Hello students, I am here once again to discuss
interpersonal skills, and under interpersonal
skills, we are doing body language, we are
discussing the various aspects of body language
which are essential to make our discussion,
conversation language truthful, meaningful.
Body language is a vital part of interpersonal
communication; we all know that a very large
part of having good communication skills has
to do with one's body language.
And this type of communication is much more
powerful and effective than any word that
can be said.
This important type of communication is one
of the first things people will notice when
they meet you, believe it or not being able
to read body language well can help get you
further in life whether it be for business
or personal reason, to see how important such
conversation such type of body languages.
Have you ever taken a moment to think about
what you are saying with your body language
or how, you are coming across to others, if
you have not then now is the time, this is
the high time to think the importance of body
language and the very famous quote the way
we communicate with others and with our self
ultimately determines the quality of our lives.
The entire success story depends on our body
language.
Especially in a world of professionalism,
to use gestures effectively, leaders need
to be aware of how those movements will most
likely proceed, where here are four common
hand gesture.
And the messages behind them, so let us discuss
what these four important gestures to strengthen
your body language, hidden hands, hidden hands
make you look less trustworthy, this is one
of the nonverbal signals that is deeply ingrained
in our subconscious.
Our ancestors make survival decisions based
solely on bits of visual information they
picked up from one another.
In our prehistory, when someone approached
with hands out of view, it was a signal of
potential danger.
Although today the threat of hidden hand is
more symbolic than real or ingrained psychological
discomfort remains finger-pointing.
The second one is finger-pointing, I have
often seen executive use this gesture in meetings,
negotiations, or interviews for impresses
or to show dominance.
The problem is that aggressive finger-pointing
can suggest that the leader is losing control
of the situation.
And the gesture is maths of parental, scolding
or playground bullying.
Next is enthusiastic gestures, there is an
interesting equation of hand and arm movement
with energy if you want to protect more enthusiasm
and drive you can do so by increased gesturing.
On the other hand, over gesturing, especially
when hands are raised above the soldiers,
remember when hands are raised above the shoulders
can make you appear erratic less believable
and less powerful.
Grounded gesture, this is the third important
aspect of body language and gesture, arms
held at waist height and gestures within that
horizontal plane help you and the audience
feel centered and composed.
Arms at rest and bent to a 45-degree angle
accompanied by a stance about shoulder with
wide will also help you keep grounded energized
and focused.
So remember this point.
Your most influential communication medium
still faces facing.
Although, all technicality and important gesture
face to face is one of the important aspects
of body language.
In this fast-paced techno charged error of
email, text, teleconferences and video chats,
one universal truth remains face to face is
the most preferred productive and powerful
communication medium.
In fact, the more business leaders communicate
electronically; the most pressing becomes
the need for personal interaction.
In face to face meetings or brains process,
the continual cascade of nonverbal cues that
we use as the basis for building trust and
professional intimacy.
Face to face interaction is information rate
we interpret what people say to us only partially
from the word they use.
We get most of the message and an emotional
nuance behind the words from vocal tone pacing,
facial expressions, and other nonverbal cues.
And we rely on immediate feedback, the instantaneous
responses of others to help us goes how, well
our ideas are being accepted, so potent is
the non-verbal link between individuals that
when we are in genuine rapport with someone,
we subconsciously match our body positions,
movements and even our breathing rhythm with
there is.
Most interesting in face to face encounters
the brain's mirror neurons mimic.
Not just behaviors but sensations and feelings
as well, when we are denied these interpersonal
cues and our forced to rely on the printed
or a spoken word alone, the brain is struggling,
and real communication suffers.
Technology may be a great facilitator for
factual information, but meeting in person
is the key to positive employee and client
relationships.
Regardless of how tech-savvy you may be face
to face meetings are still.
The most effective way to capture the attention
of participants is to engage them in the conversation
and drive productive collaboration.
In this regard, the view maybe, if it is not
that important to send an email if it is important
but not mission-critical pick up the phone.
If it is critically important to the success
of your organization, go see someone.
To see how important face to face conversation
is.
Now there is a top 10 best body gesture that
we can remember for being confident and an
excellent communicator, and among top 10 best
body gesture the first one is a smile and
a kind of confidence.
So smile and be confident, a positive outlook
will get you far in life.
Even if you do not feel confident, it is important
to portrait after all the more positive your
outlook is on certain situations, the more
confident you will become.
For one being confident will help other people
to be more comfortable around you.
So keeping a smile on your face in spite of
stress and hectic schedule gives you is a
success and its sign of genuinely professional,
stop the negative thinking now because that
would not help anything and this type of toxic
behavior will work against you.
Instead, remember to focus on the positive
things only and be confident in what you are
doing.
Always make sure that you are smiling and
not frowning and make it a point to be both
confident and friendly.
But at the same time be sure that your smile
is not force, that is to say, that your smile
should not be artificial, it should be a natural
smile that makes your activity, your gesture,
your body language quite natural.
Direct eye contact, this is also very important
because it indicates face to face conversation.
