Why is abandonment so painful? what is it
about? Well it's all about the
thwarting energy that comes from, you
know, the infant wanting that womb,
wanting to return to that state of
homeostasis, where everything all of its
needs were perfect. It wants to be
enveloped in the arms of some warm
creature. It wants to be fed. And so as we
as we get older, we want we crave that
object. And as we experience
separation, disconnections, rejections,
abandonments, as we go throughout life, we
feel that energy of wanting to connect
thwarted. So the abandonment pain is
the thwarting of that energy that seeks
an object. There's good news in that
because having sort of deconstructed
what the pain is about and discovering
the working energy that's being so
frustrated and hurts so much. Once we
discover that we can now give a new
object to that energy. We can make
ourselves the object of the thwarting so
that we're dying and craving for someone
to care about us. And guess who can do
the best job of that? WE CAN. So it
actually becomes an impetus for
self-love we're developing a new, really
intense and beautiful relationship with
the self
