 
Today we will talk about women rights
in society of Pakistan it is a common perception that women belong in Kitchen
 
they should stay at home and just do household chores
 
Our famous star cricketer Shahid Afridi also said
that there should be no women cricket team
instead they should stay home and cook in the kitchen
So, Should women really be allowed to contribute in society?
So what do you think? What rights should women have in a society?
Women rights in a society should be equal to that of men
or a human being
Because both women and men are humans
If we talk about the problems or the points that are raised
that women are physically weaker
for that I will like to say that
men are also weaker from one aspect that they don't have a uterus, so he can't give birth.
So we cannot conclude from that
because they don't have a uterus and they can't give birth
which is their weakness, so we should snatch some of their rights
that's not how it works
In the whole world the way it works is
that even if I accept your point that women are physically weaker
the whole world has a tradition, trend and principle that
if someone is physically weaker like disabled people
they have some shortcomings
we try to overcompensate their rights
we give them quota in jobs, make special pathways for them to walk
today we make special apps for them in mobile
we try to overcompensate their rights, to make their life easier
we don't make their life even more difficult because they are physically weaker, thats not how it works
Another problem besides physical strength
when a woman start to work outside home
men make it a matter of their honor
that the woman of our home should not go outside, so that no one can have a look at her
what would you say about this problem?
Actually it has been a tradition for centuries that
man has been the king of the house
He has been the head of the house hold
who has no intoxication of power
who doesn't enjoy power
so the problem the man has is that when woman go outside home
when she will start earning, and have a job
then she will be financially independent, she will have her own money
she will depend less on the man, which means the power of a man will be dissolved
so no man will want that their power gets dissolved
that someone goes against him
and try to do his own thing, so all the problem is about power
Just like that
We have seen that
we men give women permission to travel on buses
rickshaws, where you know the situation
conductors verbally harass
sexual harassment occurs
and there are severe sexual harassment cases
we allow them to travel on the buses
but we don't allow them to ride bikes
it has no detriment
because you are sitting by yourself on your own vehicle
but a man won''t want a woman to be able to ride a bike
because it will dissolve his power
he want to be the only person in the home who can ride the bike and on which the family should depend on
if someone wana go outside he has to ask for help from the father
if someone starts taking help from the mother it will dissolve man's power
Secondly
why our society is lagging so much behind here in Pakistan
or even if we talk about middle east
if we look at west we see women in every field of work
they are at the fore front in every profession
So why are we so much behind?
All this region is a century behind the world
India, Pakistan, Bangladesh even Srilanka
Literacy rate in Srilanka is 99% though
What happened in west is
everything happened through legislation
after democracy arrived, until the 1940s women there didn't have the right to vote, only men could vote
Moments were launched feminism phase 1, waves of feminism were launched
Movements and Debates took place there
women made sacrifices even men made sacrifices for women
when a society has a background for something, even of pluralism
or the ways of democracy, we hear this term continually
when there is a background for something then that thing is truly instated in that society
People also accept that thing
Like in Europe there was a background, movements and waves were launched
debates took place in parliament, universities, these things don't happen here
Here we don't see
people like us who are modern they see that
in Europe women have rights, so we should have them here too
but there is no background here, no moments were launched, no debate occurred
And the second problem
Universities
are a place of research in world, our are too, but one thing more happens there
In the rest of the world debate happens in universities
seminars take place, universities are open spaces
we have made universities a jail here, that no one can go there except university students
there is also a security issue, but it was the same even before that
universities were closed spaces, no one can go there
debating is not part of our universities
even if a bill is passed in parliament about women protection or any other bill
we never get to hear a debate on it
if a background is made in years
like we see Brexit in England
a lot of debating took place for at least more than a year surely
there was a complete background for Brexit
so it didn't became a big problem and the country didn't come on the verge of breaking down
civil war didn't happen because they kept debating about it
People were not agreeing
for two years, people were not agreeing on a issue
but debates keep happening and they found a solution to the problem at last
and the whole nation is standing on it
in the same way we need to start debating here
we hold seminars
even if fights happen in debate that's fine
but both sides should speak
it should not happen like here, that only one side gets to speak and the other side is quiet and if they speak
they get down to killing them
the problem we have here in debates is freedom of speech
It is not allowed to raise some points
so this block that has been made
why does it exist?
Is this religious or cultural? What's the reason?
