Hi, I'm Kale. Today I want to talk about the
Anarchy in Relationship Anarchy. People have
a lot of funny ideas about anarchy in general,
so let's talk about that.
Most of us probably have had very little exposure
to anarchistic principles. It might make you
think of that time in grade school when you learned about the political spectrum. You know,
Karl Marx, communism, Stalinist Russia, and fascist
dictatorships. Anarchism might conjure up ideas about
chaos and violence, burning government buildings
and people in bandannas throwing Molotov cocktails.
So the word anarchy doesn't give you warm,
fuzzy feelings, and you might be asking
'Why exactly do I want that in my relationships?!'.
Let's start with a basic introduction
so we are all on the same page.
Anarchists 
stand against authority.
Basically they don't believe another person
has the right to give them orders,
to make decisions for them, or tell them how to live
their lives. That part sounds good, right?
This idea can make people afraid,
especially if they jump straight to extreme
examples. If there is no authority,
what is to stop someone from committing physical
violence against us?
Although anarchists reject most authority,
there are exceptions. Rather than simply accepting
the power authority has, anarchists ask two questions:
is the authority justified and is it necessary?
Some authority is justified and necessary.
The authority of parents to stop their children
from harming themselves. The authority of
a child to take over their elderly parent's
finances when they are no longer able to deal
with them. The authority of society to stop
a person from committing physical violence
against someone else.
Anarchists also stand against hierarchy.
As you can see by the definition, hierarchies
are synonymous with authority.
By default a person at the top in a position
of power, and people at the bottom who are subordinate to them.
You are probably starting see how a lot of
this is connected to relationship anarchy.
While anarchists stand against authority and
hierarchies, they stand for personal liberty
and autonomy.
This definition really speaks to me about
the deep connection between anarchy .
and relationship anarchy
They both reject the authority of other people
to make decisions for them, including the
people closest to them.
They both highly value autonomy.
 
They reject both hierarchies.
Relationship anarchists reject hierarchies
within their romantic relationships, and don't
don't place primaries over secondaries. They also reject hierarchies in their social relationships,
and don't place romantic relationships above aromantic ones.
These are just a few basic ideas, but you
can start to see how important the Anarchy
in Relationship Anarchy is. If you want to
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