
English: 
Contagious empathy
is automatic while cognitive empathy requires effort
and can be trained and expanded.
What is empathy?
Empathy is feeling together,
understanding what the other feels
or, more deeply,
feeling like the other. 
Empathy is one of the bridges
between selfishness and altruism.
Contrary to many beliefs, empathy is a natural ability for humans and other animals,
many other animals.
The empathy that is proven to be present in other animals is what we call contagious empathy;

English: 
Empathy
contagious is that automatic, or cognitive empathy, it requires effort
but can be trained and expanded.
What is empathy?
Empathy is feeling together,
be
understanding what the other feels
or, more deeply,
feeling like the other. 
Empathy is one of the bridges
between selfishness and altruism.
Contrary to many people's beliefs, empathy is a natural ability for both humans and other animals,
many other animals.
This empathy that is proven to be present in other animals is what we call contagious empathy;

Portuguese: 
A empatia
contagiosa é aquela automática, já a empatia cognitiva, ela requer esforço
mas pode ser treinada e ampliada.
O que é empatia?
Empatia é sentir junto,
seja
compreendendo o que o outro sente
ou, mais profundamente,
sentindo como o outro. 
A empatia é uma das pontes
entre o egoísmo e o altruísmo.
Ao contrário do que muitos pensam, a empatia é uma capacidade natural tanto para os seres humanos quanto para os outros animais,
muitos outros animais.
Essa empatia que é comprovadamente presente em outros animais é o que a gente chama de empatia contagiosa, ela

English: 
is automatic, it does not require effort, it happens.
So what is a good example of this?
Imagine someone closing the car door on their fingers ... we
automatically contracts the body and we imagine and almost feel the pain
like the other. 
The word empathy comes from the Greek, but it has been forgotten for hundreds of years.
and it was reused at the beginning of the last century.
Today, empathy is a slogan,
she is on the agenda
since primary school
until the construction of leadership. 
The alpha male and his association 
with aggression and violence
is a legend because both in our world and in the animal world
the great leaders are extremely empathic and, even after they have been deprived of power,
they are cared for with extreme affection for their group.

English: 
it is automatic, it does not require effort, it happens.
So what is a good example of it?
Imagine someone closing the door on their fingers...
we automatically contracts our muscles and we imagine and almost feel the pain
like the other. 
The word empathy comes from the Greek, but it has been forgotten for hundreds of years.
and it was back at the beginning of the last century.
Today, empathy is mandatory,
she is everywhere
from primary school
to the leadership development. 
The alpha male and his association 
with aggression and violence
is a legend because both in our world and in the animal world
the great leaders are extremely empathic and, even after they have been deprived of power,
They are cared for with affection for their group.

Portuguese: 
é automática, ela não requer esforço, ela acontece.
Então, um bom exemplo disso o que é?
Imagina alguém fechando a porta do carro sobre os dedos... a gente
automaticamente contrai o corpo e a gente imagina e quase sente a dor
como o outro. 
Ao que tudo indica, a palavra empatia vem do grego, mas ela ficou esquecida por centenas de anos
e ela voltou a ser utilizada no começo do século passado.
Hoje, a empatia é uma palavra de ordem,
ela está presente na agenda
desde a escola primária
até a construção da liderança. 
O macho alfa e a associação dele 
com agressividade e violência
é uma lenda porque tanto no nosso mundo quanto no mundo animal
os grandes líderes são extremamente empáticos e, mesmo depois de desprovidos de poder,
eles são cuidados com extremo carinho pelo seu grupo.

English: 
We humans can still be more empathic, an empathy that requires effort,
but with training we can broaden our empathic circle. So this empathy
which is cognitive,
it can be from
train the
understand what the other feels
and,
also, to train to feel as the other feels. 
Since it is possible to train empathy, the question is:
it's possible
Empathize with everyone all the time?
No, anyway! It's impossible...
How does this work?
And here comes the first two tips so that we can be more empathetic. The first tip is
to be autoempático, because being autoempático we try to know our weaknesses,
strengths and recognize our limits.

English: 
We humans can still be more empathic, an empathy that requires effort,
and with training we can broaden our empathic circle. So this empathy
which is cognitive,
it can be from
training to
understand what the other one feels
and,
also, training to feel like the other one. 
Since it is possible to train empathy, the question is:
Is it possible
to empathize with everyone all the time?
No, anyway! It's impossible...
How does it work?
And here comes the first two tips to be more empathetic. The first tip is
to be self-empathic, because being self-empathic we get to map our weaknesses,
strengths, and recognize our limits.

Portuguese: 
Nós seres humanos podemos ainda ser mais empáticos, uma empatia que exige esforço,
mas que com o treino a gente pode ampliar o nosso círculo empático.  Então, essa empatia
que é cognitiva,
ela pode ser desde
treinar a
compreender o que o outro sente
e,
também, treinar a sentir como o outro sente. 
Já que é possível treinar empatia fica a pergunta:
é possível
empatizar com todo mundo o tempo todo?
Não, de forma alguma! É impossível...
Como é que isso funciona?
E aí vêm as duas primeiras dicas pra gente poder ser mais empático. A primeira dica é
ser autoempático, porque sendo autoempático a gente tenta conhecer os nossos pontos fracos,
pontos fortes e reconhecer nossos limites.

English: 
And then comes the second tip that is to be selective.
What does that mean? Recognizing our limits help us choose
with whom
empathize and when to empathize, because this training of cognitive empathy
requires effort, and this effort costs a lot to our brain and that is why we can not empathize
with everyone all the time.
Blocking empathy is also important. 
For example...
we will rarely see a mother or a father who are doctors
operating their own children because it is  impossible
to block the empathy of very close people,
putting at risk the professional activity.