It is both religious and cultural
It is more religious, religion has an influence
which does not let us tolerate opinion from other person
like now a days you would have heard
about the Mandir sgaa
people are destroying it
freedom of speech is a far away thing
you are not letting minorities worship, how is anyone gonna speak
Before you talked about financial independence
which I think is very important for women
In a way that
if a woman gets married, which is mostly against their will in Pakistani society
and when they don't get along with their husband
and the marriage goes towards a divorce
and because the woman has no skill
she has no skill and can earn no money
then after divorce
she now can't stay at her husband's home, can't even come to her parents home and be a burden on them
isn't it very important to address this issue
It is very important to address this, it's inevitable
but first of all we have to see, like you mentioned
that women come to her parents home after the divorce
first we will see that in what conditions she takes a divorce
what kind of severe situations she goes through and when she has no choice left
she can't even go to hospital after being beaten up so many times
then the thing comes towards divorce. isn't that right?
yes, I would like to add one more thing to this
marital rape is very common here
no one talks about Martial rape
people think that this thing don't even exist
but this does exist and women just keep quiet about it
and they can't even say anything, to whom they can say anything to
they can't say anything
lets come back to divorce again
divorce should be a normal thing to be frank
normalize divorce and before that normalize live in relationships
we copy Europe
we don't copy but our elders say that they are very honest people
their police is very good, system is very good, everything is good
but they don't talk about that let women work, give them the right to divorce and other rights as well
first of all we have to normalize divorce to be every frank
divorce is very important in some cases and circumstances it becomes very important
and we see here that when a father is marrying his daughter
he says to her on her wedding day that only your corpse should come back
don't come back in any other way, I have seen that with my own eyes
so we have to normalize divorce
problem is that when woman get divorced
then she can't even go back
to whom she will go back to, if she goes back to her brother he will also be married
his wife won't let her stay, even her brother won't let her stay
so for this it is very important that a woman is independent, financially independent
and for that it is very important that a woman is skilled
and to be skilled education is very important
and for education it is very important for the parents to educate their daughters and support them
and our education system is very important too
when a woman will reallize that what injustice was done to her
and it happened because she couldn't get educated
then maybe she will try to educate her daughters
this will be a gradual change
it's possible that maybe not all women don't do this at once
but their daughters will educate their daughters
or even the daughters of their daughters will educate their daughters
this is a gradual change that should come and will come
if women are educated or skilled I don't think it's just useful for themselves or just their family
I think it's useful for the whole society or the country
if 50 percent of your nation is sitting at home and is doing no work
then they are a burden on economy
they are a burden like old pensioners are a burden on economy
all of the women sitting at home what are they contributing in a country's economy
the future of the world is economy you know that
trade war will come
conventional wars won't take place anymore, trade wars will take place
what will be the role of our women in that
our women are not skilled
how much time it will take us, it's a grave situation
there is a wave of feminism in Pakistan
a lot of women in Islamabad are saying
we don't need men
warm your food yourself, men are trash
these things hurt our men a lot that towards which direction are our women going
they find these slogans are very strange
if Khalil ur Rehman Qamar says to a woman that I don't even like to spit on you
which is very shameful
but he is made into a hero, I saw that on social media that he was given a lot of support
I couldn't understand whats going on
Actually all these are symbolic slogans
it's figurative basically
women of a society are criticizing the men of society that warm your food yourself
we feel like that in our society
they are sending a message to men at home that warm your food yourself on play cards
actually they are trying to convey a message that
if both men and women are doing jobs and earning money
then why it has been defined that it is the duty of the women to warm the food
even if the woman is sick still man won't get up to warm the food
it happens in a lot of our house holds
it happens in our villages
that men don't even like to warm the food in an oven
and the second slogan that men are trash
now I have seen that on social media people are saying that
they are saying men are trash to their father and brother too
they are saying that their father and brother are trash
that's not how it works it's figurative
like a lot of Pakistanis say that Pakistanis are very fraudulent
they generalize the thing that Pakistanis are very fraudulent
even to be fair they say Pakistanis are *****
they are not saying specifically that Pakistanis are very fraudulent and *****
and that includes my mother and father too
they don't mean that, they are just saying something common that most Pakistanis are like that
same way about the slogan men are trash
they are saying it to the men who are actually trash and a lot of our men are trash
there is no doubt about it
so understand that for any society or community to progress
the role of woman is very important
100 years back we could't imagine that women will pilot commercial planes
but  today you see that women are even flying fighter jets
we cannot say to anyone that you cannot do something
or that you don't have the ability to do something
Nothing is impossible for both men and women
