Hey.
It's Marie Forleo, and welcome to another
episode of MarieTV and the Marie Forleo Podcast.
Now, if one of your long-standing goals is
to feel better in your mind, your heart, and
your body, you are going to love today's guest.
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee has been practicing
for over 20 years, and is the resident BBC
Breakfast doctor.
He hosts the number one Apple podcast, Feel
Better, Live More, and is the presenter of
BBC One's Doctor in the House.
Dr. Chatterjee is the author of three number
one Sunday Times bestselling books, and his
TED Talk has been viewed almost 3 million
times.
Rangan, I am so excited to have you here.
Thank you for making time to be on the Marie
Forleo Podcast and MarieTV.
Marie, I have been so looking forward to this.
I've watched your show many times over the
years and it's a real honor to come on it,
actually.
So thank you.
Well, you and I have had a chance to connect
in London and in so many different places.
I just want to congratulate you on this book,
Feel Better in 5.
It's awesome.
It's so, so good.
My team loves it.
We went through everything and I'm so excited
to dig into this today, especially because
where we are as a global society right now,
at least from my experience and folks that
I've been talking to, people are overwhelmed.
It's really, really hard right now for most
of us to just find not only the time, but
the energy and the mental bandwidth to kind
of keep it all together.
So I feel like this is really exciting.
I know it's already an international bestseller,
but for us here in the States, we get to have
you now and we get to have this conversation.
So many health books sometimes can feel really
overwhelming.
When people are kind of looking to reclaim
their time and their energy and their focus,
it can often feel like, oh, this whole other
big to-do list.
But I just want to congratulate you.
Tell me, what was the inspiration behind this
particular book?
Yeah, this book's a little bit different from
my first two.
This one was really focused on action.
So I've been a medical doctor for almost 20
years now.
What has always interested me is why do some
people manage to make change and why do others
not?
It's something I've been observing a lot with
my patients and trying to sort of piece together
what's the difference?
Because if you ask anyone on the street if
they want to be healthier, if they want to
make change in their life, they'll probably
say yes.
But a lot of people aren't able to do that.
I've found, as you already said, with a lot
of health books that the advice is a little
bit overwhelming.
It's not just health books, it's actually
the era in which we live now.
We can all go on Instagram, or read a health
blog, or read 10 health blogs every single
day, and I actually think in the pandemic,
this problem has got a little bit worse in
the sense that we can consume so much information
it becomes paralyzing to know what to actually
do, so a lot of people end up doing nothing.
I know that every single person out there,
every single person watching this or listening
to this, can absolutely change the quality
of their life by making small changes.
I think that's the key for me, Marie.
When I look back on my sort of all my clinical
experience as a doctor, I've found consistently
that when people start small, they're able
to make changes.
But when they start too big and they aim too
high, sure, they may do it for one week, for
two weeks, for three weeks, but then on those
days where they're unable to get motivated
and do what they want to do, they fall off
the wagon and they go completely back to zero.
So my goal with this book and the challenge
I set myself was, Rangan, make this as simple
as you can.
It was the hardest book of mine to write,
because I thought, no, if in my last books
I'd work up an idea over eight pages, in this
one it's like, no, distill it right down to
its essence in one page, and then give people
a practical tool that they can actually get.
So I'm really proud of the impact it's had
in the UK.
I think this book was really helping people
before the pandemic.
But actually the way the world has changed
since we last met, I think this book has never
been more important than today.
I agree 100%.
In fact, I want to dive a little bit deeper
into something that you unpack in the book
that I believe as well.
I mean, this is a whole thing that I'm exploring
in every facet of my life.
There's two pieces of it.
I want to go and speak into a little bit more
about one of the biggest myths that you debunk
in the book that many of us have been brought
up to believe, whether it's around our health,
making any kind of change in our mental or
emotional wellbeing, doing something in our
careers.
This idea that if you are not full of willpower
and discipline and motivation 24/7, if you
haven't been able to achieve change before,
it's because you just don't have the willpower,
or you don't have the discipline, or you don't
have the motivation.