English: 
And then we can have the second tip that is to be selective.
What does that mean? Recognizing our limits we can choose
with whom
empathize and when to empathize because why this training of empathy
cognitive, it requires effort, and this effort costs dear to our brain and that is why we can not empathize
with everyone all the time.
Blocking empathy is also important. Think of professions, for example ...
we will rarely see a mother or father who are doctors
operating their own children because it is virtually impossible
block the empathy of people very close,
putting at risk the professional activity.

Portuguese: 
E aí a gente pode ter a segunda dica que é ser seletivo.
O que significa isso? Reconhecendo nossos limites nós podemos escolher
com quem
empatizar e quando empatizar porque porque esse treinamento da empatia
cognitiva, ele exige esforço, e esse esforço custa muito caro para o nosso cérebro e é por isso que a gente não pode empatizar
com todo mundo o tempo todo.
Bloquear a empatia também é importante. Pense em profissões, por exemplo...
raramente vamos ver uma mãe ou um pai que são médicos
operando seus próprios filhos porque é praticamente impossível
bloquear a empatia de pessoas muito próximas,
colocando em risco a atividade profissional.

Portuguese: 
Outros exemplos são: advogados, terapeutas. 
E a terceira dica é estar aberto a novas narrativas
E o que significa isso? Ao que tudo indica,
nós seres humanos
aumentamos nosso círculo empático com a invenção da imprensa
que trouxe a expansão da leitura. 
Isso tudo aconteceu
antes da revolução francesa
e uma das melhores hipóteses
que explica a nossa crescente preocupação com os direitos humanos
está justamente na expansão da leitura, mas hoje
a gente não tem apenas a leitura para poder ampliar o nosso círculo empático. Nós temos também o cinema, a TV
assim como todas as narrativas que são proporcionadas pela internet.
E então a última dica que é a quarta dica é
ser genuíno e por que ser genuíno? Porque nós somos máquinas de detectar traidores.
Então aquele chefe autoritário, aquele amigo

English: 
Other examples are: lawyers, therapists. 
And the third tip is to be open to new narratives
And what does this mean? 
It seems that
we humans
have increased our empathic circle with the invention of the press
which brought the expansion of reading. 
This all happened
before the French revolution
and one of the best theories
to explain our growing concern about human rights
is the expansion of reading, but today
we do not have only books to expand our empathic circle. We also have the cinema, the TV
as well as all the narratives that are provided by the internet.
And then comes the last tip that is the fourth one...
be genuine! and why? 
Because we are machines to detect traitors.
Then that authoritarian boss or that narcissist friend

English: 
Other examples are: lawyers, therapists. 
And the third tip is to be open to new narratives
And what does this mean? It seems,
we humans
we have increased our empathic circle with the invention of the press
which brought the expansion of reading. 
This all happened
before the French revolution
and one of the best chances
which explains our growing concern about human rights
is precisely in the expansion of reading, but today
we do not just read to expand our empathic circle. We also have cinema, TV
as well as all the narratives that are provided by the internet.
And then the last tip that is the fourth tip is
be genuine and why be genuine? Because we are machines to detect traitors.
Then that authoritarian boss, that friend

English: 
who has learned some techniques to become empathic which is a false empathy and, therefore, a pseudo
empathy to try to gain something, (s)he will not be able to fool us for long. So it's not worth to
make use of empathy as a strategy, it needs to be genuine to really be effective and to really
establish a more constructive communication. It's good to stay away from narcissists and authoritarians and manipulators.
The most difficult is to detect psychopaths
but they are rare. Getting away from these types,
it becomes much easier to choose who to empathize with and how to be genuine in empathy.
 
Therefore,
to be auto-empathic,
to be selective, to be open to new narratives, and to be genuine is
the best way
to develop our self-knowledge,

English: 
narcissist who has learned some techniques to become empathic which is a false empathy and therefore a pseudo
empathy to try to win something from us, he will not be able to fool us for long. So it's not worth it
empathy as a strategy, it needs to be genuine to really be effective and to really
more constructive communication. It's good to stay away from narcissists and authoritarians.
manipulators. The most difficult is to detect psychopaths
but they are rare. Getting away from all of them,
it becomes much easier for us to choose who to empathize with and how to be genuine in empathy.
 
Therefore,
be auto-empathic,
to be selective, open to new narratives, and being genuine is the way to
best
develop our self-knowledge,

Portuguese: 
narcisista que aprendeu algumas técnicas para se fazer de empático que é uma empatia falsa e, portanto, uma pseudo
empatia para tentar conquistar alguma coisa da gente, ele não vai conseguir nos enganar por muito tempo. Então, não vale a pena
usar da empatia como uma estratégia, ela precisa ser genuína para realmente ser efetiva e para realmente
conseguirmos ter uma comunicação mais construtiva. É bom ficar longe dos narcisistas e dos autoritários
manipuladores. O mais difícil é detectar psicopatas
mas eles são raros. Ficando longe de todos eles,
fica muito mais fácil a gente escolher com quem empatizar e como ser genuíno na empatia.
 
Portanto,
ser autoempático,
ser seletivo, estar aberto a novas narrativas e ser genuíno é o caminho para
melhor
desenvolvermos o nosso autoconhecimento,

English: 
expand the way we see the world and better connect with others. 
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Portuguese: 
ampliar a forma como nós vemos o mundo e melhor nos conectarmos com os outros. 
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English: 
to expand the way we see the world, and to better connect with others. 
What do you think about this?
Tell us here in the comments ...
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receiving new reflections, new questions, new knowledge ...
