hey everybody thank you so much for
joining me today I'm going to talk about
how to lean back and really Drive a guy
WILD with your feminine energy and just
how leaning back is a very feminine
energy motion and movement to do for a
lot of us it won't feel natural until we
begin to experience the positive effects
from it so today I'm here to talk about
that with you I'm Adrienne Everheart
I'm your dating and relationship coach
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be notified. so let's talk a little bit
about what leaning back is versus
leaning in so feminine energy is about
the woman not making things happen for
the relationship you're not making
actions and outcomes happen for the
relationship so when you come from a
place of I'm going to allow the man to
be in his masculine energy and take the
lead role in this relationship a lot of
women lose that in translation and
believe that that means you don't
complain or whine that you don't tell a
man how you feel and that you don't do
anything in the relationship I've even
had women ask me so am I not supposed to
talk on a date am I just supposed to
lean back I've had women say this as
well so today I'm gonna clarify how to
lean back and how to really drive a guy
wild so let's talk about what makes him
feel wild for you what makes him want to
chase you and pursue you so let's talk
about that when a man feels like a man
and he is using all of the chemicals and
hormones in his body that makes him feel
so good and wonderful which has so much
to do with making a woman feel good you
can think about a man's career his car
his body his physique
why is he doing it all why does he get
up in the morning and shave why does he
go to the gym and workout and why does
he try to make a good living for you and
learn how to touch you the way you like
and do these things and why do men like
to have themselves surrounded by women
they feel intoxicated by it so when men
are receiving that warmth from a woman
and they're able to take some sort of
action and create more of that feeling
for themselves they feel amazing the
career does make them feel good the
career does make them feel like a man
like their action their work is making
producing something that's creating
importance that they're feeling more
important and more valued as a person in
society now that's something that we all
want we all want to feel important and
have some sort of badge or recognition
men want it very much so because it also
coincides with feeling and being a man
so when a woman becomes this source for
a man to feel good and to feel wonderful
and like a man you got him you got him
because you become that one woman that
he comes home from a very hard day at
work and you are warm and receiving and
he gets that charge from you and it's a
very different type of charge than the
charge he's getting at work or the
charge he gets when he drives his sports
car or whatever it may be that makes him
feel like a man you see so when you
drive a man while by leaning back you're
allowing his energy to work for him and
you in the relationship it has nothing
to do with being a doormat or sitting on
your feelings or not talking and zipping
your lips and being silent and waiting
for the guy to do everything a couple of
things I want to talk about a couple of
my clients had problems recently a girl
was
contacted by her ex and she had told me
he had contacted her she really really
likes him
but for now she's just gonna lean back
and I said well what does that mean
does that mean that you're not talking
him yeah I'm just gonna lean back
leaning back is not a form of
communication
leaning back is not a coping skill or
coping tool leaning back is not to
torture someone until you decide it's
the right time to speak to them leaning
back is not used for manipulation all
right so we're gonna make sure you
understand that feeling statements
you're not saying I feel I feel I feel
to get the guy to do something or be
something or have some reaction so let's
look at masculine and feminine energy
masculine energy is doing making things
happen solving problems putting the
pieces together speaking up to authority
making things happen in a specific order
organizing it all right
feminine energy in the relationship not
at your job is about receiving you're
receiving from the man you're letting
him be in charge of these things that he
feels good doing and you're receiving
you're not making things happen so if
you use your feelings statements as a
way to make things happen with the man
you're using them in masculine energy
you're using them as manipulation I
wanna make that perfectly clear
leaning in lean sorry leaning back is
not to manipulate the man it is you have
found a man that you like he's either
going to get into his masculine energy
and begin putting things in place to
claim you to invest more time when you
to get to know you better
he's either gonna start doing that or
not your best chances of making that
happen are by being in you're receiving
energy and leaning back
and being warm there is a term now
called breathing which is you do you I
do me and I'm just gonna see where you
take this and then has a very
off-putting energy to it and really
instead leaning back means I'm gonna
engage with you I'm gonna fully be here
I'm not just gonna observe you like
you're a science experiment and just see
what you do that's coming from a place
of expectations I'm gonna lean back I'm
gonna receive and I'm gonna engage now I
have some really specific tools for
engaging one of them it's my really
really get him tool which is the man is
telling you about something he's
experienced and something that he's you