So can you tell us why that's a myth and the
problem really isn't you?
Because I think so many of us try to change
and then when we fall off that wagon, we feel
terrible about ourselves, and it's a self-fulfilling
prophecy.
So I'd love to hear you talk about that.
Yeah, for sure.
Well, what if I sort of started by telling
you one of my patients who actually really
demonstrates this?
So a few years ago, Marie, in my practice,
this, I think it was 42, this gentlemen, 42-year-old
man, comes in to see me.
He was complaining of the kind of symptoms
that many people complain of these days.
He was low in energy, and he was struggling
with this mood.
He said, "Dr. Chatterjee, I want to help.
You know, I just don't feel so well."
I spent time talking to him, and it was pretty
clear to me that there were various aspects
in his lifestyle that were contributing to
the way that he was feeling.
So I discussed a number of options that he
might want to consider.
He loved the idea of strength training.
He said to me, "Yeah, Dr. Chatterjee, I've
not done that since I was a teenager.
It's going to give me more energy."
He said, "It's going to improve my moods.
It's going to help me look better.
I'm in.
What shall I do?
Shall I do 40 minutes, three times a week,
at the gym?"
I said, “Hey, look, if you can do that,
that will be amazing.
Fantastic.”
So he walks out of the door, right?
Chest puffed out, big smile.
He is motivated, Marie, right?
He doesn't have a motivation problem in that
moment.
I make him a followup appointment in one month's
time.
One month later, he comes in to see me.
He looks different.
He walks in, his shoulders are rolled over.
He looks a bit sheepish.
I said, “Hey, look, how are you getting
on?
How was the gym?”
He said, "Dr. Chatterjee, I've not really
managed to go yet because work's been busy,
I've been super stressed.
You know, the gym isn't really on the commute
to or from work.
I'm really sorry, I've not managed to do it."
He felt like a failure.
It felt as though he couldn't do it.
I remember in that moment, Marie, I didn't
think, why has he not done what I've asked
him to do?
I thought, Rangan, you're clearly not giving
him advice that he feels is relevant to him
and the concepts of his life.
So I took my jacket off and I said, right,
I'm going to teach you a five minute workout
right now.
Okay?
So I taught him five exercises that are in
the book.
I said, “So what do you think?
Can you do them?”
He goes, “Yeah, no problem at all.”
I said, “Okay, what I'd love you to do is
five minutes, twice a week, in your kitchen.”
He says, “What?
10 minutes a week?
I said, can you manage that?”
He goes, “Yeah, easy.
Of course I can manage that.”
I said, “Okay, that's all I want you to
do.
I'll see you in four weeks.”
Four weeks later, he comes in.
He walks in, body language completely different,
chest out, big smile on his face.
I said, “Hey, how are you getting on?”
He said, “Doc, I feel great.
You asked me to do 10 minutes a week, but
actually I find it so easy to do when and
feel so good afterwards, I now do it for 10
minutes every evening before I have my evening
meal.”
Now, Marie, he's been doing that for over
five years now.
What's amazing about that is not only does
he do that, but that led to what I call a
ripple effect.
So he went from that, he then, you know, he
eats better because of that initial behavior
around his strength workout.
He sleeps better.
These days, he gets up every morning and does
10 minutes of breath work before he starts
the day.
So why I'm so passionate about this, and coming
back to your question about motivation, he
didn't have a motivation problem, right?
But what happened is that his motivation ran
out.
His motivation, that wasn't the issue.
He needed a better system, but he was blaming
himself.
Now Professor BJ Fogg, who's probably the
world's leading expert in human behavior at
Stanford University, he calls this the motivation
wave.
He says, motivation comes up and motivation
goes down.
Most of us make our health plan at the peak
of the motivation wave.
But what we should be doing is making it at
the trough, because we know that motivation
will go down.
So take January, Marie, right?
Every January, new year, new you.
