Hi everyone, hello and welcome
to this week's roundup. Wow what a week
it has been
i have loved every minute it's been
really exciting and
um i'm excited because we're getting to
the nitty
gritty now this is an exciting time in
therapy when people are starting to
connect the dots understand what's
happening and then suddenly there's this
real motivation to be like
i want to get on top of this i want to
do better i want to sort out this i want
to sort out that i want to grow in this
area
so i feel like we're really into the
swing of things now this week
and so what have we what have we gone
over this week i obviously did my video
about relationships
relationship difficulty what happens but
also
why so i really expanded on the anxious
and avoidant stuff
and i hopefully have given a little bit
more clarity
around that so using that as my
inspiration
i've decided that this month is going to
be codependency month
i introduced my book of the month at
codependent
no more i love this book
it is one of my all-time greats i would
go so far as to say
life-changing so this week i'm going to
explore
that book and i'm also going to weave
aspects of
co-dependent recovery in a lot of the
posts so that means i'm going to be
developing stuff
on um trauma mode
survival mode i touched on that this
week we're going to develop that that's
really really really key we don't
realize
that a lot of our life is spent in
reactivity
and that reactivity is a mini trauma
response so we need to be thinking about
calming our nervous systems down you
know
not reacting responding not reacting
responding so i'm going to develop more
and more
survival mode trauma mode recovery this
month which is part of codependency
and and then with that the self-care
that we need
in our relationships within our
codependency so self-care
boundaries looking at our perfectionism
understanding the trauma response and
what to do about it all of that is going
to be my focus
because that's what impacts our
relationships
and that's also what really impacts our
anxiety and our depression
it's these behaviors it's these dynamics
that really keep those mental illnesses
alive
and it can exacerbate them terribly so
this week i introduced all of these
concepts and hopefully we're really
understanding now okay
i can understand why i sometimes feel
bad or why i'm getting triggered in my
conversations with my partner
and the stuff that i'm doing that's
really really not helpful to my
self-esteem
but also the health of my mood my mental
health but also my relationship health
so i'm going to keep building on that
and we're going to be looking at as i
said boundaries self-care
codependency the trauma response and
what to do about it
and then also the family roles you know
again all of these things that i bring
up
it's about saying this is where this
lives this is where the unhealthy
behavior lives everyone
let's really think about if it applies
to us or the person or people that we
love
and this week i spoke about the hero
and a lot of codependent people are the
hero
we're really fighting the good fight
going out being the sort of hero of the
family
family name making it all look good you
know um we can be
really really good at um putting on
the right facade that the world needs to
see
and that's a lot of what our people
pleasing perfectionism and codependency
is about and so this is all about really
challenging that and getting to a place
of a more authentic self-esteem
and a more genuine and long-lasting
sense of our own self and when we have
that
we have a really strong stable mood as a
result
because we are quite solid internally
so all of that is to come i introduced
it all this week thank you so much for
your engagement your comments
your challenges your messages keep them
coming
i love that we're getting a bit more
discussion in uh the
um comments underneath so let's really
really keep developing that because i
want you guys to support each other
as well so thank you so much for being
here there's so much more to come it's
going to be a great month
and i'll see you next time
