hello! I hope everyone had a nice
Christmas or whatever holiday you may
celebrate! I saw something last night on
tumblr that I wanted to talk about and
then today Dworkin'sGghost posted a
video on YouTube called "men are trash",
you should check it out because it also
inspired me to to make this. so yeah. I
saw this thing that was from the
relationship subreddit asking for advice,
it was a woman who posted that her
husband left the internet browser open
on their computer when he went to work,
and she saw his reddit account was left
open and she saw, like, his comments and
post history and his inbox and stuff
obviously because it was logged in and
open,, and discovered that he's like a
really horrific troll. like really the
quote she wrote was "I was disgusted at
what I found. my husband is a troll. a
really fucking nasty troll. he leaves
horribly mean comments to all kinds of
people, they're filled with racist slurs,
awful incites, awful insults, he tears
into fat people, ugly people, etc. he loves
to troll around places like the progress
pics subreddit to discourage people, he
sent PMS to people to call them names,
calls women sluts and whores and cunts
etc." so she goes on to say that she was
completely horrified because her husband
is a nice and gentle man, so quote:  "is a
nice, gentle man who is supportive and
kind", end quote. and this really prompted
me because so many women, when we're in -
whether it be a feminist space or a non
feminist space and talking about male
violence and male aggression and male
domination and abuse and whatever, will
talk about how "not all men" 
and that their husbands are so
wonderful and supportive and loving and
kind and they love their husbands so
much and their husbands are such great
fathers or boyfriends, you know whatever,
but I literally cannot count the times
that I have been in, particularly
feminist Facebook groups, where you talk
about how separatism is key to radical
feminism and to the liberation of women
from men, and you get so many... I've
mentioned this in a video before: I saw
one post where there was quite literally
hundreds of comments of women talking
about how wonderful their husbands are,
and they could never leave their husband,
and their husband is so nice and caring
and loving and supportive and sweet and
gentle and ad nauseam, about just how
great the men in their lives are... and
this post from reddit, like very clearly
illustrates that you have no idea!
women have no idea who their husbands
really are! they have no clue! and the
thing is is it doesn't really matter how
he treats you, I mean obviously you don't
want a man to be abusive to you and
awful to others, but like... it doesn't
matter if you think he's nice and kind
and sweet, you have no idea who he really
is and how he really acts when you're
not looking! which is another reason why
I think separatism is crucial! it's... men
show their asses constantly in one way
or another eventually! like it just goes
to show that you really have no idea! you
can't trust men. you can't... you can't know
for sure who a man is, and so yeah, it
frustrates me so much when I see so many
women talking about how great their
husbands are, and their boyfriends, and
whatever, their fathers, their brothers.
and how, yeah, they can't imagine not
having their "kind sweet supportive
loving husband
in their life", and it's like you you will
never know who he really is.
you'll never know what he's really up to
when you're not looking, when you're not
around, when you're not there. 
and I mean, we know this like, men go on
business trips and they cheat on their
wives with prostitutes and strippers all
the fucking time. men go to strip clubs,
men harass their female co-workers, they
cat-call women on the streets, you know,
when their wives aren't around. it's like...
I don't understand how or why women
continuously choose to date, marry, live
with men, like it makes no sense! it's
frustrating because we know how awful
men are both to our faces and behind our
backs, and yet for some reason there's so
many women who are still out here just
being like "well I love him and he's nice
and he's kind", and it's like you don't
know that !you don't know that! and the
way he treats you to your face is not a
marker of the person he is.
so I don't know. I don't know how to wrap
this up. it's just exhausting. it's
frustrating that so many women are
against their own liberation, their own
safety, their own best interest, and for
what? for what? also I want to say that
the um, the post by this woman wound up that
she confronted him about it and she was
very like tame and gentle and asked him
if he was doing this stuff and he
admitted to it and told her that it's
like an outlet for him to relieve his
stress and he didn't even see the people
behind the accounts he's harassing as
real people,
and so the wife, like, said that they need
to go to counseling about this,  he needs
a different outlet for his frustrations
and his stress, like it's not appropriate
to do that to other people.
furthermore she's pregnant and like,
doesn't want that kind of a man raising
her daughter. I think it was a daughterm
but it may not have been, but I think it was
a daughter. anyway she said that yeah she
said they need to go to counseling or
they have to start the separation
process because she doesn't want or
trust him to raise a child if he speaks
to strangers the way he does online. and
she goes on to write that her husband
told her he would not be going to
counseling and he there's nothing wrong
with what he's doing and he deserves to
have his "me time" and so she said because
she wants to protect herself and her
child she's asked him to leave and does
not think they'll be reconciling, and
it's like, it's insane! this man was
content to lose his home, his life, his
wife, being in his child's life, because
he would rather spend his time being a
psychopath to people on the internet and
being evil and terrible and bullying and
harassing. like men will go to like to
those lengths! men ain't shiiiiit!!!