People will go, right, this is the year where
everything's going to change.
I'm going to go spinning three or four times
a week at the gym.
Do you know what?
They've got motivation for the first week,
for the second week, but then in the third
week, when life gets back to normal, when
they're stressed, when they're tired, when
they've got to take their kids to after school
clubs, whatever it is, suddenly they no longer
do anything because they can't make spinning
four times a week.
So if you make it easy, you actually take
motivation out of the equation.
You make it easy, then it means that even
on a day when you don't have motivation, if
it's easy, you will still do the behavior.
That's the secret, that's what all the behavioral
change science tells us, and that's what I've
found in my clinical experience.
Marie, I think for people who are listening,
to put this in context for you, let's talk
about business, right?
So a lot of people around the world shop on
Amazon.
I think even more people now do, given that
it was the only shop that was open for about
two or three months, right?
Amazon, when they moved to one click ordering
about five years ago, estimates say their
profits went up by three hundred million dollars
a year.
Just from moving to one click ordering.
So why would that be?
Well that's because Amazon understands the
rules of human behavior.
They know if you make something easy, people
will do it.
Before, what did you have to do?
You had to place your order, go to the checkout,
confirm, put your card details in.
Every single step you take is a reason to
pull out and say, no, I'm not going to make
that purchase.
Whereas now, before you blinked, you've got
an email saying something's arriving the next
day.
Completely.
Yeah, so they know.
They know.
They know.
I'm not blaming them, right?
They understand human behavior.
Absolutely.
Netflix, YouTube, they all do the same thing.
They roll one episode into another.
So before you've had a chance at midnight
to go, man, I should go to sleep, I've got
to be up early tomorrow, you're into to the
next episode of your box set, right?
I get it.
The point I'm trying to make is, rule number
one for behavior changes, you have to make
it easy, because even when your motivation
drops, as it will, you'll still do it.
So I really think that's an important rule.
Can I say rule number two, because I think
it's really important?
Of course, absolutely.
The second most important rule, I think, is
where do you put that new behavior that you
want to do?
Right?
Because a lot of us don't really think about
that.
We think, oh, we'll fit it in when we've got
time.
The reality is that every single behavior
you do needs a trigger.
So what do I mean by that?
We had an appointment today to do this interview,
right?
So you would have had a trigger.
Now that trigger could have been your memory.
You could have just remembered, hey, I've
got to do this call with Rangan at this time.
Memory works, it just happens to be the most
unreliable trigger there is.
Right?
The best form of trigger is when you stick
on a new behavior onto an existing habit.
Right?
That's the best form of trigger.
That's what the research shows.
So what does that mean?
A habit is something we are already doing
without thinking about it.
So for example, me, I don't need motivation
each morning to make myself a cup of coffee.
Right?
It is something that I'm going to do.
I don't need a reminder on my phone.
I don't need my PA to phone me and say, hey,
Rangan, remember to make a cup of coffee.
Hey, exactly.
So I've stuck on a habit there which is a
bodyweight workout.
So every morning, one of the things I'll do
within half an hour of getting up is I'll
be in my kitchen, I'll put out the coffee
into a French press, and I put a timer on
for four or five minutes.
Right?
I'm a bit obsessive with how I make my coffee.
Yes.
But in those four and five minutes, I don't
go on social media, I don't check my emails,
I do a workout in the kitchen in my pajamas.
Right?
Why is that so important?
Well, Marie, I don't really go to the gym
these days.
I've not really been, I think, for a couple
of years now.
But I haven't missed a single day for about
three years.
I do a five minute workout every single day.
That is not because I have more motivation
or more willpower than the person next door,
or somebody listening to this.
It’s because I understand that there are
certain rules to follow if you want to create
a new habit, but we don't follow them.
You know, business follow them, Netflix follow
them, Amazon follow them.
But when it comes to human behavior, particularly
when it comes to our health, we think it's
got to be super tough.
We think our workout has got to be about deprivation.
It's got to be about punishment.
