now imagine that there's a river stream
and you're just floating down this river
stream however imagine that you're
trying to grab onto branches and grab
onto other things and trying to attach
to it and imagine that if you were to
just let go of all of that and go with
the flow that the river would take you
exactly where you need to go welcome
back to another video my name's Aaron
and I owe people expand their
consciousness now in this video I'm
gonna be showing you the power of
detachment how this can be like magic in
your life and why the root of all
suffering is attachment this was
something that Buddha said or this
Buddha was quoted at saying and it's
true the more attached we become to
different things in our life the more
pain we create so the key is
understanding that the more we detach
the more free we become and I'm going to
share with you some things from my own
life that I've noticed through this
process and how it can change your life
and become very magical so first off the
thing I want to share with you is there
is this quote that I heard as well it
came from Deepak Chopra and it had to do
I'm not gonna read the exact quote but
the general idea is that inside of
certainty is the prison of our own
thoughts and certainties also attachment
we become attached to people we become
attached to our thoughts we become
attached to our own labels and in that
attachment is certainty outside of that
certainty is uncertainty and an
uncertainty is where infinite
possibilities are so in a way we hold
ourselves through attachment to
different ideologies maybe it's a
certain person imagine that there are
7.5 billion people out there in the
world and imagine that you are attached
to one person and it has to work right
with one person and you inside of this
little belief system are like it needs
to work out it needs to work out it
needs to work out and I'm attached and
they need to act this way and then I
could be happy but imagine that you are
actually possibly limiting yourself
imagine that there are billions of
people out there and there's a high
likelihood that if you have such a deep
connection with this one person there's
a high likelihood that there could be
someone else out there that you have
even a deeper connection with that is
just an example of this but that's many
times what we do we may be holding on to
certain perspectives that keep us
uncertainty and the Deepak Chopra quote
was about uncertainty and uncertainty
and the unknown is where infinite
possibility is it is where freedom is
and in this video I'm gonna show you the
magic of detachment how you tap into it
and how things really become magical
when we get out of the prison of our own
beliefs the prison of our own attachment
and any time think about any time we
attach to our own thoughts
that's where pain starts to come from
that's where then we we start to get in
this little negative thought loop there
was something I was thinking about the
other day and I just kept figured about
it the more I thought about it the more
it grew and the more attached to it I
was and the more then I would go out
into the world and see other things that
reflected that back to me but the moment
I caught myself and the moment I became
detached from it and think about it when
he become detached you then are able to
separate yourself for me and inside of
it you can then observe it in a new way
and when you observe it in a new way
that's where power is so let's go ahead
and get into this I've attachments
another way of control
so the first off there's different ways
we become attached in general we can
become attached by our thoughts we can
become attached to people and how people
act we can become attached to outcome
this is something I've definitely been
attached to in my life is I've been
attached to pretty much all of these I'm
sure we all have but beliefs another one
attached to certain beliefs this is the
way reality is labels I am somebody with
ADHD this is who I am it's also kind of
tied in to identity as well let me get
some of my notes here I wanted to make
this video a little bit more in detail
understanding this whole process and
really how it works and what we become
attached to so a lot of what we become
attached to in general is we have this
attachment because we like certainty
when we have certainty we feel safe but
many times what happened is we became
safe and we decided this is very very
important to become safe and then we
drained out the magic of life we drained
out allowing the universe to show us
infinite possibility and I believe that
in certainty is where boring is it's
where boring is it's where everything's
the same over and over and over again
and the more we allow ourselves to
change that the easier it is now I have
realized this also when I was working
that 9 to 5 job I remember specifically
outcome
I was working that 95 job selling
woman's shoes at Barneys New York there
were days I would go into work and I'd
be very focused on a certain outcome I
would say okay my goal is to sell it was
a commission job commission based job I
