- Hey everybody!
Are you ready for the Amy, Sheldon
Big Bang Theory wedding episode?
I know I am!
Let's talk though, about
Amy's wedding dress.
It's no surprise that the
Shamy wedding happens in May.
Let's talk about May, shall we?
May, it's the month of weddings,
it's the month of spring.
The flowers are blooming,
the birds are chirping.
All's good on G-d's green earth.
In such a perfect month, with
such a monumental episode
on the horizon, why do I feel mopey?
Let's play multiple choice.
Is my Mayim mopey,
A, because of Trump.
B, because I always
prefer winter over spring.
Or C, because trying on
wedding dresses as Amy
meant that real life Mayim had to try on
traditional wedding dresses
and that's hard for me.
Well, always A, sometimes B
and yeah, a lot of C.
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Okay, let's get back to
last night's episode.
Amy had to pick a wedding dress
and it brought up a lot of things
that I personally am not comfortable with.
Those things are, number one,
traditional wedding dresses.
Number two, trying on
traditional wedding dresses.
Number three, being a divorced woman
trying on traditional wedding dresses.
I think you get the idea.
Let's work our way up from the easiest
and most amusing feelings I'm having
to the hardest and most
complicated ones I'm having.
What's annoying to me about
traditional wedding dresses?
Well, I'm not a traditional person.
So about 15 years ago, when I got married,
I didn't wear a traditional wedding dress.
So what does traditional mean?
Like uh...
Like satin and lace and like, puckers
and little beads that look like pearls
like, clusters, appliqué.
Other french words, I'm
sure exist for the things.
I didn't wanna go like the
expensive, traditional route
and go to those like, wedding stores
where there's like, the
lady and she's perky
and like, I just (groans).
Too much interaction with
people trying to tell me,
oh my God you look so pretty.
I couldn't do it.
So what did I do for my wedding?
Well, there was an antique lace store
called Paris 1900 that used to be
in Santa Monica, here
in Southern California.
And my mom and I went and I
saw this beautiful lace dress,
it was the first one I tried
on and that's what I wore.
It wasn't very expensive, it wasn't fancy,
it was delicate and flattering and modest.
And I felt really good in it.
That was it, one and done.
And so, the idea of
taking a traditional dress
in a style that I don't really
like in the first place,
and then having to stand for a seamstress
and her putting pins in everything
to modify a dress that you're
literally gonna wear once
and probably, rarely,
if ever look at again,
while there are homeless children
on the streets of every
city in this country.
It just, it didn't sit well with me.
And so, when I was at
the wardrobe fitting,
trying on the dresses that
Amy would be trying on,
I felt self-conscious
because I'm not traditional.
And it just feels like, maybe I wished
I could be more normal.
I have ambivalence about
that and so, it's just weird.
As for the actual trying
on of the wedding dresses,
I don't know that I would have predicted
that I would have had this reaction.
Even though it's for a
character, it's still me.
Like, it's my body,
it's what I look like in a wedding dress.
And I don't know if that's
in my life's journey
to be in a wedding dress again.
So I don't know, it's just, it's hard.
Yeah, it's hard.
But a strange thing happened.
I tried on many dresses and
some made it to the screen
and some did not.
Even though they didn't fit perfectly
and some needed to be altered
and I didn't have any makeup on.
And I actually wasn't
feeling that good that day
'cause I had just been sick.
What happened was, I actually liked
the way that I looked in these dresses.
Like, even the traditional frilly ones.
This leads to the most
complicated set of feelings
that I had about trying
on wedding dresses.
I felt like, and I still feel like
me in this wedding dress
draws all sorts of like,
bride related attention to me
and I don't know that I want that.
Because like, I'm divorced.
Like, everyone in the wardrobe department
and everybody who saw me in the dress
was like, oh my God, you look so pretty.
But like, I used to be
married and now I'm not
and just like (groans).
And I really was worried
that my mom would see me
in these dresses and be like,
oh my God you're gonna get
married again in real life?
'Cause you look so pretty, oh my God.
That's not how she talks though,
she's like, oh my God, you're
gonna get married again?
Oh my God.
Neither works for me.
I worry that people are gonna ask me
if I can picture myself
getting married again
and I just, I don't
know how to answer that.
And ultimately, this is hard.
I wonder if people will feel pity for me
because I tried to be married once
like I was in that position
and I failed, you know?
And I know that it's
not in my best interest
to care so much what
other people think of me,
because I think I worry about that
more than I even care about
what I think about for myself.
My real life experience, like
right now and going forward,
is in some senses framed by Amy's.
It seems that my life and
all of our lives really,
kinda bounces back and forth
between fantasy and reality.
Between expectation and disappointment.
Between success and failure.
Between maybe and yes.
Between I'm not sure to maybe
I like what this feels like.
And yes, in this month of may,
for so many of us, and
for Amy and Sheldon,
between I don't...
And I do.
What did you think of
Amy's wedding dress choice?
Please leave your comments below
and if you liked one of the other dresses
that Amy tried on, tell me about that too.
Thank you so much for watching
and we will see you
for the wedding episode
in a couple weeks.
And for more about Amy's dress
and Amy and Sheldon's wedding,
make sure to go to GrokNation.com.