Our diet has got to be restrictive.
We can't eat anything anymore.
You know, I don't know how we've been conditioned
to think that anything to do with health has
got to be really hard, because it's just not
the way it works.
So I think if people are listening and they
think back to the behaviors that they've tried
to introduce into their life and not managed
to, I bet that they didn't follow one of those
two rules.
That's so, so important.
Yeah.
I love this, too.
You go into this in such easy depth in the
book.
I say that because the book is so much fun
to go through.
This notion of building it onto habits, BJ
Fogg's book, Tiny Habits, which I loved, because
it explained exactly what we're talking about
so clearly that if you can link up a new,
simple, small, easy to do habit to something
that you already do.
I remember there was a time when I was having
to blow dry my hair, this was years ago, and
I used to do squats.
Do you know what I mean?
Like I'd blow out my hair and I would do squats.
I'm like, okay, well, I'm going to be here
for at least 20 minutes anyway.
Sometimes I would do my calf raises.
But it actually can be so much fun, and that's
why I love this Feel Better in 5.
So we talked about just the myth of motivation.
It's not your problem, it's the fact that
we just haven't been taught until now.
Understanding behavioral science and how to
actually create habits that stick, which that's
a large base of what we're talking about with
Feel Better in 5.
So let's talk about the fact, I love that
you called these health snacks, because it
makes it sound really fun, these simple and
short five minute practices that we can do
to help our mind, body, and heart.
I also love that you pointed this out in the
book, because I thought this was a really
great frame, where you shared let's imagine
the alternative.
So what you're prescribing in Feel Better
in 5 is like, hey, just do the simple health
snacks for five minutes a day, do three of
them throughout the day, and you could actually
change your entire life, mind, body, heart.
You said, imagine what would happen if we
did the alternate, five minutes of very unhealthy
activities, three times a day for five days
a week.
What might that look like over the long term?
I don't know if you want to speak into that
for a moment, but I thought it was a really
great contrast to help us understand.
For any of us listening right now, or watching,
you could imagine like, oh, I'm going to shove...
By the way, I love ice cream.
Ice cream is awesome.
Everything in moderation.
But if you just like shoved your face with
sugar or ice cream or something that you know
wouldn't be good for you three times a day
for five days a week over years, you could
imagine not feeling very well, right?
Yeah.
Marie, honestly, it's so nice that you picked
that up from the book because that is a bit
of detail in there that I really thought long
and hard about.
I mean, you know as an author yourself, when
you're writing, you're always trying to think
how can I really make this point clear?
How can I really distill this message so somebody
understands it and then takes action on the
back of it.
It sort of speaks to what I said maybe five,
ten minutes ago, which is we think everything
around help has to be really difficult and
really hard and punishing and deprivation.
I'm saying health can be fun.
We don't think about bad habits in the same
way as good habits, so exactly what you said.
So if I said to somebody, you can call a...
What do you guys call it?
A soft drink, right?
A full fat, a full sugar, fizzy soft drink,
whatever someone's favorite is.
For five minutes today, you had to drink that
continuously.
Just imagine that, if you're watching this
or listening.
It wouldn't take much imagination to believe
that, yeah, you know what?
Within two or three days, my teeth are going
to feel disgusting, my sleep may go, I'm going
to get moody with sugar highs and sugar lows.
We kind of understand that, but we somehow
think that a five minute workout, or five
minutes of breath work, or five minutes of
meditation, or five minutes of nature won't
have the same impact, and it absolutely will.
Good habits build up in exactly the same way
as bad habits.
I really think that's an important point to
grasp.
Honestly, Marie, why I'm so passionate about
this, every single person has access to good
quality health, right?
I get it that there are socioeconomic factors
that drive a lot of this, but I have worked
in some of the poorest areas in the UK, as
well as some affluent areas, and I can tell
you when you give people information in the
right way that they feel that they can action
in their lives, everyone can make change,
everyone can make an improvement.
Starting small does really, really work.
These small things add up.
