homeboy so if you're wondering who got
canceled today
it was contrapoints and it was by her
own community and we definitely have
some things that we need to discuss
today when it comes to canceled culture
outraged hate mobs and all that stuff so
stay tuned what is up everybody this is
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bell yeah once again we are going to be
talking about cancel culture so those of
you who have been around for a while I
talk a lot about mental health check
this out like if you are freaking out
online at strangers people you've never
met this is also a mental health issue
if you are losing sleep if this is
consuming part of your day like you
really need to take a step back and
reevaluate yourself like this is one of
the reasons why cancel culture is so
toxic it's not just the people getting
cancelled it's everybody participating
in it like when I watched the members of
the hate mob going at it I'm like what's
going on in your life where you are
spending this much time and emotional
energy and all that anyways before I
jump into this topic before I forget my
brand new book cancelled inside YouTube
cancer culture is out now it's available
in both ebook and audiobook format and
it is down in the pin comment down in
the description down below so if you
want to deep dive into YouTube cancer
culture I share a bit of my experience
talk about a bunch of other stories that
have gone on in the YouTube community
and offer some solutions alright so yeah
those of you who don't know culture
points is a pretty pretty large youtuber
on the platform I don't really watch her
channel if I'm being honest but she is a
trans woman right and she has done a lot
speaking up for the LGBTQ community
and everything like that and she has
some opinions that people disagree with
much like someone like Blair White right
well anyways I just see my my twitter
feed this morning blowing up everybody
talking about culture points
it was trending on Twitter and I'm like
what timeout what what is happening who
is being canceled today so it all
started with this series of tweets and I
don't know why but I couldn't find what
she was replying to but with her series
of tweets you can kind of see what
happened alright so culture points
Natalie Wynn she says I'm friends with a lot
of Gen Z trans people and I'm often
grouped in with them because I'm very
online and I transition not that long
ago but my experience is very different
I'm not a vanguard Zoomer Tran I
sometimes feel like the last of the
old-school transsexuals but I also
understand why a lot of trans people who
just want to blend in are frustrated
with the new visibility and with the
radicals I'm feeling fearful myself
about the future of trans acceptance and
I understand the desire to be invisible
tolerated and safe but now you go into
these leftist discord Facebook groups
and like 20 to 30 percent identify as
some flavor of trans most of them are
not conventional binary transsexuals
that seems to be the future and if you
like me you read that and you're like
okay there's four opinion but if you
like people who freaked out
this caused conscience
to leave Twitter today because she got
mobbed by people of her own community so
in this video I'm like my opinion on
this matter doesn't matter all right
like but the thing is we got to look at
people being outraged over opinions and
and like how how people tear apart their
own cause from the inside so you guys
for the love of God for the love of God
if you
witnessing what is happening in the
world today with canceled culture with
outrage and hate mobs do yourself a
favor and please go get the book the
coddling of the American mind by
Jonathan hate okay
like I just finished that book it was
recommended by the other youtuber dr.
