- Hello, my friends.
It is a gorgeous day
here in Ojai, California.
And I would have no idea that
it's a gorgeous day today,
if I had continued to do
the same limiting pattern
that I've been doing for
a couple of years now.
In this video, I'm gonna
be sharing with you
one of the keys of self-care,
that I just applied to my own life.
And it has made such a
difference in my mindset,
in my inner emotional stability,
in my feelings of peace
and gratitude and energy.
Actually having like so much energy,
even when I'm working really,
really hard and long hours.
So if you're not already
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If you want to be continuously supported
in raising your frequency,
growing spiritually,
and having a thriving spiritual business.
I always say your frequency
is your number one job,
which is why I make a lot of
videos on energy and frequency
and how to embody peace,
because I can give you
all of the business,
spiritual business, soul
centered business strategies
in the universe, but
if you don't feel good,
it's gonna be very hard
to sustain success,
to feel energized, to
give something valuable
which is really you.
I was getting caught up in this challenge
in my business, in my life,
because for the last few years,
I've worked six days a week.
To me that was just normal.
We train coaches on Saturdays
and we have workshops on Saturdays.
So it's just,
I love my work and it's
such a joy to do my work.
So I simply found myself
working six days a week
for years and years.
I realized recently that my emotions
and my physical body
were giving me feedback,
saying something is off Veronica.
You gotta change it up,
you gotta change it up.
You have your own business,
you have the power to do this.
So what I'm about to share with you
is going to be especially
supportive for you,
if you've been feeling
really low energy-wise,
maybe even depressed, resentful.
I know I was feeling frustrated,
resentful, anger come up,
which are really healthy signs.
They are feedback.
Our physical body and our emotional body
is constantly giving us feedback.
Whether or not we choose to listen
is entirely up to us,
but the feedback will get
louder until we get it
and we make a change.
The feedback I was
getting was frustration.
Sitting so many hours and
doing a lot of computer work
and not being outside in the
most beautiful place on earth.
One of them and, being indoor so much.
This isn't me whining,
this is just noticing
that I was feeling resentful and anger
because parts of my self-care
practice were slipping away
and everything was so much of my energy
had been going outward, outward, outward
towards clients, towards students,
towards videos, towards content creation,
towards all of our curriculum,
creating, creating, creating social media.
And it wasn't working for me.
I was able to sustain it for a while,
but it's, I've hit that point
where my body has said no more.
And really especially my emotional body.
So the self-care, one of
the keys to self-care,
which is so incredibly valuable.
I'm just assuming that
you already have a self-care practice.
If you don't check out
the videos on my channel
about self-care.
I've had many people
say the video I created,
self-care for life coaches
is really, really amazing for anyone.
So definitely check that out.
One of the keys of self-care is,
at the end of every month,
the last day of the month,
to assess the feedback,
your emotional system
and your physical body has given you.
So maybe it's tense shoulders,
maybe it's indigestion,
maybe it's headaches,
exhaustion, bloating,
maybe it's anxiety.
So then there are emotional
things that could be coming up
like anxiety or depression or anger,
or, rage outbursts or things like that.
I really encourage you to remove
any judgment out of the equation,
and just know that if you're going
through any of these things,
I go through these things
and it's human nature.
It's, it's not a problem.
It's only a problem when we judge it
and we don't get the
insights to change something.
One of the fastest ways to
shift your energy is mindset.
And I've been working with this a lot,
whenever I feel like I
don't want to do something,
I just check myself and instead of saying,
I don't want to do this,
I check my mind and the
complainer in my mind,
and I changed the mindset
to, I get to do this.
Look at your life, and I
do this on a daily basis.
I don't care how challenging it is,
we always have something,
some glimmer of light to,
to really connect with our magnificence,
with our energy, with
love, with inspiration,
and gratitude is so important for that.
But if you find that even the
mindset shifts aren't working,
it's likely that there's a lifestyle shift
or some kind of physical shift,
an action that needs to take place.
So for me, what that was
is working six days a week,
is no longer okay for
me, it's no longer sane.
I've been during this quarantine, COVID,
all of this really looking
at the systems in life
and the things that
people assume are normal,
what I've taken to be as normal.
And one of those things
being working endlessly,
and that's especially true in America.
And that's not, it's not my thing anymore.
It's not why I'm here,
it's not what I choose to do to myself.
When I die, I'm not
gonna look back and go,
God, I wish I worked more.
I'm not going to say
that, let's be honest.
So I'm encouraging you to
really look at the feedback
your life is giving you.
So this is what I want you to do.
Take out a sheet of paper and a pen,
go into sacred space.
Light a candle, put flowers on the desk,
maybe even put some nice
music or get out in nature,
sit under a tree, bring a picnic,
make it a date with yourself
at the end of the month.
And at the top of the
page, I want you to write,
the month that you've just completed,
and just list out the emotional
and physical feedback,
and even the outside feedback.
How, how is your business
doing, your relationship,
your health, your home,
all different areas of your life.
Your finances, how are
you doing in all areas
because that is feedback as well.
And just sort of track,
especially what you have been feeling
physically and emotionally.
