>> IT'S THAT TIME OF YEAR 
AGAIN.
AND WE'RE NOT TALKING ABOUT 
SHARK WEEK.
MAYBE WE ARE.
[laughter]
>> OUR NEXT GUEST IS TALKING 
ABOUT NOT CELEBRATING ONE OF 
THE MOST FEROCIOUS FISH IN THE
SEA.
INSTEAD, SHE'S TALKING ABOUT 
THE FAMILY GATHERING.
FRIENDS AND FAMILY OVER THE 
SUMMER CAN BE JUST AS FIERCE.
MAKE SURE THAT YOU AND YOURS 
END UP KIND OF CHUMMY.
>> WE WANT TO STAY CCHUMMY.
>> THAT IS THE GOAL.
>> A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE 
ENJOYING FAMILY AND ENJOYING 
DEALING WITH FAMILY.
[laughter]
>> BEN FRANKLIN SAID A FEW 
YEARS BACK THAT FISH AND 
VISITORS START SMELLING AFTER 
ABOUT THREE DAYS.
>> YOU GOT THAT RIGHT.
>> THERE'S A LITTLE FUNNY 
THING THAT HAPPENS AFTER ABOUT
THREE DAYS WHERE YOU NEED TO 
REBOOT, RECHARGE.
SOMETHING NEEDS TO HAPPEN.
>> THE TOLERANCE OF AUNT 
MARGARET'S PERFUME HAS GONE 
OUT THE WINDOW.
>> I INVOLVE PEOPLE ON SOCIAL 
MEDIA TO GIVE US SOME ADVICE.
THERE WERE A COUPLE GOOD ONES.
THIS ONE IS MAKE REALLY GOOD 
FOOD TO MAKE PEOPLE FALL
ASLEEP.
[laughter]
>> LIKE HIGH CARB FOOD.
>> OR TURKEY.
>> EVERY BARBECUE, EVERY MEAL 
YOU SERVE TURKEY.
AND ANOTHER ONE, THAT WAS 
KIMBERLEY.
AND ANOTHER ONE THAT I REALLY 
LIKED WAS FIONA ON INSTAGRAM.
SHE SAID WINE IS TO WOMEN WHAT
DUCT TAPE IS TO MEN.
THIS IS A BIG OLD GLASS OF 
HAPPY.
I BROUGHT THESE FOR US TO HAVE
A LITTLE REFRESHMENT.
THIS IS A WATERMELON COOLER 
AND IT HAS LEMONADE.
IT DOESN'T HAVE ANY ALCOHOL.
BUT YOU CAN PUT THREE FINGERS 
OF VODKA IN AND FEEL VERY, 
VERY ABLE TO HANDLE THE 
FAMILY.
>> THIS IS SWEET, I LIKE THIS.
>> THAT RECIPE IS ON MY BLOG.
>> WITH SOME OF THE RELATIVES,
YOU MIGHT WANT TO PUT THE 
ALCOHOL IN.
>> IF YOU FEED THEM TOO WELL, 
THEY WON'T EVER WANT TO GO 
HOME.
>> TRUE.
THERE'S A FINE LINE.
ONE OF THE IDEAS IS TO KEEP 
THINGS MOVING AND KEEP SOME 
ACTIVITIES GOING.
THIS WAS A REALLY FUN IDEA 
FROM FAMILY FUN MAGAZINE WHERE
YOU MAKE A FAMILY TIMELINE.
YOU CAN HAVE PEOPLE BRING 
PICTURES OR YOU CAN DO IT 
WITHOUT PICTURES.
YOU CAN PUT MEMORABLE DATES.
I PUT MY GRANDFATHER.
THERE'S A PICTURE HERE.
I DON'T KNOW IF WE CAN TWIST 
IT AROUND.
HERE, I'LL JUST TAKE IT OFF.
A PICTURE FROM WHEN HE WAS IN 
THE WAR, WORLD WAR II.
AND MY GRANDMOTHER SENT HIM 
THIS PICTURE.
AND IT MADE HIM WANT TO MARRY 
HER.
NONE OF US WOULD BE HERE 
WITHOUT THESE TWO PEOPLE.
SO, THAT STARTED OUR FAMILY 
TIMELINE.
>> THEN YOU START PUTTING 
PICTURES ON THERE OF THE GUY 
YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH TWO 
YEARS AGO AND GOT MARRIED.
>> OR FUNNY LITTLE MOMENTS.
MY LITTLE BOY WEARING A CAPE.
FOR THREE YEARS, MY LITTLE BOY
WORE A CAPE.
REALLY MEMORABLE MOMENTS.
INSTEAD OF JUST ANNIVERSARIES 
AND WEDDINGS.
>> AND THEN IT BECOMES A 
CONVERSATION STARTER.
NOBODY TALKS ABOUT THESE 
EVENTS.
>> A LOT OF PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY
IN MARYLAND, HAVE THIS PAPER 
TO PUT DOWN FOR CRABBING.
JUST USE THAT AND RIP IT UP.
>> KIDS CAN DRAW OR DOODLE 
SOMETHING.
