great afternoon everyone I'm at mangina
believing that the well-rounded
educator knows best welcome to our
teach talk series to our first episode
in titled Practical Mental Health Skills
for Teachers and Parents with my co-host
and enterpreneur Mr Elmar Nabesa. "Bro. may I ask you what are the things that make you busy?
so I have some clients online in Life
coaching, then I have client universities
for their Online recollections and retreat and
then my business, we have a TGP
there in Abangsu Sur, then I have other 
apostolates as well aside from that.
"You're so active, brother." 
"Okay, game on.
 Good afternoon. This is
short, practical and doable.
Let me tell an important event in the 1970s
there were researches, especially in
America and then one of the researches
There was a class picture of graduating students. Then after
30 years, they looke at these pictures,
and there are in those pictures who smiled.
And then they categorized those who had genuine smiles and those who tried to smile.
They called this genuine smile, DUCHENNE smile.
After 30 years, they found out that those who had this genuine, duchenne smiles, compared to those who had
sales persons' smile
People who had genuine smiles had better lives.
less problems in life compared to those who had 'fake' smiles.
Or people who did not know how to smile,
who had problems in their relationships.
So, we will tackle that.
We will also talk about this kind of smile,
and I will teach how to have that genuine smile :)
This came from the research by Seligman. Those who are into positive
psychology
This is the fruit of years of research
There are those who tell us, do this, do that so that you''ll be happy
But this time, according to 
Seligman this is scientific.
One is positive emotion then we have
engagement and relationship then meaning
and then achievements. To him..according to their research
there is no single thing that makes people happy, in fact, there are a lot of things that could make us happy.
Now, we talked about children, our children.
Compared to us, we are already up here. We should know more about life.
We need to teach our children to have sound mental health, about their well being.
can eat these practical skills to
children to our students so that they
could have a a happier life, happier than ours right now.
positive emotions how can we have
positive emotions? We don't only avoid
negative emotions we intentionally plant
nurture and enjoy positive emotions.
You could see on Facebook, 'avoid negative people, avoid toxic people
and environment.
They are good, those posts are good
But in our skill building right now, we teach
people not only to avoid, but 
also to nurture, but also to learn how
to have intentionally positive emotions.
Some people
I observed, when they are happy, they are happy, but when they are sad
they cannot do otherwise but to be sad. To them, they cannot do anything about it
I will just endure it. The thing is, we can do something
about it.
So, a lot of people who do gardening
there are those who keep cactus , vegetables.
I want you to think your life 
as a garden. So what do you do?
In your garden, you have your plants, and there are insects,
and there are grass eating the nutrients of your
plants.  So in avoiding negative
people, in avoiding negative environment
what we do is simply uproot those and
give a pesticide for those. Right? but in
doing the intentional positive emotion,
planting, nurturing, what we do is we
water them, okay we water them we we give
nutrients we give fertilizer to it. Now, we apply this to our practical life.
Sometimes, there are people who wake up late.
Then the whole day, they would say, 'this life is a drag. What can happen today?"
so they are waiting for their life that
turn into something good
but we can do something about that we
can we can start with something positive
That's what said about positive emotions, we should nurture it.
intentionally, tell yourself, even before you sleep at night
"Tomorrow, I will do this." Why? It's because, I need to have positive emotions.
I need to have positive emotions.  So, when you wake up, maybe you're going to pray
No  Facebook yet, those drama, those whining about life. Pray.
Here at home, that's what we do. Short prayer. And when it's already bright outside
you could get to your garden.
Look at the flowers, look at the plants. Or browse over your family pictures.
Start with something positive. Whole day, you can do that.
Focus on something good, something positive.