Look, another great example.
Toothbrushing, right?
So I'm going to guess that pretty much everyone
listening and watching this, Marie, brushes
their teeth every day.
Now, of course, not everyone will, right?
But I think most people probably do, and they
do two minutes in the morning and two minutes
in the evening.
Right?
So everyone is giving themselves four minutes
of dental health every day.
They know if they do that, they're going to
look after their teeth for life.
Now, just imagine, we don't think with our
teeth, now, you know what, I don't feel like
it today.
I don't feel like it.
Do you know what I'm going to do?
I'm not going to brush my teeth Monday, Tuesday,
Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, but
on Sunday, I'm going all in.
I'm going for a one hour deep cleaning of
my teeth.
We don't do that.
We understand that it's a little bit done
regularly adds up.
When it comes to health, we don't think that.
We think, oh, if I'm going to do yoga, I've
got to do a one and a half hour in-person
yoga session.
Do you know what?
It's fine, do that if you want.
But also do five minutes a day.
It really makes a difference.
I'm not saying it's either/or, right?
You may already have some good habits in your
life.
Brilliant.
But I bet you this book will help you see
a couple of your blind spots and go, ah, maybe
I should work on this as well.
Yeah.
I love that.
I have to tell you, during this whole pandemic
and the global experience, I have been inserting,
for me, I have these little yoga videos that
I watch, and they're literally 10 minutes,
and I can do it.
It makes me feel fantastic.
Something I realized for myself, I was in
the fitness industry for years and I taught
classes and I was a Nike Elite Athlete and
I went all around the world training in dance,
and it was amazing.
It was beautiful.
But I know that I was conditioned to believe
that if I'm not working out for that full
hour a day, if I'm not pushing myself extremely
hard, that I must be a slacker.
One of the things I love about this stage
in my life is I've actually been seeing exactly
what you're saying.
When I fit in that 10 minute yoga class, or
when I do five minutes of my squats and my
pushups or whatever, I actually feel even
stronger in my body.
It feels like there's so much more flow and
space in my life without that mental pressure
of beating myself up.
No doubt.
It's huge.
It's huge.
It feels just so much more achievable and
so much more realistic.
I mean, thanks so much for sharing that, because
I think that says it all for people.
It's not, hey, you may also want to knock
out a one hour hardcore session at the weekends,
right?
Yeah.
I'm saying, if you want to do that, that is
great.
I'm not saying don't do that.
I like to sometimes go for a long run at the
weekend or twice a week, but you know what?
I don't stop doing my five minute strength
workout because of that.
That is an add-on.
That's a bonus.
But these health snacks form part of my life
that just, they're an integral part of my
life, just as brushing my teeth is.
You know?
It's the same thing.
There's a couple of tricks we can also do.
There's a bit that I talk about, which is
you've got to celebrate each snack.
Okay?
Yes.
That's where we were going to go next, because
it's fricking awesome.
Please tell me more.
Well, you just said you feel great when you
do that 10 minutes of yoga.
We just need to spend a couple of moments
luxuriating in that feeling of euphoria after
whatever that health snack is, and often we
don't do that.
So again, Professor BJ Fogg, it sounds like
we're both big fans of.
I'm super lucky that he's been a good friend
of mine.
He's a huge fan of Feel Better in 5.
What he says is that it's not repetition that
creates new habits.
It's not repetition that wires us into new
habits.
It's emotion.
Right?
That makes sense, right?
It's all about emotion.
We're human beings and emotion really matters.
So again, let's give people an example.
If people feel low and sad, how many people
do you think have turned to chocolate in their
life at that moment?
I know I have, right?
Right here.
Again, I'm not saying you shouldn't do that.
What I'm saying is you feel low, you buy a
chocolate bar, you eat it.
In the short term, you feel better, right?
So that wires in a reward pathway in your
body.
You're suddenly thinking, ah, next time I'm
low, if I eat chocolate I will feel better.
Right?
