Hi everyone. So in today's video I want to
talk about how you can take care of
yourself if you're someone who's
grieving and if you'd like to hear me
talk more in depth about this topic
about the stages of grief what grief is
and how to grieve
also how grief can apply to your life in
several different ways whether you've
lost someone a relationship or maybe
you're moving or you've changed careers
check out the description bar because I
actually uploaded a podcast and also a
transcript of that podcast over on my
blog so you might find that helpful as
well so again I'll be down below in the
description bar but for this video I've
made a self-care checklist if you are
someone who's grieving and I just have
three things that I'm talking about and
I really think grief is one of the most
painful experiences someone can go
through and I think if you are someone
who is grieving you really need to take
time to take care of yourself so the
first thing I'm going to talk about is
to definitely reach out to someone talk
to someone because if you are someone
who's grieving you don't have to go
through this alone even though you may
really enjoy some alone time you might
really need some alone time I think you
need to also be able to talk to someone
because that could really be helpful to
you it could be a friend a relative it
could be several people it could also be
a therapist and I'm definitely gonna
advocate therapy because a therapist can
talk to you in a way no one else will be
able to they are mental health
professionals so they're gonna know how
to talk to you and it's also okay to not
stick with the first therapist that you
meet if you're new to therapy I think
the main important thing for when you're
talking to a therapist is you need to be
able to find someone who you feel
comfortable with that you can open up to
but a good therapist isn't gonna judge
you a good therapist isn't gonna
belittle you a good therapist can really
help you go through the grieving process
another thing which I mentioned before
is just giving yourself some time and I
talked about this more in my podcast but
grief isn't this process where you just
go through stages 1 2 3 4 or 5 and then
you're done
you're not going to just feel anger and
then be done feeling anger you're not
just gonna feel sadness and then oh
that's it for sadness grief I think has
many stages and not everybody goes
through all the various different grief
stages I kind of tend to think of
working through grief is like a tidal
wave as if you're kind of standing in
the ocean and everything's fine and
every you know you can feel the fresh
air and you can
just feel the sunlight on your skin and
you might have good memories of someone
or something or maybe you've just lost a
pet you might have those great warm
feelings and then all of a sudden you're
gonna get swept under by a lot of
sadness because this is a very sad time
in your life is not having that person
or not having that pet or maybe you've
lost a job or maybe you've moved things
just aren't how they were and it can be
incredibly painful and challenging to
keep living but you have to give
yourself some time because things can
start to get better as much as you may
not want to hear that as much as that
might seem completely impossible I'm
someone who lost my dad when I was 22
and I also have lost my uncle and most
recently I lost my aunt and my aunt
actually passed away this last October
and even just the other day I was just
washing the dishes and I just started
crying because I started thinking about
my aunt and I started missing her so
give yourself some time because you're
kind of feel it all and I think that's
the most courageous thing you can do at
this time is just letting yourself feel
everything as painful as that can be
when I try to stop feeling feelings they
tend to come back like even stronger so
I think it's best to be able to talk to
someone be able to express yourself and
that's the next thing that I'm going to
talk about is being able to express
yourself any way that you can that's
creative that might just be helpful to
you if you're experiencing someone
else's creativeness like if you're
watching a movie that you love that
really touches you or if you or moves
you I guess or if you're listening to
music that you really love maybe you're
listening to some music that makes you
angry and that might be helpful for you
right now
or maybe you're watching a really really
sad depressing movie and that might
really help you right now maybe you need
to write about what you're feeling maybe
you need to paint or play music yourself
or anything creative I think can be so
helpful so those are the three things
that I really wanted to hit in this
video which is if you're grieving you
can talk to someone I actually remember
a friend who lost someone and they were
upset because no one in their life would
talk to them about this person who died
in their life and this person was really
upset by that was nobody was asking him
if he was okay nobody was asking about
this person who died so I think part of
this too is just being able to talk to
one about that person or about that job
or about that pet because that person
had so much importance in your life that
person meant everything to you probably
you might feel incredibly lost knowing
that that person is gone and being able
to talk to someone about all of this all
of what you're thinking and you're
feeling that can be so helpful for your
life also giving yourself plenty of time
because people grieve differently and
this might be a huge change for you so
you might be processing this for the
rest of your life and then finding ways
to express yourself in a positive way in
a caring way in a self-care way in a
creative way if you want to but
definitely check out the links below
because I have again my podcast and blog
and I think for these types of videos
going forward I'm gonna make shorter
videos and I'm gonna expand more over on
my podcast just because I feel like I
can fit so much more into a podcast
rather than a video at least this is the
way I'd rather be doing it going forward
but I hope you guys found this video
helpful and I'll see you guys on the
next one alright bye