got paid like five or six percent
commission or whatever I sold and the
idea is that if I sell like $5,000
that's like like 300 something dollars
say oh there that's a good day
so I'd go in some days I've been okay my
outcomes I want to sell this amount and
when I went in and I was helping people
and I was then attached to people and
how they responded to me in the hopes
that they would buy something because if
they would buy something I would then
have my outcome the more I would try to
control all of these at different
aspects and the more attached I was to
the outcome the more resistant I would
get because the more attached I was I
was also saying I wasn't trusting the
process if I was helping somebody I was
like okay this person needs to buy
because I only have a couple extra hours
of my shift left and I need to hit my
goal and then I would be attached to the
outcome and it would create this
resistance around everything and then
what would happen is those customers
would feel that resistance from me and
then they wouldn't buy but let me share
with you something there is a magic a
magic to detachment there were days I
would go into work completely detached
from the outcome still with the
intention this doesn't mean detachment
is like we're just aloof and we just
have no direction whatsoever
have intention it's like I intend to
help people today I intend to have this
outcome but I'm not attached to it
happened to happen my happiness my
internal state of being is not attached
to the outside that's really what
attachment is too we have the inner
world and when we're attached we are in
a way trying to control we are like
grabbing the universe by the throat this
is the throat of the universe we are
grabbing the universe by the throat and
we're saying it'd better work out like
this we're trying to control the outside
and attach to it rather than detaching
from it emotionally and energetically
but if we were to detach from it it we
would then become more free so that
sales commission job and every day I
went in I started at zero so it was like
new every single day so the cool thing
about that is it was like a law of
attraction playground I got to see what
worked and what didn't work because
every day I started new and I'll tell
you the most magical days were the days
I was the most detached from outcome and
from how people acted I would just have
fun I would focus on an intention of the
vision but it was mainly focused on
detachment from outcome having fun
trusting the process that's when magic
would really begin to happen and imagine
this even this works with relationships
as well I remember when I first got into
one of my last relationships when I was
in a relationship with the amazing Lior
and when we first started dating I
remember I was really trying to control
I was attached to the outcome super
attached to the outcome I was like I
hope it works out I really hope it works
out and and it was like the beginning I
never felt like that before also I never
I never had that perspective but I never
had a soulful connection with someone
before but I remember the beginning of
our relationship even though we were in
different cities she was in LA I was in
Vegas I'd be thinking I hope I hope
everything goes well I hope she you know
she then she went to like travel to
Europe with her with one of her her best
friends and I was worried I was like I
hope I hope that you know everything's
still going well even though we're so
far away and we can't talk as much we're
on different time zones and stuff the
more attached to it I was the more
resistant I felt and then the
resistance she felt because
energetically we also have you know
skill esoteric here we have energetic
chords from person to person
we all have energetic chords that when
we think about someone we're sending
them energy in his vice-versa
now what happens to when we're attached
we're trying to control we are in a way
rigidly controlling that energetic chord
and then that causes resistance so if
you're trying to attract love and
yourself it into your life the more you
think about this person and the more you
feel resistance because they're not
acting the way you want the more you
resist them and the more they feel that
because energy is contagious
so there's a magic load to detachment
because detachment is also not it is
unconditional love and many times you'll
feel even more of that love Lior and I
were in a relationship for about a year
we're still very very good friends and
we had this deep deep love for each
other even though we're not together and
the moment that it changed we were
starting to feel resistance in our
relationship we were traveling the world
like you guys may have saw we were in
Costa Rica or in Tulum the more we tried
to control we had expectation an
attachment to an expectation of each
other the more resistance in in a little
bit of a box we felt we felt like we
were in a prison of our own beliefs a
prison of our expectations of each other
but then what we realized was that if we
can let go of these expectations and let
