- Okay, Cori, now you say that Jessie,
that her body language
is scaring me in a way.
How?
- So initially, she's pretty
open, she seems inviting,
but once you start talking to her,
it's like she goes lift.
She'll cut her eyes at you like no other.
She'll roll her eyes.
She might fold her arms.
And if she really's not interested,
like let's say she's a guy,
she will turn towards her
friends, cross her leg,
and do this little uppity hand raise
like why is he talkin' to me.
And nobody wants to talk
to somebody like that.
- Wow.
(all laugh and audience applaud)
Now this is interesting.
So Jessie, where do you
think it is that you're goin'
wrong when it comes to your body language?
- Okay, Cori's right, okay.
I will look at you.
I will fold my arms.
I might even lean away,
give you a little attitude.
'Cause I'm tryin' to figure out...
If you approach me the
wrong way, for example,
you come at me with a "Hey shawty."
Who you talkin' to?
I don't know why you talkin' to me.
You can go on about your business.
But it's all like what
I'm givin' at that moment.
So if you approach me
with an "Excuse miss",
'cause my Daddy raised me right.
I know how I'm supposed to be approached
and because of him, I have
these very high standards.
I'm just giving you back what I receive.
So if you give me somethin'
that I don't like, yes.
I'm tryin' to figure
out who you talkin' to.
- And that's why she's single now.
- Yeah, but see, you just gave it to me.
I ain't givin' none to you.
(all laugh and audience applaud)
Now, okay, Blanca,
based on what you've heard,
what do you think Jessie's doin' wrong?
- She has these high expectations.
So it's her mind-set that if a man
is not gonna approach her respectfully,
by her definition,
then she's gonna shut him off.
She's gonna turn him off.
And that can be a very big mistake.
Because he's tryin' to figure her out.
He's tryin' to figure out
a way to approach her.
So if her mind-set is negative,
her body language is naturally gonna flow,
and it's gonna be negative.
So it makes it hard
for someone to come up.
If she were to, say,
have a different mind-set
and say, alright, let me give
him the benefit of the doubt
and smile and make it more inviting,
she might be surprised
at what might follow.
(audience applaud)
- I like that.
I like that a lot.
Ladies, also, let me say this
to you and all the ladies listenin'.
Do you understand what it takes
for a guy to come up to you
in the first place?
We all have to grapple
with the fact that we could
be facin' rejection.
I think your friend is right
for bringing you here 'cause-
- She mean. (laugh)
(audience laugh)
- I'm nice.
- [Audience Member] No you're not.
- You're nice to who?
- I'm a real bubbly person.
Once you get past-
- [Steve] What?
- I'm so serious.
- [Steve] You a real bubbly person?
- I am so serious, Steve.
- Yeah, you say you're
a bubbly person, when?
Once you get past what?
- If you can get past the uhh.
- If you can get the past the uhh,
it's some bubbles back there?
- It's a whole bunch of bubbles.
It's a bubble field.
I promise.
- Yeah, but that's why you by yourself.
(all laugh and audience applaud)
'Cause we can't get to the bubble field.
See, invitin' a guy into the bubble field
don't mean that you gonna
let him bust the bubbles.
But he gotta at least be able to know
if some damn bubbles back there.
(audience laugh)
That's all it is, man.
Well, this is what we gonna do.
We're gonna put this to the test.
Now over there, we got
a bar set up, alright?
So let's go.
(audience applaud)
Alright, Zack, come on out.
(audience cheer and applaud)
- [Blanca] Hi.
- How you doin'?
- [Blanca] Good, how are you?
- I'm good.
- After the break, we're gonna see how
a few simple changes with
Jessica's body language
can make a world of difference.
So when we come back, we're
gonna find out how this works.
Don't go away.
There's more to this live experiment.
You don't wanna miss it.
(audience cheer and applaud)
(funk music)