One of the most important body gestures to
remember is to make direct eye contact, this
body gesture shows that you are listening
and are interested in what is being said,
if you are in a large group be sure to make
eye contact with everyone and do not focus
on only one person, that is to say that you
have to look around at everyone's face to
make them involved in your discussion.
Also, do not break eye contact too soon.
Because this could imply that you are not
trustworthy, and this is a very natural normal
indication if you make eye contact that will
show your confidence, that will show that
you are a trustworthy person.
So keeping eye contact to some extent is very
important, be interested and listen to people
like to talk so always be sure that you are
listening and look interested in what the
other person is saying.
If you are genuinely interested in what other
people have to say then that is going to show,
sit up straight not only is good posture advantages
for your health but at the same time it is
also excused confidence, it is essential to
sit up straight and not to hold your head
down.
If you learn to lean forward, you could come
off as grace it to others.
But on the other hand, if you lean back, you
could come off as lazy or arrogant.
So keep your head up and shoulder back at
all times and be aware of your posture when
both were sitting and standing.
Facial expressions very important part of
body language, so your facial expressions
will say a lot about you and people will be
watching for your reaction when it comes to
things such as business negotiations or other
types of meetings.
One of the most important things to remember
is your smile naturally.
Keep your chin up and keep your eyes level,
this will send the message of positivity and
trustworthiness, being able to control your
facial expressions will help you immensely
and it is something that you should spend
some time thinking about, look like you are
listening that is also one of the important
postures.
You show that you are keying, you are interested
in another conversation.
In this day and age, people are always connected
to the cell phone 24 hours and seven days
or week, while it is wonderful that technology
has evolved so much it also comes with many
dung sides.
It is essential to put down the phone and
listen to what people are saying.
This will also help increase participation
if you are speaking with a group of people;
being attentive will imply that you care about
what people have to say.
And it says a lot about your personality;
other people want to do business with people
who genuinely show interest and are engaged,
that is to say, that a kind of involvement
is required.
Now not when listening to someone’s speech
that is showing feedback, showing that you
are an active listener, nodding once every
once in a while when someone is speaking will
imply that you are not only listening.
But actually interested in what others are
saying, and nod will help to get the message
across that you agree with what the other
person is same as well it also shows encouragement,
relax your body, do not be very conscious,
do not maintain an artificial posture, people
are going to sense if you are not at least
in certain situations, especially in some
meeting.
The first thing to try is to relax your shoulders
and take some deep breaths.
Since many people how is a lot of the attention
in the shoulders and neck area do not be afraid
to move your shoulders and neck a little in
order to loosen up a bit, that is a very important
point to make you in average, a genuine speaker
as well as listener.
Also, being able to control breathing and
has a lot to do with good body language because
it will help you to be more relaxed.
This will lead to more confidence which will
be passed along to the people involved and
as we discussed it is very important part
of learning and maintaining good communication
skills, keep your head up as we discuss that
is very important for a good body language,
do not look down because it will be implied
to other people that you are not paying attention
and you do not want to hear what others have
to say.
Keeping your head down can imply many things
such as burden, or disagreement in what is
being discussed.
So it is important to keep your head up at
all times when there is speaking, or being
spoken to, where are the other person's behavior,
this is an important behavior to keep in mind,
and it is something that will need to be both
practiced and observed over time.
If you are unaware of this technique, the
act of mirroring is to allow your body to
reflect the other person's behavior.
This is a wonderful way to build a good rapport
with other people because it reflects both
interest and enthusiasm in what is being said,
it is important that the act of mirroring
is done quickly and as it is an art to be
learned.
This is a proven method that has been researched
and found to be very effective in many different
types of social and business settings.
Now, as we discussed the top 10 best body
gesture.
We need to discuss top 10 worst body gesture
because in talking in conversation we may
slip some of the points to make our conversation
dialogue truthful, therefore we need to know
that what kind of body posture should not
be posed, not making eye contact, as we discussed
that eye contact shows that you are trustworthy
person, that gives that develops a faith in
you, so eye contact is important and in top
10 worst body gesture is not making eye contact.
There is a fine balance when it comes to making
eye contact, it is important to look people
in the eye but do not stare, however if you
do not make direct eye contact it can appear
as if you are lying or have something to hide
that is why eye said that eye contact gives
a kind of trust, faith otherwise you appear
to be highly untrustworthy person, it is also
important that you do not look down to study
your hands or mess with your fingernails.
Not only is this route but it will make it
look like you are not interested in what the
other person has to say, it is a kind of humiliation
insult, it is a kind of arrogance that you
are aloof, you are in different in different
to other communication.
So please take care of this crossing your
arms because knowingly or unknowingly we pose
different postures while talking to a person.
But crossing arms is one of the top worst
body gestures.
When got arms are crossed it normally implies
that you are defensive about something, for
this reason, it is important always to keep
your arms at your side especially if you are
discussing an important topic with other people.
In addition, it is important to ensure not
to look is safe and to have a natural look
at all times.
