Never have I ever
gone to school commando.
 
What?
It makes it much easier
changing for gym class.
Okay. Never have I ever
gone skinny-dipping.
 
Oh. Yeah.
You’ve totally gone
skinny-dipping too.
 
No, I haven’t.
Yes, you have.
It was the first time we had sex.
 
Oh yeah!
 
Yeah.
- Yeah, that was great.
- Uh-huh.
 
Okay.
Never have I ever eaten cinnamon
so I taste better for sex.
 
What, like a cinnamon bun?
 
No.
 
Like a cinnamon raisin bagel?
 
No, straight up cinnamon.
 
I like to get my vag spicy.
 
And I appreciate it.
Okay! Never have I ever
performed all the positions
in the Kama Sutra
backwards and forwards.
Like the male positions?
Or the female positions?
Both. I want to be
very ready for sex.
 
Okay. My turn.
Never have I ever felt
less ready for sex.
 
Wait. Why?
Because I don’t go
skinny-dipping,
 
or do cinnamon.
It’s okay! You can eat
pineapple too, you know.
I can’t even spell Kama Sutra,
let alone do it.
That’s okay! There’s no timeline
or requirements or anything.
Yeah! Everyone should have sex
in their own way,
 
at their own pace.
 
Really?
 
Yeah.
But I highly recommend
doing it ziplining.
 
It’s amazing.
 
We should try it.
 
Really? Ziplining?
As the opportunity for your first
sexual experience gets closer, 
it’s normal to wonder
if you’re ready or not.
A number of signals
sent by the body
 
can help you find out.
 
Development of sexual fantasies,
 
growing interest in masturbation,
 
and increasing desire and arousal
are all signs that the body
is more and more ready.
 
But regardless of those signs,
it’s perfectly normal to decide
not to follow them. 
People sometimes
put pressure on themselves
 
to begin being sexually active.
 
For example,
when dating a partner
who is already sexually active,
or when it feels like:
“everybody’s done it except me!”.
To determine what “being ready”
means for yourself,
you can establish
your own criteria.
For instance, do you want it
to be within a relationship?
How long should you know
someone before doing it?
 
You can also ask yourself
where you would
feel comfortable having sex,
and what method of protection
to use for safer sex. 
Thinking in advance about what
you want your first time to be like
helps to make healthy decisions
when the moment comes.
Also, feeling confident
and respected
creates a favorable environment
for a good experience. 
In all cases, both partners
must make sure they’re ready.
Talking about it together
helps respect each other’s pace. 
If any discomfort
or hesitation occurs,
it’s always possible
to slow things down,
to not do certain things
right away,
 
or to just stop.
To have a positive
sexual experience,
the important thing is
to listen to yourself
 
and your partner’s needs.
How will I know when
I’ll be ready for sex?
 
Probably on my honeymoon!
I’ll be very ready to have sex
on my honeymoon.
How do I know
if I’m ready
to be intimate
with my partner?
Basically, it’s just
being at ease.
I think when you’re ready,
you need to find the right person,
and you have to have
the right emotional connection
with that person
in order to be ready.
But then again, it doesn’t
happen overnight.
Feeling respected
and feeling appreciated,
and ready to engage
without feeling any pressure.
I never really knew
that I was ready for sex.
 
I just really wanted it.
 
For me personally,
it’s when I get to this
trust level with the person.
 
When in our intimacy,
I’m able to talk
about more things,
and I feel comfortable
setting boundaries.
I guess it varies
from person to person.
 
But for some people,
it can be when they’ve been
in a solid relationship,
when they feel
comfortable
getting vulnerable
with the person.
But the super
important thing
is knowing
that you’re ready,
and not someone else
telling you that you’re ready.
I think I was about as ready
for sex as you can be,
because there’s not much
you can do
to prepare yourself
for the first time.
I would say I was
ready for sex when...
It was just...
My body felt ready.
I really wasn’t ready
for that experience,
 
that kind of pressure.
Everything around
the experience affected me
way more than
I would have liked it to.
You know you’re ready
when you think about it,
you’re ready to face
what’s going to happen,
whether you’re going
to like it or not,
 
if it’s going to hurt or not,
and you’re ready to
live with the consequences
 
of this happening.
 
And everyone,
all the people who were
close to me at the time,
made a super big deal
out of something
that I was super
uncomfortable with.
I had actually
spoken about it
with the person
I was going to sleep with.
 
We were dating for a while,
 
we were both older...
We’d both discussed that
it was going to happen,
 
and I felt very confident.
You know, nervous,
but confident,
and happy that I was
doing it with somebody
that I really enjoyed
their company.
 
And I felt safe.
