so I just finished watching the family
of Jake Paul and I live streamed it over
on Twitch too but the question that we
have today is are Jake and Logan Paul
the result of bad parenting what is up
everybody this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem but
focus on the solution and if you're new
to my channel my channel is all about
helping you with your mental and
emotional well-being and one of those
things is family and your relationships
and those dynamics so if you're into
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videos but what I try to do is I try to
pull from what's happening in the
YouTube community and pop culture to try
to teach you how you can improve your
mental health so I'm actually going to
make two videos today so that's another
reason to subscribe and turn
notifications on but this first one I
want to talk about family dynamics so
one of the fears that a lot of people
have or had before Shane Dawson started this
series was that Shane Dawson was going to try
to make people sympathize with the Paul
brothers and you know it's not their
fault they're like this because of their
parents and all that kind of stuff which
I can't do because people are gonna say
like oh you're fucking like trying to
make him look good in your fuckin
whatever like that's all you do Shane
you crying with people and you make them
look good like those those are somewhat
valid but it's kind of not and I want to
throw up a disclaimer here by the way
you're gonna meet for those of you are
new you're gonna meet
tough love Chris I'm about to give you
all some tough love when this first got
started and basically in this whole
episode he's chains just kind of doing
research okay he's looking at the he's
looking at more Jake Paul's stuff he's
working at Logan Paul by the way the
ending towards the end like Shane's
response to Logan Paul with the happy
music was sociopath is boiled down
someone who is just more savage than
savages only excuse so what I try to do
too is I try to teach you guys how to
improve your mental health they saw my
own experience of
my mental health so you know like I am
the son of an alcoholic mom if you have
it know me that long and my childhood
sucked okay but when you know when I
when I got older as I develop and you
know then my addiction happened and
everything like that what I you know
kept relapsing I was you know where when
I finally got clean this time I had to
learn that this was no longer an excuse
this was no longer an excuse to live the
way I was living like so you know I was
27 years old when I when I finally got
clean and sober and for me I had to
realize that no matter what happened to
me at that point of my life like I had
to you know take some responsibility for
this stuff I had to look at you know you
know these things that happen you know I
was the product of what happened but
it's not something I can hang on to to
justify who I was becoming and that's
that's what I want to say like when it
comes to Jake and Logan Paul these are
adults these are grown adults so I am
talking specifically about Shane Dawson now
first I want to talk about I want to
talk about the mom okay I think her
name's Pam like she was calling people
like her family so I think her name's
Pam Pam Paul that's interesting Pam Paul
but anyways so he shows her and stuff
okay so one of the things that Shane
talks about and this is one of Shane's
flaws he he he talked about how she's
like worried about how this is gonna
make them look and how she's going to
look and stuff like that that's just
like a record scratch like what what
like you can't do that you can't have it
both ways if you look at Pam's channel
like if you remember the first episode
of Shane of the mind of Jake Paul like
he shows like this mother like
sexualizes her children and bass people
in with the thumbnails and things like
that like I get it I get the YouTube
game but you can't act one way and then
and then be surprised by the way that
you're being portrayed and this like
what I want to talk about this this for
everybody you know watching this it's
like you have to take responsibility for
the decisions that you
like you make these decisions you have
to be ready for those things if you
don't want to be portrayed in a certain
way then don't do the actions that would
portray you in that way I made a video
not that long ago about how we are not
in control about how other people feel
about us you know what I mean like I
live my life to the best of my ability
but there are some people who might look
at me and they might disagree with me
not like me you'll see it down in the
comments there are people who don't like
me but there are things I do to not give
people a reason you see what I mean
so for shame to even feel kind of bad
about maybe showing her in a certain lie
like if I was hanging out with shame
like if I was Andrew filming that could
you see here like Andrew going back and
forth of them I would explain to Shane
like that's not your fault Shane that's
what they already did but then Shane
kind of over over sympathizes - and he
shows this clip right here so she's
trying to put you in the shoes of Jay
Paul he's like oh my god like can you
imagine if your mom was if you came
downstairs and your mom was just filming
