- Hello everybody, and welcome
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My name is George Lizos,
I'm a spiritual teacher, intuitive,
the co-creator of Elemental Healing,
and the author of "Be The Guru".
And today it is my honor
to have here with me
the super fabulous Gala Darling.
Gala Darling is a speaker
and the best-selling author
of "Radical Self-Love:
"A Guide to Loving Yourself
and Living Your Dreams".
She has been teaching radical self-love,
a selection of powerful
techniques and tools
which help women transform their lives
for close to a decade.
Her site, galadarling.com,
helps a million women a
month find their voice,
live without fear, and
fall in love with life.
Gala, welcome to the Lit
Up Lightworker Podcast.
- Hello!
It's so good to be reunited with you,
even if it's just digitally.
- Indeed, and I'm so excited
to be chatting all about
raising our vibration,
manifesting our best life,
through the amazing techniques you teach.
I see you on Instagram stories,
and I see the results people get,
especially with your tapping techniques,
and I'm just so in awe, and so grateful
for the light you're
shining into the world.
But before we get into all the good stuff,
I wanna start from the beginning.
What has been your story
to teaching about self-love
and manifestation?
- I think anyone who is a powerful teacher
is a powerful teacher because they came
from the opposite of that place.
So, I was always a creative child,
and wanted to do creative things,
and as I got older I received the message
that I had to do something that would
make me plenty of money,
something that was safe, be a lawyer,
be a journalist, you know,
take these safe paths.
And it really resulted in me
shutting down my creativity,
and becoming very depressed.
I developed an eating disorder, and I was
in a really dark place for
probably about 10 years.
Then when I was 22 years old,
I discovered this
technique called tapping,
which is also known as EFT,
Emotional Freedom Technique,
which literally you just go like this,
you tap on your face while you talk about
what's difficult, what's
stressing you out,
and it releases the energetic blocks.
And you can see with a
whole new perspective,
and you're rewiring your brain.
And that's basically it.
And once I discovered that technique
I was obsessed with
telling people about it,
and telling people that
life could be different.
Because so many people
believe that depression,
and eating disorder, whatever,
is a life sentence,
and it is something you
will never recover from.
It's something you will
always suffer with.
And I wanna dispel that
rumor, it's not true.
- 100%, and I love how you teach tapping.
I can see personally as well,
when I discovered it it's
completely transformed my life.
I was in my third year of
university in Bristol, in the UK,
and I discovered tapping,
I'm like "Okay, great.
"I'm just gonna sit here on the
bed every single day for one
"to two hours, and tap
out all my life's issues."
And that's what I did!
- One out!
- I'm just, and just to hit myself,
cry and let it all out,
and I would feel so good afterwards.
However, I want to touch on a point,
because many teachers teaching
about the love attraction,
and manifestation, don't think
that tapping or embracing, or
expressing negative emotion,
is a good thing.
They feel that as we express
the negative emotion,
we recreate it into our lives.
So I feel there is this fear,
in the spiritual community in general,
where people feel like oh, I'm
supposed to be 100% positive,
and therefore they
over-spiritualize their problems,
suppress their emotions,
and create a fake positivity
that doesn't really help them.
So where do you stand on this?
And how can we use
Emotional Freedom Technique,
or any other technique to
release our negative emotions
without manifesting them.
- Well, I love that you brought that up,
because it's such a fear that people have,
and they feel like if they
say what they're afraid of,
or they say what's not working,
then they're going to create more of it.
But you have to look at
what's going on in your life,
and accept it in order to move forward.
Because covering it up
with fake positivity,
it's like having old
garbage in your apartment,
and instead of taking the garbage out
you just spray air-freshener.
You can spray air freshener all day,
your garbage is still gonna stink.
So with tapping, I think of it as removing
an emotional thorn from your body.
And the great thing with tapping
is it's not like talk therapy
where you talk about it,
and you reiterate it, and you relive it,
you talk about it and you literally remove
the belief from your body.
And when I think back about how my life
used to be before I tapped,
I can't even connect
with that story anymore.
It's like watching a
movie of somebody else.
It's that far removed
from my consciousness.
It's like an old story that
doesn't connect in any way.
And so that's why tapping is so important.
And I think it is such an
essential piece of manifesting,
because if you want some thing,
like say you want to be in a relationship,
but your underlying beliefs
are I'm not lovable,
I always get left, it's not safe,
you can't trust men, whatever.
As long as you're holding those beliefs
you're going to be calling
in love with one hand
and pushing it away with the other.
Though with tapping you can
literally remove those beliefs,
and put new beliefs in, beliefs
like I'm really lovable,
people look after me.
When you believe those things
you can create relationships,
manifestations, things
that you really want,
because you got rid of the old stuff
that was holding you back.