THE LITTLE KIDS CAN BE A PART 
OF IT.
>> MAKE SURE TO TELL THEM IN 
ADVANCE, BRING A MEMENTO.
>> EVEN IF THEY DON'T, YOU CAN
STILL DO IT.
ANOTHER IDEA IS TO HAVE A 
FAMILY AWARDS CEREMONY.
MAKE THE AWARDS FUN LIKE 
FASHIONISTA, BOTTOMLESS 
STOMACH PIT.
THESE TROPHIES ARE AT PARTY 
CITY.
THESE LITTLE RIBBONS, YOU CAN 
GIVE AWAY COOKIES IF YOU 
WANTED.
SOMETIMES WE DO A TALENT SHOW.
WE HAVE A BIG FAMILY GATHERING
IN IDAHO EVERY YEAR.
THERE'S LIKE 25 OF US.
THAT WAS MY THIRD IDEA.
INSTEAD OF DOING THE FAMILY 
PICTURE WE ALWAYS DO IN FRONT 
OF THE TV, I WANTED TO DO A 
SLIDE SHOW AND HAVE PEOPLE 
SEND ME PICTURES OF THEM GOING
ABOUT THEIR REGULAR ACTIVITIES
AND PUT TOGETHER A SLIDE SHOW 
THAT WE WOULD SHOW AT OUR 
GATHERING.
THAT'S ANOTHER WAY TO INVOLVE 
PEOPLE.
AND THEN THERE'S SOMETHING TO 
LOOK AT.
AND THERE'S ALWAYS JIB JAB.
I LOVE JIB JAB.
>> THESE THINGS ARE KIND OF 
OLD SCHOOL.
THEY MIGHT GET THE KIDS AWAY 
FROM THEIR COMPUTER GAMES FOR 
A MINUTE.
>> YOU WANT TO MAKE MEMORIES.
YOU WANT TO GET PEOPLE TALKING
TO EACH OTHER.
>> THE SECOND BIG TIP IS TO 
REMEMBER THAT THIS IS YOUR 
VACATION, TOO.
DON'T FEEL BAD ABOUT READING.
I AM READING THIS BOOK ABOUT 
THE GREAT AMERICAN WOMEN IN 
COMEDY.
IF YOU WANT TO READ, READ.
DON'T FEEL GUILTY.
ALSO, GO TO THE SPA.
I BROUGHT A LITTLE MUD PACK.
GO TO THE SPA.
IF YOU WANT TO PLAY GOLF, THIS
IS YOUR VACATION, TOO.
IT ISN'T ALL ABOUT JUST YOUR 
FAMILY.
>> SOMETIMES YOU DO NEED TO 
GET AWAY FROM THE FAMILY FOR 
JUST A FEW MOMENTS.
>> RECHARGE THE BATTERIES.
>> IF YOU SCHEDULE YOUR 
APPOINTMENT AT THE SPA, YOU 
CAN TELL EVERYBODY THAT 10:00 
A.M. TOMORROW, I'LL BE AT THE 
SPA.
SO THEY FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO
DO.
>> JUST REMEMBER THAT THIS IS 
ALSO FOR YOU.
>> ONCE YOU HAVE YOUR HOUR IN,
YOU FEEL FILLED UP PERSONALLY 
SO YOU CAN GIVE MORE TO THE 
FAMILY.
>> AND IT IS SHARK WEEK.
MY HUSBAND WORKS FOR 
DISCOVERY.
WE ALSO HAVE PEOPLE WHO TAKE A
BITE OUT OF THE FUN.
SET BOUNDARIES AHEAD OF TIME.
AND REMEMBER, YOU'RE ONLY 
THERE FOR A LITTLE WHILE.
THIS IS JUST A COUPLE DAYS.
SO IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE.
TAKE WALKS, HEAVY BREATHS.
>> GO TO THE SPA.
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU HAVE 
THAT ONE RELATIVE?
AND YOU'RE IN CLOSE QUARTERS 
WITH THAT PERSON FOR SEVERAL 
DAYS.
HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THAT?
>> I'VE HAD AN ISSUE BEFORE.
WHAT I'VE DONE IS I DRANK A 
LOT.
DRINK THIS GLASS EVERY NIGHT.
[laughter]
>> I HAVE A BOUNDARY.
AND WE SET IT UP AHEAD OF 
TIME.
SO I'LL SAY, THIS IS A LINE.
WE'RE CROSSING A LINE.
OR, YOU'RE HURTING MY 
FEELINGS.
THERE'S A LINE.
WHEN IT'S CROSSED, THERE ARE 
CONSEQUENCES.
OFTEN TIMES PEOPLE WHO ARE 
VERY VERBALLY ABUSIVE, IF YOU 
WILL, THEY NEED TO BE HANDLED 
LIKE TODDLERS.
WHAT YOU DO IS YOU SAID, DO 
THIS, HERE'S THE CONSEQUENCE.
>> YOU CAN ALWAYS WALK OUT THE
DOOR.
>> GO TO THE SPA AGAIN.
[laughter]
>> CINDY, SOME GREAT IDEAS.
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