know going through in a moment
and you look at his face and you name
one emotion and you say wow this must
feel so blank for you and you name the
emotion and he goes yeah I'm really
feeling whatever it is that's a great
tool to use with a man leaning back on a
date you can talk about anything you
want to speak about but you're not
running the conversation you're not
managing the conversation and whatever
you're speaking about you speak about it
with passion with how it feels in your
body so again action is making things
happen forcing things into reality or
existence whereas the man likes to be
the person in charge of making things
happen now if a man is ever comes to you
and says I don't know where to go out
tonight where do you think we should go
he's asking you what would feel good for
you what would feel nice for you all
right
or if a man doesn't know how to do
something you can say oh my goodness I'm
feeling so helpless will you let me know
if there's anything I can do so you're
able to take it from that place when it
comes to complaining whining absolutely
you can pulling absolutely you can let
someone know how you feel you don't want
to overdo
anybody in it I teach you to be very
self-sufficient so feeling statement and
I feel so icky I'm feeling so confused
I'm feeling like mmm I don't want to do
this that's how you feel that's a
boundary I'm not gonna do it I don't
want to go there this is feeling
something I don't want to have happen
I'm not gonna do it no those are
boundaries so we're gonna go back to
feeling statements and boundaries
those are your keys here leaning back
I'm not making anything happen I'm not
forcing for dates to happen
communication to happen conversations to
happen I'm able to sit there so let's
say the two of you are sitting there on
a date and there's been a whole minute
of silence and he's like when's this
girl gonna talk again that's okay you
just smile and be warm and kind of
giggle and go that's how you're feeling
and if you could even want to say gosh
I'm feeling like this is a long time
without talking but it's kind of nice
just to sit here and get to know each
other that's how you feel all right so
some ways to really drive him while
we're leaning back to recap let him feel
like the man in the relationship that
you're not pushing an agenda on him
you're not pushing an outcome you're not
pushing this into creation I talked
about sports baseball games are a great
example or any sports game they take so
long to unfold and unwind men love it
and then that's just the game the game
took three hours you have the whole
season and it's the slow unfolding it's
the hunt it's the chase have you ever
come across your cat hunting a bird he
might have been hunting that bird all
day he might have been hunting a bunny
all night it's the chase they want
that's what feels good to them because
in that feeling good they're feeling
like a man more and more and more in the
slow burn the slow unfolding of that
relation
he's getting really hooked on you
because all he knows is I keep having
these wonderful experiences with this
woman her energy is not all over me I
feel like she's not already expecting me
to be her boyfriend and we're just
really getting to know each other feels
so good I'm protecting her I'm being
there for her I'm paying for dates for
her
I'm putting good food in her tummy in
great movies and we're having wonderful
experiences together he's feeling so
good because in the real world he's out
there competing with so many other men
and that world doesn't always it does
not feel as wonderful and as good as the
world he has with you or the world he
had with his mother or the world that he
has with his sisters or even he might
have a really good gal pal he's had
since college that's your secret little
world that you get to have with a man if
you create this the right way and you're
not making things happen for him you're
not criticizing him coaching him getting
him to do it your way
manipulating him all right so I hope I
have really turned you on how to lean
back in a relationship and do it the
right way I'm gonna take a couple of
questions on this if any of you have any
questions about leaning back put on my
spectacles here to see one person says
I've been doing this for a while and
every date I have now wants to see me
again Bravo that's awesome and what do I
do if my guys asking to see me once a
week
used to be more and now that it's summer
and he's pursuing his interest he checks
in every day and he's giving and
supporting otherwise so he switched to
just a once a week dating schedule are
you exclusive if you're exclusive and
you're only dating him I would let him
know I would retouch on the terms and
conditions which is this feels wonderful
you know seeing you once a week yet I'm
I want to be in a regular relationship
where I see someone more regular than
this what do you think we can do
okay am i taking coaching sessions I am
gonna be teaching theme courses so to
stay on the lookout for those there'll
be very small groups and it'll be
coaching but in a more a little bit of a
group setting thank you for asking
how can you lean back when he pulls away
and you miss him so this is a really
good question you have someone in your
life one minute and now you suddenly
have all this time on your hands so I
made a video I think it launched just
yesterday about how to deal with a
breakup on social media but there's a
lot of great tips in there about what do
I do with myself when I really like this
guy and he's there one minute and he's
gone the next so this is where you want
to keep your life so rich and full and
juicy that even if he does pop out of
