Hey everybody, this is me Meera and you are
watching me on Skillopedia, the place to learn
skills for the real world. Well talking about
the real world do you know anyone who has
never ever lied in their entire lives? Absolutely
not, it's not possible. Not really, in fact
we all have a tendency to lie and we all know
it, don't you think so? But guys today's video
is not just about lying in particular, it's
about how to be the street smart individual
by knowing when a person is lying to you.
Imagine how well things will work for you
when you know and you're able to tell when
the person in front of you is telling the
truth or when they're saying a lie or telling
you on lie. You will be able to take steps
accordingly and not waste time and energy
on white lies or lies. Guys not just in personal
life but even when you are in your professional
life, in your careers you need to know if
there are people around you who are saying
the truth telling you the truth or lying.
Wouldn't it be just great when you know that
hey I'm being lied to and I will not tolerate
it? Yes! It is great. So guys here are some
few things that will help you spot a lie.
Well guys now let's say for example you have
given someone a particular task to do okay
some work to do let's say buying something
for you okay on behalf of you because you
couldn't go there you cannot buy it it's not
reachable. You meet them and the next day
you ask them that hey did you buy the thing
that I asked you to buy for me and observe
if they take any unusual time to respond than
usual just, just to lie, like liars will usually
be really quick sometimes in replying sort
of like they had prepared it like yeah, yeah
I did buy it yesterday I remember you telling
me but I lost it. Almost as if they had actually
rehearsed it in their minds beforehand that
you know what I won't buy it I forgot it and
if they ask me I will just tell them this.
So don't just believe in people's words just
observe how they're saying it if the response
is unusually long but guys if they haven't
planned it and you just take them by surprise
okay with just a question then they might
just take a little bit of more time to respond
because they need at least a bit of time to
calculate and to just arrange their words
and twist and turn the answers, right? So
they might just take a little bit of time
at times when you take them by surprise. Also
particularly it's not just about their response
time, right? You can try to carefully listen
to their voice when they talk about these
things yes, these are some just like verbal
cues if you might say sometimes like a higher
pitch yeah, yeah, yeah I've spoken to him
already oh yeah I've got it. Sometimes you'll
also find them giving you unnecessary extra
information about things and details that
you didn't ask for and use phrases like oh
yeah as far as I remember I've already completed
it. Or oh yeah I could be wrong I'm not sure
you can go check it but I'm sure I've done
it already. Now guys let's come to the clues
that we get from body languages. I'd like
to tell you that you obviously know that you
know something about eyes or other body languages
but have you noticed that sometimes people
actually try to rub their nose when they're
trying to lie. So if someone asks me have
you ever done such thing as a scuba diving?
Have you scuba-dived before? And if I'm lying
okay and I would say something like well once
before I remember I've done this but it was
long back so I don't remember much about it.
Obviously I have lied about it. Just try and
observe this nose trick as well. Also guys,
people who are lying have a tendency to hide
their palms away from you. Yes, did you know
that people who deal with money, right? Or
finances of a particular company or a firm,
make sure that they observe the palms of the
people whom they're trying to deal with. People
try to put them in their pockets sometimes
like so or just keep it under the table without
showing their hands as though they're actually
hiding the money under the table or in their
pockets. Now of course that was a joke but
try and observe the palms. The next time you
guys just like talk to people, don't just
let them know that what are you observing
or concerned about, observe. Well guys I actually
remember this one time when I was conducting
a mock interview okay in a classroom of a
student and I asked him a basic question first
okay later I asked him did you have prior
experience or do you have a prior experience
working for an NGO? So he actually said and
he told me that yes he had and then I asked
him later once the mock interview was done
so what he was doing is that he was rocking
his chair back and forth when he was answering
in the interview and that is why I asked him
later that hey you know what I saw you just
a little nervous did you actually have a work
experience working with an NGO and he said
no. But when I asked him why did he lie? Was
there a necessity? Because it was just a mock
interview he told me that he thought it would
make a good impression if he tells me that
yes he had worked for an NGO. Well clearly
his intentions were not harmful because it
was a test interview but you shouldn't just
go for your first job with a lie right that's
what I told him too. Of course not that you
should go to your second interviewer job with
the life but definitely not when you start
with something you deserve something that
is truthfully yours, okay? Have you noticed
somebody's eyes when they lie? People say
that they look away when they're lying. But
you know what I have found out that in any
formal environment people tend to look straight
in the eye and do not blink even for like
literally a weird amount of time but just
the same time we might also come across people
who suddenly look away again as you ask them
or you just want to look at them. I am sure
that this has happened to you also and you
have noticed the eye trick as well. Now guys
particularly when you are asking someone about
their emotions okay, or feelings which is
a little personal and they don't want to share
it with everybody they lie, we lie. I have
lied before when people ask me are you feeling
okay and I'm, I go like yeah, yeah I'm fine
I'm good. Now clearly I'm lying okay because
I just don't want to tell you what I'm going
through there is one more such thing that
you can observe as that is how they were saying
the words, no I don't want to go home early.
No I didn't go home early yesterday I was
here till late. But the head is shaking in
a small way and they're saying yes, okay?
So this is called, just to, like maintain
a body language that is universal so when
I have to say yes I'm actually nodding in
a way that is slightly a little bit of no
and that actually means yes and it does happen.
If you are someone any yes or no question
the next time try to observe their head movement
and neck movement instead of their answer.
So right, right from the sentences formation
to the voice, the way they talk, the time
they take to respond, their eyes, their mouth,
their feet, their hands and the whole body
language we can now understand and detect
a lie when people are talking to us and this
is definitely going to help you in your professional
life as well as your personal life. Well remember
guys that everyone has a different style of
lying as well and it's true, it's about their
behavior and if you should know that person
well enough to understand if they're lying
or not, right? So try and compare the next
time when people are speaking the truth or
the lie just for your own benefit not for
any harm. Well guys that's all for the day.
I hope you have learned something from this
lesson for the benefit and for your own good,
right? Well that's all for the day I will
be seeing you very soon with another such
video and another such topic until then make
sure that you're happy, you're smiling, you're
eating right, this is me Meera signing off
for the day guys, bye.