And I really think tapping
and manifestation go
together so beautifully,
I actually can't think
of a better combination.
- Indeed, it's like mental
and emotional decluttering in other words.
You feel it once, you let it go,
and then you don't revisit it again.
I think what most people fear
is just reiterating, as you said,
the same thing over and over again.
But with tapping, the best thing about it,
you don't need to just keep talking it
with different friends all the time,
you talk it with your tapping
and then it's gone. (laughing)
- Yeah, which is amazing.
And it sounds so crazy,
but I always tell people
the proof is in the pudding.
When you try it, you will understand
what is really going on,
and your mind will be blown.
- 100%, now, I know you recently launched
your membership site, The Vortex,
with the aim of providing
tools and research sets
to help people raise their vibration.
You include tapping and so
many other teachings as well,
and I know my friend Colin
Bedell is in as well.
- Oh, I was just thinking!
I was like "I wonder if Colin
and George know each other,
"because they are both so cute."
- Oh my God, I interviewed
him last week actually,
on the podcast, I love Colin.
He has such fabulous energy.
Like fabulous is the word I
would use to describe Colin.
- [Gala] Absolutely.
- So tell us more about The Vortex,
and what your hope for it is.
- Well, about two years ago,
I discovered Abraham Hicks,
and I started to live by the philosophy
that feeling good was my job.
And I decided to do this because
nothing else was working.
I was listening to Tony Robbins,
and I was making to do lists,
and I was doing all these things,
and nothing was really
making me feel any better.
And I was so desperate
that I was like okay, fine,
I'll try feeling good as my job.
Which basically means every
time you have a thought
that's out of alignment,
or that doesn't feel good,
you stop yourself and you
think about something else.
You basically distract
yourself from your pain.
And it was so powerful,
and my life transformed so quickly,
within about four months my
life was totally different.
And so that's what The Vortex is.
So it's me doing tapping videos.
And I have advice shows, I have
an advice shows with Colin,
I have an advice show with my dad.
Colin does the astrology,
my friend Grace Smith does the hypnosis,
Jessica Snow does the meditations.
Like these are the most powerful magicians
I know that I've brought in
to bolster the community,
and we're over a thousand people strong,
it's been so amazing.
- Wow.
- And it's like my dream job!
Every week I get to be like
what do I wanna make for people?
And just create something really cool.
Like the last thing I filmed for them was,
there's this woman in Silverlake, in LA,
who's built a greenhouse in her backyard,
but every panel of the
greenhouse is a different color.
And it's called the Chromacabana,
it's this beautiful, multi-colored
thing in her backyard.
So we filmed a tapping routine for anxiety
in this Chromacabana.
And it's just so beautiful
to really serve my community,
really give them what they need,
and do it in a beautiful way,
with high production value,
and gorgeous editing,
and it's just the thrill of a lifetime.
It's so good.
- It's one of the main
things I love about you,
you put attention to creating
high production quality content,
and you make everything beautiful,
and who doesn't love
seeing something beautiful?
And what I also love about your work
is you're very practical.
I remember when I worked for Hay House,
and we had you over in
London for the book launch,
you guided us through a very
practical self-love ritual
by burning our fears, and
manifesting our desires
with some really sparkling paper.
And it just puts more magic into your life
when you do something
in a very practical way.
So, what would be your
number one practical tool
to raising our vibration, if
you only had to choose one,
and it wasn't tapping,
because we covered that one?
(laughing) Which one would it be?
- So, if not tapping,
my second tip would be
having a magical morning
practice, and this is something
that I developed a couple of years ago.
You open the Voice Memo app,
and you start to make a
recording in three parts.
The first thing you talk about
is what you're grateful for,
and you get really deep on it.
You talk about gratitude
for at least a minute,
hopefully more.
The second thing you do is you
state your desire for the day
but you say it in the past tense.
So you would say "I'm
so happy and grateful,
"I had such a beautiful day,
I did this amazing interview,
"I had this great lunch with my friend,
"I had an amazing workout,
I went on a hot date,
"I felt so good, I had a make out session,
"it was fantastic."
And then the third thing that you do
is you state your future
desire, so a bigger thing.
Maybe it's like you want your next book
to be a New York Times bestseller.
But again, you state it in the past tense.
"I'm so happy and grateful
"that my book was such a huge success,
"we sold so many copies, my
book tour was really fun."
And then you finish the recording.
And then you send that
recording to a friend of yours.
And a friend who is like
ride or die for you.
And they listen to it at their leisure
and they record the same
member memo for you,
and they send it back.
And you do this every morning.
You send one, they send one back.
Now, this is so powerful
for so many reasons.
Firstly, you're getting in touch
with what you truly desire,
not just your to do list.
