
English: 
Far more than we are inclined to accept and
sometimes even realise, we are creatures of
mood: that is, our sense of our value as human
beings is prone to extraordinary fluctuation.
At times, we know how to tolerate ourselves,
the future seems benevolent, we can bear who
we are in the eyes of others and we can forgive
ourselves for the desperate errors of the
past.
And then, at other points, the mood dips and
we lament most of what we’ve ever done,
we see ourselves as natural targets for contempt,
we feel undeserving, guilty, weak and headed
for retribution and disaster.
But it can be very hard to grasp what causes
our moods to shift. A day that started with
energy and hope can, by lunchtime, end up
mired in self-hatred and tearfulness. A sure
sense that we’ve finally turned the corner

Chinese: 
远远超过我们倾向于接受和
有时甚至意识到，我们是
情绪：即我们对人类价值的感觉
生物很容易发生异常波动。
有时，我们知道如何宽容自己，
未来似乎是仁慈的，我们可以忍受谁
我们在别人的眼中，我们可以原谅
我们自己的绝望错误
过去。
然后，在其他时候，情绪下降，
我们为我们所做的大部分事情感到遗憾，
我们认为自己是鄙视的自然目标，
我们感到不配，内，虚弱和孤单
报应和灾难。
但是要弄清楚是什么原因可能很难
我们的心情改变了。始于
精力和希望可以在午餐时间结束
陷入了自我憎恨和眼泪。确定
感觉到我们终于转危为安

English: 
and are on the way to better things can be
replaced at speed by an alternative certainty
that we are a cosmic error.
We cannot, it appears, ever prevent our moods
from being subject to change, but what is
open to us all is to learn how to manage the
change more effectively – so that our downturns
can be ever so slightly more gentle, our sadness
more containable and our inconstancy less
shameful in our own eyes.
Here is some of what we might learn to bear
in mind around our capricious moods:
Realise our Vulnerability
We should acknowledge how vulnerable our moods
are to being perturbed by so-called ‘small
things’. We belong to a species of extreme
but also fateful sensitivity; we shouldn’t
expect to be able to appreciate a Mozart aria

Chinese: 
并且正在向更好的方向发展
快速地由另一确定性代替
我们是一个宇宙错误。
看来，我们永远都无法阻止自己的情绪
不受变化的影响，但是什么是
向我们所有人开放是学习如何管理
更有效地改变-让我们的低迷
可以变得更加温柔我们的悲伤
更容易控制，我们的不稳定
在我们自己眼中可耻。
这是我们可能学到的一些知识
围绕我们反复无常的心情：
意识到我们的脆弱性
我们应该承认我们的情绪有多脆弱
会受到所谓的“小
事情”。我们属于极端的物种
而且还有命运的敏感性；我们不应该
希望能够欣赏莫扎特咏叹调

Chinese: 
或一方面是伦勃朗自画像
然后，另一方面，保持不受束缚
情人嘴角的弯角
或潜在的人稍稍凝视
客户。我们不应该为自己而自责
我们的皮肤有多薄；我们应该调整自己
承担我们非凡的全部后果
开放的经验。
编辑社交生活
除非我们采取大力措施编辑我们的
社交生活，我们太容易找到自己
在那些虽然他们
可以称自己为我们的朋友，
他们对我们的心情所做的事情–不
这种事。在善良的表面之下，
这些人是潜在敌对的载体，
致命的竞争力，自我吸收的歇斯底里
或讽刺的道德主义。开始成为朋友
对自己来说意味着学习拿一把手术刀
到我们的地址列表中以便将其删除
令人沮丧的骗子。
脆弱的友谊
情绪低落的一个很好的安慰是
正确的公司：知道如何做的人

English: 
or a Rembrandt self-portrait on the one hand
and then, on the other, stay unbothered by
the downturned corners of the mouth of a lover
or the slightly distant gaze of a would-be
client. We shouldn’t berate ourselves for
how thin our skin is; we should adjust ourselves
to the full consequences of our extraordinary
openness to experience.
Edit Social Life
Unless we take vigorous measures to edit our
social lives, we can too easily find ourselves
in the company of people who, though they
may call themselves our friends, are – in
terms of what they do to our moods – no
such thing. Beneath a veneer of kindness,
these people are the bearers of latent hostility,
deadly competitiveness, self-absorbed hysteria
or priggish moralism. To start to be a friend
to ourselves means learning to take a scalpel
to our address list in order to edit out such
dispiriting impostors.
Vulnerable Friendships
The one great solace for a low mood is the
right sort of company: people who know how