So this is how we wire in a lot of these habits
that sometimes we're trying to get rid of.
We've actually wired them in with emotion.
BJ will say that you need to do the same thing
with positive habits.
So for example, BJ says that when he does
a press up each morning, or I think he, for
a few years, every time he went for a pee,
on the way out he'd do a press up, and before
he'd know it, it'd be like 50 press ups a
day.
But every time he would do it, he would say,
"I am awesome" afterwards.
Right?
I said to BJ, I said, come on, there's no
way you're going to get British people to
do stuff like that.
This may work in America, but Brits aren't
going to do this.
We're too reserved to do that stuff.
But the point is you need to find a way, even
if it's just for a moment going, yeah, that
felt great.
I feel so much better now.
The best way, I find, and I'm looking at my
kitchen from here and I can almost see the
charts, having a wall chart where you tick
off when you've done something is so powerful.
A lot of the apps like the Calm Meditation
app, for example, they have very similar things.
So if you do the Calm Meditation app regularly,
before you know it, you've built up a streak,
it shows you in a visual representation how
many you've done.
So what happens, after 11 days or 12 days,
you don't want to break your streak and go
back to zero again.
You want to keep going.
So we've got a wall chart.
When I say we, my wife has got hers, and my
two children, my 10-year-old son and my 7-year-old
daughter, have got their wall charts.
At the start of the year, we all chose one
mind health snack, and that's was for your
mental health, one body health snack, which
is for your physical health, and one heart
health snack, which is for your emotional
health.
You know what?
My kids, they've chosen...
One thing I'm really proud of with this book
is that people can choose the health snacks
that they want to do.
This is not me saying, you must do this.
Everyone's different.
Everyone's got different preferences.
I've given people about 30 or 40 options,
and I say, just choose three.
Choose your three favorite ones.
We tick each day when we've done a snack so
we can see it.
I know some people will be listening and watching,
Marie, thinking about their children.
A lot of people these days are thinking about
their children.
How can I get my kids healthier?
A lot of people are worried about their kids'
mental health.
I tell you, this absolutely works.
In fact, I think there's about five to ten
schools already this year in the UK, who've
taken Feel Better in 5 and have started to
implement the core components of it in their
wellbeing program.
As a parent myself, it makes me really, really
happy.
I'm passionate that this approach, it literally
works for anyone, right?
If you're the CEO of a company, this approach
will help you with your health and your productivity.
But if you're a single mum, who's really under
financial pressure at the moment and the pandemic
has really caused a lot of stress and a lot
of financial difficulties, I guarantee that
if you do two or three of these health snacks
a day, yeah, I can't maybe get your job back
or increase your income, but what I can do
is make you feel better about yourself, help
you feel more resilient so you can face whatever
stress is going on in your life.
You know, as a doctor, Marie, I'm really passionate
about giving people advice that's going to
work for everyone.
You know, I don't just want to give advice
that works for the affluent in society.
I want advice that works for everyone, and
I really think this approach does.
It does.
It absolutely does.
And it's so much fun.
Just talking about building up the celebration,
I love that you also gave the example that
sometimes with your patients you'll recommend,
hey, if you don't want to do a wall chart,
you can actually take a jar and put little
coffee beans in it.
Any type of visual representation of you building
up that momentum, of you taking that small
step every single day.
You know, I also think it just kind of builds
out in every area of our lives.
I know when I was working on my book, Everything
is Figureoutable, just every single day, even
if I just wrote a few paragraphs, it made
me feel like a champion because I knew I was
taking one next step on my journey to hitting
a big goal.
That was really important to me.
So I love that celebration.
It's like putting deposits in the health bank,
if you will.
But often, because we can't see it, we have
no way of tracking it, it's easy to give up.
But you know what?
If you have had the worst week in the world,
right?
Let's say you've done your health snacks,
but on Sunday night or on Friday evening,
you're like, you know what?
Work was so stressful this week.
I didn't get this done.
I didn't get that done.
It's all overloading into next week.
