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The Parenting Junkie.
Hi, I'm Avital, I'm a
mindful parenting coach,
and I'm the mother of four,
and I'm so proud to be helping
parents across the globe
reclaim presence, peace
and play for their families
and I hope I can do the same for you.
Today I'm gonna be
outlining why minimalism
is so important for children.
So if you're not convinced yet,
you're not yet on the
minimalism bandwagon,
this episode is for you.
Or if there's someone else who is
kind of interested in minimalism
and they wanna understand
what it's all about,
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Number one, they're
more calm and peaceful.
When kids live in a relatively soothing,
minimalistic environment
they themselves are calmer.
Consider the effect your
environment has on you.
If you are in a hustle,
bustle kind of place
like an airport or supermarket,
how does that affect your internal state
versus if you're in a very soothing place
like a spa or the beach?
What we see around us,
our visual cues from our surroundings,
inform our nervous
system of how heightened
our attention should be,
how alert we need to be,
and whether we need to be on guard,
or whether we can
actually rest and digest.
And that's why design
is incredible important,
but I don't mean design just in terms
of the aesthetics of things
and your taste and preferences,
I mean design in terms of
what's actually informing us
of how we should behave with
regards to our surroundings.
When you go somewhere like an airport
there's design all around,
the signs, the uniforms,
the color system, the materials used,
the proportions of the
architecture, for example,
all informs you how you should behave
and how you should feel.
The design of our home does the same thing
and when you have less stuff,
when there's a more of
a soothing atmosphere
then we feel calmer and more peaceful.
Consider what you feel when you face
a massive pile of clutter.
If you see a very cluttered room
with lots and lots of stuff in it
then it probably causes
you some levels of stress.
You probably feel defensive
and you don't know
where to place your attention.
Which leads me to point number two
which is that they're better focused,
they have longer spans
of attention, we all do,
when we're in a more
minimalistic environment.
It's really simple common sense,
but the less distraction we have
the more we're able to
focus at the task at hand.
And so if you have a more
minimalistic environment
you can expect children to be able
to sink into deeper play,
to listen to stories for longer,
to do their work, whatever it
is, with a greater attention
because they're not
literally being distracted
the whole time, even
by just the knickknacks
and household objects around.
When there's things that
you could fidget with,
things that you could trip over,
things that your eye is
drawn to all over the room
then it's very hard to
focus on what matters.
Whereas when everything is clean,
where it's a clean slate and a white wall,
and it's just that one thing
that you wanna be focused on
that grabs your attention.
So if you think about
the difference between
a wall or a room with a ton
of different things going on,
lots of different furniture,
lots of different shelves,
lots of different heights,
knickknack, clutter, et cetera,
and compare that to a smooth, white wall
with just one poster or one
cluster of objects to focus on
you can see the difference
between how our focus works.
That's why minimalism is
important for children
so that they can focus on
what's important, the children.
Number three is there's less conflict
when we are minimalistic.
When there's less things to fight over
then there's less fighting,
especially between siblings.
The fewer toys you have,
the fewer items they have,
the less fighting and conflict there is.
The fewer clothes they
have in their closet,
the less fighting over what to wear.
The fewer things out in your home,
the less there's conflict over tiding up
and cleaning up as well.
So it just makes everything
run a lot smoother
when there's less distractions
and less things to manage and deal with.
Number four is that there's
less focus no materialism.
I think most of us here
want to raise children
who aren't super-duper materialistic
but that's very hard in
industrialized nations.
There are a lot of things,
a lot of items, toys,
new things all the time, fads changing,
and coming out, et cetera,
and children get used to it.
I know at least my children
get used to the expectation
that there's always new stuff coming in.
When there's some focus on minimalism
then we at least have
a conversation around
do we really want more stuff,
do we really benefit
from it, and who does?
Does the planet benefit from it?
Does the marketers selling
those items benefit form it?
Do we need these things
and do they bring us joy?
Number five is I think minimalism
supports more gratitude.
I think when we're more
intentional, and deliberate,
and careful about what we
have and how much we have
then we are more grateful
and take better care
of the things that we do have.
When we are actually
aware and we're thoughtful
about whether or not we wanna
spend money on more things,
whether or not we wanna get more things,
and that doesn't mean that we can't.
I'm certainly not a hardcore minimalist
we have stuff in our
house, as you can see,
but that doesn't mean
that we aren't intentional
about the things that do come in
and about whether or not we keep them.
Because we are aware that everything
that comes into our house has energy
and takes energy from
us to keep it organized.
If something comes into our home
that we're not thrilled about,
we might enjoy it for a little
while until we get bored
and then pass it on to someone
who could enjoy it better.
