautiful girls'.

'Worry doesn't have to be a problem'.

'They really are beautiful! You're right to think that'.

'Life is not all doing and action. Sometimes, just enjoy the view. And look at pretty girls that are nothing to do with you or your life. As well, it is nothing to do with your life no matter how good or bad your life is'.

'Get real or really die'.

'Don't quit, do it again, quit and do it again and repeat it all again a second or third time. When this is so repetitive, it should tell you something. You can free yourself sometimes just by standing up, looking at your wrists and seeing your manacles are imaginary'.

'Live a little and don't worry life will burst you at the seams. It won't literally'.

'Relax any time you feel a bit stressed. And put work and other worries aside'.

'Computers are a great way to do a creative hobby and to share work online'.

'Break the mould!'

'Don't be the cliché!'

'Think outside the box!'

'Be better than others only expect you to be. This is because you only expect perfection of yourself!'

'Been there, done it, seen the video!'

'Now, it's time for something so much better'.

'Computer dream or go bust!'

'Bust up some paper whilst you are not such a computer-addicted wimp you can't!'

'Success builds on success'.

'Just start. Then, you will often succeed. That is in anything at all'.

'You can only be a success once you have made a start'.

'People feel motivated by the advantages they have for anything they want to do'.

'Not doing negative things will save money as well'.

'What is stopping you putting more effort into doing exercise?'

'Why don't you make more efforts to solve your own minor problems that you have in keeping to a personal health plan? There is no good reason often'.

'You only have excuses'.

'Often, you just need to put your mind to it'.

'You should do just a few simple things. These are to get fitter and healthier'.

'Do keep fit and then your problems are probably over'.

'Life could go back to just like the life you used to have'.

'You may not even remember how bad you felt just a few months after stopping living a negative lifestyle'.

'Starting a keep fit plan or a healthy diet is all you need to do. Problem solved!'

'Tiredness causes stress over trivial problems'.

'Attend to all your health needs and not just exercise'.

'Make time to do anything to do with health. And don't bother with less important things'.

'Improved sleep will help you to do exercise better'.

'When you otherwise know that something is the right thing to do, then you won't do it if you have low self-esteem'.

'Better self-esteem and doing more exercise is in a virtuous circle'.

'Doing exercise and so having a better body will increase your self-esteem and it is guaranteed to do so if nothing else is'.

'Exercise can also help you to stop thinking negative things'.

'Improving self-esteem improves self-care, hygiene, the amount of exercise anyone takes and helps you keep to a diet'.

'People with high self-esteem often do anything better they try their hand at'.

'Exercise motivates you to get to bed early so you are not too tired to do exercise the next day'.

'Better self-esteem and feeling a bit tired from a physical workout means you are often happy to go to bed'.

'You can do some exercise and still read all the books you want in the time left over'.

'Changing your lifestyle to do more exercise, you can live better every day and every minute of the day'.

'Your girlfriend will appreciate knowing someone who does exercise'.

'Also, if you are older, then you can try to get back some of that feeling you had when you were young and healthy and you had no worries'.

'When physically fit, you will have more energy to do anything'.

'Feeling fit improves self-esteem'.

'You can do more if you are physically fit that you want to do'.

'Just do anything that gives you some kind of purpose in life'.

'Start now today and do something about it'.

'Just stop the projects you're working on using your computer to do them'.

LAUGH!

It's a joke you hear. But then, they say, 'many a truth is often spoken in a jest'.

Attractive Counsellor Joke

A man goes to see a counsellor who advertises locally. The counsellor has no medical or other recognized qualification. Yet he is hopeful from what she says in her advert that she can help. She is an attractive woman and she smiles at him a lot. As well, she reassures him that she will help him to talk about anything he likes and as well, she'll help him to get in contact with his feelings.

So he pays his money and talks about all his problems. She wants to hear them. Really, he has no problems or they are only minor. But he comes to depend on her. After some time, he doesn't see how he can cope without her. And he sees her for years and years, for twice a week and for an hour a time. He would dearly love more time, but can't afford the money for it.

Then after two decades of therapy, he comes in and says, "My wife has left me, I've lost my home and my job and my family and friends won't speak to me."

The counsellor says, "What happened to cause all this?"

The man says, "They found my collection of porn mags dating back 20 years."

Was that quite funny? Or was it just a bit peculiar?

Nephew Asks for Advice

Another joke is,

A man says to his uncle, "Can I ask for advice on dating?"

"Yes," says the Uncle, "ask anything you want."

"How do I impress a girl?"

The uncle thinks for a while and says, "First you need to be educated. So get an education."

The nephew goes away and studies for 10 years getting a Ph.D.

Then the nephew comes back and says, "I'm educated but I still can't get a girl."

The uncle says, "You need to have achieved something that other men who want to date her haven't."

So the nephew studies for 10 years again but this time in science. And he makes a new scientific discovery.

However, he comes back to his uncle and says, "I've made a new scientific discovery and I still can't get a girlfriend."

The uncle says, "You have to have a hobby you can say you do other than reading and watching TV."

So the nephew takes his money out the bank and gets a model airplane. After 6 years making model airplanes, he designs and builds his own airplane that breaks a record for model airplanes

Then he comes back and says, "I did what you said, but I still can't get a girl."

The uncle says, "You need to be rich and that will impress her more than other men who are poor who want to date her but who haven't got money."

So the nephew takes another degree, this time in business. And he becomes a millionaire after a year.

Then he comes back and says, "I did what you said, but I still can't get a girl."

The uncle says, "You have to have done something adventurous to impress her."

So the nephew takes climbing lessons. And after some more years, he has climbed some of the highest mountains in the world.

Then he comes back and says, "I did what you said, but I still can't get a girl."

So the Uncle says, "Stop jacking off so much then."

You can guess what 'jacking off' means if you don't know already.

Was that quite funny? Or was it just a bit peculiar?

The End
