what's wrong with me like why am I so
lost if I can help all these people why
can't I help myself why am I still
depressed why am i all these things I
look at my channel and I'm like oh the
more I'm helping people the worse I'm
getting yes yes yes yes there's so much
that we can all take from that clip from
the new Shane Dawson video the dark side
of Jake Paul what is everybody this is
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just finished recording another video
about the dark side of Jay Paul but when
this ending happened I'm like I got to
record another video all right so
there's gonna be some spoilers okay but
Shane Dawson sits down with Kati Marton
Kati Morton is a licensed Marriage and
Family Therapist here on YouTube she's
awesome I check out her channel a lot to
get a little bit more information on
different disorders that I talk about
here on my channel and I'm trying to
collab with Kati Morton so if you want
to tweet at her help a brother out
I would love to collaborate it anyways
towards the end he starts realizing that
he is somebody who's trying to fix
people like I'll say this when I was
watching most of this video like most
people so my last video was about like
don't run around trying to diagnose
people or diagnose itself as a sociopath
but as she was talking and like she did
show some Tana clips I was like oh my
god like this sounds like a Tana clip
right but like what you just saw right
there between Shane and Katy is how
therapy helps it helps you realize
things that you maybe didn't realize
like Shane is very empathic right he
feels for other people he feels bad for
other people when people see somebody as
a villain Shane can empathize with them
like empathy is a freaking amazing trait
and I wish I wish more people have
empathy and just cared about everyone
else but there's a point
where
it goes overboard and we become
codependent maybe or we get into bad
relationships but like Shane realizes is
that when he's trying to help others is
hurting himself so I can definitely
relate to what Shane was talking about
as a child so like his mom she was going
through some different struggles but my
mom was an alcoholic and drug okay so
like my my life as a kid was so so happy
actually clean and sober now she's about
to celebrate thirteen years sober
I'm also sober six years but as a child
like seeing her like my mom was two
different ways when she got drunk
homicidal or suicidal like I remember my
mom threatening suicide and everything
like that and when it's when it's your
mom like it's such a difficult spot for
any child of an alcoholic or an addict
you know exactly what I'm talking about
like I loved her and I cared about her
but I hated her at the same time but I
wanted to help her I wanted to fix her
and then I would look at myself like why
can't I fix her you know what I mean so
as I got older and my mom and I had this
rocky relationship I started getting
into relationships with people in my
life who were like my mom okay and this
could be friends this could be
girlfriends okay because that was a
comfort zone like what we've learned as
a child carries on into our adulthood so
what Shane talks about with Katie for
even that brief little bit he taught
they talked about how he's been doing
this since he was a kid he wants to run
around just saving people and fixing
people that is like when I was a kid you
know my mom was going through a lot and
I felt like I had to be strong because
she was like having trouble so it was
always like Oh Shane's my rock
now it's very interesting that he tried
to save and fix the worst of the worst
you know what I mean and that subjective
some people loved Hanna some people
loved Jade Paul and all that kind of
stuff but Shane is drawn to those people
he
amazing ability to look past all of the
bad and find the good in people but
something that shames realizing as he's
starting to learn more about sociopaths
and stuff like that is that he might be
getting manipulated he might be getting
manipulated by these people and now he
needs to sit down and reflect he has to
reflect so if you're somebody who can
relate to some of this stuff like you
really really really got to look at
yourself as well therapy is a great
option a great great great option to
start looking at this stuff or watching
these videos like I make so many videos
about youtubers and things like that to
try to get you to relate to and say Oh
am i doing that okay because we watch
YouTube and other media platforms is
such a passive way like we got to look
and say okay how can I relate to this
how how can I get help what what
relationships in my life are doing this
so I think that a lot of people watching
this not only are they gonna start
looking for sociopaths in their life but
I really hope that you guys are starting
to see what Shane does and I'm glad
Shane talked about therapy now the
second half of this video I'm gonna talk
about how I really hope this happens I'd
like so he says like jokingly like you
know we need to do a series about me
fixing myself
go to therapy myself instead of trying
to give therapy to youtubers like I've
been doing yeah might have to do the
series just about you fixing series geez
some like an actual therapist fixing me
cuz like yeah like absolutely I would
love that and I think that would be his
best series overall like I do my channel
and I am so grateful and fortunate for
every single subscriber but the only
reason I care about subscriber numbers