go of these labels and his identity at
even being together we didn't felt 3 we
even felt closer than ever and it was
something it was a magical type of thing
now doesn't mean that we're back
together you know that's not that's
doesn't mean there wasn't a non happy
ending it was a very happy ending we
both are still amazing friends and we
will be for our whole lives however the
reason I share that is there's a magic
in an unconditional love that happens
when you're not attached to how love has
to be when you're not attached to
different thoughts and even your
internal world the time you feel
suffering in your internal world is when
you feel attached to your thoughts
because when you feel attached to your
thoughts many times you start to
identify with your thoughts you start to
say this is who I am and one of the
biggest cons in life
that we believe we are our thoughts we
think thoughts but we are not our
thoughts but we think we are that causes
pain that causes suffering but the more
that we can become free of our thoughts
by observing them in a not emotionally
being attached or identified with it the
more free we will become the more free
we will feel from this so another thing
I wanted to talk about a little bit is
something that you've probably heard me
talk about before but I really want to
wire this in now first off magic happens
when you do this because when you get
into the unknown when you get into
uncertainty that's where things can
really begin to happen imagine we have
this this box like that prison I was
showing you and there's a certain way we
think we feel and act and when we do
those things over and over and over
again we become very comfortable with it
and then we do those things over and
over again it means as we become
attached so because it becomes safe but
when we step into the unknown this is
where then we can experience you can't
experience anything new in this little
box because all your to experience is
more of what you know more of what you
know however if you step into what you
don't know this is where then the mind
can't try to just jump to the easiest
thing the mind can't jump to what's
familiar because there's nothing
familiar with in a new environment if
you go to the same gym every day you're
like okay I'm gonna workout right here
okay now I'm gonna go to that machine
over there
I do this every Wednesday and then what
happens if you go to a completely new
gym maybe some type of um like they have
this place in Vegas you go or there's
like different type of yoga bootcamp
stuff and all this other stuff in
different rooms and and all these little
dumbbells and stuff that you use your
mind you go in there and be like that's
just no I don't know where's my where's
my machine
where's my Mitch I want my back machine
out the back were saying I don't say no
back my saying and then it's like wow
but here's the thing you can't you can't
you're not gonna stay in that little
comfort zone and you're gonna get into
the unknown then guess what by branching
out and decided to do something like
that you may meet the love
your life right there next to you doing
the little boot camp little dumbbell
thing and you're like wow that's not a
backward saying but I like you now you
guys know related stuff and now we love
forever see that's out that's the magic
of detachment but here's the thing with
love little pet is stool look at that
we're on a pedestal oh look we're at the
same level now imagine you make
something very very important what we
didn't do is we put it on a pedestal
it's up here we say look at you look at
you up there you're so beautiful oh my
god this doesn't work out it feels so
good
and the moment we put something on a
pedestal we make it very important is
the moment we create resistance
importance equals resistance in a port
since many times also equals attachment
and I'll tell you right now anytime I
make something important I get stopped
on my hand it goes Aeryn no I was like
there you know there's been times I'm
like I've been looking at how something
I really want this house I really want
this house I start feeling resistance
resistance I started really thinking
about it I get my own head about it and
then things will kind of fall apart it's
the universe going you know just relax
it's okay we got this okay that's what
happens and then if there's someone like
so when you start dating someone like oh
my god you're on a pedestal you so
amazing so amazing so amazing so like
why am I feeling this resistance from
this person I like this person I want to
like them but I feel this resistance and
the universe goes on your head and goes
I mean no okay detach that's the key
it's detachment its detachment incoming
becoming free become free you want to
know here's something else that I was
attached to for a long time I'm gonna
share this with you I haven't even
showed a story yet intermittent fasting
inter you guys get the minute fasting
okay in a minute fasting for a long time
I for two years I was doing this thing I
would not eat till 3 p.m. every day and
I would stop being at like 4:30 p.m.
