- Hey everybody!
I'm Shawn.
- I'm Andrew.
- And today we're gonna do
something a little different.
We're going to do myth
busters of engagements
slash wedding planning
process and all the chaos
that comes with it.
- The way we're gonna go about this is
we have 10 questions and we
each have one true card--
- Don't show it yet!
- We're gonna ask the
question and then Shawn and I
are both gonna through up either
a true card or a false card
as to what we think the
answer to that question is.
- Game show style.
- Exactly.
- Let's dive right in.
- False!
What?
(laughing)
- I don't know if I actually believe it.
I'm just saying true
because that's what I did.
Don't start planning the wedding the day
after you get engaged
because like he's gone to
so much trouble to like
pay for a beautiful ring
and plan all of this.
You should like live in
the moment a little bit
before you go, you know, jump into
even bigger planning processes.
- We were actually just
sitting down and talking
with one of our friends
who does wedding planning.
- Yes.
- And they said that it
only takes four months
to plan a wedding so most people--
- It's like easiest to
plan in four months.
- Yeah, yeah, and it's
less stress so don't.
Question number two.
- True or false?
- False.
- False, but we actually
have a wedding planner
and I would recommend a wedding planner
because it does make the
process so much easier.
It takes so much stress off of you.
Yes, wedding planners cost money but
in the end, I do think it's worth it.
But for some people who are like really
hands on, they want to
do every little detail,
a wedding planner kind
of does that for you so.
Okay, question number three.
- ASAP.
True.
- Yes, this one is true people.
Like, I'm sorry, but when you get engaged,
run to the venue you want and book it.
There are so many weddings
out there, it's so hard.
- Like years in advance you gotta book it.
- Yes.
- It's insane.
- It's crazy.
Now I will tell you if you have
a very, very small wedding,
venues are very easy to get into.
Not very easy, but easier.
You want to have a wedding on a Saturday
which is really hard because like
there's only so many
Saturdays in a year so.
- There's 52 Saturdays in a year actually.
Question number four.
(laughing)
- It is, it is and it isn't.
It's stressful.
There's so many details, there's
so many people to please.
Even though it is our day, it's
kind of like everybody's day
so it's a stressful process.
Not to mention, costs a fortune,
takes a long time to plan,
there's a lot of moving parts.
- Yeah, there's a lot of
details that go into it
that really can bog you
down and distract you
from the fact that,
whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa,
we're actually getting marred here,
this is gonna be like the biggest thing
that we ever do in our entire lives.
- Yes.
- So don't lose sight of that,
that's an important thing
to remember.
- Question number five.
No!
- Definitely not.
- No no no!
This is probably going to
be the most stressful part
for everybody.
It was the most stressful part for us.
Still is.
- For sure.
It's tough because like
you have all these friends
that you meet in high school
and college, at your work,
and you're like oh my gosh,
that person's always been
so great to me, so kind, so supportive.
I wanna invite them to the wedding.
Look, people understand.
You shouldn't feel guilty
not inviting somebody.
- No, and I'm gonna tell you
right now, you're gonna be put
in an awkward position.
- Question number six.
Definitely not.
- No.
I made the mistake of like going
into stuff like oh you have
to be involved in everything,
it like means so much,
I want him to do, I
wanted him to be involved
in every single question
and detail and whatever.
And then I slowly was like no,
I don't anymore, I'm sorry.
- Well, and, I mean
it's just a fact of life
that the bride is gonna care
more about all the ins and outs
because this is something that
they've dreamed about for--
- Yeah.
- A while and the groom is
just like, I don't care.
- (laughing) Yeah.
Number seven!
- Don't do it, it's a bad life decision.
- Okay I put both up.
- What?
- Wait, hold on, there's a reason.
Only because I kinda thought
this at the beginning,
but now I'm way on this side.
- Why did you think that?
- We dreamed the wedding.
That's how like--
- Some girls do.
- Some girls do.
Weddings are expensive.
I figure it's gonna take, no
matter what kind of wedding
you want, it's gonna take a
ton of money to pay for it.
Now, having gone through
this process I have learned
you don't have to and you should not.
There's so many different
things that you can do.
So you need to negotiation
and research and--
- Negotiate for sure because
people take advantage
of weddings.
Guys, this is also a bad time
to say super extreme things
like honey, we could either
use this money to pay
for a wedding or we could use this money
to fund our kid's education in the future.
I said that, I don't know if
she's forgiven me yet still
and that was a couple months ago.
- Slowly talk the woman off the cliff
in a very loving manner.
- It might take, it
took me like two months
to talk her off the cliff.
I think it's really
important that you just agree
on a budget up front before you start
the wedding planning process
and just stick to it.
You like--
- As best as you possibly can.
Number eight.
- Don't do it.
- [Shawn] No.
If you let the wedding
take over your engagement,
it might ruin your engagement.
- Yeah.
There's more important things in life
and I think the relationship
should always be
the top priority.
- Definitely.
Boys, still take your fiance on dates
and do sweet little things.
- I haven't been doing
a good job with that.
- You've been doing a great job.
Just because you're engaged
and you're planning a wedding
doesn't mean you should
like look over the fact
that you're still dating
and in a relationship
and you still need to like
grow and find out more things
about each other.
- You should never stop dating.
- No.
- Even when you're married.
- No, you should not.
- Just date your wife,
not other people though.
- Yes, only your wife.
(laughing)
Number nine.
If there's a disagreement, which
there's going to be plenty,
I promise, one side should back down
so there is no conflict at all.
No!
Argue.
- It's okay.
- In a loving way.
- It's okay to argue and have conflict.
It's not okay to be super
immature when you fight.
Find this compromise.
- The number one rule in our
relationship is transparency
just in general.
- Honesty.
- And like communication.
Yes.
And so with arguments, with disagreements,
yes you should argue, you
should work it out, converse.
Figure it out!
- Number 10.
- Sorry. (laughing and talking quietly)
No!
- [Andrew] Not true.
- Not at all.
Not even remotely so.
You propose because you want
to know more about that person
and continue to know
more about the person.
Don't give up on that.
- There's actually a couple
good books that we've read
that we'll put in the description.
That's really helped us
understand marriage is all about
growing together and
you're not gonna be married
to the person 10 years from
now that you married today.
- Yeah, we're always changing,
we're always growing,
we're always kind of becoming a new person
and so when you sign up for
engagement and for marriage,
you're signing up to marry
whoever that person is going
to be 10, 20, 30, 50
years down the road so.
- But it's this responsibility
that we have to each other,
that I have to you and you
have to me to make sure
that that change is positive, you know?
- Yes, definitely.
- So it's a pretty cool
thing, marriage is.
- Very.
Those are our 10 kinda
defunked, debunked myth busters
true or false questions that we've learned
through our engagement
and wedding process.
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I don't know why I did that.
- Definitely not.
- No.
- Do-
- [Shawn] Ah.
(laughing)
- You're doing a good job.
- Thank you.
- You're doing a good job.
- Thank you.
Um one chide, one chide?
- That's not how you say that word.
- Um.
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