there's a myth that any man knows how to
approach any woman in any situation and
wrong men are terrified to approach
women nothing more intimidating than
seeing a woman you want to speak to and
she's over there you probably flock by
one or two maybe five of your
girlfriends so a guy has to walk across
the room make that walk knowing that the
women on on either side are judging him
go in and have to say the right thing at
the right time to get your attention to
get you to break away from your friends
to have a conversation oh my god that is
pressure and then when you say no or
thank you or whatever he has to make the
walk of shame those are all the things
that are going through a man's mind you
want guys to approach you and take that
risk you got to take some of the fear
out of it or else you're gonna remain
unapproachable so let's start with
number one your body language stand
around like this
if you look like you're you have to look
approachable closed off face you know
you're not smiling not making eye
contact you're not open all kind of
things
send cues and you not may not even
notice it a guy is looking at you but
we're looking from across the room and
we're looking for subtle cues that say
whether or not this woman is
approachable it's just simply
approachable if you're not approachable
a guy's more likely I'm not gonna say uh
I'll pass
you know I'll wait for someone else now
you have to really check yourself your
body language lady says a lot your
facial expressions yeah is your face
like this most the time a guy wants to
approach a woman not another man we
don't need don't be mean muggin all the
time yes smile smile smile smile your
facial expression says so much even when
you don't think of guys looking at you
and if this is if this starts a great on
your nerves a little bit it may be
because it's true for you so check it
because if you're if you if you ask
yourself why we're all the good men why
aren't guys approaching me these are
just some of the reasons why from guys
I've talked to simple as that you
underdressed yeah right man's not
approaching you are you dressed the way
you like I said you attract what you
present and project if you're
underdressed your hairs in a snatch back
or in a ponytail you got you know you
don't look like you put on any lipstick
or lip gloss until you put on a whole
face go beat your face but I'm like you
have to look feminine and know and
womanly a guy is going to associate that
with somebody who is who is available
but if you're walking around in sweats
or yoga pants and a t-shirt and the bulk
happens and tennis shoes
uh well you might ground maybe out
somebody's wife for a mine cuz you know
we associate that with that Mercy's off
the market and also if you're dressed
that down we're like she may be cool to
hang out with but I don't want that as
my woman Real Talk ladies I know some
people don't want to hear it but that's
what we meant think and that's what guys
have told me they don't always tell you
because I don't want to run a risk of
ticking you off you come here because
you want the truth guys look at that
if you underdressed it is a bad sign
no there's no such thing as being really
open that yes you can't be truly
overdressed but we're talking
glamorously overdressed but trust me err
on the side of dressing well instead of
dressing down because you're attracting
you're going to get the kind of guys
approaching you that you present how you
present your image is what's going to
come to you
also you're unapproachable it's easy to
do these days
everybody has a smartphone a tablet or
whatever so if you're doing this all the
time
you talking to somebody you do this
sudden something if your honor that's a
hair down a guy is like double dutch for
men we're looking for an opening but if
you're always on your smartphone looking
down such and so forth and you and even
when you look up you're distracted we're
like well I don't want to bother her
she's kind of busy because he's already
got to make that walk and get through
all this other stuff a guy walks over to
you and you're busy the worst thing a
guy who wants to even if you're not
surrounded by anybody like I great she's
myself I can approach her got your hair
down he has to ask herself she know her
business is that personal what's going
on huh then he walks over and if he does
walk over and excuse me but nobody wants
to do that if you out in public
put the smartphone down be present be
present that is the best thing I can
tell you be present
you can check snapchat your email text
messages another time if you out in
public you have an opportunity to be
around other people take advantage but
these things are like that gum safety
blankets and they're keeping people away
I can't I could go a long time about
this one but ask guys who are not
attached to you know tell you there's
nothing more unapproachable than a woman
doesn't send to see first off you're not
smiling anything you're looking down
here you just look like I can't be
worried and it here's the thing what
that says to man is you're not gonna be
have time for me either I call you not
gonna answer I try to talk to you you're
gonna be too busy so let me go on over
here to somebody else who is more
willing and open um you're in the wrong
places yeah you're in the wrong places
if you keep getting the wrong kind of
guys you got to check the places you go
to ask yourself what do you like to do
do you like to dance or go where people
dance do you like the paint will go or
people paint are you religious go to
church but that people who like to do
what you do are going to be out doing
those things you want people who are
living life but if you're going to the
same places and getting the same kind of
guys you're going to the wrong places
you got to try new things and this is
what's hard for a lot of people we don't
want to get outside of our comfort zone
and ladies in particular you don't like
going places by yourself so you need
someone to go with you so you don't feel
so out of place so you got to get two or
three people to go or at least one and
if they're not willing to go that you
sit in your house or you're just doing
the same thing where you're comfortable
you know insanity is doing the same
thing over and over again and expecting
different results go into the salon
places is one of the biggest a language
oh my goodness
I can tell some stories but I won't
there's nothing worse as a man who's
trying to look for a woman to date and
you see a woman that you find attractive
that's the first thing we look at
attractive and you get close and you
hear this sailor talk coming out of her
mouth this my big did I'm the baddest bi
that whoa no no no no no no no no oh
heck no that may be cool with you and
your girls that may be what's on the
radio right now that maybe will popular
culture is telling you but let me tell
you something men do not want to hear
vulgarity spewing out of your mouth
period point blank in the sentence I've
already had people come in on the other
video yeah it's okay to curse at the
right time in the right places hit me up
in the comments section I'll tell you
what it is but it's not in public we
don't want a woman is what I'm talking
like a man if you have a foul mouth
woman yeah you may be cool with your
boys from high school or college or from
around the way but hey unless you go
marry them and asking kids to move on to
live on then he gonna cut it no man
wants a foul-mouthed woman just it's
just first off you have a foul mouth
first I'll pick don't think his wait a
minute she may turn that foul mouth on
me I don't want to deal with it
number two she may talk to me like that
in public I don't want to deal with that
she may say let something like that
around my family that's embarrassing she
may say like something like that around
my co-workers and that's hampering my
career she may sail up something like
that around my kids or people who I need
to gain influence with she does not know
how to handle herself in public if
you're doing it in public that means
you're okay with it if you're okay and
he's not he's not able to approach you
so ultimately these things should be
pretty much common sense but we've
gotten so lacks in our society today to
a lot of these things are just kind of
forgot about and I see so many women who
asked me what are the rules in dating in
this
then why are guys approaching me a lot
of times you have to look approachable
ladies men want to approach you
the art of courting are you portable
chess is a two-way street you have to
look open approachable and pleasant and
a guy and the trust me the women who do
this have guys approaching them and what
I hear more often tonight is the women
who go not getting approached when they
hear these things I'm not gonna be some
fake sob such and so forth okay well
peace I am woman hear me roar roar buy
yourself a lioness with no pride it's
not a good thing to the next time
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