well the thing that is most
uncomfortable about your current
situation is that it feels to you like
your happiness your relationship with
your vortex is dependent upon what
somebody else does and you can't control
that you're talking with our friend a
little earlier to be in that sort of a
place that feels like a bind and to send
a powerful rocket of desire with the
ulterior motive of sending a rocket out
to fix what's broken so that you can
feel better yeah it's just sort of a
backwards approach to it now it's easy
for us to say and not always so easy for
you to hear but situations like this
where you send those Rockets forth
create even better relationships for you
yeah and it's clear that something that
you very much wanted from this
relationship was something that he very
much did not want it's an interesting
thing what you feel as soothing your
sense of insecurity to him feels like a
loss of freedom and so it's sort of like
he has to give up something he wants in
order for you to get what you want when
you play in the very narrow relationship
field when it's just the two of you but
if instead you can step back and say oh
well this was just data collecting and
this was just helping me through the
course of the relationship to define
what I really want in a relationship and
thank you very much for helping me
define it so I have created speaking of
you I have created a relationship and
it's in my vortex of creation waiting
for me but your attention to this person
who claims not to be it keeps you from
going in the vortex to you never will
have a satisfying experience when you
think that your vortex work is done to
control the behavior of another so that
you can feel better in other words is
still the same old thing I need to
control the circumstances of them
so that I will feel better and what it
really comes down to nobody ever likes
this advice when we give it to them they
ask for it they never like it when we
give it to them is that you have two
choices
you can be without this person and
unhappy or without this person and happy
and if you choose to be because the
third option isn't on the table being
dragged him and you into the vortex and
make him marry you so when you say I am
determined to be happy and further I'm
even more empowered because this data
helped me decide more clearly what I
want this isn't a question about whether
you're right or he's right about how
relationships should unfold this is
about you living enough life to know
clearly what you want and him helping
you put it in a very clear way and now
the universe has already orchestrated
that the question is how long are you
going to use that relationship as your
excuse not to go rendezvous with what
you're really asking for
it's when I think of him I love every
single aspect of him well maybe that's
true and maybe it's not but we all
witness just now you thought of him and
went into the vortex and then you
thought of him and it wore Tex spit you
out because thinking of him can put you
in the vortex and thinking of the
absence of him can spit you out of the
vortex but the thought of him is not
very safe territory is it no no in other
words if you're determined to be in the
vortex and this is the thing that's hard
to hear because sometimes in fact really
really often people want to know how to
get in the vortex so that the vortex can
work its magic and make something turn
out the way they want it and we say
you're misusing the vortex you want to
get in the vortex because it feels good
in there period you're going to get in
there because now you're who you are
period you want to get in there because
that's where you belong and if you get
in there and learn to hang around in
there consistently then you'll start
getting the inspiration to move in the
direction of everything that you want
and all life is so fun when you're
hanging around and moving around in the
vortex I would like to ask also when I
do have thoughts of him I know you said
it's unsafe territory but I'm reminded
of him everywhere I look music
everything all the time well then you've
got to find a way to make those thoughts
work for you and the fastest way to get
there is you were so good for me and I
was so good for you but the greatest
gift you've given me is that you
sharpened my awareness of who I really
am and caused me to create you see what
you're creating you're not creating a
relationship you're creating you in a
relationship you're not creating money
you're creating you in a financial
experience in other words you are the
creator of you so what you what you want
to say to him as you think about him is
you were so helpful to me because you
beside the fun we had together you
helped me to clarify Who I am and what I
want to the degree that now was in my
vortex is so much more evolved
and it would not be if it had not been
for you thank you so much for the step
along the way in my creation of me
that you were you see when you get in
the vortex here's the value of just
getting in there and hanging around just
for the heck of it just just because we
say so here's the value of it once
you're consistently hanging around in
there your self-confidence comes back
into its natural rhythm your sense of
worthiness and well-being comes back
into its natural rhythm and all that's
happened here is that he caused you to
create a relationship that you have not
yet lived you've got to figure out how
to find the vibrational essence of it
and live it before the relationship can
be yours
you see you have not yet been and this
is true of almost everyone you are not
yet a vibrational match to the
relationship of your dreams and this
person who has just left is not a
vibrational match to the relationship of
your dreams in other words he didn't go
because you're not lovely to be with and
he didn't really go because you scared
him away he went because he's not a
match to the relationship that he helped
you create can you hear that and so when
you think of him you want to say thanks
so much for all of all of all of all of
it
and I'm so pleased with what we created
for me and for you as a result of being
together and now I'm gonna do my very
best to give my undivided attention
to whatever thoughts take me into that
vibrational vicinity where the trail
will unlike before me where the
rendezvous is will begin and we promise
you there'll be a time when you sat down
you began by talking about this
delicious relationship which lasted just
seconds as you began because you went
right to the lack of it but there is
something so much big
