Hey, my name is Emmelda, thanks for stopping
by. You know a lot of people once you've done
a job, a lot of people will come up to you
and tell you what you did right and what you
did wrong, am I correct to say that? Yes but
in today's lesson I'm not going to tell you
how to say it, I'm going to talk about all
the nouns related to that activity. What's
that activity called? The activity of giving
your opinion to someone after they have done
the job. That activity is called giving a
feedback. Okay, the other word or other names
for feedback is review or critic. Okay, so
people give feedback or they give review or
critic when some action has been done. For
example,, maybe an actor has done a movie
and he's done really well, so his critics
will give a critique or a review of the movie,
right. Now we are going to learn new words
about the same word of feedback.
Let's take a look at the first one criticize,
spoiler alert I'm gonna start from being very
negative to extremely positive until it becomes
fake. Okay so negative to positive, so I'm
gonna start with criticize. What is criticize?
When somebody criticizes, criticizing you
or criticizes you, it means he's bringing
out only and only negative aspects okay. So
criticize means talking about all the negative
factors or all the negative things that have
gone wrong, negative okay.
Cynic, who are cynic? Cynic are by the way
people okay. Cynic are people who always feel
that everybody else around them is insincere.
Okay, for example maybe you're carrying a
heavy bag and there's a guy who helps you
but your friend says, hey that guy just wants
your number, you know that's why he's helping
you. Now your friend is being a cynic because
she's trying to see some dark meaning even
out of a good action. So they're called cynic.
Okay moving on to a third type of people,
again this is a people, this is a type of
people. We move to a third type of people.
Have you noticed you've done something or
you're doing something and there's always
someone next to you who would say you know,
you could have done this better or you could
do this better? They always, always keep giving
you advice on how things could have been done
or how they would have done it. Okay, they
are called backseat drivers. Now this phrase
has actually come up or was adopted by the
concept where you're driving a car and someone
sitting behind you would always say you may
want to go left, you may want, you may want
to you know speed up your car, watch out for
the driver, watch out for the truck, watch
out for the car in the head of you. They just
keep talking continuously telling you what
you can do right. They're called backseat
drivers, why? Because they are not the ones
who are doing the action, they are just telling
you what to do and it's very irritating like
dude either you drive or just let me drive
peacefully. Either you do this, either you
finish my work or let me just finish it peacefully.
They're called backseat drivers. What do backseat
drivers do? They nag okay you would have used
even seen this term quite often in movies.
You know you have an old aunt and she constantly
rumbles nag-nag-nag-nag. I don't like that
you don't do it, she's nagging okay but that's
what usually backseat drivers do.
Then moving on from such negative people or
negative aspects, I'm going to give you something
nice, being constructive. Now I'm not talking
about buildings or machines. I’m talking
about constructive feedback. Your managers
or your supervisors aim to give you a constructive
feedback. What do they do? When they're giving
you a feedback, when they're telling you how
you performed last summer, they will bring
out all the good things first you know. The
first thing they're gonna do is, they'll talk
about all that was good. You did a great presentation
or you know you prepared the project really
well and slowly and steadily they'll start
bringing the negative aspects. You did a great
presentation but I think you don't look at
the people whom you're doing the presentations
for. Okay, you start, you talk about, you
look every everywhere else, you're looking
at the wall, you’re looking at the floor
but you're not maintaining eye contact. Here
he's telling you that you've done a good job
but you have room for improvement. So that's
a constructive feedback. It's not personal,
people when giving constructive feedback will
avoid making personal remarks, constructive
feedback.
Moving on to a better one praise or compliment,
that means someone is telling you, hey you
did a good job, hey that shot was awesome
or hey your dress looks nice. They are praising
you or they’re giving you praise or they're
giving you a compliment. What else? What other
words we can use? Sometimes people use the
word congratulate okay. They'll say you did
a good job. I congratulate you for that. That's
another way of giving praise okay.
Lastly, I’ll not say lastly but the next
word which is very similar to praise is appreciate.
What is appreciate? According to the dictionary,
appreciate or to appreciate means to recognize
the full worth of something or somebody okay.
So when you recognize the full worth of something
or somebody, you appreciate. So you will have
this sentence like, I don't think so he appreciates
my gesture that means he does not know what
exactly I did and he does not like it. Probably
I give him a tissue while he was crying but
he does not appreciate it. He found it very
awkward. So that is called appreciate. Word
of caution, a lot of people, especially in
Australia, use this word to replace thank
you. For example, maybe you're in a restaurant
and there's a waiter, you're at a restaurant,
there is a waiter you know she gives you a
glass of water and you will hear people saying
appreciate it okay, appreciate it. They mean
thank you. Okay so that's the word you can
use, you can replace thank you with appreciate.
Moving on to a little sweeter is flatter,
flatter means when you praise someone when
you exaggerate while you're praising someone.
Oh your dress is looking so nice or you're
looking like a princess, oh my god your face
is so flawless. You know that you know it's
getting a little too much that means the person
is flattering you okay. It's actually exaggerating
okay. Flatter or flattering means to exaggerate
or exaggerating. So next time when people
are being extremely nice to you, maybe because
they want some ice cream or some money from
you, they'll say, oh my god you’re looking
so good can you do this for me? Ah! Right
got you? So you can say please don't flatter
me or please don't butter me up.
Okay, another word is butter me up. Oh! Sorry,
please don't butter me up that means please
don't flatter me, okay but there are some
people who just try to bring only and only
positive. Remember people if you just bring
only negative it is wrong, it is very harmful.
Similarly, if you're just bringing out only
positive now that is called to paint a rosy
picture. That means they're bringing out only
that is good or that is nice to hear or to
see. For example, let's say there's an old
man who died okay and he meets an angel and
he says hey where are you taking me? And this
angel says, oh! I'm taking you to a place
which is warm and it's nice and you will have
a lot of privacy and you'll exercise a lot.
So he’s like okay sounds nice okay sure
and guess what? That angel took that old man
to hell. Yes, why because that angel painted
a rosy picture of hell. I don't mean flowers,
I mean only the nice, nice things and it may
be, it will be exaggerated to the extent,
it becomes fake. Can hell be a nice place?
Of course, not right, a lot of corporates
are hiring officers to do that. When they
ask you to come and join their company, they'll
paint a rosy picture, oh you should join us,
our company is the best you know we have perks.
We have a high salary, you can do whatever
you want. You can you can leave whenever you
want. They're painting a rosy picture but
when you enter the office you realize all
of them, whatever they said might be true
but it's actually a very taxing job. You know
you can leave whenever you want why because
you can never leave, you can never finish
the job in a day. So that's painting a rosy
picture.
Okay, so these are the words and phrases that
we use quite often in English when you are
trying to give an opinion to someone about
that job. I hope you learn something new and
I hope you found it interesting. I will be
back with another lesson until then have fun,
stay healthy, be beautiful, see ya.