You may feel that life isn't good, but if
you can look at that chart or if you can look
at that jar with the coffee beans in, you're
probably going to see 21 ticks or 21 coffee
beans, which shows you, oh, wow, I've done
21 things this week for my health.
Wow, maybe it wasn't such a bad week after
all.
These things sound too simple to work, but
let's look around.
We have a sick society.
We have people stressed out.
We're seeing this play out in this pandemic
more than ever before.
You know, if our health is not in good shape,
we can suffer all kinds of consequences.
So this stuff may sound simple, but actually
health can be that simple when we break it
down.
It's funny, Marie, I was thinking in the hour
before this call with you, I went for a walk.
I thought I was going to clear my mind because
I'm under a lot of work pressure at the moment
that's unrelated to this.
I just thought about it.
I thought, wow, you know what my book is really
about that I didn't realize when I wrote it?
It's about helping people change their identity
through action.
I really feel strongly that many of us...
Think about that patient I mentioned at the
start.
I told you about his body language, right?
First time he comes back, he feels like a
failure, right?
He has the identity of someone who's a failure.
Someone who can't stick to a health plan.
But you know what?
When I flipped it and made it easy for him,
and he could do that, it's not just that he
was working out, his identity changes.
He comes in with different body language.
He now has taken on the identity of someone
who can do what the doctor has asked him to
do.
He's someone who can follow a health plan.
I really feel that when you take just 15 minutes
a day to do three five-minute actions, you
start to build up a picture of who you are.
You start to show yourself that, hey, I'm
someone that's worth taking care of.
I'm someone that no matter how busy work is
or how much work I have to do, to take my
kids to school, and do all the work and the
housework, you know what?
Despite all of that, I still give myself 15
minutes a day in three five-minute intervals,
which is achievable for pretty much anyone,
and it really helps to change the identity
about how you feel about yourself.
So it's really about taking action.
It circles back to what you said at the start,
which is why is this so needed now?
It's because we can spend three hours on Instagram,
right?
We can look at all these inspirational memes,
maybe on my channel or your channel.
We can press like and ha and give a thumbs
up and we feel we've done something.
Well, we've actually done nothing.
We've just engaged in a social media post.
There's nothing wrong with that, but I've
heard many of your shows as well, Marie, and
you, like me, you're interested in people
actually taking action.
Don't just get the inspiration.
The inspiration without the action is nothing,
right?
So take an action no matter how small, and
I don't think it gets so much smaller than
five minutes, you know?
People said, why did you choose five minutes?
The reason I chose five minutes is because
five minutes is short enough where the busiest
person feels that they can fit it into their
life, but it's long enough where you actually
can feel real significant change very, very
quickly.
That's why I chose five minutes.
I love it, and I love this book.
I just want to thank you just for your work
in the world.
You're such an inspiration, and I've so enjoyed
getting to know you over these past few years.
Feel Better in 5, it's just fantastic.
I want to point out one other thing before
we wrap up, and I want to give you the last
word.
One of the most beautiful aspects of this
is I felt like you did such a brilliant job
of highlighting, hey, if anxiety is what you're
challenged with at this moment, here's a recipe
for you.
If getting better sleep is a challenge for
you at this moment.
I thought that the way that you kind of put
that together with these suggestions for like
these health snack recipes was just a brilliant
thing.
Again, taking it back the context of where
we are right now as a global society and some
of the things that so many of us are challenged
by amid this pandemic, amid all of the global
change, to be able to open this book that
is so beautiful, so well-researched, so simply
done, and to say, yeah, at this moment, I
might be having a little low grade depression,
here's three health snacks that I can do to
support myself in moving in a positive direction.
So I just wanted to congratulate you and just
underscore the value of those recipes and
thank you for putting them together.
Thanks for that.
It's funny that this was the last thing that
went into the book.
I actually thought I'd finished the book,
and I was like looking at my manuscript.
I thought, yeah, okay, I've finally done it.
Then it came to me, then I thought...