That, I think, leads to a
greater sense of gratitude
because we care, we think
about what's coming in
and about what we have.
If this is making sense for you
give me a love in the comments below
and I would love to hear why
minimalism is important to you
or if you've got on the
minimalism bandwagon.
It's a spectrum, remember,
we aren't either
minimalistic or maximalist,
we are somewhere in the middle
and we are always journeying
and toing and froing
depending on our household,
our budget, our children, and all of that.
So don't worry about being
hardcore or being perfect,
no such thing, but give me
a love in the comments below
if you're into this.
Number six is spending more time outside.
I think that when you have
less things in the home,
less things that you want to
be busy with all the time,
it encourages you to get out and about
and to spend more time
outdoors and in nature.
It has been very well
documented how important
nature time is for all of us humans,
and especially children.
And so I think having less focus on
accumulating stuff in the home
and doing more things in the home
helps to encourage us
to get out of the home
and really interact with the big world.
Number seven is that minimalism
encourages creativity.
When you don't have a specific toy
for each and every thing
you might be imagining,
then you imagine into your
open ended simple things
that you have around the home.
Rather than having the exact right
ice cream set in your toys,
you take a block and you
pretend it's an ice cream.
So minimalism encourages
us to be resourceful
and to think outside of the box
and to put much more imagination
and creativity into the things that we do.
It encourages us to use
one thing for many things
rather than to cater to every single need
that we might have.
And it does that for us adults as well.
When we're more
minimalistic in our wardrobe
we are more creative in the
combinations that we use.
When we're more minimalistic
in our pantry we're, again,
more creative in our
cooking and in our recipes.
Rather than having the
exact item and exact product
to fit every single box,
we learn to be resourceful
and use the one for many.
Number eight is a home that
focuses on minimalism, I think,
teaches children to steward
their money more mindfully
because when you're minimalistic
you're really being careful
about what you purchase,
in other words, what you spend money on
and that leads directly
into a conversation
about where we wanna put our resources
and where we want to spend our money,
and the conversation that using money
is like voting as well.
It's voting for those
companies or those processes
that we want to support in the world
and that we want to champion and patron.
When you're minimalistic
you're more intentional
about the items that
you buy and that leads
to a conversation about
being more intentional
about how you spend your money.
And if you want more on that I recommend
watching my video about allowance.
Number nine is I think that minimalism
helps us to focus on eco friendliness,
on being better to the planet.
When we're being conscientious
about what we buy
and trying to be conscientious
about where we buy it
from as much as possible,
I know I have a long
way to go on that yet,
but having a focus on minimalism
allows us to really think
well where did these things come from?
What material are they made out of?
Who made them and how were
they treated along the way?
And how did this affect our planet,
and how long will we use this for,
how much will we use it?
What will happen to it
when we're done with it?
All of that helps us to
open up the conversation
about caring for our planet
and being more careful
about our consumption.
And number 10 is that minimalism
and a minimalist focus
helps us to put more of a focus
on experiences and on the quality
rather than on the
quantity or on the things.
You can watch my video all about
giving experiences as
gifts after this one,
but I wanted to say that I
think that we can all agree
that experiences pay dividens,
and this is backed up by research.
When you have more
experiences, going to a museum,
meeting friends, traveling,
just even going to your
local forest and hiking,
these things pay dividens.
The memories that we create,
the lessons that we learn,
their value actually goes up over time.
We value them more over time.
Whereas when we buy
items, generally speaking,
we get a hit of dopamine, we get excited
when we got the acquisition,
when we purchase this item
and to begin with it's exciting
and then very quickly that subsides
and we're no longer interested
and it becomes that
clutter around the home,
we're ready to give it to someone else.
And so the happiness graph drops
when we get more things, more stuff.
But the happiness graph grows
when we have experiences,
when we invest in experiences
and I think minimalism helps to remind us,
don't buy so much stuff, rather
invest in your experiences.
So if you are ready to start becoming
more minimalistic to start decluttering
I have a guide for you that will help,
it's a free PDF download.
Go ahead to my website,
TheParentingJunkie.com/design
and get your free Childhood Design Guide
which will help you to start to create
a minimalistic environment
that isn't hardcore,
we're not going for
extreme or fundamentalist.
You're still gonna have things,
you can still have toys if you want,
and I'll recommend which
ones you should have,
I certainly have many.
But they'll be more
intentional, more deliberate,
and you will free up so much
space and so much energy
for the things that matter in your life.
Now if you wanna band together
with parents from across the globe
who are also trying to
be more minimalistic
then go on over to Facebook
and join Love Parenting with Avital,
it's my free Facebook
group with the best parents
from around the world talking
about things just like this.
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who you know who might be
interested in why
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