Chinese: 
让我们放心，我们仍然属于
悲伤是可以预期的，我们的错误
永远不要让我们超越同情心。这些安慰
灵魂将受苦，他们将恨
自己，他们将学会如何
嘲笑人类是荒谬的。最
重要的是，当我们向他们展示自己的情绪低落时，
他们会知道如何优雅地接受
友谊最重要的下一步：接受
我们的缺点并展示其中的一两个
拥有。
尊敬身体
疯狂的是，为什么我们的情绪变化是
我们居住在一个身体上。但是因为
不得不接受我们的羞辱
关于自己和我们生活的想法可能
取决于身体因素–多长时间
我们睡了，我们喝了多少水，什么
我们在后台对抗的病毒
–诱惑可能是坚持我们
思想必须完全是理性的产物。
解释一下大多数

English: 
to reassure us that we still belong, that
sadness is to be expected and that our errors
never put us beyond compassion. These consoling
souls will have suffered, they will have hated
themselves and they will have learnt how to
laugh at the absurdity of being human. Most
importantly, when we show them our low mood,
they will know how gracefully to take that
most essential next step of friendship: accept
our flaws and display one or two of their
own.
Honour the Body
Maddeningly, some of why our moods shift is
that we inhabit a body. But because it’s
so humiliating to have to accept that our
ideas about ourselves and our lives might
be dependent on bodily factors – how long
we slept, how much water we’ve drunk, what
viruses we are fighting in the background
– the temptation can be to insist that our
ideas must solely be the offspring of reason.
It would be wiser to interpret that most of

Chinese: 
我们的思想通过某种方式
取决于发生的特定事情
我们的身体。从某些方面来说，不是
到处都是我们是最坏的人
在地球上，这只是我们可能需要
躺下一个小时或紧急喝一杯
橙汁。
不尊重心情
情绪是骄傲的，不敬的事物。他们展示
并坚持要他们告诉我们总数
关于我们的身份和前景的确定性
–也许我们的爱情永远不会
工作或有专业情况
无法修复。但是我们总是有一个选择
虚张声势，意识到
他们只是傲慢的心态
假装是我们所有人–那
我们可以勇气礼貌地忽略它们
并改变主题。我们可能认识到
但不要让心情变一点
与我们有意识的自我之间的距离
我们有时甚至会精确地做

English: 
what passes through our minds is in some way
dependent on particular things going on in
our bodies. At points, it isn’t that it’s
all over and that we’re the worst person
on earth, it’s just that we may need to
lie down for an hour or urgently have a glass
of orange juice.
Disrespect a mood
Moods are proud, imperious things. They show
up and insist that they are telling us total
certainties about our identities and our prospects
– perhaps that our love lives will never
work out or that a professional situation
is beyond repair. But we always have an option
of calling their bluff, of realising that
they are only a passing state of mind arrogantly
pretending to be the whole of us – and that
we could, with courage, politely ignore them
and change the subject. We might recognize
but not give way to the mood and put a bit
of distance between it and our conscious selves.
We might at times even do precisely what a

English: 
mood commands us not to do: see someone rather
than cede to shame, show our face rather than
give way to paranoia, go out for a walk rather
than fold our limbs into the foetal position.
While we are being rocked by a dark mood,
we should strive to keep a little light on,
the light of sanity and self-kindness that
can tell us, even though the hurricane is
insisting otherwise, that we are not appalling,
that we have done nothing unforgiveable and
that we have a right to be. We can strive
to keep ourselves plugged into a small pilot
light of kindness until a larger sun is ready
to rise once more. Not only do difficult moods insist that they
are correct, they also seek to convince us
that they are permanent. But our sense of
self is naturally viscous; we are condemned
to rise and fall, flow and ebb. We are, as

Chinese: 
情绪命令我们不要做：宁愿见某人
而不是让自己丢脸，露出我们的脸而不是
让位给偏执狂，出去走走
而不是将我们的四肢折叠到胎儿的位置。
当我们被一种黑暗的情绪所震撼时，
我们应该努力保持开放，
出于理智和自我恩赐，
可以告诉我们，即使飓风是
坚持否则，我们不会感到震惊，
我们没有做任何不可原谅的事情，
我们有权。我们可以努力
保持自己与小飞行员的联系
友善直到大太阳准备好
再次上升。困难的情绪不仅坚持认为
是正确的，他们也试图说服我们
他们是永久的。但是我们的感觉
自我自然是粘性的；我们受到谴责
上升和下降，流动和退潮。我们是

Chinese: 
现实和隐喻，很大程度上是
水。我们不应该放错地方
持久的理想加重了我们的悲伤。
尽管我们可能无法改变心情，但我们
至少可以意识到这是永远的
这样的事情和那不可估量的
先知的话，在一个
几个小时或几天，它也会过去。
我们的情绪晴雨表是一种工具，可以帮助我们更清楚地解释我们的情绪。现在单击链接以了解更多信息。

English: 
a reality and as a metaphor, largely made
of water. We shouldn’t allow a misplaced
ideal of permanence to add to our sorrows.
Though we may be unable to shift a mood, we
can at least realise that it is only ever
such a thing and that, in the inestimable
words of the prophets, with the help of a
few hours or days, it too shall pass.
Our Emotional Barometer is a tool that can help us to more clearly explain our moods.  Click the link now to find out more.
