- I want to just touch on
confidence and building confidence
'cause a lot of young
Australians, even adults,
they lack that confidence.
You're quite confident.
How did you build it up?
- It's hard because I think the,
and I can only really speak
for my generation exclusively
'cause that's all I know.
But, I think we sometimes
and I think this is also
the social media and everything.
We sometimes blur the lines
between self confidence
that has humility versus
an arrogant self confidence
and a narcissistic self confidence.
And for me the way I found
how to develop self confidence
with my self personally and
I think this is a really
valuable set of guidelines that someone
can go about finding how to
have a sort of firm foundation
and improve their self confidence
is that you choose, you be
really wise and you choose
your circle of who you
want to take advice from
and who you want to listen to
and I would recommend
choosing people that you
would never wanna turn into.
People not that you really hate
but people that you see and you're like,
I never want my life to turn into that.
Bad examples as well as the best examples.
People you look at their
lives and you're like,
if my life could reach anywhere near that
that would be amazing.
And like you said,
listening to their stories
and listening to their experience
on both ends of the
spectrum, bad and good,
failures and successes,
you begin to sort of
develop a list of advice
they could give you.
Even if you aren't able to
talk with them in person
you can sort of develop a mental list of
what's worked for them and what hasn't
and how that can sort
of apply to your life.
But then also on the point
of self confidence is that
I think for my generation exclusively
it's really looking how
to find your approval
within yourself rather than
looking for it in other people
and I think that's also
how we use social media
becomes really damaging because we
on that point of the highlight reel
and distorting reality with fiction.
You sort of with social media you try to
convey yourself in a way that other people
will approve and accept
and it becomes dangerous
when that's all you rely on
is other people's feedback
and your values and your
foundational values and ethics
are swayed by what
other people think today
or tomorrow because that's
constantly changing.
So I would say develop a firm
set of foundational values,
place it into a list of
what you value the most
and what do you value the least,
and go about life and listen
to feedback based on those
set of values and once in
a while try to challenge
those set of values.
Look at somebody who has
a completely opposing
set of beliefs to you or values to you
and try to see their perspective in that.
