And in a brief study that I did over
three months of mass shootings (and there
is now one every day. There has been one
in every day in 2019 and I haven't kept
up with all them), but the shooters are
mainly millennials between 23 and 28,
they're all men, and they've lost a
connection. They've either lost a
romantic relationship or they've lost a
job usually, both of which are things
that connect them to other people and to
the world. For a man the two important
connections are a woman and work,
employment. And so they've lost primary
connectivity. And that
makes them feel enraged, and unmoored, and
fosters the kind of mental illness you
have to have in order to kill people you
don't even know, just go in and mow 'em
down. But you also need a kind of
alienation from other people. And how
does capitalism fit in there? Well, one of
the key things that allows people to
feel healthy and connected is equality.
And we are now the most unequal nation
of all the wealthier nations. When you
have advertising everywhere you look, ads
that are lying to you and you know it,
you lose trust. Millennials, who are the
loneliest people of all and the least
connected, also lose trust that they have
a future, because they don't. They're not
even sure they have a planet, no less a
job because everything is shaking.
Everything is precarious. 
[WOLFF] So the
connections are attenuated they are weakened.
[FRAAD] Absolutely, they're weakened. You can't
plan on anything. In the old days you
fell in love, you got married, you settled
down in one place, you had children. Now
the biggest increase in married
couples types are married couples with no
children.
Most Americans aren't
married between 18 and 35, the years of
primary fertility so they say. And people
are unmoored. They're disconnected.
Women are less disconnected because
we've been given permission to be
emotionally open and affectionate with
each other. So you can walk into the
bathroom, in any woman's room, and say "Oh
my god, I'm feeling fat." the other women
will interact with you about your
feelings like "This guy's a creep." You
know, You immediately can bond with
people. Men don't have that. They're much
more guarded. Women walk around with
their arm linked or their arm around
each other. Men don't. They're much more
physically isolated from another because
they're afraid they'll be accused of
homosexuality. There is a whole
alienation of people from one to another.
Plus, the way employment works is no one
will hire you to do a job if you can't
make more for your employer than you're
getting as a salary. So you're always
being robbed. He's always getting more.
He's always trying to get more for him
or herself than they give to you, which
doesn't breed trust and kindness.