We have already discussed this that we should
maintain a relaxed appearance, a very genuine
kind of facial expression to make the conversation
genuine.
Fidgeting what is this, this is also the worst
body behavior this is not only one of the
worst body gestures, but it is also one of
the most annoying to the people around you,
it is imperative to focus on other person
and do not be fidgety at all.
This includes things such as playing with
a pen, chewing on your nails, moving your
hands around a lot or anything else that can
make it appear as if you are not paying attention
to what the other person is saying.
So be careful making small gestures other
than you know paying attention to other communication
is fidgeting, appearing is trust or answers,
it is very important not to show your stress
or anxiety to others.
Because there is nothing positive that can
come from it, from one for one it can show
weakness which has no place in the world of
non-verbal communication, solve is remember
whether it is your interview, your group discussion,
your classroom teaching or you are addressing
a meeting.
Try to make your appearance relaxed, even
if you are answering or a stressed one of
the quickest and best fixes for this is to
smile more, not only will it put you at least
but it will look as if you are confident even
if you are not.
So even you have to take care of this that
how many smiles you have to put on your face,
negative facial expressions, it might be a
good idea to take a to pay attention to what
you are putting to others with your facial
expressions.
But there is a certain facial expression which
can give off the wrong by to the people around
you that are creating a negative interpersonal
communication experience, even innocently
sometimes you make a different kind of facial
expression.
So please take note of that frowning, biting
your lips, auditing your eyebrows, flared
nostrils and is calling just to name a few.
These types are facial expressions can imply
many things such as you are upset, you are
defensive, you get bored just to name a few.
There can be many similar to these, in addition
never touch your face as this implies insincerity
and even distress that shows that you are
not as if you are confident your body posture
will have a very smooth kind of gesture, we
can say now I must say believe it or not your
handshake can say a lot about you, be sure
always to give a firm handshake that gives
self-confidence, a weak handshake would not
make a good impression.
And it will imply that you are not confident
in the situation, so shaking hand is an art,
now checking the time you will talk of so
many things well punctuality that is also
very important, when you take time to look
at your phone, watch or even a clock on the
wall or a desk it implies that you do not
want to be there and you have more important
things that you could be doing.
So never look at the time when someone is
in the middle of discussing something with
you.
Not only will this make a bad impression but
it can also be seen as being rude, so checking
the time is nothing but showing very bad gesture
sometime very humiliating, tapping your fingers
pen etc. while speaking with someone or meeting
someone for the first time you should never
tape anything because this will imply impatience
or annoyance to the other person remember
you must have seen people you know shaking
legs that also shows restlessness.
So never trap your fingers pen, or feet because
you want people to know you are interested
in what they are saying, do not be fake that
is also a very important point.
Now what is this probably one of the most
important things you can do is not to be fake
person, as we discussed that eye contact is
trustworthy, being relaxed and having a good
body gesture is showing your confidence.
So this fakeness quality should not be there
whenever you are making conversation, this
is one thing that many people will pick up
on and it will not reflect well on you and
remember you only have one chance to make
a good impression, always be genuine and let
people know that you are honestly interested,
in what they have to say.
This will get you for in both your business
and personal life, do not stand too close
or too far away.
Give people there is space; this is also one
of the very important non-verbal communication
and also barriers to communication, a space
between the two people, never impeach in someone
else space because this can give others the
wrong impression, standing too close to someone
can imply aggression or be too pussy.
So please take care of this if you have intermitted
relationship with somebody you can reduce
the space.
But if it is a professional relationship you
have to maintain a considerable space between
the other, on the other hand, is standing
too far away can make people feel, that you
are standoffish for some reason and it could
make people suspicious, just always be aware
of a person's personal space.
If the person you are talking to take some
steps back, you are probably too close, as
you go along in life, things will be much
easier if you have effective communication
skills.
When it comes to business this particular
type of communication can help to expand your
leadership skills, be aware of what not only
what is going on around you but also of how
you are putting yourself to others.
You can practice this; you can mirroring this
to know your gesture and posture your facial
expression, practice makes perfect.
So take the time to think about the different
ways in which you communicate.
There is always something that everyone can
improve when it comes to effective body language
and how you can improve your body language
to the discussion, through practice, through
mirroring and through you know making constant
conversation.
So once again I would say that the most important
thing in communication hears what is not said,
what it means, it means your body language,
it means not your word, your voice, or your
speech.
It means that how you pose yourself to other,
it means that what kind of background you
have while you are talking to others, it means
that how much you care of others, you bother
about others and it means that how much you
want to excel in your professional life.
So friends, body language is one of the important
parts of interpersonal skills and as I said
earlier also that we tend to take it for granted.
But I must say that in professional life it
gives you lots of waiters if you take care
of your body language, work on it, practice
it, read good books on it, listen to good
speaker or writer and be extrovert, not introvert,
develop confidence the more you read, the
more you speak, the more you will develop
your communication, with these words I just
want to conclude today session, thank you
very much.