And then at the end of
the month, ask yourself,
what are these symptoms,
emotional symptoms,
physical symptoms, communicating to me?
What do they need for me to change?
Or what belief, what am I believing
that's actually the problem,
not my life, but what I'm
thinking about my life?
So you wanna really take
an assessment of what life,
what the feedback is and
create space for yourself.
Has your heart been racing
and shouting at you?
Has your body been exhausted
and asking you to rest and to stop?
Has your digestion been
off telling you that
what you're eating is is exhausting you,
or the stress in your life is too high.
Just start to assess
what with neutral eyes,
with a loving heart,
without making any of this
bad, wrong, good, even, right even
just really looking at
it with neutral eyes,
you're getting feedback.
On a clean sheet of paper,
write the next month
and what you intend to
implement for next month,
given what you've discovered this month.
For me that was, how can I
take more time for myself?
Get out in nature, get off technology,
come into a still mind, go
deeper on my spiritual path.
And for me, that looked
like opening up Friday
so I'm not working on Fridays.
Giving myself a five day
work week instead of six.
It's getting sunny,
hold on a second.
Okay, sunshine, I love you.
Take an assessment at
the end of every month
and notice what it is
that the physical and emotional symptoms
are telling you.
What do you need, what needs to change?
How can you change those things?
We have three options in any situation
that we are not happy with.
Number one is to complain
and moan and bitch about it
all day long and not change anything.
Number two is to accept what's going on
and change our minds about it,
just like I do on a daily basis,
when my mind goes into
complain mode, I'm like,
Vee check yourself, you've
got an amazing life.
I get to do this.
I'm grateful I get to do this.
I love my job, I love my
life, I love my business.
And that's absolutely true.
Or three is to make an actual change,
like a physical change that
feels really enlivening,
energizing on-point with your soul,
and make that change.
It could be a combination of mindset,
which is what I've been
doing for years now,
just being grateful for
the fact that I can work
and I love what I do, and I
love the people I work with,
and our amazing community.
And now I'm adding in some
extra physical changes.
So with that said, the change
I've recently made is that,
Fridays are mine now.
(Veronica laughs)
I no longer work on Fridays.
And the truth is I have things scheduled,
team meetings especially on Fridays,
some of the Fridays of each month
through the end of the year.
But that's okay,
at least I have two,
three Fridays a month now
that I'm taking for myself on,
in addition to Sunday.
So as soon as I made that decision
and I changed my calendar,
I cannot tell you the energy,
the joy, the inspiration,
the love, the zest for life again,
as soon as I made that decision,
because nobody's going to do it for you.
One of the keys of self-care is to realize
that nobody is gonna make
space for you to feel good.
It's up to you.
Nobody is gonna come swoop down
and save you from your life,
it's up to you.
Nobody is gonna walk in your door and say,
hey, your mindset is off track.
Let's clean that up.
Nobody's gonna do that for you.
So it's up to us to make the space,
to look at the feedback life is giving us,
our emotions are giving us,
our mind our physical
bodies are giving us,
and listen deeper.
I'm working with an
amazing woman right now,
who's having heart
palpitations and it's intense,
but she hasn't been listening
for 30, 40, 50 years
of her life to the symptoms in her body,
to her emotional, to her needs.
And so now every time her
heart is beating like that,
she's getting medicine.
She's getting this knock at
the door from inside saying,
please make space for me, please listen.
Stop putting everyone else first.
She's, she's a classic martyr
where she puts everyone else first,
then now she's awakening
into self-care and self-love,
which is so beautiful.
So these things aren't
tragic, they're not terrible,
they are communication.
Your body never lies.
It always tells the truth
always a 100% of the time.
So that is even more reliable
than emotional feedback.
So just check with your body and notice
what you actually need,
in order what your body needs,
in order to flourish, to thrive.
For me, it's coming out in nature,
getting off technology,
basking in the sun,
getting sunshine, water,
swimming in the water,
breathing in fresh air,
getting my feet on, the rocks
and, and just feeling nature,
which is one of our best resources.
So one of the keys of
self-care is to end of month,
every single last day of every month,
assess the feedback you've
received for the month.
How were you feeling emotionally?
What was going on physically
for you health-wise?
What was the feedback life was giving you?
Were you having arguments?
Are your finances all over the place?
Are your relationships intact?
Really assess things with neutral eyes,
and instead of getting down
on yourself, get excited
because life is communicating with you
and now you get to listen and respond.
Write it in your calendar now,
that every month you have
a date with yourself,
a self-love date, where
you assess the month
and prepare for an even
brighter and better next month.
The power is in your hands.
Step-by-step to make changes,
little steps over time,
little changes over time,
amount to a magnanimous life
when they're in the direction of your soul
and your heart's guidance.
I love you guys so much.
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could use some self-care.
Now is the time to keep
our frequency strong,
to take extra good care of ourselves,
and make the space
necessary to listen deeply
and respond to the wisdom
we find from within
and bring it out into our world.
I love you guys,
I'll see you in the next video.
(gentle music)
Get out in nature.
Truly you guys,
I promise you will thank me.