there enough Italian order strangers we
can have the habit of and in the good in
them so something positive so the good
thing is when you see these positive
things about them it gives you some
positive emotions as well
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chief Akita Misawa doing something good
nakita million customers Mona mulignan
so plain an early move an Apple app so
makanda so and then Saturday you could
also intentionally write something that
went well
along the day upon Thomas Miranda dito
who may may journal can you buy my
journals I found my journals Union
physical journal itself but whatever you
have do it so write some be a something
good that happened today you might not a
victory small do it for three months six
months nine months the trillion
according to studies people who do this
okay we have less a depression actually
have more productive life maganda Nina
hey so my opinion okay so
I wrote this I a month ago and I'm going
to read it to you don't just avoid
negative thoughts more powerfully to
think of positive thoughts as well so
what more hire a new is it more means
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could see don't just avoid negative
people seek positive people as well
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positive people as well can you
participate but understand it no pass it
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stole my pictures here we on puri clamu
no or who good no I say the more you
read them we become part of your system
they become parts of your environment
you ain't in any mood it is a signal
yeah garbage
so we intentionally do that okay
other people befriend them support them
spark conversation with them and then be
one in the long enough now we find
positive people
okay we we find positive events we can
only be a positive AB and in the lives
of people meeting Tao master container
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in the you know and gentleman said so I
only know so my bill Menominee if people
avoid you at this time you you make it a
point now doctor I could create a
positive emotion to this Ellen bola in
the manual
hey did not belong there was a time that
I came to a group this was I think two
years ago when was the the election it
happened during election
and then there was this woman a and I
think her energy was so strong but in a
very negative way it was angry with with
another lady there okay and when I
entered something had it I mean you got
it again my London D&E possibly could no
one saw me an easy Lorraine because
because we think I know can you tell us
something good that happened to you
I mean well I was a nanny restocking
boom-boom or London yelling McGann the
sublime Oh
so be well - because I want a man I am
on fire Lord no Saddam in Aquino onions
abuela italic on a ship named maganda I
was there were silence
sobbing amiran Paulo because even as in
a stroke a few years ago I mean yeah I
thought oh okay now you Marcus a
Mohammed stroke nurse and as a bad
parent
Rosabelle Holohan and Anita I am you
know I think it was God's opinion a
beginner I mean a miracle a talk show
and Nicole not opposed Mamie trabajo
opposed nian makanda human Kieran am and
then people who heard her not to worry
enjoy Hey because see I say you you say
something no a second ena ena here
Angela Egypt near San Cali
yeah but this time we can also help
people a drive their mine hey now
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about Munna literate I did at idyllic oh
hey right I'll go to hijack next next to
positive emotion we can teach our
children engagement I have three
children
okay no man y'know me minagawa sila
Rivera especially to missus he hands for
example may maja projects up from time
to time but you know what even see go to
mana it took a lot nine o clock young
son among enough and as archery and then
Sina means a violin and table tennis but
this one recently Bhoomi listen and by
scientia and then one time see guruma
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attention in some become EBU Malik me
daddy
okay pala think about it um made and
poppin up waiting the winds beside me to
look injured in palladium young by so
you you put the back knee on it what is
self it's physical self its mind into it
into engagement okay so if you're doing
this if you're doing something that you
forget I'm you forget that about the
people around you okay nothing Karan
cannon then flow or Puma Passover
setting a towel in a nebula where you
are in a flow in emotional sabi namin a
messiah hod oh you know there is this
earring massara okay mrs. Beeman of a
feeling in the money in ECP home a
syrupy new hindi remember zucchini a bad
I see you are four examples of my yoga
Jan my sister's I love the GU yoga
Sabina at Ajanta in hog heaven and the
yoga was oblique oh wow
and I saw people doing as well yoga and
other and planting and they're enjoying
it as in engage delay it don't seem sad
because um
Sammy's a life coach my life coaches he
says someone else kills them and I am
young NLP and he says my skills and NLP
is for example may the power company
hypnotism okay we can talk about this
another time but if not ISM is we talk
about to make it simple you notice in an
owl that's a trance
example Basin bargaining ultimen a to
toe and problema for example mu you know
young moon do more but in hypnosis for
example in trying to help these people
we snap them out of that trench and then
we help them focus themselves towards
something good the present is spent
doing something for example you
you know a planter one of the drove in
kind want to take our whatever or maybe
so work more elegant her to talk adorned
it brings your mind to the present and
that's the secret your mana mindfulness
the end but the secret of mindfulness is
bringing yourself bringing your
something so in in engaging yourself
into something that you love it brings
