one of the beautiful things about life
is that it's just filled with choices we
need to choose how we want to consume
content for example we can consume a
bunch of positive uplifting content or
we can consume negative content and it
affects our mind in different ways so
today not only we're gonna be talking
about James Charles givin away a bunch
of money but we're also going to be
talking about the psychology of
cognitive distortions as well as
selective attention theory what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you're new
to my channel what I try to do take
different topics going on in the YouTube
community try to see what lessons we can
pull from them to improve our own mental
and emotional well-being so if you're
any of that stuff
make sure you subscribe and ring that
notification bell and something that I'm
really fascinated with is human behavior
social psychology all this stuff and
something I did was I recently wrote a
book called cancelled inside YouTube
canceled culture where I talk about
crowd psychology my own experience with
canceled culture as well as different
stories such as what happened with James
Charles and talk to you West's book
earlier this year and some other stories
from the YouTube community so if you
want to check that book out it's an
ebook and audiobook down in the
description down in the pin comment
below alright so yes we are going to be
talking about James Charles and drama
channels but we're also going to be
talking about psychology so before I
jump into this let me give you a quick
psychology lesson alright I am NOT a
psychologist myself but I'm a big nerd
when it comes to psychology and I love
reading books about how the brain works
absolutely fascinating so the first
thing we'll talk about is cognitive
distortions they're talking about this a
lot lately so cognitive distortions ears
our mind telling us lies all right this
is something that if you if you're in
therapy your therapist typically has you
work on your cognitive distortions
alright like there are many
to depression and anxiety that or
biological but a lot of it like studies
have shown that a lot of this is based
on just our thinking patterns
that's why cognitive behavioral therapy
is an evidence-based therapy that helps
rewire our brain now you know why my
channel's called the rewired soul huh so
I want to focus on one specific
cognitive distortion all right there's a
bunch of them but I want to focus on the
specific one of mind reading how many
times do we get upset because we assume
somebody else's motives or intentions
right we believe that we can read that
person's mind like they're not doing
this for this reason they're actually
doing it
for this reason just an example when I
was working at the addiction treatment
center will it have clients who when
they would get upset maybe like you're
not here to actually help us you're just
here for the money right no possible way
for them to know it especially because
people like me weren't making all that
much money there right but think about
what mind-reading cognitive distortions
you might have where you think you know
maybe your significant other did this
just to get under your skin or maybe a
co-worker did this because of that right
and ask yourself what evidence do you
have to base that on aside from you
assuming that you can read minds next
thing we're gonna talk about is the
psychology of selective attention okay
so long time ago they did this
experiment where they took two groups of
people they played on the video tape
where there was a team in white jerseys
a team in black jerseys passing a
basketball all right and they said okay
Group one you count how many times the
team in the black jerseys passes the
basketball group two you can't how many
times the team in the white jerseys
passes the basketball right they do it
they ask him how many times the
basketball was passed and oh my god
these people can count but then the
psychologist one in the experiment said
did you notice anything weird in that
video and they're like no and they're
like really you didn't notice anything
weird you didn't notice a guy in a
gorilla costume walk across the screen
and pound his chest and they're like
what you crazy right so what they did
was they rewound the tape right I didn't
take anything no magic tricks they
rewound the tape and there was
a gorilla a guided gorilla costume walk
past pounded his chest right basically
this is how they came up with selective
attention theory where they realize that
our mind is trained to pay attention to
whatever we tell it to pay attention to
right so the people in that experiment
they were told to pay attention to the
people passing the basketball
so they got tunnel vision on it well
since then they've done a bunch of other
experiments and this is kind of what's
going to separate optimists from
pessimists if you're constantly focusing
on the negative you're going to have a
negative train of thought if you're
focusing on the positive you're more
likely to be optimistic all right so
what the hell does this have to do with
James Shaw's so I'm on Twitter yesterday
I see this guy James Charles tweet
something out I'll put it up on the
screen but something like hey who needs
help with their bills I do but a bunch
of people did so a bunch of people you
know replied said I need help with my
bills and you know these are replying
people check your DMS check your DMS and
everything like that you started
retweeting people you know who were he
DM and there was even this amazing video
that someone sent him hi hi James
Charles this is Lisa marks I am aiden
marks his mom I wanted just to do a
shout out and thank you from the bottom
of my heart for paying my bills I am so
thrilled and so blessed and so lucky
that my son Aiden tweeted that and with
your generosity I am able to pay my
bills and able to put more into my
classroom thank you for being such a
great role model to my son so isn't that
awesome
isn't that awesome like this this mother
who's also a school teacher like think
about how how her day or even her month
was made because James Charles paid
their bills right she can invest into
the classroom and help those kids like