Okay, one of the fundamental challenges I
feel as an author is one-on-one with a patient,
I offer quite personalized healthcare.
So I will personalize the recommendations
to the person in front of me.
I'll spend time to understand who they are,
to connect with them first, and then I talk
to them about what they can do.
When I teach doctors, I always say connect
first, educate second.
Because I really think as humans, we're wired
to connect.
Once you've connected first, people will listen
to what you have to say.
But if you don't take the time to connect
and you just tell them do this and do that,
people aren't going to do it.
No one's going to do something long term because
somebody else has told them to do it.
So I thought I was doing a good thing by giving
people 30 or 40 five-minute health snacks
and saying, you choose.
But I thought, you know what?
Some people will find that overwhelming.
They'll be like, I want to do the five-minute
yoga flow.
I want to do that breathing exercise.
I want to do the anxiety written journaling
exercise, 5-step release.
I want to do the tea ritual.
I want to do the gratitude.
I thought, okay, I'm at risk here of giving
people so many options that they'll end up
doing nothing.
So I thought, okay, I thought back to my clinical
practice.
I thought what do people come in with?
What are the commonest problems people come
in with?
I think I said 11 things you want less off
and 11 things you want more of.
So I also wanted to say it's not just for
people who are sick.
Sure, so if you've got anxiety, I've chosen
a mind snack, a body snack, and a heart snack
for you.
If you've got depression, I've chosen for
you.
But at the same time, I flipped it and said
if you want more of something, right?
If you want happiness, if you want to improve
longevity, if you want better brain health,
better concentration, better focus, I've chosen
three for you.
Now I say, look, you don't have to follow
them.
You can choose your own three.
But if you want a better guidance to get you
started, here are the three that I've seen
work incredibly well with my patients.
You know, it's interesting you picked up on
this, because one of the best bits of feedback
since the book has been out, as people write
to me, particularly on Instagram, they say,
hey look, I love this combination chart because
I did want to do more than three.
I say to people, don't do more than three,
right?
Don't do more than three, at least when you're
starting.
Because again, you run into the same problem.
You'll do five or six a day for a week, and
then you'll be too busy and you'll do none.
I'd rather people, actually, Marie, if three
is too much, I'd rather they start with one.
Just choose one five-minute health snack,
spend a bit of time finding the best time
in your day to stick it on to.
That's what I want people to experiment with.
Is it best with my morning coffee, or is it
best just before bed, or is it best just before
I have lunch?
Find the right habit to stick it onto and
you will be doing this in a year's time.
I guarantee it because I've seen this over
and over again with my patients.
So, yeah, I mean, I appreciate your kind words,
Marie.
I really hope it does as well in America as
it has done in the UK, because I really think
it's very simple, very accessible, but also
a free way to help you live a better and a
happier life.
Yeah, this is amazing.
Thank you so much.
I think that's the perfect place to wrap us
up.
Obviously we want you to get Feel Better in
5 because you deserve to feel better, your
family deserves to feel better, your kids
deserve to feel better.
It does not have to take a ton of time or
energy.
It can be so much fun.
You can celebrate yourself and you can do
it with the people you love.
Anything that you want to leave us with today?
Hey, well look, I just want to say to everyone,
I hope you guys are doing okay.
I know it's a stressful world out there, but
lifestyle change is always worth it, because
this is what I say at the end of all of my
podcasts, but when you feel better, you live
more.
So it's always worth it.
Thank you, my love.
Thank you so much for your work and thank
you for making time for us today and for putting
together this incredible, incredible new piece.
Thanks, Marie.
That was so much fun, wasn't it?
I highly recommend that you get the book because
it's awesome.
Now Dr. Chatterjee and I would love to hear
from you.
So I'm curious, what's your biggest takeaway
from today's conversation?
I'd also love to know, tell me about the health
challenge that you would most like to change.
It's something that you want to move away
from or something that you want to move towards,
and I bet you there's a health snack to help
you get there.
So leave a comment below.
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