the best in you I'm allowing gains
minute oh no actually you could find
this online making a terrible director
string you can have a test
Libra sha and then map Makita I know you
wanna strength more for example charity
or zest for example gratitude and then
human act strength monitor I'm gonna
purchase more you can focus on them
example Magelang has a beginning and
then you do it and while you are
listening you it gives you pleasure as
well as it haha to Lanka about or
gratitude now what does Omega and then
you say wow you and every time you do
this you feel good not only that you can
also write evil in the past okay
my teacher small in vegan mo you
couldn't go back and then we know go
ahead
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Thank You vertical mayonnaise a booster
dose of being you know so not want our
own minion moon ingratitude
at the same time ago then because she
gives something so as to be motion
engagement these to give us a year a
kind of well-being or nagging Messiah
type one time we visited a rich person
this is in Italy and excited sure no SME
visit the show was Sofia Casanova me
holy in the logic si si he began I mean
don't know
when I care about don't say le I was
visiting then some friends there
hmm I was Netanyahu exciting Samira
Levin who's obsessive you put your nose
in your way with your mother okay he
started to talk italiano Machado malapit
mentality no he started to talk about
whom God knows huh golly doing such
Eastern yes a gobierno stop it man you
let me play pirate
allow me loop Aranea part in England was
a big tournaments a bit by indicated not
end it was a Pilipinas hey knock again
and more miss Anna and gentleman past
Monica pick by Munna divine demon hiding
on my glad it's an apartment for example
the onion day unlock some googly grab
and then after that the gustibus
optimism an entire you know here's
everything but in relationship Nia is
not happy about it
and then one person as well-known a meet
go very close to me
he was generally successful after years
like as a kitchen irani relationship
never see what I saw was every time my
son bit learn young an island I saw a
nigga got it celebrate a union a monkey
talk to Lisa be no Aaron in the Kazakh
chair in the medina hospital then non
Peraino useful Paulina sabe April Amina
Mamata channel and then the liquid inch
and a Boomer Robin Wascher Havana Google
sacrum and then second visit Naaman an
aluminum in a asana palana in Geneva
Nikita for how many years Montes Aine
and Arion examiner forgiveness there was
a kind of reconciliation lamb UNAM Pumas
me and I talked to him as if I was
talking to an airy death
in this area leaders Kapil did not they
know at Sabina there was is in in his in
his in his face Sabina ready now oh mama
died I'm ready to go Angeline so um we
talked about relationship now um let me
let me have this hmm forgiveness saves
everything come up on top of Simon a
cell for example they I'm asked to say
something because Alan kudos I know is
know how to freak you
I said no gurgling demand higher but
nobody's perfect and sooner or later you
going to open mistakes very important
its forgiveness abide by Yamaha bata
they learn forgiveness from us the best
way to each forgiveness the children is
to give them that Mashhad in strict hey
Omega Melissa la try to understand
bucket and camel is illa Ana camel is
Allah tell them to say sorry
oh not a taco Selena he repents Islamic
say sorry make it easier for them to say
sorry for example it was a buy the
garlic for example on Mommy's Anila
major massa my own load municipal I need
to talk to the child because an NRI okay
I said on Monday Alana so I don't go to
be nothing I want you to go to your mom
and then I want you to ask your mama for
a bit more thorough admission I and I
log I am sorry I say male in qinghua go
at first it's very hard for them to do
this but you need L to tell them to eat
them how to say
Abin Meletis illa rahmatan illa llah
canula then they go out to the world
already looking on the same thing when
when may may clash come in Milan aha
because I saw a joy a bigger I'm here a
beam misciagna episode I saw the same
thing the same method it works
everything in the parody work believing
and then lastly if you commit mistake I
am parents Richard you should know how
to save I'm sorry
forgiveness as the child not area it was
my fault in my last blog I also make I
told the story about forgiveness to make
my child Gannon Tami Depot I mean a new
committee but hey it's a relationship
indicate line running friends okay
special to matanda na tayo keep only
those people who are willing to spend
time with you to listen to you to be
with you
Humana wallah allow them to go in Booma
Ballack later on accommodate a they need
you amen aya first all right
I second to the last is meaning meaning
to me container because the only
creature in the universe who can see
extract and put meaning in what happens
to her is a human being animals cannot
do that now there are people who do not
believe in God we cannot force them but
the good thing is for those who believe
in God you have you have an extra layer
of survival accelerator of happiness a
extra layer of existence and opening
area for example how how mining meaning
can help us for example
Tabata my era pain trabajo
mahira see mommy see da dee da ba da ba
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Allyson Moraga Oh in an gabay weekend
Malabar weekend
go Appa okay is it hard yes but I'm
going to ask you some because I'm on a
beta event the students do you think
your parents are happy in spite of their
hardship because it was the school
because of their son you all agreed see
so indicate lemon demon and American boy
indicate Lamanna that easy and boy
okay done mahira okay the next sacrifice
tayo
but we must find meaning rocket I think
in agamotto and in reason more NY more
know you can it get me talk and a young
