So the flight attendant
comes back in the room and says:
“The pilot is having
a heart attack!”
 
No way!
This is the wildest story
I’ve ever heard!
That’s not even
the craziest part!
 
What’s going on?
Maybe he’s building
the suspense!
 
He’s choking!
 
Oh my God!
Uh, Marcus?
What are you doing?
I think they’re called
abdominal thrusts.
But that almost sounds
too funny to be true.
You can’t just do
abdominal thrusts
without asking him
if it’s okay!
It’s like sex!
You have to get permission first.
 
But he’s choking.
It doesn’t matter.
You have to get his consent first.
I have to get his consent
to save his life?
Uh, yeah!
It’s his body, not yours!
What if he doesn’t
want you to save him?
Why wouldn’t he
want me to save him?
I don’t know!
Maybe he’s just not that smart.
Calm down, Arun!
I’m just thinking out loud.
The point is, you can’t just
do something to someone
without getting
their consent first.
Even when it’s as seemingly
obvious as saving their life.
 
Wow.
 
Yeah.
I’m glad you told
me this, Gavin.
 
I’m just glad I could help.
You know,
at the end of the day,
everyone has a choice
of what they want to do
or not do with
their own bodies.
You should never
do something to someone
without getting
their express consent first.
 
Arun!
 
Thank God you’re all right!
Yeah, I was so worried you weren’t
going to finish that story!
 
It was good!
 
It was a good story.
Consent is actively agreeing,
either verbally or non-verbally, 
to engage in sexual activity
with a partner.
It must be willing, enthusiastic,
informed, and ongoing.
Saying yes, getting closer,
smiling, or nodding
are ways someone might
communicate consent.
On the contrary, hesitation,
silence, or inaction
 
are ways of saying no.
When in doubt,
always ask your partner
what their
boundaries are
and what they are
comfortable with.
There are many
ways to do so.
Everyone chooses what seems
most natural to them.
Careful: consent is not
set in stone. 
At any time, your partner
may feel discomfort
 
and change their mind.
Listening and being sensitive
to the signals they are sending 
can help to ensure
that consent is present
and that your partner’s
boundaries are being respected.
Forcing a person
into sexual activity
by insisting, pressuring
or making them feel guilty
 
is considered sexual assault.
Consent under pressure
is not consent.
 
In Canada, 
a person cannot give consent
if they are “incapable”
 
which can easily happen
when they are under the influence
of alcohol or drugs.
Legally, you can consent to sexual
activities from the age of 16. 
The law provides exceptions
for people aged 12 or 13, 
only if the age difference
between the partners
 
doesn’t exceed two years.
At age 14 or 15, the age difference
must not exceed five years.
 
Regardless of age and gap,
the older partner should
never be in a position
 
of trust or authority,
as is for example
a coach with an athlete
 
or boss with an employee.
Consent is a matter of law
as well as respect. 
When two people want to share
a sexual experience, 
each person is responsible
for making sure
that their partner consents
throughout the entire exchange. 
 
I think my sense on it is...
If you have doubt that you have
the consent of the person,
then you should
ask for consent.
Well, consent is when
both people are...
They agree to
do specific things.
You can’t just say yes
and then leave it open.
You have to define what
you’re ready to do
 
with the other person.
 
It’s really based on trust.
It can happen. Just because you’re
comfortable with somebody,
doesn’t mean that you’re
comfortable with a certain activity.
All parties
taking part in the...
whether it be a sexual act
or not, agrees to it.
For me, consent
is about respect.
Respect towards
another person.
It’s about acknowledgment
of their autonomy.
I’m happy when someone
asks me for consent.
I would much rather
someone ask me:
“Hey, do you want
to do this or not?”
Instead of just thinking
I’m okay with it.
For example, if you’re going
in a different hole,
maybe you should
ask beforehand!
Because there’s probably
going to be
some prep work,
you know? So...
Yeah. Some situations,
I think... yeah.
How do you give consent
without actually saying anything?
 
I don’t think you really can.
If it can be unclear?
There’s a lot of people saying:
 
“Oh, if I touch a girl, is it rape?”
 
“If I hug a girl, is it rape?”
If it’s that unclear to you,
it’s better to ask.
If they don’t want tea,
don’t serve them tea.
I think it’s an integral
part of it.
And I totally agree when you say
that it’s not just verbal.
It’s also very
enthusiastically reciprocal.
Is that a word?
- I think so, yeah.
Yeah, I do ask
for consent.
If there’s something
I’m not sure the person will like,
or even if we’ve done it
quite a bit, I’ll ask them:
“Just making sure,
are you okay with this?”
It’s always better
safe than sorry.
I’ve never been really put
in a position to say no.
But I think I would be
really comfortable saying no,
because it is my body,
it’s my choice.
And if I’m not comfortable,
then people have to respect that.
Because we’re not doing anything
until I say that we are.
Yes, I have said no
in the past.
Just because I wasn’t
ready for it,
or I wasn’t
comfortable yet.
I’ve been asked for consent
and I said no,
but it wasn’t respected
as I wanted it to.
If you’re turned off
by asking consent,
then maybe you want
to reevaluate
why you’re having sex
with the person in the first place.