Mike phenomenal guy and yeah like you
guys here's one of the biggest issues in
the world today and this is something
that you know that is one of the reasons
why I got cancelled right like you guys
just because you have different opinions
doesn't mean you freak out on somebody
else okay like watching people call a
trans woman transphobic for that comment
is mind blowing like whose here's a
thing like we have such selfish
self-centered creatures that we think
our experience is the only experience
she was sharing her experience and her
opinion and people lost us sending
insane tweets and getting bombarded
until she actually left Twitter alright
so something that the book the coddling
of the American mind talks about
throughout the book is CBT methods
alright so those of you who don't know
CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy
alright it is one of the best
evidence-based therapies and what it's
designed to do is help you to catch
cognitive distortions
all right cognitive distortions are the
crazy lies that your brain tells you all
right it makes you freak out over things
or it makes you have black and white
thinking alright one of the problems
with these outrage mobs is that they are
just rage filled with cognitive
distortions and no therapists or
psychologists any mental health
professional in the right mind would
allow you to play into those cognitive
distortions let me play this scenario
out for you all right
Concha points shared her opinion on
Twitter okay thousands of people got
angry
just freaking out about her now imagine
one of those people going into a
therapist and saying oh this this woman
I've never met on Twitter said this
thing that I disagree with and I'm so
angry she is an awful person she's
transphobic and everything like that
now the therapist or psychologist has
one of two options they can challenge
your cognitive distortions or play into
them you tell me which one sounds better
option a is that they challenge those
thoughts and say okay is this person
really a bad person
what evidence do you have they reply and
you say okay so since they have a
different opinion than you this makes
them a bad person and it causes the
person to step back and really question
their thoughts right and their feelings
and their emotions okay option two is a
therapist or psychologist playing into
the cognitive distortions well I'm
saying you're right that person has a
different opinion than you they're a bad
person they're an evil person they
shouldn't even be online that trans
woman is actually transphobic and she's
destroying everything that the LGBT
community has worked for wait that
sounds silly like you guys this is a
practice that you guys can do like I
know a lot of people are lacking
financially or lacking health insurance
and you might not have the ability to go
see a therapist get a book and do some
research on cognitive behavioral therapy
you can do these things on your own like
recently I read an entire book on rebt
which is rational emotive behavioral
therapy and that is another therapy
that's all about challenging your
thoughts with being rational and logical
all right so here's here's the thing
like when the hate mob comes out we
cancel culture is in full force the
people who participate in it they
they're either one of two things all
right they're either blatantly lying
okay but I choose to be an optimist or
they're extremely ignorant and they
don't really understand so let me read
to you
one of these tweets but this is just an
example this is all over Twitter and it
happens every single time someone is
getting bombarded by the hate mob but it
said this sorry to see her go but still
if you're going to be popular you have
to learn how to take criticism better
and not let people run you off like this
is like I said it's either a lie or it's
complete ignorance and again it goes
back to that selfish self-centered way
of thinking that we have people believe
like oh what are they what are they so
why are they upset like they're just
getting criticized like this blows my
mind like when it happened to me like I
was getting death threats my mom was
getting death threats right and people
like you just can't take criticism like
what what and people try to use
attacking people online as criticism
like death threats name-calling right
labeling people as transphobic or racist
or Nazis like I hate to break it to you
but that is not criticism okay insults
do not equal criticism I've been
replying to more people in my youtube
comments like some guy started out his
comment to me you dumb F right and then
he goes on to say how he disagrees with
me like think about that for a second do
you expect anybody to take your
criticism seriously when you come out
swinging when you come out punching
right but here's the other example I
want to give when you get bombarded by
the online hate mob it's not all
criticism what happens is it's a
snowball effect it starts out something
small like people were going after the
tweets as she said but then then it
turned into this fun culture points fact
of the day if you assume that every one
of her patrons contribute the lowest
possible tier contra points makes two
hundred twenty eight thousand dollars a
year from patreon alone then someone
says I think there are better criticisms
of contract
and how much she makes on patron which
is not to say this can't inform a strong
criticism just on its own then somebody
else replies hoarding wealth for mostly
if not completely for oneself isn't
extremely wrong then and then they say a
lot of people donate one dollar then
somebody else replies the poem is that
nobody realistic aliy needs that much
maybe if contra took some and gave the
rest to her show maybe that is a little
better but since we don't know where the
money goes it is assumed that money goes
directly back to her this is another
issue with canceled culture it starts
over here and then it turns into
something completely different you see
this every single time like with what
happened with James tall's you saw it
start with oh he's a bad friend he
promoted a competitor's product then it
turned into he's a sexual predator right
you're seeing it happen right now now