I'd eaten like 1 and 1/2 hour window all
my food for the day I would like eat a
huge meal and it was really
cool and I enjoyed that however I
realized that if I went to the gym at 12
p.m. I would then have a really crappy
work out I start never really crappy
workout something why is this happening
I don't care but it wouldn't happen as I
was talking to one of our mind Victor's
friend
Victor's my best friend and then this
guy that that we knows real cool guy
he's like a body built he really
understands you know how the body works
all this stuff and I was talking to him
and I became aware and I had this rigid
belief that I couldn't eat until 3
o'clock every day then what happened as
I became aware that actually what I need
to do to gain weight and gain muscle
which is what I wanted that's what I
wanted to do is I have to I have to
extend my eating window a little bit in
termina fastings within an eight-hour
window but for some weird crazy reason I
was attached as one and a half hour
window in my mind I was attached to this
identity this perspective I am and in a
minute faster decide who I am Plus as I
attached that belief one know what
happened I realized that in order for me
to get my goals I actually have to let
that go I have to a detached from that
perspective when I detached from that
perspective guess what I felt so much
release and freedom because I'm like
wait you mean you can tell me that after
I make my youtube video what I just made
right make it right now I can go over
there and make this really cool shake
with a little bit of vegan protein
powder with a little bit of fruit with a
little bit of spinach with a little bit
of this vegan yogurt and I can eat drink
that and then go to the gym an hour
later and have all this energy to work
out and feel amazing and not feel so
fatigued this is a brand new world but I
was attached so detaching you feel free
I'm like whoa maybe intermittent fasting
mainly works because I believed in it so
much you could say well science shows
that it does work well maybe the science
shows that it does work attracts the
people that really believe in the
science and then therefore that's their
belief system so then to become attached
to the belief and that becomes a reality
maybe there's many many many different
ways of going about this whole weight
thing in this little diet thing or you
know food nutrition thing you see but
the key and
magic of this is becoming free become
free of these perspectives and when you
become emotionally free that's where the
magic begins to happen that's where you
feel like anything could happen if you
imagine you have this chain with you and
you're lugging around this weight and
imagine that chain and that weight is
ball and chain is what remains from your
past and if you take and you're attached
to your past you're lugging that
everywhere you go and your past is also
the certainty the past conditioning that
makes you feel familiar you may be
attached to certain relationships you
had certain people you had certain
thoughts you have thinking those are who
you are that's your identity and when
you realize that you can cut cut cut
that ball and chain that these old these
old ball and chain cutters imagine I was
a ball and chain it's not you thought it
was a chain but actually it was like a
piece of dental floss you could just cut
that dental floss so easily and just be
free and be free and the key is the
realization that you are not your
thoughts that you do not need anyone
else in your life to make you happy you
generate your happiness from within you
do not need the outcome to turn out a
little certain way you do not need to be
attached to certain beliefs labels or
identity it is a false premise that
we've been sold it is a false premise
that we believed and we have to take
responsibility for it and when we change
that we change everything so the key to
everything I'm sharing with you today is
to let go that's it let go and be free
step into the unknown challenge become
aware of the story you tell yourself the
story about how reality works the story
that you have to remain attached to the
outcome the story that the people you
meet have to be a certain way there's a
story around all of these things and
when you let go of that story and you
detach from it you become free and when
you become free you become empowered
when I became free of that belief that I
to do intermittent fasting within a 1/2
hour window I felt like there's a hole
but I can eat whatever I want and I can
have a shake in the morning I feel good
okay it's a whole new world and you
would have a whole new world you're
attached to a breakup that you went
through
then you're gonna feel resistance
there's a little box if you just back
out and you realized the truth that
there's like billions of people out
there and that if you had this deep
connection with this person then there's
a likelihood that you could have even a
deeper connection with someone else and
then you learned a lot from that
relationship and that now you know that
there's something out there even better
for you and that's the magic of this
video so many times in my life I let go
and magic happens even my own YouTube
stats when I'm intending to grow my
channel the more I wanted to go a
certain way the more resistance I feel
but the more I'm cool the more I'm cool
I just have fun you guys can feel that I
remember you guys probably see me do
that analogy before please please like
this video like this video please I'm
really attached to what you do and how
you react to me and what you think about
me and you feel that resisted you go bro
you want to be like the universe to me
go hey Aaron
I go okay I'll stop it but I go all
suave and cool part of my natural self
image die hey beautiful would you mind
just lacking this video if you liked it
if you did that would be really cool and
then you feel that any like oh okay I
guess I like the video you see what I
made different energy but anytime we're
attached we're trying to control we're
running around we're trying to make
things happen we're going down this
beautiful river and this beautiful river
is taking us exactly where we need to go
but we're trying to grab onto branches
we're trying to grab onto things we've
got like the oar and we're like just
trying to like viciously go this it's
like dude the current is taking you
where you need to go just chill out
relax bro don't be attached don't try to
control just be and the more you let go
when you become free of trying to
control the more you let go you become
free of your thoughts the people trying
to have them act a certain way the
outcomes that beliefs labels identity
the more free you will
actually B this is the key to really
becoming the kind of person that you
want to be so there is a meditation I
have for letting go of the outcome you
can check it out by clicking the top
description box you'll see a 1 there
listen that it'll help you let go be
free of your past identity and be free
of outcome as well as very powerful read
the comments to as possible other than
that I hope you enjoyed the video peace
much love and namaste
