Coming this fall,
the television show
everyone’s talking about,
“So you think you can flirt”.
Three men and three women
compete for one million dollars...
 
- I should be on that show!
- I should be on that show!
- You?
- What? Yeah, me!
I’m a great flirter!
Better than you, anyway!
 
Oh, boy...
 
Better than me?
 
Seriously?
Yeah. You think
you’re better than me?
I could flirt you
under the table.
- Prove it.
- How?
 
I’ll be the judge.
You two each take a turn
flirting with me,
 
then I’ll judge who’s better.
 
Okay, great!
 
I’ll go first.
 
Let’s do it.
 
Okay...
 
Okay, here we go.
 
Hi.
 
I hope this isn’t too weird,
but I saw you sitting there
from across the room
 
and I just had to meet you.
 
My name’s Julian.
 
Leah.
 
Nice to meet you, Leah.
Listen, I hope this isn’t
too presumptuous,
but I would love to have
your phone number
so that I can phone you
and ask you out for coffee.
 
Sure! Why not?
 
Really?
Ah, yeah!
That felt pretty good!
 
Not bad.
 
Very cute, very cute!
 
All right! Rose’s turn.
Okay! That was
a tough act to follow.
 
Hey.
 
Hi!
I hope this isn’t
too forward or weird,
but I just saw you
sitting there,
and I was overcome
with this thought that...
 
No, it’s probably stupid.
 
But I want to be the reason
you look down
at your phone and smile.
 
And then bump into a tree.
Do you want
to get out of here?
 
Yeah.
 
You can let yourself out!
Flirting and seduction
are the means used
 
to get someone’s attention
and check if
attraction is reciprocal.
The goal may be a romantic
or sexual relationship,
but sometimes it’s simply to test
one’s ability to get noticed
 
or to please the person.
More than a question of being
physically attractive or dressing up, 
seduction is mainly based
on attitude and personality.
For example, showing attention,
charm, intelligence or humor
are all elements
that can be seductive.
Seduction is about
making the person understand
that he, she,
or they please you
and also about highlighting
your own qualities.
Complimenting only
someone’s appearance
may give the impression 
that the interest is only physical.
You must make sure
to send the desired message.
 
A stereotypical view of flirting
is that guys should be
active and take the lead
and girls should be
more passive.
In fact, everyone has the right
to do what he or she likes.
As long as everyone is consenting,
people of all genders can seduce
and do it in pursuit of romantic
or sexual relationships. 
In all cases, putting yourself
out there requires courage
because it doesn’t
work every time.
Even if the result
is disappointing,
you shouldn’t doubt
your capabilities
or change only
to please the person. 
 
Wanting to seduce is normal.
And the best way to do it
is to be yourself,
while respecting
the other person.
I’ll be honest, with all the girls
that I’ve been dating,
I always use
the same technique.
I don’t really flirt
all that much.
I’m not really focused
on dating right now.
How do I flirt
with someone?
I’m still trying
to figure it out!
 
Flirting... can be fun.
Though I don’t really know
how to do it very well.
I, as an extrovert,
would say that it’s a drag,
just because I cannot flirt
for the life of me.
For me, I find that
flirting with someone
is a lot about
body language.
It’s a lot about trying
to understand their mind,
 
and who they are.
It’s kind of a playful
getting to know someone.
I’d say flirting is more
complicated for trans people.
If I start flirting
with someone,
there’s that
uncomfortable feeling
that I’m at some point going
to have to tell them that...
You might be
expecting a penis.
 
Don’t expect a penis.
I think the seduction game
is important
when it comes to getting
that person’s attention
and perhaps going
to the next level with them.
I usually build
relationships with people
before I decide if
I want to charm them
or seduce them,
if that makes sense.
I try to get
the person’s attention,
 
introduce myself.
Be interesting,
but not trying to overdo it.
I think when
you approach someone,
it’s fine to try and you should
put yourself out there.
But if you see from
their body language,
like if they’re starting
to shrink away,
or if they’re starting
to look away,
those are all signs that
they might not be interested.
Sometimes, it doesn’t
hurt to be, like, listen...
I’m not really sure
of the signals here.
I would appreciate it
if you would just tell me
 
if you’re interested or not.
 
And then I’ll back off.
- Being up front.
- Yeah!
- It saves everybody so much...
- Communication!
- Use your words.
- Oh my gosh!
 
That’s so hot, too.
If they don’t react positively
to my advances,
I normally back off,
because I tell myself, hey!
There’s other fish
in the sea.
 
It is a skill,
but I think using your own
personality does help.
So I try to be
funny with it.
If the other person
likes it, they like it.
If they don’t then...
Adios!
In most cases, really,
girls are leading the interaction.
 
Let’s be real.
You can try the nicest words
you want to say,
 
if she’s not into it,
 
it’s gonna be, like, next!
 
Yeah. I agree.
Basically, when
I’m attracted to someone,
I’m like, hey, let’s go out!
Let’s go eat!
After eating,
your belly’s full,
you need to get
your heart full,
so you go watch
a movie.
 
It’s dark, you’re close.
You have the perfect spot
to like, you know, a little kiss...
Be like closer, yeah.
You know?
 
If it doesn’t work,
well, you proceed
to part three.
Go for a walk, talk.
Meet the person.
 
Flirting is fun, I think,
if it comes from
a genuine place.
Just respect her the same way
you want to be respected.
Because respect
and being a gentleman
is really important in every
seduction game you want to do.
If you’re going to act
like a different person
to try and
seduce someone
and have them
fall in love with you
 
or like you, whatever...
 
Then...
When they end up
spending time with you
and you end up hanging out with them
for prolonged periods of time,
they’re not gonna
like you for you!
They’re going to see
who you really are and be like:
“What is this?
I didn’t sign up for this!”
It’s false advertising.
Excuse me!
