a simple step most of us are missing
when it comes to our own improvement
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information about it I was actually
thinking about calling this video what's
wrong with positive thinking
I don't naturally think of everything in
a positive way I know people who are
like that and I believe they're genuine
they just have a very natural
disposition for being positive but if
you're like me and I think most people
we have to really work at this but this
can also cause a problem and that is we
often will actually fake being positive
how many times has something bad or
negative happen to you where you felt
maybe inadequate or hopeless and because
you knew that you were supposed to think
positively about it like that was the
tool to use you applied positivity to it
did it work it probably didn't what's
even worse when it doesn't work it might
make us feel even more inadequate and
even more hopeless because it seems like
it's working for everybody else it works
for all these gurus out there who are
saying just think about it positively
but it's not working for me so it might
actually make you feel worse but there's
good news I'm happy to say and that is
all you did was just miss a very
important step the important step the
key here is acceptance acceptance of the
situation you're in acceptance of the
circumstances you're in but more
importantly acceptance of yourself
self-acceptance and acceptance of the
feelings that you're experiencing and
because this doesn't normally feel good
when the head things happen to us we
immediately look for a distraction and
if you're in the personal development
and self-help and self-improvement
positive thinking becomes a very
convenient and accessible tool but the
problem is we're not actually accepting
the situation we're just painting over
things with positive thinking and that's
not really what positive thinking is so
what it turns turns into is we're using
it as hope but the problem gets even
bigger because that hope comes from a
place of hopelessness and desperation so
the important thing to know here is that
positive thinking is what comes after
you accept your situation accept your
feelings and accept yourself not before
so positive thinking isn't a cure it's
just it's the direction you move toward
after acceptance and so what happens if
you don't accept your failures you don't
accept your negative feelings and you
don't accept who you are well what
eventually happens is you will
eventually quit trying to use positive
thinking because you'll think well it
doesn't work and you become you're more
likely to become a very bitter person
because when you're not accepting these
things you have to then drag this around
with you pretending like it's not
affecting you but it is it's a huge
burden to have to drag around with you
so it basically limits you and you're
dragging around that limitation because
you're not acknowledging it you're not
accepting it what does it mean to truly
accept this can be really scary for
lot of people because if you think about
if you truly accept your situation what
happens a lot of times is a tremendous
amount of fear will come up fear that if
you accept your situation that you won't
try to improve it you will become
complacent and not do anything about it
you might attempt to accept yourself and
feel a tremendous amount of fear come up
about that because if I fully accept
myself and all of my flaws and all of my
problems and all of my inadequacies that
I might not do anything to improve
myself and then what if I accept the
pain someone else has caused me I might
allow someone else to inflict that same
pain on me again but that's not what
acceptance means and it's not really
what acceptance is it's sort of like
having to acknowledge a problem in order
to solve it you can't solve a problem
that you're not acknowledging so
acceptance works the same way when you
fully accept something then you can move
beyond it when you fully accept your
limitations then you can finally move
beyond it otherwise you're just going to
carry this burden around with you
wherever you go
like I mentioned pretending like it
doesn't affect you when it actually does
it's finally when you come to terms with
that and accept it how it is then you
can implement positive thinking then you
can solve the problem then you can move
beyond the limitation so just think
about this and take a moment to imagine
what it would be like to completely
accept yourself as you are and what
would it be like to accept everything as
it is now when you start to do that you
might just you might start to feel that
fear except the fear except that you're
experiencing fear except when you
experience what we call a negative
emotion it's just a feeling and then
accepting it is when we can let it
evolve and dissipate and do its thing
because feelings do that if you let
feelings do their thing they eventually
evolve and this
hey if you don't accept them it's sort
of like it isolates them and freezes
them and then they stay there so imagine
what it would be like right now to fully
accept yourself and fully accept
everything as it is and again if fear
comes up except the fear and try that
out see what that does for you it's a
extremely freeing way to be and it will
free up so much energy for you energy
that you could be putting into positive
thinking energy that you could be
putting into moving in the direction
that you want to be moving in so
unburden yourself from these limitations
accept them so that you can move beyond
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