 
I was bullied a lot as a kid
particularly in middle school.
I remember being put in
the trash can in school
and having this thing,
I can't remember
the - what they
were called, they
were four different kids who'd
pull me by each of my limbs,
arms and legs, and tug on me.
And that feeling right
before it happened
when you knew it
was gonna happen,
it's so dehumanizing and scary.
And then for the rest
of the day or, you know,
weeks, often, I would just live
in fear of that happening again
because I didn't feel like
a person when it happened.
Deep down I don't think
anyone wants to be a bully.
I think that what
happens is that it's
a weird social
environment and it
seems like that's
the best way to keep
from getting hurt yourself.
And then if just one
person in that group
is like, wait a second, maybe
we shouldn't do this, maybe -
all of a sudden the
dynamic completely changes.
So I remember that
happening in middle school.
I remember, you know, one person
saying ah, you know, he is a loser
but like we don't have
to like beat him up.
That's - you know, that's - but
that made a huge difference.
Whenever someone steps in and
is like no, that's actually
less cool then you think
it is, like, this is not
- this is not helping
anybody's social status.
All of a sudden it
changes the dynamic.
 