young meaning no um I talk with my
youngest the other day
no no other day I had other week the
good at all I say she was giving advice
to her friend and she talked about
meaning my rocket nahi well I in agony -
no no bang bhajami Gaston go in see Lord
ciborium oh yeah so unser up no but my
room cap and layering it off in a
compare emotion at all now Alice along
but not necessarily vanilla no no so
it's good that there is something
greater than us awesome aside from being
good there is something better than that
you believe nothing I got a meaning
now meaning is different from each one
of us so we eat our kids
meaning next hmm achievements
that's not all I'm a Billy style bath
now
I'm achieving its Oh Madelyn mm ik
achieve a no pero esta semana beta it's
a different thing there are people there
are parents who want their children to
achieve their dreams their broken dreams
a domino in banana gohe Neela
who still going on about that I met for
example a a
businesswoman who was a nurse a seppuku
nurse Capanna insert the new nurse
vineya opinion in the condom in telugu
stomach nursing because
she goes to him a gluto a second opinion
opinion upon medium Olympians go I see
you in Telugu English danila so after
that massage said id Hanuman book begin
Elena
so our a Lolita dress Abiko says it easy
:
because I am young time no Cassie my
monopolies need a potty to Baliga young
you need a pass am Candace a you know
the best way is really know our children
know bump a chanela the Palmerston illa
admission enlightenment Indiana de Gotha
engine and our job as parents is to help
our child our children achieve their
dreams you know you know that now I'm
maganda dito as we do this our children
we teach them how to have a steam ocean
how to engage our relationship mean
achievements
knack eaten ilium the wholeness of what
happiness is
okay and they are not going to look or
other happiness outside Hey because
there are children who are not happy one
has satisfied at home who would find
happiness outside would ask what is
happiness outside and the sad thing is
there are children who were taught by
other children by other families if the
soul from other families a wrong way of
happiness
Hey so it seems like nothing help you
children to achieve their the biingo's
nila so pi you support system a long
time so if we teach them how to do this
among under so you know not born a sila
when they have their own families when
they become teachers like you guys it
will also do this bucket as a day in in
any way to Pilate the governor and daddy
it'll plug in a 1 in teachers I mean
they enable aha ok now as we end is this
short short short short topic about
practical ways of having mental health a
positive emotions I'm going to read to
you a poem okay this is my favorite
actually in Paris a mechanic not end ok
see Khalil Gibran ah yes a beanie about
our children ok if we can read it all
together
and the woman who held the baby against
her bossom said speak to our sub
children
and he said your children are not your
children they are the sons and daughters
of life's longing for itself they come
through you but not from you and though
they are with you yet they belong not to
you you may give them your love but not
your thoughts but they have their own
thoughts you may house their bodies but
not their souls but our souls dwell in
the house of tomorrow which you cannot
visit not even in your dreams you may
strive to be like them but seek not to
make them like you for life ghost not
backward nor Terry's with the SMA you're
the bows from which your children are
living arrows and force the archers
cease the markup and the paths of the
infinite and it bends you with his might
that his arrows may go Swift and far let
your bending in the archers hand be for
gladness for even as he loves the arrow
the flies so he loves also the ball at a
stable
crabby bar
okay straight man I hope I am and wisdom
pudding yet again but that we touch our
hearts over horrid Pentagon so I
answered valium enough not any anything
here I'm lucky I have a oh yeah confirm
you say you say and some of my even some
English ah we must have a positive
emotional engagement relationship then
meaning and also you know what's the
last one
the treatments amen and we have to
believe in them we have to have faith
Yeah right
Oh anything else you can get also my
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we talked I said I I work as a bell for
example all centers before and we talk
about my soft skills essential skills
and then later on he talked Oracle
Unnithan
Yuma character building en mm palagi no
but you made your subject elegant and it
was at last no but later on nag nag
about not i/o especially aliens digital
aids we found out now it Papa an
essential skills because computer
engineering math actually they can learn
that online and galena online learning
is my own but the the education right
now is shifting to all essential skills
your car are you music Sonya honest
Tinian we are very hyper
what if you have all these knowledge
without the essential skills what kind
of person are you
you're going to destroy the world
because you don't have an essential to
young I'm a smokin decimal a teachers
not in although maganda Yuma subjects
nothing the essential skills are not our
major subjects are essential skills you
young human virtues that we have yo sabe
Kuna everything can be learned right now
on the Internet
Nicola and Tao but with essential skills
you need the parent you needed not
teachers Rosa some Molly it was a young
straitness Aleta I'll bring my signature
pyramid signature that's the
relationship they were the own
engagement your positive thoughts muna
you salsa P then you in case Mellie do
something yeah meaning and then you much
evening amen well that's the signature
the Puma
we don't know that from you sir John so
hope to see you again
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