existence for a little bit you still
have this other whole other world you
can keep exploring so this is why you
want to have those five men that you're
dating even if a couple of them are
disposable they're just coffee dates
that are just kind of in and out and you
have some other men that you can quantum
date and just meet for coffee and if
you're in a committed relationship with
the man you need to revisit the terms
and conditions of that relationship one
person said how can I lean back when my
fiancee is anxious and preoccupied and
insecure so a lot of this has to do with
warmth and then an openness to just talk
about what's going on and if he's stuck
in his feminine energy and he's not
doing things start small
I made the mistake with my first husband
of just going all-in and just stopping
everything all at once and it was
horrific because the guy's like wait how
do I do all of this stuff again you're
just suddenly you know if you've ever
had a child that doesn't know how to
dress themselves and every morning you
have to get them up and dress
and there's that one morning you say
you're old enough to dress yourself and
they have to kind of figure it out
so you want to take it a little slower
than that and you want to start with one
or two things that he can do and you
want to praise him for them when he does
them and let him know oh my goodness it
feels so good to come home and have
dinner plans all laid out for us on our
date night or whatever it may be I hope
that will help you start small and build
upon it just build upon it we'll take
one more question let me go into live
chat and looking for questions here
someone says how do you pass on health
information for him without seeming
masculine so that's kind of vague when
you mean health information is that like
you know you need to lose 40 pounds or
you're gonna have a heart attack maybe
what is that but a lot of times the
woman can be kind of the more health
minded person statistics have shown that
women who are in relationships with men
when you start taking better care of
yourself and losing weight the man will
- he'll trim up - and so lead by example
do what's right for you
you have to accept this man exactly
where he is what he can and can't do and
you can't change him you can just let
him know what does feel good for you and
what you do really like that's why you
want to choose the captain of your ship
really wisely before you choose a
partner and you become fully committed
to him you want to make sure that your
values are in sync that these are things
that the two of you are gonna be able to
connect on so try leaning back try
implementing more of this in your life
this means you know not initiating dates
but if things are going good with the
guy every two or three days yes reach
out to him let him know how this is
feeling for you that the the date last
night felt so wonderful and let him know
how things feel in your body for you
from that experience
you can even say to a man Oh last night
felt lovely I'm looking forward to I
feel so good to do this again what do
you think you just don't want every
single time it has to be this way
recently someone had told me that their
man wants them to be crazy for them he
says I want you to be crazy for me I
want you to just totally be crazy about
me and I would go to a man who says this
sort of thing to you and say well what
does that mean what would that look like
I feel weird chasing the guy I'm an
old-fashioned girl I feel a little weird
chasing a man or what does it look like
because what he might really be wanting
is just more warmth and find out what
his love languages is it touch is it you
know quality time what is it and find
out just what that means that he wants
more attention because again leaning
back we misinterpret it sometimes and we
just think we're supposed to be stoic
and cold and all zipped up and that's
actually not it you want to be totally
in your body expression expressing what
you feel from your body with warmth
practice warmth ladies keep keep that
smile and that warm soft energy in your
vibe instead of vetting the man when you
start vetting him trying to figure him
out what's he doing what why did he do
that and I didn't like this behavior
that's when he can feel that you're not
liking him he can feel it there's an
energy that you're judging him and he
won't feel good because in the outside
world
with all the other men in this world
that's how he feels every day every
minute is that he has to compete even
with his guy friends there's always an
alpha some one is above the other one
but when he gets to come home to you and
be with you
that is his safe haven at the end of the
day okay
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home and learn more about feminine
energy and how this can really work in a
relationship for you and a good place to
start is with my ebook, "500 ways to talk
to a man" it's a guide book that you
actually can keep on your phone and you
can use the little search icon to search
something like you know nude pic for
example or pictures or something like
that let's say guys saying hey send me
pictures and it'll come up with a script
that you can use or you can work with to
tell your guy you know what you may or
may not feel about this so there's a lot
of resources in that ebook and the first
part of the book I also teach you how to
find what you feel in your body so go
check out "500 ways to talk to a man"
there's a version that comes with video
courses as well with some in help with
you know your body postures and things
like this so it's a lot of fun it'll be
a good thing for you to self-study
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