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My notion of
Human wellbeing is really open-ended. I don't think we
Understand what the horizon is. If in fact there is one for ultimate flourishing of conscious Minds
we have a pretty good sense of what we don't want and are right not to want we don't want to be terrorized and
Depressed the generic
Situation we want to find ourselves in more and more is to effortlessly
Cooperate with creative and happy strangers Raven that we the 7 billion of us. We have we need institutions and laws and norms
and ways of thinking that take the friction out of
pleasurable and non paranoid interaction with strangers
it's not just about having you know, five or
So close friends who's got who have your back right? I mean like clearly

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we're all on the same team on some basic level if we can't figure out how to build a civilization where
Everyone thrives to some degree
we'll have the world we currently have we're in a situation now where I
Think it's reasonable to worry that
our default state of
partisanship and tribalism and
rational fear of the incompatible aims of you know other groups and other people
Is unsustainable in the presence of more and more destructive technology. I just think I think we have to get our act together
Psychologically and socially in a way that we haven't yet
philanthropy is
One when its telescopic in this way when you're just signing a check
You're not necessarily connected to the good you're doing and I could imagine
someone doing
Immense good in the world by signing very large checks
But not actually internalizing the gratification of that some level we have to be aware of the possibility of growing and to both simultaneously

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What the effects are in the world of how we're living so, you know
We want to have a good impact on others
but we actually want our
Conscious states of psychological pain and pleasure to be mapped in some rational way to the kinds of effects
We're having
having our beliefs map onto reality to some degree is obviously good because if
They're not you're just bumping into hard objects. Your map is completely wrong
You are bound to suffer, right? So we have to be in a situation where?
Radical ignorance can't people is they be useful to have a slightly delusional?
Self-serving bias, right? They think you're coming off better than you are. Well, I may give you more enthusiasm for your life more confidence
That's one principle. So I think we believes to be true in some basic sense and

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Therefore we want to be open to new evidence and better arguments perpetually
If you closed yourself off if you say listen, I'm done. I'm done thinking about
Reality, and I know what's true
Then again when more data comes in, you know when something surprising when one of your intuitions proves to be faulty
If you can't air, correct again, you're just going to fall out of alignment with what's going on in the world
And what with what other people think is true
So really the only mechanism we have to do that is human conversation. We have to be open to
Having other people point out errors in our thinking and we have you know in the conversation we have with ourselves
We have to do like what we have to be continually open to the possibility that we might be wrong
And in fact, we're very likely to be wrong a lot of the time
So then, you know
then hence the virtue of getting educated and surrounding yourself with smart people and reading good books and just exposing yourself to

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the kinds of lessons that other people
Have learned over up, you know thousands of years and are learning in real time
Most of what people care about can be thought of as a skill and that well being is a skill not suffering unnecessarily
It's a skill
regulating
Noticing your emotional life and regulate a negative emotion is a skill
I saw you know have a meditation app and you know meditation as a skill is a very useful one
And I'm spending a lot of time teaching
what's now referred to as mindfulness meditation and
But the moment you begin practicing mindfulness
Which is just just learning to pay close attention to the nature of your experience. Not added anything your experience. You're just noticing
what it's like to be you moment a moment but in a way that is
Not reactive. You're not grasping it. What's Pleasant or pushing? What's unpleasant way? Let's say you have the fear of public speaking, right?
So you've got to go down sit out on stage and you feel anxiety

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The the usual the default state of someone who doesn't want to have that experience
It's just trying to figure is
one to you know in advance to worry about that experience and the anxieties Kindle just by the mere thought of
What you have to do?
then
once you feel the butterflies you
Are at war with them?
They first even knows that anxiety isn't even that unpleasant
It's so close to excitement in its actual physiology there really the difference between excitement and anxiety is more
Or less just that this the framing. It's just the story you're telling yourself, you know, if you felt these these
Tingles and this you know is slightly out dren alized response right before, you know, you're about to go on a roller coaster
That's part of why you're going on the roller coaster you like that experience, right?
but the fact that you feel that way when you're about to have an interview or you're about to walk out on stage that it's
intolerable
the sense of self for most of us is not a

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Feeling that were identical with our bodies, but most people don't feel identical with their physical bodies. They feel like they're passengers inside their bodies
Right. They think that like my body is down here. Like these are my hands
These are my legs, you know, I obviously care about these things, you know, if you know, I you know
This is one of my pains and pleasures are coming from but I'm up here in the head
So much of our of what we're thinking is making us miserable
Right so much of it is unpleasant so much of it is causing anxiety. We that we look at your to-do list
You got 50 things on it. You just feel like oh my others just the day's not long enough
this is the state we're in and
the obverse of that is when we're really just
connecting with life in a joyful creative beautiful way like when you look out the window and it's the most beautiful sunset ever and
You are just looking at the sunset, right? You're not like you fully connected with its beauty
Those are all moments where you're losing this sense of

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Self you're not really aware of losing the sense of self in those moments. You're not really aware of what is
Freeing about those moments and you can't do it in other circumstances
What sports what's happening for people?
Most people is that they're waiting for the world to give them a good enough reason to just be present
And to be present so fully that they lose their sense of of self, right? They're no longer behind their face, you know
just waiting for something good to happen right or figuring out how to change the experience enough so that
Again, they can start there. They're no longer at war and they weren't working to a greater or lesser degree
We're always at war
And we're always fighting something. There's always it's like, you know, you're always noticing something wrong
You're feeling uncomfortable in your body. You're reacting to something that somebody did or you thought they did

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The moments where you really feel good or moments where you can you hurt?
They're there. Isn't it a coming to rest right where it's not about the past or future?
You know, it's not even about it's not about half a second ago. It's not about half a second from now and
the ultimate version of that is to jut - it
entails the dropping of this
sense of self for me flourishing is a matter of
Spending your time
pleasantly and
happily and creatively
Every moment when someone asks you well
You know that last hour that last day that last week that last year do you feel good about that?
Was that a good use of your time?
That remembering self that retrospective
Gesture that's where people worry about things like meaning
And the remembering self is the self
That you're talking to when you say, you know are very satisfied with your life whether you're asking yourself or someone's asking you

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The answers that are available in that in those moments
really determine whether or not somebody has a global life satisfaction whether they have meaning but the
Experiencing self thinks with itself. That is just going a moment a moment
feeling pains and pleasure and
Just dealing with dealing with this view very short, you know time horizon. I think that is
That's fundamentally our real self
the use of negative
imagination where you think of all of the bad things that haven't happened to you as if you're just if you're stuck in traffic
drivin to the job that you don't and
You're you're frustrated
You can think of all the things that could happen to you right that happened. And if any one of them happen to you
You would consider your prayers answered if you could just be returned to this moment, right like you haven't been diagnosed with cancer

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right
You've got two young kids say, you know
You want to live to see them grow up?
And you could be the guy who today is gonna find out you've got two months to live
That's just Morpho thinking but it can have a profound effect
You can reframe your experience in a way that doesn't actually change anything material about your circumstance and it can let the light in
You