that's pretty awesome James has a ton of
money so that's great just gave it to
this person as well as many other people
so I got the idea for this video
originally because I was thinking about
drama channels and like let's go back to
mind reading the cognitive distortion of
mind reading
right I'm gonna be talking about drama
channels but I don't mean to throw any
shade at these drama channels but some
of you might assume my motives and
intentions right and this is what some
channels are doing when it comes to
James Charles as well but I was
wondering
our drama channel is gonna cover the
positive are they gonna cover that James
Charles is giving away a bunch of money
so when you look at other channels who
are talking about drama subjects and
everything like that dozens and dozens
and dozens of videos on James Charles
but what is it it's all the negative all
the negative things it's not about the
good thing that he just did so I'm like
how many of them are actually gonna talk
about it so if you look at channels like
you know the viewers voice and things
like that
who have a bunch of James Charles videos
will they make a video about this my
guess is no so I don't necessarily think
this is a bad thing for drama channels
like it's in the name of their Channel
drama channels they're there to call
cover and drama they're not covering the
positive what I want you to pay
attention to is yourself alright so
based on selective attention theory
based on our brains focusing on what we
train it to focus on what do you think
happens when you sit there watching
drama channels all day long do you think
that you're more likely to go out in the
real world and pay attention to the
positive or to the negative when these
channels are dedicated to focusing on
the negative think about that real quick
alright so I was actually well I was
wrong because right before I sat down to
record this video I was like has anybody
made a video about this you know and I
looked at rich lost actually made a
video about it alright let's see like is
he saying hey good job James like did
this amazing thing but I checked it out
and first he showed this tweet right
here
alright this tweet saying don't believe
for one second that James Charles is
doing this out of the kindness of his
heart he's doing this because his views
are down all right do you guys remember
that cognitive distortion I've been
talking about in this video of mind
reading
how could anybody possibly know how
could anybody know the true motives or
intentions right with no evidence no
receipts if you will like James Charles
he must be doing this because of his
views because nobody is that nice like
think about that this is why we need to
work on our mental health our brain lies
to us constantly how many times do we
get upset how many people are upset with
James Charles right now assuming that he
didn't do it with pure intentions now
what rich lux goes on to say is that
James Charles actually got this idea
from Jeffrey stock and I know i'ma get
so much hate in the comments I'm just so
buys the house but I remember Jeffrey
star was paying people's bills and if
somebody has a broken pallet he buy
sends them a new one he's always on
Twitter contributing to the people no I
don't have a problem with rich luxe but
I do have a problem with this narrative
okay
this is something that really really
bothers me all right is is saying oh my
god like oh this wasn't their idea or
they're not doing this good thing for
good intentions because I have two words
for you who cares okay let's break this
down and let's get a rational real quick
let's say Jeffrey star he is the person
who invented it sounds silly just even
saying it let's pretend the jeffree star
invented doing nice things for people
okay he did that so Jeffree started
doing that does that mean nobody else
should do that because they might be
getting they might get accused of
copying Jeffree star so we should we
should deter people from doing nice
things out of fear that they might be
accused of trying to copy jeffree star
think about that real quick think about
the message that we're putting out there
all right
but at the end of the day let's say
worst case scenario let's say I will hop
into the pessimist Chris real quick
let's say that James Charles is cocking
Jeffrey star let's say that James tall's
is only doing this kind act because his
views are down right James Charles is
still trying to recover from all the
drama with taki Westbrook and Jeffrey
song let's say that right remember that
video of the teacher remember the video
of the teacher that I showed you who
cares okay
like I remember last year during drama
get in when Laura Lee came back after an
infamous crying video and she did that
video where she was shining a light on
you know what's going on with the
homeless population in Los Angeles it
she raised awareness for it right
everybody's like oh this is just a PR
stunt and da-da-da-da-da two words once
again who cares all right like I sit
there and I imagine how many homeless
people benefited from morally doing that
video I don't care about Laura Lee's
motives or intentions the reality is
that there was a net positive to that so
when it comes to James Charles like I
just want you guys to sit back and just
really like reflect on what content
you're you're consuming right like is
your brain automatically assuming the
worst in people like ask yourself real
quick do you want to be the type of
person who automatically assumes the
worst in people whenever somebody does a
kind gesture you automatically assume
the worse than them like is that really
who you want to be so I just want you to
sit back and reflect on that like we all
have fun like looking at you know drama
videos and see what's going on in the
YouTube community but if that's
affecting your mentality outside of just
watching YouTube and you're assuming the
worst and everything because of
selective attention theory and cognitive
distortions it's time to sit back and
really reflect on some things and maybe
maybe work on some stuff all right but
anyways that's all I got for this video
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