What do you really want?
What would feel really good for you?
Secondly, you're putting
it into your subconscious
as if it's already happened.
So when you do that your
subconscious immediately starts
working on ways to make
this happen for you.
And thirdly, it's so powerful to
firstly, have the courage to
speak your desire out loud,
and secondly, to have it
heard by somebody else,
someone who deeply
supports you and loves you,
and who can mirror it back to you.
And often when I'm listening to my friends
magical morning practice,
I'm listening while I'm doing my makeup
or something like that, and I'm listening,
but not listening that closely.
So, I can't really tell the difference
between what they're grateful for,
and what their desires are.
To me it's all the same.
To me I'm seeing it as
if it's already done.
And the results people have
had from doing this practice
are unbelievable.
I have a woman who got
matched with someone else,
you know like we'd match
up in our community,
and one of them was diagnosed with cancer
a few months into them
doing this practice.
And every day they talked
about her being healthy,
and feeling good, and being reunited,
and she was cleared, she's
totally in remission,
she's feeling so good.
And they are so convinced
that really making her health
a huge focus and talking about
it as if it was already done
is really a huge part of
her getting into remission,
and getting healthy.
And I believe that, the power
of the mind is so vital,
and we down play it all the time.
- Wow, and it's such a powerful way
to co-create with people as well,
other than just being solitary in a room,
and just doing these work,
and feeling lonely about it,
it's so much helpful when
we bring someone else
so that they can reflect back to us
the value of our desires.
Now, what happens when our
manifestation processes
don't work?
In my experience with guiding people
through different manifestations,
and usually they get the
book "The Secret", usually,
that's where people
start, they get excited,
they create a bunch of vision boards,
they visualize, they do
positive affirmations,
and then when it doesn't work,
they feel dissatisfied,
disappointed, and they give up.
In your experience, with guiding people
through different manifestation processes,
what are some pitfalls that people fall in
that prevent them from
making those processes work?
What is people's number
one block to manifestation?
- Well, there's a few things.
I think the first is that
people are impatient,
they expect results immediately.
And you don't generally get the fruit
the same day that you plant the seed.
So patience is really important.
The second thing is that
people put too much weight
on the manifestation.
'Cause I often find the
satisfaction isn't always
in the manifestation, it's
in the journey towards it.
So it's like who you'll become,
and what you'll experience
as you're on your way
to getting that thing.
And we have to remember
that we don't choose
the fastest path to a manifestation,
we choose the most satisfying one.
So, for some people,
meeting the love of your life immediately
is the most satisfying thing.
And for some people we want a date,
we wanna have weird experiences,
we wanna see what else is out there,
and that is more satisfying to us.
And we're all on this different path,
so that's really
important to keep in mind.
And then I think the final thing is that
we have a lot of
resistance to what we want.
You may have a million vision boards,
but if deep down you don't
believe you deserve it,
if deep down you think it
could never be that good,
if you don't want to do
better than your parents,
or your friends, like
this is all resistance,
and it's all gonna hold you
away from your manifestation.
So tapping out those
resistances is very important.
- Wow, so powerful.
I believe you have,
it is such a good point with regards
to all the fears that hold us back
from manifesting our desires.
Now, I wanna move into the
negative manifestation.
What happens when shit happens
in our lives basically?
Because we can try to
work through tapping,
to raise our vibrations,
to do all our manifestation techniques,
but what happens when we end up
manifesting something negative?
What are some practical steps we can take
to shift things around, to
turn lemons into pink lemonade?
(both laughing)
- Well, even when
something doesn't work out
the way you want it to,
you probably still have
a roof over your head,
you probably still have
people that love you,
you probably still have at
least some of your health,
and it's important to
really step into gratitude
for what you have.
So many of us live this
life of scarcity where,
even if our life is
beautiful, it's never enough,
it's never good enough,
we're still frustrated,
we're still not satisfied.
And as long as you're in that place
nothing will ever be good enough.
So really shifting into
gratitude for what you have
right now is always the
best place to start, yes.
- Wow, Gala, where can
people get in touch with you
and learn more about The Vortex,
and about all the projects
you have coming up?
- The best place to
follow me is on Instagram,
I'm @galadarling.
I have a blog, which is
a little bit neglected,
galadarling.com.
Although I have been
writing there for 15 years,
so there's a lot of material
if you wanna investigate it.
And then you can buy my first book,
"Radical Self Love" online, on Amazon,
Barnes & Noble, or
wherever books are sold.
- Amazing, thank you
so much for joining us
in the Lit Up Lightworker Podcast,
and teaching us so many
practical processes
we can start implementing right now
to really transform our lives
and manifest our best life.
Thank you so much, Gala.
- [Gala] Thank you.