you and no no no no no
Shane needs to step back and get clarity
on this because okay like if you look at
like I don't know who the first people
to pop in mind Kanye West and Kim
Kardashian or jay-z and Beyonce those
are parents who are making the children
famous right but this is the exact
opposite when it comes to Jake and Logan
Paul the Paul parents would not be
anybody if it weren't for their children
so Shane needs to cut that out right
there where he's like oh my god can you
even imagine your your family just just
filming you already like talks about
like how is the mom use Jake's picture
in a thumbnail from high school like are
you serious right now like a clip that
Shane's shown and multiple of these
episodes is how Jake runs around
terrorizing the people in his house
unexpectedly right like they keep
showing this clip that's like
nine-one-one challenge or there
the lives followed the buried alive
prank is where you go into someone's
room while they're sleeping you put a
ton of blankets over them it's like a
lot of weight and like pressure and they
feel like they're in a coffin and guys
this would only work because like
they're just waking out it's gonna be
okay it's gonna be okay are you serious
and now you're gonna now you're gonna
sympathize with Jake because he was
coming down the stairs when he woke up
and his mom had a camera how like are
you kidding me shame like Shane you this
is what we're talking about with
boundaries and this is gonna be more for
the next video but Shane needs to really
really take a step back something I've
noticed about Shane is that he's very
locked into the moment and I think
that's why he's a great creator but I
think one of the issues is is when Shane
is locked into the moment he doesn't
bring in past experiences and I wanted
know maybe in the comments if you can
relate to that like when you're hyper
focused in the moment do you forget
about past situations that might help
you like have a better opinion or
insight on the situation that you're
currently a so that's thing I really
want to talk about is he is a sports dad Greg Paul
all right and like Shane was like super
surprised by all this stuff so me I
wasn't all that surprised I was a
triathlete growing up I played sports
most of my life obviously I don't
anymore because I'm a little on the
chunky side but I played sports most of
my life I've met a million Greg Paul's
I've met a million of him so what I
think Shane is learning okay but I think
Shane is starting to learn is what I've
been talking about like we can't just
run around labeling people sociopath and
narcissist and stuff because a lot of
people are the result of their parenting
and this is part of you know that whole
toxic masculinity for  thing but I grew up in
a way where my dad taught me to stuff my
emotions and stuff my emotions and what
you do is you eventually wire your brain
to not feel certain things so like when
Logan talks about his sociopathic
tendencies and stuff like that yeah
that's the result from this kind of like
be tough be a man be all this other type
of person type of thing so like I think
Shane might be starting to open his eyes
a little bit and starting to realize
like yeah mental health is very wise
like that's why I have so many videos I
never run out of things to talk about
because this is why you can have certain
parts of yourself and this is why
therapy is so beneficial so you can
start to reflect and look at these
little parts of yourself and say okay I
like this about myself this is really
good
but this is something that I need to
work on you know what I mean so yeah to
wrap this whole thing up the moral of
this video is yes like parenting is a
huge part of this it is but what happens
is you start making excuses for people
like Tana and Jake and Logan this is
what love comes in life and like I
respect
you know a lot of people had a messed up
childhood but when you become an adult
it's time to take responsibility for
this stuff we cannot hang on to that
stuff forever and I'm telling you this
from personal experience this is
something that I did resentments towards
my mom and everything and I held on to
that for years but at certain point I
said you know what it's time for me to
start working on me I can no longer use
that as an excuse to be the terrible
person I am like it might be the reason
it might be the reason but it's not an
excuse I always want to separate those
two I want you guys to understand you
might have a reason for something but
not an excuse for it okay but this is
how people get enabled and this is a
tough love like I will never ever ever
ever ever enable you I will never say
you oh I'm sorry with you
oh say I'm sorry you had a bad childhood
but it's no longer a reason to live the
way that you're living you're not
allowed you don't have this free rein to
be a jerk to people to be a bad person
you do not have that because you should
know better by now or you should at
least be working on yourself actively to
grow as a person alright so anyways
that's all I got I would love to know
what you all thought about the family of
Jay Paul so make sure you leave it down
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don't make your childhood an excuse
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