that people all amped up and like what
else can we complain about and here's
the thing one of the rules of canceled
culture ice talked about this in my book
is that you talk about how much money
that person makes alright and you assume
the worst in them okay and this this is
also an issue like you're going to
constantly be angry in your life if
you're constantly assuming the worst so
let's talk about this real quick okay
again I'll play the optimist let's say
that culture points actually donates a
lot of that money to I don't know LGBTQ
causes right we don't know that for
certain but let's say that she does okay
how would you know does she have to
disclose that well here's what cancel
culture gets you if she was out there
gloating about it people say oh you're
just doing this to get a positive
attention and things like that
like many MUA in his comeback video you
just had to talk about that he talked
about how he's afraid to talk about the
charities he works with because the hate
mob will criticize him for that like
think about that one of the issues with
cancel culture is that often times
there's no winning alright so anyways
when this happened there are some people
who are speaking up about this such as
the quarter ring or Chris Reagan and
they talk about as you can see these
tweets even though they disagree with
her like they think it's messed up what
happened alright and this is what I
really want people to pay attention to
like you see so many people as your
enemies but look and see what what they
really think right because you have
people like Chris Reagan and the
quartering who although they disagree
with culture points they would never
want her canceled or deep platform yet
the people within her own community are
trying to do that and labeling her a
transphobic like you guys we can
disagree with somebody without wanting
them to be completely off the platform
alright so one of the last things that I
want to talk about is and it's talked
about a lot in the coddling of the
American mind and it's part of cognitive
distortions - all right our brain tells
us that everything we feel is true and
if you call someone out on that they say
that you're in validating their their
feelings right which is absolutely
mind-blowing like if you even took like
five minutes of a psychology class you
would know that humans are extremely
emotional irrational beings so this new
kind of thing where people think that
all of their feelings need to be
validated is nuts like if my son is
afraid that there's a monster in his
closet why am I gonna go play into that
right am i saying no there's not like
what if my son came to me and said oh my
god dad you're invalidating my feelings
right I'd be like what now think about
this for a second like this is something
that really bothered me it's bothered me
since the talk to Westbrook and James
Charles situation because Gabriel Zamora
came out and said like this isn't a big
deal it's not that big of a deal so what
he promoted a competitor's brand and
Totti Westbrook went off saying how dare
you invalidate my feelings right like
you guys sometimes we need our feelings
invalidated less less
play this game alright let's say you're
standing in line at a grocery store and
somebody walks past you and accidentally
bumps your shoulder and you lose it
because you feel that that person
disrespected you on purpose and they
hate you and they're just an evil person
even though it was an accident
should we play into your feelings like
that our feelings are not always facts
we feel a lot of ways that are not true
ok so we need to get out of that mindset
like oh my god people are invalidating
our feelings like what I try to teach
people is to check in with yourself
because we get so offended when other
people try to call us out on it but we
really need to be checking in with
ourselves and say ok is my emotional
reaction to this situation proportional
to what just actually happened and
actually the last thing I want to talk
about is listen one of the things that
I've seen for years now and I truly
believe it's why the 2016 elections
happened the way they did and why I'm
worried going into 2020 it's because we
tear ourselves apart from the inside all
right like we're all fighting for
something but we just whip each other to
shreds and that's what you see what
contre points like she is trying to make
strides forward with the LGBTQ community
right and people within her own
community are trying to cancel her and
deep platform her even though they
should be a lying with her and maybe
just have conversations rather than
losing their mind and I say this as
somebody who is a mental health advocate
and addiction recovery advocate and all
these things I see it happen all the
time people within the mental health
community like why do you guys think I
rebranded like mental health has become
such a touchy subject
you can't even disagree a prime example
is a few months ago I made a couple of
videos with my opinions about suboxone
and oh my god people actually made
videos saying that
my opinions are going to get people
killed
like I look at that and it's just like
are you serious right now are we really
being serious like listen just because
we have different opinions doesn't mean
we take it to extremes this is a
cognitive distortion called
catastrophizing all right when we blow
things way out of proportion
and our mind goes to crazy places
anybody who struggles with anxiety you
know how our brain likes to do that and
it's completely the opposite of
cognitive behavioral therapy to play in
to those crazy thoughts so calm down
have disagreements and debates with
people without freaking out all right
like I saw this happen today and I'm
just like this stuff needs to end and
I'm going to cover it more and more and
more this is a mental health topic
because we're never going to solve
anything
we're going to live these miserable
lives if we keep becoming outraged over
the slightest things like difference of
opinion alright anyways like I said my
brand-new book
cancelled inside YouTube cancel culture
is out now if you want to check that out
down in the description down to the pink
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