is cuz I want to get a message out there
so I can help as many people as possible
and if Shane Dawson if Shane Dawson did
a series about him working through the
therapeutic process with a therapist oh
my god like I can only imagine how many
other people would seek out therapy seek
out help find support groups and things
like that like it would inspire so so so
many people like it would just be like
because I'm all about mental health and
trying to help people like that would
just be the best series to me now here's
the thing that the watching Shane for a
while each one of his docu-series and
whenever he does a documentary series he
like kind of like talks about this right
in some way shape or form so like for
example when he was doing the series
with Jeffery star he talked about he's
like you know what I should make a
makeup line you know and we should
document the entire thing I don't know
if he's gonna do it but like when they
just throw things out there so I really
hope I really really hope that Shane
does this but not only that but like
Shane is such an amazing person and
here's the thing that I try to teach the
clients I work with I had to learn this
myself is it's the old airplane analogy
okay you've got to put your oxygen mask
on before you can help anybody else so
if something I mentioned in a different
Jake Paul and Shane Dawson video was
like is Shane enabling people like is
Shane and abling people's behaviors like
whether shame likes it or not he's
giving exposure to these people right
and if Shane's being manipulated then
they're just trying to meet their needs
you know what I mean and in turn Shane
suffering from this so he's going around
he's constant trying to help people he's
trying to costly trying to fix people
costly trying to fix situations like for
example with tannic on a lot of people
notice and talked about how like why
Tana was out like partying the night at
antic on like Shane was like on Twitter
trying to answer questions he was trying
to he was meeting up with fans he was
meeting up with fans who were stuck
outside and stuff like that so like
Shane's mental health is deteriorating
because he keeps trying to clean up
other people's messes you know what I
mean so I hope to see in the rest of
this journey like no care about Jake
Paul I don't care but Shane is such a
good guy and if he can learn to put his
oxygen mask on by working through some
of his issues like he's going to be able
to help so so many more people like you
guys think Shane helps people now if he
can improve his mental health face the
things that he faced in childhood and
processed them and work through them
with a licensed professional he is going
to be such an amazing man like right now
like I know a lot of people thinks he is
at a 10 if Shane goes through this
therapeutic process you're gonna realize
Shane was actually like at a 7 and now
he's out of ten once he goes through
that process so I really really hope
that he meets up with Kati Morton and I
hope and inspires other people if you're
interested in therapy like listen my
channel is supported by better help
online therapy there's a link down in
the description below but literally like
do any type of therapy if you have
insurance and want to go to someone in
your area cool but with better help it's
all online they have a sliding scale so
if you don't make that much it doesn't
cost that much and basically the way it
works is you fill out this entire
questionnaire Shane talked about in his
video and they match you up with a
licensed therapist so if you struggle
with depression and anxiety or PTSD or
borderline personality disorder or
sociopath or narcissistic you know
tendencies or anything like that like
they will match you up with somebody if
you're LGBTQ if you are an addict in
recovery and things like that like give
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but try like just go in fill out the
questionnaire what they do is they match
you up with a licensed therapist I've
had some people tell me like they're you
know they see better help popping up on
all these YouTube channels and stuff
like that and they're kind of like
reluctant to trying better help but as a
mental health advocate
I would never support something that I
didn't believe in my girlfriend uses
better help online therapy and like she
was already amazing but just seeing her
growth and changes and tools that she
has now just working with a therapist
from better health for just a few months
like it is amazing she liked text with a
therapist they have calls they have
video calls her therapist is actually
based here in Las Vegas
so they've met up a few times so like
seeing that right there I absolutely
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make sure you use the link down in the
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channel helps me continue to make these
amazing videos for you all right but if
not if not just please do me a favor do
yourself a favor do your family a favor
do your friends a favor and find a
therapist in your area and start working
through some of your issues especially
especially if you're a codependent fixer
okay but anyways I want to hear up from
all of you down in the comments below
can you relate to Shane Dawson about how
he tries to help people maybe even bad
people and how it kind of messes up his
mental health if you didn't relate to
that let's have a conversation down
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